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Successful Parenting #10

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Sajid Ahmed Umar

Channel: Sajid Ahmed Umar

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Dealing with Older Children

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Go to the story of new Halle salaam Anissa. In this story, we dealing with an adult boy, an adult child, who thinks he knows more than his far. Right. The punishment has arrived and knew how to he Salem calls out to his son, yerbabuena your camera and Oh, my dear son,

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come on to the boardroom? Is

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this how you deal with an adult? You can't scope the adult child because he's your child. You can't say get onto the board? What's wrong with you?

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You're a daft kid.

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How many times do you have to be told? When are you going to learn the waters coming? He doesn't have the speech with his son. You're dealing with an adult who has his own intellectual entity. He feels he's an independent. He's not defined by your mother is not defined by your father. Right? So So what is new doing new is being a companion to his a community to his son? No, he's teaching us that when the child is at this level, you have to be a companion in a community. Because human beings are communal by design. If your home treats him as a third class citizen, he's going to look for another home. He's going to look for another community. And the problem you're trying to fix

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will only get worse because maybe he has a problem now but he prays tomorrow he'll stop praying and let Maybe the day after he leaves Islam. You got to mitigate the problem. Right mitigate the harm of mitigate. This is parenting. The life of this world gives you days that are for you and days that are against you. You got to be adaptable. Was your parental approach. This is what we learned in the story of Noah. He's beautifully addressing your son. Oh, my dear son, get on the boat. What is the son do in his arrogancy goes? Don't worry about me. I know you don't know. Right? I know. You don't know you see that high mountain. I'm going to get on top of it. They actually Mooney Minalima is

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going to protect me from the water. Does the father get angry? No.

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She's mightier son, law simile over 11am idsn. There's no protection today, except for the one that receives Allah's mess. And to get that mercy, you have to be on the box.

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He still he's being a community to his child. Child is old data at a young age. There's a difference between zero to seven, and a difference between seven to 14. And the difference between 14 to 21. And that's the scholars talk about this iLab Husaberg. What the GU seven?

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What raffia Kusa, right. We love him for seven years, then disciplining for seven years and be your companion with him for several years. Right. And that's why it's never never came with a checklist in terms of parenting. Ravi told us what parenting isn't and left us to be adaptable in our approach, depending on the space and place that we're raising our children in our culture, our circumstances and so on and so forth.