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AI: Summary © The title "Okay Sabratiss" in the century of Jesus's book is important for individuals to pursue their beliefs and reach their potential. It is essential for individuals to pray with others, understand their actions, and avoid obligations. It is also important for individuals to trust oneself and not denying their weaknesses in order to achieve success in life. The speakers stress the importance of guidance, support, and understanding of physical boundaries in achieving success.
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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Alhamdulillah he will your Salah Hain wa Salatu was Salam wa ala Murthy Rahmatullah Alameen Nabi Gina were Imam Amina will call with your Aina Muhammadan

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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wa ala OS hobby he Ultramarine Allahumma Jarle each term HD Marana HD more and more Holman was your altar for rockin out the federal Command Bar de Mar Salman Allahumma. Amin

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all praises to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds, the friend of the righteous.

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And will last panel Tata sent His peace and blessings upon the Messenger whom He sent to us, our leader, our Prophet, the one whom we love. And the one who is the coolness of our eyes, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and I ask Allah subhana wa Tada to make this gathering of ours a gathering. That is such that every single one of us is forgiven. And I ask Allah subhanaw taala that when we leave after this gathering, every single one of us is completely forgiven of our sins Allahumma Amin.

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Today inshallah I'm going to be talking about lessons from the life of Madame or they have Salam. Medina already has Salam is a woman who is, you know, venerated, like a very special woman who is looked upon not just by Muslims, but also by Christians, right? People who, who who believe in reciting his salah, they also look up to Madame or they have salah and the fact is that Maria Maria has Salam is truly an example of piety, of devotion to Allah, of submitting to Allah's decree, accepting the decrees of Allah, believing in the books of Allah, following the commands of Allah, she's truly a role model for every single one of us. And she is very special because think about it,

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Allah subhanaw taala has named an entire Surah of the Quran after her all right spirit Meriam not just that there is another surah in the Quran which is actually named after the family that she was from Surah Al Imran the Family of Imran is Imran is her father. Alright, so the Family of Imran includes the wife of Imran includes the daughter of Imran so you're talking about Hannah motilium and also the son of Maria Maria Salam Risa Ernie, his Salah. So this shows us how special Maria Maria has set them is. And then we see that in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala does not just mention her. Allah subhanaw taala tells us about her story in detail different parts of her life are

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actually mentioned in a lot of detail. For example, a certain passage in the Quran in surah, Allah Amman is devoted entirely to her birth, right how when her mother was expecting she dedicated her child, her unborn child to who to the worship of Allah subhanaw taala. And then you know, a girl is born. And then you know, the mother gives her the name, madame, her birth, the story of her birth is mentioned not just that, her worship is also mentioned, right how she used to worship Allah subhanaw taala, that every time that duck idiota has Salam would come he would find her in the Michelob in her prayer place. And then we see that another part of her life is mentioned in detail and that is

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her part of life when she becomes a mother, when she gives birth to a Salah husana. And there's so much detail over there, you know, the pain of childbirth, that she experiences, the loneliness and the fear that she has at that time. And what is set to her in that condition to uplift her and how Allah subhanaw taala blesses her with miracles in order to show that he is helping her and how Allah subhanaw taala supports her. So you see the different parts of her life are mentioned in so much detail in the Quran. Right? Why? So that we can learn from her example? Because every idea in the Quran is there for a purpose. Right? The stories that Allah subhanaw taala mentions in the Quran are

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not just for entertainment, they're not just for pastime, that all this is an interesting tidbit from history. Know, the reason why Allah subhanaw taala mentions the stories of the prophets, the stories of the righteous is to strengthen our heart. Right? It is to provide guidance to us. So the story of Medina Martinez Salaam is true

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The, at an example of belief in Allah submission to Allah, striving for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala accepting the decrees of Allah. And there's so much to learn from her example. Now money already has said I'm is also the only woman who has actually mentioned by name in the Quran. There are many women that are referenced in the Quran, all right, the wife of Imran, for example, the wife of the Aziz, right? The wife offered our own but millennium is the only woman who is mentioned by name in the Quran, and that shows us her status. Right and also the fact that she was truly a slave to Allah. Because to be Imam quote to be mentioned that the Arabs would not hesitate taking the

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names of their slave women. They did not like to mention the names of you know, free women, okay. But when it came to their slave women, they didn't have any hesitation in mentioning them. So the fact that Maria Maria salaams name is mentioned in the Quran so many times shows that she was truly a slave of Allah, a true worshipper of Allah subhanho wa taala. She is She is a woman who reached a very high status that you know, it true status of honor, that a human being could ever reach. And that is the status the position of herb udia, of of servitude to Allah subhanaw taala because when Allah subhanaw taala praises his messenger and the Quran defends his messenger in the Quran, he

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calls him his, his his worshipper, right? So money M is a true worshipper of Allah. And this is why we see the chi is mentioned in the Quran by name. And Allah subhanaw. Taala also describes her as slit Deepa

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Allah subhanaw taala says what oh Moo hoo, meaning the mother of eSATA his Salam was slit deca, and slit DECA is a woman who is who is at the level of slit the pier. All right. And you see among people, meaning in the Hereafter, people will be off varying levels, the highest level is of who it is of the prophets of Allah. All right, then after the prophets, it is off for the pain, the people who are truthful. All right, and this is not just about speaking the truth. Slip the pier is about having such knowledge that brings about conviction. And that brings about righteous action,

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slip, slip, the key here is to have such knowledge that brings about what conviction as well as righteous action. Because

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like Allah subhanaw taala mentions about money and that's not the cut because immature behavior could to be that she confirmed the truthfulness of the words of our Lord and his books. You cannot confirm the truthfulness of something without what?

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Without what without knowledge, right? And then if you confirm that, yes, something is true, you believe that it is true, then your actions cannot contradict your words. Right? So this shows that money and money has Salam was a woman of knowledge, and a woman of righteous action.

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She wasn't just a woman who knew things at their surface, know, she had depth in knowledge, she had conviction.

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She understood she she believed with understanding. And then her her knowledge was not just information, it was lived, it was practiced. It was visible in her life in the choices that she made in the things that she said. So she was a woman of knowledge and a woman of righteous action.

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And slit the fear is also

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you know, it's explained as extreme truthfulness. It is to have absolute and total belief in the truth, any without an ounce of doubt, that a person is 100% convinced they have no doubt whatsoever. When you think about Sadiq Who do you think of who comes to mind? Abu Bakr Siddiq, Radi Allahu Anhu right and specifically, which incident comes to mind?

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The Islamic world marriage, right? That when the prophets of Allah who are Islam returned and informed the people of of the Night Journey, what happened?

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For made fun, they they rejected right away, but Abu Bakr Siddiq Kurata Allahu Anhu. He believed he confirmed. And this wasn't the only occasion where he believed in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he confirmed what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, every single time, every single time Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu believed without any hesitation, he confirmed without any doubt. So this is the kind of belief that Millennium already has Salam had and when you have such belief, what does that mean? That means that you are a supporter of truth. Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu. Who was he to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, how was he? He was someone who was

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always there to support the prophets of Allah who were in a he was sending them. Right? So money I went to his salaam didn't just, you know, live in her in her Madhab and just worship Allah subhanaw taala there in her privacy? No, she also supported the religion of Allah, how through her sweat, her blood, her tears, because when she was chosen to be the mother of Isa Alayhis Salam, this was not an easy task. This was really not easy. She knew what was coming. She knew that people would, you know, people would accuse her they would not believe in her. They would attack her reputation, her honor, right? But did muddy um, get upset with her lord over there. That why me and why like this? No, she

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accepted the test that Allah subhanaw taala sent her way. Why? Because she was a supporter of the religion of Allah azza wa jal.

