Silent Struggles – Dealing with Peer Pressure

Sulaiman Moola

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One of the greatest bounties that Allah has favored anyone with his youth.

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To be young is such a bounty, that even people who spent their youth correctly and they have moved on even they lament the loss of their youth.

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Can you imagine someone who abuses and misuses his or her youth, how he or she will regret it. So somebody during his youth was a good person was a was a focused individual made the best of his youth and moved on Ask him. He also wishes I can be young, Satan earlier the one who said now I'm attorney lo baccata. Dima Halima is gonna

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be the hobby lung, Tableau will shout amin hakima. lamentable lowville Masha Rahman hottie Hema factor to Shabaab we were for cotton, Bobby, there are two bounties they are such if I were to cry so much crying so much that I lose my vision I become blind. Even the loss of my vision will not express one 10th of my regret. Generally when a person cries for someone who says Oh, he's really missing him, he is actually going to become sick he's going to become ill is going to lose his sanity is going to lose his vision. If I cry so much that I become blind lamonta below me a Shara

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Shara mean hottie Hema, it will not even express one 10th of my regret for to Shabaab fuck Shabaab. My youth is gone. Say that earlier the alarm from all the whole afar was that halifa in whose life he accepted Islam as a child, so he was in obedience, he was around the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he is used was spent the best way he was this amazing individual, the conqueror of hiber. When the Prophet sallallahu wasallam in the Sahaba went,

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and there was no victory on the occasion of hiber and in the night they return and they retire to bed, and Nabi sallallahu Sallam said no ATHLEAN Narayan

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Raja chulan. You have Bala hawara Sula, who are you? Hey, boo boo la hora solo. Tomorrow I'll give the flag to a young man. This man is such that he loves align. He loves the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and Allah and His Prophet says him loves him as well. So everybody had that night was waiting who's gonna get this honor? Amara, the Alanna said mathema Natal Emma rokkaku illa de Cali. Oh, my whole life. I never wanted to be a leader I never aspired, but that there was hoping because the professor some gave this great honor that the man who takes the banner tomorrow, victory will come at his hands. And the next day, nobody saw some call, say the gnarlier of the alano. The

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point I'm saying to you, my young brother and to you, my young sister, is that Allah has given you an age that what you can do now is something you'll never be able to do. What ability what strength Allah has given you is something you're going to capitalize on it. Later Shabaab you're out for obito, who will be my final mushy boo, the Arabic poet said, after aging. I wish my youth can come back to me, so I can confide in my youth and tell my youth how nasty old age has been to me. Since I became old. My body's aching, my hair is falling, my teeth are going this is happening that is happening.

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When the Prophet Musa alayhis salam came with his message

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The Quran said those that responded will use only

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from limos. In the re I don't mean comi it was a handful of youth. And that very youth went forward and mobilize. And they after Musa alayhis salam had an army of more than 600,000 people. And let me tell you something, my brother and my sister, I have kids that are young age, and you pray for them, I pray for you. Kids around the globe are going through the same challenges. A mine of their own. The kids today will prefer going round the block with their friend, then going around the planet with their parents.

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Did you hear what I said? If your father tells you come we're going to be going to Dubai, or who wants to come to Dubai. But if your friend is taking you around the block, that sounds more exciting, more intriguing. Then to hop on a flight and go with your father somewhere. It's just there's a disconnection there's a disconnection between parent and child is a disconnection and that is that is not healthy, that is not healthy.

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So far, my family moves in de two Min tomie Allah hovi min for around. In fact, I often say to the youth

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that if you just withdraw from sin, you just move away from wrong.

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And you come home and sleep. Your withdrawal and moving away from bed company itself is a bother.

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So you didn't come home and make it bother. You know, the friends I have in a Saturday night it's happening. It's a buzz, it's all doing. And then it's drugs, and then it's the opposite gender and then it's flirting. And then it's movies. And then it's all the wrong things. You just moving away. We all know the story of the Seven Sleepers, right? Surah tolka I'm sure you heard it vaguely or actively. So there was the wrong there was vice there was sin happening there. What did those youngsters do? They did nothing but came away from there.

