Hijab Subjugation Or Libaration

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When I will be learning,

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de murshida Masha Allah, Allahu la sharika

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wash, Mohammed and I will do a solo.

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All Praise to Allah subhanho wa Taala

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and all the Peace and blessings upon His Prophet peace be upon him

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the best guidance for Prophet Mohammed Salah La la la wa sallam

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as we discussed the first part

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of

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how to choose a partner

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and I was thinking

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the chair has finished that perk

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I mean want to listen to the second part

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for the brothers

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How do they choose this pose? But he told me not yet

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is still there is some points and some and some tips. He's going to give it to the girls.

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And I asked him last night

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Can you please tell me that man who you advise him

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to take the flower

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but he refused to tell me which part of Somalia he came.

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He came from but he refused.

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Anyway, I don't want to take much of your time.

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I don't want to take the time of the shade. Because you come to listen to Shaq sorry.

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Not to Abdulkadir.

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Yeah. All right.

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Welcome

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to complete the first part. And tell us about the second part as well. The boys are waiting their tips.

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And as I always say for all the brothers,

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brothers say

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and all our shapes and all the good brothers who are in this field, may Allah subhanaw taala protect them and guide them

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and make us those who benefit of what they are teaching us. Please brush us a dragon.

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Please welcome

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Sharon Leon fusina women say Tia Medina

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the woman usually Farren Taji De La Jolla, Masha

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Masha, Allah illallah wa houda sharika

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Why should one know Mohammed Abu hora? sudo?

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Yeah, yo Han larina Amano. telefone la ha ha Pato potty he moeten illa Anta Muslim moon

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what's up Hello? Hello. DITA, sir I don't want to be one or ham in Aloha, Canada. Kumar akima.

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Yeah, Johan larina la waku Colin city they use the common American way of a local woman

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who falls and

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undermine the federal Academy a common law. Hayden howdy howdy Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wish

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to have Hakuna Matata in VEDA livedata Maura Nakamura, Tina.

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Now, the brothers German law Hey,

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as you can all remember what I stated yesterday.

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The title of this talk

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a job on the hijab of Muslim women

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and

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Usually I like to surprise

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season

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I like to surprise the organizers

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and change things sometimes last minutes

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I like surprises.

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So, they asked me since they already

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reprint or pre print

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the CDs and the DVDs of the talk I should address a bit about a job before I get into the subject inshallah, which is how to choose a life partner.

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I don't think any Muslim and his sister or any brother was sitting here or Muslim who is not aware of rulings of hijab we all know his job is much

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we all know his job is

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my only concern is the hijab does some of the sisters in the other corner in other places that have been

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I have some observation unconcerned concerns about that.

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Number one, if you go sorta to noon, if you go to sudo today, if you go on a long ride, he will send them we do know what the job is,

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we know the job

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and the purpose of Higa is well known.

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But some of the sisters

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they want to be more hijab at

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the same time they want to be dress

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in a fashion on style.

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So what do they do?

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They work a job like this and they show the ears

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and some of them don't have that pretty ears, but they show the IRS

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they do

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others

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they are what I call sin jack Hey john.

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You know sin si n it means sin.

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Jab in Arabic means the bringer or the thing that brings so they wear a hijab that itself will bring a sin so I call them sin job, the job

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what do they do? They were up to here.

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And of course, they don't work together in a proper way every few minutes he have to flip her hijab and rub it around her head and then we do it again and again and again all the time my nursing sister too as such a sister that this is not a job.

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That is not

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our observation that I have

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is the our buyers.

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Our buyer

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that has some success where

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and what do they do they were I bought a home in law fair. And then at the top of the ABA. They were sweater that is so tight.

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And the zipper of this sweater. So she looks when she's walking especially the wintertime. She looks one of those hot, hot air balloons, you know how they look from upside down?

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It looks so fun.

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So that's also

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that's also

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an issue with the sisters and the hijab. The proper hijab sisters is the hijab as some of you call some of you don't like and is the jinbao from head to toe that covers everything. This is the proper hijab inshallah brothers, are you happy with the hijabs

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is good to go. Now let's go back to the subject.

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Which is how to choose life partners.

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three things.

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One, for my last talk last night

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is something which

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is similar than most of

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you only talking about

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And it's not true.

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See, usually I don't try to

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usually

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I don't try to

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entertain people. I usually do what I think this is the appropriate thing.

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So yes, sir, Mr. Malaga, Hannah Anika, no che Danica, I really, that's not my aim, but there is a problem that we need to solve

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is going to get arrested. Thus, you're going to have to put them aside and say listen, whether you took your time, wait, now let the young people now benefit from your guidance, but at the same time, do everything based on the shediac.

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To

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some of the young brothers, they said,

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You told the older brothers to take a second and third and fourth wise and you did not leave anything for us.

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This is the younger boys

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and Subhan Allah. I didn't say this. However, if you are good young man, I'm sure the sister would fight

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over you. They will definitely fight over you.

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Number three, some of the brothers they said we have a list of their brothers and hamdulillah who are ready for marriage

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who was ready to sign and Mashallah we finished we have finished a contract here.

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If everything that I say tonight it pleases you, then we can proceed inshallah and we can do a group marriage and hamdulillah and take a photo group group photo.

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Let us continue with what we talked about, I did not finish last night.

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So, I will talk some of the things that a sister

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may look into a brother before she proceeds with him. First I will say this marriage brothers and sister is like establishing a company

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establishing a business. So, you have a shareholder and you have another shareholder. So these two shareholders when they get together, they want to establish a standing household. Now the capital of this business or this company is a love that they have for one another is Sakina that is needed as the last panel with data set in the Quran, who are the Hala alchemy knifes in wide wotja admin house Xhosa? LEAH schooner

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Leah Spooner Elena. So the purpose of the marriage is to find peace, tranquility, happiness, and to pursue a better life and not to worry about some of the issues

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also from the purpose of marriage, that women are our wedding events and we are live as for women, which means we hide the fault of one another.

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Now

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that's your beautiful

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now, let us continue the things that the sisters who would look for

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a brother

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from tonight will stay look for what is known as Shama or nobility.

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What is it mean? See this young lady she really wants to get married to this man who is dignified.

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Who when they talk and because by the way, whether we like it or not, they do talk a lot together.

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So when they talk, he won't come to his friends and say listen I spoke to so also held an eye shadow Katerina Yola shake is silly. She told me the size of her shoes and the size of his socks and the size of her you know, curtains, all that she was so long when she talks to him, not talk about him.

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This is called Shia hammer. This is no but she was a noble man who would not expose or talk about.

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Also, in this, she doesn't want a man who's worth anything in return.

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Men, they will talk to this girl and in return he wants her to do certain things for him. Women do not like that.

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Women like the men who present himself in a status and that he is himself a noble man.

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The second thing is the woman like she's just like, and this is a well known fact, is like a man who will sacrifice anything for them.

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So this has to do with me.

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Yeah, see the hands? Absolutely.

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They agree Why? Because she wants a man who was sacrifice his, you know, his buddies, his guy. The guys are getting together tonight to watch a football to watch his game. And she says, Listen, you know, I want this and this he wants. She wants him to drop everything and come running like a bullet.

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Coming home. He wants someone who was sacrificed his time, his desire, the things that he prefers for her.

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And of course, that would increase her love for him.

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By the way, this is from the son of nimbyism, among others, he will send them

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remember when have son Ayesha they got jealous from one of the other wives of the messenger overlong. Why the messenger over law, he loved honey.

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He loved honey. I should have so could never provide honey for him.

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But they knew one of his wives. Every time he goes to her, she gives him honey. So they can just so they say let us play. What should we do every time he comes from her house? Just tell him Oh my god, did you eat honey?

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And he said say yes. What's wrong with me? Are you your breath is funny. This is one of the messenger I should have said and then he says Really? And then he goes to another wife. And she says

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Did you eat honey? He said Why? He said because you smell funny. The messenger boy after today I would never eat honey.

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This is sacrifice right.

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And I lost it. Yeah, you have to have a mama.

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Yeah, now imagine hops on it shall be a long one.

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You know how proud they felt. That the messenger overlord honey that he loves for them. Just for them. Women love the man who was sacrifice things for them.

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Other thing that they like

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is a men and we talked a bit about this is a man who's romantic and loving.

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women.

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Women

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love to hear the word. I love you.

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Right?

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Men.

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He will say to her what I say I love you to you Laci What do you want?

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I sent it to you last week? She said no. No. I want you to assure me that you love me. So I want to hear twice a day. And it was a What is it a medicine but the way

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we finish you know I love you from last week. And it's done.

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No. See, women are sometimes Alhamdulillah and they are very very good at this. I may have lost count Allah reward them.

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She can sacrifice everything and anything for you. She will do anything for you. She will be patient with you. If you just left here has insane you saying? I love you. I love you. I love you.

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And by the way, when you become professional in this

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you say I love you. Even when she's cursing you

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beat up either tie.

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Me, I love your honey.

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I love you.

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You know what happens?

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You know, she will feel like oh my god you know he's so sweet. He's so sweet.

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And the only reason that you say I love you is because you don't want to go back to this cold weather and get the milk

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it's there for the sake of Allah.

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But even then knowing that to hear from you I love you is something nice.

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Other thing that they like, which is a romantic part

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is leaving

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Loving notes,

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leaving loving notes

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you know, just on the table,

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sending an email, I miss you, honey. And you really did not even miss her.

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I miss your honey.

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And then when you go home, everything is beautiful.

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The other thing that would make this relationship more romantic

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is writing a poem.

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How many of you can write a poem?

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Masha Allah see women love words.

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One of the one of the brothers who came.

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I said to her, I said to him, listen, go write a poem for your wife.

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And sometimes I give bad advice.

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So he wrote, Hey, yo, hey, Yo, I love you. You're so fat.

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Right?

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Now,

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for him, of course.

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He is really expressing but this is what he knows.

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And the young lady, Mashallah, she was really fat.

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So what happened?

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Both of them came to the office,

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and he is mad, and he is so mad. He said, I did exactly what you told me. And I said, What did you do? He said, I said, Oh, yo, yo, I love you so fast.

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And I'm looking at her. So I have to turn my face away. Because she was really taking the whole count my hamdulillah.

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If you have to write something nice and will poem, then you make sure that you study the psychology of your wife. And by the way, the Sahaba of Livia Salah long Radha usnm. They used to love one another and write poems for one another.

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Remember when it comes to say, she married a woman or a loved one? And the She was beautiful. And she was a poet, and he was a poet, and he was a poet.

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So, all day long what they do, they used to say a poem. She will recite a poem love poem for her, and she will respond another love poem, and sometimes you would miss Salah. Listen, her poems. And one day after salata, Juma

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Abubakar saw him coming to the Sonata Juma late.

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Man, he's a avatar or daddy, no, I was really writing a poem for my wife, and she was saying near poem, and we miss the Salah. He said, divorce her. On this one.

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Man, he had to listen to his father. So he divorced her. She was beautiful. And she was a poet and he was in love madly in love with her.

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Son, he became like a person who is insane.

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He would walk through the streets of Medina, reciting the poem of his ex wife, you know, he is, you know, tears on his cheeks, you know, love poems, and I

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felt sad for him. And he said, Okay, go take her back. However, don't ever miss another.

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Another Juma?

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So the love poem was only between the Salah

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between mcraven he was a love poem, but when the Adhan is called, there is no love poem at all. So if you can do this is perfectly fine. A man should do this. Also sisters love

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a man who is committed and loyal.

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See, this is something that is so important for women.

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When you go out and your wife is walking next to you and you know doing shopping and you Mashallah doing you're looking around don't think your wife she's looking around you know, she's looking at you

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she's looking at you and Mashallah when you picking out potatoes and tomatoes and you pick a nice tomato and and beautiful lady pass by like

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right.

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And she is not looking at anywhere else, but your eyes.

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So,

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women

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in this case, they don't want a man who looks around they want someone who saw

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committed, who is only looking at her? Who's telling her how beautiful she is. And then hamdulillah This is one thing that sisters need.

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Also, brothers, we talked about other points.

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They love the man who is so forgiving.

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So forgiving. Even the older generation nowadays and hamdulillah all fathers, they know this aspect very well. They mastered that art. But a lot of people don't know that your wife, she knows when she made a mistake. But at the same time, she wants you she wants you to forgive her. overlook everything that she said everything that she did, and just start new page. If you do this, she would cherish you.

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She will honor you, and she will love you. And somehow from the interview somebody was, you know what happened the bottom of her heart? You know, he said to those 15 guys do not come up the mountain, but they did. Have you ever read a hadith or story missing your overlord? blaming those and say the only reason we lost Babylon five years ago is because of those Sahaba never. They made a mistake he moved on here in your marriage life. If your wife makes a mistake, you move on.

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You're on Mashallah some of the brothers Mashallah December 1994.

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When we were in so much injustice, or even a you at your cousin, as your brother you like,

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forget, don't mention any of this, pretend that never happened, and move on. And that's

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one of the wives.

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Or this is he said zoji

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either the heart of

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what either Hey, Roger,

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what is Al

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Hamdulillah when he comes, he knows we do whatever I want to do. And when he leaves he behaves like a man.

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And he reminded me that is to have Rama mahatama de la one.

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Which I will tell you later in life, you remind

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also they like because I really want to get into the sisters, some of the brothers that waiting for the sister.

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They love the man who is truth, truthfulness, who was truthful. And he is clear in his approach, don't like cutting corners don't like cheating, don't like fabricating things. But who was very honest, you know, I did not come on time because I was talking to Abdulkadir and we were chit chatting and I missed the appointment. They like those kind of people also, they love

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they love

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they love you to lead by example.

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Not my

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husband, once a year.

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No, you should become the must haves and teach the children she will teach the children before you come home. You have to teach by example, not by words. And when you say to your wife do this, you should be the one you already should be doing this and be engaging that all the time.

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This is important and I have almost 25 different points of how to be a role model. But we are a thing pressed for time and we don't want to go over all this.

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Women also like brothers

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a man

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who would never mentioned anyone else in her present.

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Never the biggest mistake that we do as men is we and we mentioned otherwise other women and the presence of our wives. Hi y'all.

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Near Dr. Amanda, Amara sama,

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Masha Allah

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and Yara

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salvati is could the hacker escape?

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If she has a knife

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if your wife have a knife, you should be in another next room.

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Don't ever mention Don't ever say oh look at that woman. She was dressed fine. She

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was dressed

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as a foreigner, what were you looking for?

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Why? Don't ever mention

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whatever other people do, that's their problem. Don't even mention other women in the presence of your wives. This is the biggest mistake that as men we do, but we thought we think by reminding her or showing what other women did. We are teaching her so she can improve herself. No, you digging a grave for yourself if you ever do that,

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trust me, I've been around long enough to understand and learn that.

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Now, let us see

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the things that may cherish

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and encourage

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the love that your wife may have one for you. One

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is

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to spend quality time together.

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Women love the obsessed with quality time.

