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Beauty Of A Muslim Woman

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Sulaiman Moola

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respected sisters and mothers in Islam, we find one of the elements by virtue of which the West and the media is portraying Islam to be an unpleasant religion. And by virtue of which they have, frankly succeeded in misguiding and began in many, many young girls, has been the false image that they are portraying how Islam conducts a woman and the status that Islam afford to woman. This is one of the weapons one of the tools by virtue of which they are using it and propaganda is taking place, contrary to what Islam has afforded this girl, and how honorable and how sacred Islam has made her if we have to analyze in a Western society, what are the objectives and what are the ideals

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of a girl growing up in an environment of this nature, or the South Africa or any other Western environment, then as the young girl grows up, is constantly made to believe that she can beautify herself, and she can adorn herself, and young men can get attracted to her. And then many women unfortunately, consider lustful, dangerous, strange men tend to amount to respect. They regarded equal to honor and dignity and feel honorable about this lustful gazes. So many times we find a girl that is growing up in this environment, who has the comforts of the dunia before her. These are her ideas. These are objectives. And if he tries to outdo one another, and 1000s of pounds are spent in

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the cosmetic industry, to redefine herself to present herself. Now we let's analyze the harm of following this pattern, both from being and Julia. We find girls that grow up in this way, whose objective is this. They hardly succeed in any marriage life. They cannot make any home. And the Blackpool context breaks up and she becomes a merchandise so to say that every man comes in abuses her and he just ruined her life is ruined. From the Islamic perspective, the hands of a girl leading a life like this, the vehicle in front of them says, learn along with now we're really Allah is upon that male who cast our last full day that is strange, female, and likewise Allah is equally on that

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female who presents herself who projects herself, who adorned herself in beautifying herself. So the strange men who can look at her that woman who who goes out with the intention of decorating herself before strange men, maybe creme sallallahu Sallam says that the curse of Allah is upon her. The remains of Muslim Sharif Livia, Kareem sallallahu. wasallam says when funnyman and inara are my Sahaba they are two groups that are designed for Johanna which I haven't seen, but I'm prophesizing they come in LA Houma. I have not seen them. But the woman that is to come will observe it come to Seattle, Docker, when he saw when he got to Nigeria to Manila to Manila to

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book Dilma Illa

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Allah divinity ha ha ha ha the two gentlemen mercy erotica de Vaca Hama, one is a group of woman Nathan Garcia, who will be dressed in the dressing themselves.

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But he will be wearing clothing which is totally transparent, Mila, illogical. inclining towards men, and they themselves will be inclining towards men. Attractive men with a seductive voice in their approach in the streets don't and maybe creme sallallahu wasallam says the consequences of such a girl is so severe, the fullness is

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such a female will not only be difficult

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I have 10 minutes, but one large you will be also deprived of the fragrance of Jeunesse where is the fragrance of gentlemen would be enjoyed by a gentleman 8500 years trying to come in close to tennis. So we find this is the consequences of this girl, she will not have any stable condition in this world also, her marriage will not succeed, and her consequences in accurate will be also very severe. Now, what we need to analyze today to understand that we have to look at our honor in the light of Quran and Hadith, what is my role as demonstrated by the reoccurring sallallahu Sallam?

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This is a fake notion, and this is a false image that is being portrayed by the web is that we are not allowed to vilify ourselves. In fact, we have been encouraged. And the bakery sallallahu wasallam, has actually given us the real, and not only the reason, but the beauty of Islam is that when a woman adorned and beautifies herself, and decorates herself, which is a natural desire, he becomes young and she matures, the natural instinct that Allah has created in her is human, I saw the amount of ways a beautiful garment, and then she admires herself, like any other woman would do, but immediately look at the reaction of a father. And this is the time where perhaps the elderly

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sisters, the mothers, those of us that have children, we have to understand what is our position? What is our role? What is the duty of a mother? And what is the duty of a Muslim mother? What is the duty of a father? And what is the duty of a Muslim Father, what is the duty of a physician, and what is the duty of a Muslim physician, the duty of a mother is to see that my child is and Al Hamdulillah you take a lot of pride in seeing that your child is which is wonderful, which is unique, which is the duty that follows with motherhood. And let me tell you sister on that also a length gonna reward you so tremendously, that appears in Muslim career. So here's an idea of the

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olana phase one woman came into my house, and with her she has two daughters. Now we know I sort of Yolanda does not have children. And naturally a woman that is not a mother cannot understand truly the relationship between mother and child and the bond that Allah Allah has created between the mother and child, especially at that time, when the mother is battling her child. Yeah, again, the West is teaching us of, of ways to substitute this, that that we do not settle our child. That is perhaps the closest bond that exists between any two humans is between the mother and the suckling child. Every time they can drink milk, every time they disturb, that will sleep on the great great

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reward has been mentioned. What I want to stress during that unfortunately is the element of of love, and the element of the awareness of what Allah has promised. In in our duties. Today we have forgotten. So when I'm beautifying myself for my husband, and not realizing that this is about it, and while I can safely say this, if you will beautifying yourself for your husband, to attract him so that my husband does love, love a modest life and there is faithfulness, there is fidelity between myself and my husband. In safely we can say that Allah will give you more you are in touch with no matter if they do vanilla. It is not correct for you to engage in an optimal path until you

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do not seek the permission of your husband didn't understand what is what is Islam according to Islam encourages you to do that which is your your your nature, which is your inherent quality, but to restrict yourself to the confines of your house for the beauty of your husband on deck you will be fulfilling your own desire also, which is natural and under Allah will reward you greatly. I was mentioning that the writer of the Allah Maha Abu Bakr radi Allahu looked at items and he says Martin green Aisha Allah Holly Sabine, avid in LA, or Isaiah I don't know what you are admiring about yourself, because Allah is not admiring you. I don't know what you are looking at levels but in

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Nigeria mana is a young girl. Imagine.

