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Sharjah Talk Show 2019

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Bismillah al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam

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ala alihi wa sahbihi netta who la Mateen Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu Welcome again to another episode of your weekly Islamic discussion show guests of the week coming to you from Sharjah TV as always I'm your host is smile Bullock and today inshallah we have a what I would like to call a special guest, a guest we've never had on the show and we hope inshallah, in the future, we will have the chance to have him on again. And that is shared with Dr. Todd white. Somebody come by Come sit down for coming on radiculopathy. Now, before we go to today's main topic, maybe you could give a very short introduction to yourself because I think that's for those who may not know you. I think

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that's very, really good for the people to hear a little bit of your

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abbreviated story possibly.

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Okay. Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. whiner early, he was a happy woman while back. I was born in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States of America,

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accepted Islam at the age of 16. And

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then moved to Medina in 1996, Saudi Arabia jamis, Lamia and I studied there until 2017. And I

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got my doctorate in theology, or would they call it the, but the focus was actually on comparative religion for the doctorate. And that's the abbreviated version. Obviously, there's a lot of gaps that can be filled in there. But I don't see also when you were there, and I believe even now you still go back to in certain seasons like Ramadan, you have what they call the, I guess you could say, one of the chairs where the weather with the sharks teach. So you're doing those in the English language in the prophets, mustard rank. So in general, what when a person is appointed to teach in the masjid of the prophet Isaiah selects was sent and they are assigned a chair. And that's

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basically just so that people can see from a distance. Obviously, if someone is sitting on the floor, and everybody else is sitting on the floor, it's kind of hard to see him so they appointed a chair

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and Alhamdulillah that was in 2013, when I first began teaching in the mesh of the Prophet it so it was, it was a great honor.

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I started with the 40 Hadeeth of aluminum and no euro him hula.

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And that was outside of the seasons. But since I've moved back to the United States, now I'm currently just teaching during the seasons, which constitute Ramadan and hashtag social. If any of our viewers are over there, they can look out for us. Yes, inshallah. Yes.

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Now, we wanted to today about the importance of good character or the status of character in Islam. And even though we may have touched upon this topic, in previous past episodes, this is a topic I don't think you can ever stop talking about. And we're obviously that will come up in today's discussion. The fact I think it's enough that the proper size of them said that the heaviest thing on the scales is good character. So that itself says that it's something that maybe we can always have a refresher, we can always look at new angles from it's not something that is limited to a couple of episodes.

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No doubt about it. Along with the the statement that you just mentioned from the Prophet it is SelectUSA. Now, I think it's critical for us to examine, you know, what happens a lot of times with Islam is that we can get caught up into you know, the more finite aspects if you will.

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And there are other things about Islam and the teachings of the prophet Isaiah SelectUSA them that are very vast, but they summarize the entire religion. So this is one of those things the prophet Isaiah select was the name taught so much about Allah subhana wa tada about the creation, about our purpose in life and so forth. But he summed his mission up with very few words. He said in the map with two Little Timmy mamacare at my last lap, I have only been sent to perfect or to complete noble character, good behavior. Now, from the Arabic construction right, the

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term in the mat. It is for a hustle which means that you are restricting

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The following statement that you're making. So the prophets of light is someone who is basically restricted his entire mission to the perfection of noble and good character and good conduct.

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I think what's important to note about this Hadith, and a lot of times, it may be a misconception for some people. And that is that good character simply means how you interact with other people. The reality is, and if we want to really understand this Hadith, and how it, you know, applies to the religion of Islam as a whole, is that character is indicative of interaction period, how do you interact? How do you carry yourself your demeanor?

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And not only how you interact with other people, but what is your relationship like with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And this is the part that a lot of times people miss, when they when they look at this idea, and this is why some of the scholars of Hadith and explaining this Heidi have mentioned that it was possible for the prophet Isaiah slots was sent him to summarize his mission as good conduct because that starts with that relationship that you built with the Creator of the heavens in the earth, Allah Subhana, who was added. And so the first part of having good character is, how do you think about Allah? subhanaw? taala? What do you expect from him? Do you have good expectations

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and good assumptions about Allah subhana wa tada? Do you believe about him properly?

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Do you trust in Him subhana wa, tada, or the minute that something goes wrong in life, you start looking for other solutions other than, you know, prayer and turning back to him subpoena Who am I? So, in other words, how is your character? How do you carry yourself?

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How is your relationship like with Allah? Subhana? Wa tada? Yeah, is it fair to say then that that is the one we talking about this good character that is the most essential or the kind of pinnacle of the good character, essentially, firstly, most importantly, is the relationship with Allah basically, no doubt about it. And that's going to inform the rest of your behavior, how you believe about a loss of hand, which is going to inform how you behave. And so that takes us to the second part of character or good character, if you will. And that's how you deal with yourself. How do you take care of yourself spiritually? Do you take care of yourself even physically, that those are part

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of that is part of having good character. And then the last part, which is the part of most people think of where, you know, we could say comes to your mind first, and that is your relationship with a loss of hand which is creation, namely, other human beings, but it is inclusive of other than that as well. And so this, this is what the prophet Isaiah is Salatu was Salam. Er, this is how he summed up his mission. And I think that this is profound if we think about it, because it is that defining that relationship that you have with the loss of Hamlet on how you carry yourself and how you interact with others. And that is the dean, when you look at the teachings of Islam, they can neatly

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fit into one of those categories. And in fact, if you look at another Hadith, the hadith of Ibiza and also my other than jevelin, or the Allahu China and Huma,

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when asking the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam for advice, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told them three things. He said it tequila, Haytham

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will experience sea otter l has an atom who had well Holly finesse be Hello Can Hanson so the proper saliva sentiment this Heidi told them to be mindful of Allah

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to have Taqwa of Allah, no matter where you are, which is which is profound. And let's get through the headings and then we can go back and talk about an inshallah. And the second thing he told them was, follow up a bad deed with a good deed, it will erase it and deal with the people with good behavior, when you interact with people have good behavior when you interact with them. And this Hadith, again, is profound and it covers those three categories, right? Your taqwa of Allah subhanho wa Taala is dealing with your belief in him tapana who and how you interact with him if you will, following up a bad deed with a good deed is for you. It's that's how you monitor your own behavior.

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And from that, we know that muhabba which is self examination, or what may be true

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As leaders taking account of yourself is very important, because that's when you realize I've done something that, that that isn't good, I need to repent, I need to turn back to Allah, I need to follow this up with the good deed. So that's that itself is like a form of event. And you're lucky refining your character at the same time. Absolutely. If you could recognize the mistake and you can repentance, that's a way of trying to make a character better. Correct.

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And again, this is how you're dealing with yourself, if you will. And then the last part of the Hadith is well, Holly has been Harlequin has to deal with the people in a good way. So this, this hadith complements the other Hadith, which is that I've been sent to perfect noble conduct.

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If we look at that, that aspect of taqwa. And the first part of this, this will see your this first part of advice from the prophets of the line, it was one of them, which is to be mindful of Allah subhanho wa Taala. At all times, no matter where you are, it's very important advice. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam did not speak from his own desires, nor did he say things you know, without meaning, Hazel macaroons, wherever you may be, is important because there are people who, in certain circumstances, they may be generally good, they may be, you know, conscious of Allah subhanaw, taala and mindful, and then the minute that they travel, it's almost like a loss of

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helmets, it is only at home. You know, when I'm on the road, it's a totally different ballgame. And that's, it's important that we don't allow that to become part of who we are, that we fear loss of parents either in all circumstances, not just in domestic. But wherever you may be, like what brings to mind maybe you can remember the exact wording of Hades, it sticks my mind right now, but it reminds me of that Hadith that talks about the person who has mountains of good deeds, and then, but they become like dust, because when he is alone, he crosses the boundaries of Allah Nam so that that Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said that from your acquired from your brothers, there are

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those who have beads like the mountains of tea hammer, no.

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But they will, but they will be like scattered dust. And they said, and what is that from the prophet Isaiah Salatu was Salam said that they went alone, they violate the laws of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And so this is this is again, this is like the person who, when he's in front of his brothers, or when she's with her, you know, sisters in Islam and things like that, that there's a certain type of behavior and demeanor. But one day alone, some handle on it, they turn into somebody else.

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This Hadith, again, is a tremendous Hadith, there's so many benefits that we can take from it. When you look at also that aspect of dealing with people in a good manner, those who have the most right to your

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hostile Hulk, if you will, or your good conduct, after your parents, or those who are closest to you, the people in your home, your spouse, your children, and a lot of times again, this is something that too often, too often, this is where we fall short.

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You know, we can put on a front, when we're at work, you know, you can maintain a certain posture, United domestic that long you can maintain a certain posture. But for some reason, you know, people lose it from like, Jekyll and Hyde. Exactly, exactly. So people lose it in the house for some reason, you know, and this is the these are the people that deserve that deserve your best. They deserve your best. May they say don't I mean? I've heard the scholar saying before, if you really want to know what your character is like, then how are you with your family? How are you with reality? You know, which takes us to a totally different topic. And then hopefully we can get back

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to get back on track. But I think this is important. Go ahead. Before you go for that topic. We'll just take a short break. shala Join us after this short break.

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And welcome back. Before the break, we mentioned

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that the scholars have said if you really want to judge yourself, I guess or get an idea of how you are really character wise, then you should see how you are at home. Because you mentioned there's so many people who put on a front as you say, and when they go home, they're the most aggressive, most abusive, most rude person, right this is this is a big issue. It is and it takes us to another topic and that is the importance of the marriage of our

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Prophet alayhi salatu was sent in to a shadow the Allahu taala. And which, as we know,

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in recent years has become a big topic of debate and big discussion, even though it wasn't an issue, you know, prior to modern times, but But the interesting thing about that marriage is that it is through that marriage, that we know who the Prophet it is, Samantha was Sudan was in his home.

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There were no other wives of the Prophet Isaiah salatu salam that narrated close to what he showed all the love of China and he was able to narrate about the, the character of the prophet Isaiah Salatu was sent him in his home and how he behaved in his home. And so we see that, and this is like no other historical figures who panela we know who the prophet Isaiah solides was, Sam was in the masjid, we knew who he was when he was with the Muslims in general when he was out and about.

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And all of that is possible, again, for a person to maintain a certain posture in front of people. But who was he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his home. He was gentle. He was kind, he would pray at night, when nobody else was watching when he had the ability, if he was, if he was an imposter, why would he pray at night until his feet would swell as I shall be allowed to say, and then she would ask him or messenger of Allah, you're praying like this, until your feet swell, and you have been forgiven of your previous sins, and that which is to come where your previous mistakes and that which is to come, and the prophets of light, or sometimes would say to our fellow kuno, adventure,

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Cora, should I not be ungrateful servant to Allah subhana wa to add, I mean, who does that? Who does that except for one who is truly trying to please their Creator? And so we see this man's character sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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in a manner and we benefit that we, you know, from the the marriage of the prophets, Elia with some to a Chateau de la vida. And I think if you probably look at it in many historical leaders or influential figures throughout history, a lot of the time like you said, they were really good, for example, on the battlefield, or they were very good as politicians or they were very good as leaders, but you if we have much information about their family life, it tends to be negative things how he was abusive to his wife or Right, right. And the interesting thing is like you just say, if you even have that information, for for so many of those figures, you don't even have the

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information but Allah subhana wa tada promised that he would preserve the revelation in anachronism that we're in nallah, who have eternity we have sent down the remembrance, Revelation as a whole, and we will preserve it and part of Revelation is that life time or how the prophet Isaiah is selected with Sadam spent his life, the things that he said the things that he did all of that as part of Revelation, and that was preserved.