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They said no, no, no, no, no, no, we're not staying here. We're going to be going in the game. We're going to sleep.

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Allah love, they're moving away from wrong and sin and going into the cave and taking amnesty. That alarm mentioned them in a chapter of the Quran.

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And now there is the youth what they do they popples they take drugs and then they want to sleep. And then they high and the low and then they hallucinating and they not focus. And they doing all the crazy things. These youngsters went in the cave and Allah gave them peaceful sleep without chemicals and drugs. They were not popping pills and then going high and low.

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And may Allah protect ideal what a lot of you that have succumbed to substance abuse. And you know, what's the challenge my young brother and my young sister, the age in which you are going through the ease this element of curiosity

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and the ease and the balance of sanity? So there isn't, there's nothing to fear. You are at an age of you daring. You challenging? You adventurous, there's adrenaline. You you you want to you want to prove others or you want to prove yourself also let me try Who said that? Let's just see. Let's go for it. Let's see how it is. So often people are taken into the wrong out of curiosity.

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And then it becomes habit forming, and then you addicted.

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So when the Prophet musala is Salatu was Salam went and the person by the name of psalmody who instigated the worship of the calf, when Musa alayhis salam asked him why do you Why did you do this said workaholic is a workaholic so well Utley enough. See, I just felt like doing it. You know one person has the nice thing, not just do it, just nica.

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Just nikka it

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not just do it, just do it.

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The message

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There is just do it. So can you imagine the world in which we live? How irresponsible marketing is? There's a young man he's cooking thoughts, his mind is running in different and that's the devil. When the devil wants you to do a certain he plans the whole thing for you.

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I'll tell my teacher this, I'll tell my mom this, I'll tell my brothers, he works this plan out perfectly well, how you're going to hook up? And how you're going to meet up and how you're going to flirt and how you're going to date and how you're going to go out and how you're going to pop. And are you going to do this and that he works the whole thing out, you know, like the world is gonna come to a standstill and the architecture and design in those old thing. Yeah, but you don't realize how naive and foolish you are. You don't know. And that's why we say that as a child. You need guidance, you need guidance, when the brothers of use of alayhis salam.

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They became jealous of their brother use of and they said no, our Father loves him. So we need to do something and we need to change things. That easy way. The father says he's afraid that the wolf will devour him. So one day we take him with us we go on a picnic, we make up a story that the wolf ate him. So we tap into the fears of our father. You know the mind. Kids are, they got something up their sleeve. They always got something happening.

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So anyway, they go, and then

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they come back.

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And they drop him in the well.

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And because they wanted to take away their brother, father's attention from the brother, my father likes him only.

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As long as you believe your parent likes one child more than the other. That's a sign you haven't matured. It only takes you to become a parent to know what an absurd remark that is. How can one parent like a child different to the other? There might be isolated cases where unfortunately, parents have a prejudice or they are unfair, or they are bias. But by and large, average Li every parent Allah has made us such that we love our children equally. But that's the norm and the nature of children. No, my dad favors him. My mom likes him don't do. I'm the black sheep of the family. I'm a delinquent. I'm a dropout. They don't like me. I just rather just you know what, go bust my

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life out here. Who cares? I slit my wrists here and I'm suicidal. Boom, boom, boom.

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I don't know maybe the youth are better.

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Have the Javid will tell me.

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So what the youth did, they dropped him in the well.

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And then they slaughtered a lamb. They took the blood, they stained it. I'm saying how when you want to do wrong, you work it out. But you don't realize the holes in your logic.

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You don't realize the holes in your logic. I know back home, we see the kids, they take the drugs, then they take eye drops, they put it in their eyes, so the eyes don't look red. Then they use chemicals to dilute the urine so that when you send it to the lab, it doesn't reflect positive for the drug that you test him.