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So she was asleep Vika a woman of truth. And then we see that Maria Maria has Sena is also presented as an example for all people who believe Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran, will not have Allah Who Mephala Lilla Dena Manu that Allah presents an example for the people who believe

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meaning, an example to follow, to emulate to look up to, and those who believe includes who the men who believe and the women who believe the young who believe and also the adults, the elderly, people, believers of all ages, right, all backgrounds, all professions, every single believer can find an example a role model in the one who is mentioned over here. So who is presented as an example from for the believers? First, Allah subhanaw taala mentions imbricata Farah own the wife of her own meaning asiyah. And then in the next verse, Allah subhanaw taala mentions Meriam when Motoyama vanetta Imran allottee, or sonnet for Jehovah. And also an example for those who believe is

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Maria, the daughter of Imran, the woman who guarded her chest to tea.

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And in particular, Allah subhanaw taala mentions in this ayah three things about Madame that are truly an example for all believers.

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The first thing Allah subhanaw taala mentions about Miriam is the fact that she guarded her chastity. She was a woman who stayed away from sin. And this is something incredibly important in every age, in every era, in every place of this world, and people of all ages. In fact, you know, the fitna. All right, for example, the opposite gender, or the temptation to commit Zina is not just for the young, it's not just for the teenagers. It's not just for the people, you know, who who are of a certain age, it's for all people. So Meriam was a woman who suffered from Jehovah, she guarded her chastity and to guard one's chastity. This is something huge, that a person is put in a position

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where Haram is so accessible to them. It is so available to them. Nobody would even criticize them. Nobody would object even or nobody would find out maybe, but a person stays away out of whose fear

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the fear of Allah subhanaw taala now how is it that Madea Marley has Salam guarded her Chestatee because when she was in her in her mid lob, and the angel came in the form of Bashar and so we Yeah, in the form of a human being, and not just a human being in the form of a man who was well proportioned. And he a well proportioned man, and he's someone who's whose physical appearance is actually very good. Not someone whom you would find you know,

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Feel repulsed by or feel disgusted by or feel uncomfortable in their presence know someone who is attractive, good looking. That's how the angel came. And there's reasons why the angel came in that form. But one of the reasons is to test the chastity of Meriam. That what does she do? How does she respond? And what was her response? Immediately, she sought refuge with Allah. In the arrow, the bill Rama, Hanuman, in contact Akia. Right. She said, Indeed, I seek refuge with a rock man against you. If you are God fearing meaning if you're God fearing then please go away from here, don't do anything wrong. And immediately she asks Allah subhanaw taala for protection. And that's the thing.

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There are times when you will be tested. When somebody for example, sends a message, all right, that is inappropriate. How do you respond over there? When you are alone with someone? How do you respond over there? What is your reaction? Do you instantly feel repulsed by the idea of even doing something wrong? Or do you consider that as something like something that is an option for you something that you might be interested in? Maria Maria has Sena garden her Chestatee. Immediately she asks Allah subhanaw taala for protection.

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So Allah the asanas for Jehovah. The second thing Allah subhanaw taala mentions about Madame is that was sadaqat be kalimat, your Bihar wakatobi that she confirmed the words of her LORD and also his books. The words of Allah also include the promises of Allah, right the decrees of Allah. So Maria, Malika Salam did not resist or refuse the commands the decrees of Allah subhanaw taala she accepted them when she was told that you're going to become the mother off rissalah husana. She does not say no, no, no, there's no way I do not consent. I do not accept this. No, she accepted, she surrendered to the decree of Allah. And not just that she believed in the promises of Allah. When Allah subhanaw

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taala told her that, you know, for example, when when Medina was afraid that when people will see the baby with her, they're going to accuse her, right? She was told, Do not say anything. Right? That just just show that you are fasting. And this is a kind of a fast in which you're not going to speak for lunch, aka Lima Lima in Syria. So what happened then when she went to her people carrying her baby? And they asked her right away, that Oh, Madame Luca, gente, che and ferrea that you have done something very wrong. Right, and they shamed her. Maria Maria Salam did not say even a word in response to them. She stuck to the plan that Allah subhanaw taala gave her right? This is about

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believing in the words of ALLAH, that if Allah subhanaw taala has said something, then I will stick to that. Even if right now in the short term, it may not make sense to me, I may want to do something else in order to, you know, for example, defend myself.

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But Maria Maria has Salam confirmed, she believed in the words of her LORD, and also in the books of her Lord. And this means that she was a woman of knowledge, a woman of action. The third thing the last panel Tara mentions about her is that What can it mean l carnitine. That she was off those who are devoutly obedient. She was of those women who did Knut and connote is to be consistently and humbly, obedient to Allah subhanaw taala. Well, no, there's also to stand in prayer for a very long time.

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So she was a woman who did Knuth and he she was someone who worshipped Allah subhanaw taala not just for a few minutes of her day. Okay, not just for a few seconds of her day, but for many hours of the day and the night.

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Think about it when we pray Salah How long does it take us?

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Right, and how quickly do we rush through salah? How quickly do we rush through the car after Salah if you think about it out of the 24 hours. How many minutes of our day and night are actually spent in the worship of Allah subhanaw taala. If we were to add all of that up, how much time goes into that? Maybe maximum 45 minutes to an hour maximum.

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Meriam was someone who stood in prayer for a very

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longtime. So how is Maria an example for us for all people who believe men and women how?

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In her chastity she's an example a role model in her knowledge and action, right in her believing in the promises of her Lord, the words of her LORD. And thirdly, in her worship,

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this is what we should be doing as well. Right now, Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran about how he chose Meriam. Okay, he mentions that in Allah has stuff elke what the Hauraki was the faqih, Allah and Isa Illa. Allah mean that Miriam was told that ammonium indeed Allah has chosen you. And Allah has purified you. And Allah has chosen you over the women of the world's meaning all the women of the worlds.

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How is it that Allah subhanaw taala chose her? Allah subhanaw taala chose her because she was from the family of Iran. And Allah subhanaw taala says about the Family of Imran that in the law has slfa them or Wuhan what Allah Ibrahim what Allah Imran Allah Allah mean? So the family that she was from was itself chosen. Right? And Allah subhanaw taala chose her again. How? By making her the mother of reciting his sunnah. All right, there's another interpretation that were the most at the first time that podium was chosen was when her mother took her to Badal mock this. All right, and the people they're accepted her, not just accepted her they actually had to cast lots. All right, in order to

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decide who gets to be her guardian her her caretaker, and Zachary Alia has Salam is the one who became her her caretaker right, her guardian, who was also a prophet of Allah. Can you imagine this is something that was not the norm. Women would not live in Bethel muck this worshipping Allah subhanaw taala. This is something that only men would do. But her mother had made a vow that this child of mine is going to worship Allah. So when she gives birth, and it happens to be a girl, she doesn't quit her plans. She takes her daughter tbaytel mothers, all right, she tells them about her vow. And Allah subhanaw taala causes the people over there to be so eager to take her that they had

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to draw lots. Can you imagine they had to draw a lot because a fight was going to break out.

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And who gets to be her guardian it is a Qadiani who set up so Allah subhanaw taala chose her. Right? And then Allah subhanaw taala chose her a second time over all the women of the world by making her the mother of reciting his sunnah and no one else and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also said that the best woman was who it was money um, been through Imran meaning the best woman of her time. And in other Hadith also be learned that Medina is one of those women whom Allah subhanaw taala has chosen above the other women of the worlds now, here Allah's pantherella says that in the Lucha Sasaki, what the Hauraki was LaVake two times Allah says that he has chosen you. Right. But

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between the two choosing things you can say is what? That he has purified you

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that Allah subhanaw taala has purified you. And what is that purification? It is when magium went through a very difficult test. All right, and what was that test? It was the test of giving birth to rissalah Hustler.

