Ramadan 2018 – 01 – Let your tongue fast
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Channel: Tahir Wyatt
Series: Tahir Wyatt - Ramadan 2018 - Lessons
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Shaykh Tahir Wyatt in Masjid Nabawi (Madinah) | Ramadan 2018 Ep. 01
The first lecture in Shaykh Tahir Wyatt’s (PhD) Ramadan series from the Prophet’s Masjid Madinah.
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The speakers discuss the benefits of fasting, including gaining weight and avoiding harm, and the importance of taking serration and not listening to distractions. They stress the need to consider factors when fasting and not giving too much information to one's ear. The speakers also emphasize the importance of avoiding distractions and not giving too much information to one's ear. The speakers stress the importance of recognizing and embracing people who believe in Islam, avoiding accusations of deception, and being true parents. They also emphasize the importance of teaching children to be true parents and avoiding negative consequences.AI Generated Transcript ©
And then what they can only have one meal a day. And then two very small meals, those two small meals combined, cannot keep the large meal.
So they stay away from me. And they eat less furniture for a total 40 days. No, it's only on those Fridays leading up to Easter Sunday.
Many Jews facts,
what is known as the day of repentance young
or young, the water thing fast, 25 hours, they fast. And they're supposed to leave off everything, even water, even water on that 25 hour period unless, unless there's a medical excuse, or they fear some type of harm. And then they can drink water. But this is their idea of fasting. None of which. And the last paradigm in those verses was prescribed by the practice. I lost my dad it says to us, oh, you believe fasting has been prescribed for you, as it was prescribed for those who came before you. So that doesn't mean that we fast the way that they fast. It means that the same way that they have been commanded in the past, we as a nation, have also been commanded to best.
And so our last panel Java then spells out for us the reason for that effect.
And he says, line level 10
so that you will attain height, so that you will attain piety so that you will attain
what's funny people translate that piety and it has a much deeper meaning than that.
Maybe we might say the fear of a loss of habitat.
Sometimes people say God consciousness that you are more aware of a loved one.
But tough one,
Allah subhana wa Tana has not left it as an abstract concept. Allah
has explained to us in the for
the characteristics of the people of
and so as we start Ramadan, as we begin this lesson of Ramadan, it is important for us
to grasp take grasp of the meanings
of the word tepee of what it means to be someone who is tukey, who has the quality of tougher so that we don't just let Ramadan come and go. And we don't implement what it is that it was can which it has, in fact prescribed this month for so that we can become from the people
javis evidently learn from the alongside and one of the great companions of the Prophet sallallahu sallam.
And he was the one for those of you who have been Hutch champion the hyenas about the heartbeat of Japanese, very long identify Muslims, where he describes in great detail, the height of the rocket is solid to the ceiling. And from that detail we also learned the rights of aroma which many of you are here to meet.
From that had the objective of the low tide and we also learned that too often the prophets of light in the southern say, so on and so forth. He is wrong.
Jab bit of an anti left
running alarm tag Andrew said in a profound effort that we should take the heart as we start running them.
As we conclude this first day of best
gentlemen said
when it is the day of fasting for one of them, we
don't know suddenly I have equal
value.
When one of you is fast, and let his eyes pass
and let his ears fast, let his sight fast let his hearing past
five years old simurgh where possible. While he says warning Kevin and that is some fat from life.
We need to take this serration to heart if in fact good what's a benefit from this route?
Otherwise, for roughly as our profit some of it was some say,
whoever doesn't leave on line, and whoever doesn't mean of deceitful behavior, or law has no need for him to leave office food and drinking.
And we sit up here with bash all day, from finance or marketing.
And we're hungry and we're thirsty. But we still engaged in doing things that are hot. We're looking at things that are hot. We're listening to things that are harmful. We're saying things that our allies withheld as well. No need for fast
enough fasting because it benefits a loss of fat which I I love doesn't get any benefit from this fast.
And if you still look at that, which is haram, and you're still listening to things that are you still saying things that are wrong, then how are you benefiting from your best? How are you getting closer to Allah subhana wa tada from the best.
When you are fasting, Jasmine and methanol the alongside and
then lets your site fast, let your hearing back and let your tone fast from line.
That is important that we take all of that into consideration guys go up. If you want fast,
you can not be looking at that, which is fun. And believe me, many people are tested with that today. But there's a loss of Canada, which island has opened up the doors for us as human beings,
to technological advancements and all types of things that a person can carry around this type of device that will lead him to a path that leads him to the health.
And he pays for it every month.
You pay for a device
that brings you a little bit of good and a lot of harm if you don't use it the right way. Because you facts and you still look at things that are high.
And we shouldn't pull ourselves as some people do.
by voting, the Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salatu was sent and that says the first look is for you. And the second look is for shaped by the first look for you means that you looked at something and if
you weren't trying to see it.
You saw it and you look the way you're not sinful for that.
If you looked at it once, and you know it was around and then you continue to look
that stuff one look anymore.
That's the second look at a third look at everything else.
So it is critical. That Rama gun you use this as a purification times and a time to develop good habits. If there's something that you are doing that you know is displeasing to Allah spells it that you need to use this time when you're fast.
When you're no longer just
feeding your body and feeding your desires and your lust when you're no longer feeding that when you're starving that part of you when you're starving yourself,
then you can now focus on what it is that it lost powers and wants from.
So you shouldn't look at anything that is fine.
And you shouldn't stop there because if you have a problem like that, then you stay away from anything that leads you to that problem.
nor should you listen to that which is common.
So
and that includes not just the things that immediately come to mind. Like a person who's listening to music What like if the month of Ramadan, sha Allah the Quran, Allah that said the month of Ramadan in which the 4am we will feel you don't find solace with the crime but you find solace listening to some music.
This is a disease.
This is a disease even for those people who have tricked themselves into believing that it's okay to listen to music.
Because this style is said is okay or desktop has said it's okay.
Those people who have made that excuse for themselves, the month of Ramadan still
is a month that you're going to be listening.
So something that we can say is at least and this is something that it has assigned
the four schools
of jurisprudence the head of the school
The medical school the Chevy school in a heavily school,
I'll say that music is caught on with few exceptions, like on the day of the those who are going out to battle and there's some other exceptions, but in general,
the four schools of jurisprudence, all say that usually gets cut off, not to mention the texts that are pretty clear on this particular issue.
Okay, that we have someone come along and say no, but there's a difference of opinion amongst the scouts. If there's a difference of opinion with something we inherit,
and something means a lot.
What is it better for Muslim to do?
To leave at all, because it's at least a gray area, at the very least, and the Prophet is alive today and said,
The halau is clear. Or even though Rama, may you and her I was clear albedo now
there are areas in the middle between allowance that are gray areas that doubtful maps, whoever leaves off those matters that he saved his honor, a segment is religion a signal, what does that mean? That is honored see, that means he
he is safe from people talking about him behind his back.
Because he's not engaged in anything that is hot, or even remotely hot.
And he saved him his deed and his religion, meaning that when he stands in front of a loss of habitat, he's innocent. He's clear, he hasn't done anything wrong. If he stays away from the Heron in the gray areas, those doubts will mess.
So let your hearing fast in the month of Ramadan. That's just as a relates to music, not to mention the things that clearly hover up nicely around somebody who's gossiping, and allowing to gossip and just shut up and listen, now.
You can sit around somebody who's backbiting and allow that to happen, not for yourself or for his or her son, because you want them to get the most out of their bank.
And the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam said, and
this is the c hat, it's about being true. It's about being sincere, sincere to Allah, true to allow stands out the truth troops, especially true to the Muslims. In general, the private it is selected with snap settlement, we will add to the moment.
The believer is the mirror of the believer, if you see your brother doing something wrong. Same way, if you walk out yet ketchup and mustard all over your face that you didn't realize, is walking around in the street. And nobody said anything to you. How would you feel after you got home and you look in the mirror? And you saw that you? Are you crazy? Nobody said anything to you? Once you feel like
I ran into this person, that person? Nobody.
Nobody has said anything to me? Is that being true to the Muslim? Now
is the same thing. If you see a fork in your project, you see a walk in your sister in Islam, and you just allow it to go You don't say anything?
Do you not think that there'll be a question about that on your own piano?
Do you not think
that they will have a right to say something to you but not saying something to them?
that we need to solve the point is that you're around other Muslims who are engaged in gossiping or backbiting,
slandering,
or vulgar speech or any type of speech that is displeasing to Allah subhana wa Tada. Then you need to stop them. I want you right now. Anybody that's listening, I want you to memorize the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, And y'all know that
when Canada you know will land will Yamuna. Whoever from amongst you believes in a law and the last day
you believe in Allah. You believe that he is your Creator. You believe that it is his right alone to be worshipped.
And you believe in the last day. That is that you believe that you will be held accountable for your worship of the last panel one time
for the things that you've done. And perhaps the things that you did not do the things that you left off. You believe that you're going to be held accountable for that. If you believe in a lot by the last day they want
to hire an odious, they say that which is good word. Be quiet for my brothers and sisters. Those who
Listening, take this hobby, and put it in front of you. Write it down on a piece of paper, send them note to yourself, Know yourself.
And read it five times a day, six times a day, 10 times a day until it sinks in.
Because what's going to happen now is you're going to start taking account of yourself. And you're going before you say, before you say anything, you're going to ask yourself, Is this something good to say or not?
And if it's not, you know what you're going to do, you're going to be quiet, because you want your fans to be accepted by logic. Now, you do that for 30 days. And then it becomes a habit.
You actually can wean yourself off of negative speech, as he
let him say that which is good.
So if somebody complains all the time, there's something
No, it's not an excuse that your own.
granddad has grandma. She just complains all the time. No, it's not okay. It's not okay for granddad or grandma. They're accountable in front of us.
But backbiting is not
it's not good, slandering, it's not good. cursing is not good. For speech in general, I've seen like, which is not good.
You have to stay away from that. But beyond that, beyond just you staying away from evil speech.
You need to raise awareness of those systems that are around you.
Because you can also get their reward if you just tell them say, don't forget that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Don't forget that the Prophet sallahu wa sallam said, Whoever believes in alonza, last day, let him say that which is good to me or be silent.
If you remind them of that, you will get their reward as well.
You will get their reward be in the lab because now you can change your seat from that which is equal to that which is good.
Fun, yes. Possible seminal cover the samurai the teddy Javelin method lesson, or the alongside animal and he was a close to being a prophet I need
when you are fast, let your sight fans lecture hearing facts and lecture tone facts. We were to the point that
to the point that many of the scholars of heavy
have explained the heartbeat of the practice of wireless, some of them we mentioned earlier, whoever it is not the off line, and deceitful behavior, there's no need for him to leave all this food and drink.
They say that this is a clear indication that whoever lives while he is fasting, he gets no reward for his sex.
Whoever lands while he is fast, that he gets no reward for his face. Because the profit is so much to select clarify this, I mean, that aligns with gel is not simply reporting us for leaving on the drink, you have to leave off these other things.
Otherwise, there's no reward for the bank, it doesn't mean that you have to fast again.
But it means that that great reward that Allah has held on and talked about, and the Heidi, where
he says that every action of the Sun of add getting everything that you do is multiply 10 to 700 times.
Everything that you do every good when you say so we have a lot. Is that a good? b? Yes, that's a good deed. How many times are you reporting the same annaleigh with the loss of a job is like you said it 10 times, perhaps up to 700 times depending on where it comes from. Are you saying to Pamela, Pamela, Pamela? Or is it really coming from the heart that what you say so Pamela, did you recognize that all of the glory is really for loss of habitat?
When you say
that you are thinking about our last moments and others magnificent attributes, his majestic names and lofty attributes
that you're thinking about his blessings that he is giving you so you say Oh, absolutely. Or is it just something you saying on your tongue, regardless, say them after the learn is rewarded by last panda was added 10 times to see
700 times.
That is magnificent. I lost her data set in the phone,
except for fasting in a movie, what
fasting is for me and I remember Professor beating that what it is no live, it is not attend to 700 times limit for best or last minute data record, you must have more than that. But if you live one time,
you have taken away that reward for your best.
So if you're running late to an appointment, you're your best. As somebody says, Where are you and you lie you have stuck in traffic
is totally more for you faster,
you will fail long enough to know that you are going to be held accountable for what you say off he gets home
for the lies that come out.
Because what is it that you're lying? Why are you lying in the first place?
Is it because and this is important to recognize? Is this because we're controlled by what people think of you.
You want that person to think a certain kind of way about you? And so you learn.
So you deceive them.
What about Allah Amitabh In fact, in fact, you at this point have referred them over last countdown, which is why you right? This is very important that we recognize these things. And we stay away from the sins of the tongue, it will destroy your reward this great month of Ramadan.
I lost him without him as prescribed the fencing form and this form so that we can attain tough work. So that was a tough one
for the conclusion of today's class, and she held on to that,
because we don't want to go more than 25 minutes to an hour every day.
I want us to look at
the first person in the Brian episodes is Manchester
and I'm going to talk about how that relates to our study for the remainder rather than the lifetime
Alliance
has told us that he prescribed fasting for what reason so that we take one
and ally
has not left that ambiguous in the varieties that left it up to our imagination.
So as we read the graph, we start to learn more about what Tableau is
last time when the man began resigning and total week
after similar to last year. He started with the beginning of the Brio so let's have a look.
Can example Larry Murphy who does lean for jumping in right elephant me that is a book about the stairs no doubt it is it is guidance towards the people of tough love the people who suffer and then I wasn't here which gives us the characteristics of the people who have suffered aleena you need to fill it all up Mona salata now up for those who believe in the unseen
and will establish the salon and give from what We have provided them that is they give a charity and they give in those areas well, US nodes islands obligated for us to spend like your cat
from when I was going to Thailand giving you your
file, three things the last combat event correct. Those who believe in the unseen
and those who established Assad
and those who give out of what we had provided for them. We're going to stop today. And for the rest of Ramadan. We're going to focus on number one.
Those who believe that the unseen
and the greatest of the unseen is what
is a lot, no attack.
If you want to be from Topeka
if you really want to get out of Providence.
no loss of power to Adam prescribed The best thing
that you have to have proper feeding and a lot and without
proper feet and he's anxious in his books and his messages in the last day in our last panel without his decree.
That is the summary of the unseen,
the greatest of them all.
And that was, from which everything else sense is your belief in a lot.
And a lot of us say,
what Muslim doesn't believe in Allah.
And it's true, every Muslim believes in Allah. And in fact, when if it
was not the kind of belief
that would allow them to enter into the fold of Islam, and many of the Muslims have a belief in Allah subhanho wa Taala. That is shallow.
It's enough to give them Muslim.
But it isn't, isn't enough to learn all
about Allah countdown isn't isn't, isn't enough of a belief in a lot of camera data to really establish a last panel which is right over us. lay
people stand in prayer, all of the Muslims in this legend
on the peninsula and where we stand in front of
some of those who stand in prayer as the profit idea, select facility.
Whatever 10 of the reward of the person standing next to that person is a full reward for solid, this person gets a hat, this person gets a quarter, this person gets an A, this person walks away with a 10th of the reward. What is that based on?
Are they all doing the same thing? They all start off by saying what what I say in the beginning. So I know
that they put their hands here, and they resize a little too fast and they all doing the same thing correctly. They go into the rear, they go into sufu.
Externally,
everybody's doing the same thing for just about having some slight variation.
Why is it that this person begins to cry in the salon.
And he feels so close to the last character either when he's Institute and he's thinking do I
know the next person?
If you ask him for the salon, how many rackets did he pray? He said what's a lot was?
So it was awesome. He said it was for backup.
You asked him what did he ever say? Immediately epsilon. He said the minute reciting beside What? He doesn't remember anything. Where was he in his prayer somewhere else?
Somewhere else told him he just went through the motions.
Externally
but internally is what affects the true reward. Okay.
knowing who you are standing in front of
in the summer, is the greatest thing that will affect your maturity, knowing that you are standing in front of land and even
knowing that you are standing in front of your Creator, knowing that you are standing in front of
the one who was generous,
knowing that you are standing in front of him the one who is persistent,
such that if you have a sense that you know that he is removed, that he forgives those sins, that he is somewhere that he is separate to repentance.
But knowing that you are also feeling emotion,
that is punishable is severe.
So that if you continue with those sins,
that you if that if you are persistent in a city, that that is not the way of the what's happening. And that you may be subjecting yourself to the punishment of a loss of habitat. Knowing that that is who you are standing in front of this is the actions of your heart.
It is knowledge
that's why we are gathered here today. So that we can grow his knowledge of us and with that, knowing who he is. So kinda was added in knowing his rights upon
the human beings. Our lives are based on relationships.
There is not a person who was born
except that they had parents.
What's that mean? That means the minute that you are born, there is a relationship that is a separate, correct. That is your relationship with your mother, your father. Now some people's mothers may die during birth. Some people's fathers may have died.
By the mothers were pregnant with them, they may never know they're fine. They may never know their mother, but they still have parents, and someone is going to raise them. And so there's a relationship between that child, and the one who raises them.
Assuming the normal circumstances, which is that the child has parents, those parents may have other children.
And so now, you have siblings, and your parents also has siblings, and so you have aunts and uncles. And then you go to school and you have classmates, and you graduate and you get a job and you have colleagues at work. And you will send a message to you, and maybe you live around Muslims and non Muslims, all of whom have rights over you.
Then you also have rights over them, their rights over you are called responsibility.
out we understand this, everybody you come in contact with, you have a responsibility.
To them, you have rights over them their rights, and responsibilities in every relationship that exists.
Every religion,
Allah subhana wa sallam
is our Creator, and our sustainer and our mess
and we are His service, we are the slaves, we are His creation.
And that relationship between us and our dad and
also is built on rights and responsibilities.
Allah subhana wa tada
has taken on the responsibility of providing for this creation.
And he has the right to Congress.
And that right, is that we worship Him alone, kind of attack,
that he has the exclusive
right to be worshipped.
And then we stay away from giving that rites of worship to anyone else, including ourselves.
A lot of us when we think about mercifully other than a loss of habitat,
we think about things that don't tend to happen in more educated societies. Let's put it like that. You don't tend to see people in advanced societies,
worshipping graves, making to offer around raves
or bowing to statues, in general,
can exist, but it's not as common as it was, in days gone.
But if you look at today,
the fact that
we now worship
other systems
over the system of Islam, and in fact, establish deities with a loss of habitat and sometimes even ourselves and allies, says this is the FR a two minute tempo that left her home. But what
do you not see the one who was taking his own desires his own lusts, as a deity, that is the new version of spending, besides a loss of habitat,
that many people
have turned from the worship of a loss of parents out into the worship of other human beings in some way, shape, or form.
And so it shows all the time that we went back, and we look at what are the characteristics of the Mk tepee because this whole month,
the first thing of this entire month of Ramadan was prescribed so that we can be from amongst the monkey. And the first of the characteristics of the people of truffle is that they believe in the unseen, we have to make sure that our belief that a loss of habitat is sound, that it's not just a belief that was passed on from generation to generation, that I'm a Muslim because my parents were Muslim. And I have a very shaky belief in the loss of pets. Perhaps it's not that strong. So we have to solidify that
and that's what we're going to be doing
To begin the lives on a daily basis, after high school, hear the message of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam
so that we can recognize a loss of habitat, his rights over us
and the responsibility that he has taken before, so that we can draw closer to a loss of Penance and so that we can better know who he is some kind of attack and worship Him.
And so we want to be studying shallow data.
The goal is to leave a little over half of
the book of Tony,
that is pure monotheism. And we'll talk about the definition of English
class tomorrow.
Which is the rights of Allah subhanho wa Taala upon the surface, and all of us are in service.
All of us are the service of a loss of habitat. And so we need to know
that right that Allah Subhana, WA, tada has a promise. And what it is that we are creating,
there are three questions.
Three questions that a Muslim
handling that none of us has either, it's made it very easy for us to know that the philosophers of the world considered to be the biggest questions that ever humanity has ever faced.
And so today, these are the big questions, you know, they are.
Where do we come from?
That's question number one. That's question number one again.
Where did we come from?
That's a big question. How can I make this very easy to fry as Muslims? Because a lot of time,
a lot of times we don't realize what a blessing Islam is. Until you look at other systems, other lifestyle, other religions and other ways of life.
And then you start realizing
all praises to a loss. Turns out it was a guy that assists with snap.
And then we have a book that comes from him somehow, it's either that is unadulterated, that's pure that hasn't been tampered with. So these answers are there. But you have billions of people on earth who don't have these answers.
Where did we come from? They come up with all types of strange theories.
There was this big bang. And then there was this uni cell. And then it came it morphed into this, and it turns into whatever. And then we got fish it from fish, we got this and then we turn them into wills and bears, and
then we got them a bit. Okay. Let's just assume beautiful view, great science. They're
the things that bind together. Where did they come from? Oh, we don't want to talk about that. That's not on the radar. But I suppose that unites us to any questions. Now, it doesn't matter where it came from, no, it doesn't
always matter and energy.
matters, energy just came from nowhere, or it came from somewhere it had to have a beginning.
So people come up with these theories. And this is what's taught to our youth Muslim. So they've been taught this stuff.
And we're not countering effectively.
We throw our kids in public schools and Western societies.
And they're taught this stuff day and night.
And to the point that they will be that when we tell them other story that this is fiction or legends.
So they stone they have no answers for that question. If they don't believe in a free their voice to where did we come from? That's number one. Number two, question number two.
Which question I
get
that before before that? That's question number three. Yes. Yes. Question number two, why are we here?
We here we are. With that. We haven't gotten to the point. You know, and some people believe this is the goal for the greatest philosopher.
he doubted his own existence.
As a great philosopher. When you doubt the fact that you actually exists, am I a figment of my own imagination? And therefore it is only my imagination that exists? Yeah.
Crazy this takes on many different forms.
Why are we here?
Where did we come from?
We know that we exist, what is the purpose for the citizens and unless and that is also spelled that out for us as a Brian, he didn't leave it up to our own imagination. We're going to talk about that tomorrow shallows, because it directly relates to the look of it. And then the last question, and honestly,
there's only one way to know why you're here.
You, you have to know that answer from the one who created you. Otherwise, there's Oh, look, if somebody looked at a pen, and they didn't know what it was for, right? What is the pen for by the way,
is to write with a person creating this pen to write them. If somebody doesn't know what it's for their staff, somebody and I
don't know what it's worth. I'm defending myself. And it can be used for that. Perhaps, that wasn't what it was created for. It can be used in that way.
But if it is used in that manner, that it's being used in a way that it wasn't created for? How do I know was it wasn't to write with? Or wasn't to stab somebody? And I would, I need to go back to the one who made it. And then I can ask that person. Why did you make this bet? I was too, right. Maybe he was a,
you know,
Ninja Warrior is something he made the pendant just as somebody
made. The point is, you don't know until you ask the one who made it.
So the human being can do a lot of different things. With a lot of different versions. You hear people say, Oh, this is my calling. Your calling? What are you talking about? Who called you to do what?
Oh, this is my purpose in life to do what exactly to be a great football player, my purpose in life, entertain people, this is my purpose in life, really. That's where it stops. So you'll see that person entertaining people to 7075 years old. So he works.
Because he has no idea
what it is that he was created for. He didn't go back to the one that created him. And that creator communicated to us what it was that we were creating.
The third question, as the product is,
is where are we going? Well, we don't know that.
There's not a living soul, except that it is going to take stem.
What happens after that? We're going to go after that.
And then it's also been spelled out in the product that has been communicated to us by
WhatsApp. So I show up in the nightside. And the lessons that will be daily be like data after ICER, we're going to be covering at least those first two questions in shallow data, which is why we go which is where we came from. And why are we here. And we're going to go into some detail about the person what the lesson plan was added, so that we can draw closer to Him so that we can be closer so that we can embody more of the characteristics of the puppy. Along with that Adam was a low selling robotic, I don't have enough advantage. Any questions? Then we'll take those questions for the next five minutes or so.
And then we'll stop for today. We'll come back tomorrow and last.
Yes. What advice do you have to parents, children may be the smartest
man. So the question is, what advice do you have for parents who are dealing with children who may be dishonest with them?
To the point them, perhaps their dishonesty has become habitual.
And the answer to that we asked a lot of parents out there what is success is that there is no manual for Parenthood.
Parenting has domain a
lot of times we go into it, we have our own experiences from how we were raised.
And we say I'm never going to do that to my children. Or that was a good thing that my father used to do. My mother used to. I'm going to implement that when I have to probably look around but we learned from experience, right?
But one of the greatest tools
for helping your children
to avoid life
is to have
Don't be attached to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that to you, many times you make the mistake as parents, by making our children think that we see everything and we hear everything. Don't you lie, because I know what you're doing.
Even when I'm not around, I still know what you're doing. You know, parents tell their children this all the time,
which is a mistake, because at some point your children gonna figure out that you don't know. They're gonna lie to you, and you couldn't figure out that they were lying. And then they figured out from then on, that you don't know everything.
But you don't hear everything that you don't see it.
And it's so it's very important from a very young age, to teach your children
don't do it for me. Do it for a lot, whatever it might be even solid.
Don't do it for me. Both of us are not going to be around all the time. I'm not going to be able to beat it to see Did you pray for when you were at school did you pray
to see but if your child is taught from a very early age, that Allah is a Semyon. He is the one that he is everything he is allowed. He knows everything. He knows what's in your heart.
That Allah azza wa jal is pretty that is generous, that when you learn something, make us better. We teach our children to come to us, when you want something, teach them to make fly, teach them to love us paradise, teach them to have a healthy fear of a loss of contact, teach them to hurt, but a larger total reward. If you do that, and you teach your children, for example, you teach the prophet Isaiah select
where it says yet when
we were blind,
because light needs to come true, it leads to corruption, even corruption of one's heart, a person will live so much that the truth that what they see becomes distorted as
a person lies so much that what they see what they also realize, is not even reality anymore, because they got so accustomed to life.
And so when you teach your children that are profit, it is selectable. So then
what was the most compassionate with this filmer was very strict when it came to life.
Be aware of life, but in the end, because life leads to corruption, and corruption leads to the hellfire.
You teach your children
that it is better for them to tell the truth and deal with the consequences. But you have to be you as a parent have to make that a reality. For example, kids outside, they playing ball.
Your child throws the ball that breaks somebody else's car window.
Okay,
man,
you tell your kid, just tell me the truth. Just tell me the truth?
Well, actually, kids are all blaming each other No, this one did it. No, he's lying on me. Right? Okay.
So many of them, you can actually tell what happened. And so you tell yourself this, tell me the truth, and everything would be okay. Then there was me. And then you meet me. And you put them on furniture.
And you take the allowance to pay back the person?
What are they gonna want to do the next time?
They don't want to lie the next time.
The consequences of the truth can't be that the consequences that should be
rewarded for telling the truth, because now you tell them the truth. You're gonna own that you have to take responsibility, and nobody else has to take responsibility for your fault. The same way that you would want to take responsibility, someone else's fault. Correct. And you tell them this is how I'm going to deal with it. It was an honest mistake. They were outside. But no, we're going to sit down. We're going to talk about this. Because we need to make sure that this doesn't happen again. How does that happen? You're not going to play fall under these certain types of types of circumstances.
This is what we're gonna we're gonna go half on the window $200 you're gonna pay 50 and I'm gonna pay the other 50
there has to be consequences because your child is not the state that when he does he or she does something wrong, that the consequences but they can't be the type of clients
questions that are draconian punishments.
Not unless it's something as crazy as that, in general, if you raise your child in a manner that they have close to a loss and not go that far.
So again, you need to summarize, connect them to a lot.
teach them about the version of Trump.
And make sure that the consequences for them telling the truth
are reasonable and fair. The last thing that I'll say on that particular point
is
you have to be true.
Many children learn to live with their parents.
somebody knocks on the door.
They see you, they see you, you, you and the child are together going for an appointment. And you're like, oh, what happened? Oh, we got stuck in traffic. There was a bad accident. Your child's right there. He knows your life.
And so that your child now believes that the way to get out of a sticky situation is to live a long time.
If there any questions as well about fasting about what to do faster, any of those other questions that people have in general about Ramadan. We'll take those as well. Beginning tomorrow. I have to assume some kind of a low and pending shuttle