Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 02 – L031C

Taimiyyah Zubair

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Al-Baqarah 229-233 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 232-233

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I was a bit late in the ship I know Jesus will never, ever he

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will begin from 230 to

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one either for local to manisa

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and when you have divorced women, favela, Nigella hoonah, and they have fulfilled their term, what either poloxamer Nyssa. This

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refers to the revocable divorce, the first divorce or the second divorce

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when you have divorced the women, and then favela agenda hoonah. And they have reached their agenda. What does it mean by reaching the agenda over here? It means that there is over

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previously, a Bellona agenda hoonah meant that there is about to be over. It is near its completion over here, but Elena Angela hoonah means that their data is completely over. It's done. And what does it mean? When the day is over? And there was no Roger, the man and woman are separated, the woman goes to her parents or she goes away, and they no longer live with each other. There is no longer any relationship between the two.

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But because it is the first divorce or the second divorce, there is a possibility of the two getting back together, How? Through nica.

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But if it was a third divorce, what did that mean? They cannot get back together until and unless the woman marries another man by chance, gets divorced or he dies by chance and then she marries the previous husband.

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But over here, it's the first or the second divorce and there it is over the man and woman are separated.

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So, now, the command is to the earlier the guardians of the women

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that follow taboo, you should not stop them, you should not hinder them. Terrible no one is from newsletters, I bought them

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and the other is to prevent harshly it is to prevent partially do stop someone from doing something very harshly very forcefully. Why? For one's own personal benefit.

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So for example, a person does not let his business partner sell the business or have business with another. Why? Because of his own personal benefit.

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from the same root is the word mortal blade and Marlin is used for a hen for a chicken that cannot lay eggs, it is prevented from doing so. So lautaro bulunan do not stop them do not hinder them, do not prevent them. Who does not refer to the women, the women who have been divorced. So do not stop them from what am Ghana as well as your hoonah that they married their husbands? What does it mean by this, that they marry their former husbands?

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Many times we see that a man or woman who were previously divorced. After some time they realized that the divorce was a mistake, and they wish to get back together. And if they resolved to get back together, who is it that comes in between their family

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and especially the family of the woman?

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So over here, the address is to the LDS of the women that once they have been divorced and there is over but they wish to get married to their former husbands then do not stop them from doing so. Do not stop them from doing so. Because it is permissible for them to get back together. Because it's only the first or the second divorce. It's not the final one. So you can't stop them that are Luna and Karina, as well when

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we see that Markel Ebenezer he gave his sister in marriage to a Muslim in during the time of a loss messenger solo do something. And she remained with him for a while. And he divorced her once. What did you do? he divorced her once and did not take her back until her it was over. There was finished. So what happened and she went back home. And then after some time, they wanted to get back together. They wanted to get back with each other. And so he came to ask her for marriage. He came with a proposal for her. But Markin he said to him, that all ungrateful one, I honored you and married my sister to you. But you divorced her. By Allah. She will never be returned to you. So many

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times. What happens the eagle

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The family it comes in the middle, it comes in between. So similarly, Moroccan did not give his sister in marriage to that man despite the fact that both of them wanted to get back together. Then Allah subhanaw taala reveal this that falletta Luna and Karina ohana when Markel heard this ayah. He said, I hear and obey, oh my lord, he then summon the man and he said, I will honor you, and let you remarry my sister. So what did you do? He called him and he remarried his sister to him. And it is also said, the market also said that I will be the expiation for breaking my mouth, because he said by Allah, I will not marry her to you. So, the I was revealed specifically with regards to this

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issue. But we can see that this is relevant to many other people as well. Not just market, not the Lauryn Hill, but many other people that sometimes the girl is divorced, she goes back home, and the parents, they don't send their daughter back to the same man. Sometimes they go to the extent of saying, we will kill you will we will not send you back. We will kill ourselves but we will not send you back. Because for them, sending your own daughter back to her previous husband is an insult. What does Allah say? Letter of alumina do not stop them. And notice the word that has been used for stopping do not prevent them harshly, do not stop them for your own personal benefit for your own

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personal benefit. Do not stop them from remarrying.

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Especially in that although baina humble model when they have mutually agreed between themselves in the approved way. That although from the reflectors, well Bhatia earlier, what does it mean to be happy to be pleased to agree with something so when both of them the men and the woman who intend to marry who were married before, but then we're divorced, if they mutually agree in a matter that is approved? What does it mean by this, that they agree on an acceptable basis, that they will remain in the correct way, in an appropriate way, they will live together in an appropriate way afterwards.

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So basically, we see that there's always a reason for divorce.

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There's always a reason for divorce. Now, after the divorce, if the man and woman want to get back together, and they decide, okay, this was a problem, we have a solution to this problem.

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So when they have a solution, let them get married, let the married don't stop them from marrying it at Albania humble model.

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So here we learn that a woman has been given a right in the matter of her nica that if she wishes to marry someone, don't stop her. As long as there is a model.

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She can choose who she wants to get married to. Her family cannot force her. And we learned that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said that Latin qahal au had that to start

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a matron meaning a woman who was previously married, a woman who is grown up should not be given in marriage except after consulting after taking her permission.

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So a woman who is elderly, a woman who was previously married and divorced or is now a widow, whatever, she should not be given in marriage except by her permission, except by consulting her. And a virgin should not be given in marriage except after her permission. Even a younger, who has been married for the first time, even she should not be made except with her permission.

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Now, we know that in that society, women were they wouldn't say out openly, I want to marry this person. Sometimes some women would also do that. But other women wouldn't do that. So the people asked the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said O Allah's Messenger. How can we know her permission? Like a girl whenever speaks a girl who was quiet, who was so shy? How can we take her permission, he said her silence indicates her permission. Her silence is her approval, which is why we see that every time there's an attack that has been performed, what happens the value of a girl comes to her to take her permission to get her signatures.

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So we see over here, that a woman has a right in her marriage. She has a right to decide.

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If she wishes to get married to her previous husband to her former husband, then she should be allowed to do so.

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She should not be prevented from marrying her previous husband.

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This ayah has been understood in another way as well. That if you look at the beginning of the ayah,

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that when you divorce the women, what is that a Lakota Manasa, when you have divorced the women, the address over here is to the former husbands, who was this addressed to the former husbands, the ex husband, that when you have divorced her phenomenon, and her there is also over, you didn't do it to her, and now she's free, then she is free to marry whoever she wants.

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You have no say, in her life anymore. If she decides to marry your particular person, the ex husband cannot come in the middle and say that no, you were my wife. And now you cannot marry this other person. No. So when you have divorced a woman, and she has researched it, it is over, then let's have alumina in Ghana as well. Don't stop them from marrying any other person whom they want to marry. Because now she's free in Toronto, but you know, when they have agreed with one another, in a manner that is appropriate,

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then Allah says that you are a little bit be here that what does that equal refer to this command which command that lateral balloon or that that auto binomial model? This who is going to benefit from this command, or who is being instructed over here, your I will be your other ones always from war of low I am long. And the word Motorola is from the same route what is Marilla and advice and instruction. So who is going to be instructed who is going to benefit from this? Man can i mean come up Nabila, he will Yeoman.

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The one who believes in a line the last day among you. Only such a person will observe this commendable law which commendable, not stopping the women from re marrying their ex husbands. Because a person who truly believes and align the last day, his ego doesn't come in the middle, his ego doesn't stop him from doing that, which is right. So only the one who believes in a line the last day will observe this comment.

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Also, we see that he that our auto venom will narrow when they agree with one another in a manner that is appropriate. This has been understood as that when they agree in an appropriate manner, and when they don't agree secretly. Because sometimes despite the divorce, despite the termination of that relationship, still, the man and woman are in contact. Still, sometimes they speak to one another, the parents don't want them to, but they continue to speak to one another.

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So over here, Allah says maruf, it should be an appropriate way of mutually agreeing with one another. And only the one who fears Allah, only the one who fears Allah will make sure that he follows his command of Allah,

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that he can ask Allah como that is pure for you, that is better for you with alcohol, and it is also cleaner for you.

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The word eska. And both are used for purity for cleanliness, isn't it? So. But there's a slight difference in the meaning. aska is from Tesco. And what does this mean? cleanliness to clean something. And it also means growth, to nurture something, which is why the process of teskey the process of purification includes the clear, to cleanse meaning to get rid of the bad to get rid of the field. And Talia to put that which is good to adorn with that which is good, which is done with growth. So there is a meaning of growth, as well as cleanliness in this. And the way it does here has more to do with the matters of the knifes it is with regard to the purification of the soul. It

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is with regards to spiritual elements with regards to weaknesses of luck. So they only come as gonna come What does it mean by this? It is much better for you. It is much better for you this option of joining the two together who were previously married, letting them get married. This is pure This is better. It is better than keeping them separated. Because if you keep them separated, what's going to happen? They're going to continue to speak to one another or they're going to continue to meet each other. They're going to keep contact which might lead to harm. So if you get them married, it is much pure, it is much better. And sometimes it's the ego of the person that comes in the middle.

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Right. For example, the story that I mentioned to you of Marco, what was it he said that I gave you

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Honor by marrying my sister to you, and you are ungrateful you divorced her, I will not give her back to you. For sometimes it's the ego that comes in the middle. So when a person suppresses his ego that purifies him. So this is as critical.

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When you crush your ego, it is better for you. It is better for you spiritually

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with alcohol, and it's also cleaner.

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Alcohol is from fahara. And what does Tara mean? cleanliness. And when compared to Ischia. taharah refers to physical cleanliness, physical purification,

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just as we had earlier, had data Horner, for either top 100. Over there, the word the huddle was used to refer to physical purification.

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So what does it mean by alcohol over here,

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a puddle over here is adding to the intensity, or the shinda, of the purity that is involved of the cleanliness that is involved, that it's better for you, it's cleaner for you, it's very clean for you, this is the best option for you. And others have said that eska means it is good for you, it is better for you, because it's from growth, and uploaded for sure that it's cleaner for you.

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Because if you join the two together, if you get them married together, then they will not commit that which is horrible.

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And suppose a man or a well he, he does not let his daughter get married to her previous husband. And instead he marries her to another man, what is pure for the woman, going back to the same husband going back to another man going back to the same husband, it's pure for her, it's better for her. So then you can ask Allah for auto hollow yard.

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And Allah knows and you do not know.

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Allah knows what, what is in your interest, what is in your favorite, and you do not know any of this. Therefore, what should you do? Follow the commands of Allah. Many times, the commands of Allah may not make sense to us. Many times it may happen. But a person should not say in this situation. It doesn't make sense. It's completely illogical. This is against my intellect. It doesn't make any sense to me know, a person should tell himself Allah knows. And I do not know. Allah knows better. Allah knows what is best for me. Therefore, I should listen to his command, I should accept his command.

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Now, the following Ayah is about breastfeeding the children. Many times it happens that when a couple gets divorced when a man and woman get divorced, who is it who suffers? children,

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especially if they're very young, especially if they're still infants, the woman wants to keep the child, the man says that no, I should have the child. So child custody is an extra big issue.

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So over here, breastfeeding has been mentioned as to who should breastfeed for how long.

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And it has been stated very clearly, that the man and woman should not use the child to blackmail each other, to harm each other,

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the child should be given his help. And just because of the difference between the man and woman, the child should not be adversely affected

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one way

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and the mother's whether that is the plural of valid and valid is from the root letter as well. And then, as you know whether it means to give birth, where leader is a woman who gives birth, therefore, mother,

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while death over here refers to either divorced women, because the context is

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the context is often UK. So why did that over here refers to divorced women, who are also mothers who have also just recently given birth, or who after the divorce have given birth. So what is it that referred you divorced? Well.

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Secondly, it has been said that while that over here does not just refer to divorce women, but this is general that any woman who is married and who has a baby, who is a mother, this is the ruling concerning

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what is the ruling that you've learned? They should nurse you've learned from the veterans law blog, I mean from the word aldara, which is to breastfeed to suckle so they should nurse who should the nurse or the homeowner their children Oh, that is a part of wallet. And the word wallet is used for any child, male or female.

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So it's not that the boy only should be nursed or the

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Girl only should be nurse. No, all babies, boys or girls, male or female, should be nursed. While while you're there in Odessa, hoonah. The women, the mothers are going to nurse their children. For how long? How Laney Cammy Laney to complete yours how today is a dual of home? And how is used for your gamelan to complete once? What does it mean by this? Over here, you'll learn it is a command that the mother must or should breastfeed her child for how long, two years. But this command is off permission, meaning it is allowed for a woman to breastfeed her child for two years. Because it's possible that a woman is unable to breastfeed her child because of some sickness because of some

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disease because of the inability to breastfeed.

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So you're there and over here is the command of permissibility. It is a command of permission that a woman may do so a mother may do so.

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But what is the maximum length? What is the maximum duration of breastfeeding a child to complete yours, not more than that.

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So a woman can only breastfeed her child for two years, not two years and one day, not two years and one week, not two and a half years. Maximum is two years.

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And remember, that these two years refers to lunar years.

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It refers to which years, lunar years.

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So according to the birth, in the lunar calendar, the woman should calculate the two years. And after the completion of two years, you should stop breastfeeding the child,

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lemon for the one who are other he intended he wanted and you think

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that he should complete the suckling period. So the ayah clarifies that anyone who wishes to complete the nursing period, what is the complete nursing period, two years not more than that. So just as there are certain regulations concerning Phonak. Similarly, there are certain regulations concerning breastfeeding.

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A woman may have breastfeed her child for one month, she may have breastfeed her child for two days, for one year, for one and a half years. But the maximum that she can go is two years and not more than that.

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But what if a woman is unable to breastfeed her child? What if a woman does not wish to? Or what if the circumstances don't allow?

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For example, the man and woman were living together, the woman had a baby but the man and woman got divorced.

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But the woman does not have any family in that same city, in that same town, perhaps in the same country, nor does she get the custody of the child. So she has to leave? Where is the child going to be with the Father? So is she going to be sinful for not feeding the child? No.

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Similarly, if a woman is ill, she's unable to breastfeed the child, or if she does not wish to because of whatever reason? Is she sinful? No, she's not sinful.

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Obviously, there is a lot of reward for breastfeeding a child because a woman is constantly striving. It's a part of her motherhood. But if she does not breastfeed the child, then she's not being sinful. Remember that, because you're there in it. This is a command of permission. There is great reward. There's also a lot of benefit. But if because some genuine reason woman is not able to, then there is no harm.

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But while the woman is breastfeeding, who is going to look after her, who is going to provide for her what I learned and upon meaning it is the responsibility of who, Elmo Luda who the father, Elmo load is also on the roof as well. And then one other, which is to give birth. And mo loot is the one who is given birth to who is molded, the one who has given birth to meaning the child,

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Elmo lewd. Lahu together is a technical term that is used for the Father, the biological father, because the Father Himself cannot give birth to his child.

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Somebody else has to give birth to his child and Who was that? The mother? So mono doula who, the one who was given birth to for his sake. So in other words, the biological father.

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And why is this term used to refer to the father because he is the one who is responsible for the child in the sense that the child gets the name gets his lineage from the Father and not the mother. And it's the

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Father, who is supposed to provide for the child as well. So malloon know who it is to show that the Father is responsible for the child,

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lineage wise, name wise, and also, with regards to other affairs were alluded to. So it is the responsibility of the biological father, what risco when their provision whose provision, the provision of the suckling mothers, the provision of the breastfeeding mothers, when women and breastfeeding, sometimes they get hungry very quickly, especially in initial stages, when because the child is nursing every two hours, sometimes every one hour, sometimes every three hours. So, because of that, the woman needs food, you know, most of the time, and sometimes because of her situation, she might need some special food as well. So who is responsible for providing that food

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to the woman? The father, the biological father, even if he has divorced that woman?

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What else is he supposed to provide to the woman? Well, guess what, when and also their clothing? Guess what is from the routers calf scene? Well, the word kiss was used for clothing and lovers is also used for clothing. But there is a difference between the two lovers is a garment that a person puts on himself that a person wears himself

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and guess what is a clothing that a person gives to another which is why you may have heard of kiswa of the garba what is the cover of the cover and the black cloth that shrouds the carbon that covers the garden.

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So, the man is responsible for providing the food to the mother when she is breastfeeding. And he is also responsible to provide her with clothes while she is breastfeeding.

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Why is clothing mentioned bias clothing mentioned in particular, because we see that children when they're breastfeeding, sometimes they throw up a lot of milk, which dirties The closer the mother to sometimes she needs a lot of clothes. So, what Guess what, when and how is he to provide them Bill Maher live in a manner that is appropriate meaning in a manner that is customary, that is acceptable, whatever the tradition is, whatever is acceptable, whatever the need is, whatever is the ability of the Father led to call upon a person, no person will be burdened. Illa was, except with its capacity to colorful is from the author's calf lamb for the word the cliff is from the same roof

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letters. That leave is to charge someone with a responsibility. It is to interest to burden someone with a responsibility. So no person is charged with more than what he can bear in the woods.

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And the word wasa is from well, scenery and will, sir, is what a person can bear what a person can tolerate in normal circumstances, what he can do with ease in normal circumstances.

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For example, it is possible for a person to clean the house or to cook food in two three hours. Normally, without putting in too much effort without speeding up too much that is within the person's capacity. But if that same person is told, no cooking 15 minutes, or no clean in one hour, okay? They might be able to, but with a lot of difficulty, isn't it?

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Similarly, you may be able to memorize your lesson, read through your lesson seven times a day. But if you're told no 20 times a day, okay, it would be possible for you but with a lot of difficulty, then the only thing you would do is just memorize your lesson, nothing else besides that. So, what sir, is the ability of a person what a person can do? in normal circumstances, what a person can bear what a person can tolerate with ease without exerting any extra effort.

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So, no person is burdened with what he cannot do with what he cannot tolerate.

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So over here, what is being said is, that if the man is to provide for the woman's food for the woman's clothing, then he is to provide for the food and clothing according to his means. According to his means. It's not that the woman says no, I want 20 pairs of clothes whereas the man can only afford 10.

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So, whatever the man can afford, that is what he will be charged with. But he should consider Marvels if he can afford he should give and if he cannot, that again he should give that which is within his capacity. We learnt a lot of fun.

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is seven, Leon, do sorority mean sorority woman could either lay you to school for noon film at home or now you can live Omar who lives in Atlanta,

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let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted. Let him spend from what Allah has given him.

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A lot does not charge us all, except according to what he has given it.

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So we see over here, that even after the divorce, a woman may breastfeed the child,

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who is going to support her despite the divorce

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the father of the child, why, because she is nursing his child,

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then Allah says lead to longer, well, I don't

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know mother is going to be harmed because of her child,

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to Barbara, again, the same route about Ra.

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So no mother is going to be harmed, because of her child through her child how,

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for example, a woman is forced to breastfeed the child. And she is not given any risk for any case, what

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the father does not give any provision to her at all.

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And because he knows that the mother loves the child, she'll feed the child anyway. So over here, it has been clearly stated that no mother is going to be harmed through her child because of her child.

