Choosing the Right Friends

Siraj Wahhaj


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In this lecture, Imam Siraj Wahhaj addresses the importance of choosing the right friends and the real extent to which friends can impact us. What are the consequences of bad companionship and the benefits of good companionship? What is some practical advice on what one should do if one doesn’t have good friends?


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The radio show discusses the importance of avoiding "branded" by friends and finding a way to get married. A woman is unable to get married due to her lack of a computer and lack of a smartphone, but she eventually gets one. The speaker also talks about a woman who is married to a man who is a Prophet and is married to a woman who is a young woman. The importance of avoiding "branded" by friends and finding a way to get married is emphasized.

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Rahim al hamdu Lillah

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Allahu Allahu

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Allah, Masha Allah Muhammad Abdul Salam Baba.

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Brothers and sisters, let me tell you something.

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Every one of you who came to this conference, you came for a reason.

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every session that you go through, there's something there for you.

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I want to speak to you today about one of the greatest decisions you'll ever make in your life.

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Who's going to be your friend?

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Who you want to hang out with?

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Who's gonna be your buddy?

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who you're going to get married to? sisters? Would you? Would you mind if I speak to the brothers for like 30 seconds? Would you mind?

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Brothers? Don't worry, they can't hear us.

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How? And I want an honest answer.

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And I'm gonna look at every one of you.

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How many of you

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like and are attracted to women? Raise your hand.

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All right.

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Those who didn't raise your hand see me later, we're gonna talk.

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According to the World Health Organization,

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every day,

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intimacy happened between men and women 100 million times a day on this earth.

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That results in 850,000 conceptions a day.

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That results in 350,000 sexually transmitted diseases a day.

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That results in 150,000 abortions

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a day.

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Who's your friends?

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Who's your buddy?

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Who do you hang out with?

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The Prophet peace and blessings be upon him said this. And don't you ever forget it?

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And Morrow Allah Dini, halifa Yun Dora hadoken menue hollien

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a person will follow the religion

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of a very close friend.

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Therefore let every one of you be careful of whom he shall choose as a friend who is your friends.

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If you tell me who your friends are,

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I can tell you

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a lot about who you are.

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Because you will be influenced by your friends.

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Might I recite something from the Quran to you?

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That will be recited by someone in the Hellfire

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and Yokoyama.

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Listen to these words and never forget them.

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Yeah, we'll

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lay Tawny lamb to Fallon and

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Holly Lin. Luca Delaney and the curry batter is Johnny. Oh, whoa, whoa,

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whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, oh, shame. Woe to me. Oh, would that I have not taken such a person as a friend? They took me away from the remainder after it came to me. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa was to me.

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Brothers, listen to me.

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You listen carefully.

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You better be careful who you choose as a friend.

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Last week

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I'm in

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Phoenix, Arizona.

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getting on the plane.

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And I was one of the last people to get on the plane.

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And I noticed as I walked through first class Wallahi

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every person that I

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Saw had

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a smartphone or iPad or iPhone that had something just like you have.

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And as I went through the plane I'm looking I'm looking everybody, everybody busy

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on the phone.

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There's an Imam. I love him.

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I have the same debate with him every year.

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He's probably at the conference. I'm sure he's here and he will tell you

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you know we debate about

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this Imam I love him. He's smarter than me. He has more taqwa than me he has more everything of Miele good

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But there's one thing that this Imam does not have. He doesn't have a computer.

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I said Ma'am, you don't have a computer. I don't have a computer. And every year I say you know this is gonna be the year he's gonna get a computer I said shake you get a computer he said no.

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Shake not even a smartphone. No.

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You don't know this. I was the last one to get a cell phone. I resisted for some reason I didn't get a cell phone for a long time. I finally got a cell phone. And every time I took out my cell phone the youth would start laughing

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so you know finally I got a really good smartphone they're not laughing at me anymore.

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But I said shake Don't you know the value of computers?

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Don't you know you can go on your iPhone and you can get some of the greatest recited the Quran. You can get shake up the rock many days. And you can listen to him on your iPhone. Don't you know that check? He said Yes, I know. I said don't you know you can get on the internet and you can go online and you can learn so many Islamic things. He said Yes, I know.

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But yet he wouldn't get it.

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And you know why?

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computers, in my opinion is like money.

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Money is neither good nor bad.

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is what you do with it. You can take money and build schools and hospitals and libraries.

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And you can take money

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and you can buy the Haram

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you know, the other day, um, once you get my newspaper

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and there's a brother hamdulillah good Muslim brother works in this this Muslim store.

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And recently, he was telling me how he's gonna go back home. He's gonna he's gonna learn the core. And

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so I went there the other day. And like so often. As I'm parking my car to go to the store. He didn't see me he's outside and he's smoking a cigarette, young man.

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And so when I got out of the car, I know what's gonna happen. When he saw me. He hit the cigarette.

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Usually, I don't say anything.

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But this time when I saw him, I did like this. He said, haram haram

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selling on himself.

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You know, something brothers and sisters.

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While these

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great gifts of technology that Allah has given us is good.

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But it can also be bad. I'm going to ask you this.

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Could you withstand

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an examination?

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Everyone bring forth your iPad, reinforce yourself phone, bring it here and let us look at the history and see where we have gone. What sites we have visited. Could you withstand the examination?

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What's my point?

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My point is the new friend

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is not just people

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his iPad,

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his Facebook,

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his Instagram.

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Will we be sorry on your mobile camera because we took these and went to places that we should not go in my conclusion.

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I'm gonna add something that Shaykh yasir said actually had some of the same things that I wanted to mention.

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How many of you brothers want to get married? Raise your hand.

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How many would like to get married today? Raise your hand

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My sisters like to get married.

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No 9am of the opinion that we have these conferences, we have to find a way to get them married. Someone I'm telling you come here to to get married

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to at least look

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and they are looking.

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Why not help him?

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Let me tell you why I say that, then I'm finished.

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Who you choose as a wife as one of the most important decisions in your life?

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Can I help you?

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Would you like

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for me to help me?

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My young brother, would you?

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Would you like for me to help you?

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Let me tell you this.

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Think about Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon them.

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Which companion is called do no rain.

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No rain, the possessor of two lights. Which companion

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the prophet Mohammed the laser lad was a lamb married his daughter to altman. And his first daughter, she died then he married his second daughter to her to him.

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Omar Abdullah, and

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when is the husband of his daughter hafsa died.

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He went to

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and altman

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I like to marry my daughter to you.

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Often said, Give me a couple of days and let me think about it.

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And about three days later, he said, No, I'm not in the position to do it right now.

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Then he went to a banker,

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and said to our bank, I'd like to marry my daughter to you.

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And I will remain silent and a few days later he says I'm unable to do it.

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And then the Prophet Muhammad Allah salat wa salam.

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He came to O'Meara.

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Instead, I want to marry your daughter hafsa.

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And he married his daughter, to the Prophet Alayhi salat wa salam.

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A few days later,

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abacha, he came to the Prophet, the ladies came to Omar and said, maybe you were mad because I declined your offer? He said Yes, I was. He said the reason I declined is because I know that the Prophet had mentioned her and had the Prophet not married her, I would have accepted your proposal. No, what do you learn from this? What do you learn?

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What do you learn from this?

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One of the lessons that you learn

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is that it was Omar

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getting his daughter married. He was the Prophet getting his daughter and my daughter married. What do you mean? What are you saying? Are you saying arranged marriages? Is that what you're saying?

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Not quite.

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But I can tell you the truth.

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We have choices and we've been messing them up by ourselves.

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My point is brothers and sisters and my conclusion

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is that we have to make better choices

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of whom we marry.

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Allah gives us a hint in the Quran. Finally. The Prophet said lanique

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Elahi Wally

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is no marriage without awali sisters. Be careful

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of Muslim children go to public school.

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Who are your friends? sisters Can I tell you who's in the public school?

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Baba and slick

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Yeah, you met them

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select them Salaam system

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and they're gonna try to rap to you.

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And you know what, a lot one June quarter one.

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Let chunky hood mushrikeen you know, do not marry your daughters to the pagan women until they believe

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even though they may appeal to you.

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Allah tells you why.

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eco Yato una Isla no because they invite you to the fire

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that's it

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Who are your friends

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My recommendation today as I sit down

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on friend

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some people

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for your good

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make sure that the people that you with

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as the Prophet gave the example of a man who has perfume a mask

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and go on to the store and this the smell the must

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sometimes I see a brother

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and I give him cheeky cheeky

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you know I do that

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because the musk that he has smells so good. Had do it again.

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And you know what? go into a store where they sell perfumed, lovely, lovely smell. And even if you don't buy anything,

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you feel blessed.

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Being around these Muslims.

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Plus all these brothers I love them more than you can ever imagine. So brothers and sisters, please be careful.

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And Morrow alladhina Khalifa yonder, Luca Manolo, a person will follow the religion of a very close companion Therefore, let every one of you Be very careful whom he shall choose as a friend, Mr. alikum