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But this is the beauty of being when Dean comes into a girl she wouldn't mature. I mentioned this back home also, when they've been in a boy or in a good you will find that that person will mature mentally, in every aspect of life and that Allah will inspire that girl, she will become responsible. I certainly allow her is widowed at the age of 18. Whenever you have a law passes away, the injunction of the Quran is Allah and so as long as your human body Aveda in Nevada Concannon de la hobbema that it is not correct. For the widow of Nivea creme de la la de was seldom to remarry. We find after the demise of nearly salat wa salam. One day Libya, Kareem sallallahu wasallam comes

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in the house, and then he whispered something to him earlier NaNa And then she starts crying. Then again he was something and then he smiles. fighter will know when to Fatima and he said I am not your mother of course. But I am the man who have maybe a creme de la la he was a lamb. And I asked you what what what secret was this between you and the Viva La La Jolla? Fatima? delana declined and she says no, I will not share the secret with you. After that maybe according to lies and pathways. So she went to the long run high and she asked what was the secret between you in the real exam? So Fatima the Alanna said Kareem sallallahu wasallam told me that the time for me to leave this world

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has come very close.

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So in all human reaction, I started crying when the Vietnam passed away. Maria Lana said, so but Alinea massage, you know,

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a young Mr. Mila Yahya. Such a calamity has befallen me on the demands of my father. It's so windy, it's so colossal. It's so low and there has to be a young, if this catastrophe has to fall on the day, even the day doesn't have the ability to contain it, instantly, it will be thinking it will be converted into a night, your avatar A Da Da Da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, or my father, it looks like you've responded to the call of Gabriel, or my father, who can we say, who can be conveyed the message of your demise? Other than Gabriel and in his column, or my father, john Nicholson, those is your abode. This is what nearly Sam told me. Then he told me something in my

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years for which I smile, it only Oh Fatima, you will be the first one to join me. And the reoccurring surgeon told his wife is that Hakuna Lokhande welcome together. The first from among my wife to join me will be the one that has the longest hand, I try to do a lot of things after the demise of Vietnam, we used to measure our hands. And physically we used to see whose hand was the longest. And we say the one that has the longest hand, we'll go and join the BLS from first, it was only after we realized that has a severe of a long 100 mistake and passed away. At this time, we realized that the length of the hands denoted generosity, and it did not denote the physical length

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of the head. Nevertheless, I was mentioning of the incident of ICER of the Allahu taala. And that when this woman came home, and I said have you learned to code the date for either of the olana becomes a widow at the age of 18. She lived up to 15 years half a century after the demise of Libyan salatu salam, it is not permissible for her to remarry. He is the narrator of 2210, a heartbeat at the age of 18. He had conveyed and contributed to the oma so extensively, that a significant amount of Mata is expected and deducted from the narrations of medical care of a loved one. So this is a maturity that will come with being. So she says with the Navy, when I came home, I gave the three

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days to get the mother one to the child and one to the other child, I observed a very strange practice, the mother gave one to the child, the child at the other side. And the mother was about to eat the third day, and both dishes and looked at the mother would desire. So the mother split the data in half, and to give half to one side and half to the other side, which is the beauty of motherhood and honors Allah will reward you and this is what we need to understand. We have to put the compass of Africa before us. And let us start now analyzing our life with the ideas have been with the goals of these as a Muslim girl living in this environment. What is the law one from me?

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And if I complained to the end, I designed my life according to the objectives of Islam. What is the promise for me in this world? What is the law promised me inaccurate? Unfortunately, many of us have fallen prey to the to the propaganda of the coupon. And many humans certainly feel that yes, unfortunately, my options are restricted as a Muslim woman. But very ironically, we fail to comprehend it when that woman is smiling to a strange man on a flight and presents a plethora of food to a strange boy with a smile. Then he progresses and he is liberated. And he is a model and he is exploring. And she's experiencing it when that very same woman was honored with respect with

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dignity presents the plethora of food to her husband with a smile and to a child with a smile. Then she is backward. Then she is restricted. Then she is deprived and on debt limit. Maria Kareem sallallahu wasallam has promised Mariela salat wa salam comes home. So I saw the analysis of the spring practice. The woman I gave her three days to give one to one child one to the other. And she's about to have the third one and the children look What does if she slipped it ha ha. Ramses la casa de la de da de Cal Jana, I thought I'd make you my witness. Because of this trivial kindness of the mother to her daughter's wiki for go to her own life. He did not eat the date, and she divided

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it in half for both her daughters and larvae my witness on this excellent gentleman has become compulsory for this mother.

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So that is what Allah is going to give you on the duty of motherhood. But as I mentioned, there is an additional responsibility and that is the duty of a Muslim mother. The duty of a Muslim mother will be the duty of the mother is that my child must leave and we get up we delay our sleep we make sure the child is the kind of eat and mentally we are released. The duty of a Muslim mother is that my child must not eat until he doesn't take a last name. So until my child doesn't take a last name, he's not going to eat the duty of a father. I must make sure that before I leave for work, adequate arrangements have been made for the study of my son. But the duty of a father will be that my son

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does not go to school, college or university until he does not commence his day by bowing and prostrating before law is the beauty of a physician will be that when he walks into my surgery. In the interest of my knowledge, I prescribe the best medication for him.

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But the duty of a Muslim physician will be when you walk out of my surgery, he must have more reliance on the to have a login on my prescription. So, we find my sisters on the duty that Allah Allah has given upon us here and that when we will play this role and we will demonstrate the role that Allah tala one summer and growing up in that environment and keeping the objectives of acid at before so when we will be playing when we will we will we will feed our children now via creme de la la SNMP. The Internet then we can install SMC is

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the best person adunni akula hamata. This word in its entirety is something from which a man benefits.

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And perhaps the best thing from which any human can benefit Elmer as a follow up is good. Now who is the funniest guy in Nevada, la has Serato when her husband looked at her, and then it brings joy to him, it brings joy to him. In Germany Huawei device appears to be occurring. So a lot of them will have to otherwordly

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one of them will have

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the greatest right upon a male is his duty towards his mother. And the greatest ally upon a girl is her duty towards her husband, we find very commonly it happens. You know, I mentioned this in the talks also, where we find there's a bit of an antagonistic relation that is between the mother in law and the daughter in law, which many times jeopardizes the position of the innocent husband is being, you know, twisted, and he's been pulled from both sides. One side is trying to make his mother happy. One side is trying to make his wife happy in between the child, but unfortunately, because of pressure from both sides, and each party interesting, on her own personal view, makes the

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life of the husband so difficult, if we have to really look at this from an Islamic angle, and then we find this relation, if we capitalize on it, and we value it, and we appreciate it, it can be the means of securing gender for husband and wife. If not, you know otherwise, if we will abuse it, it will be the means of destroying our gender. So the wife is told by a husband, that serve my mother and make her happy. Definitely I acknowledge, you are obligated to me and you are not obligated to my mother, you have got married to me and you are contracted to me, but understand, oh my wife, this is my mother, because of her has come in the Navy and he says my obligation to hug is the greatest,

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if you will serve my mother, don't wait for him for a cent from my mother for an appreciation from my mother. Again, unfortunately, it's tragic, that whatever good the daughter in law will contribute, it becomes very difficult for the mother in law to say a polite word to say exactly that to appreciate. But constantly we see the flaws of our daughter in law, constantly we pick up the wrong of our daughter in law, we find it very difficult to appreciate the contribution and because of this, we are making life difficult for ourselves. If this girl will respect her mother in law to earn the glass of a husband, the husband should be kind enough to appreciate what he does for his

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mother, when this girl will do to please her husband, she will be kind to her mother in law respect her, then the husband will be happy. If the husband is happy, then this woman is secured. If the mother is happy the husband can manage secure. So if we will, you know adhere to the teachings of Navy Academy sallallahu wasallam then we will find our thing in this world will become a pleasure. Let's say the example of extreme radi Allahu taala has you show me of one girl graduating from any academic institution that can come in the house and display such a medic role and such a mature role.

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It's typical, we are living in a situation where they live, they have problems, their challenges, their difficulties, every person is going through difficulties. Perhaps today you got married, it's happiness, its joy, its prosperity. But that's not the order of life, life will change. A lot will come in change. My honorable father always says that marriage is like the weather. Sometimes it's hot. Sometimes it's cold. Sometimes it's snowing, sometimes it's raining. And at times in one day, you have four seasons. And at times, it's raining for a few days and you think the sun will never rise and the future looks bleak. But then the sun comes out and sometimes it's sunny for a few days.

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So this is the nature of marriage life is unpredictable. But really if we can you know govern our lives with the dictates of and then every one of us will return a home you will anticipate the coming of your husband with such joy. This is the newlywed couple are going to meet for the first day if we can discipline ourselves and we can bring some guidelines in our life. Let's take the incident of a flame reveal lavonda Abu Salha and own a flame husband and wife grace Saba is a sick child at home.

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Mr. Named Raphael law is taking care of the child abuse and Harvey alone is equally concerned the device appears in boca de la

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Abu Salah Harvey alone who goes out to work

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when he comes home naturally the first concern is about his child while the husband is gone out in the absence of the husband

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The child passes away in Manila, you were in Nigeria, you're on your own. Now. Now, this is what I want to draw your attention to look at how mature this woman is. Well, I marvel it's mind boggling, you know, to comprehend, or even to endeavor to comprehend the capability of this woman, the steadfastness of the woman, the foresight of the woman, the perseverance of this woman, he understands her duty as a woman in the house, she arranges for the will of the child, she arranges for the coffin of the child, he is a mother, you will understand, oh, my mother, what is the level of love that a mother has for a child? I definitely agree. And I fully agree the love of a mother is

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unique, it's unparalleled. There's nothing compared to that. And that love comes out of the pain we have experienced in during that time in delivering the child and to see the how the system of unnatural it is that by by virtue of their pain, that love is transmitted in the heart of the mother for the time. So you cannot tell me that this mother did not feel hurt at the separation over time. Maybe according to law, the film is crying. He's crying at the generosity of Ibrahim radi Allahu anhu of drama in the house is present. So it is only over now what are these tears? We are we we will try if we lose our time? What is it that you are trying one on a Brian della Thomas Mercado who

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mentioned to behind Allah who could be better is to do with me but I literally said I'm so does the rights of the child or so and so does the limit also, the rights of the child is nearly corrupted in a lie in a trademark. When when an approval coup in LA Bobby he

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cried, and he said this is the rise of the tide is a father if I will not cry when I have lost my child and who will cry as a mother if you will not cry who will cry This is the right this is the duty This is the obligation to the child. So this is the right but in the ultimate. What are the limits? Well, Anna kurogane lamayuru babine rabona but I will restrict my tongue to occur in only Deadwood with my aligners please. And that is in not in LA we're in the illegal raggio

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homeschooling Ravi olana arranged for the whistle of this child winced when Abu Salah Harare alone who comes home a lot. Now, now let us see how this woman received her husband. What is that girl who goes out in the environment? Many times girls ask this question that no, I'm pursuing a degree for the simple reason that if my husband does not earn sufficiently I can supplement the income of the house by earning also my sister's Nivea creme de la senseis in the Hadith, and are in the one knee Abitibi I will treat my servant as my servant considers me if you will venture into a marriage and you will pursue a degree with the aim that my husband cannot provide for me. Then Allah will put you

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in debt condition that your husband's income will not be sufficient for you and you will have to earn when you will earn it will open up a can of worms and a host of problems. The Quran says our regardless of our moon Allah Nisa limited by the law, or the man or woman,

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Allah has given certain form of superiority. Now when we say superiority is not in an abusive relationship, not that the husband is in authority to be harsh to his wife, but rather in the VA Kareem sallallahu. wasallam says he has libo whom he hasn't even

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let him on. Maybe Kareem sallallahu wasallam described it he has really been a karimun you have really been at karimun while you're in Laguna even for assemble an akuna karema MANOVA voila, an akuna Eamon Raja nebulae

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defining the nature in the temperament of a woman says

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yes, libo Yaga live in a karimun. If they will overpower and dominate a soft man. This is the nature of woman as maybe an external outline. If the man is soft and gentle, intensive, then the wife will overpower him without rebooting him and his turn in a heartbeat. And as he said, Man, he will overpower his wife. With regards to me home, I have an akuna, Karima mehbooba. I wish to be soft and gentle and overpowered by my wife, when to be hard and elegant. And overall.

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If we have to study and analyze the social life of neuroticism, and this is the way we've got to raise our daughters, let her understand that this is what you got to do. You know, so much time is invested in the truce or something of that girl in her preparation in that in that, that she doesn't understand what mindframe she's got to venture into marriage. But then again, our very marriage structure is not very stable that we can demonstrate practically a good model to the girl that is growing up in the house. Where What do you know how do we contact you both from the husband and the wife? And nevertheless, only yesterday Maria lamonica arranges for the hotel, Allahu Akbar, Abu

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talha comes home in the evening. Now there have asked ourselves what is our situation is something and perhaps not none Canada, something much more much more trivial much more insignificant. Something went wrong at home. Some ham came to particular situation at home, some difficulties stove, not working lights went out or some

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happen in the absence of our husband of the unknown who comes home, Allahu Akbar.

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Allah receive him with a smile.

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The first question the husband asks, How is my son?

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So, my surname will be allow Anna uses an ambiguous term. And she says, who are asked can only mark on? He is more peaceful than what he was.

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He doesn't say he has recovered, not that she say he has passed away. But she understands my husband is tired, he is hungry.

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But he has a physical need, what role do I have to display at the time? And this is what I implore you to take as your message or my system and understand on this what is the reward that Allah has promised for you?

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Well, it is a beautiful religion

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in every form of contact between husband and wife, to enhance the relationship to better the relation, the Navy of Allah has even given permission to speak ally to your wife to make her happy. Just to better the relation that yes, oh, my beloved, the Vla Salaam says in everything that you do put in the material in our mouth, it is swab. Unfortunately, we terminate these practices two weeks after we married three weeks after we married me terminated. And when we terminated, then what happens is the husband and fortunately, is smiling with strange woman outside. So by the time he comes home, his muscles are tired to smile when his wife is anxiously awaiting his, his facial

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muscles doesn't want to smile. And he's abrupt. It's not with that woman is awaiting him with respect and dignity and mystery. Maria Nana says no, he is in more peace than what he was the husband positively interpreted as recovery. The cause damage in a lotta Elijah, he then presents a plethora of food a love

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that Oh, my husband, you're hungry, here's the food. The husband comes in, he sits down. He saw behind the light doesn't India, the pinata, whoa, she didn't adorn herself. She beautifies herself. Like perhaps the groom, the bride would define herself on her first night. Allah alone knows what he's going through the art of that woman. But yet she doesn't reveal it. He doesn't express it to contain herself. Allah knows what reward in life is going to give this woman and this is the role that the western are not ready to accept. This is the honor that Allah has given this girl. Now when she's going to go out to work, all these objectives will be forfeited. All these objectives will be

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neglected. But rather she'll walk into a house where those children will be said or they won't be fed, they will be neglected lithonia team woman into la Ababa who Minami La Paz de la, the poet says, I don't believe that that child who is left without parents is the only option in the world. He is one often the entire world has some buttons on him. The poet says I'm telling you, I have another option and he is dead, who enjoys the presence of his biological parents, but both of them are engaged in pursuit of material gain, and they neglect the upbringing of the child. The poet's say, I implore you that you focus on the child, that time is an equal often and he also needs your

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love and your sympathy.

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That he grows up in a house where the mother object is different the father object is really those parents will be responsible, who have made desire to have children. It came through the command of Allah and then has neglected cuppa bill Mr. Eastman a yummy food device of a Buddha would say maybe at a standstill. If the husband does not present the plate of food before his wife and his children, then he is a criminal in the eyes of Allah. The VOA salat wa salam says dinero and Dr. houfy, Sabine line device of Muslim kariba Barrera Leilani generator when you found that you spent in the path of Allah de Noronha Dr. Bini Allah miskeen what is the pound you spend on the floor person at dinner

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and Proctor who olahraga what is the phone you spend on the freedom and the emancipation of the slaves? The narrow and

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and what is the pound you spend on the need of your wife?

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Lillian, only the pound that will bring you the closest to Allah is the money you spent and invested on the need of your wife and children.

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omifin a Maria Lanigan decorates herself is not not not this woman is understanding that the woman that is working in the outside environment, the children and neglected she comes in the house naturally because she is earning. Now she is on an equal Senate in the house. She's not going to respect when in fact the husband will be more obligated to her because she will be contributing to the expenses of the house. So the whole situation of what Allah has planned has now been reversed. Now the husband will be as I mentioned, the Quran says that Allah has given the men certain. The first reason is, as I mentioned, not in an abusive relationship. This is what the West are harping

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on, that the woman is victimized. What am I seeing is more honor in our house. He is more respected. At no stage. Will we resist

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How on earth we would prefer to sit indoors. One of the other aspects just for you to understand that is that many times you want me to believe that in the legacy you have half while the main enjoys doubles, you might perhaps think that Islam knows when that is gender bias, and Islam is biased against the female. No, no, get the perspective correct. Understanding correctly and past the correct message to your daughter. The reason why Allah has given you half the bakery, Mr. Doe has been once again analyze the position of a girl from the time she comes in this world, then the time she dies, at no stage in her life. If she is responsible to earn for herself nevermind anyone as

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she's the duty of her father is her father he gets married is the duty of her of her husband, if a husband is laid is the duty of her son if she has mature sons, if there is an incentive, she is the duty of her brother and there's nobody around her, the National Treasury of the Muslim Ummah will take responsibility to provide for that widows to provide for that woman, but at no stage will we lift her outside her honor, which is vulnerable, and she is exposed and she has to go into the cosmetic industry to earn few pounds. neglects her life. So let's say is that no no thing is too precious to us. Yeah. Oh. Laughter

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Mr. Ratan Devi, Sunni jamala. Cynara Chica Rama, oh my sister for let's say, Don't unveil yourself if you want to enjoy the honor of accurate Sunni Jama Allah. Protect your beauty. Keep your beauty exclusively for your husband. And when do you display displays like omniplan Maria lawanna, the plate of food is presented abou Sahar consumes the meal. She didn't decorate herself, she beautifies herself, she presents herself. It is natural as a men, especially for men exposed to an environment like this. We fail to understand the reward that Allah has promised. But the reward on beautifying yourself and using a sweet tone, to speak to your husband to attract your husband to satisfy your

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need of the husband. Allah will give you more reward than nothing Allah, Allah will give you more reward than engaging in lapel armor. Because this is the objective. Let's just go no la ha ha ha Latina coma. And what is the fundamental object of Nika? Allah says so that trance tranquility,

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tranquility transfers between husband and wife, between spouse and spouse, there is happiness, this joy there is bliss. It is shown that these support which are the bane of our existence, and Mata and Rama, that is kindness and mercy, that this this particular quality between husband and wife is expressed generally at a later stage of life, but generally they overcome the human need the physical needs, and now it's more the continuance of now it's more being close to one another, encouraging one another support in another. So this is the fundamental objectives of Nika if this has not been achieved in our marriages. And this is not the message we are imparting and

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disseminating to our daughters, then we have failed in our duties as mothers

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to decorate herself, Bhutan hora de la Mohan, who then has relation.

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And after he had relations with his partner, Panama, and Serbia, Allahu Akbar, Allah give

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Maria la Juana, Allah rewarded the best that he has rewarded anyone on behalf of anyone, Allah, Allah read the seeds of internet, what a role model, you show me one woman in the entire world that can display such such a unique such a mature role that understands one side, the gen one son is nine in a house that is why it appears in boca de Panama, when the woman has seen and Serbia that my husband is separated, his physical need has been taken care of. Now he is over the age also, he had relation with me also. And then he approaches him in a polite way. And she says oh Abu Salha

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lo and nakoma

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tell me oh my beloved, can I ask you a question? Go for it. What's it oh my beloved wife. You What is it tell me especially at this time, when the husband has been received so well a lot of awkward like if a woman receives the husband was joy and anticipation, what obligation in respect she has the potential of taking away the tiredness the frustration and the fatigue of the entire day. But if he received him would complain that the ducks in a

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row the group of woman give charity in abundance for in Neeraj a token

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I found that Dunham is greatly occupied by you be my era suit Allah, why am I want to be overlap that formality

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to kill Mallanna with a colon allottee you have two problems in your body. What is it whenever you have a loved one is you curse very often, your tongue is very loose, you blame very quickly you're accused very quickly. You You verbally accuse people. It is so nasty to speak ill of woman Quran make special mention about the Latina man or

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woman counting

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on minimum

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Meanwhile, while attorneys O and

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O you who believe

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in calm, let not one group mock up or laugh or belittle another group, then Allah make special mention about woman when you saw

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one girl, one young girl, one woman loves it another girl consider her to be insignificant. Who knows the one you are laughing at, perhaps enjoys a senior rank in the eyes of Allah. One day I saw the alarm on her made an unpleasant comment regarding Sophia has become in Sofia Taka waka Tanya patera Olivia vanilla, your wife Sophia, she shot What's so good about Libya is Russia. I love you. And you are beloved to me and you are the daughter of Abu Bakar one lucky lucky because you can imagine, but today you have uttered such a despicable statement such an unpleasant statement, if that statement has to be given a liquid form and it is diluted in the water of the world ledger

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settle well it has the potential of contaminating and polluting the water of the entire world.

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So what will happen when when our fire department our eisah will say this year when the idea of maybe an eternity this was the condition for Dr. de la severe Jelani is the daughter of forgiving accept.

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Accept was a Yahoo. So it's the fear of the unknown, I had a Jewish origin. So sometimes there was a bit of unpleasantness among the wife at the fatal illness of nabire salatu salam, when he's nine in his mobile overpass, and all the winds surrounding him, so severe the olana stood by interfering salatu salam, and he said on the way of Allah, Allah is my witness. I wish I was experienced in your pain in your in my place of comfort. So the other wives made nasty comments. And they started winking if they look at this one. Yeah, what first comment? She's trying to so she's better than us. Let me observe that. He said go on winking eyes and say what you want to my ally? No, Sophie, I

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speak in the throat. I know my Sophie, I speak in the throat.

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salon Mirage, when you Miss Lane seen that a person has need was catered for and was situated. He said, Tell me My beloved.

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Tell me if someone borrows you an article, and they tell you to use it. After the time has left. And the time is over. And they claim that article back? Do you have the right to refuse and decline? The answers in the negative? No, I cannot I mean, if I borrowed something from someone in due time when the time expires, and the owner has the authority of claiming back. So he asked his wife what what are you getting into? I mean, what what what's the relation of what are you asking? He says, Okay, my husband, let me pick you on the deck. And he embraces him. And she says, Yes, this is the last hope for swap. Our son was in a manner from Allah. Allah has taken him to Lahore.

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Immediately he burst into tears. And then he tells his wife, you left me till I started drowning in my desire Salah you know, I went deep down in my love and my passion, and you left me immediately he runs to Libya. Kareem Salatu. Salam generates the entire audience and the entire incident to navionics navionics currencies are worth two more Laila. Did you have relation last night? Yes una Viva La we had relations Baraka la voz de la isla chikuma. Allah has given Berkut in the last night conception in the last night conception to place an arena even a person who is the robbery of the hobbyist as a child was born by the name of Abdullah and the child grew up to become the father of

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nine sons, every one of whom was a happier than Hollywood.

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One woman comes to Vla from Dr. Su de la, Jihad ketubah who longed for in Cebu booty lukhanyo appa

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Nita na como la him sanada nam in Dallas, only Viva La you have odd odd for the men they strive in the past of a law. I went to first mentioned that one ad is nearly Salaam says there are two problems to kill Mallanna what's the Quran Allah says? What is your curse very quickly. And the other thing is you are ungrateful to the favor of your husband. Lo appcenter Isla de una de hora is one of your husband is coming to you for dinner means a decade decade means 10 years. So Mirage pika say. And then one day your husband does something contrary to your desire.

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What do you say Mara is to seek a higher and cut to since the day I got married to you I never seen good in you. You will point to your husband with the rings that he bought for you and wearing the bangles that he purchased for you. And you were saying you have bought nothing for me. You have done nothing for me. Were in his clothes wearing his jewelry, and you were saying he has done nothing for me. That is what Kareem sallallahu Sallam he said, I am not mentioning that the husbands are innocent is that is the gathering of females. That is why I'm addressing that angle. Otherwise, the husbands also need to be tolerant. One person came to O'Meara de la. He had a problem that his wife

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used to bake into him. So as he gets to the door of Omar

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semi auto Jetta who own local zoom into well, Atari, he has the wife of former dancer in Amara de la mano, and SubhanAllah. This was the nature, we have to study the lives. Unfortunately, we are looking at those woman who have no morals. We have no values, who are displaying themselves in front of the world, who are public figures who have no hire, we have no evidence. So the husband, one the wife to dress like that. The wife, one the husband to dress in a different way. And constantly we are being bombarded with the images of dounia trying to imitate them. There's no more pleasure left in this life. The husband comes home, there's no joy, when he's not happy to meet the husband.

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There's no fidelity, there's no loyalty, there's no sukoon there's no moment that there's no Rama. So Meridian, he has a lot of cancer in his wife.

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His wife had breast cancer in Omaha. He has this and he excused himself and he went to I

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don't know how someone came to the door, he opened the door, he said by coming. So what's the problem? He says, no matter. I wanted to tell you that my wife that concerns me, but with utmost respect to you, I see you you're also in the same boat. We're sailing on one boat. So I don't think it's right for me to ask you this problem. The answer is no, no, come here. Come here in a second was in La Jolla. Yes, maybe my wife has this problem. So what's wrong? Maybe generally the woman have it, but come and tell you how I look at this problem. And I marveled at this year, Alaska mightily to myself, and I mentioned it to my wife and I mentioned it in other programs. The Navy

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receives revelation. So behind the law.

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He is crowned with number one.

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He becomes the master of both worlds. When he comes home, he doesn't come home as a newbie to his wife Khadija, he doesn't come and say Khadija Do you know who I am. You know how lucky you are Khadija I am the Navy of Allah. I am the final prophet. The Quran is to be revealed on me. He says the milania milania Khadija something drastic went in my life, come and cover me, I don't know what's gonna happen to me. Then the wife praises her. Allahu Akbar, the first person to support maybe a caring person was his wife. And this is the most delicate part where unfortunately men fail. He can convince the you know, the woman across the road, his neighbor those that are working with

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him, but it men unfortunately we failed to display that. We we can convince our own wives on the teachings of Nivea creme de la to literally never intervene in the house. I mean, hi to Navy, as a professional person, as a Navy as the favorite of Allah. He entered into his house as an ordinary person. What they have done the display over the lawn says yes, maybe my wife they can trust me. But I overlook this wrong of my wife because of the major fevers spectrum Bailey within an hour. Yes, probably half an hour of that my wife is a veil between me and Jana, and it is because of my wife, that Al Hamdulillah I have been safeguarded from Xena tennis if it wasn't for my wife, there

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wouldn't be a girl that would cross my side, but that I will cut enough Lassie grant upon her. It is my wife to get his gift, my heart and my mind clean. That has given me the ability to engage in Nevada, when my wife has such a fever upon me that she has been to me from Ghana. I think I'm duty bound to her. And he says but correct that I tolerate, and I persevere and I resist and I'm tolerant in her verbal words. Papa Hassan haba Sutton, she cooks my food. He says to my children, when this man heard this, he made it into tears. And he said Oh, if this is your approach, all the more I should maintain the same approach with my wife.

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So then we have to kill Nana was extraordinary. As this you are ungrateful to your husband, low accent A Da Da Da Da Da. de casa call it ma a two finger urine. Pato. nabire Serato Sam says as to

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when this woman will perform her collar perform at Sahara and pass in Ramadan

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and complained to her husband Felicia to call a Natasha the choice will be heard she can enter from any door of Genesis he wants to so my sister Sarah see how we make preparations in this regard we make our home and environment that is conducive for Dean nebulous term called his daughter Fatima in the device of Buhari yo Fatima, selenium RC et me Molly la Oneonta came in a la he say oh my daughter Fatima Libyan eternal love the party Mara de la wanna Fatima is part of me when a behalf of an attorney, whoever loves party my loves me or my pocket attorney and whoever is a third party might hurt me. The value of the law no proposes to the daughter of Abuja party meridiana Tez

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navionics salam, people say that you don't get offended for your daughter, your son in law, that is my husband wants to get married to the daughter of Odin attends the pulper. Remember, then he gives the kotoba and then he says love Rama Mohan Allah I am in no authority to make something lawful unlawful. Neither do I reserve the authority of making something unlawful, lawful if he wants to get married to the daughter of a Buddha has polygamy restricted polygamy in Islam is permissible. It is your choice It is his prerogative. However, I just want to say something on behalf of my daughter Fatima.

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Don't think the daughter of Abu Jamal and the daughter of Mohammed Salah some can say one row that was his love for Fatima Fatima Ask me whatever you want from my dunya you can have it but don't remain in this deception and delusion that because you are the daughter of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam there will be no hisab for you Fatima Your job will be separate mine will be separate. But my your account will be separate my account will be separate. My sister there has made the service of our daughters in this regard. Let us make an environment that is conducive to Dean and that we become deserving of this maybe a restaurant is that females will enter into dinner from whichever

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way she wants to.

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Maybe Elisa was asked by that woman a long walk but I recited the is in the beginning time has left we're going to move on also. Yeah, Johan corneas logica, woven,

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logica incontinent. dunia was in the hospital in the wilds of Libya. Kareem sallallahu wasallam came to Libya.

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And they were complaining. They don't have any of the other wines. They have beautiful homes. They have beautiful government. They have beautiful that we've been your wives, the spouses and partners of the master of both the world. We don't have anything. There's poverty in our house, the scenery in our house, the difficulty, there's hardship in our house. So the real exam was very, very hurt. This is caused a lot of things to him a lot of distress for him, and he left his wife for one month. In the interim. hava got very worried. Oh meridian man who came home he had money. What have you done? He went in a salon, have you divorce your wife for one month? Maybe some did not come close to

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his wife. And then under revealed diverse,

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diverse of options. They don't have you ever like gather your wife, call them call them together and tell every one of them in concern naturally then al-hayat adonia Oh, I sub into Viehbacher.

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If you want the wealth of this world, Allah says he will give you not how much you want. He will give you more than you want. But today your Nika with mine every 10 minutes from today you are no more the wife of my Navy, you will no longer have this honor. We will give you the world more than you want the truth the concluding verses of the 25 years of the Quran surah so to speak lot about dash cam a woman

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nabire salatu salam calls them because I saw the olana Oh Isaiah donation, Allah has revealed diverse you people ask me you want better curtains. In the history of Jelani, the request of every White has been mentioned they also have the authority of Savi if you want better curtains and you want better clothes than oh hi Sharon heysen my Allah said he will give you more than what you want. But from today our relation terminate.

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I started the Ilana said,

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only Viola I don't want this world.

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To learn our Sula, I want you and I want a lot. And I will never ever ask you about the things of this dunya let me understand it. No, no, go consult with your father. I started the analysis of Pico Chava rasulillah. What are we overnight? Am I gonna stoop so low? Am I going to be so foolish to consult? I want you and I want you in debt. But don't tell me otherwise? My answer here is something called samsara. delana. And every wipe answer is NO NO overview of Allah forgive us, we will never present the request of this world. After that it is written in the history of Jelani Alladin cleanse the heart of the wives of Sahaba. From the desire of this world, at the same time in the in the in

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the era of modern era, the anonymous, if you send 80,000 did harm in the presence of the mother of the entire oma with an eye shadow the law. He tells the slave girls to distribute at the time of if there wasn't one day to break the pathway.

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So my mother's insisted In conclusion, let us keep the compass of accurate before let us keep the objectives of accurate let us keep the goals of accurate, let us bring modesty into our life that has been higher into our life, higher modesty, thankfulness. That is that is the beauty of a woman. Let us decorate ourselves with the higher of Islam that was present in the time of Nivea cream sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. There are numerous incidents that Allah tala speaks about how modest how sexual with what so much higher. Did you know The woman of Islam for that we find the Quran makes mention about this yesterday, immorality has become so common, you know, in morality in

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decency when he was in Korea when Allah prohibits immorality unless of higher and that this modest approach and hire over 2 million a month reoccurring salaries and safe hire is a significant branch of Mr. McCullough inspire us all. And may Allah Allah safeguard our daughters that are growing up in this environment. Now I was in in America in the month of Ramadan. So we conducted a lot of ladies programs, many times the girls are share why is it not permissible for us to put a $1 check, raise it in the Quran that we cannot put nail polish through we give me proof from the Quran.

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You know, these are the influences that we are getting. And this is all the effects of what is coming from outside. But if we will, we will uphold the beauty of Islam and we will understand our objective and our limit as it which Islam has given us and we will respect our husbands and we will be loving to our children and we will make that house one woman. Follow him

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The potential of nurturing that entire family binding that entire family molding and shaping that entire family is called madrasa, Tony is that the mother is an institution, if you have prepared that mother and you have designed that mother online institution has been prepared Behind every successful men is the definite contribution of a woman. Every successful men study the life of any person you study the lives of the wives of nabire salatu salam, I urge you I implore you I earnestly request you study the social life of Nebula Salaam and I would equally encourage the husband first to see the tolerant nature of Nivea creme de la llamada. In our own days, a small problem, something

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much more trivial. The wife won't cook, there will be no you know relation. Imagine in the house of Abu talhah the janazah of his son is nine yet the compliance and devotion from this woman binds this marriage and in that Allah Allah blesses them with another child. Allah mo

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como, aka Tina, if we will not give our children the correct deal. Allah speaks in the incident of fiddling around the throat is that child someone perhaps might interpret that as harshness that what was the claim of disguise but Allah says for Ghana, Baba Amina Taka Tina you're in a coma tobiano cofra that the parents were fired, but because of the love that the parents had for the child and law says we feared the child was going to influence the parents into disbelief. We will visit the child as the child was going to grow up with modern ideas. The child was going to involve his influence onto the parents allowed to have this kind of took the child before he matured making

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gentlemen Why do you put a child in those parents may Allah Allah inspire us all and instill within our mothers and sisters haha and modesty and make the objectors of Islam our ideas and our goal was Darwin and somebody like me army