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So, status, honor, privilege, et cetera. Success comes after what? After a huge test. Right. So this shows us that we should never resent the tests that Allah subhanaw taala sends our way. Each one of us is tested differently. Some people are tested through their children. Others are tested through their wealth. Others are tested through their parents. Some people are tested through their siblings. Some people are tested, not through their relationships, but through their work. Right. So each person is tested differently. And for every person, remember, their tests are going to be tailored to them for them, and especially designed for them for their unique situation. Because

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Allah subhanaw taala is going to test every single one of us. But do not resent these tests because these tests are not there to punish you. They're there to purify

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You, to improve you, to push you to a higher position to push you to become better, to push you to become stronger.

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You know like an Hadith leader and that Allah subhanaw taala has a certain status. All right for a believer, Allah subhanaw taala wants that believer to reach that high status. But that person is not going to get to that high status just with their good deeds. So what happens Allah subhanaw taala puts them in hardship. Allah subhanaw taala puts them through different tests, and then the slave is patient. And then through that patience, they reach that high level. So never ever be upset with Allah for the tests that he puts you in. Remember that Allah subhanaw taala is on your side. When you believe in Allah, Allah is on your side. So in Allah has luffa CQI what the Hauraki was Sfakia

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Allah Anissa Illa Allah mean and then Maria was told that your ammonia or ammonium or cu T lira beaky, be devoutly obedient to Your Lord was Judy and make such that to your Lord one Karima on rock hearing, and bow down with those who bow down. So muddy, I was told to do three things over here, right? But Allah subhanaw taala first tells her that I have chosen you, I have purified you, I have chosen you. Therefore, you should do what you should be devoutly obedient. You should make such that to your Lord. And you should pray with those who pray. And this shows us that when Allah subhanaw taala favors us with any kind of blessing, then how should we respond to Allah? How should we

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with increased worship, with gratitude, with humility, that is how we should respond to Allah subhanaw taala what happens with many people is what Allah subhanaw taala mentions in the Quran. That what either upon a nurse Amina Ramadan, Fatih, who be her that when we allow people to have a taste of some mercy from Us, what happens to people, they become very, very happy because of that. Failure. hooba It's not wrong to be happy over the blessings that Allah subhanaw taala gives us what is wrong is that they only become happy.

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All right, they forget to thank Allah. This is like you give, you know, a phone to your teenager. All right. And he's like, yes, yes.

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Awesome. Amazing. Right? And then he's so happy. He's like, Oh, my God, I can't believe it. This is the best thing ever. And then, you know, they're they're opening the box, and then they're using something else to take photos of it, and they're sharing it with their friends. And then they're constantly using the phone. They're really really happy. And they're so happy that they forget to look at you and say thank you, Mom.

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Can you imagine if if your teenager did that? What would you do? Give me back that phone? You you in grade? Right? You ungrateful thing. How? How did I raise such an ungrateful child? Alright, so we were becoming very, very upset. So a lot of people respond to the blessings of Allah subhanaw taala in this way, that they only rejoice, they only become happy and they become so happy that they forget about Allah subhanaw taala.

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Right. And then,

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but money is told that when Allah subhanaw taala has chosen you, what should you do in return? You should worship Allah subhanaw taala even more, right? You should do such that to Allah out of gratitude, and you should bow down with those who bow down, meaning you should be humble before your Lord. And the same thing Allah subhanaw taala tells his messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Quran in surah Doha where Allah subhanaw taala says LM ug the KEA team and for our did Allah not find you an orphan and he gave shelter, right? Well, what are the Kabbalah and for Harada And He found you lost and guided. Right? Well, what are the CARA Elan for Elena and found you poor and gave

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you richness? So then what is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam told to do in return for amellia thema filata kaha as for the orphan, Do not oppress him

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We're unmasked, c'est la vie Latin. As for the one who asks the beggar the questioner, do not repel him. What unmapping your material beaker for Hadith as for the Blessings of your Lord mentioned them praise them, right? So

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when Allah subhanaw taala gives us a blessing, we really need to see how do we respond? Do we respond with more obedience to Allah? Or do we respond with forgetting Allah? Like, for example, if you were to go on vacation, all right, you go to some fancy destination, all right, instafamous destination, maybe some island somewhere, some resort, some private resort somewhere. And you know, it's just you and your family, and you have access to such you know, beautiful places and such good food, etc. At that time, how much do you remember Allah?

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Typically what happens when we're busy enjoying a wedding? Right? Or any party, any kind of blessing? Who is it that we forget?

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Who is it? It is Allah subhanaw taala what happens to our salah?

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We we delay it, we defer it or we don't pray it properly, we rush through our salah.

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And this is the opposite of what Allah subhanaw taala wants from us. He gives us these blessings not so that we forget him, but so that we grow in our love and our dedication for Allah subhanaw taala So Madame is told Ocwen Otilia Rob beaky was Judy worker in mercury, well could do to do Knut and he do more worship, stand longer in worship.

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And was Judy such the is also out of gratitude, like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would do, right? That when when some good news reached him, he would make such that I would have gratitude and won't carry my rock here in record isn't salah, but record is a symbol of what of humility, lowering yourself bending yourself. And not just, you know, due to core on your own, but do two core mom rock here in prayer with those who are praying? Because when you pray with other people in congregation, then what happens is the reward increased. Is there. Yes, it is. But Subhanallah we tell women, pray alone. Right, Maria was told, pray with those who pray not just by yourself, but

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also pray with those who pray. There's benefit in praying on your own. And there's also benefit in praying and congregation.

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Right. When you pray on your own, you can cry How much ever you want, you can, you know, recite whichever Quran you want. You can make your record however long or short you want, isn't it? You can make you have that freedom to pray, however long or short you want correct there and you're not self conscious, because there's nobody around you. So you can just be yourself. Right in Salah. But then when you pray with other people, is there a benefit in that also? Absolutely. Because it's possible that since you've been praying on your own, you know, for a very long time, the length of your record has really reduced or the the length of your scheduled has really reduced. And then when you

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pray behind the Imam, what happens? You have to be in record until he's in record, isn't it? You have to be in scheduled until he's Institute.

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So there's benefits and praying on your own and there's also benefits and praying with other people. So Monday I was told what Carrie Marla Karine.

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Now, Allah subhanaw taala mentions

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the story of Medina Mara, who Salam primarily in Surah, Allah and Ron and and in sudut, Maria. All right, there's two passages. And I, of course, we do not have the time over here to go over every single word, every single idea, but what I want to do is focus on certain

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parts of her life and then discuss some lessons that we can take. So first and shall I'm going to talk about the passage in in Sudan and Iran. Okay, that talks about the birth of Medea. Okay? Now, Allah subhanaw taala tells us that when the mother of Miriam was pregnant, all right, she made a doll.

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And she said

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Robbie in in order to laka Murphy botany, that oh my lord, I pledged to you

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Whatever child that is in my womb, and this child of mine is purely for you will have Lavon

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free from me free from the world, only dedicated for your worship for the service of your religion, for the Cabal money, so accept from me.

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Allah subhanaw taala tells us that when she gives birth for llama OData when she gave birth to her, all the therapy in the world or to help when she said, Oh my Lord, I have given birth to a female, as if she is apologizing to her Lord. And this shows us that she expected or she hoped, at least for who, for a boy, right? And Allah subhanaw taala says that will Allah who are alone will be male, Well, God, Allah is most knowing of what she gave birth to because Allah is the One who created this child. So she does not need to tell Allah that I gave birth to a girl. Right? Allah knows better. And Allah subhanaw taala says, well, he said the coracle Onza the male is not like the female.