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Hello.

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Hello.

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Yeah, that's that's the youth. So I know of a youngster the family call me in. So we needed to do a urine test to see what chemicals he was taking because his behavior was not in order. His behavior was not in order. And that's why we have in this program and I'm talking to you, frankly, because I want you to connect. I want you to connect.

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Today people have gone on the internet. They've made this one they confidant that one they accomplice and we have sad stories, people committing suicide doing strange things. We are of intellectual apostasy where people losing their faith through different articles, different websites questioning their Eman. So this is the time we need to connect. We need to engage we need to find direction. So the youngster goes in the loo he goes in the washroom and the dad is like waiting outside. I'm waiting for a urine sample. I need to send it to the lab. We need to test you if you take in drugs or anything gets a urine sample. Negative. Whoa.

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On inquiry, what he did was he had the window open. His brother sends his urine sample through the window.

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I was involved in the case myself. I was involved in the case myself. I personally so he goes in close the door. The dad is waiting here because unfortunately those that take drugs they're very manipulative, manipulative, they lie they distort

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They that this is how they operate. This is how they operate. So he had his brother outside, he passes urine passes the bottle through there, opens the door. He has it negative way. This thing doesn't tie up.

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But my brother and my sister, son is a dark road. Son sin is a vicious circle. Nobody who was sin was happy. It brings you to misery. It brings you to a dead end. It brings you to a abrupt ending. Voila. Hey, uh, hello, lei li li li him and let them in LA LA. We feel we him. The Arabic poet said, Those who spend their nights in worship and devotion and who suppress the evil desires and they burn the craves and the desires and they submit it and they suppress it for the pleasure of Allah. their spiritual ecstasy is far more wholesome than the fake pleasure the sinful get dancing on the floor of the club the entire night.

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So the brothers of use of they come back. They bring the garment of use of must move on with them stained with blood. And they like crocodile tears. You know, crocodile tears. What jar Oh?

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Ayesha a gone.

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And they come to their dead in the night grind like

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that? Yeah. abana in the Habana Nesta Bilbo Ouattara. kina usofa are in the meta arena for a gala Who? Bow Alma and who mainly Lana Wollongong. The train. We took our brother and we were racing, and the wolf came and devoured him. And what Zhao Oh Allah commies Lee beat them in case they and they bring the garment of use of stained with false blood. And urine is the proof that the wolf a team. Now what I said is the devil makes up a plan for you. But you don't know the holes. You very limited. You think it like this?

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You know, I tell you a joke, right? Because that's what you guys on here, thinking out of the box, thinking out of the box. So somebody advertises a post. And he's looking for some innovative people with new ideas, people who can think out of the box who are adventurous who got skill.

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So the question is, like you're driving, and there are three people at a bus stand.

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And they want to see how you can think out of the box so that you can inject value into the business.

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Out of the three. One is a person who had done you a favor in life who you owed a favor to, and you will always wait in this man had really done me a favor, I really need to do this person a favor. And this was your opportunity.

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The second was a sister who needed emergency help, and he needed or she needed to be admitted into the hospital.

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And the third was a childhood girl or boy over whom you had a crush and a fantasy.

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So you had this infatuation over her or over him and you were like always this was my dream girl and this was my dream boy. And if I wish I can get married and it never happened. Now these three I had the bus stand you drive in by you can only give a ride and the left to one person. think out of the box. How do you do it? The first person you really want to do a favor because he did you a big favor. The second person needs to be rushed urgently to hospital. And the third person is the dream of your life, the fantasy of your life. So a young man always got something up his sleeve. He's like teacher, that's easy. I'll get off the car. I'll give it to the man who I owe a favor to say yours

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the Gar take the sick person to ask but the and myself and her will go for a walk.

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thinking out of the box thinking out of the box is the guy oh do you think the god the gentleman or the sister next students to go to hospital drop off of you go and off we go.

