Sarah Sultan – Juz 13 Qur’an 30 for 30 Season 3

Sarah Sultan
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the use of soda and butter in context with Jesus, as well as the history of complaints against Allah and the use of words like "will" and "will" in various situations. They also touch on the use of HRM and the importance of remaining true to oneself. The speakers emphasize the need to use the Prophet's advice and pursue spiritual growth, as well as the use of slife in Islam and the natural desire to be reunited with loved ones. They also mention the difficulty of understanding the clinical experience of trauma and loss.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah cats. Everyone. Welcome back to Quran 32 for 30 was Menachem the last summer salam ala and he will be here woman why Allah

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hamdulillah Grameen we are excited and blessed to have with us Mr. Samsel THON today and hamdulillah sister Sarah, of course, being one of the original co authors of the trauma series. If you have not seen the trauma series, it is one of the most important, you know, just collections of work that we have and handle a lot of rhyming at Yochanan I know that a lot of you have joined Yaqeen recently started consuming the content recently. And you may have missed it but look up the trauma series. SR sada Can you talk about it just for a quick 30 seconds one minute inshallah? Sure, sure. Does that can Lafayette have handled the trauma series, it's been a privilege to work on it really, for me and

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sister network, it was almost like another child's for us, and how the left the intention of the trauma series is, was to really acknowledge the fact that we go through difficulties in our lives, we go through struggles, and sometimes those struggles can have a very strong impact on our faith. And so how can we heal and how can we grow? And how can we recover from these experiences while using a less passata as our stronghold and our faith as well as psychological concepts to be to begin the recovery process inshallah.

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Inshallah, the, the team will put it in the link in Charlottetown in the comments so that everyone can go check it out as well. And shall let's add, and we had some Hello, we had a webinar, Jeff up though I'm not sure if you remember, we had a webinar together on grief, you know, in the COVID era, and that was probably one of the better webinars that we had, you know, a very deep webinar And subhanAllah SR sada has always brought in quite a bit comes a lot of richness to this to this discussion. And we also learned something about you that your mother is from France right? Yes, she is.

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So we've been talking about the Egyptian so who what is French Soho look like

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well, you know, I don't think my mom ever experienced a you know, a French civil war because she converted in America

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so so but it would definitely include croissants naturally and a lot of butter like what else right but

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anything anything with water but we typically do more of an American soldier

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so you don't you're not going to defend the Egyptians who are that even though we I mean you know my anything full full I'm not a huge NFL Tamia fan but but full is is a go to is first of all, I gotta defend that one. We love we love food here too. We establish that I'm the known chef. He's say hello loves carbs. Apparently. I discovered that recently. It was x if any of you have not seen it on Instagram the meeting rice if we haven't thought I was shocked

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that he would you would love a french french food right? Yeah.

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Yeah, well, your croissant

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maybe the croissant you know it has to be like you know gluten free you know?

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Like the rice

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sorry croissant anymore.

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Right happy to have you sister sada and honestly, so today, we are we have a treat today. Subhanallah and that is we're going to be diving into soda use of from multiple perspectives through the use of is of course,

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a deep, deep, deep Surah that has plenty of healing and lessons for us but denying to Allah. And I think that's what makes us Harada obviously the perfect guest for us here to discuss you know, trauma in this in the story of use of it is Saddam, my portion on Surah Yusuf is actually focusing on the least covered element of his life, which is the very last part of his life when he's making your hat when it's all said and done. So because of that, inshallah Tada we're actually going to go in a different order today. So Sheikh Abdullah will start us off in sha Allah to Allah, then sister sada and then I will speak about the last year as of use of honey, his setup. So sure from the lunch

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Allah Subhana Allah take us away.