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So you mentioned that that that initially, that hadith of feeling or level where, wherever you wherever you are, I guess, maybe we could take some tips be that'd be the ultimate, most important part of the character is that taqwa of Allah, maybe we could take some tips on ways, I guess, I guess that could be a whole episode, but it'd be just a few tips for this part of the show. On how can one try to attain this taco and try and keep this taco? Well, I think that there are two major things since you said like, like, as you alluded to, it could be its its own show or a series of shows, if you will, I think that there are two major things that we can look at. And hopefully those

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will be things that somebody can actually grasp onto and become more of a tukey if you will, one who has stuck with the The first of those things is a broad categories, by the way, is to grow and knowledge of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that is one of the main objectives of the Quran itself. Allah subhanho wa Taala sent down the Koran as revelation and revelation means to reveal something to remove ambiguity so Allah subhana wa tada is revealing himself to the creation, he is telling the creation who he is, and the more you have knowledge of Allah subhanho wa Taala The more you will fear Him, the more you will be conscious of him The more you will hope in Him Subhana who was added,

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the more you will put your trust in Him the more you will love him subhana wa tada and this is part of the one of the main objectives of the Quran itself. So this is why if you read the Quran,

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it will be very difficult for you to go just a few hours, without seeing the loss of hanaway to either say

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about himself and no can I even hakima indeed he is the one who is all knowledgeable and all wise. He is sort of key when it comes to keep means what that he's a watcher over you. So Hanna watch it that he is barroom Rahim that he is the one who is benevolent and beneficence of Hannah who were to add, the more you have knowledge of Allah subhanho wa Taala, the more he will be on your mind which is part of tequila, the more you will put between yourself and between Allah subhana wa tada a barrier or between you and his punishment, a barrier, which which is the also if you will, or the root of that word tough one. And so, this part is very important. A Muslim has to grow in knowledge

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of the names and attributes of Allah subhanho wa Taala, that alone will create a type of consciousness that will cause you and push you to obey Allah out of love for him.

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And as some of the scholars say, when talking about your own children and in the nurturing of your children, for them to obey you because they love you, is better for them to obey you because they fear you. And even when you see Allah subhana wa tada

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talks about himself, the majority of what Allah subhana wa tada mentions are attributes that would cause us to love him. And so every sorta except for Tova starts off with Bismillah R Rahman. R Rahim, when he starts,

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the first thing that we read and what we read in every salon hamdu lillahi, Rabbil alameen or rub is the nurture the one whom you these these are attributes that cause you to love him some Hannah was

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just mentioning the robe and even if you if you think about that, because we never see a ledger above, of, of everything, yes, but us as Muslims, we have that special kind of tarbiyah from Allah that He has chosen us and given us hedaya right, we should even that should create even more of a love and a gratitude, no doubt. I mean, we you you look at the Dow of the NBA, they they're they're petitioning of a loss of Hamlet Allah in the Quran, and their supplication to a loss of parents Allah in the Quran. It all starts off with rugby, rugby, rugby Europe then because they are noticing or they are calling to attention. That special nurturing that Allah subhana wa tada has done for the

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believers. That the point is what that Allah subhana wa tada

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is revealing Himself to us, so that we love him subhana wa Tada. And we're going to obey Him, because of that love that we have for him. Suppan was added, and he also informs us of his attributes that will cause us to revere him and to hold him in esteem. Again, this is part of taqwa. So that's, that's number one is growing in knowledge of who Allah Subhana who was added is through His revelation, that's something that we make up. We're not some type of philosophy, but he has revealed who he is with hematite. The second thing that causes a Muslim to grow in Tacoma is righteous deeds, and a person pushing himself, you know, to do those things that are going to be

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pleasing to a loss of Hamlet, from prayer, giving us a cat like you're supposed to fasting and in fact, fasting is one of those things that Allah subhanaw taala specifically mentions in the Quran will help a person gain tequila Dena willacoochee, Radek and we'll see him come ikuti ballin, Medina mccobb leikam ladden taco. Oh, you believe fasting has been prescribed for you just that just as it has been prescribed for those who came before you, so that you can achieve tequila. And so it is you know, that pushing oneself to increase in the worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala added that helps one grow in taqwa.

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Now, we mentioned

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the the good deeds, wipe out the bad deeds, right? So maybe there's some viewers out there. They want to get a bit of an understanding on how that works. For example, somebody for example, they may say, does that mean if I've committed a major sin and I do a good deed, that it will wipe it out? Or is there something extra I need to do in those kinds of sins that they may have fallen into right. So as the scholars mentioned, when speaking about good deeds, one of the best good deeds is Toba. That is what we often translate as repentance. Toba how

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However, is a lot deeper than what we often think of when we say repentance. So Toba means to turn around or to turn towards, and so when you when you perform or when you perform Toba which we're doing is you are turning to Allah subhana wa Tada. When you turn to Allah, you're turning your back on everything else. You're turning your back on those things that are displeasing to Allah subhanaw taala and you are turning towards those things, which do please Allah subhana wa Tada. And so this is one of the best good deeds that a person can actually perform. And if a person does, in fact, make Toba then it will erase the sin no matter how Greek that sin is, even if it is a major sin. If

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a person repents from that does actual Toba from that major sin, then Allah subhana wa tada accepts that toll were from them. There are other

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sins that a person may commit that are not major sins

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in In comparison, and we should never take any sins lightly. But in comparison, they're not considered to be major sins. those sins are obliterated by the good deeds that a person does. So our Prophet Isaiah Salatu was Salam say, a salewa, two humps was Juma to Elijah. Amanita Rama bind Kapha to Lima Beynon. mosquitonix bettiol cabeza, that the five daily prayers and from one Juma prayer to the next and from Ramadan to Ramadan, or expiation for the sins that were committed in between them as long as one avoids major sense. Not. So this again, is is part of character. And this helps a person to refine their character and a lot of times the sense that a person commits are actually

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sins that relate to the rights of other people. And, and so when a person for example, backbiting,

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you know, spreading rumors,

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you know, taking someone's wealth without their permission. All of these are our sins, they're sinful, but they relate to other to the rights of other people. When you make Toba for those who you you know, fix the situation that is part of refining your character

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something that you said earlier when we said we shouldn't focus too much on whether these sins are smaller minor reminds me of the the statement of scholars where they say like, Don't look at the size of the sin look at the the one who you're disappointed to disobey correct? Yeah, I think if we were to try in our best to implement that, then that would that's a that's a very good kind of policy to implement in our life. That is the policy and that is that, that you you grow so much and your consciousness of Allah subhanaw taala that you don't want to disobey Him, you know that he's watching you, you know that he's listening to you, you know that that there is not a place that you

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can disobey Him subhana wa tada except that he is the owner of that place he is on Malik subhana wa tada which means the owner now I just hold you in that point. inshallah, please join us for the last part of the show, after the short break.

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Salaam Alaikum. And welcome back. Mashallah, we've had an introduction in regards to the head east on a bit of a comprehensive introduction on taqwa. And we've mentioned a bit about the importance of doing the good deeds and making Toba from the major sins and then from the 40s like we said, if we can call them that even the smallest things can be wiped out by the good deeds such as the prayer such as other good deeds, you mean that one may perform now for the last part of the Hadeeth that you mentioned is and to, to face the people to interact with the people with the with the best of character with good character right. So maybe for this last part of the show in the next 12 or 13

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minutes, we can go through briefly again because this would probably take many episodes on the different or the most important I guess or the most common categories of people that we meet interact with on a daily basis and the kind of rights they have upon us and the way we should be acting with them. Right maybe for the importance level first, I guess. Okay, well, obviously the most important and that is the the based on what Allah subhana wa tada has said in the Quran, the most important people that you will interact with Are your parents.

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Why will the law want to she could be he she will build Wiley data center. So lots of humans Allah says to worship Allah alone. Do not associate any partners with him and that worship

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and treat your parents well treat them kindly treat them with a sand, which which can loosely be translated as benevolence, to always want good for them. Right? So so the relationship that one has

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with his or her parents is absolutely essential to give it your all. It's not enough to just be okay with your parents, we have to push ourselves. I mean, for those of us who have parents that are still alive, we have to do our best to really show them, that we care about them, that we love them, that we put their comfort above our own comfort. And this doesn't matter. You know what religion Your parents are even

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will Sahiba who Macedonia mahabhava, even if they are not Muslims, even if they are trying to get you to worship something other than a loss to Allah, which we know is the greatest sin, Allah Subhana, Allah says, but be their companions in this life, in goodness.

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And when a man came to the prophet Isaiah salats was said, and said, Who is the one that has the most right to my good

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companionship, the prophets of the lion, he was sent him, say, your mother. And the man asked him again, he said, Your mother, the man asked him again, he said, your mother. And then the last time the prophets of light, said, then your father. So what we see from this is that the there is nobody else. There's no one who has the right of the mother in terms of human beings. In this land. Nobody has the right like the mother, and then it is the Father. And so the relationship that a person should strive to maintain

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with their parents is one of good companionship, and always showing them that that, you know, he or she wants the best for them, you should have reminded me, I believe it was a matter of the 11 that a man had carried his mother for the Hajj pilgrimage. And he came to came to him and said to him, have I repaid her back now, and he said, If I can recall correctly, you haven't even what we would call, you haven't even paid her back for like one of her labor pains. So that I mean, that's really smack in the face for a lot of us. Yeah, it's, it's, it's a living, it's a living example of what it really means to and as the Prophet it is, select was so damn said that, that one of you will not be

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able to pay back to repay, you know, his parents, for what they have done for them. Unless, unless you find that your father is enslaved, and you are able to purchase his freedom.

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And only at that point, some kind of law. And if you really think about what that means, that means that there was there was a man who was owned by another man.

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And then you were able to free him from that, from that from that bondage. Only then would you be would you be, you know, considered to have, you know, repaid him and we, you know, none of us have the ability, long stack.

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After that, and let's let's, in order to avoid order, you know, of preference, just some of the other people that do have definitely have rights over us, our spouses, and the Prophet it is Salatu was said, and gave us a golden rule, if you will, and dealing with people in general. And that is, you know, I had to come to you heavily if he may have been enough, see, none of you believes, and I will usually translated as truly believe that the privacy, someone said, none of you believes until he loves for his brother, what he loves for himself. Now, this is often called the golden rule or the ethics of reciprocity. But it's a little different. And that's because what other people say is

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Do unto others, as you would have done unto you. The prophets, Elijah was kind of went way beyond what you actually do. And he went to the crux of the matter, which is the heart, love for them, which you love for yourself. You may do things that you don't really even like doing but you do it because you want, you know, you want them to pay you back like that. No, this is deeper, that you're actually supposed to love for that person. You know, what you love for yourself? And, and again, you know, beyond the parents, this is about everybody who you interact with. Your wife is your sister in his name. If you're wondering, then your husband is your brother in Islam, right? You should love

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for them. What would you love for yourself when it comes to dealing with our spouses?

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Prophet Isaiah Salatu was Salam

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said Leah for me no more Amina either carry him in her who Luca, mobile Yemen Ha ha, that are believing mentioned, I hate to believe in woman he shouldn't despise her. If there is a quality that he doesn't like about her, there's something else that he does. And other words, learn how to overlook your spouse's fault. You know that this is important because you're not going to be able to have a decent relationship with your spouse if you nitpick, you know, if I recall correctly,

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Mattila i know i think he his wife at some stage in their marriage had become very verbal towards Him, to say, to say the least, and he was asked like, how are you able to stomach that? Yeah.

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I believe he replied along along the lines of you know, all these years, she's fed me and wash my clothes and taking care of me. So this is nothing in comparison, I can, I can take it in. So it'd been I bash, while the Allahu Tana and who he used to say, I don't ask my wife for all of

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my rights. So that she doesn't ask me for all of all of her rights. I mean, the reality is, is that the spouse has a very high status in Islam. And it is very difficult to fulfill all of those rights. And so we look for the general, you know, we look for what is general in this sense, which is what actually wanna build model for the lost parents, Allah says, and live with them, and goodness, and so we try to treat them properly, our children have the right that we nurture them, that we feed them, that we clothe them, that we provide for them shelter, that we provide for them, the education that is necessary for them to become number one, good servants of Allah Subhana, WA Tada. And number

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two

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people of good character, and that they are able to function in society and benefit the society as a whole. these are these are obligations that parents have. And these are the responsibilities of parents and the rights that the children have, over their parents. When we look at our neighbors, our neighbors have rights over us. The the profits of the line of assumption will lie, he lied to me, by Allah, he doesn't believe by Allah, he doesn't believe by Allah, he doesn't believe they said, Who Oh my son of Allah, he said, the one who's the one whose neighbor is not safe from his heart, that is the very least, that a person can do is not bring harm to his or her neighbor. Where

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the opposite is what we really should be striving to, which is your current jail, whoever believes in the law and the last thing, then let him honor, you know, his neighbor. So these are these are just some of the people that we come in, you know, contact with on a regular basis and how we should behave ourselves. The prophet SAW you saw him say, smiling in the face of your brothers is suck. You know, we should be people who smile, not people who walk around with a frown on our face all the time

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to

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look at some of the things that we can do to help improve our character and we talked about some of the things that we can do to help you know, grow and taqwa

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which will help us with our character. But one of the things that is often neglected

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is to remember to ask Allah Subhana Allah to give us good character and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam

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used to make this the following he was saying

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Aloma Dini, the accidental o'clock lady the accent

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was refined nice.

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late yesterday for any length and this is part of a longer do I that was narrated by even every thought about the alongside anyone say Muslim.

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And so here the prophets of light it was cinemas saying Oh, Allah guide me to the best of character. There's none that guides to the best character except for you. In other words, where we're hopeless La la la la COVID. To level that we're powerless

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without Allah subhanaw taala is a so we call upon him and we asked him to guide us to the best character was the friendly so you take away from me, evil character lay asleep when they say yeah, and there is no one that is going to take this evil character away from me, except for you. So sometimes people have bad character. Sometimes people may, you know, for example, be aggressive, hostile. Sometimes people may have quick tempers, that's just how they are. But if they make dua to Allah subhana wa Tada. Then allies will Joe will remove that from them.

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When you hear these two

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It's amazing because, of course, these two as the processor said this also to teach us but he was also saying them sincerely himself, right? And we know that Allah refers to in the Koran of being of the most noble or greatest of character, right. So that really makes us say to ourselves, how much more in need are we to make these two are? Exactly and just to emphasize that point, if the Prophet sallallahu wasallam himself is making these law, then we also need to be the first of those who strive to make these and another also, and it's, it's directly related to this

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subject matter that we're dealing with, which is one of character how you interact with yourself, right?

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Is the dude that the prophet SAW you send them to Abu Bakar acidic, or the Allahu Tana and who ever Boquete acidic, as we know, is the best of a las pantallas creation after the prophets he was the best man to walk the earth after the prophets and messengers. He went to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam he said, teach me a dua that I can make and Salaam. The prophet SAW the sounds that make this following da Aloma enable him to neph See, the men kathira Oh Allah, I have greatly wrong myself. This is every bucket is subject to privacy. So I was teaching him to make this all I have greatly wrong myself.

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Well, I agree with the novella and there is none that forgive sins except for you fulfill the mouthfeel attainment Indic or harmony in against Allah for him. So forgive me a forgiveness that comes from you, and have mercy on me. Indeed, you are the offer Forgiving, the Merciful. You know, if we look back at that concept of character, of being your relationship with Allah Subhana Allah, your relationship with yourself, and the relationship with other people, this comes into that category of how you interact with yourself, recognizing that you have wronged yourself, and then asking the loss of handled data to forgive you for those sins. And this is something that can be

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said in every slot. We've literally come to the end of the show coming on, like the low fee and May Allah reward you for tuning in, and inshallah we can take this away and try to refine our character with what we've heard today for all of us in sha Allah. And it's your next time I leave you as always, with the teachings of Islam the greetings of peace or Salaam Wa Alaikum warahmatullahi wa bye