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My brother, my sister. Trust me. There's no joy in sin. There is no pleasure instant. You know I say to the youth.

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If you fast whole day and you fast properly.

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You're not

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smelling the food. You're not tasting

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In the food

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and you stay hungry and you restrain yourself, then if our time you can indulge happily.

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If part time and you break your fast with a clear conscious, you can enjoy your meal. But if whole day you never

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Hello.

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If whole day you never know what you're going to eat if there's nothing left to eat

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alone. You know what I'm saying, man?

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If you don't restrain yourself and you don't behave yourself, then if are what will there be to do? But if you control you manage yourself, you behave yourself, you restrain yourself. Then you see the wholesome pleasure that Allah gives you. lamentable Muta have been in mithila nica. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, You will never find a stronger bond between two people then the bond marriage brings not anything else.

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I was traveling and I read this article the misery of a man.

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So whether he got married or or it was his fiancee, I don't know. Anyway, he surprises his wife and

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he has her image tattooed on his back.

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Right now you know, tattoo is a very painful process and of course for Muslims tattoo is not permissible.

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ulduar Shima almost Toshima when he saw well Mata Nam massage.

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So he has his fiancee or his wife's image tattooed on his back it cost him 8000 euros article I read the day of a birthday, she elopes and leaves him for another man.

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Now, if he keeps it, it's painful, he take it off, it's painful.

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And these are the stories happening every single day, every single day back and forth. Coming back to this incident, they bring the garment they give it to use of jacobellis salam. And they say Listen, man, you know what we said, we saw you forgive us? This is what the wolf did. And here's the garment. So jacoba salaam looked at it. And he said,

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oh, wow, this wolf is so intelligent.

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It looks like it systematically unbutton the shirt, it stained it but it didn't take it anywhere. And they're like, Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. We didn't think of that. We missed it. What blood but are we supposed to repeat? Because a wolf is not going to open it.

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What I'm saying to you is when the devil makes you do or wrong. He gives you the notion that you've covered the holes. But you don't know how flawed your logic is. You don't know how shallow your thinking is. The one above you has been through it. He is advising you He is advising you is telling you this is not the way you love. I've been through you. He's telling you in strength. In English, they say JS when you realize your father was correct. You have a son in your house who thinks you incorrect.

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Just like when you grow up, and you mature. Now my mom was right in your daughter is Mum, you don't make sense. Or my daughter. I just got over that between me and your granny and now you're telling me that

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chase when you realize that what the old folks were saying, you know what I always say to my sons.

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And I'm on your level in the sense, my eldest is 21. My second son is 19 and 17. And pray for them. So I know what these emotions are. Well, I think I know I don't know, but I hope so. I know.

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I always say to the youth, I said see whatever your father told you, and whatever your teacher told you and whatever you seen, you told you the reality of that world dawn upon you. That's life as you move on, you know, Muhammad Ali, the boxer. This one statement of his always resonates with me. It's a very profound statement. He said the one who views the world at 50, the same as he viewed the world at 20.

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As surely wasted 30 years of his life.

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The eye at 20 is very mundane, is very materialistic.

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This is how it's driven. The world, the absolute. It's all about brand. It's all about color. It's all about fame. It's all about emotions.

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As in, it's all about this. But as time evolves and you start growing and you mature, you, you look at the same thing with a very different eye, you start looking really, is it worth it to go to this level, to what extent. So if you viewed the world at 20, and at the age of 50, you view in the world the same, you wasted 30 years.

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Because your outlook of life has to change.

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Your outlook of life has to change.

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So whatever your senior stole you, with the passage of time, you will realize they were correct, there's no doubt about that. There is no doubt.

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And for all I care, they have forgiven you as well. The challenge is, when the reality dawns upon you, I don't know if you will able to forgive your own self.

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There's a friend of mines. He always talks of this, and whenever he talks is a crack in his voice, and there's a tear in his eye. Is that told him to cut his hair? I don't know. Yeah, if they have all these funky hairstyles, or they don't, you know, almost like the barber made a mistake.

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Like, really take religion out of the equation, go and look in the mirror, Just do me a favor, as a regular balance rational human set in for, for me, that's the proof that shaytan exists.

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For me, that's the proof that like, I'm not even talking of a religion or morality, I'm talking of sanity.

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Like same balance, go in the mirror and look, just just look at it. And then, you know, ask any 10 people who've just regular average common, who have a balanced rationale and ask them to decide and then you make the goal

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while still and warm, Walla

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Walla, moron.

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And then what happens to a drug addict, he starts confiding in his drug, he talks to that substance.

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He goes to depression, that's how he does, he feels low, he turns to that. That's escapism, that's not solving the problem. That's camouflaging it.

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So you, you drown your sorrow, you resort to that, you block your mind.

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That is like, for example, your guy is not working, and he's making a strange sound. And you can trace it. So someone say, I'll give you a good idea. The next time you hear the sound, just turn the volume of your radio louder.

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Say, yeah, you're right. It works. Man. It didn't cost me any money. And I'm not hearing anything.

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You just camouflage any. You just hide in it

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by you, sniffing by you popping by you doing something else, you're going nowhere.

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And remember, sin is a vicious circle.

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So this friend of mine tells me his dad told him to cut his hair and he's like, no.

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Now, you know, it's just this defiant attitude. It's just this aggressive. It's just it just wants to challenge. It just wants to oppose who you to tell me how dare why.

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In an Islamic environment, and this is what draws the distinction and listen to me clearly my brother and sister, my son and my daughter.

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islamically You told

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when you're 11 years of age, this is your responsibility. When you 12 years of age, this is your duty. When you 15 years of age, this is what you owe your parents. When you 17 years, this is what you owe your neighbor. When you're 19 years, this is what you owe society. I'm just giving loose examples. And the mindset today in the world is when you 10 this is what your mother owes you when you live and this is what you ask your father at 13 you demand at 15 you take legal action.

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Welcome to the new world. Yeah. So that child of today is growing up believe in society owes him everything. While a Muslim child grows up understanding what he owes the world's there's a big difference between the two. You know what's the problem today, my boy and my girl. We have a society that are too big to be small and too small to be big.

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When you want to hug them now I'm not a kid. And you said when you were an adult then it's time now I'm having a gap year on my

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Yeah, I'm just I'm finding my balance like

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allama busara says the human ego is like the ostrich. The human ego is like the ostrich. When you know the ostrich is the fastest two legged animal.

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It can sustain 80 kilometres the fastest two legged animal is an ostrich.

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I have an eye for wildlife, and I read these documentaries and it's very intriguing and riveting. But anyway, that's besides the point. So when you tell the ostrich Listen, I need to load on your back. Back off, man. I'm not an animal. I'm a bird. We don't carry loads.

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Okay, okay, it's time to fly them back. If I'm an animal, I'm not a bird. We don't fly.

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Like what are you?

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carrying my baby? I wanna hug you a uncle mom and I'm not a baby anymore. Thank you.

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Okay, listen, I need you know, go tell that to your son. I don't work.

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So we have this generation gap that doesn't know where they belong. And voila, this has caused havoc on the earth.

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It has caused havoc on the earth.

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They don't know where the responsibility is.

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are in Chateau de la Miranda was widowed at the age of 18. widowed nobody says son passed away. She was widowed nine years in the marriage of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in his close proximity at the age of 18. When she was widowed, she had memorized and committed and conveyed more than 2800 a hadith. She is from the book theory in Aruba. She is amongst those who goes down amongst the Sahaba who narrated abundant of Hadith 18 years old, she has captured more than 2800 Hadees Abu Musab al Sharia Rolando says mesh tequila Elena as horrible Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Shane and

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Isha. Whenever we had complexity and difficulty in resolving a Hadith, we would knock the door of our issue out of the Alanna. She would resolve the complexity of ours, young at the age of 18

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when Osama bin Zayed was dispatched in the expedition in the fatal illness of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in that expedition was Abu Bakar. And Amara the alarm on Houma. Abubakar was 61 years of age, because he's an alpha was two years after which he passed away and he passed away at 63. So he was part of the army and the army was

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dispatched by the prophet of Allah under the leadership of Osama bin Laden. He was 17 years old.

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And you had legends and stalwarts and giants and veterans and luminaries like Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu.

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These were our glory days, when the youth were driving us when the youth were making us proud. When the new youth had vision and talent, I'm saying to you, my young brother, and my young sister, ask any person ask any person everybody wants to be young. That's the world today. You know, nobody wants to be they say in English when somebody tells you how young you look, they're also telling you how old you are.

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And you look young, you're not young. You look young.

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You look young, they telling you how old you are. Before you know the time is gone, and it just slips by alum Tara and La La Juana har. Your Caribbean ecola. bellied wire Boolean equal Lucha de tianni Beco Lima rude. Don't you see how the rapid turn of night and day is bring in every distancing close making every new thing old and bring in everything on its appointed time.

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So my message to you my young brother, my young sister is

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value this youth

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how you can win Allah in this time. Nobody else can do it. Had Haytham Carla had dessiner is Mary Lou is an Abdur Rahman IV nadie el Bharani and he has a diploma in Surah. Anna who called in Allah tala your pool, you have Cheb at the Ricoh Shahada who Lee Alma de bas de Lucia Baba hoomin, agilely and Tang the Cabal the Mullah ekati after mathema, Mohamad says that I heard from Haytham

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Hey Tim said I heard from you smiley live now Yosh smiley live Nyasha heard from Dr. Medina de Alba Ronnie

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Ronnie said I heard from yes even ma Sarah. Yes, even me. Sarah said that Allah says, Oh young man in his youth, many do youth restrain your youth control yourself, clip your wings, restrict yourself and yourself and my melodica will enjoy the same rank.

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Can you imagine you elevated to the profile of the angels, that pure celestial creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala because you're going through a hormonal spurt, you're going through hormone change in your body, your body is going through so many things, all your strength is at optimum. There's just energy that is budding in you, and an intellect has been suppressed, has been overpowered. And that is why that is why if you control it amongst the seven people that will be given shade on the day of the AMA cheban Nasha a free Hiva that a law a young man who spent his youth in the obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala I'm gonna mention one ayah and wrap it up and then if anybody has some

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questions, inshallah, we will entertain your questions for you in sha Allah, both the brothers and sisters to the best of my ability. So the nature of the devil is he comes and he whispers to it to it is fine. And he I'm feeling depressed. I just need a lovely massage. Right? Yeah, I just need my hands are itching. I mentioned the other day this youngster he says I had this contact with the girl and we broke up. And then

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he says now we don't speak. But when I get up for the 100 I send a message and I wake up

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I'm like ha ha

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ha ha wasn't supposed to like Wow.

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I said brother look look at how the devil sugarcoats it You shouldn't be talking to her You shouldn't be having any contact you're doing the wrong and then you try to appease yourself. So the devil is very very smart. The devil is very very smart how he operates his moves can methylene shade Pani in Carlisle in in Sonic for

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the example is like the devil he says make this belief make gopher do wrong so before doing the wrong the devil kind of gives you this adrenaline it gives you this push it gives you the stroke gives you this fantasy just do it man you're gonna see how good you're gonna feel while you perpetrating the crime you feel cool about it and remember the provinces and said before cuyama that man Ashraf Allah is referred to

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that sin will be such, if you will, like peep into it. You will eavesdrop into it, you will probe it, it will just draw you in how often curiosity while surfing the net gets you onto a website. Okay, something pops up. Let's just see what's it about

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singles

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dating online.

