Me, Myself and I – A Talk on Selfishness

Riyadul Haqq


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The success of Islam as a rule is emphasized, along with the importance of showing morality and loyalty to one's values. The speakers emphasize the need for sincerity and transparency in relationships and actions, avoiding selfish behavior, and the importance of learning to be charitable and proud. The negative impact of selfish behavior on humans is also discussed, along with the cultural behaviors of different countries where people have expressed their desire to be a Muslim and have been starving.

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long sanada the early Mohammed Kumasi later Allah Ibrahim Ali Ibrahim Majeed Allahumma barik

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respects and listens salamati morata line

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season the Holy God Are you sure enough so he fought with

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whoever is protected from the avarice

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of his soul,

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then these are the ones who are successful,

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to be successful.

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And true success is the success of the Spirit.

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The success of one's religion

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and success with a law

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that will be crowned as success in the afterlife.

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That is a true success.

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So to be successful, law has laid down a rule

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the only those who are protected from the greed, from the avarice and the covetousness of their soul.

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These are the ones who are successful.

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As long as a person's soul is diseased, with the illness of greed,

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selfishness, self concern,

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then that individual can never be successful. Maybe in the world, yes. But in terms of true spirits, bliss.

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And in terms of the afterlife, such a person can never be successful.

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selfishness and greed go hand in hand.

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The person is selfish because of greed.

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person is greedy because of selfishness.

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Last created human beings

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in such a way that they share some characteristics of the past, as well as

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some of the characteristics of the angels

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last created animals in such a way that they never rise above their station, they are as they are.

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And Allah has created angels at the other end of the spectrum

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in such a way that they don't change either they are as they are, there is no concept of the Fallen Angels in Islam.

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Law says of the angels, they are soon aloha

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room. The angels do not disobeyed a law

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in what he has commanded them to do.

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Wrong, they do as they are instructed. So there is no concept of a fallen angel in Islam.

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Angels are faithful, loyal, devoted,

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obedient servants of our last panel with the honor they are as they are, they undergo no change. And there are a number of reasons for that. The angels have been

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endowed with enlightenment with enlightened intelligence with high intelligence with lines with normal

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has made them as they are they have been created to serve last panel with Anna to fulfill one purpose. Every angel is instructed to do something.

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And that Angel

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devotes himself and focuses himself only on that one instruction of Allah, fulfilling that commandment continuously for eternity.

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They do not disobey Allah. And owing to their nature, Allah has saved them from and Allah spare them. The lower necessities of the animals, angels

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have no need for nourishment, for food, drink, rest, recuperation. They are never afflicted by hunger or thirst or illness or disease. they undergo no change in their temperament and their nature. They are as they are constant,

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and constantly obeying and serving Allah and enlightened and pure.

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They suffer no physical impurity, or weakness, or decline,

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or shortcoming, just as they do not suffer any spiritual fault disease shortcoming or loss in any way, they are complete.

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At the other end, Allah has created the animals

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but the animals have not been endowed with high intelligence with light with enlightenment. Rather, the angels the animals have been created from the soil of the earth. They are earthly, they are lonely

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they are full of weaknesses, flaws and shortcomings.

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They are full of physical and mental and spiritual infections.

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Law has burden the animals with the need for food, drink, rest recuperation recovery. Animals are afflicted by disease by hunger, thirst, weakness, decline and deterioration. Mainly physical.

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And animals are never in a constant state of being of this world and of this universe, they are forever changing. And that change is not necessarily better. Rather, it's one of decline and deterioration.

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But just like the angels, the animals, the animals do not undergo any change, they are meaning

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they cannot change for the better they are as they are.

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They have no potential to overcome these animalistic tendencies and best in our weaknesses.

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So here we have the angels full of angelic qualities. And on the other hand, we have the animals full of lowly bestie, or characteristics.

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In between a lot created as humans.

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share many characteristics of the of the animals but also some characteristics of the angels. Like the angels, Allah has created us for a higher purpose to serve.

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To worship Him, to devote ourselves to Him, to obey Him and most importantly, to serve Him to be his at a bar, which doesn't just mean to be his worshipers, rather to be his servants and to serve him for every breathing moment for every living moment of our existence.

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And Allah has endowed us with higher intelligence, with cognition, with thinking unique thinking, with unique emotions and with spirituality.

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A lot law has instilled us with lines and with no

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but at the same time, a line his wisdom has instilled in as many characteristics of the animals

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and their weaknesses. The need for food, drink rest recuperation recovery,

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the problem of being afflicted by hunger, thirst,

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fatigue, disease, illness, decline, weakness.

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But unlike the angels and the animals,

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humans are unique in the sense that they have great capacity in them. They have a great

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Henschel in two chain,

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they are never as they are.

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So they can through their choices, Allah has given us a choice. And through those choices,

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Allah Subhana, Allah has given us the opportunity to choose to either remain like the animals or become worse,

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or to rise to the heights of spirituality and adopt the qualities and the characteristics of the ancients. Someone saw that if a person rises to that level, a lot even boasts of the age of humans in the presence and in the company of the agents. And law mentions a belief in that lofty company.

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And being of animalistic tendencies being

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walking, talking animals ourselves, and sharing those bestie or characteristics. The chief one

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or one of the main ones, is the best deal, instinct, the animalistic instinct to survive.

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And that desire that need that instinct that primordial instinct of survival, drives animals to behave in a certain way. Animals are selfish, self serving,

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concerned only with themselves

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and are blind. They don't have that higher intelligence, they are blind by the need to survive themselves, that drives them

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to kill, to trample on others,

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to feed themselves and gorge on the carcasses of others.

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And to destroy anything and anyone in their path in order to get what they want. If they need food, they will trample on and destroy anything and everything in order to get that food to fulfill that immediate need. And this is born out of that instinct of survival.

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And human beings being animals, we have the same tendency, our selfishness, our primordial instinct for survival drives us to behave in extremely selfish, egocentric ways. But in many ways we are worse than the animals. The animal

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whilst being selfish,

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often does it without malice, it doesn't harbor emotion while stirring it.

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Nor does it hold and gather and accumulate for the future.

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Nor does it plan in the long term.

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We as humans, not only are we selfish, but coupled with our selfishness, we plan to be selfish for the rest of our lives. We, we harbor emotions along with our selfishness.

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When we are selfish, we don't just do it for survival. We do it out of malice, out of hatred, harboring resentment. And so in many ways, our selfishness is of a worse car than that of the animals.

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We are greedy, and there's a difference. animals aren't greedy, they are selfish. But their desire for selfishness ends the moment their immediate need is fulfilled. Human beings as humans, we are selfish. But the moment our immediate need is satisfied, our selfishness doesn't come to an end.

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It then develops into greed. So we think for the future. Okay, I've had enough food for now.

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But we plan ahead

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as a last AWT them in Santa leaf, Georgia, a man named men intends to sin ahead of himself, meaning men doesn't just sin now, rather than men actually plans his sins for the future.

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He wishes to disobey Allah ahead of himself. So he actually plans and think this is how I will disobeyed a love tomorrow, next week, next month, next year in the future, and that is cynical that is despicable. So men's selfishness is not an immediate instinctive thing like that all the animals and animal needs to eat. It will do what it can in order to eat, trample and destroy, consume others and gorge on that flesh. But the moment he has done

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It selfishness comes to an end.

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But human beings, we as humans, our selfishness does not come to an end upon the satisfaction of our immediate need. Rather, we harbor future emotions, we make plans to remain selfish for the future. And that's greed. So this is why greed and selfishness go hand in hand. And that kind of extreme selfishness coupled sorry, extreme greed coupled with selfishness is known as shown in the Arabic language. And that's what I saw lots of panel data says, when we use a shorthand of say,

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whoever is protected from the shot, which means extreme greed, avarice, that's

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covetousness and selfishness. Only such people are successful if they are protected from that. Otherwise, the selfishness, this extreme greed, the sharp will destroy them.