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So now I have to hurry to get to Mr. Lau salatu salam ala Rasulillah he while early he was a happy woman, well, I'm about to do one beautiful thing about the Quran in general, is that it's from Allah subhanho wa taala. And that he is the All Knowing the all wise particularly these two names are very impactful because Allah knows what is what will be in everything that happens the hypotheticals but then he appropriates that knowledge at the right time. And all of that is done for us to be individuals that turn to him voluntarily in times of hardship. And we see with this sort of use of La salaam Subhanallah him and his father Jaco by this time that they were both prophets and they

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were both human

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With Jacoba Lai Salam I want to touch on a particular aspect of yaku on A salaam as a father as a father that loves His children, as a father that loves Yusuf and as a father that loves the youngest son as well then yeah, I mean, Benjamin when he was disclosed, I mean, there's a story of use of a salon particularly but when use to find a salon was granted after, you know, being thrown in the welcome as brothers. And then after getting in the castle and then after being, you know, try showing you persuaded and seduced then Subhanallah being in jail and Subhanallah being someone that was of a level of is mashallah to medical law, having the position that he had after he was

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exonerated when looking at this

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subpoena low

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aspect of use of our de salaam of Yaqoob hearing about Binyamin when he was told that Benjamin was in custody, because he apparently stole a bowl or dish Subhanallah even I sure he mentioned very beautifully on this dua that Yaqoob at Islam made upon when his children, his sons came back because you sort of told them to go back and tell his father, your father what happened with Binyamin so when he heard this Subhanallah the children Subhan Allah when they told him Yeah, goodbye they Salam expressed a level of of sadness. And they saw this. So when Subhan Allah, Allah subhanaw taala gets a little descriptive on what happened with the alcool by de Salam when he says in verse number 84,

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what he says what's the word Allah and whom we'll call it yet as a use of will be able to say now who mean and whose needs are who are calling for who for who are calling, Allah subhanaw taala says here, he turned away from them ie the children after they told him the news about their son particularly staying in custody because he apparently still right then yeah, I mean, he turned away from them saying, oh, Joseph, his eyes went white with grief and he was filled with sorrow will be able to a now who made an Hosni for what Kelvin. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says here that his eyes turn white of sorrow and sadness, okay, because of what he heard. But what's interesting is two

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things I want to capitalize on here. The first thing Allah says, What tell when Allah and whom he turned away, he turned away from after hearing this news, how many times when we see you know, someone has told about a relative that has they're in the hospital, they think Allah's decided to take them and you know, the parent will turn away and then they may put their hands their head in their hands or something like this. So let us paint that picture that he turned away. And at the very end, he shows that he you know, he was crying.

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And he was coughing and Killeen means to hold yourself from showing your anger apparently or sadness apparent. Don't make it so apparent to people. So holding it with holding it for a better purpose. And we're going to see what that purpose is the first right after that is what the children say to him. Or the inners that follow to Allah He typical use of habitat Hakuna haram one oh takuna mean and Halle King. They say, by God, you're going to ruin your health if you do not stop thinking of Joseph or even die or to come in handy King. Dad, relax, relax, you're going to kill yourself thinking about Joseph, you're going to kill yourself thinking about this situation. Relax. So his

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children, the ones that plotted against Yusuf Alayhi salaam, this is what they're telling him. But then Subhanallah when you can imagine they're probably speaking to him and he's turned away from them, although I know, but we know that he said Tawana and him so he's turned away from them. They say this to Him. What does he say here and this is what I want to capitalize on. All in a screw Bothy, where his knee in Allah will Allah may Allah He mela Tottenham Yaqoob says I only complain my grief and sorrow to Allah and I know from Allah that which you know not. What I want to talk about here in particular is the cancer of complaining. We as human beings Subhanallah love to complain.

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Why? Because it's easy. If we want to say something, someone is not doing something or something that is disadvantages to someone else at their expense. We will talk about it to others, and it may be a form of backbiting. It could fall into a form of backbiting. And that's where it can be dangerous. When we complain we have to realize that it's human, it's human to complain about something. But Subhanallah that complaint is at the its pinnacle, when it's a complaint to Allah subhanaw taala we see that the prophets they would complain to Allah, as when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was coming back from thought if he went to go give them down and they

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rejected Him threw rocks at him to the degree that it was mentioned that his sandals, his his feet was wet.

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* and that his sandals for lack of better words, you know soggy from the blood that was coming down for him. So Allahu alayhi wa salam until he ended up at an orchard in orchard garden that was owned by Aruba in Shaban Rabea and he Subhan Allah at that point, there is a Hadith that is mentioned with the prophets of Allah there was some that made a long DUA and this dua there must have been, where he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Allah whom you like, like us good luck for what he will get let he let he will Hawaii alumnus Yahama Rohini hon masala Fein or Antara being just this portion. He says oh to you, my lord, I complain of my weakness, lack of support and

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humiliation. I complaint a school but for Kuwaiti, a school which is complaint. I complained for a lack of support and humiliation that I am made to receive. You are the Most Compassionate, The Merciful and You are the Lord of the week because at that point, he is weak. At that point, he's physically weak. And then the Dow was just rejected by a whole village of people and five. They were literally expelled from thought for being thrown stones out and cursed that Subhanallah but then he complained to Allah subhanho wa Taala he didn't complain to anyone else. We see the prophets complained to Allah in the times of hardship, as Nora said, a name of Ruben fantasy. That no he said

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I am I am overpowered so help me. Then Allah subhanaw taala sent down the rain as we talked about the previous days. So this complaining to Allah is worship, as far as I'm not sure even mentions, because he says I complain my grief and sorrow, my grief and sorrow Bothy or his knee. And as mentioned the husband is that which happens after the actual okay or after the actual situation event that takes place. And then he says, you know, when when Allah He malattie moon, remember Yaqoob was a prophet. So he knows what he's going to he knows that there may be a footage that comes and help that comes from them. But what we want to capitalize on here is the complaint to Allah

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subhanho wa taala. When we as human beings complain about something, we automatically should ask the question, what are we going to do in regards to that complaint? If you hear your friend complaint outside of the masjid, or at home or in a gathering, the next question should be okay, so what's the action plan? What are we going to do about this? You know, what are we planning to do about this complaint? Because we want it to be something that's beneficial. Scott has mentioned that it's okay to complain if you are venting to someone that you trust. But hopefully, it's someone that can help make a difference and make a change in your current state in the way that you're feeling. Because

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complaint after complaint can even lead to

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bad health within an individual, psychologically, even and spiritually definitely to where one can complain and not even trust in Allah subhanho wa taala. And it can even lead to Yes, it can lead to despair. It can lead to asking Allah why, but allowing that complaint to be something that's beneficial, and not allowing that complaint to be cancerous because when people hear someone that they respect, complain, it leaves an open door for them to complain. When fathers and mothers complain, we see the children may complain as well. But most importantly, brothers and sisters want to leave with this small benefit that we see with Jaco by de Salaam. After he complained there was

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an action plan, there was something he wanted to do, which was the next verse in verse number 87, where he told his children, my sons go and seek the news of Joseph and his brother and do not despair of God's mercy. Do not despair of God's mercy. Only disbelievers despair of God's mercy. So he's telling them to go do something about this, but at the same time, never give up. Don't give up on Allah subhanho wa Taala so let's remember that whenever we feel a level of complaints and we want to complain to someone or something about something, we should ask ourselves, what are we going to do about it to make the situation better, and none better other than better than mashallah, here we

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have an actual therapist here, you know, one that hears complaints in that complaint and shall as a bad debt from you, and the bad for her to help inshallah. So that's what I want to mention to Charlemagne lots of points out there make any complaint that we have a means of worship by calling on him and trusting him and taking the means from the manifestation of those on the spirit that can help us with that desert located.

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Just like in Lafayette, and for that beautiful reflection

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was an analysis about the scenario out of Saudi Lao on it and he was so happy human Willa, and my bad. I wanted to touch on in sha Allah, the very beginning of just 13 were, you know, should have dilla touched on all of the different experiences that use of holidays that I had, before we see, you know, the, the culmination of his story, all of the different traumatic experiences he he experienced. And then in the beginning of just 13, we see this culmination where he is exonerated, right where he is released from jail, where justice has finally been achieved at Humber lab and the theme that I want to

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to touch on today, he is on how to reflect on difficult circumstances, through a lens of goodness and an opportunity for growth and to thrive, as we see in the story of use of ACM. And in the field of psychology, this is something called post traumatic growth. And it's, it's a real phenomenon SubhanAllah. And we see this, we witnessed this in the story of Prophet Yusuf on a sedan, this ability to thrive in the aftermath of a traumatic event, or in his case, multiple traumatic events, to experience a positive psychological change as a result of a struggle and to go from deep pain, to strength.