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And suddenly you just drawn into it and that's a province or some set if you pay it will just swallow you it will just suck you in. It will just take you in.

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So the devil tells you before the Battle of whether the devil came in the form of Soraka, who was the leader of the kwinana tribe, and he came to Abuja Hall and he said Don't Don't worry, don't panic we with you, before you come in. So when you feel the sense of togetherness, you feel the sense of moral support. Your body is running with full energy. You're not feeling low you're not feeling lame, you're not feeling depressed, you're not feeling and let me say one word. The scholars tell us before committing a sin. You must focus on the punishment of Allah and not the forgiveness of Allah.

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If you focus on the forgiveness of Allah before committing a sin, your mind will become major. Allah has forgiven those that made Xena I'm not doing Rena, so it's fine. I'm okay I'm not so bad. Before doing wrong focus on the raw, the punishment the torment of Allah. Yes, after you've committed a sin. Now you focus on the mercy and the clemency of Allah so you don't go into despondency. So he came in the form of Soraka and he told me, don't worry, I'm with you.

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Allah speaks about it in the 10 Jews in Surah. Anfal, what is Zion Allah, Masha?

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Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah and de Bella como neoma, amin and Siva in the gum fell film, or a TV ad done in ghazala on TV, what is the yellow shade on Wednesday?

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beautified in one narration it comes holy Emily's who moves the Yunnan. All the devil can do is decorate well I say la mina bollati Shea. He cannot mislead you what he does is he makes an attractive you know sometimes some people they give you a gift. The gift is simple, but the wrapping is expensive.

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It gives you a lousy pair of socks

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right? nothing to write home about. Nothing fancy but he packages it well. It's got a glitter, it sparkles. It's got a bow. It's got a nice gift bag. Curiosity when nobody

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what's inside it I really want to get and when you open it up when it's high and dry. Like really? Wallahi that's the nature of sin.

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It has a glitter, it has a glamour, it has the packaging. inside. It's shallow, it's hollow, it's empty. I swear by Allah. Sen. Chapter close. And let me be honest, my brother, you say it's difficult. I always say we never said to give up sin is difficult is easy. All we say it's possible.

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Nobody is said to give up. It's always easier to resist temptation, then to succumb to it and wean yourself off it later. We are a nation addicted by our habits that tobacco industry can boldly print the harm of cigarettes yet not fear a drop in sales.

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So beware causes cancer not good for pregnant woman causes harm pollutes the environment boldly. So legally, nobody can take action the guys in the shop. Yeah. So can I have two packets of the one that causes cancer please.

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Nobody advertises against themselves. You drop the sales. Even if they want to have a negative they put it in a fine print. Yeah, they put it loud bowl on the advert. kills, harms causes cancer. No problem because people are addicted. addicted. allama Rumi says the man comes with the torch in the marketplace. He's shining it. People are brother what you up to men?

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Isn't I'm looking for humans.

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I'm just looking for human beings.

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So this is what he does. He said these are all slaves to the Eagles.

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In English, they say there's a big difference between human being and being human.

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Some of us are human beings, but we're not being human. We're not behaving like humans. We're not behaving like humans.

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So what did the devil say to serata? He came to Abuja he came in the form of serata. He said don't worry, we want you man. We with you. It gives you the sense of is behind you. Is all the way I don't know the youth into German as well.

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Like big time I my own kids are into it. So I don't talk too loud about it. You know?

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So it's a biceps. And it's pumping iron and burning and it's you know, then now once you do this year, then you got to wear the sleeveless vest. Right? You've got to have the sleeveless vest. So much focus on this external bodies so much. And remember the real body is what not this it's the soul

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because this outward body is changing. You look at your baby picture. And you look at now that's not me. Now sorry. That's are those days the cameras were not good, man.

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Don't blame the camera. That's you.

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Nah, those days that wasn't a three megapixel man. Nah, that's you.

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That's how you look. You can accept it.

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Gosh.

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So that picture that image is changing. And tomorrow is going to be an advanced image of Olay. This is just a case in the real human is the soul work on that spirituality? How much focus the cosmetic industry is ever thriving. I travel and I see this often. The world is driven by that appearance by that appearance that look so like it's about to touch down and you know, sit down clear the lavatories with comments or with dissent. And then you get this old aged frail senile lady gets up.

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Would you pass me that bag young man? Thank you. That's so cool.

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In a few, okay Ma'am, is it? Right? Her hand is trembling. Now she takes

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like 85 now it's fine now. But she has to doll up before she touches down on the ground. That's the world that's the world. That's where we are. And this is just an a case in the real body is not your appearance is not your six pack is not your biceps is not how muscular it's not how robust is not how impressive a woman would feel is not how thrilled she looked at my body. Tomorrow, it's handed over to the grave, and the insects feed on it. It's your soul that journeys, how much focus have we put on that?

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I'm not saying be negligent the prophets Larson had the best physique. He would eat little his food was disciplined his 18 was discipline. But to take it to a level of obsession, I'm afraid that's incorrect. To take it to a level of obsession where you become obsessed by it.

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The demand comes into the gym. And he asked the gym instructor like you know

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which machine you think my wife will like?

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His like brother your wife will like that ATM machine not want any of these.

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You rather take your card and go to one of those ATMs man not these machines.

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And now these these these these treadmills, I see they have this YouTube on it. I was in in a conference in Canada. My wife was with me. It was private, discreet. So we said let's go. So she said, Okay, so I'm there like, wow. So you run in and while you run in you watching movies, like where's the world going? You would think number one running outside is much more natural, it's much more free. Because you breathe in the air, you seen the atmosphere, you're you're stagnating. So you might be doing the same calories, you might be burning the same amount. But the difference of walking around the block is far different than standing on one place and running on a treadmill. But

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I would think that's a moment you need to yourself meet time and just relax yourself. Now again, even in that time you absorb in some other material in your mind doesn't have that moment of relaxation. So to be health conscious is integral. It's important. It's Paramount, but the balance has to be in place. So anyway, to wrap up on that note on that idea

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that the devil tells the Buddha how we will support you, fella ma

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na na casa de la aunty Bay when the army comes. Then the devil who had impersonated Abou serata he flees. So Abuja is like where you go into because the devil can impersonate he can impersonate. He can give you this carriage. This image now we together get you into the movies get you into the Haram place. Once you start, you need to come out of the door, he can come out of the events.

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He's gone he disappears into thin air, you got a family to answer he's got nobody else has given him this grace and respect. He's hisab will be in Africa and he will deal with his fatal consequences in Accra. So all I'm saying is before committing a sin. The devil gives you this fake sense of support that I'm with you. As soon as you do it while you're doing it, you get temporary relief, of course, because if there was no relief, nobody would do it. So momentarily, you get faked, you get fake relief. It's a fake thrill of fake excitement. But as soon as the thing wears off, you hit a deeper depression and you drop even lower than before. And now the only way you get it back, you have to

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take a higher dosage. You have to do more of it. And it's a vicious circle. It's unending, and you trap yourself in this dark miserable place. So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to guide us all. May Allah protect you all. May Allah make you cross your youth in a way that when you look back in your life you proud of the days that you spend when somebody was asked. I think it was Rama Rahim Allah or one of the other scholars that in the latter part of his life. Allah preserved all his faculties. He was old. He was eight when he was healthy, his eyes, his ears. So someone asked him what's the formula? He said in our youth we never disobeyed a law with our limbs. So Allah preserved our organs

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for us tell our last breath

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in our youth, my gaze, my ears, my tongue, my hands, my legs, we did not disobey Allah with it Allah. Allah grant us all the tofik are suddenly luevano salamandre Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi adjumani al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen