Excellence & Importance of Honouring the Guest
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Srila Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina
Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi roboshot Lisa Davis, MD
Melissa Neff Coco. I'm about to press due to loss of Hannah Tara, please be upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at St father there's no god except Allah just the Father. Muhammad is the Prophet, the Messenger of Allah brothers and sisters who will continue inshallah with the other side of him this book that amendment nowhere put together and compiled all the different Hadith and verses on how you could live everyday Muslim life in order for you to get closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala and obtain stronger amen and relationship with Allah azzawajal and sha Allah tonight
inshallah, we'll be talking about honoring the guest,
honoring the guests.
And obviously, we know that Islam focuses a lot on honoring your guests. To the extent that the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says in this Hadith, which is the first day that we have before us tonight, man, Kenny Miller, he went to military for Ukraine bifa whoever believes in Allah subhanho wa Taala. And they have gentlemen that let them be generous to their guests. Now, when we say a guest, we're talking about someone who's coming to visit your place, or someone who's coming to visit your office, or someone who's given he's coming to Vizio center. So anyone that's coming to you is considered to be a guest. You could be out in the park and you've invited someone to a meal
in the park, or you probably invited someone to a restaurant is your guest.
But there's more rights upon me when you have a guest that's coming to your place than outside. So my brothers and my sisters are important for us as Muslims and believers to take care of our guests. And it's part of a man that reflects upon me, amen. And because I made it very clear, it's a sign of you're a man. It's a sign of your belief, your faith, your piety, righteousness taqwa. When you are generous to your guests, and you know,
it's part of a sign of lack of a man. Lack of piety, a lack of taqwa, when you are non or not that generous to your guests.
When you are not generally a guest is also a sign of lack of Amen. It's not a good reflection of taqwa, amen and piety when you don't take that then take care of your guests.
So the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam spoken about this in this number of a hadith the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam had spoken about even Allah subhanho wa Taala alludes to the importance of guests in the Quran. Allah tala speaks about the guests of Ibrahim alayhi salam. And one of the things one of the qualities that Ibrahim Alayhi Salam had the enemies to locked on his own. To the extent that sometimes when the bride valet service by himself, he wants to go look for someone, even someone just walking by someone from outside just to bring him into his house to stay with him. As a man in LA, that's a reflection of a man and dupois that people care about others because you know,
what do you really get out of taking care of your guests, it's a good sign of generosity and Allah subhanaw taala is the Karim and Allah subhanaw taala once is attribute of the Quran, generosity to be rubbed off on me as the servant of Allah subhanho wa Taala but that's why the scholars when they talk about the attributes of a lives origin and they talk about the names of Allah Subhana Allah Allah subhanaw taala also wants you to implement the concept of those names in your lives. So when Allah subhanaw taala speaks about forgiveness allows you to think about the people when Allah subhanaw taala speaks about mercy and lots of penalty they want you also to be merciful towards
other people obviously allows me give us different deals.
A lot of times forgiveness is by far
a lot more greater than us and the loss of habitat is Mercy is by far a lot more greater than us.
What Allah subhanaw taala speaks about the Quran Oh, he describes himself and attributes himself as the Kareem or the most generous obviously Allah Subhana Dallas cudham generosity is by far no one knows. My father. Yours is no one else have handled that has come no one ever but at least a bit of a exerciser implemented executed in your life. generosity. Allah subhanaw taala is the Karim Allah subhanaw taala is so generous ally is so generous that lots of penalties even so generous to those who disbelieve in him.
A lot of Christ Crites them. Allah subhanaw taala sustains them and feeds them and then at the end of this I would even believe he exists.
So Pamela disbelievers allows the panel data granted them, a lot of them have brought them into this dunya Allah subhanaw taala fed them blah blah sustained them Allah provided to them and gave him and gave him and gave him and gave him and gave him. Why.
So if you want to evaluate, quantify, the number, the amount of names Allah subhanaw taala has upon you will never ever reach a number.
But on top of all these, you've got people after lots of animals that have brought them into this dungeon, Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala given them enough to realize our gem had bestowed upon Him, they turn around and say we don't even believe he exists.
He doesn't even exist, who may do Allah subhanaw taala he gave me a lot more than he sustained g Allah subhanaw taala but on top of all this, Allah still generous towards them.
On top of all this, Allah subhanaw taala is too generous towards them.
That's why the Prophet Mohammed Hassan says if this dunya in this world, would equal to Allah subhanho wa Taala a wink of a mascara, Allah subhanaw taala even give a Kevin a cup of water. But we can see
that loss of habitat has given them far more than a cup of water Allah subhanaw taala has given by far a lot more than just a cup of water 70 things that allows an adult Allah continues to give them the disbelievers some awesome Hannah Donna wants you to implement and portray
the quality of generosity when someone comes to you, as a good gesture from you, as a good gesture from your side
is that you are generous towards the people who come to you. That's why Islam teaches us to be generous to everyone and more generous to your guests. When they come and visit our home when they come visit your place. I could see some kids
playing crying Please keep your kids next year and please take care of them because I can laugh at them.
So the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam says man can you be lazy when you're in a hurry, and you Kumbaya Subhana Allah
whoever believes in the loss of Hannah without our believes in the lives of judgment and let them be generous to their guests. Part of Amen. That you take care of your guests,
part of a part of faith part of Islam, they take care of the guests.
And the more you take care of your guests, that's a more of a reflection of demand in your in your life.
The better they take care of the guests.
That's a reflection of the men and the stronger they have Amen.
And then the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam continues to sell whoever believes in Allah subhanho wa Taala they have gentlemen, they let them keep toys with the kings. And whoever believes in my last day of judgment for the LDS motto, whoever believes in the laws of handle data they have done that they let them say what's right or good or keep quiet solid. That's also a reflection of a man.
When you only say what's right.
Yeah, and the answer with what's good. But if your tongue is filthy, then unfortunately, that's not a good sign of a man,
a son of a man they answer what's right. Yeah, and so what's good, otherwise, he keeps on and he kept quiet. And the problem was, I mentioned that
my brothers or my sisters, Islam teaches us to be generous,
to be generous to everyone, Muslim, and non Muslim. You know, not only mankind, not only human beings. But the problem is I'm speaking about people enter the agenda. And one of them is a prostitute with a problem. Hamas either even mentioned that she's a prostitute. And we know the crime and the gravity and the sin of prostitution, Islam so big to one of the worst sins that someone can indulge in, or falling.
So the problem is awesome, speaks about a woman from Venezuela and she was a prostitute committing the crime of prostitution, the sin of prostitution. But when she saw the dog, and she gave water to the doctor, she was generous to the bank to that living thing can I even make this living animal allows them an autonomy that into the agenda.
Because generosity is part of email, she had the amen hidden somewhere in her life.
And she later she portrayed that she exercised that so in return a lot of annata made it into the gym.
So my brothers and my sisters generosity is a good character. And it's a good character of a Muslim to be generous, to be generous. Now, when we say generosity, like you can exaggerate in generosity,
and you can over exaggerate in some areas when it comes to generosity, but at the same time, you have to balance
said out loud for example,
Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran the creme de la la Ilaha Lupica otaku la busca de cada for the
last panel Dionysus and do not
open will keep your hands to open know that you grab your neck with the hand which is one in which Allah subhanaw taala is employing to when it comes to give him for the sake of Allah subhana wa tada for Takada maluma masura. When you give for the sake of Allah azza wa jal,
you have to have the balance, then give all your wealth
and then also be taught, Mellon sell.
When you give the laws of Hamilton Allah subhanaw taala doesn't want you to ever exaggerate. If he can give give,
if he can give, give.
The only time that you can ever exaggerate in your generosity is when you have a guest.
That's what the scholars say.
The only time the exaggeration in generosity is accepted is when you have a guest, or because that's part of email.
But it shouldn't reach to the limit or to the extent in which that sometimes you become too generous.
To the extent that you start wasting the food, or the hospitality that you had prepared for someone. And it happens a lot of the times most of life for people coming over 50 people so
throw in the towel.
If you have prepared the you know, 50 people, whatever is left over either later on no problems. But the other 50 is Harlem a lot of the times we'll see that happening.
So the only time they
in your generosity and hospitality to someone is when you have a guest because that's part of
that's part of Amen.
And one of the requirements of the guests obviously, when someone comes to someone's house, you have to be respectful into someone's house and then look right and left trying to discover something the house of someone in which some people have that, you know, some people just you know, the nosy people. Yeah, nosy people that enter someone's house and they just want to know, okay, what's he what's they are looking at the ferozi? How much is this? How much that's not a good quality of a guest.
When you get someone's house, you walk in lovely guys respect the house into the house. And you see, we talked to see, he doesn't just get and choose whatever you want to see. So much of the problem haematological set up says that when you enter someone's house, you shouldn't be sitting on a couch or a chair. That's not to be that's the most preferred chair to the owner of the house if I get in. And I know there's that particular couch. And I know that the out of the house that's his private couch. Oh, that's the honor.
Unless you grant permission.
He got on this about 10 characters. And you know that this is the most preferred one you know, whether you know this person or you could see from the resemblance of the couch.
You shouldn't be sitting on let's have a look how beautiful Islam is.
It teaches us the best form of etiquettes the best form of behavior, whether you're a guest or host
send me some alarm bells until you walk in low and gaze the look around. Then say someone's favorite chair unless you are granted permission to do so. So I've worked for example, I prefer this janitorial job. It's alright. But we look at it this way you see
in a typical people they've got these days. No respect people's privacy.
And you as a host.
He should come out of your way to comfort your guests.
The stomach, they should come out of your way to comfort your guests. Welcome your guests subpanel the concept of hospitality these days, it's fizzling out. It's dying out.
So Pamela, it's going out people don't care anymore.
You know, I can sit down? Well, what do you have to say that See? See ya.
And so Pamela don't even look forward to having guests in this day and age that we live in now. We don't even look forward to having guests anymore. And that's all what is happening right now. When you want to. When you want to see someone and you want to invite someone, you take him out to lunch, get to a restaurant you get to a cafe that's what's happening these days.
Or no encountering these people that like people to come to their places anymore in the past year houses to be like a hotel, people in and out and you know what?
The customs of the Arabs they will never ever reject someone. They will never ever reject someone that comes to their house as a guest. Even if
even if the Donovan is back then if someone knocks on the door and says I'm a stranger, I'm looking for a place for me to sleep. Hello, Salah is the walk
the walk of the man oh seven come in, and extrude for an Arabic Then for them to even ask a question. What's the purpose of your visit before three days?
That customer according to the herbs they will never ask a guest. Even though that guest is a total stranger they've never seen him before there ever been a before the tomato salad slip over? And they don't even ask him one question. Why he? What's the reason that you can eat? Where are you going? What's your objective of your travel? After three days? I'll ask some Pamela
good characteristics. Now. They're coming over to him I'm not even he
bought a home.
to Panama, we've lost. We've lost the touch of hosting people ever bringing people to your place and having a guest because you get rewards at the end of the day even though it's your mother and father environment as guests your brother and sister members guess your neighbors, your guests, your friends, your board members guess Allah subhanaw taala reward you for that. How beautiful is Islam we live everyday life in a Muslim family gives you rewards for the things that you do.
Even if it's part of customs
even if it's part of traditions, as long as you do the right thing.
And that's why the second half of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam
says in the Hadith men can be led
by food j is a tahu
karlova magia Rasul Allah, Allah, Allah Allah.
Allah am maganda Delica was on a katana LA. So the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam says,
whoever lives in Allah subhanaw taala and they have gentlemen, then let them be generous to his guests and give the guests the rewards, give them their rights. So they said O Messenger of Allah, what are the rights of the guests. So the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam said accommodating for one day and night, up to up to three days and nights. So one of the rights of the guests upon me is that half an hour or two hours.
One of the rights of the guests upon you is one day and night, up to three days on nights islamically Have a look doesn't mean I can get to people's house while others just said one day I'm buying gas overnight. Okay.
Okay, but if someone is stuck,
someone came from overseas or someone came from Interstate and the look of our place someone came from overseas or instead of a place he's got to write every one they are not up to three days or nights after that, you could say to them, Look, you can leave. But then the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says anything beyond three days a night sacaton la, it is a charity upon them, it's no longer a right. It's like you know, your 2.5% of your worth is for the obligatory donation but anything beyond that is considered to be a charity donation voluntary donation.
And going back to the customs of the errors that used to be part of the customs of their three days on nights, hosting a guest as these to fight over the guests needs to find ways to take pride in it. Take pride, but guests some eyes have it against me applies 510 510 days to forever. Pamela we're gonna have I'm gonna have not this Friday following Friday.
And somehow not long now, which is unfortunate. unfortunate. The prices of the hotels, they get so high, it's so expensive, he can't even pay for it anymore. And what the locals not all of course, families still have the character we still have some of those locals who are still implementing the son of the Prophet Mohammed Salah, the tradition of the Arabs, but the locals, they capitalize on the hosers okay to make money out of them come and stay in my place by charging these are
very expensive, extremely, extremely expensive, you know, during the time of the Prophet homosassa you know, during the time of Islam before the time of the Prophet Muhammad SAW some Arabs they used to forever the pilgrims these two forever
tribes used to fight over who's gonna have this pilgrim for free not forever who's gonna pay more
now he's gonna fight over this customer because he's gonna come in my head so he's gonna come into my apartment is gonna come into my place is gonna pay me money.
They used to fight over pilgrim strangers is coming out of Medina to come to coming out of Mecca coming to Mecca to perform pilgrimage
the accommodating them are paying for the food for the war or whatever assistance they need. So Panama that's the Arabs and that's why one of the things like in a mecca Mecca used to be like governed by the and tribes are one of the portfolios they used to have these to have the portfolio of military for example. And they used to have the portfolio of governance and they used to have a portfolio of looking after the head judge tribes used to fight over that one
please keep your kids next to you please quietly thanks.
One of the portfolios they used to have divided amongst the tribes a sakarya
which is giving water to the judge
and the is to forever the portfolio of hospitality to the Hajaj not hospitality the oma I'm gonna have my own head so people pay for me and pocket.
And that's why Ben Abdulmutallab the founder of the program, Amazon, Mr. lucapa, the hospitality they used to forget from the pockets, they used to fund that themselves
to fake the Hajaj because they used to take pride in taking care of the guests of Allah subhanaw taala they used to take pride in taking care of the guests. And that's a character of a believer, these people are Arabs, non believers before Islam they take pride in that
we as Muslims, we should take pride and take care of I guess.
Take pride of someone coming in, give them whatever, you know Allah, you know, all this stuff, two packets of chips is the expensive one is a cheap one, given the cheap one, and this one for me and my wife
can't be bothered, come out of the way. It's part of a man.
Part of him.
So he's gonna take me in as a guest tonight.
Done Allahu Akbar.
I'm not gonna say Yes, sir. Tomorrow, he told me to come and take you in as a guest, so I'm just gonna keep it to myself.
So the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says one of the rights of your guests upon you that for him to stay at their mind, up to three days on nights. After that, the guest is not entitled to ask for more than that is not entitled that's it. But
it doesn't really speak about the host and the etiquettes of the host, but also speaks about the guests and the etiquettes of the guests. So the guests also must be noble person, because then they'll be Salalah lives and it says well, eco Bahama gala tea, and some of the fees are lots of 100,000, but eating your food. So you should also be mindful of the people that come into your house and make sure then invite people in your house that fit Allah subhanho wa Taala because you don't want to expose your house to strangers, you don't feel like oh, people are there for ulterior motives, or people are there for the wrong intention. And as a guest after respect my host, one of
the primary respects of the city, I want you to respect as a guest, as someone entering someone's house, respect their privacy.
Very important respect their privacy into the house, they look around and try and fetch for something or try and discover something or try and listen to something.
And that's why it's panela One of the things that our machine has to teach us when you go into a loan, for example, or guestroom, try and always give you back to the door. So at least when it opens the door, the privacy of the house of this person is exposed. So that always in a lock be selectable, you see. So if the door is in front of me, I get my back to
give that privacy in that respect to the owner of the house. Sit in modesty.
Try and not take
or exploit the generosity of your host to your advantage or get this and take that what's decent them. One of the etiquettes
as a guest here we're talking about not as a host you someone is visiting someone's house, we are staying someone's house, not to ask him any questions.
You know, sometimes we've got this thing in which we become too nosy, one night everything.
How much is this? How much voice
would you get the money from?
How much do you earn?
How much this what's the cannot take this cannot bring that. That's really true.
So there's got to be moderations got to be balanced in everything they do. Let me saw some says, wherever you find moderation you find is that balance that respect, but the moment that moderation is taken out of anything in lashana
Then it becomes imbalanced. So as a guest, you shouldn't be asking too many questions that asked him the questions, don't touch them fiddle around with things, then put your nose in something that's not of your business, then criticize too much, oh, I don't like this, I don't want that this and that it's not your house. You know, sometimes people come to your place, they want to criticize your furniture. I mean,
I'm happy with it that way, I should have put in that corner, and I'm sitting on it, you should not have
You know, that there isn't too many things.
That character don't want to come in and just criticize this and they are this should have been this, this the, in a way, you know, people have different tastes, what you like I probably don't like it.
You probably don't like is that doesn't mean just because you've got one particular taste your taste is everyone's taste.
And your thoughts everyone's thought.
So respect people's privacy. And that's number one core issues in this area focus on regarding guests, people's privacy. And so Pamela, you know, when you talk about privacy, you know, this is something that just been emerged in the last 100 years, respecting people's privacy, Islam has begun about 1500 years ago.
everyone's privacy, especially as I guess you have to respect your privacy. And the house should respect the guests privacy to not ask too many questions. Looks. Pamela as I mentioned to one of the customers used to be so rude.
He's about to be rude.
disrespectful, they want to get over the asking questions. Why did you even come before? You know that question? You know, that's the first thing they asked a traveler when he first seen what he for.
The Steven Stephen asked that question, so that then embarrass the guests so that they'll put them in a corner. After three days of asking.
After three days, the last
one, Islam is about building up characters. Not only faith, not only establishing your faith, but building your character making it to be the best character in society, whether you're a guest or host,
in whatever you do, be the best. Because that's what Islam is about as Panama. We live in a Western society. We live in a non Muslim country, how many people embraced Islam because they've visited a Muslim. And they were overwhelmed and touched by the generosity of that Muslim family. And
you know, because of her, I embraced Islam because I visited Islam visited this Muslim,
non Muslim. And it says, I just I was just blown away I was just overwhelmed with the hospitality on the slums. So Pamela, because of that hospitality this person, not only the event them and realized talking good about you, He saved me from the fire.
So how am I because of the generosity
Salah has another main event of the Sharia has another married or have you been generous to your guests is when you generous to your guests, that's also part of our Yeah, captivating people to Islam. And I'm sure you probably experienced that you saw we invite non Muslim into your place. And these people walk out of your house with a very good impression of Islam because of your generosity. So Panama law, he said many times, that the Arab politicians are Muslims are very generous people when it comes to hospitality. Hamden. Yes, isn't the politician descender owner politicians? No, of course, but you know,
they give a lot of lip service lip service. Maybe our caregiver solar woods, you know, is this an Arabic? So lip service, but somehow it's a good impression that people have that. That Muslims Mashallah, when it comes to hospitality, they're very generous. They're very good. It's a good impression to leave behind. It's not worth the end of day. Because Islam doesn't like stinginess establishment like selfishness, Islam came to
get rid of status, stinginess and selfishness. Eliminate the era of your life, because stinginess and selfishness creates a lot of other evil actions. Because of selfishness, people are envious. This has been me because of selfishness because of selfishness. People are dying from poverty because of selfishness. People become very greedy because of selfishness. There's a lot of implications. There's a lot of bad things that emerge out of selfishness. Islam wants to come and eliminate that if not in a minute Elisa restrainer.
And that's why we saw some teachers had to restrain our souls. Everyone's born with a generous sort of them, and a selfish sorrow. But Islam wants your generous side to ever take yourself aside. So Annalisa Lawson once again, he says man can human rubella William
Whoever believes in the laws of Ireland they have gentlemen be generous to your guests to remember that one. Next time. We have a guest on
Be generous to him, even at least with a nice word.
That's the minimum.
A welcoming face.
How ugly is that when you get someone that
you know will come to you? That's not nice. At least that's the minimum generosity they should be offering tigges minimum generosity, they should be offering your guest his nice words and beautiful face, and also says a smallest sadhaka
this to the average person, what about your guests?
Last Words, and then discomfort your guests. May Allah subhanaw taala make us from amongst those who listen to the Father listen to him our lives our den makers from the true believers act upon a man and live a man and implement a man and apply a man in their life. And this is part of Amen. Measure you a man with a measurement of a man one of them is being generous to guests.
Measure email with the measurement of email, what's the measurement of email is that you are generous to your guests. So be generous in sha Allah, Allah subhanaw taala Roger all desire Kamala Harris a particular public Machado Allah Allah Allah and stuff Raka wanna to booty like
every Muslim dreams to be