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And so you might think, as you hear this, that well, Prophet Yusuf is a prophet, right at acnm. And, you know, I'm a regular human being, I can't be expected to grow through difficult experiences in the same way that a prophet would write, and maybe not to the same extent, because the extent that he grows is amazing. But I want to challenge that thought process, because there was a study done that found that nearly 50% of trauma survivors exhibit post traumatic growth after a traumatic event, nearly 50%. And these are regular people like you and me SubhanAllah. And so we can see that this is actually a possibility. And so I'm going to touch on the five qualities that research has

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found to be characteristics of post traumatic growth. And as I touch on them, I want you to reflect on the struggles that you have had in life, the struggles that you know, even just a recent struggle, it doesn't have to be a traumatic experience, but just to struggle, and see if any of these qualities resonates with you see, if you can actually identify that you have gained some of these qualities through some of the struggles that you have gone through. And then I want to touch on a couple of key events towards the end of the story of use of funny setup that really show how he, how he emulates the these characteristics, and how we can try to gain these characteristics in

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our lives as well inshallah. So the five characteristics of post traumatic growth are number one, a greater appreciation of life. You know, a lot of times after you've been through something difficult, suddenly, the mundane things that you never thought to look for in your life seemed like blessings.

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Number two is an increased closeness in relationships, this this prioritization of significant people in our lives. Number three is the identification of new possibilities. Sometimes there are possibilities and opportunities in front of us that we don't notice, until there is the risk of them being removed.

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The fourth is increased personal strength. Sometimes, you can't imagine that you could go through what you are currently going through and survive, you would think that that would be impossible for you, but it isn't. Right. And so sometimes future challenges don't seem as daunting because of that. And then number five is greater spiritual development, this an increased connection with a less path data and prioritizing a relationship with a less path data. And so in the story of use, if it is one of the places where we really see

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some of these qualities is right at the start of just 13. And if 50 for the king after use of Hadees that was released from jail, the king calls him over and he says, Today, you are highly esteemed and fully trusted by us. SubhanAllah. Right. And after all, the trauma that use if I use them endured, you know, in this situation, what do you imagine that he would do? You know, do you imagine that he would just kind of shy me thank him, that he might, you know, cower away, and everything because a lot of times events in our lives can make us feel really shaken. But what does use of HRM? Do? He actually advocates for himself? So how am I use about SLM? Now, I have 55 proposes, put me in charge

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of the storehouses of the land, or I am honest and knowledgeable. He is telling the king that I am adept, I am reliable, I can do this. You somebody said I didn't doubt his capability. He never gave up. He was he in this situation. He's taking steps to continue to create positive change in his life. And he ended up becoming minister of the most important department at that time in Egypt, because it was a time of famine. So to be in charge of managing food, during a time of famine is an incredible position. Right? So how long and so for us in our lives. Think about when you go through a difficult experience. Sometimes it can shake the way that you view yourself and lead to a sense of

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self doubt. But instead, consider the strengths and the qualities that you needed to get through this situation and see yourself through that lens in the same way that you suffered a SAM saw himself. You may never have believed that you could survive what you're surviving right now but you will

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are. And that capability is something that you're going to carry forward with you, and Chama.

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And then I wanted to focus on the event of use of five days that I'm seeing his brothers. So these are the brothers who attempted who had the intention to kill him and then change their minds and put him in a well, right. These are the brothers who started this, this cascade of of difficult events and traumatic events in his life. He sees them. And they don't recognize him, but he recognizes them. And as the story unfolds, us if it Saddam is in a position of power over his brothers, as they were once in a position of power over him, and he now has a choice in this moment, he can avenge himself. He has the power to do that. But look at what he does instead. When they finally recognize

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him, they said, Is that really you use if and use advice that says, I am use it and this is my brother referring to Binyamin. Allah has truly been gracious to us. Whoever is mindful of Allah, whoever has Dukla, whoever's God conscious, and whoever is patient has sought them. Certainly Allah never fails to reward the good tours. And it goes on and uses tells his brothers Subhan Allah, there is no blame on you today. May Allah forgive you. He is the Most Merciful of the Merciful. In this one interaction, use of ideas that are manifest every single one of the characteristics of post traumatic growth. We can see the strength imagine the strength it takes to wait to see your abusers

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come and you have power over them in the situation. And you don't you don't claim that power. Instead, what does he do? He takes this idea of new possibilities in life being one of these characteristics. What does he do? He says I am use if he reclaims his name, he reclaims his identity. He was once a namelessly if he was once a child abandoned in a well as something of no value. And now what does he do? He reclaims who he is, as Yusef as someone who has been supported, and blessed by ALLAH SubhanA data, as someone who has stuck with and sub somebody who's mindful of Allah, somebody who's patient, and as someone whose efforts never go unseen by his work SubhanAllah.

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And then the appreciation of a life of life or first and foremost appreciation of Allah some hard data, where the Prophet Yusuf Ali said, I'm one of the most profound things in his story, like Jakarta, Allah was saying about the example of the prophets. He never attributed wrong or evil or blame to Allah subhanaw taala.

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Everything that he went through was never widely, he was at peace with the fact that he was being tested because he understood that this test was from ALLAH SubhanA, Allah and the merciful, that because it was from Allah, there was some sort of fear, there was some sort of goodness in it, and that he was being challenged, and that through this, these struggles, he gained strength, and he gained opportunities for growth that he wouldn't have otherwise had Panama.

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And then finally, we see this prioritization of relationships with others and spiritual growth. One of the most profound manifestations of spiritual growth in our lives, is in how we deal with others, especially the people in our lives who are hard to deal with. And so the Prophet Yusuf advice that I'm in this moment, he understands that his brothers were being tested and that they had lost against the whispers of shaitan and their own desires. And he didn't seek revenge against them, because he also understood that he needed this test, to become who he was meant to be. And so in our lives, right, we see this example of use of is that um, didn't allow his brother's actions to

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determine his reactions. He stayed true to who he was to himself. He didn't allow other people to determine what he was going to do, how he was going to act, he didn't give them the power that they don't deserve. Instead, he focused his energy toward growth and toward a relationship with Allah Subhana Allah. And so knowing that through your struggles, your circumstances don't define you. Prophet Yusuf Hadees that I'm didn't define himself as a slave boy that he wants was a somebody abandoned by others. He defined himself as a servant of Allah subhanaw taala as a recipient of the blessings of Allah Tada and knowing the promise of Allah's character, that every single good that he

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did, was never going to be unseen by Allah. And so you have the opportunity in the situation that you're going through, to think as a is this something that I'm just enduring? Or is Allah's path that are positioning me for something greater?

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And you have the opportunity to decide who am I at my core, that I am a servant of Allah subhanaw taala I am a beloved creation of Allah Spadina I am someone honored by Allah through guidance through the to this faith, and that no one and nothing can ever take that away from you. So I asked Allah Subhana Allah to bless you all, and grant you all peace and healing and growth during this blessed month.

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through any hardship that you're facing, just like my fate, I'm Monica lucky to have had a lot

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if we would have actually planned how we were going to build this, this, this reflection, we could not have done it better everything that you just mentioned,

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Sister salam ala spots I bless you actually leads perfectly into this final draft that I'm covering Subhan Allah and it was not even planned, at least by us in that way. So I actually want to go to the very end of the surah. And this is where we have a different side of use of how to use Salam and that, you know, when you think of use of Islam, you think of the young boy that's thrown into the well, what does a use of look like, at 120 years old? Right sitting on the throne, what is use of it snom as an old man, look like who has already been given everything that you could want in this life but has endured, what you know, multiple people would not endure, in their own in their, in their

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collective lifespans and use of it Sam has endured so much, and Subhanallah, it goes just to this throughout his when you go to verse 101, but I'll be Tate and emunah work, oh my Lord, surely you have granted me authority. So he mentioned a favor of Allah subhanaw taala, he doesn't mention that you granted me beloved, that you tested me with trials that you tested me with the well that you tested me with the prison. Now because that your app, you know, we already see use of high sound when he's when he's put on the throne. And he does not attribute any of those hardships, as was mentioned to Allah subhanaw taala. He's thanking Allah for getting him out of that. And he's not

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mentioning the hardship that his brothers put him through to them. Right. This is another level of use of Iceland. This is after having settled on the throne for two decades. And he says, I'll be teaching him and as he's reflecting on life, my Lord, you gave me kingdom, you gave me dominion, you gave me authority. Well, I lumped elements that we did a hadith and you taught me the interpretation of dreams. As Pamela he does not go through the hardship that was caused through that. But he mentions these two prominent blessings that you granted me authority you granted me kingdom and the end of my life. You taught me the interpretation of dreams faulted us somehow it will help and

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Tillet II for dunya and akhira, Originator of the heavens and the earth, you are my Wali, you are my guardian in this life and in the next and some of the scholars Say Subhan Allah first he only mentioned the blessings. And then he only mentioned his consistent companion. Use of Hardee's lamb had a lot of turnover in his life, right? There were a lot of different people around him during his lifespan, right? I mean, think about who he wasn't with in the well, who he was with when he was a slave, the loneliness of that experience who he was with his fellow prisoners, I mean, each one of those experiences, the faces are switching, right, the people that are involved in his life are

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switching. And of course, more than that when he was a child, and he was the beloved son of Jaco, Barney Saddam and he had that that favor and he had all of that happening. So all of this has been switching on him and he mentions his consistent companion. So he mentioned his blessings only that he mentioned his consistent companion, ALLAH SubhanA, WA Tada and Tillet II for dunya and akhira. You are my consistent companion, you are my companion, my Wali, my beloved one, my guardian, in this dunya and in the Hereafter, so he's, he's now making a wish and this your be my consistent companion in the hereafter as well. Just as you are my consistent companion in this life be my consistent

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companion in the hereafter Allah be my consistently my guardian in the hereafter as well. And then too often, Himmelstein Manuel helped me beside him, let me die as a muslim to be joined by the righteous ones, meaning let the other companions that will join me them in this next transition of mine into the next life, be the righteous ones, let it be the slaughter hate. Now Subhanallah there's so much to unpack here. And I could spend honestly an hour with this job alone. But I want to speak to just the part the part about him wishing for death here or seemingly wishing for death. And hopefully sister sada can shed some light on this as well. Use of it Saddam has been according

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to the, you know, fustian who are obviously basing this primarily on some of the narrations that come from these ideas. You know, as far as the timespans are concerned, he has remained alive according to many of these narrations for about 24 years on the throne 23 years in to that Jacobian even Saddam passed away. So he lost his father. Okay, his father passes away. And we know that Jacobian is

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Um, you know, the apparent suggestions that he did pass away before his children because Allah Subhana Allah tells us about the death of EcoVadis. And I'm going to show her that have already are proven abilities, but at but even he might have been doing them in Burundi. I don't

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know why he noticed that he was have, you know, Hawaiki they want to have the homes they want. So the end of the life of Jacoba Islam is actually inserted Buckler where Allah is giving us the scene of the appleberry Islam speaking to his sons for one last time, right, and, you know, impressing upon them the necessity to believe in Allah subhanaw taala and to die only as Muslims. So this this is a point in use of slife ARIA Salam where he no longer has his father and his father was pained by the separation from his son, all of those years and now they just enjoyed these two decades together of NEMA of blessing everyone under the kingdom of use of it his Salam under his leadership in Egypt,

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and he's attained everything that one could want and so, what more does he have left in this life? And so the question becomes, was he wishing for death? Was he wishing for death and this is where you have some some powerful acquire some powerful things from the scholars. But Tada Rahim Allah Allah he says, He said, Let me a terminal moto Adam, but learn 1,000,000,001 a Euro who is use of it his Salam Hina is a camera tarihinde Yan y Jumia Allah Who shum Estacado the party, Robbie here zodat he said, you know, people don't wish for death prophets or people who are not prophets, except for use of it his setup, once the blessings were complete for him, everything had come back together

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for him. And at that point, a staff got Italica it'll be isosure. He missed his Lord, he, he was missing the presence of his Lord, he now was turning towards the hereafter, and desiring the hereafter. There's a powerful saying from side of the law, called the law of time and what I mean by law, he said lay a terminal motor law, the law says that only three people wish for death, Roger and Jay Don't be my burden melt. He said a person who is ignorant about that which comes after death. So someone who has not really considered the seriousness of what comes after death, or what comes after death. And so, you know, they they're thinking about the hardships of this life or what's happening

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in life and they would prefer the uncertain to the certain because the certain has not been, you know what they want it okay the certain being disliked to them the uncertain being, life after death. Most people of course, fear going from the certain to the uncertain. They fear what comes after death, but here he's talking about a person jacket would be my bad note, a person who is ignorant about that which comes after death on Olajuwon, if hit Roman Abdullah here Zoda or a person who's running away from the decree of Allah Spano Tata who's fleeing from the decree of Allah. So obviously, this is referring to once again, the seriousness of hardship, but moreso of you know the

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fear of what is to come next in this life. So either a person who is, you know, who's ignorant about what comes after death or a person who fears what is to come next in this life. Oh Mushtaq would have been the law here Zoda or someone who is missing. You know, Allah subhanaw taala who is who is someone who loves a lost parent I deeply and who wants to be with Allah azza wa jal. Now that's the same from Sahel, the Allah Tada. I know and I want to unpack that briefly with Sister sada of course. But, you know, the majority of the scholars they say in the use of it is that I'm looking at a man and motivating them at a manner without added it's not. It's important here to mention that

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use of it is the apparent of this is that he wasn't actually wishing for death per se. He was wishing for death upon Islam. So it wasn't the idea of death itself. He wasn't saying oh Allah take me now. But rather, staying to the covenant that his father mentioned to him Do not die except as Muslims and use of it his Salaam is asking Allah subhanaw taala either judge or the telephony must be man, that when my time comes, let me die as a muslim, let me die as a muslim. And so the combination of this would be that use of it has Saddam is at the end of his life. Yusuf Ali Salam has experienced the blessings and trials of this life, he only chooses to mention the blessings

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here. Use of it Islam has experienced the exchange of many companions in his life, he only chooses to mention one companion, being Allah subhanho to Allah and the desire to be with Allah subhanaw taala to die in a way that's pleasing to Him, and to only be surrounded by the righteous companions that have gone ahead of him. And of course, don't you think that he was missing his father? Right, that part of this I mean, the intense love that we see between the globe and use of it, he said, Don't you think he was missing his father as well? You know, subhanAllah so many of us have experienced this when you

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lose a parent or you lose someone that's so beloved to you. The sweetness of life is gone right the sweetness of this life is gone and so don't you think that for him this was also part of his his your out when he says at HEC Neva Sana Hain right to follow and to be joined with the sign of Hain and of course we learn this from the prophets of Allah Allah and he was salam who when he was passing away I saw the low tide and she says that the prophets i Some said three times Allah whom I feel that he can Allah Allah Hungerford rafiqul Allahumma Filati Allah, O Allah, you know, want the highest companion, I want the highest companion, I want the highest companion this was the prophets

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like sometimes way, of course of antiquity for dunya with Africa I want to be with my Woody in dunya and Africa I want to be with Allah subhanaw taala I want the highest companion and of course the prophets I some also mentioned Mandarin and Allah Allah and you want it to be with those who Allah was pleased that he wanted to be with the prophets, the Sunday have been the sign of Hema, hacer una without he got off here, but what a great, you know, group of people to be amongst what great company to have in the hereafter. So you see the Subhan Allah with use of any history at this point now the old use of at least 120 years old on the throne having gone through blessing and trial and

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what does he desire and of course the prophets like some said not to wish for death right but instead to wish for death to come at you when you're in the best state naman Allah will have a team that actions are by their ending, what you the right to be nasty fitna. And if things are going to become very difficult if there's going to be a fitna to where my faith might be compromised, then take me back, Oh Allah, without being amongst those that are tried in their faith. So it's wishing for a good ending, not wishing for an imminent ending. And that is, that is actually a very important point here. There's nothing to suggest that use of Einstein was wishing for his ending to

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be imminent now, but rather Yalla, you've given me what you've given me in this life. Now I seek what I seek in the Hereafter. And I know, you know, Sister Sato, we're blessed to have you here at home did love and I mean, obviously, I'm going to want, check out those comments on this as well. But obviously, you know, these types of texts are not meant to diminish the feelings that some people might have where they want to, they want to leave this life and the way that certain people start to incline towards that due to difficulty. It's not to diminish that at all. Because we do know that there are multiple texts to draw from, that the prophets I sound was in fact showing

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empathy towards that Sahabi terminal meltwater. And that you're wishing for death, when I'm with you don't wish for death. But instead, ask Allah Subhana Allah that you live when it's best, and you leave when it's best that he takes you in the best state of things. And with use of it. So now we see the more optimistic side of that right, where he's experienced the blessing of this life. And he wants the greater blessing after the blessing of this life. So how would you? How would you reconcile all of this? And what would be some helpful tips that we take from this from this experience? No, it's It's such a such a beautiful point to Pamela, because I actually, when I hear

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that diet, it actually strikes me as normalizing an aspect of, of grief that even you know, even at this beautiful point in his life, where things have come to fruition, he's his life is filled with so many blessings. But it's also filled with a loss, an intense loss. And, you know, keep in mind that throughout his youth, there was also that loss of not being able to access his father not having a family. And now he has lost his his father. And part of grief is a very natural desire to be reunited with a loved one. Right. And then also in this verse, there's the natural desire to be united with Alyssa paradata, as well. Right, and how beautifully that that's intertwined in in this

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diet, you know, and then also the fact that he asks Ellis Partha, to allow him to die as a righteous Muslim, right? He he is a prophet who has gone through such tremendous change and instability in his life, if anyone would know how easy it is for a switch to happen. So suddenly, it would be used if it Saddam Cipolla, right, where we're from one moment, he's in the arms of a loving a loving Father, to the next in a well and asleep, right, and that and then in one moment, he's in prison, and the next key is in the highest position in the land. And so what certainty do we have that we are faithful now? But in the next moment, will we be right and so there, it's a beautiful diet, that's

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something that we should really

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make sure we embody in our own diet and chulmleigh and that's, that's kind of what really stood out to me. But also just the validation that I think even

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And you know, this is an optimistic diet and it's a beautiful diet, but you hear the sadness and the grief laced in it. And so they are not opposed to one another. You can be sad and grateful at the same time you can be grieving and grateful at the same time, you can wish to be reunited with your loved one while being grateful that you have the opportunity to live now and even perform more so the kajaria for that loved one Subhanallah right so there they can all be intertwined and that's what I was hearing when I when I was listening to you speaks exactly the offense Carla by the way, verse 109. So that was one on one verse 109 ELIZA just says what a doubt would ask you not to hire

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on the Lilina tackle FL SRP surely the eternal home of the year after it's far better for those people of tequila for those people who are mindful of Allah and this was of course you know, something we've been covering in the last few

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last year that that you know Febi daddy configure that's what you find happiness in this way you find joy and that's where you launch towards. And so use of it Sam also was not deceived by the throne of this world and diluted from the the ultimate pursuit of the throne in the hereafter alone I mean males pants I grant that to Seattle I mean check them though any takeaway message? No, no, mashallah is very, very nice. We may have to transcribe sister side as the five points how it was summed up in use of statement Michelle was beautiful, just mind blowing. Mind blowing Mashallah. Tabata cola.

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I agree. I come off eight on May Allah bless you, sister Sana, we really enjoyed having you here at home, the law giving us those those dimensions, not going to ask you to turn into a paper but I'm not going to not ask you to turn into a paper.

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We'll see if we transcribe it and make it easy. And actually not just camera. I talked to Neto about this. I talked to her about doing a paper on use of batteries. And I'm an historian, countless so so who knows maybe, maybe we will until after we do what we're working on right now and Chatlin. So yesterday, we told everyone to pressure shift most of the pharma we're going to gently tell the audience as well to pressure SR silences from Angela to get a paper done on this topic as

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well. And notice if Abdullah did not say my part should be transcribed, I heard

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your part should be transcribed.

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So that's, that's great. That's great. I appreciate

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everyone a really enjoyable session. Most parents have blessed us all with that with that faith and that strong longing and may Allah make us from his earlier in this life and in the next line that many people must follow that kind of you know how to do it was like the Marine sulamani come to life

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don't we look online and you start to explore some ik psychology it's the writings can be very dense. And you know, I'm I've been a clinician for a long time you have been also reading it. It's very complicated. It's very, very hard to understand. And so I one day I was driving I was like, No, Allah just show me an easy way for us to link psychology and trauma. And I was like, spondylotic sorts of Doha is the perfect example. And it's so easy for people to understand, you know, and it it really it hits trauma from a clinical perspective on all different levels. And so we are so happy for people to be able to see that throughout the series. Yeah.

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