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Jabir ibn Abdullah, the Allahumma relates to Hadeeth, recorded by a man, humbling as Muslim, as well as others, in which he says the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in fact, more than one so how do you

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relate the same Hadees in different words, in one narration it

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for English, like a man can

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fear Be wary of short, again, the extreme greed coupled with selfishness for the shot, it destroyed those who came before you. And then in a number of Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam explained how it was the root cause of many illnesses, many diseases, many sins and crimes. And he goes on to mention that beware of shopping for in destroy those who came before you, it led them to

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unlawfully consuming each has wealth. It led them to oppressing one another, to wronging one another, it led them to committing sin. In fact, in one Hadith, it says show that extremely greed coupled with selfishness led to shedding each other's blood.

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And that's what it does.

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One Tabby relates that he was performing tawaf

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and he saw a man praying to a last panel with the other in his thoughts, the laugh is one of those occasions when a person's the act is accepted by a law.

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So one can

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imagine the

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all those needs all those hopes and dreams that a person would see and want to be fulfilled and therefore pray for them in Bala

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so this Darby be one of the successors to the Sahaba of the Lama. He says that I was performing the love and I saw a man praying to Allah subhanho wa Taala Anna during that the wife and I could hear him and all he kept him saying he just kept on repeating Wonderland. And that was a lot McKinney shall have seen a lot of thinning. And a

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of a lot protects me from the shock of my soul, as I've explained show is extreme greed coupled with selfishness.

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So the debate, he says I came close to him and I realized that the man was Abdullah Hynek now for the alarm, the companion of a sort of lots of love, it was similar. So I said to him, why do you repeat the seagull?

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Why only this door lock, finisher NFC that will protect me from the ship, from the shark, the avarice of my soul. So I'm going to hide it now for the alarm and said, If I am protected

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from the shock of my soul,

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then I will not steal.

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And then he went on to mention other sins, I will not commit this sin, I will not do this, I will not do that.

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So just like I saw the last alarm, it was sort of explained in there Howdy. Just as a last panel with Anna says when we use NFC for the echo human, that whoever is protected from the greed of his soul from the avarice of his soul, and that's extreme greed, coupled with selfishness, and these are the ones who are successful. And just as a messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said beware of shame.

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destroy those who came before you? Sure. Selfishness coupled with greed is destructive. And it's a root cause of many ills, both individual and personal as well as social.

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And we've seen that.

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believe and are sometimes led to believe that selfishness is good for you.

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It's productive.

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It's helpful.

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it sharpens your thinking. It's a great motivator, a great driver.

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It's a great incentive.

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And there are various social philosophies in this day and age, which are based on the idea of selfishness. That selfishness is what motivates industry.

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selfishness and greed, drive enterprise, the creation and generation of wealth,

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and therefore selfishness is good.

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Not only does in fact, selfishness is a virtue, not just a necessity, but it's a virtue. These are all phrases that appear in many modern day social philosophies. And that's what many of us believe and we are led to believe.

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But last panel with Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that selfishness is destructive. If we believe that we are nothing but advanced primates, we are nothing but advanced animals

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and that there is no life after death. In here, La Jolla tuna dunya new Tanaka Omen seen as a lot of quotes in the Quran, from the pagans, at the turn of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who used to say, there is no life but this life in here in the dunya, there is no life that this life

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no muthana, here we die and we live.

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We are not ones to be resurrected, if we believe like they did, and others do. That we have no purpose of existence. There is no greater purpose. There is no God.

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There is no life after death. There is only this life.

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There is no purpose, its existence.

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We came and we appeared by chance.

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And we are botanicals. And just like all of the animals and beasts and insects and birds. We happen to be born, we have to live, eat, drink, and survive and make the most of this life. And once we die we shall disappear, without consequence without results without any after effects.

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If that's what we believe that we are,

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and we have no higher purpose, and that we are no better than the other beasts and birds of the earth, then we will live like animals.

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If we think of ourselves as animals, we will live like beasts.

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And in doing so,

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we will be extremely selfish in that selfishness. We will commit every sin every crime, we will be guilty of every lowly bestie or animalistic behavior in every set.

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Someone saw that even in family settings, even in marriage.

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Even in friendships, we will be extremely selfish.

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There will be no altruism, no concern for others, no sympathy.

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No true love, love. Why true love is selfless.

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And how can a person truly love if they are selfish?

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Then it's just a game. We express love, ultimately in order to get what we want.

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And that's why some are of the belief that there can be no altruism, because you take any situation, even if it's charitable. The suspicion is that we give in charity, not for altruistic, higher purposes, not with a pure motive, but in order to gains

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Something that gain can be immediate or deferred, it can be a monetary gain, it can be a gain of good reputation, a good name, it can be a gain of name and fame, it can be, ultimately, we are looking for currency and currency doesn't have to be pennies and pans.

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reputation is a currency influences a currency. devotion is a currency loyalty from others is a currency. So, we may do something, it may appear to be charitable and altruistic. But deep down our knifes is secretly and maliciously harboring a very

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insincere intent.

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And that's a form of currency, some sort of payback in the future.

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So in, even in marital settings, if we think of ourselves as animals, that we will remain selfish, there can be no true love. For true love is selfless. And how can a person love selflessly when they are selfish when they are merely expressing love in order to gain something to win something back, whether it's immediate or for the future.

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And this is why

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two people live together in marriage.

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They appear to be devoted to each other, they make claims of love and devotion to one another.

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And yet, when they fall out, when they disagree,

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everything disappears. They find like animals

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over the smallest of things. I've explained the

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divorce lawyers

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in the US have a famous phrase in the industry of the iron front.

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And what they refer to is that when they deal with divorce cases, and there are so many

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the husband and wife divorced, they sign the legal papers. They agree on distribution of wealth on the custody of the children visiting rights and everything. But they are still hammering out the finer details, the distribution of property, everything sorted, the house has been sorted the custody and visiting visitation of the children has been sorted.

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The car has been sorted, the finance packages and mortgages have all been sorted, the bank accounts have been sorted. And they are now whittling down the remaining assets until they come to small things. And they sitting there very respectfully, very Cordiale and calm the husband and wife and the

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inexperienced lawyers are marveling at the fact or those who are unaware are marveling at the fact that they seem to be so professional, cordial and courteous and so responsible about the sole adult,

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some intelligent and wise. And then when they finally come down some of the smallest of items, and

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for some reason, and this is why they called it the iron factor. When it comes down to things such as the iron

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for iron and clothes, a cheap item who gets the iron. Now they've even given away one of his children. Okay, you can have the kids, you can have the hash, you can have the car, I'll take this, I'll take that. When it comes to something as lowly and as trivial as an iron. Suddenly they start arguing, swearing, abusing, hurling accusations at one another. So ultimately what it is, it's not the I

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that's, that's the final straw on the camel's back. It's not the cause it's the catalyst. It's the final push that pushes both of them over the edge. And all that welled up anger, that frustration, all the bottled emotions.

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The iron is merely the cork that pops and then everything bursts. That's the eruption of the volcano. So it's not the iron, it's everything. Where is the true love if

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ultimately, all they are bothered about is material possessions and self service and they can calmly walk away

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from one another, and continue with their lives as long as they get what they want.

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And prenuptial agreements and court cases, where is the true love? That's because of selfishness, selfishness and greed.

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I really relate to the story of one of

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my greatest teachers, I only had the opportunity of seeing him on a few occasions when he visited the country here. And I sat in his company and also studied a few hobbies with him. So he was we as a very large group, including our own teachers, it was such an

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amazing individual,

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not only in terms of

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spirituality and piety, but piercing intelligence and wit, truly remarkable as well as a brilliant sense of humor.

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And we,

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when he sat there, he was suffering from cataracts in his old age,

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and Allahu Akbar.

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I remember one of his one of the one of the historians, who is a Grand Mufti in his own right. He questioned this great teacher, about a fatwa that about a fatwa. So the students was a great scholar in his own right. He questioned

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the grand teacher, about one.

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And he was of the opinion that the Muslim that is different to what the shape was saying. So I was sitting there, it was a Saturday afternoon.

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And there were a number of students not too many. So in that late old age, without being able to read anything. And that was the same year that we stood in a number of Hadeeth with him, the shape sat there, and we were sitting in the library. So he said to the questioning Mufti, he said, Go and get this book, volume, this of that book, volume set of that book, volume, this of that book. So the Mufti sat there, and he's

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signaling to the students. So each student would go and fetch a particular book, then the next then the next and the next. And I was one of the youngest students, I just sat there and before our very eyes, then our appeal appeared a pile of books. So volume seven, a multi volume collection, volume three of another month's volume collection. And then the sheriff Rahim Allah, He said to them off the his head, open that book, this volume this page, and read from the bottom half of the page than the most he would begin reading and the massala. As the Shay had explained, it was the correct version, not what the Mufti had thought, then it's an open the other book, this page, open this

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section, this page, read from this line, and, and he did that with a number of books until the Mufti said bus bus has enough, meaning Enough, enough.

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And I was also fortunate in that one of the hobbies that we studied with him was a hobby that I commented on some time ago, heavies of heraclius. So we started the whole of the Hadeeth of Huracan, with this grand shape.

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So speaking of selflessness and love, a lot.

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When he got married,

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he had no wealth.

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His only wealth was

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a house which he had inherited, otherwise, he's to live and teach in the mother's.

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Even as a teacher, he used to stay in the mother's house. And he was so humble, that rather than getting students to come and serve him, he would take his plate. And as a teacher, he would stand in the line of students waiting for food to be served to him, and he would shuffle along the line.

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And truly his spirituality, his piety was astounding. He's a figure that all of those who have known him and sat with him and studied under him, or even experienced a few minutes of his company, have been bowled over and overwhelmed by his spirituality Empire, or some of the greatest teachers and orlimar alive today

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would sit in front of him like children.

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So this great scholar, Rahim Allah, He, the day he got married, he walked into his, he walked into the hamlets.

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And he said,

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said to his wife in the first day, and it was an arranged marriage, they had never known one another before.

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He said to her, I have no wealth in the world, except this one house which I have inherited.

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And here you are, I have given the house.

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Consider it, your mom, your dowry, or consider it your gift. Either way, it's yours. You are now the Malik and the owner and possessor. As long as you grant me permission,

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I will come and stay here in the house with you. If you withdraw your permission,

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I will quietly make my arrangements elsewhere. That is what you call selflessness.

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Forget giving the house after the divorce Allah. He gave it to her on the first.

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But last panel with Allah blessed him with such burger

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that he was never short of money.

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And I haven't heard this from one person or two people or three people. I've heard it from a group of scholars who lived with him who spent days and nights with him. The truth is they never knew where he got his money.

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And he was known to be a bank, a bank in the sense that in the madrasa, he would stand in line with a plate waiting for food to be served to him, the one house which he had inherited, he gave away to his wife. And yet, he had no other income he used to teach for free, only live, eat and drink in the madrasa.

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And yet, all the students need that if you ever wanted a loan, and not just for to buy the next meal. If you wanted a loan to even travel for hedge, you would go to him.

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And what would they not one person, not two people, they would go for a loan. And when they would go for a loan,

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he would give him the loan, he'd say, Come back tomorrow, come back after two days, and you've given them money. And then what would happen? When the time came back to pay, the students would go to pay. So he'd say, Come back tomorrow, come back next week. They come back, they keep them going into him. And it would be the other way around. Normally, the creditor

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goes to the debtor and says pay me a moment. Here, the debtor is going to the creditor and says take back your money. And he keeps on saying Come back, come back, come back next week, until the students will get tired and they'd in their frustration, they would say to him,

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take the money or come to a decision. Then he would smile and say fine, accept it as a gift. And not one students not to count.

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On one scholar who's traveled with him, who was his personal heart him. He said to me that I asked him that, what's your secret? What can you do? And he mentioned three things to me. And people regularly asked me what are those three things?

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And we should ask ourselves, why do we want to know? Is it because we just want loads of money.

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But those three things, we can't even achieve one of them, let alone three.

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And if you want to know one of those three things is

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if someone comes to you for help,

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then help consider their need your knee, consider their problem, your own problem, consider their calamity, your own calamity, and strive to fulfill their need, and to relieve them of their suffering as you would strive to fulfill your own need and relieve yourself of your own suffering. He said this is what I do. And that's just one of the three things.

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When the students heard the three things he said, We can never achieve these things.

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So I was speaking about selfishness even in the marital setting, even between partners and spouses.

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Even those who claimed and profess to love one another, it's like, what's yours is yours? What's mine is mine.

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And of course they cheekily say, watch. What's mine is yours. But do they really mean it's do we really mean it?

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The proof is in the pudding.

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The proof of love is in the gift, not just

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selfishness is a disease that afflicts us or it affects every one of us because we we are animals

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We cannot remain animals.

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A last round of all data has created these characteristics in as well we have been commanded to overcome them and we can, but it requires sacrifice. It requires an effort requires work.

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Every human being is full of anger.

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prophets of the law it will send them said he would make the out over law in them and

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I am but a HeMan

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of the baboon, I become angry just as humans become angry. So Allah, if there is any man, any man that I have cursed or verbally abused in my anger, then make my abuse towards him a charity and forgiveness for him on the Day of Judgment.

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So Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I'm a human, I become angry just like all humans.

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So anger is part of every human being. But aren't we required? Aren't we expected? Isn't it better for us to up to fight that and to suppress that and to overcome that anger to work on it, so that anger does not get the better office. Similarly, selfishness by virtue of others being animals, selfishness is our primordial instinct for survival. But we have been commanded to fight it, to overcome it, to eradicate it, to remove it from our character. Only then will we rise above the station of beasts, mammals, only then will be considered those worthy of angelic qualities, only then will we be close to Allah. Only then can we be truly successful, successful of spirits

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successful of the hereafter successful in the sight of the last panel.

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Otherwise will mean otherwise, selfishness would destroy us. We are selfish in many ways. We're selfish in the world. We're selfish, even in

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even in religion, we are selfish.

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That may sound surprising, but somehow Allah, think of it.

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In religion, today's talk has been titled me myself and I talk on selfishness.

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Because we are always considered considerate of only ourselves.

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We're always thinking about me, myself, and

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our conversations betraying our selfishness, our ego centrism.

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Our self centeredness, it's all about us. When we're sitting in a gathering.

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If the attention is not focused on us, we ban from within.

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We want to be the life and soul of the party. We want everyone to look at us be the center of attention, be the focus, be the one that people look up to admire, like, we want people to think good of us. that pleases our enough's.

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We want to be the first and everything and the center of attention. The first in material things the first and emotion, the first in.

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We want people to think of us. So we don't want them to think of anyone or anything else. We want them to be thinking of us. We want people to love us. We want to capture and enslave their minds and their hearts so that their thoughts belong to us. their emotions belong to us, their material possessions belong to us. That's what we want. We want to own everything.

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That's how selfish self centered we are. And we never satisfied it's not just about cars and homes and money and food and drink and clothing, and material possessions and wealth. We want to own everything. That's what the Nef says the nuts wants to be ignored. That's a diseases of the NASA disease of the knifes the nuts wants to be got

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to own and control everything.

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So it's all about us, me myself and I every conversation I this I that me this me that

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even in religion.

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We may think we are sincere, and we should strive to be but sincerity is so important. Sincerity in intention, sincerity, motive, sincerity in friendship. We've all heard the Hadith.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the mercy of

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religion is no see what's in the sea here. It doesn't mean good counsel or good advice. It means sincerity. And that's clear with the rest of the heavy problems.

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La Hollywood films at the mercy of religion sincerity.

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The Sahaba of the Allahu anhu they said lemonnier rasulillah sincerity for whom it's not advice to whom or good counsel to whom sincerity for him. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said lilla he would have soo Lee when it kitabi

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sincerity to Allah sincerity to His Messenger, sincerity Talas book, and also

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in within muslimeen are admitting sincerity to the leaders of the believers sincerity to the commoners amongst the believers. So, this is the meaning of religion isn't to see how mean sincerity, we have to be sincere in our intentions and our motives, sincere to the creator sincere to the creation.

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Sincere to last and see it last creation. Sincere to our friends.

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A friend in need is a friend indeed. And that can be read both ways. It's either a true Maxim or it's assault sarcasm.

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When we turn to people only when we need the last one people say a friend in need

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is a friend indeed, that's sarcastic. That we only turn to one another when we can use someone exploiting.

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That is no sincerity, in our friendship, in our relationship,

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so sincerity, in everything, including towards the Creator, as well as the creation, now towards a creator, we are selfish, even in our relationship with Allah subhanho wa.

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We may not think of it as being such.

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Let's ask ourselves, why do I pray?

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Why do I fast?

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Why do I go to the masjid?

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Why do I go for church?

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And we, we can ask ourselves and we've heard the answers from others too. And we know our own answers. If you're, if you're sincere. If if you're honest in our if we are honest in our answers, sometimes we get the replan.

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I pray because it makes me feel good. I pray because

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Allah answers my prayers. I pray because it gives me solace and comfort. I pray because in the hustle bustle of life, it gives me a few moments of tranquility and serenity, calmness and composure. I pray

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because it gives me a sense of fulfillment and achievement. I fast because it makes me discipline. I fast because it makes me do this do that. I give wealth because it purifies my wealth. I give zakah because it purifies my wealth. It makes me feel that I can spend the rest of my wealth with a good intention with a clear conscience.

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In many of our answers, it's still even in religion, it's still about me.

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last parameter, Allah says akima Salah, Joaquim is Salah,

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and establish some sort of Baja and established Salah. Why lithic re for my remembrance. When you pray. It's only for the remembrance of Allah. We pray for Allah. Fasting, Allah subhanho wa Taala, Allah says and heavy could see. And these

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are the Mullah who in the CRM or for in the hall Lee what an exhibit. every deed belongs to man except fasting for each for me, and I shall reward

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all of our acts of worship should ultimately only be for the sake of a loss of words.

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examples of our being selfish, is our behavior even when it comes to the masjid.

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I apologize beforehand for saying this, but this I don't wish to berate or belittle or unnecessarily complain. I wish to address myself first and others and draw our attention to our behavior. And I've been seeing it all my life and I'm sure you can identify with it and you can recognize it

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I will behavior even in the machine.

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When we make our way to the machine,

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we leave the house with the intention of performing. So

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let's take the example of germar

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or EAD.

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We leave the house

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we drive.

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We look for Park. When we arrive near the machine we look for Park. We don't care where we park.

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we violate parking regulations, which are they're not for inconvenience, not for trouble.

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Parking regulations are there to facilitate the flow of traffic for people's convenience for safety.

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But we park and double yellow, we violate parking regulations. We park in the pavement, we block people's path, the pavement is for walking. We park on the pavements because that's what we

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we park on the yellow double yellow lines we don't care. We we block people's entrances and exits. We block people's drives, we block other people's cars.

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Then we enter the machine.

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We rush in.

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We find any spots we want.

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we want to be at the front. So we climb over people's shoulders, and we go to the front.

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his head ease for the virtue and the reward of jamara. He promises a reward for that person who does not split two people who are sitting,

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ie they are sitting together, he does not force himself in between them. He creates a space by occupying the spot that he wants to add the discomfort and the inconvenience of others. Quite simply, in fact, the whole head he speaks about not inconveniencing and troubling anyone. All the way from the moment the person departs from home till the person till the time a person returns. We pray Salah

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there is no consideration for the other people pray.

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Then when we pray Salah.

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We may listen to the sermon if we arrive early enough.

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Do we absorb what the Imam is saying? Do we pay attention we pray Salah how many others are conscious of what the Imam is reciting during the Salah.

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And if we understand the words what the words mean, and as soon as Salah has finished, all we want to do is get out see the rush after Salah people are jostling nudging, pushing one another.

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People template over one under the shoes when we place our shoes we can care less where we put them as long as they are safe.

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People at times remove other people's shoes from the compartments and put their own in

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the flings.

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They placed their shoes on others they will walk on other people's shoes and trample on them full of

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moisture and mud. But will they tolerate their own shoes? No, no, they want to wipe their shoes and place them in the corner.

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When we get out, we just push nudge is we just need to get out of the doors.

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And then we rush back to the car and we go

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our whole behavior from the moment we leave home till the wee moments we get back we should ask ourselves is it akin to our behavior to the behavior of someone who is sincerely spiritually going to a place of worship, for contemplation, reflection, remembrance of the Creator for worship,

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to earn reward and comeback? Or is it akin to the behavior of someone going into a supermarket.

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This is how we behave. We go to the supermarket. We want the best parking spot. It doesn't matter if we park in the disabled.

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The only thing that will prevent us from parking in the disabled Bay is a fear of

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well, the traffic Ward

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was a traffic warden who

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someone left their car

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some time ago. It's a true story. Someone left their car

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and they knew that they were in an illegal parking space. So they left a message with a verse from the Bible on the wind windscreen.

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Saying, forgive us our trespasses.

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So they left the message saying forgive us our trespasses. They went a traffic warden Cain, who must have been a biblical scholar, looked at the message, slapped a ticket on

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and then wrote an equal message from the Bible saying alongside the ticket saying, lead us not into temptation.

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So, the only thing that causes us to fear prevents us from parking in a disabled Bay is not consideration for the disabled individual, but only the fear of losing money in a parking ticket at all.

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We're rushing, we buy what we want, pushing our trolleys we could in case we hit someone or something. We grab what we want, look at something, case it back in another shelf, find the cheapest deal, do our shopping and get out. That's all we want to get in and get out. A lot of them. Let's question ourselves. Isn't that the way some of us behave when we go to the machine. It's like, I need to pray Juma. I need to do my eat Salah. I need to get my prayer out of the way.

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Even more honey for him. Allah says it's mcru

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it's mcru. To eat.

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This is his opinion, it's McGrew to praise Allah while it's

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hungry, and therefore you should eat first and pray later.

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And then he would say that I would rather make my Salah rather make my food my Salah than my Salah.

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Meaning when a person is hungry, what do they do?

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I want to eat so I've got to pray as well. Let me get my prayer out of the way.

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Let me get my prayer out of the way.

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So they prey first.

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And then quickly, and then eat at leisure.

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And what do they do?

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What in this on our even whilst they're thinking because they're occupied? while they're preoccupied with the hunger, they're thinking about their food. But if a person wants to eat food first, they still have that worry on their head that I've got to pray my summer. So the eating but their thoughts aren't insula. So am I more hanifa rahula said I would rather make my food my son Ah, rather than my salon life, and therefore I eat first quickly get my food out of the way and then pray to Allah.

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So it's like, I need to get my Joomla out of the way I need to get my pizza out of the way. It's just something that needs to be done for personal selfish reasons. And therefore in order to achieve that it doesn't matter how many rights we violate how many others we trample over, we go to the masjid in any which way we can get in, do our thing get out, we'll come back.

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The same we do imagine

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the spectacle of people jostling, fighting, trampling over one another at the edge on a sweat because of that selfish desire, that I want to be able to kiss the sweater, I want to do it. I should have that opportunity. I must do whatever I was selfish mode.

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In order to kiss the unhedged estimate, which is a sin.

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It's not an obligation. It's not a word.

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We commits many harms. We find me jostle. We push and shove women, children, old people.

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This leads to stampedes even around the garba. Only for the self sex faction and the smugness of having the thought of having been able to kiss the girl to kiss the unhedged investment. And

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the way he would kiss it is it stand over, it's in a unique manner. And then he'd say, oh, stone, I know that you are a stone in the bedroom that the lunar rover that in fact, you do not have more benefits in any way. And if it wasn't for the fact that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kissed you, I would never kiss you. And then he'd bend over and he'd kiss the vegetal as well.

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it's a symbol of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, it's not a watch.

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So even in religion

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we are motivated by selfish intentions

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and that selfishness

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found everywhere in religion in dunya. Even in dunya, we are so selfish we are never satisfied. And as I explained, right at the beginning,

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animals aren't greedy, they are selfish. They have an in primordial instinct for survival, which drives them to be selfish. They need to eat, they will do anything to eat. But once they have eaten, their selfishness does selfish desire comes to an end for that period. They don't plan they don't think to be selfish ahead. They don't harbor any selfish thoughts. Their selfishness is not coupled with malice or resentment, or emotion. It's a necessity. But if we need to eat, we do it. But the moment our immediate needs are satisfied and fulfilled, it doesn't stop. We plan ahead. We our selfishness is coupled with emotion, with malice with hatred, with further desire. We want more

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because we can't have it now. We want it for the future. That's greed. That's a difference. animals aren't greedy, they are selfish. Our selfishness is not immediate or merely instinctive. And it's not merely about survival. It's for hoarding. It's what accumulation is for gathering. It's for its most sinister purposes. And it's lifelong.

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And this is why we hoard and accumulate wealth. We are never satisfied.

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We are so lonely that Allah has given us so much. And yet we want the smallest thing.

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It's surprising.

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Imagine we invite 50 p

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49 of them come one doesn't come.

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We invite 40 p 5040. People to our house. For a meal. We plan for it. We do so much we go out of our way we invite 40 people 39 come, one doesn't.

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Our whole evening is wasted.

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Because we're there. We're surrounded by friends and family.

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People are smiling, enjoying company.

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There are 39 visitors. We're not happy about the 39 who are there, we worried about the one who isn't there.

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A lot has given us so many possessions 100 possessions. We look around as we've got 99 brilliant possessions.

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One is missing. We want one thing, we forget about the 99 we we are grieved and we feel a sense of loss. And we are saddened by the absence of one material thing.

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That's greed that shot we are never satisfied in this country.

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Only a few days ago, I read an article only a few days ago

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people in the UK in this country.

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We in this country.

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We form as a nation, we form

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the elites, the economy and financial elites of the world. And collectively,

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people in this country

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on more in assets and in wealth.

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The 92% of the world

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92%. And the thing is you don't have to be a millionaire.

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The figures I don't remember the exact figures but they will give it in dollars. But the

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I think the figure was approximately something like 450,000 if you own more than more than 450,000 you may think well I don't know more than more than 450,000. That's in total all your assets put together. You are not in the 7% of the world's elite. You are in the ones if you have more than 450,000 pounds approximately of assets that includes your house, your car, your clothes, every penny that you own, you own more than 99% of the world's population.

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And if you own more than 100,000

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and I think that's in dollars, so if you own more than 55,000 pounds,

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you are actually within the world's 5% elite.

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And in this country, almost every person unless they are totally penniless still belongs to the world 10% of the elite. Imagine this thought we hear we

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more than approximately

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six and a half to 7 billion people in the world, and yet we're not happy. Allah says letting shocker.

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Want to

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leave? If you are grateful, I shall give you?

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And if you are ungrateful, then indeed my punishment is painful.

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And what is that painful punishment?

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What is that painful punishment?

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If you're in gratitude, and if you're short, and you can, that's your greed and your selfishness need you to commit sins, that committing sins, then allows pain will be punished, Allah's punishment will be painful. But if we don't get rid of that shot, and if we are ungrateful, we actually the punishment begins within ourselves, our greed, our selfishness, in itself is painful.

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It's painful, why don't we overcome it?

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Why don't we overcome that pain?

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Why not be at ease, be grateful for what we have, rather than being pain and agony for what we don't have. If we have 39 friends and turn up, be grateful for them, rather than the one who's absent. If we have 99 possessions, be happy and grateful for them. Rather than being paying for the one that and punish ourselves for the one that we don't have.

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That's what grieve does.

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We are if we are selfish, if we have that shot in us, we will never be happy. If we learn to be selfless, it's liberate it truly is liberate. And that's how the prophets of Allah was in the MAS. That's how the Sahaba of the

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loss I'm delighted no matter of the Allahu Mercedes, but there was a time and he's recording the time of the Prophet sallallahu.

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There was a time when

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we were companions.

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We believed

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that we have No right, no greater right to a single dinner or a single dinner, any of them.

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But now the time has come and he was speaking then.

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Immediately after the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you mentioned how 14 centuries times have changed. So he said, Man, our time has come when four people, one Dina and one is more important than another Muslim

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wants to have European law relates at the profit side of the law and equals either Muslim Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And they were traveling. When a Bedouin came, a man came, and he started looking around and the need the reason for him looking around was that he was in need. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam looked at him and then he made an announcement. And he said to this harbottle, the alarm, he said, Whoever has an extra ride or your camel or horse, then lesson give it away to others, who help whoever has extra provisions in lesson give him give them away to others, whoever has extra food less than give him give it away to others. And then he said, the

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heartbeat of the lover he says, he continued to mention many different things of wealth, many different categories, food, provisions, dry things, horses camels around. He said, Whoever whoever has anything extra, let them give it away. Whoever has anything extra surplus, let him give it away. Then this habit of the Lovering says he said it's to to such an extent that we then began to think that we have no rights in anything that we actually possess, which is extra to our needs.

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profits in the lump. Sum said Whoever has extra let him give it away, let him give it away.

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Rather than trying to collect and accumulates and grab as much as we can for ourselves, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us so how about all the Allah give whatever is excess and what success what's fun.

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If you have food for today, they want a journey from some of the lines instead if you have extra provisions, extra dates, extra nuts, give them away share.

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You have arrived. Do you have a camera or horse? You've got one Why do you need the other give it to someone else? And that's what this habit of the allowing us to do these to get

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I was speaking about the mystery.

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earlier on, in that we go to the masjid

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and what's our What's our manner of going to the masjid we end up being selfish even in religion.

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And I said that may sound surprising, but how can we be selfish in religion? But Allah Himself explains that in the Quran

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Allah says woman and NASA Yabba de la harder half

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female Saba who hate on it. And

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what in Sabah to fit Allah Allah which he has said a dunya

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Allah says there are of the people those who worship Allah upon the edge Allah upon the edge.

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So if good fortune befalls him, then he is content.

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But it fit that flicks if a calamity or misfortune or a suffering befalls him

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in Colorado, he falls flat on his face he flips on his face, I he turns against the law.

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Hustle adonia on earth hero he has lost the world and the life after death. With chanukkah wa salam o bien This is the clear loss.

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What's this in relation to you ma'am? har de la la relates I have Ethan his heart and soul to others, that during the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam some bedrijven came to Medina.

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And they embraced Islam, they followed the Prophet sallallahu wasallam them.

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And they were hoping for riches, and good fortune.

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After some time, some of them stayed others went back. But in both cases, when they did not see any good fortune,

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and it wasn't simple things like some of them wanted male children, others wanted crops. Others wanted pastures. Others wanted camels and sheep and flocks and herds. So and they weren't expecting these from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam as a gift, but their mentality was that if I believe in Allah and worship Him, it will be good for me

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in my dunya

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I'll get what I want. So after a time when they saw that they weren't getting what they wanted in terms of material wealth and possessions, they actually turned away from religion or they blast screamed against the law or some of them went to the extent of saying there's no good in this religion.

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So last panel with Allah explains that people worship Allah and serve him for selfish reasons.

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But even in that Ivana have a lot as a child, they want some good for themselves. As long as that good comes, they are content woman and NASA mi amor de la Harada. They are of the people those who worship Allah upon the edge

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for in a Slava who hired me,

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if good befalls him, then he is contempt, Wayne sabato fitness, pal of Allah which here, if any misfortune before then he flips on his face. And in doing so, he suffers not only the loss of the world, but he suffers a loss on the afterlife. And that is a clear loss, and undoubtedly such better than weaker faith. And some of them may have been hypocrites, because who, who would openly blaspheme against Allah in that manner in the presence of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam regardless,

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Allah Himself states that people worship Allah for selfish reasons. We need to ask ourselves, do we belong to that category or not? I mentioned earlier about a friend in need being a friend indeed. We do that with Allah, just like we do with each other.

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We, we want something we contact someone.

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And even they are surprised that they haven't heard from us for so long.

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Or we haven't heard from someone who contacts us for so long. And there's a nagging voice in the back of our minds that he or she wants something. So after the initial exchange of greetings and pleasantries

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with we think in to ourselves, we'll get to the point why have you called while Have you contacted me

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certainly isn't merely out of courtesy or inquiring of my wealth out and seeing you heard from you for months or years. And then after the introduction, and the patient

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Even, and the softening and the molding, and the fracturing, then the request comes. And it's always something personal and selfish. This is why we say a friend in need is a friend indeed. And we are so selfish, so exploitative, that love, we use people, we exploit them. We demand favors of them. And once their usefulness has expired, we forget them. We dump we ignore them. We walk past them as though they never knew us.

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On the last panel with Allah describes that kind of relationship as well in the Quran.

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Allah says, What is our Muslim son or brother an Allah Jimmy he Okar is in our power.

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When harm when suffering for befalls men, he calls out to us legitimately he

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lying on his side, all while seated all outstanding meaning in all postures at all times of the day, sitting standing, lying, sleeping, rising, resting, moving, it doesn't matter. When a person is suffering a misfortune when a person wants something. Either they want something I either want something good

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or they

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want to be relieved of suffering. people pray for exams, people pray for simple things like car tests and good qualifications and a good rate or pass rates and exams, a job interview and everyone prays for marriage.

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These are the good things,

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or success and wealth of business. And then we pray in order to be relieved of our suffering of a calamity or misfortune.

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And I In either case, we pray in earnest, we beg Allah we besieging we plead with him, we shed tears and they may be sincere genuine tears for the time because we are sincere in what we want. Even a fee for sincere

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a thief is sincere and determined. So we are sincere and determined in what we want. And we may even shed genuine tears between us and our Creator.

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When we get what we want

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success or the relief of our suffering

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then what do we do? I don't need to say it's a law describes it a law says without listening son or daughter Anna Anna Jim be he Oh pardon oh hi Emma. When suffering befalls man he calls out to as well as lying on his side while seated outstanding, then for America szafnauer evil dollar. Then when we relieve him of his suffering, maraca Mia the owner in a Dory Messiah, he passes by as though he never called out to it as far as suffering that before.

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So we treat a lot we treat our friends, our colleagues, our acquaintances, someone to be turned to in need someone to be used someone to be exploited.

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And the moments their usefulness expires, someone to be forgotten.

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Somewhat so that Allah describes in another verse. Without an incentive. I don't want to add the journey. But

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when we bestow a favor upon man, I will relieve him of a suffering. We give him what he wants. He's got what he wants, what does he do? He turns away from his one hour RV journey, and he distances himself with the side. That's a literal translation of a barren vagina with his side, he distances himself with his side, what's the meaning of distancing? distancing himself with a side you have to see it this is what it means.

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That's the meaning of one Abidjan that the way we do to each other as though he

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with great content, we, we don't even want to be in the proximity of the person. We don't want to be seen to be associated with them. So with great contempt and disgust, the way we withdraw in our shoulders, and we tuck in our arms, and we distance ourselves physically, that's the actual meaning of one Abidjan.

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So we do a lot of people do that with me.

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We do that with a law.

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So we are selfish in religion.

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Going back to what I was saying that we, we have mustards.

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Another example of as being selfish in religion is our relationship with mustards with charities, with religious institutions, people of religion.

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We all need chances. We all need machines. We all need religious establishment, we need people of religion.

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We need all ama that we can turn to. We need Messiah who can serve as our mentors as our guides. As our teachers. We turn to them for solace for comforts for clarification for explanation. We need mustards for our rebar. We need modalities for the education of our children and for our own education for religious governments. We need religious charities and establishments But have we ever stopped and asked ourselves, we need these people in these establishments and these institutes when we want them. But do they just miraculously appear out of nowhere ready.

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They have to come from somewhere. They have to be staff they have to be built, they have to be developed. These individuals needs to be create. So who does

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we carry on merrily with our lives, spending on ourselves? The moments we need a place to pray we go to the machine.

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Have we ever thought about the sweat, the tears, the perspiration, the wealth, that have all gone into building that machine

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and that continue to go into maintaining the machine. Have we ever thought of that? We go in we want the best parking spot. We want all the facilities we want

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parking spaces with drawn lines. We want underfloor heating in in the winter. We want air conditioning in the summer. We want hot piping hot water. We want fragrant hand washes. We want clean smelling toilets, but fitting five star hotels. We want all the facilities. We want plush carpets that we can sit on comfortably.

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We want a good sound system. Not only that we want a good era as well.

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We want the best of that are

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one of my teachers very humorous. He

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He used to be an Imam in the masjid. And eventually he resigned because the congregation and more so the committee kept on pestering him. They wanted him to recite long silence.

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So when he resigned, he argued with them. And he was quite forceful. And he said to him, you pay me absolute peanuts. He spoke in our language. And the equivalent is in use of a penis as an English phrase, but he the equivalent in our languages. You pay me peanuts, and you expect me to rip my throat like potty Abdelbaset.

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And there was another story I don't know whether this is actually a true or just a joke, but we're a committee member told me this story. He said, You know,

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there was an Imam who every summer he used to recite por la but I had to, you know, kind of go through what it is.

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So, committee kept on bothering him and say, why don't you sign longer surah as long as swords. So eventually you got fed up and one day he said to them, Jesse Hevesi Sora

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the surah is proportional to the wage. You pay me an absolute minimum wage you get minimum sudents in that altean alchohol Allahu Allahu Allahu Ahad Jesse de mahasiswa

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as the wage

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accordingly the sore. So we want the best we want the man to give us a melody as recitation over a brilliant sound system.

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Who pays for us and it's not just about money.

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People volunteer, they volunteer to clean the machine to pay to run the machine.

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Lavagna. Normally in most mysteries you will find one devoted individual who acts as a caretaker voluntarily. They come and they look after the hot machine

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for so long. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam honored those who honored them

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when he didn't just say build the masjid and collect funds and give a comment.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told the Sahaba of the lover, let's build a machine.

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And then he himself participated. So they carry bricks until his body was covered in dust.

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So we want the best of religious establishment and people, but we make no contribution whatsoever.

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And one thing I would like to make clear anything I say today is not about monetary contribution.

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Because we're not just interested in money, money is not going to solve the problem of selfishness. And this leads me to the next thing. Next thing.

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We need modalities. We need Islamic schools, we need religious establishments and charities, we need religious people.

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But just as they are making their contribution monetarily financially, in terms of time volunteering their charity, we need to do the same. We need to volunteer our time, we need to be less selfish and more selfless with what we love.

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We all want our free time, our food, our drink, our rest, our sleep, our privacy. What are we the only ones in title two that will lock if everyone thought the same? If everyone value their privacy, like we value our privacy, if everyone got their wealth, like we got our wealth, and like I said today is not about wealth, if everyone got their privacy, like we got our privacy, if everyone treasured their emotions that we treasure, our emotions, if everyone was as selfish as we are with our time, our wealth, our emotions, our privacy, our leisure, then there'd be no machines, no religious schools, no establishments, no charities, no people that we could ever turn to at our time

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of need.

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That's a fact.

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So we need to break out of this model we need to become selfless, and charitable. So the question is, and I'll end with this, how do we do that? How do we become charitable? How do we become selfless? How do we rid ourselves of this disease of selfishness which is destructive?

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Both in the dunya and in the US, even in the dunya. Ultimately, nobody likes vultures.

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Nobody likes hyenas. Why? hyenas are scavengers.

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hyenas have some certain qualities.

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They have strength.

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A hyenas jaw

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is unbelievably strong.

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And their teeth, a hyena can take a bottle, crush it with jaws and teeth. And the glass does not affect behind

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vultures, buzzards they have their own qualities. Yeah. Does anyone admire a buzzard? Does anyone like a buzzard? a vulture are a hiring now

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we hold them in contempt. Animals love.

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Even in the animal kingdom there's a respect between animals.

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So people respect ally and people will respect sorry, not people animals will respect the line not just favorite animals will respect an elephant. But the animal kingdom loads,

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buzzards vultures and hyenas. Why? Because they are scavengers, even animals don't like scavengers. So what are human beings, those who are selfish, and who act in that selfish, exploitive manner, who scavenge who don't want to carry any weight, who don't want to carry any burden, who don't wish to make any contribution, but wish to live of the fruits of other people's labor and other people's efforts. They are, how do we treat them? How do we view them people view them as scavengers as vultures as highness.

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It's a despicable train.

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So how do we even in worldly terms, selfishness doesn't make sense. altruism makes sense.

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And Islam, how do we attain that lofty grade of selflessness so that we can liberate ourselves rise above that lowly Bestival station and become beloved to Allah? How can we achieve that self selflessness, which makes us better people, have better minds have better spirits have better hearts? Bring this brings us closer to Allah and make some lovely slivers. How do we do that? One simple solution.

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you will never attain virtue, righteousness, until you spend of that which you love. Allah says in another verse, what are the man Allah would be here we will get on our Masaki No, there was no effort on your part that he gives of his wealth, despite the love of that wealth. And then Allah mentions or categories of expenditures of this resource.

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So, this is the solution. We force ourselves, no amount of speed, no number of speeches, no amount of talk, no amount of advice is going to change us for us. We have to introduce that change ourselves. We have to go through individual therapy, we have to make choices, decisions and perform actions which change his words alone aren't sufficient. So what's the solution you spend of that which you love, a lot says lengthen out a bit of a head that

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you will never attain virtue until you spend that which you love. And as I said, today is not about spending money. That's part of it. Whatever we love, we have to be willing to sacrifice it. And we have to make sacrifices. We love our free time. We have to learn to be charitable with our free time. We all want to be legendary.

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But we have to learn to be charitable, and to make sacrifices of our leisure. We all want our privacy. We have to learn, to open up open up our hearts, our minds, our time and our homes.

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We have to learn to share share our thoughts, our emotions, our being our privacy, our leisure, our time, our confidence, and our wealth. It's only when we force ourselves to do these things, that we will become selfless, like the Sahaba of the ummah. Their example is perfect when this verse was revealed, lengthen out

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one after the other. That's how about the Allahu came to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And they made a demonstration of their selflessness. And I've actually working on themselves to act on this verse. The most famous incident is that the alarm and

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the alarm says that his stepfather had anxiety for the alarm when he was the richest of that he was one of the richest and the wealthiest of all the Sahaba out of the Allahu anhu in terms of owning palm groves, orchards, whole palm groves, not one palm tree, but whole palm groves, gardens upon God, yet many all scattered all across Medina.

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And when this verse was revealed, he came sort of sort of laughs and love it. And he said, yeah.

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Allah says, lengthen on the

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moon, you will never attain piety until you spend on that mochila.

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So I have reviewed my wealth, and all my wealth. There is one garden, which is the most beloved to me, and it was made or how it actually had a name, but it was actually opposite the machine. And it was such a beautiful place. You had palm groves a place to sit? Uh, well, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to regularly go there, rest into the shade and drink from the water of the well. So he said, your soul and love of all my wealth by your hair is the most beloved plot of land to me. And I have decided, in order to act on this verse, that I give it in the way of Allah. So he gave the garden away in the way of

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the lava and came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And so the artists would

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have been given

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a plot of land in the fertile rich oasis of haven

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that he got that as a share. He said, that is the most beloved of all land to me, and our messenger of Allah, I wish to give that in the way of

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what should I do with it said What should I do with it? So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, keep the land I don't, don't just give it away, keep the land but all the produce, give it in the way of a law so make it what a religious thing. And so that's what the law said. This is given to as a walk as a religious endowment. She remained in his name but it was given away.

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That was the alarm

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zaidan hottest or the alarm on his

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Son, Abdullah, Muhammad Ali, Allahu Allah. He was the same, he would actually, he would sit down. And he would think, as to what wealth do I love? Which wealth do I love? And whatever he loved, he sacrificed. He was once riding a camel, and he purchased it with great wealth. And he really liked the moment he liked, he got off. And he said to his attendant, nothing, he said, remove the saddle, and go and sell this car.

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So he said, timber, you spent so much wealth on it. He said, go and sell it. This is why because he loved it. He wants to act on the verse spend of that which

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is at the heart if the heart of the law and that one time adopted son of the messengers, the law abiding son, he,

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when this verse was revealed, he came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he said, the rule of law. This is my horse, and this horse he had was the most beloved horse to him. It was more his most beloved possession. So instead of messenger of Allah, I wish to give this in the way of

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the prophets of the law. He sort of accepted. It gave it away in, in the way of Allah. And then something remarkable happened. He was a prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one time adopted son. And his his son was, was sound with a mosaic who was a beloved of the Messenger of Allah. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam straightway took Osama and put him on the horse. He said, You climb, you climb the horse, so we'll say Mr. Santa, straightaway is at the heart of the hill, the alarms face dropped.

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So the province of the law had him send them looked at him and he saw his face dropping. He said,

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Allah has accepted your charity. Oh, zayde. What does that mean? Meaning Allahu

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zaidan had at the heart of the Allaha and went to the prophets and the love it was sort of with the intention, that this horse is the most beloved animal to me. I wish to sacrifice it and spend it in the way of Allah so that I may attain that virtue that a lot of promises in the verse, lengthen out.

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But when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam accepted the southern part and paste or sermon on it, zaidan the hardest battle the Allahu feared that my son, I fear that maybe my son being on the horse, or my son, being given the horse will reduce my reward, and will cancel my sacrifice. That's what he feared. And that's why his face dropped. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reassured him that don't worry as aid, Allah has accepted your charity and sacrifice. That's how this habit of the alarm. That's how the province alarm it was someone wants to give up that which you love. He once came out. A woman came to him with their cloak, what we call a charger or a Shimla

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aboard there, okay, a kind of blankets that you wrap a shawl. So she gave it to him as a gift. It was a very beautiful one. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam commented on it so good. And he really liked the so how about the Lovering who liked it? straightaway, a man spoke up and said Yasuda Allah. So a very nice one. Give it to me to wear.

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So let's hop out of the alarm, I'm rebuked him and said you have bed and he went inside. And

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puts a little lugs inside in order to remove it, and come out and give it to him.

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So they said to bed in the messenger, some of the love it for some of them. So he said, Look, I only did that, so that the cloak of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam could become my guffin and shroud.

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So the prophets of the lives we came out and gave it to him, and indeed, he gave instructions. And when he died, he was buried in that same trap. So profits are the lowest and gave it away.

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To give of that which you love. And it's not just about wealth. It's about as I was saying about the lack of normal the Allahumma. I went on to say the height of the underlying normal of the alarm. He would look at what he loved. He would think and then he'd spend it

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he gave a camera the way he gave both weights said about Abdullayev no matter the alarm.

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That on some occasions in one single gathering, he would give away 30,000 30,000 dirhams.

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one occasion he was ill

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so he wanted dance.

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So he said get me dates. So he they sent someone his wife send someone with one there

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to get a bunch of grapes. And I was just thinking that it's Pamela

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Even today, one bunch of grapes, how much are they? by two pounds on like bunch of grapes? So

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right? inflation's correct. It was the same price then one bunch of grapes are good with their with one day, one day. I'm not sure the price right now, but as I've mentioned before, he was close to two pounds. So someone went and got one bunch of grapes. So as he was returning from the market with a bunch of grapes, a beggar saw the bunch of grapes, and he followed the pitch. So when he arrived, they brought the grapes in, and the beggar said,

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I am in need. So I'm the loving or the lover, Nkrumah said, Give the dates.

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So his wife then gave another day to him, and said, go and purchase another bunch of grapes. And he was ill. I'm delighted. Norma was ill. So he went and got another bunch of grapes. When he came back, another beggar followed.

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And as soon as he arrived, he

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said, I'm in need of the large number of the alarmists and give them

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so then, his wife scolded, the person said, Look, he will never be able to eat, so go and fetch grapes and give them to him. And I'm delighted with the alarm and morons who was traveling, and he really wanted to eat fish. So wherever he stopped, they searched for fish.

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There was none available, except one in that whole area, only one fish was available. So his wife purchase the purchase the fish, his wife took great care. This is invalid, normal, sort of normal up to great king cooking, the fish should cooked it prepared it presented. So I'm delighted, no matter the elaborate man, when a man came to the door, so I'm delighted, no matter the lover, Nkrumah said give him the dish. So his wife said, we can give him money. You eat this, we can give him

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the lucky winner of the alarm. I said, No. Give him this.

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She said you wanted fish? You wanted fish. So now you haven't give him money instead? So I'm the Latin or the alarm. I said, No, give him this. She protested. So he said, This is what my heart wants. This is what I want.

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If you want what I want, respect my decision, this is what I was given the fish. And it's not just about fish. It's about sacrificing what you want and what you love about selflessness. There are countless stories of this habit of the Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. I'll end with just two stories. In fact, you know how selfless the Sahaba out of the alarm or anywhere. The province of the LA hide the unsolved.

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Today we have refugees traveling everywhere. There's a refugee crisis in Europe.

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There are refugees arriving in many countries from war torn areas.

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These they are shun abused.

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And we all know the refugee crisis, the Sahaba of the alarm

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when they travel from Mecca to Medina and they emigrated

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in a way they were refugees. They fled mud Gohan took refuge in Medina because of persecution.

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How did the unsub receive them? Well gee, no one had ethers. The install went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and said to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam Yasuda later mojari Yasuda Allah.

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We have our wealth, our orchards, our palm groves. We want you to divide all our wealth and give half of it to the to the Mahajan.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had to refuse He said, No.

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They were the ones asking that you divide our wealth and give it to them.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the one who said now

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he said rather it's better that you keep your wealth. They assist you. They do the work, and you share the profits.

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So then the Sahaba the love on both the inside and the Mahajan.

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That's that selflessness. That's how the Sahaba and I relate just two stories of selflessness and I'll end with these.

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Last Days Linton and

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One you will never attain piety virtue until you spend that which you love. Wahhabi and Muslim both later understood the monocle the alarm who says you're not

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one of you cannot become a true believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself. And that's how the Sahaba we need to adopt their example. Even if we of course, we will never be able to achieve what they achieve, as long as we can become less selfish, less self centered, less egocentric, less concerned about myself less concerned about me myself, and open up our hearts and minds, we will achieve much we will achieve the liberation of the hearts, the mind, the soul spirits, we will attain virtue and piety and we will attain true belief. So the two stories was the Chanda one that had inside of your lover and again, Amanda Hardy and others Muslim all

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relate. Now one night the profits of the lighting system stood up because a guest came to him and that guest appears to be the alarm and

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the alarm went to the profit center. Love it. Someone said Dr. Subala. I'm hungry and named. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stood up and he said who will? Before he made an announcement. Do you know what he did? He didn't expect anyone else to be charitable. He sent a messenger to his wives.

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Every wife sent back the message with the messenger saying give hours Salaam to the Messenger of Allah and inform him that we have no food in the house except report. All of the wives.

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This wasn't the days when the Muslims were suffering.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stood up only when he had nothing to feed the guest himself.

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And he said, who will entertain the guests of the Messenger of Allah?

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So one of the Sahaba one of them sad. So how about all the alumni who stood up and said I will a messenger of Allah.

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He didn't call home to inquire first.

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He just said, I will.

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So he took the guest. After he reached home, he said to his wife, do you have any food?

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She said, I've got enough for the children.

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So he said, Put the children to sleep.

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Now it doesn't mean that the children starved. Because what it is, you know how?

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Imagine the father arrives at home. And he says that is there any food. And the wife says the mother of the children says there is some bits for the children, meaning

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it's specially for the children. So it doesn't mean that they are hungry and they are starving. You may be at night but how mothers tend to keep food only for the children.

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Parents will do but children. So that's how it was it wasn't that the children starved. So he said we'll put the children's

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children and he said to her, put the children sleep, dim the lamp, put out the food for our guests. So the children will put to sleep. The lamp was dim, and the husband and wife pretended to eat. That's why they dim the lamp so that the guests couldn't tell that they weren't eating. So they pretended to eat all the food that was available, they gave it to the guest and who was the guest that will wait until the

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next morning. When this habit of the alarm went to the profits of the law. It was sudden the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah marveled, and smile

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out what you and your family did last night. And Allah revealed this verse in your in relation to you. And part of the verse was where you fit all nerada and forcing him when Organa became masasa. When we use an FC folder ecoman will flee home. And they give privilege and preference to others over themselves, even though they may be in need. And whoever is protected from the avarice and greed of his soul. These are the ones who are successful.

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And the other example and story which I end with, and this is it's not about money. It's about giving off time. And the stories are one of the hubbub of the alarm. When he was a medium, I mean, he was he used to patrol Medina hat night Street. So one night he came out, and he saw a tent pitched in an open area. So he went to check what's this? There was a better one sitting outside. He was obviously from out of the city. So he said to him, why are you and when he arrived, he he heard some groaning

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sounds from inside the tent. So it was obviously a sound of pain.

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So he said to the bedroom and what's this?

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So the bedroom in said to him, he didn't know who he was he didn't recognize him. So he said to him, Please brother Mind your own business.

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And then he said, Why don't you come? So he said, I have come to see ameerul momineen or blah, blah because I am in need.

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So he said, Look, brother, he persisted. Tell me what what, what's the sounds he said, my wife is in labor.

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She said, Wait here, he went home. And

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he's the leader of the faithful. He's Amir of the Muslim.

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He's a governor, the commander the ruler, the uncrowned king, he goes home.

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And he tells his wife, consumer of the law,

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the daughter Fatima of the Ummah,

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the daughter of Annie will do.

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So he says to him,

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he says to her gather and she was young, he seems to have gathered some pots, utensils and cooking items. And company explained that there is someone in need, and his wife's in labor has been in life, meaning

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they gathered pots,

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utensils, and foodstuff and a lot of the alarm and carried it on his back. And they went, they set up the cauldron outside the tent,

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or the alarm and he went inside. And she began attending to the lady in labor, and Amato the alarm and sat outside cooking food, and in one narration, with the smoke rising and wafting through his dense beard. And that was a medium what meaning he cooked food. And this was not late at night.

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And Medina was asleep.

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And then after the food was cooked, while he was carrying, he was cooking the food, when suddenly a consumer of the law popped her head out of the tent, and she said, Oh, meaning give glad tidings to your friend. That's when the Bedouin was startled. He said a meal and what we need. So tomorrow the alarm and said to him, Look, do not fear. Do not worry. It doesn't change anything. Is that come to me tomorrow morning. And then they act they fed the family and give glad tidings to your friend of the birth of a son. And that's when he was startled. They fed they wrapped up next morning, the Bedouin came out of the alarm and gave him foodstuffs and equipment and wealth. And the Bedouin then

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stayed for a while and returned the moral of the story is Mr. de la hora and being ameerul momineen. See how he gave of his time his leisure, he wasn't selfish.

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And that's a lesson to be drawn. I ended with this I but who would do that who amongst us was

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going out to help someone in need? Everyone turns away a lot. Because we're all worried about ourselves. We have everything. But we're just worried about ourselves. Because we want more if we've got our food and drink and our leisure and accommodation, we want our privacy our entertainment our pastime. We don't want that to be affected. We need to learn to volunteer to share and the way of doing this is forcing ourselves to sacrifice some of that which we love. We love our time we love our wealth, our privacy and entertainment our leisure we should be willing to sacrifice these things. I pray that last panel with Allah enables us to understand what's the law or send them out

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and that he will soon be and I'm Hyman whiner and he was a huge mean, panic a lot more.

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In LA and stuff.