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Similarly, sometimes, the woman wants to breastfeed the child. But what does the father do, because of the divorce, he says, No, you're not going to breastfeed her, you're not going to see the child at all.

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So no woman should be harmed through her child, because of her child.

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And similarly, when Amanullah will be well added, similarly, the father also should not be harmed through the child.

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Because many times when it comes to divorce, people use the child to harm the other

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while in a way that if he misses Alec, and similar, is the responsibility upon who upon the wedding upon the air.

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Who is the one that is the one who inherits from the other.

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Over here, the widest refers to the father's air.

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So just imagine, a man and woman were married, they had a child, the child is still a baby, still an infant, the mother is breastfeeding the child or the child is of breastfeeding age.

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Now, the father dies, the man dies, what's going to happen?

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The inheritance is going to be distributed.

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Now, the heirs, they're supposed to make sure that the woman gets her share, and the child also gets her share. The Heirs are responsible for providing for the woman's food for the woman's clothing. While she is breastfeeding the child.

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The Heirs cannot expect that the woman is going to spend out of her own chair on the child know, the woman is going to be given her share, and the child is going to be given his share. And the heirs are responsible for this. This is their duty while interacting with Alec. So then Liga refers to the duty of the Father, which is to provide sustenance and clothing to the mother while she's breastfeeding.

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Others have said that their link over here refers to the prohibition of

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the prohibition of harming the mother threw her child,

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then Okay, let's say the man died. But now the heirs are coming in the middle. And what are they doing? They won't let the mother breastfeed the child and they say, give the child to us, give the child to us and the mother is not allowed to breastfeed. And many times we see that the man and woman despite their divorce, they have agreed upon something. But it's the rest of the family that comes in the middle that interferes and it's the children who suffer them.

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For example, I know a family in which what happened was that the man and woman, they got divorced. The woman was pregnant at that time. And the parents of the girl said the parents of the woman said, do the boy's family that if you want this child, then you should come to the hospital at the time of delivery. And you take the child right away. If you don't, we're going to give the child to an orphanage.

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We're going to give the child to the orphanage. The woman the mother was not even allowed to see her child, despite the fact that she wanted the child despite the fact that she wanted to breastfeed the child. She wanted to give her child but the parents would not allow.

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So this command is not just to the father and the mother, but it's to the rest of the family as well.

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That don't harm the mother. Don't harm the Father through the child.

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Similarly, sometimes the children are in the custody of the mother and the mother's parents don't allow the grandchildren to go see their father. Sometimes that happens. So why are they Why do you think mythical Gallic similar responsibility is upon the heirs for in Northern Ireland, then if they do want it weaning, who do want it, the two over here first to the mother and the father, whether they're divorced or not.

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Both of them want to wean the child from what until all the men whom are out of mutual agreement

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for assignment is from newsletters fell silent and fossil is to separate and facade is weaning, which is when a child is taken off of breastfeeding.

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As long as a child is breastfeeding, he is with the mother, the mother cannot leave him for two hours, you cannot even for three hours you cannot leave him for five hours, because she is breastfeeding. But when she means the child, then the child and mother are separated for longer time for longer periods of time.

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So if both of them mean the mother and father wish to wean the child and this decision is Antara min. Homer, it is a mutual decision. Both of them agree. It's not just the decision of the mother. It's not just the decision of the Father. You see how much the parents have to be on the same page,

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the husband and wife, they have to be at the same page.

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That even when it comes to breastfeeding the child or not breastfeeding the child it should be a mutual decision.

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It should not be a decision made by one person and forced upon the other No, both should decide. Both should agree until all the mean human what a charlatan. And also mutual consultation, the shower is from Shinawatra. The shower is to consult one another to discuss about an issue today counsel. So we see that Shura should also be a major part of family,

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especially between a husband and wife.

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So if they both decide that they should win the child why, for example, the husband cannot afford to give the food or give the kiswa to the woman

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or because of divorce the mother and father, the husband and wife, they are separated.

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And now the child cannot go with the mother the example that I gave you before.

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So in this case, both of them decide both of them resolved that they're not going to breastfeed the child anymore.

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Or sometimes it is because of some other problem because some other issue.

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The man and woman are fine, they're married, there is no problem in their relationship. But let's say the woman has to work because for some reason the woman has to study, she's not able to breastfeed the child, she's not able to take the child. So both the man and woman decide that they're going to wean the child, they're not going to breastfeed the child anymore. Are they sinful for that no phenomena highly human, then there is no sin abundant to as long as it isn't the benefit of the child and the mother.

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So if nursing the child is not feasible, then there is no set. But we see that consultation, mutual decision is necessary.

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Many times women make up this decision themselves. And without telling the husbands they when the child before two years, that husband wants the child to be fed. But the woman says no. And she doesn't tell him. So we see that mutual consultation is very important.

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And if a man interferes in this matter, if he finds out if the woman is still breastfeeding, then he's not interfering in the woman's personal issue. No, this is his issue. He's not interfering because it is his child. And he has a right to know what he is being fed, who is feeding him. What in order to and if you all wish, and best of the rule oladipo that you seek foster suckling for your children, they're still there to see the scene into that gives the meaning of seeking that you seek rather, you want someone else to feed your child.

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You want your child to be nourished by a substitute someone other than the woman. So for example, the amount of the child or for example, another wetness, or for example, the bottle, if you wish that somebody else other than the mother should feed your child. For legendary Harlequin, then there's no sin upon you, meaning you may do so. A child can be nursed by another biotech nurse as long as either salon term man

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as long as you have submitted what

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Gave Bill Maher roof in America is approved.

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What is an investor? Lampton Salam is from seen la meme? And as you know, Islam means submission. What does it mean to submit your we'll do a last panel

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over here, the slim means that you've handed over, you've completely given you have submitted, you have paid, what have you submitted? What have you gave man datum that which you intended to give to who? To the wetness to the suckling mother.

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Previously, we learned that the Arabs, they would send their children to the villages to the desert, so that they would be nursed over there.

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The mothers would not nurse their own children, but the children would be sent to the desert, where they would live with the desert dwellers and they would feed them, breastfeed them and also feed them otherwise. And this was so that the children are exposed to the rich Arabic language, and they get the best nutrition as well.

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So when a foster mother is hired, to feed your child, then you have to pay her, you have to give her it's possible that the foster mother says no, I don't wish to get any money, that's fine. But if she demands some money, some recompense some return, then you must give that and how should you give that been maruf in a manner that is approved Marilla over here refers to the amount should be acceptable.

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I mean, it shouldn't be just $2 for a year.

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Similarly, maruf refers to the manner in which a person gives what does that mean by the manner, that it should be given out of kindness, in a good way, without delaying without postponing, because who will you harm that your own child

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similarly, when a person is paying, he should pay it in a manner that is appropriate, he shouldn't pay the entire amount and change to the person is lugging 2000 coins to the bank? So in a way that is modeled

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what the law and fear a lot, even with regards to this matter? What are the rules and the law have been met? universally, and know that Allah is seeing everything you do?

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If we remember this, that Allah is seeing of everything that I do,

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when I'm dealing with my spouse, when I'm dealing with my child, when I'm dealing with my in laws, when I'm dealing with any other person, any person out there, if we remember this rule, that Allah sees my intentions, Allah sees my actions, he knows about what I say, only then can we develop fear of Allah and only then can we do that which Allah approves.

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Only then can we give the hug on the other? Only then can we look beyond ourselves and not be so selfish. Look at the need of the other, look at the right of the other and fulfill their right. fulfill their need. Look beyond ourselves.

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Let's listen to the recitation.

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one worry that will

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mean a demon.

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testimony

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