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They're not the same. There are different. Yes, she wanted a male child. But Allah subhanaw taala has deliberately given her a female child for a reason.

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All right, then what happens? She prays for this child of hers, that Oh Allah, I give her in your protection, you protect her, and also her children from shaitan. And she also says that I have named her Medina in new Samito, harmonium. All right. Now there's a couple of lessons that we can take from the birth of Medea Ronnie has said, the first thing we can learn is that we should have ambitions and goals for our children.

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All right, even before they are born,

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this woman is not waiting for her child to discover herself or discover himself, all right, and figure out on their own who they want to be. She as a mother has a goal for her child, that I want my child, to be someone who is dedicated to the worship of Allah, someone who is going to be serving the religion of Allah, that's what she wants. And it's very important to have such goals for your children. But it doesn't mean that

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you know, and also these goals should not be worldly oriented, they should be religiously oriented. Because when it comes to worldly matters, you know, the risk, the sustenance that is written for your child will come for your child, whether they become a doctor or an engineer, or, or a writer or something else, it doesn't matter, their risk is written for them.

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But when it comes to their religion, when it comes to their relationship with Allah subhanaw taala. This is something that we really have to think about and plan, your children won't learn reciting the Quran, just like that. You have to plan. They're not going to know the religion just like that you have to plan you have to have some kind of goals, you have to have some kind of ambitions. So have some ambitions and goals for your children. And the main goal that you should have is that my child should be a worshipper of Allah. Because if your child if if you do not strive for that for your child to be the worshipper of Allah, then what's going to happen?

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What's gonna happen, they're gonna become a worshipper to something else. Because we were designed to be worshipers. That's how Allah subhanaw taala made us that that is our fitrah that we will worship. And if we don't worship the one who made us, the one whom we were created to worship, then what's going to happen? Automatically, we're going to become worshipers to something else. And this is why the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said, Teresa Aboudi. Now, Teresa Abdu dyrham, that may may he be miserable? May he be ruined? Who the worshipper of the NA, the worshipper of dyrham, gold and silver coins, the worshipper of money, basically.

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And Teresa Abdul Hamid Issa. And he's the one who worships the shirt, the shawl the Prophet sallallahu Sallam mentioned different things. And, and basically, why is this person a worshipper of money or worshipper of the shirt or the shawl, because if he has these things, he's happy and if he doesn't get them, he's upset.

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So the thing is that if we do not aim for our children to be worshipers of Allah, then what's going to happen their hearts are gonna get attached to the things of this world. And that is what they will be drawn to. That is what they will claim to

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That is what they will strive for, that is what their happiness is going to depend upon.

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So, the mother of Miriam has this goal for her child, that I want my child to be the worshipper of Allah. Another thing that we should learn from the from the birth of Madame is that we must accept the decree of Allah whatever it is, and we must also accept the timing of Allah. You know the rhythm I say that the Bani Israel in they will always have a prophet among them. Okay, before a prophet would die, the next one would already be chosen. All right. And Zachary Jana who Salam who was the prophet of the time, he was getting old. And there was no new prophet yet. All right. So this woman, she wanted that she would have a son, and that son would be a righteous man, a, you know, a

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worshipper of Allah and perhaps Allah would choose him to be the leader of Bani Israel.

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All right. Now, this was her wish. Did Allah subhanaw taala give her what she wanted? No.

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Allah subhanaw taala instead gave her daughter why because of Bani Israel, we're not yet ready for a prophet. All right, what was going to happen was this daughter was going to give birth to the prophet or a Saudi husana. So sometimes we want to have certain things at a certain time.

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But who knows best when it is the right time for something to occur? Allah subhanaw taala So trust Allah subhanaw taala is timing and trust Allah subhanaw taala is decree.

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The birth of Millennium also shows us the importance of women's involvement. All right in in the community and their contribution as well. Because here we see that the mother of Medea Marlene was salam wanted to have a son. All right, the son would be the worshiper, someone who is dedicated to God serving the religion of God etcetera. And what happened, Allah subhanaw taala accepted that wish that there are, but Allah subhanaw taala did not give her son, Allah gave her a daughter. And Allah subhanaw taala says, the male is not like the female, which means that men can men contribute to the religion of Allah, the involvement of men is important, it is necessary, but what women bring to the

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table is also necessary because what they bring is different from what the men bring.

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So ladies at the coracle Onaga men are needed, and women are also needed.

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We also learn, of course, from the birth of Maria Maria has Suriname the fact that men are not the same as women, women are not the same as men. And it will be very wrong and unfair, if we treat for example, a woman like a man or a girl like a boy, there are clear differences between men and women physiological psychological, in in every possible way. I mean, when you when you study, you know, when you do any kind of research, right, and you come across different studies, you you see if there are any gender differences, right? Why? Because if, for example, you study a group of men only, and not women, that might show something. And if you study a group of people that involve both men and

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women, then that might show something else. So you cannot ignore the differences that exist between men and women. And this doesn't mean that you know, one is better than the other, but that both are different from each other. And our religion is not based on equality, it is based on what justice it is based on justice. And this is why even though a woman has to pray, a woman has to do Hajj, right, she does it room raw, but the way in which she she will do it, in certain matters, things will vary. Right? For example, a man does hedge and a woman does hedge. Right? But a man has to or he can shave his head can a woman do that? No.

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No. Right. For her. The rulings are different. Why? Considering her womanhood, right? So this is very important for us to remember that our religion is based on what on justice and justice doesn't mean treat everyone exactly the same, or give everyone the exact same task to do. Because if we operate in that way, we could actually be unjust.

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Right? We could be unjust, because people are different. Their needs are different. They're the way that they're

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design is also different. You know, for example, if in a train, there were no seats, especially for the elderly, then you could say that, Oh, everyone should be treated equally. Right? And so even if a person who's very old with a walking stick enters the train, and they don't find a spot to sit while they have to stand because that is equality. Is that fair, though?

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Is that fair though? It's not fair.

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So the rules that Allah subhanaw taala has given us are based on on the fact that men are different from women. Right? Well, they said the Kuru Calusa. Another important thing we learned from the birth of Maria Maria Sanam is

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that we should accept our children as they are. Okay? Money already has Salam, any, she's she's a girl, she she, you know, she's the mother of muddiman gives birth to a girl.

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She wanted to have a boy but she gives birth to a girl. Okay? And that's the thing, you will have certain expectations, certain, you know, wishes, all right, with regard to your children, whether you want to have them or not? How many you want to have, right? boys or girls, but your children will not be the way that you want them to be?

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All right, they will be different from your expectations. Because you don't get to design your child. Who does Allah subhanaw taala does?

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Can you design your car?

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Can you? Can you can you decide what color the interior should be? What color the exterior should be? What kind of a sound system there should be in the car? What kind of engine should be in the car? Should it be electric? Should it be hybrid? Should it be this or that? Do you get to decide those things? When you order a car, a brand new car? You do? You can do that. But can you design your own child?

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Can you? No you can't. This is something that you don't get to decide. This is something that Allah subhanaw taala decides your job is to accept the child that Allah has given you and raise them to be worshipers of Allah to the best of your ability. That is our job.

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Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran, that Allah he will customize what you will own your lucuma Yasha your Hubballi Mejia Shah, who in essence, we are humbly Mejia shirt with the code that to Allah belong, the skies and the earth he creates whatever He wants, and he gives to whomever he wants female children and he gives to whomever he wants male children. This is Allah subhanaw taala is decision.

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Right? And it's possible as we learn in the Quran, that you dislike something, but it's actually good for you. So never be upset with this decree of Allah, that why do I have only one child? Or? Or why do I have so many children? Or why do I have only daughters? Or why do I have only boys, we really need to get out of this thinking.

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from the example of Maria Maria, her son and we learn

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about her solitude, how she would worship Allah subhanaw taala in privacy, because when she went to bathe and muck this when her mother took her she would be in her Mojave Mojave is is the place of worship. All right, and Allah subhanaw taala also mentions that she was in mccannon Sharqiya in a place to the east meaning the eastern side of vital muchness and now also actually when you go to vital markers, the quarters of Medina Marlena salami and the place which is set to be where she lived, is literally on the opposite side of the Western Wall. Right so it is in mccannon, Shilpa Yeah. Okay? Or what mccannon chickpea means is that she was in the most Eastern meaning farthest

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away from the entrance of her of her prayer area. Okay, so imagine like a room, okay? She would worship Allah subhanaw taala not close to the entrance, but she would worship Allah subhanaw taala at a at a place which was farthest away from the entrance.

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Okay, and Allah subhanaw taala also mentions the fact that she had taken a screen there was a screen between her and the people so they couldn't see her and she could not see them. And why was there a screen of course for her privacy, but

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And also, so that she could focus on worshiping Allah subhanaw taala. Because you cannot worship Allah subhanaw taala with who assure with humility with focus when you are surrounded by chaos, you can't do that.

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So for example, if it's time to pray, and you pray in the living room, where the TV is on mute, but it's still on, okay? Where

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the pressure cooker is screaming,

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okay? Or there's people going in and out, what's gonna happen to your Salah,

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what's gonna happen, you're not gonna be able to focus at all, you're not going to remember whether it was second or third record, whether you just finished reciting sort of sort of the Fatiha or pseudo class, like, you're not going to know, you're going to be completely distracted, you're not going to be able to focus. If you're reading Quran, and children are making so much noise that you can't even hear yourself, you're not going to be able to focus if you're listening to a lecture, and then you pick up your phone and start scrolling through Instagram. Right? Or you open up WhatsApp, right? And then there's a video playing on the computer and there's another video playing on your

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phone. What's the point of that lecture tell me,

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you're not going to be able to follow along, you're not going to be able to focus. Right? So what do we learn from her solitude? The importance of disconnecting from the world and from its people and experienced true quiet.

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True quiet. Why in order to connect with Allah subhanaw taala I'm not saying this is how you should be all the time. That stay in your room, don't cook, don't clean don't go to work. Right? When you're, when you're at work in your office, you just close the door people are not allowed to come ask you anything. You don't go to any meetings, you don't go anywhere you just focus on vicco of calm worship, etc. No, that's that's not healthy, it's not realistic. Right? You're knifes has a hug. Right? Your your family has a right on you. Your guest has a right on you. And your Lord also has a right on you. And you have to give each their right.

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So the thing is that many people they forget to, to

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to give the right of Allah subhanaw taala properly.

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And they also forget about themselves because of the people who depend on them.

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So, especially for parents, this is very, very important, where they get to disconnect and have moments of true quiet in order to connect with Allah azza wa jal. And if you think about it, Yunus already has said I made a mistake. Right? And then what happened? He he left is people in anger and he went sat on the boat and then he ended up in the belly of the fish.

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How was he in the belly of the fish who was with him?

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No one was with him. No other person was with him. Right? So in that solitude, what did he do? He realized his mistake. He turned to Allah subhanaw taala. And he called out La Ilaha. Illa. Anta Subhana Allah in the Quran, terminal Valley mean? If you don't allow yourself to sit quietly, to sit alone, will you be able to reflect on your mistakes on your sins?

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Will you be able to cry before Allah subhanaw taala and beg Him for His forgiveness? You wouldn't be able to do that. So yes, your family is important. Yes, your work is important. Yes, your commitments are important. But your relationship with your Lord is also very, very important. And you need that one on one time with zero distractions. This is incredibly important.

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This, this person I know in, in, in Pakistan, millas. puntata have mercy on him and forgive him mashallah a man who was

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very, very helpful to his family to his community.

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And we only found out how, what an incredible man he was after he passed away,

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and how many good things he did after he passed away.

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And one of the things that was known about him is that every Friday, every Friday after a search, he was unavailable,

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unavailable, where would he be? He would be in the masjid in the front row, looking down so that nobody could see him. Nobody could make eye contact with

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him, nobody could talk to him about anything whose phone would be turned off or on silent or something? And what would he be doing just making the summer winter. And you know, in the summertime, the time between us and motive is quite long, didn't matter, every single Friday, this is what that man would do.

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Because life is busy, right. And if you're always being pulled in two different directions, then really, you'd go crazy.

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You'd go crazy. Because if you don't have any time to yourself, where you can think, where you can reflect on your situation where you can reflect on your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala, where you can talk to Allah about your worries, where you can pour out your heart before Allah where you can beg Allah to help you. Right with your little problems and your big problems. If you don't have that time with Allah subhanaw taala How can you deal with everything on your own, you can't. We weren't designed to carry our problems on ourselves all the time. We were designed to worship Allah to seek His help a yak and our Budo we're here kind of serene, we have to seek the help of Allah.

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And if we don't have those moments of solitude of quiet, where we talk to Allah, where we ask Allah for help, then life would become very, very difficult. So we see that Madame, she has disconnected from people, right? There's a screen between her and the people. And she is worshipping Allah subhanaw taala. And this is where reflection happens. This is where repentance happens. And this is where you also beg Allah subhanaw taala for help. This is where you feel closeness to Allah.

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This also shows us how important it is for us to worship Allah subhanaw taala in our lives, right? When when it comes to our above that typically or above that is what it's it's just something that we have to get done.

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Right. And

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for instance, in the evening, when we get home from work, right? What happens? We're like, Okay, let me do this. Let me do this. Let me do this. And then I'll pray. Let me get everything done, then I'll pray. Or let me just quickly go and pray and then get back to my work. That's how we treat salah. That's how we treat worship, just something that needs to get done quickly, so that we can get to more important things. And then what happens? Do the more important things ever end?

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Do they ever end? No, they don't.

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Right? If you say that I'm going to press a lot when I'm done my email.

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Okay, and then you sit down with your computer. It's most mostly of time, but you're like, No, I'm going to empty the inbox. And then I'm going to go pray about it. And you spend half an hour emptying your inbox and by that time Maghrib is

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getting delayed. Right? Tell me when you empty that inbox? Does it stay empty?

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Does it stay empty? It doesn't. In fact, as you're sending those replies what happens, more emails start pouring in.

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This is how the world is this work is never going to end. So we must pull away from it in order to worship Allah subhanaw taala worship must be a priority first worship than other things. There's a hadith in which we learned that Allah subhanaw taala says that all son of Adam, devote yourself to my worship. I will fill your chest with riches and alleviate your poverty.

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When you devote yourself to the worship of Allah, what's gonna happen, your heart will be content. You will be satisfied with what Allah Spano Tata has given you, and you'll be happy with that. You won't always be yearning for more wishing for something different. And this is the problem today, right? We're not satisfied with what we have. We go buy something after tons of research, we bring it home and we're like I'm having second thoughts.

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Yeah, or we think that what we have is the best but then we see someone else with something different. And then immediately we begin to dislike what we have.

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This is the problem that we're facing today. We do not have the richness of the heart. Right we're always greedy for more unsatisfied, unhappy with what we have. Why? Because worship is not our priority.

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Allah subhanaw taala says that I will remove your poverty. If you devote yourself to my worship, and if you do not do so then I will fill your hands with problems and not alleviate

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You get your poverty. When you put the worship of Allah on the backburner. When you make it unimportant in your life, then what happens? bigger problems come, many, many problems come and you feel like there's never a moment when you can truly relax. Because you finished dealing with one mess, you finish putting out one fire. And then there's another one, there's another one to put out and another one to put out, another one to put out, and you're constantly chasing your tail basically

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Subhan Allah, this is the result of what neglecting the right of Allah.

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Then we see that Millennium already has Cena, she didn't just worship Allah subhanaw taala. She also served vital muchness meaning she took care of vital macness The House of Allah in whatever way that was possible for her. So she did, she fulfilled her obligations towards Allah. And she also did voluntary good deeds. And this is also something very important that we shouldn't just, you know, we should we shouldn't settle with just fulfilling our obligations. All right, we must also

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focus on doing voluntary good deeds. But then there's, you know, a mistake that many people make where they neglect obligatory worship for the sake of voluntary, right, which is, for example, if they're volunteering somewhere, even at the masjid, all right, they're helping people, you know, sit somewhere, they're, they're helping set up a place. And what do they miss their own salah?

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That doesn't make sense. Voluntary worship comes after? What? Obligatory worship. Right? You could be helping your community. But if your mom needs help, if your dad needs help, then you need to correct your priorities. It doesn't make sense that the people that you are responsible for the people who deserve you first, they are constantly waiting for you. Right? Waiting patiently that you're going to come and do something for them. And where's all of your extra time going in serving the world? That is not correct. Do not neglect obligatory worship for the sake of voluntary but also do not limit yourself at just obligatory worship also be busy in voluntary worship. And this is what

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Merriam did. Alright, when it comes to Salah also, sometimes we think that just pray the Father and that's enough. No, don't forget your Sunnah prayers. And don't forget your Nafion voluntary prayers as much as possible. Why? Because on the Day of Judgment, what is the first thing that we're going to be questioned about?

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It was about salah. Right? And the prophets of Allah who earlier said, I'm told us that the first thing that that a person will be questioned about is going to be his salah. And if a person's fold prayer is complete,

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okay, then he has passed. All right, but if the folk prayer is not complete, that Allah subhanaw taala will tell the angels that look at the voluntary prayers of my slave,

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make up for the fall by what by the voluntary prayers that he performed. So if there are voluntary prayers, then what's going to happen, the gaps the holes in the in the obligatory prayers will be fixed like that. But if there are no voluntary prayers, then what's going to happen?

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What's going to happen? The prayer is incomplete. And if it's incomplete, that means that a person has failed,

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right? And this is not just the case with salah, but with every good deed when it comes to the cat when it comes to charity. Right when it comes to Hajj, every good deed will be examined in this way.

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I think the mic is not working.

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Maybe this is a sign that I should stop

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755 When are we supposed to end?

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Eight 830 Okay, I'll go for a few more minutes and then inshallah we'll take some questions. Yeah. Okay.

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Now money already has said um, she combines obligatory worship with voluntary worship, right. Another thing we learned in the example of Medina Martinez Salaam is that when Zaccaria Allah has Salam comes to her. All right, and he sees that she has, you know, food, which he did not bring and food which is specifically fruit that was out of season. Okay. He asked her that Yamoto another lucky Heather

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That ammonium, how did this get to you? Right? What was her response? Hua Minar in the law? Her response was, it is from Allah.

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Okay. And she doesn't say that I got it.

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Right, I went and bought it. Right I, I prayed for it, right or that so and so brought it to me. She says it is from Allah.

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And this is so important for us to remember that any good thing that we have in our lives, it is from WHO? From Allah subhanaw taala whether we went and bought it ourselves, right? Because even if we did that, how did we go somewhere and buy it who gave us the ability? Allah subhanaw taala, who gave us the resources, Allah subhanaw taala does not happen with you sometimes that you go with the intention to buy something, you have the money with you, you have the car with you, you have the time. But then you go to the store, and what you want is not there,

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isn't it your size is not available, the color that you want, it is not available? Right? So anything that you obtain, even if someone gives it to you as a gift, the real source is who

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it is Allah subhanaw taala so she says, who I'm in or in the law, or rune said about the wealth that he had, that I have it because of mineral mineral, nd because of my knowledge because of the knowledge that I have.

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Right? He was he was boasting over there that I have this because of me.

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But Miriam says, this is from Allah subhanaw taala.

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And these words, inspires a curiosity husana He's a prophet of Allah. And he benefits from the words of Millennium. And immediately he calls upon Allah subhanaw taala that, Oh, my Lord, grant me a righteous child. How is it that he's making dua right now because he's motivated, right? That if Allah can give millennium, this sustenance that truly, he can give me what I wish for.

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Right? And this shows us that sometimes, someone who is of a greater status benefits from someone who is of a lesser status that Kenyatta has sent him as a prophet, Maria misma. But he benefits from her words. Right? He is inspired to call upon Allah with renewed hope and conviction.

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Right? He's older, she's younger, but he benefits from her words. So never think that you cannot benefit from someone who is younger than you, someone who's less qualified than you. Because sometimes your children even

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speak the truth. Right? The truth that you need to hear, nobody else is going to say to you, but your child will say to you.

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So over there, don't try to exert your authority, accept the good that you have just heard. Right. And we see over here that righteous company benefits a person. Right, so CReality Sinha, benefits from what Miriam says. So be careful about who you visit. Be careful about who you sit with. Be careful about who you talk to, because their words are going to affect how you think they're going to affect your relationship with the last panel or how you think about Allah, how you pray, if you pray or not. Like for example, if someone is sitting with you, and they're constantly complaining about how things are not going the way they want. And then they say I don't know why Allah doesn't

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like me.

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I don't know why, like, you know, I've been praying, I've been fasting, I've been giving so much charity, but my dogs are just not accepted. And if they start talking such negative things about Allah, then what's going to happen to you?

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What's going to happen to you, you might also start thinking the same way so be careful about who you expose yourself to

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who gets the privilege of sitting with you, who you know are talking to you, because your company will certainly affect you. Right. Then in the next passage, which is in sort of Millennium Allah subhanaw taala tells us about how Millennium RD has set M gives birth. Right and there's a few things that I want to talk about. First of all, we see that money already has Sadam, you know, she experiences a lot of pain, because Allah says the Ajah Helma Haldol illogic or Nakhla that the pain of childbirth drives her pushes her to go and rest against

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a date palm tree. All right, meeting that

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pain was so intense that she could not remain in one place. She is pushed by that pain to go and rest against the date palm tree. And this is a reminder that childbirth is incredibly painful and we should never ever be little, the sacrifice of a mother, not just her sacrifice, but also the the all that she has gone through in order to give birth.

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People think that, you know, this is something normal, everybody does it, right? every woman, every mother goes through it. So this is something normal. But just because something is common, it doesn't mean that it is easy.

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Never belittle what a mother has experienced in giving birth to a child. This is incredibly hard. And it is something that only Allah subhanaw taala knows and the woman who has experienced it knows

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and this is why we must honor motherhood. Motherhood is not something to be looked down upon, and to be ridiculed and and to be considered as something unimportant or not big of a deal. It is a very, very big deal. Because Allah subhanaw taala mentions the difficulty that a mother endures multiple times in the Quran, multiple times.

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you know, there's literally like a war on motherhood, right? Where women are given the message that if you're just a mother,

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you're not good enough.

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Right? If you are not collecting, you know, big titles on your resume, and if you're not earning enough, if you're not earning money, then you're not good enough.

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Right, that children are like a burden. They are an impediment. Your motherhood is an impediment on your journey of growth. No, it isn't. Yes, it is hard. And yes, it is possible for a woman for example, to advance in her career in her studies, while being a mother, but you cannot undermine and belittle motherhood, this is something that is in this is huge that Allah subhanaw taala mentions in so much detail in the Quran.

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Another thing we see is that when money um,

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is in so much pain, and she's afraid of what people are going to say,

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you know, she begins to wish that she had already been dead. Right? And she begins to wish that will come to an axiom and see that I was something completely forgotten it nobody, nobody cared for me. Right. And if I had already been dead, then I would not have to experience the difficulty of this day. Right? But then she's told that lead that has any, do not be sad, because look at this stream that Allah subhanaw taala has caused to gush forth for you. Or another interpretation of that idea is that Allah subhanaw taala has made a leader under you, meaning this child that You've given birth to is going to be a leader off people.

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So what does this show us that any pain that Allah subhanaw taala causes us to go through, is not

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is not aimless is not in vain. There is a reason,

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pain is always for a reason.

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Allah subhanaw taala does not put us in pain and hardship just to torture us No way. There is a reason Allah subhanaw taala intends growth for us purification for us, Allah subhanaw taala wants to give us something better. And part of the process is that there will be pain.

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Then we also see that in that hardship Madame already has Cena is given the gift of the stream water that is gushing forth, right. And then she's told shake the date palm tree, right and what's going to happen the dates are going to fall on you. So we see that one thing the water, Allah subhanaw taala gives her so easily without any effort of hers. Right? But when it comes to the dates, what does she have to do? She has to shake the tree. So what do we learn from this, that in life, Allah subhanaw taala will give you hardship and is

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it's not going to be all ease and it's not going to be all hardship.

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Right when I blucon be Sherry Well, Heidi fitna that we will try you with evil and with good as a trial.

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So in any situation, where you may feel overwhelmed by you know, some difficulty, realize that Allah subhanaw taala has also given you ease and when you look at other people, and you see that they're having

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have such an easy time, right, realize that they also have some kind of difficulty in their lives. Because Allah subhanaw taala gives us both.

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Another thing we learned from this is that when Allah subhanaw taala

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puts us in a situation where we have to, you know, work hard like Maria Maria has said I'm had to push the tree, right? It does not mean that Allah is not helping us.

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Allah subhanaw taala is help is there.

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Right, Maria? Maria has said, I'm here to shake the tree. Does it mean that Allah subhanaw taala was not helping her? No, he was, which is why he caused the water to gush forth for her. Right?

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The problem is that we want a certain kind of help from Allah.

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And Allah subhanaw taala sometimes gives us a different kind of help. And just because things are not the way we want them to be, we think Allah is not helping us. And this is very wrong. Allah's help is there. But we do not get to decide how Allah helps us. Who gets to decide that? Allah subhanaw taala, because the way that he helps us, is much better than the way that we want him to help us.

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Right, because sometimes, we don't even know the kinds of things that we are in need of the kind of help that we are in need of Allah subhanaw taala knows us better than we know ourselves.

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And think about how there was a time when Madame is in her Merab and sustenance is being brought to her. Right. And now she's in a situation where she's told shake the tree, you have to work so that the dates will come to you.

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Right. So things change in life.

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At a certain point, something may be very easy for you. And at another point, that same thing may be very difficult for you. This is how life is things change. They don't always remain the same. Right? And we also learned from this that our efforts alone do not bring good results.

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Good things happen when Allah subhanaw taala causes them to happen. Because when you shake the trunk of a dead palm tree, you cannot cause dates to fall on you No way. You can't do that. A dead palm tree is not a bush that you shake a chicken chicken and the berries will fall. No. To shake a dead palm tree is very difficult in the first place. And for a woman who is giving birth is even harder. Right? But she had to put in some effort. And Allah subhanaw taala brought the results right he caused the dates to fall. So this is how things are we have to put in the effort something we have to take the first step and what's going to happen Allah will bring about the results. Inshallah and

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one last thing we learn is that Maria Maria has said I was told when you know she's in so much pain and she's so sad and worried about what's going to happen. She's told for coolie wasabi will Korea Aina eat and drink and cool your eyes. Cool your eyes how by looking at your baby, right. And this shows us how important it is to eat well.

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Right? to hydrate ourselves, and to spend time with our loved ones. All of this is very important for our well being for our healing.

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She's told eat the dates, drink the water, and look at your baby, spend time with your baby. This is what will take the husband away. This is what will take the sadness away. We think sadness will only go away when our problems are removed when the pain is taken away. But the fact is that today it's one test tomorrow it's going to be something else. So use the blessings, the tools that Allah subhanaw taala has given you, right, eat well eat nutritious food, not just a lot of food, right? Drink well. And then also spend time with your loved ones because they will be a source of joy for you in sha Allah. Use the blessings that Allah subhanaw taala has given you.

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And when she's afraid about, you know about what people will say she's told don't say anything. Which reminds us that we don't always have to explain ourselves. We don't always have to,

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you know, prove ourselves innocent. Here, the baby of Maria Marley has said I'm spoke right beside himself spoke in her defense. So let your work speak for itself. Sometimes we're so busy in trying to convince people and you know

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Explain to them that this was my intention. That was my reasoning. And that doesn't really bring any benefit. Focus on your work. And let Allah subhanaw taala defend you.

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All right, let's take any questions or reflections, anything that you would like to say?

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Go ahead

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My mother

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doesn't exactly when he started his Salam is the is the son of Maria. Right? So her question is that if Christians believe that a sound Islam is the Son of God, then what do they think about Medea? Right? Sometimes they refer to her as Mother of God. So that's the problem attributing a son to Allah leads to not just one kind of shake, it leads to many forms of schicke

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All right, then this is this is likening God to the creation and this is this is what the real problem is Allah subhanaw taala is not like the creation, wollemi Akula who for 100 There is no CO equal to Him, not laser chemistry, che there is nothing like him.

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So there is no partner for Allah there is no child, even for Allah. All right. Good question. Anything else?

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No questions. No reflections, no comments.

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Yes, go ahead.

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Very good question that mothers specially for whom things can be very chaotic at home? How can they worship Allah subhanaw taala in peace, right?

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The thing is that it's very, very important to draw some kind of boundaries, okay, for your own well being, and to fill your cup. Because when you take care of yourself, you will be more present for your children, and you will be a better mother, you will be a better wife, you will be a better human being to be around. Right? What happens is that mothers keep saying, you know, for example, their husbands, it's okay, I'll do this, it's okay, I'll do this, I'll, I'll do everything. Right, or they do not want the help of people who who are there. They want to do everything themselves. And there comes to a point where they become so miserable and so bitter, and they or they become so

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unhappy. Or they begin to slow down mentally because they're not able to take a break. So what I would suggest is that, ask for help. Okay, first of all, ask for help. Whether it is the help of your in laws, or your parents, your siblings, your spouse, ask them for help, please, can you watch the children so that I can pray?

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And even if you can get one Salah a day like that,

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it's good. Inshallah, right?

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Also, when you're praying,

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you don't always have to rush through your Salah. Right? Sometimes we think okay, let me quickly finish the finish my prayer.

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Sometimes we think, let me quickly finish my prayer. So that I'll take the baby, and then my husband will be free. Well, you know what, it's okay. If the baby's with your husband for two more minutes, so that you can say one more DUA and you're the Shahada. It's fine. It's okay. All right.

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allow yourself to leave your children sometimes. Okay. Like, for example, you're here right now. Okay, your children are with someone else. They are being watched by someone else. Yes, they may not be watched the way that you would watch them, they're not being taken care of the way that you would take care of them. But when you allow yourself to sit somewhere to listen to learn, you fill your cup, you go back refreshed, and you're better able to take care of your children. So whether it is once a week or once a month, if there's a class that you can join, something that you do for your own wellbeing, for your own personal growth for your own for your connection with Allah subhanaw

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taala. That is incredibly important. And, you know, children are always changing, right? When they're little, their needs are different. When they're slightly older. Their needs are different. So things don't always remain the same. But you do

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Not have to put your life on hold, you're a bada on hold your worship on hold, just so that, you know once your children are over, then you will start sorry once your children are older than you will, you know resume the recitation of the Quran? No, you need to recite now as well.

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Right? So figure out what you can do, how you can take some time out just for yourself, where you can worship Allah subhanaw taala where you can increase in your knowledge

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so that you don't develop that resentment also for your children.

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Go ahead.

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Very good question. Any advice for young girls like her?

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You don't have to be

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an older person in order to worship Allah. Maria Maria has Salam was a worshipper of Allah from a very young age. Sometimes we think that Sunnah prayers, I don't do them because I'm only seven years old or I'm only 10 years old. Right? I only do the fault. My mom prays sooner. So when I'm like my mom, then I will also start praying some Right? Or sometimes we think that, you know, my mom was the one who reads Quran right? i I only read at school. I only read when I go to class, right? No, Medea Marengo Salam. She was a worshipper of Allah from a very young age. So don't wait to become 15 or become 20 or become 30. In order to start worshipping Allah subhanaw taala. You begin now. And you

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know the person who spends their youth in the worship of Allah, meaning they worship Allah in their younger years, you know, where they will be on the Day of Judgment.

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You know, where they will be on the Day of Judgment, under the shade of Allah subhanaw taala has thrown

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that close they will be to Allah. They will be under the Throne of Allah on the Day of Judgment, so close to Allah subhanaw taala. So sometimes you feel like yeah, you know, none of my friends are praying. So I won't pray either. None of my cousins are praying sunnah. I won't pray either.

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Right. Everybody, you know, in my, in my school or in my grade is, you know, spending their time playing or watching TV or doing this or doing that. So I will do the same. It's okay to have fun. You, you can have fun, it's perfectly fine. But having fun doesn't mean that you don't worship Allah. You can also worship Allah and have fun. Okay, so make the worship of Allah. A goal from now

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in sha Allah, masha Allah, what a beautiful question. May Allah subhanaw taala increase her in her Ibadah in her in her alien in her Aman. I mean, go ahead

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you don't always have to? Yeah.

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Yeah, that that can also happen. And there are also times when you explain yourself, but people still don't get it.

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They will still disagree with you. You could even make a video defending yourself. And what's gonna happen, a counter video will come and another counter video will come. So what's best in certain situations, you'll be the judge. All right. But in certain situations, silence is better. And people there will always be haters remember this?

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You know, like someone said that that there that 10% of the people will always be haters. That's just the math. That's That's the rule. Okay, you share a post, for example, a very nice post on Facebook. 90% of the people will say very nice. 10% will say How dare you? They will criticize. you post something in a WhatsApp group. Everybody likes it except for the few people who will criticize. Right? So your focus should not be on your critics.

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Okay, on the people who are trying to bring you down, check your work. Is this something that is pleasing to Allah? Would I have done over here? Is this fair? Is this correct? All right. If it is correct, if it's fair, keep going, no matter what the critics say, right. And the problem is that when you get caught up in explaining yourself in defending yourself, then you get distracted from your work.

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Right? You get distracted from doing more important things. And it also leads to arguments. Right? So when there's

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arguments than who comes in Chopin comes in. Right? And you're going to end up doing something that is displeasing, saying something that is displeasing to Allah. So sometimes it's better to just be silent. All right? The prophets of Allah who are listening also said that mon Samata Naja, the one who is silent is saved.

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So sometimes we actually create more problems by explaining ourselves.

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Okay, ask Allah subhanaw taala if you struggle with this, ask Allah subhanaw taala for the wisdom to know when to be silent and when to talk.

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Her question is how are men and women different?

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This is a very valid question because the world that we live in now we're told that men and women are the same. Right? And the fact is that they're not the same.

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Do you have a brother?

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How old is he? Is he younger than you are older than you?

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He's younger than you. Okay? What does he like to play with?

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Cars? Her brother who's four years old likes to play with cars. What do you like to play with?

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You like to play on your bike?

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Do you like to play with dolls or something? No, do okay. Do do you like jewelry?

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Yeah, you like jewelry. So, in general, man, like different men like certain things and women like other things. Okay. Recently, I took my nieces and nephews for gift shopping.

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I took my nieces and nephews for gift shopping when I took the boys. You know what they went for? Electronics, and Legos. And when I took the girls, you know what they went for? Makeup?

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That's all they wanted makeup.

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All right. So this is one way in which men and women are different. All right. Another way in which men and women are different is physically, like men have beards. Women don't. Right? On average, men are taller than women. On average, men also are stronger in their bodies than women. Which is why when you look at, you know, construction workers, typically who are construction workers, it's men. Right? Not women. Right. So and

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so this is why it's so these are some differences between men and women. Okay.

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Good question.

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Go ahead.

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What you

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were thinking about a color Maleficent baby selfie for

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me, I was just thinking that, you know, how important is for us to stay?

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Yes, whatever we have discussed is diverse.

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And every one of us goes through these challenges as different kinds of different faces. And how beautifully this buddy

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had, you know, gone through every step of her life with the guidance policy.

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Because she knew a lot.

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So with the right mindset,

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we can send our energies to those right?

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Absolutely, we can do the same thing and we can.

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Absolutely just ACULA fade. And one thing I want to share with the sister shared is how important it is for us to connect with the guidance that Allah subhanaw taala has revealed. Medea Rene has Salam had a

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you know, she she faced different challenges. And the way that she navigated through those challenges overcame them is how, with the guidance that Allah subhanaw taala center, right? Yeah, just a minute. So when she was in her pain, right, she was told,

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don't be sad, right? Look at this stream that Allah has caused to gush forth for you. Right, get up and shake the tree. So she's given guidance at a time when she's at her lowest point. When she's afraid of dealing with people. She's given guidance that you don't have to explain anything. Right. Similarly, in our lives, we face different challenges, different hurdles, different problems, and some

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times the way that we respond in such situations is that we create bigger problems for ourselves. Right? So what is the best way of dealing with these problems that we take from the guidance that Allah subhanaw taala has sent us and that is where? In the book of Allah the Quran, it is Houda it is guidance every day we ask Allah Idina Serato, Mr. Payne, guide us to the straight path. Well, what is that straight path? Where is it explained in the Quran, through the Fatiha is a dua in which we're asking Allah for guidance. And right after sutra, Fatiha sutra, baka at the beginning of which Allah says Valley Kitab la Ray Buffy who the lil Mata clean.

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There is no doubt in this book and it is guidance for the people who have Taqwa. So the Quran is that guidance. So how important it is for every single one of us to connect with the book of Allah and to remain connected with the book of Allah in order to to benefit from the guidance that Allah subhanaw taala has sent us. May Allah subhanaw taala enable us to be the carriers of his book to be of those people who have his book in their lives in their hearts. May Allah subhanaw taala give us the ability to learn it, to read it to recite it, to live by it. May Allah subhanaw taala increase us and guidance keep us guided strengthen us, may Allah subhanaw taala forgive us for our

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shortcomings. May Allah subhanaw taala guide us in our challenges, whatever challenges they may be, may Allah subhanaw taala grant us patients may Allah subhanaw taala forgive us for all of our shortcomings and gather us together in genital for those Allahumma Amin Subhanak Allahumma will be handing a shadow Allah ilaha illa Anta Astok Furukawa to buoy Lake wa salam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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