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Spent quality care of the kids, as I usually say take them to the zoo and leave them and just bring your wife back and go out and spend some time together. No one else or take them to your neighbors and spend time with her and then go to a park or come home and have dinner enjoy and sit next to your wife

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next to your wife

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one of the sisters Somali sister

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gear chillin, guilty Ragusa say

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you know one of those guys, they sponsor them because they couldn't find anyone to marry that locally. So they certainly bring someone

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they import someone.

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So

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she wants to show her husband that she loves him.

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So what does she do? So

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that biller elevate the hammer hugger maghaberry so whenever a knife

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Yeah, no respect

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Get away from me.

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This is not a no this is your wife. Yeah, maybe I'm not encouraging that maybe a little bit so far. But

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what what happened

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is I woke up sunny and ganglion opening.

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Lacking is from our D to be compassion and a shell was coming up.

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The second thing is

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the second thing is

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and this is probably maybe some of the Islamic academic cadenabbia

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is

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imagine

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if

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and this was By the way, I don't know how to end

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it is okay. And one of the things is it's okay to be romantic.

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It was send them what he used to do. He used to take shower and bath with his wife.

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Right.

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Now emergent Islam the

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older you get liquidity in a

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tsunami, this is the sooner

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This is the

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so called cusabo

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or three

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cash no credit.

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He will reverse on this one.

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There is no way

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there is no way in life

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in a standard to

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have to agree that this is from the Sunnah.

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As a matter of fact,

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one of the helpers that I was teaching,

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the children went back home and they said, Well, she said it's sooner to take bath together.

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I never see you taking bath with my mother.

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Oh my god.

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Islam him I gotta

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do you know what the teacher what children

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do you?

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Now we became the boy chorus because we thought we teaching them something with

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Navy suparna

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now this is one of the things. One of the things that is from the son of nimbyism love. He said, I know it's not for everyone. It's not for anyone. Not everyone, but it depends on the personality of the wife.

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Also, one of the other thing that really women your wife would love you is if you help her around the house,

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help your wife

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You know, cleaning.

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Taking care of the children, helping them around the house

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is from the sun.

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with men, we know from the Sunnah, that a man can have four wives. That's the sooner that we all know. And every gathering that we go we talk about that fight for wave four waves Nino Gabbar khademi la mesa had been afforded to lead the way we cannot even handle the first one.

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And women the only sooner that they know is my husband should help me around the house.

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As a matter of fact, both of them should be aware and inform about this. One of the sisters who came to complain about her husband, she said my husband, he has to follow the Sunnah. What is a Sunnah he has to cut the meat like the Messenger of Allah, he has to sweep the floor microsatellites on the long run, he will send him he has to do housework, he has to be imaginative enough, see, he has to take care of himself and so on. I said fine.

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So, to prove a point, I admonished the brother, I say you call yourself a Muslim, you call yourself Sunni. You call yourself this, you should do this, you should do this. You should clean the house. And I said to the sister, do you agree? She said yes. I said he has to wash the dishes. Do you agree? Yes, he has to do this must he has to be agree? No.

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I said sister but this is also some

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sisters they want selective sun.

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And the brothers they want selective sunlight. But if we want the sun is always

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also from the sun. What if we learn is to give a gift than the reason the longer it was send them your code. The harder to have give gift to one another it will love one another. Now the first person who is deserving this low is your spouse, especially your wife,

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especially your wife.

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So give her a gift. Send her gifts because Subhana Allah that will change the mood of your wife.

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But get her a gift that she can use. Give that she can use.

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The other thing that the women love, they love to be praised.

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They love in a model how much time do

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they love to be praised? So insha Allah

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praise your wife as much as you

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have been on to the Anna Karina pony she doesn't know how to cook anything. Mashallah, the food is delicious.

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Had they I sorry, I say Mashallah Coco. So clean the house is so clean. You know, it is not just praise your wife left and right. Because when you praise her 10 times, if you correct her once,

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she won't feel offended.

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But if you criticize her 10 times, and you praise her once, then that praise will not have any effect in your marriage life. So praise her as much as much as you can.

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I have almost 38 pages left for the issue but I want to get to the brothers sides because the brothers have been waiting and it's not right for me to talk about the what the sisters need and one of the sisters like one of the sister wants without talking about the brothers and the need of the bugs which is essential.

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Very important.

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First of all,

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when you look when you want to marry a woman,

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first thing that you should look as

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her D.

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Because never use the law, it was said to me is true. He said to

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married women for four reasons for things for her beauty for her status for her well, and then he said and for her Dean, and then he said, Hold on to the one with the dean hold on to the one with a dean Why? Because well may vanish, beauty, she would get old

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status in Advil or health. So marry the one that has been and by the way, as we mentioned, a jerk and the lovers of the sisters is the

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other women that you should look for

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is a women

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who

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I know some of the sisters.

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Listen to this brothers.

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Some of the sisters some of the mothers may disagree with me. But I'm open for disagreement.

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women whom there

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is not high

00:41:33--> 00:41:38

in the wife is marrying you because of your money. She's not for you.

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But if she's marrying you because of your deen and because of your character or because of your irresponsible individual, Allah Baraka to move on.

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Go ahead and marry your sister.

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You remember the story of

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Satan been around a long time.

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So it's been almost a year.

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He was a blessed with a daughter in an era. Not only She was beautiful, but she was also very knowledgeable

00:42:18--> 00:42:23

and worried. The Amir of the country that ameerul momineen he proposed

00:42:25--> 00:42:27

for his son and milligrams of medical marijuana

00:42:29--> 00:42:38

for his son, and when he said when you said No, I will not marry my daughter to a man who may cause her to lose her Dean, not because

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of your money, I will give you my daughter I want you to I don't want you to marry my daughter.

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Another wealthy man No. Another famous man. No.

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Finally,

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a young student by the name

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of the lightning Cathedral

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who was a student of St. Thomas. He was absent

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from the halaqa for three days.

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He came back and then he said, Where have you been? called? My wife died.

00:43:18--> 00:43:20

He said why don't you tell us how we can help you.

00:43:21--> 00:43:23

He said I didn't want to bother you.

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Then he wanted to get

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to know

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each other. After the holidays. He said to him, did you get married after your wife is no and one marry me? I only have three two to three times. Say you said marry you my daughter. The man said I was shocked.

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I was shocked.

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You just say no to

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one.

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And

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you want me to marry your daughter? I was shocked. He said yes. Two people were witnesses. He did the nikka for two Damn. And he moved on.

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This student said

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he said I went to my house not believing that what happened was reality.

00:44:23--> 00:44:27

said he had been a messiah he married me his daughter for two Durham's? Yes, why?

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Because I shall be alone I stated more than three ahaadeeth from the Baraka of the young ladies, that her expenses is minimum.

00:44:41--> 00:44:54

From the Baraka from the Baraka of the marriage is for the expenses and the middle of that young lady is minimum, not high, but low.

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As soon as you you know as this young man to pay so much money

00:45:00--> 00:45:09

And do this wedding and do the nikka and alcohol key and this this this, then that wedding that marriage has no Baraka

00:45:11--> 00:45:13

beside the head of he has no Baraka.

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So, you should look for someone who's asking nothing.

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It is very strange, very strange

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that our sisters and the sisters, you should listen to this when they meringue. Nan, Somali.

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There. It's so simple.

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The wording is so simple.

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Mercury in other case, sagano Allahu Akbar.

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Akaka Santoni. I want this I want that. We have a sister in our community.

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She married a new Muslim.

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A white guy, nothing is wrong. I Love New Muslims. I love them.

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She married him.

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I'm performing the Nika and I said, and what is your mom? Her brother? Is that what is your mother, your sisters?

00:46:16--> 00:46:25

The brother he said ask him. I said, What is your wife futures wife's mother? He said 25 cents.

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A quarter of $1 20. I said, say that again?

00:46:34--> 00:46:44

He said 25 cents. I mean $25 2500 250 25 you know, 1000? No 25 cents.

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And then I said can you please go and ask your sister because less than 25 cents? He won't even buy your lollipop.

00:46:56--> 00:47:09

Yeah, what do you want to do with 25 cents? Of course she played righteous. And she said no good. Cool. Taco for law. I said 525 cents. Martinez. Arizona. Okay.

00:47:10--> 00:47:23

So 25 cents. he marry her. He put us in a basement. her grandmother's basement. He doesn't live with her. He said you won't see me Come soon we'll be law one law.

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winter time.

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With her hijab and genweb he will bring it to the message on a bike.

00:47:33--> 00:47:40

One of the old Somali were really cool. You're gonna power out there because catonian cannabis guillebeau sorry.

00:47:43--> 00:47:43

It's true.

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Some had a lot. He left the country. he divorced her.

00:47:52--> 00:47:53

She comes back.

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She says she'll say you know everything. I want you to write me a letter of divorce. Well, how did he see?

00:48:03--> 00:48:15

Okay, honey Shama McFaul. So why because I'm adding I'm getting married. I say a lot. hawkwood hamdulillah. Now I thought Masha Allah and say, and how much is the matter this time?

00:48:16--> 00:48:18

She said 25,000

00:48:20--> 00:48:21

should ILA bottom.

00:48:23--> 00:48:28

dollar. I said he must be Samadhi. He said he's my cousin.

00:48:34--> 00:48:35

Francis.

00:48:37--> 00:48:40

Mirko Mike cousin email don't want to have us when the Somali guy comes

00:48:42--> 00:48:45

on Albania when a generic comes is okay.

00:48:46--> 00:49:05

So it shouldn't be this way. It should be the more general something acceptable. Something that is decent, something asis is happy with. And the brother is happy with Allah subhanho wa Taala would help both. If this is what they tend to do is to protect themselves.

00:49:07--> 00:49:21

this other thing that brothers should look into it, and I know the sister would be mad and extremely upset with this one. But I really have to say, I've been mmm for over 10 years.

00:49:22--> 00:49:31

And I came to conclusion that the reason that divorce takes place with a certain group of people is because of 123

00:49:32--> 00:49:33

if you can

00:49:35--> 00:49:41

do not marry a young lady, whom her mother was divorced was divorcing.

00:49:43--> 00:49:45

Ah. See,

00:49:46--> 00:49:47

I'll tell you why.

00:49:48--> 00:49:59

I know some sisters have been abused, mistreated, under the hamdulillah those they have right and we should not blame the young lady for this or for the mother for that.

00:50:00--> 00:50:23

But in the West, what happened was, we came from Somalia, our women, they found independency a lot of them, not all of them and what they did, they love their husbands. So the divorce took place. This young lady now she doesn't know the problem and the struggle that her mother went through. So she thinks divorce is so simple. My mother survived. I can survive.

00:50:25--> 00:50:29

My mother is diversity. I can be divorced more. I don't care this man.

00:50:30--> 00:50:44

She already has experience. And that's what they always say, with America life. What I am gonna Yeah, I'm studying. I'm getting my education. When I get divorced tomorrow, she's already planning to get divorce.

00:50:45--> 00:51:15

She's already planning to get divorce. Why? Because her mother were overseas is divorcing. So when you're getting married, I'm not saying we should judge the sisters like this. I know. A lot of them would get out of the list. We get off the list. But I'm saying if the sisters parent mother, or a sister is divorced, then you should be careful, because most likely she would take the issue of divorce. Very light, but not all the time.

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Number four, since I'm running out of time, I will like to leave sometimes and for question answer unrelieved from this because you've been sitting here for since morning.

00:51:30--> 00:51:33

You should look the mad and

00:51:34--> 00:51:58

the family of that young lady specially her mother and her sisters. How they Islam miroir eita Hi. Al Hamdulillah orsola de hacer de la casona Rashida Olga kannamma Margarita Yeah, halaqa data Yo, Arcadia, Kitab Kayla, and she is a smart mother like this, she respects her husband, and hamdulillah she's a from a good family.

00:52:00--> 00:52:10

She's from a good family. So be careful how do you know if this woman can be sustained and you can keep this wife is by watching learn

00:52:11--> 00:52:30

asking about her mother and her relatives, sisters and so on. But there are always exceptions, either you set out to a sort of Navy war in a casino where you could either you know what I took him out caffeine. So, caffeine, so it could happen both ways.

00:52:31--> 00:52:38

Now, let us go quick, quick, quick, quick, what a system may look into a brothers should look into a sister,

00:52:40--> 00:52:44

which is the biggest mistake, which is is

00:52:46--> 00:52:52

the beauty and we say we should look over that second thing that

00:52:53--> 00:53:25

that they look is not the beauty of the face, but the physical appearance. And that's why is that we human is a man nature's a man's nature, that he they like women with a certain looks and that's why most of the fitness centers, their members are women, because women know that men like this by nature, therefore they have to look a certain way and so on. But our movement of course, he has a different agenda and different conditions.

00:53:27--> 00:53:32

Other thing is what if you let the men you look in women.

00:53:33--> 00:53:36

Studies show is this smile?

00:53:37--> 00:53:46

Is the smile. If the sister has a pleasant smile, then hamdulillah that commitment is about 10.

00:53:47--> 00:53:51

That's a different case. But no stay away from that one.

00:53:54--> 00:53:57

Also, men like a woman that is

00:53:58--> 00:54:40

a rational women who can analyze situation, puts her emotions aside, rationalize, analyze the situation, and they come to a rational conclusion. And this is what most men look for. Also, men, usually like women who beautified themselves, beautify themselves for their husbands not they beautified by nature, but they also beautify. Now, most of the most Somali women and mainly most men, but also generally Muslim women. They are very attractive or they pride themselves when I go to my squat handle Marco

00:54:41--> 00:54:42

Makeba.

00:54:44--> 00:54:48

They only look beautiful when they when someone else is going to look at them.

00:54:49--> 00:54:56

Narrow there husbands. All the cars so Evie shuwa lady Nicola, Nicola, I'm American.

00:54:57--> 00:54:59

All the beautiful dinner Eddie miyakawa Hello

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somewhere else, not not for the husband and it should be other way around. Women should be very modest outside and it should be beautiful for her husband beautifier has been one of the brothers was saying that he said every time that my wife dresses tonight is when I'm dry and I see her nice is when I'm driving her to a wedding

00:55:26--> 00:55:28

to our wedding or we're going for azima

00:55:29--> 00:55:32

so he said I call her over the phone and I said

00:55:34--> 00:55:49

our new banner Dr. Garmin buy one and assuming we are invited so get ready. So on hamdulillah das was about having young children it was for Hennessy. You know how Modi everything. He said I walk into my house and my wife is so beautiful.

00:55:50--> 00:55:51

So beautiful.

00:55:53--> 00:55:56

so gorgeous. He said I'll back even when

00:55:58--> 00:56:02

I close the door I sat down next day no matter how Come on, let's go.

00:56:03--> 00:56:06

It's a no there is no invitation.

00:56:08--> 00:56:15

I just missed the beauty of my wife and I want to see and enjoy my wife. Say to the macabre ba Are you serious?

00:56:17--> 00:56:18

Are you serious?

00:56:22--> 00:56:33

All day long. I was for you. Let's go honey. Ha No. She is what she did. She took her hand and she mopped her face.

00:56:34--> 00:56:37

Imagine hamady in the cushy,

00:56:38--> 00:56:40

colorful window which again,

00:56:41--> 00:56:43

we're here to allow her worker to Emily's

00:56:46--> 00:56:48

hammer the organ arrow.

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Now this should not be the case in Mara

00:56:55--> 00:57:02

mother con Alma to salia men either Nevada la has Olga

00:57:03--> 00:57:59

sarwat macusa issues issue with Bahasa she is so beautiful for her husband. And when he tells her to do something she obeys. There's a lot to talk inshallah. And I don't want to overkill you with this. But I will tell the sisters, one lostness see him. And this is for men. And this is the studies that the Western and the eastern society came conclusion they said ninpo men when he's on his 20s he's more concerned about the looks of that young lady. How fine she looks, how beautiful she looks 30s they don't look into beauty much. But they look into their into their intellect. She's intelligent, she's smart, she's rational. For these men, they want someone who will take care of them

00:58:00--> 00:58:52

and offer until the Osada someone who would take care of you know the his needs. Someone who would not say on the Toronto, Toronto, Canada know someone who will take care of this is the 320s appearance 30s logic irrational and disability 40s someone who will maintain and take care of him. This is the three categories of men of men and this is what they like. So when the sisters Mashallah is dealing with these she has to be my next shallow maybe one day we will talk about how to maintain this marriage. Husband and wife got together. Sometimes they said marriage is the end of love or the end of love is marriage. It shouldn't be like this as a matter of fact, it should be the key of love

00:58:52--> 00:59:18

is marriage. Because when Allah subhanho wa Taala when you get married, you your brothers or your sisters, your friends, they all give you gifts and the gifts of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah is what your anabaena commoditised wahama This is the gift of the marriage. So inshallah maybe one day perhaps we will talk about how to maintain a relationship between husband and wife. What this what I have to say last panel without a

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Zakouma

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hamdulillah my brother, Oh brother.

00:59:41--> 00:59:42

Well this beautiful lecture

00:59:43--> 00:59:47

and all these comments, even though

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session in private.

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We took all the elderly out

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including me.

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We will be out

01:00:01--> 01:00:03

We live the youngest days with the sheriff

01:00:04--> 01:00:06

and the sheriff will have more time

01:00:07--> 01:00:11

and more explanation and more discussion inshallah.

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Then we'll wait for the next session inshallah,

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which is going to be

01:00:19--> 01:00:20

completely private.

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salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Semi salmonellae. Amina Hannah Hannah Anika, no che, Danica, I really, that's not my aim, but there is a problem that we need to solve.

01:00:37--> 01:00:37

Islam when

01:00:40--> 01:00:54

you're when do we have to put them aside or say listen, wait, you took your time wait. Now let the young people now benefit from your guidance, but at the same time, do everything based on the Sharia

01:00:55--> 01:00:56

to

01:00:58--> 01:01:00

some of the young brothers they said

01:01:01--> 01:01:09

you told the older brothers just take a second and third and fourth wise and you did not leave anything for us.

01:01:11--> 01:01:12

This is the younger boys

01:01:14--> 01:01:23

and some Hannah law. I did not say this. However, if you are good young man, I'm sure the sister would fight

01:01:24--> 01:01:28

over you. They will definitely fight over you.

01:01:30--> 01:01:38

Number three, some of the brothers they said we have a list of their brothers and hamdulillah who are ready for marriage

01:01:39--> 01:01:44

who was ready to sign on Mashallah, we finished we have finished a contract here.

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If everything that I say tonight is pleases you, then we can proceed inshallah and we can do a group marriage and hamdulillah and take a photo group group photo.

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Let us continue with what we talked about, I did not finish last night.

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So, I will talk some of the things that a sister

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may look into a brother before she proceed with him. First I will say this marriage brothers and sister is like establishing a company

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establishing a business. So, you have a shareholder and you have another shareholder. So these two shareholders when they get together, they want to establish a standing household. Now the capital of this business or this company is a love that they have for one another is Sakina that is needed as Allah subhana wa tada said in the Quran, who are the Hala Takumi knifes in what was your admin house Xhosa, Li Escuela de

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leus una LA. So the purpose of the marriage is to find peace, tranquility, happiness, and to pursue a better life and not to worry about some of the issues

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also from the purpose of marriage, that women are our events and we are the best for women, which means we hide the fault of one another.

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Now

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that's your beautiful

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now, let us continue the things that the sisters who would look for

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a brother

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from tonight will stay look for what is known as Shama or nobility.

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What does it mean? See this young lady she really wants to get married to this man who is dignified

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who when they talk and because by the way, whether we like it or not, they do talk a lot together.

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So when they talk, he won't come to his friends and say listen I spoke to so also How could a Tina Yola shake his city. She told me the size of her shoes and the size of his socks and the size of her you know Curtis, all that she was so long when she talks to him, not talk about him.

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This is called Shama This is nobody she wants a noble man who would not expose or talk about.

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Also, in this, she doesn't want a man who wants anything in return.

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Men, they will talk to this girl and in return he wants her to do certain things for him. Women do not like that.

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Women like the men who present himself in his status, and that he is himself a noble man.

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The second thing is, the woman likes she's just like, and this is a well known fact is they like a man who will sacrifice anything for them.

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So this has to do with me.

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Yeah, see the hands? Absolutely.

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They agree Why? Because she wants a man who was sacrifice. His, you know, his buddies, his guy, the guys are getting together tonight to watch a football to watch his game. And she says, Listen, you know, I want this and this he wants. She wants him to drop everything and come running like a bullet.

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Coming home. He was someone who was sacrificed his time, his desire, the things that he prefers for her.

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And of course, that would increase her love for him.

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By the way, this is from the Sun Oven or the use of the boiling water He will send them

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remember when have son Ayesha? They got jealous for one of the other wives of the messenger overlong. Why the messenger over law, he loved honey.

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He loved honey.

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I should have so could never provide honey for him.

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But they knew one of his wives every time he goes to her she gives him honey. So they got just so they say let us play. What should we do every time he comes from her house? Just tell him Oh my god, did you eat hunger Salama? I say yes. What's wrong with me? Your breath is funny. This is why the messenger Overwatch, I should have said. And then he says Really? And then he goes to another wife. And she says

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Did you eat honey? He said Why? He said because you smell funny. The messenger. Boy after today I would never eat honey.

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This is sacrifice right?

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And Allah said, Yeah, you have to have a mama.

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Yeah, now imagine helps, and it shall be a long one.

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You know how proud they felt that the messenger overlord honey that he loves for them, just for them. Women love the man who was sacrificed things for them.

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Other thing that they like,

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as a man, and we talked a bit about this is a man who's romantic and loving.

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women.

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Women

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love to hear the word. I love you.

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Right?

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men?

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He will say to what I say I love you too. Laci, what do you want?

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I sent it to you last week? She said no. No. I want you to assure me that you love me. So I want to hear twice a day. And it was a What is it a medicine but can

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we finish? You know I love you from last week. And it's done.

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No. See, women are sometimes and hamdulillah and they are very, very good at this and we have lost our dollar reward them.

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She can sacrifice everything and anything for you. She will do anything for you. She wouldn't be patient with you. If you just let her hear saying you saying I love you. I love you. I love you.

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And by the way, when you become professional in this

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you say I love you. Even when she's cursing you

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beat

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me. I love your honey.

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I love you.

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You know what happens?

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You know, she will feel like oh my god you know he's so sweet. He's so sweet.

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And the only reason that you say I love you is because you don't want to go back to this cold weather and get the milk

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instead for the sake of Allah.

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But even then knowing that to hear from you, I love you is something nice.

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Another thing that they like, which is a romantic part

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is

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Leaving loving notes

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leaving loving notes

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you know, just on the table,

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sending an email, I miss you, honey. And you really did not even miss her.

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I miss you, honey.

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And then when you go home, everything is beautiful.

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The other thing that would make this relationship more romantic

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is writing a poem.

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How many of you can write a poem

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Mashallah see women love words.

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One of the one of the brothers who came,

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I said to her, I said to him, listen, go write a poem for your wife.

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And sometimes I give bad advice.

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So he wrote, Hey, yo, hey, Yo, I love you. You're so fat.

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Right?

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Now,

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for him, of course.

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He is really expressing but this is what he knows.

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And the young lady, Mashallah, she was really fat.

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So what happened?

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Both of them came to the office,

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and he is mad, and he is so mad. He said, I did exactly what you told me. And I said, What did you do? He said, I said, Oh, yo, yo, I love you so fast.

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And I'm looking at her. So I have to turn my face away. Because she was really taking the whole couch my hamdulillah

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if you have to write something nice

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poem, then you make sure that you study the psychology of your wife. And by the way, the Sahaba maybe is a little longer it He will send them they used to love one another and write poems for one another.

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Remember when Attica which is a she married to her minnow bucket of Santiago de la Juana, and the She was beautiful. And she was a poet, and he was a poet, and he was a poet.

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So, all day long what they do, they used to say a poem. She he will recite a poem, love poem for her, and she will respond another love poem, and sometimes he would miss Salah. Listen, her poems. And one day after Salatu Juma

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Abu Bakar, saw him coming to the Salatu. Juma late

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man, he's a avatar or daddy, you know, I was really writing a poem for my wife, and she was saying the poem and we miss the Salah. He said, divorce her. On this one.

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He had to listen to his father. So he divorced her. She was beautiful. And she was a poet and he was in love madly in love with her

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other hand, he became like a person who was insane.

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He would walk through the streets of Medina, reciting the poem of his ex wife, you know, he is you know, tears on his cheeks in a love poems. And I

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felt sad for him. And he said, Okay, go take her back. However, don't ever miss another.

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Another Juma.

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So the love poem was only between the Salah

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between mcraven he was a love poem, but when the other hand is called, there is no love poem at all. So if you can do this is perfectly fine. A man should do this. Also sisters love.

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A man who is committed and loyal.

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See, this is something that is so important for women.

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When you go out and your wife is walking next to you and you know doing shopping

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and you Mashallah doing and you're looking around don't think your wife she's looking around to know she's looking at you.

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She's looking at you and Mashallah when you picking out potatoes and tomatoes and you pick a nice tomato and and beautiful lady pass by like

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right.

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And she is not looking at anywhere else but your eyes.

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So,

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women

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in this case, they don't want a man who looks around. They want some

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Who's so committed? Who is only looking at her? Who's telling her how beautiful she is. And then handed in Ah, this is one thing that sisters need.

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Also brothers, we talked about other points.

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They love the man who is so forgiving.

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So forgiving even the older generation nowadays and hamdulillah all fathers, they know this aspect very well. They mastered that art. But a lot of the people don't know that your wife, she knows when she made a mistake. But at the same time she wants you she wants you to forgive her. overlook everything that she said everything that she did, and just start new page. If you do this, she would cherish you.

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She will honor you and she will love you. And somehow know from the sooner maybe some of marwadi was you know what happened about love?

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You know, he said that to those 15 which I do not come up the mountain, but they did. Have you ever read a hadith or story missing your overlord? blaming those and say the only reason we lost Babylon five years ago is because of those Sahaba never. They made a mistake and he moved on here in your marriage life if your wife makes mistake, you move on.

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You don't Mashallah, some of the brothers Mashallah December 1994.

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When we were in a simultaneous or even a you at your cousin as your brother You lied.

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Forget don't mention any of this, pretend that never happened, and move on. And that's what

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one of the wives

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had is is he said zoji

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either the horrified

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what either hi Roger.

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Weather Yes. And

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when he comes, he knows me do whatever I want to do. And when he leaves he behaves like a man.

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And he reminded me the story of Ramadan, Ramadan, the last one.

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Which I will tell you later inshallah, if you remind

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also, they like because I really want to get into the sisters. Some of the brothers are waiting for the sister.

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They love the man who is truth, truthfulness, who was truthful. And he is clear in his approach, don't like cutting corners, don't like cheating, don't like fabricating things, but who was very honest, you know, I did not come on time because I was talking to Abdulkadir and we were chit chatting and I missed the appointment. They like those kind of people also, they love

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they love

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they love you to lead by example.

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Not merely outward,

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mouth has faded out I

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know, you should become the most half and teach the children. She would teach the children before you come home. You have to teach by example, not by words. And when you say to your wife do this, you should be the one you already should be doing this and be engaging that all the time.

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This is important and I have almost 25 different points of how to be a role model. But we are a thing pressed for time and we don't want to go over all this.

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Women also like brothers

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a man

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who would never mentioned anyone else in her presence.

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Never the biggest mistake that we do as men is we and we mentioned otherwise other women and the presence of our wives. Hi y'all.

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Mia, Dr. Amanda amber on Teresa may say

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Mashallah.

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And Jarrah

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sobriety is the hacker escape.

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If she has a knife,

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if your wife have a knife, you should be in another next room.

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Don't ever mention, don't ever say Oh, look at that woman. She was dressed for

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She was dressed nicely. The job had a synchronous and what were you looking for?

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Why? Don't ever mention

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whatever other people do, that's their problem. Don't even mention other women in the presence of your wives. This is the biggest mistake that as men we do, but we thought we think by reminding her or showing what other women did. We are teaching her so she can improve herself. No, you digging a grave for yourself if you ever do that,

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trust me, I've been around long enough to understand and learn that.

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Now let us see

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the things that may cherish

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and encourage

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the love that your wife may have with for you. One

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is

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to spend quality time together.

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Women love the obsessed with quality time

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to spend quality time, get out of the kids, as I usually say take them to the zoo and leave them and just bring your wife back

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and go out and spend some time together. No one else or take them to your neighbors and spend time with her and then go to a park or come home and and hamdulillah enjoy and sit next to your wife

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next to your wife

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one of the sisters Somali sister

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gear chillin guilty Ragusa

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you know one of those guys that they sponsor them because they couldn't find anyone to marry that locally. So they sent they bring someone

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they import someone

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so

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she wants to show her husband that she loves him.

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So what does she do? So

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that Bella elevate the Hayward haga maghaberry So

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yeah, no respect.

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Get away from me.

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This is not the No. This is your wife. Yeah, maybe I'm not encouraging that. Maybe it's a little bit too far. But

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what would happen

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is Sonia and ganglion oguni

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lacking is from our D to be compassion and a shell was coming up.

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The second thing is

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the second thing is

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and this is probably maybe some of the Islamic academic cadenabbia

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is

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imagine

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if

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and this is by the way, I don't know how to end

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it is okay. Now one of the things is it's okay to be romantic.

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It was said that what he used to do, he used to take shower and bath with his wife

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and milk a quarter million children

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a year.

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Right.

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Now emerging Islam to borrow

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all the money in a cable modem a

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tsunami, this is the sooner sir.

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This is Dean

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Sobotka so what is

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cash no credit.

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He will reverse on this one.

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There is no way.

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There is no way in life

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in a standard to

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have to agree that this is from the center.

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As a matter of fact,

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one of the helpers that I was teaching,

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the children went back home and they said well, she said it's sooner to take back

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Together Dad I never see you taking bath with my mother

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oh my god

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Islam him I gotta

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do you know what the teacher what children

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now we became the boycott us because we they thought we teaching them something with

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Navy suparna

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now this is one of the things, one of the things that is from the supplementary is someone loving it was and I know it's not for everyone. It's not for anyone and not everyone, but it depends on the personality of the wife.

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Also one of the other thing that really women your wife will love you is if you help her around the house,

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help your wife

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You know, cleaning.

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Taking care of the children, helping them around the house

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is from the sun.

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with men, we know from the sun, that a man can have four wives.

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That's the center that we all know. And every gathering that we go we talk about that fight for wives for wives and Nino Gabbar khademi lava misses the admin of tyranny leading the way we cannot even handle the first one.

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And women the only sooner that they know is my husband should help me around the house.

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As a matter of fact, both of them should be aware and inform about this. One of the sisters who came to complain about her husband, she said my husband, he has to follow the Sunnah. What is the Sunnah he has to cut the meat like the Messenger of Allah, he has to sweep the floor microsatellites on the long run, he was telling him, he has to do housework, he has to be imaginative enough, see, he has to take care of himself and so on. I said fine.

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So, to prove a point, I admonished the brother, I say you call yourself a Muslim, you call yourself Sunni. You call yourself this, you should do this, you should do this, you should clean the house. And I said to the sister, do you agree? She said yes. I said he has to wash the dishes. Do you agree? Yes, he has to do this must he has to be agree? No.

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I said sister but this is also some

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sisters they want selective sun.

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And the brothers they want selective sun them. But if we want the sun is always

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also from the sun. What if you learn is to give a gift, then the reason the long Why don't you send them your code to have to

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give a gift to one another and you will love one another. Now the first person who is deserving this loan is your spouse, especially your wife,

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especially your wife.

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So give her a gift. Send her gifts because Subhana Allah that will change the mood of your wife.

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But get her a gift that she can use. Give that she can use.

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The other thing that the women love, they love to be praised. They love in a model how much

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they love to be praised. So insha Allah

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praise your wife as much as you can

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have been until the Anna Karina pony she doesn't know how to cook anything Mashallah The food is delicious.

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Had they I personally I say Mashallah Coco is so clean the house is so clean, you know, issues. Test, just praise your wife left and right. Because when you praise her 10 times, if you correct her once,

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she won't feel offended.

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But if you criticize her 10 times, and you praise her once, then that praise will not have any effect in your marriage life. So praise her as much as much as you can.

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I have almost 38 pages left for the issue but I want to get to the brothers sighs because the brothers have been waiting and it's not right for me to talk about the what the sisters need and one of the sisters like one of the sister wants without talking about the brothers and the need of the brothers which is

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Essential and very important.

01:30:03--> 01:30:04

Brothers.

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First of all,

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when you look when you want to marry a woman,

01:30:13--> 01:30:16

first thing that you should look as

01:30:17--> 01:30:18

her D.

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Because in the views of the law, it was said to me is true. He said to

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married women for four reasons for things for her beauty for her status for her well, and then he said, and for her Dean, and then he said, Hold on to the one with the dean, hold on to the one with a dean. Why? Because well may vanish, beauty, she would get

01:30:49--> 01:31:02

status in Advil or health. So marry the one that has Dean. And by the way, as we mentioned, a jerk and the lovers of the sisters is the

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other women that you should look for

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is a women

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who have

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I know some of the sisters,

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listen to this brothers. Some of the sisters some of the mothers may disagree with me. But I'm open for disagreement.

01:31:28--> 01:31:29

women whom there

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is not high

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in the wife is married because of your money. She's not for you.

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But if she's marrying you because of your deen and because of your character or because of your irresponsible individual, Allah Baraka to move on.

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Go ahead and marry your sister.

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Do you remember the story of

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Mercedes

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so it's been almost a year.

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He was a blessed with a daughter in an era.

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Not only She was beautiful, but she was also very knowledgeable.

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And very, the Amir of the country, the ameerul momineen, he proposed

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for his son and Milligan of the medical marijuana

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for his son and when he said when he said No, I will not marry my daughter to a man who may cause her to lose her Deen not because

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of your money, I will give you my daughter I want you to I don't want you to marry my daughter.

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Another wealthy man? No. Another famous man. No.

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Finally,

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a young student by the name of Buddha.

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Who was a student of St. Thomas. He was absent

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from the Holocaust for three days.

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He came back and then he said, Where have you been? color? Yeah. My wife died.

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He said, Why don't you tell us how we can help you.

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He said I didn't want to bother you.

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Then he wanted to get

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a visa no Sit down. He sat down. After the holiday is over. He said to him, did you get married after your wife is I know and woman marry me. And I only have three two to three times

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in a row. So you said marry you my daughter. The man said I was shocked.

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I was shocked.

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You just say no to unwilling married men more one.

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And

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you want me to marry your daughter? I was shocked. He said yes. Two people were witnesses. He did the nikka for two and he moved on.

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This student said

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he said I went to my house not believing that what happened was reality.

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said he had been a messiah he married me his daughter for two Durham's? Yes, why?

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Because I shall be a long one I stated more than three Ahadi from the Baraka of the young ladies, that her expenses is minimum.

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From the Baraka from the Baraka of the marriage is for the expenses and the measure of that young lady is minimum, not high, but low.

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As soon as you you know, ask this young man to pay so much

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Money and do this wedding and do the nikka and are colicky and this this this. Then that wedding that marriage has no Baraka

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beside the head of he has no Baraka.

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So, you should look for someone who's asking nothing.

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It is very strange, very strange

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that our sisters and the sisters you should listen to this. When they meringue, none Somali.

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The Maha so simple.

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The wedding is so simple.

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Marina Del Sol, Donna, Allahu Akbar.

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Akaka Santoni. I want this. I want that. We have a sister in our community.

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She married a new Muslim.

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Guy. Nothing is wrong. I Love New Muslims. I love them.

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She married him.

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I'm performing the Nika and I said, and what is your mom? Her brother? Is that what is your mother, your sister?

01:36:17--> 01:36:26

The brother he said asked him. I said, What is your wife futures wife's mother? He said 25 cents.

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A quarter of $1.

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One I said, say that again?

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He said 25 cents. I mean $25 2500 250 25 you know 1000 no 25 cents.

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And then I said can you please go on as a sister because listen, 25 cents. He won't even buy your lollipop.

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You know, what do you want to do? What? 25 cents? Of course she paid righteous. And she said no gurukula taco for law. I said fine. 25 cent? Mark rinella hexcel Darwin egg Donna. Okay.

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So Hannah 25 cents. he marry her. He put on in a basement. her grandmother's basement he doesn't live with her. He said you won't see me come up soon will be la la.

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winter time.

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With her hedgehog engine. He will bring it to the message on a bike.

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One of the also Molly was really cool. You're gonna power on there because catonian cannabis Caleb Oh, sorry.

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It's true.

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Some Hannah law. He left the country. he divorced her.

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She comes back.

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She says sorry. You know everything. I want you to write me a letter of divorce. Well, ADC.

01:38:03--> 01:38:15

Okay, hi, Ernie. shala McFaul so why? Because I'm getting I'm getting married. I say Allah hawkwood hamdulillah. Now I thought Masha Allah and say, and how much is the matter this time?

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She said 25,000

01:38:20--> 01:38:22

should he labaton

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$1 I said he must be so mad. He said he's my cousin

01:38:35--> 01:38:36

Francis.

01:38:37--> 01:38:41

Milk Morocco. My cousin email don't one of us when the Somali guy comes

01:38:43--> 01:38:46

on Alibaba when a generic comes is okay.

01:38:47--> 01:39:06

So it shouldn't be this way. It should be the more general something acceptable. Something that is decent, something Asus is happy with and the brother is happy with on a loss of power know what to add, I would help both. If this is what they tend to do is to protect themselves.

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this other thing that brothers should look into it, and I know the sister would be mad and extremely upset with this one. But I really have to say I've been mmm for over 10 years.

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And I came to conclusion that the reason that divorce takes place with a certain group of people is because of 123

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if you can

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do not marry a young lady, whom her mother was divorced was divorcing.

01:39:43--> 01:39:46

Ah. See?

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I'll tell you why. I know some sisters have been abused, mistreated, under the hamdulillah those they have right and we should not blame the young lady for this or for the mother for that

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But in the West, what happened was, we came from Somalia, our women, they found independency a lot of them, not all of them and what they did, they love their husbands. So the divorce took place. This young lady now she doesn't know the problem and the struggle that her mother went through. So she thinks divorce is so simple. My mother survived. I can survive.

01:40:25--> 01:40:30

My mother is diversity. I can be divorced more. I don't care this man.

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She already has experience. And that's where they always say, Where am I gonna live for? I am gonna Yeah, I'm studying. I'm getting my education. When I get divorced tomorrow, she's already planning to get a divorce.

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She's already planning to get divorce. Why? Because her mother are overseas is divorcing. So when you getting married, I'm not saying we should judge sisters like this. I know. A lot of them would get out of the list. We got off the list. But I'm saying if the sisters parent mother, or a sister is divorced, then you should be careful, because most likely she would take the issue of divorce. Very light, but not all the time.

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Number four. Since I'm running out of time, I will like to leave some time for question answer unrelieved from this because you've been sitting here for since morning.

01:41:30--> 01:41:33

You should look the mad and

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the family of that young lady, especially her mother and her sisters. How they Aslan Marwa. eita Hi, and hamdulillah orsola de hacer la casona Rosa, all over your corner.

01:41:49--> 01:41:59

Yeah, halaqa data, Johan cadia, Kitab Kayla, and she is a smart mother like this. she respects her husband, and hamdulillah she's a from a good family.

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She's from a good family. So be careful how do you know if this woman can be sustained and you can keep this wife is by watching learn to

01:42:12--> 01:42:30

sing about her mother and her relatives, sisters and so on. But there are always exceptions, or they set out to us that I've never wore her in in case you know who you know you're gonna you're gonna attack on caffeine. So, caffeine, so it could happen both ways.

01:42:32--> 01:42:39

Now, let us go quick, quick, quick, quick, what a system may look into a brother should look into a sister,

01:42:40--> 01:42:45

which is the biggest mistake, which is, is

01:42:47--> 01:42:52

the beauty and we say we should look over that second thing that

01:42:54--> 01:43:26

that they look is not the beauty of the face, but the physical appearance. And that's why is that we human is a main nature to men's nature, that he they like women with a certain looks and that's why most of the fitness centers, their members are women, because women know that men like this by nature, therefore, they have to look a certain way and so on. But I mean of course, he has a different agenda and different conditions.

01:43:27--> 01:43:32

Other thing is what if you lack the men you do look in women.

01:43:33--> 01:43:37

Studies show is this smile

01:43:38--> 01:43:45

is to smile. If the sister has a pleasant smile, then hamdulillah that can be

01:43:46--> 01:43:47

about 10

01:43:48--> 01:43:51

that's a different case for to you know, stay away from that one.

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Also,

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men like a woman that is after a rational women who can analyze situation, puts her emotions aside, rationalize, analyze the situation, and they come to a rational conclusion. And this is what most men look for. Also, men, usually like women who beautify themselves, beautify themselves for their husbands net they beautified by nature but they also beautify. Now, most of the most Somali women and mainly Muslim men but also generally Muslim women. They are very attractive or they pride themselves when I go to my score and the medical

01:44:42--> 01:44:42

market.

01:44:44--> 01:44:48

They only look beautiful when they when someone else is going to look at them

01:44:50--> 01:44:55

near their husbands. All the dev console NBA shuwa lady nica.

01:44:58--> 01:44:59

All the beautiful dinner end

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A lot heading somewhere else, not

01:45:03--> 01:45:25

not for the husband and it should be other way around. Women should be very modest outside and it should be beautiful for her husband beautifier husband one of the brothers was saying that he said every time that my wife dresses tonight is when I'm driving and I see her nice is when I'm driving her to a wedding

01:45:26--> 01:45:28

to our wedding or we're going for azima

01:45:30--> 01:45:32

so he said I called her over the phone and I said

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Are we gonna do one and assuming we are invited, so get ready. So on hamdulillah das was about having young children it was for Hennessy. You know how Moradi everything he said I walk into my house and my wife is so beautiful.

01:45:51--> 01:45:52

So beautiful.

01:45:54--> 01:45:57

so gorgeous. He said Albuquerque 101 for this

01:45:58--> 01:46:03

I closed the door I sat down max what a memory hog um how Come on. Let's go

01:46:04--> 01:46:06

it's a no there is no invitation.

01:46:09--> 01:46:16

I just missed the beautiful my wife and I want to see and enjoy my wife. Say to the macabre ba Are you serious?

01:46:18--> 01:46:19

Are you serious?

01:46:22--> 01:46:28

All day long. I was for you. Let's go honey. Ha No.

01:46:29--> 01:46:34

This what she did. She took her hand and she mopped her face.

01:46:35--> 01:46:37

Imagine hamady in the cushy,

01:46:39--> 01:46:40

colorful window to which you

01:46:41--> 01:46:44

were heard they will lie to Emily's

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hammer the ogen arrow.

01:46:51--> 01:47:02

Now, this should not be the case. The Navy sabarmati he was certain madcon Elmer Otto solea men either Nevada la hezonja

01:47:03--> 01:47:59

sarwat Mercosur issues issue with Bahasa he she is so beautiful for her husband. And when he tells her to do something she obeys. There's a lot to talk inshallah. And I don't want to overkill you with this. But I will tell the sisters, one lostness see him. And this is for men and this is the studies that the Western and the eastern society came conclusion they said nameko men when he's on his 20s he's more concerned about the looks of that young lady. How fine she looks, how beautiful she looks 30s they don't look into beauty much. But they look into their into their intellect. She's intelligent, she's smart, she's rational. For these men, they want someone who will take care of

01:47:59--> 01:48:00

them

01:48:01--> 01:48:53

and offer until the Osada someone who will take care of you know the his needs. Someone who will not say Orinoco Toronto, Toronto, Canada know someone who will take care of this is the 320s appearance 30s logic and rational and disability 40 is someone who will maintain and take care of him. This is the three categories of men of men and this is what they like. So when the sisters Mashallah is dealing with these she has to be my next shadow. Maybe one day we will talk about how to maintain this marriage. Husband and wife got together. Sometimes they said marriage is the end of love or the end of love is marriage. It shouldn't be like this as a matter of fact, it should be the key of love

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is marriage. Because when Allah subhanho wa Taala when you get married, you your brothers or your sisters, your friends, they all give you a gifts and the gifts of Allah subhana wa tada is wotja anabaena commoditised wahama This is the gift of the marriage. So inshallah maybe one day perhaps we will talk about how to maintain a relationship between husband and wife. What this what I have to say Allah subhana wa tada

01:49:31--> 01:49:32

Zakouma

01:49:37--> 01:49:40

hamdulillah my brother, our brother saying,

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well, this beautiful lecture

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and all these comments, even though

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have another session in Bing.

01:49:52--> 01:49:55

We took all the elderly out

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including me.

01:49:59--> 01:49:59

We

01:50:00--> 01:50:00

Be out

01:50:01--> 01:50:03

and we live the youngest days with the shift

01:50:04--> 01:50:06

and then the shift will have more time

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and more explanation and more discussion inshallah.

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Then we'll wait for the next session inshallah,

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which is going to be

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completely private

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh