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Homemade Happiness #4 – The role of the father

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Tada Baraka

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zazzy welcoming you to

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homemade happiness.

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Law

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Riyad Rosie, we're coming to you to homemade happiness. This is episode number four.

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Episode Number Four session number four.

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I just want to

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give a minute or two for some more people to join in shala

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How's everyone doing?

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all doing great. Please call the dads call the fathers. wake them up. Wake the fathers up. We're talking about dads today. We're talking about the fathers today inshallah

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Yeah, let this need from Vancouver when it comes to them. Yeah, that'd be me. And also from Vancouver by the way as in Yes. In the rice. Where in the world have you been? Yes. In the rice? Where in the world? Have you been men? Da da da mo Are you mediana Mohammed Whoa, are you either come sit down widespread widecombe Selma LA, he man. Call your dad. Go to your dad. He's got to come and listen to this today because it's just about destiny. 100 mean How's everyone doing?

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Yeah, hello? Hello. Yeah, hello. Marhaba I just want to give again, a minute or two for some more people to join. They're waking up Waking up. Welcome Sarah. Then one more hubba hubba

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he knew it. He knew so he ran away. He ran away anyways. The This is again session number four on the new series called homemade happiness and I love the world don't you? Don't you I love the word or the title homemade happiness as if you know we're, we're craft in it. We're crafting it for for no for this like a homemade recipe on how to bring in serenity peace, love prosperity at home. Right? This is very, very inhemeter law you know, it's a it's a it's where we're connected with the end of time series which we had before. But at the same time this is a series which embeds both that which is spiritual and that which is realistic, right you know, so that's why it's one of my very

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favorite series right hamdulillah brought him in as well. I didn't was silent as my show I

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mean,

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then Shazia, identify the RDF, share, as you've shared, this is Facebook out there and, and Instagram right here. Right. So should we start because some more people are joining? And

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it's kind of slow. I don't know what's going on. Where's everyone? Right? Yeah, they are. Okay, anyways, Bismillah let's start we're going to start in Charlottetown up, the series are recorded anyways. It's just sad when sometimes people come in late anyway.

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The summit lowers from the last little sermon, so less than mid cohort lightoller workato for the other zazzy once again, we're coming up to the homemade happiness. This is episode number four. We've been sharing with us some principles and concepts and foundations on how to

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have a homemade happiness how to it's like a recipe, a recipe that everybody can utilize in their homes, you know, messages for husbands and for wives and for dads and moms and for sisters and brothers and for

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the entire member of the Fed all the members of the family, you know, so everybody would have a little piece of this homemade happiness and childhood data. And so far we have shared I think four foundations so far right. And, and last week, the last foundation we spoke about what regarding the core role or the pivotal role of the Father, the pivotal role of the Father, and we're still talking about, you know, the pivotal role of the dad of the father.

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My business sisters,

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the winner Remember when I said last week that it seems because in the past

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You know, the father was, was playing that very, very crucial role. And as if, in recent years, so Pamela, as if some of the parent fathers have written some sort of a statement to their wives, that they're no longer responsible about anything else other than other than, you know, you know, you know, paying the bills, and, and being the ministers of finance, you know, if you may say, but, um,

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and I, and I, and I mentioned a couple of things to the fathers last week, that,

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that you are providing, you know, you're given two things, you know, as a father, two things, number one, you're giving, you know, materialistic things to your children. Yeah, you're, you know, you're feeding them, you're paying the expenses, you're giving them, you know, whatever they, you know, you're buying them whatever they want. But one thing may be that you're not giving them as much as you need to give them this more than the other, which is time. This is what your kids need more is time, your time, more than anything else.

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So what do you think is more precious? That which you know, do you think is, you know, your, your time for your kids is more precious than, then you will give them a cell phone, buying them a cell phone or a car or a bike or, or a motorcycle, or, you know, or a PlayStation or Xbox? You know, which thing maybe for them, they may think, Oh, yeah, I want that Xbox, I want that PlayStation. But as you know, what's more precious for them is actually your time more than anything else, you know. So, three pieces of advice for the father, or other fathers, and I'm one of them, before we move into talking about the pivotal role, actually, of the Father, right, because I have a session just

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talking about the role of the Father here. First, I want to share with the fathers, myself, all of you,

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three, you know, main advice regarding their kids. advice, number one your kids are in need of you. And I'm going to explain what I mean by that your kids are in need of you, they need you. They need you. Number two, you are preventing yourself or you could be preventing yourself from an amazing blessing, an amazing

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reading, this is number two, you could be or you could be preventing yourself from

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from a very tasty sweet NEMA. That's number two. Number three, Allah subhanho wa Taala will ask each one of us fathers, about their children. So these are three, you know, statements I'm making here and I'm going to explain inshallah hota one by one, number one, your children are in need of you. Number two,

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you are or you could be preventing yourself from a very, very beautiful beautiful Nima. You could be preventing yourself from that beautiful, sweet, you know, gift present. Number three,

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Allah zation will ask us parents, fathers, I'm talking about fathers who can then move to the mother's

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Eliza will ask us about our children. Number one, our children are in need of us dads.

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Especially Let me tell you something. And I did some research on this.

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The the the children,

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especially the debt, let's say the son, the son from the both of them in general, but especially the son from the from his birth to to the age of four, four years old.

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The mom, she is the hub.

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The mom She is the hub, the mom She is the pivot or she plays the pivotal role in their lives.

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The mum is dissenter

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in their lives. Their lives, you know revolves around is the mom, you know from the age of from the time they're born, until they're 40 years old. But here let me concentrate on maybe the sun a little bit more. Why'd you understand why? from four to seven, they need you more than maybe the mother. And you'll understand why I'm saying this. From zero to four. The mom she's the hub. She's the center of their lives, ma but from four to seven

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especially the son or that he needs you more Why?

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Because this is the age where he's, you know, personality is being crafted.

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This is the age a crucial age between four and seven, especially the son, the boys, yes, the boys, especially the boys, where the personality is being crafted between four and seven.

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So the son, for instance, the boys at that age, this is where they start discovering the world of manhood.

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The girl Mashallah she's got the mom now, but she also needs the dad at some point in her life, definitely. But here I may be concentrating a little bit more about the boys. Why? Because the boys and I will have a message to the moms and then we have a message to the single moms today. single moms, I would have a message for them. Because, you know, why do you need a men in their life, or maybe in their, in their children's lives in their children's lives. So the son or the boys, they are discovering the world of manhood in that age between four and seven.

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So he tries a boy in the sun, he tries to mimic his father.

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Didn't you notice? Sometimes he would wear his shoes,

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shoes back like long, big shoes, and he was just wearing them. He would wear them.

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He would wear maybe his father's shirt.

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He would try to

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draw his father's attention. Because now he's discovering that world, the world of manhood

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because he's a boy, and there is no dad in his life.

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Not because maybe you're divorced, no, maybe you are dead, but you're not there. You know, that means that's even worse than someone being an orphan. It's worse than being an orphan. When your father is there yet he's not there.

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The orphan is an orphan we know Allah says that his father has passed away or something, but when you are not an orphan, yet you feel like you are an orphan, why because the dad is not there.

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And that is the killer. And this is why I said in that age between four and seven, it is a very crucial age, especially for boys, where they need the dads as their role model

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in spirit and when the dad is not there, then what happens what happens when the dad is not there?

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They

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there is or there would be

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a complexity in the personality of the boy

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they grew up with a complex

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in that age is what we call an Arabic queen is

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the queen structure this is where the the the composition of the of his personality happens.

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This is where is actually the crafting of his personality between four and seven.

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And he needs a dad he needs a dad in his life.

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So this is why the somehow love the orphans. They suffer in this age when their dad when they know the dads are no they passed away in that very young age. They suffer. And this is why the Prophet Mohammed and so so then he he gave so much love

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and talks about the virtues of looking after an orphan. He was an orphan some of our Islam right, his father died when the Prophet as a son was not even born yet.

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And then his mother died when he was six years old. So you may imagine how the Prophet grew up, you know, did he have that complex knowledge handler he did not have that complex because that love that he needed from his mom or the or the hand and the gentleness and the care he needed from his dad. He got it through, you know, a lot of soldiers that he mended his heart

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a lot that meant that his hearts are kinda what the Anna, you know, the love he got from his uncle.

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The love he got from his uncle, some halala right, the love he got from from the wife of his uncle as well.

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The mother of Allie rhodiola and who have done right, so this is why the Prophet Mohammed has so much to say me I'm the one who looks after an orphan. I like this.

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And as I said here, you know like this point into his two fingers, he's you know, middle finger and then his thumb. This is how you're going to beat

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Close to the profit as a selling in general, to those who look after orphans and orphans. So here, you know, when I said earlier that there are some kids that are often Yeah, they're not orphan.

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The dads are not there, then that's not present.

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So this is why I said initially number one, if remember my first advice, my first advice is, you know, your children are in need of you. Your children are in need of you.

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They need you. And they need you to be there. And they don't just need you to buy them this or that, or to feed them this or that. They need your time and they need your love. They need your time, and they need your love.

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More than anything else, they need that affection from you that and yes, there are some dance who don't say that, you know, although they may they love their kids. No doubt they love their kids, but they don't say it to them.

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They don't tell their kids that they love them.

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And this is a killer.

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No, as I said, your kids they need your your love and affection more than the food that you feed them more than than the things that you buy for them. They need your time and they need your affection and your love.

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And they need to hear it from you. real money they need to. They need to hear you telling them that you love them. Moms, they don't have handler most moms don't have the issue. If not all moms don't have this issue. Because moms they tend to tell their children. I love you or hate book. I've come a habit kata who better Betty? Right? They tell them how much they love them. That's love. A lot of dads don't say that to the kids.

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They don't sometimes I cannot generalize. Of course, no, no. But there are a lot of dads who don't tell their kids that they love them. And they say, of course my kids he knows I love him. He knows she knows. Or maybe some dads tell their daughters that they love them. But they don't tell their sons that they love them. They think that I want the boy to grow up as tough.

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I want the boys or girls to grow up as as a man. Yeah. And he you want him to grow up as a man as a man. Right? You want him to grow up as a as a as a man thinking that you know you don't you don't give him love and you don't show him love. He's gonna grow up as a man he's gonna grow up as a as a mental man, is because I grew up as a mental issue health men, this house is gonna grow up. And if on top of that, the man doesn't say it. That's even worse. But that darkness upon darkness, and the light upon light is darkness upon darkness.

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Hmm. So when you have a dad that don't tell their kids how much he loves them.

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And then on top of that, a mom who does not say that either to their kids, imagine a kid growing up having all the toys of the world,

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having all the games of the world having all the monies of the world yet he does not get affection from his parents, that boy or that girl will grow up with nuts with with with the shortage with the complex in their lives in their personalities.

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Prophet Mohammed also said that

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Prophet Mohammed is a sinner.

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As I mentioned, when a floppy man would come in, he would go up, he would stand up, he would hug her he would kiss her some love and send them. You know, she knew she knew that the prophet will die from his case.

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Yeah, she kissed him. Yeah, he kissed her. You know, he couldn't stand up. He cried. Because Because normally when Fatima comes, he stands up to go and hug her. But that day, when he was about to die, he couldn't get up.

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So she came in, he couldn't get up. He's cried. She came to him. He hugged her. He kissed her. And then he told her Fatima. I'm gonna die today.

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Allahu Akbar, Fatima. I'm gonna die today.

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He whispered something on his on his on her ear on her ear telling her but he cried because he couldn't get up like he normally does. he normally does when he goes in, he hugs her and he kisses her. But he couldn't. So he cried. She went and she hugged his her dad and then he whispered something on her ear is older poppema. I'm gonna die today.

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He never leaves home until he gives her a kiss.

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He never leaves home until he kisses Fatima when he wakes up in the morning for pleasure, he goes to the house of Fatima to wake her up as well.

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And he works for Allie up. Both of them.

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Some of them behind him said Salalah Harrison

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he comes in home when he comes in he The first thing he smiles at her face. Her cane he smiles at her face.

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When I need when I need he came to ask for a copy must attend or listen to this. Listen, listen, listen. You wanna you want to hear this amazing story? When it came to ask the Prophet Mohammed for Fatima's hand. You want to hear the story? You want to hear this amazing story when it came to ask Fatima. And what did the conversation that he had with the Prophet Mohammed is such an amazing story. Do you guys want to hear it? Amen. You want to hear it? Follow and Sandia and Shazia. Do you want to hear it? Oh, Moshe. He doesn't want to hear this. You want to hear Sophia? Do you want to hear Rosa Rosa it and when I say you want to hear this? Donna, you want to hear me as you want to

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hear this? Puppy? Might you want to hear this? You know, when Ali came to ask the Prophet Mohammed for Fatima's hand.

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So those of you who have daughters Listen up

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all right, he came

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and it was so shy. He was very shy.

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So he came and he sat down he just came in he said down Prophet told him early Whoa, like know what's up Andy? Why did you come? Okay? I'll pay when when when that brother comes to ask for for Samia his hand.

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When that brother comes to ask for Samia his hand, right, so remember this. Remember this? Don't make it hard on him.

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Don't make it difficult on him. The guy is already shaking. The guy is already scared and and he is already Yanni trembling. He is already miss Kenya and he is already

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stuttering. He's already stuttering. He's already confused. And he's already Yeah, and he miskeen Right, right. Yeah, so me. Yeah, I'm a spirit. I'm defending you here. I'm defending. I'm preparing you. I'm preparing your brother. Right. So So when this guy comes, don't make it hard for him. Look at the profits. Awesome. did look around the province. Yes, Miss He wants to come and he wants to ask for us sisters and right. He wants to ask for your sisters and

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okay. monisha when you're What? attend your dad, tell your dad when that guy comes to ask for your hand. Tell him listen to what the show is about to say.

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Don't take him to your room and the guy I'm talking to he's already Yeah. Anima skin trembling, of fear. Confused? And he's he's Ismet. Yeah, I mean, he's not sad. He's just scared. terrified. He does not know what to say he's stuttering right? So don't make it hard for him. So money shot Ted, you got to listen. Prophet Muhammad Ali. Honey, what brought you here today?

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It said nothing. Nothing. Nothing. Yeah, you just gave nothing. Yeah, I just gave nothing. And then he he the Prophet. He read him. Already. He read you.

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The I look at a taco Fatima. He said oh, maybe I think you came to to ask for Fatima's hand. Huh. Did you or did you come to us for 14 months? And

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he says not me Allah. So Allah says yes. Our Prophet of Allah. Yes. And then he's not looking. He's looking down.

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Okay, father of monisha an upgrade. Are you guys listening? So, so he's asking him what brought you here? He says nothing. Nothing.

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He did not make it hard for him. He did not play stupid stuff. I did not play dumb. Oh, nothing. Okay, well, nothing. So let's watch TV together. Now let's watch this movie together. Don't play that dumb man. Try to facilitate the Prophet said. Did you come to us club Fatima's hand?

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And he said yes, yes, yes. Hello. Yes.

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Then the Prophet asked him, What did you bring with you? What do you have for her? What? What diary what present and you're gonna give her

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and then Addy I need

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He says, I don't have much. I don't have much. And then, and then

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the Prophet says, so look what the hell the Prophet is making it easy for the guy. Because the guy he has something, but he forgot about it because he's his skin. He's like I said, He's scared and, and he's shy. He's embarrassed. So the project is helping him. He says, Don't you have that shield? You got from the spoils of war that day? He's reminded says, Oh, yeah, I have that. I have that. So why don't you give that as a diary? Give that shield that you know that arm armor that armor you got from the from that battlefield that day? Why don't you give that he knew he had it, but he forgot whose skin is so trembling. The product is helping him.

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He's helping him he's telling him. Don't you have the shield Avira? Don't you have the delay? The Shield? You know, says yes, yes. Then the Prophet says, I accept. And she will accept you know, of course you fought them already. You're part of new erasure, you know? And then he told he told him, I accept with one condition,

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one condition. Now sisters and brothers, do you want to know what condition the Prophet said?

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You want to know the condition the Prophet said

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as sisters and brothers, you want to know the condition? Oh, what an amazing condition. You want to know about the condition the Prophet put in place right he says, I accept to give you my daughter Fatima, but with a condition there is a condition here was the condition

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was the condition it was the condition monoecious father was the condition Rhonda? And so they meant when that guy will come to ask for Maya's hand insha Allah you know when that guy comes to ask for Maya's handy Sharla sister Fatima when you go and ask them Sharma who to Anna for you know for Mustafa. You know inshallah wives hand right. And Chavo Tada. So, so listen, you know, you said the condition what condition the Prophet had a condition? What is this condition? Was this condition? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, we can also have them well, we can This is the Prophet Mohammed, we cannot say those days are gone. Those days are asked if we want to bring them back in order to

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either the Prophet says I have a condition

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cammo the how low Aleppo at a level? No, no, no, no. He says, I'm willing to give you my daughter provided that you be kind to her

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Fini DOS, finish the end, the end, I'm willing to give you my daughter provided that you be kind to her.

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And to see the social better. And to see her suffer but to have that you be kind to her.

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I'm willing to give you my daughter provided that you be kind to her. And was he kind

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was he kind and you know the lover and how old Ah ha ha da da da da da da and he actually used to love fathima so much that he used to make poems for Fatima

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and he used to love Fatima so much. He used to make these poems poetry for Fatima.

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Hmm.

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Would you like me to share with you an amazing poem, Allie has said to Fatima one day

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huh nasima nasima Would you like me to share with you a poem that Allie said to fapy my one day Nadia Nadine was in Cabo.

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De Lima, Mohammed Mariana Saudia, maimunah Eman.

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Gina Saudia, Shazia Fatima frondosa. Would you like me to share with you an amazing, amazing poem that I said to Fatima one day?

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Huh? Huh? fee Fie, Fie, Fie, Fie, Fie. And yes, mean, would you like me to do that? So here, here it goes. I know. It's too It's too early for a for a cliffhanger. It's a very early for cliffhanger. So here's this beauty.

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One day and he came.

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Yeah, no, no, no, no, he did not ask for a house 20,000 diary. He didn't ask for this. And that Prophet Mohammed also said that he did not ask for that. He asked for him to be kind to his daughter. Yeah. So So yes, one day, Ali.

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went home and then he found fathima using the miss work

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I want to break my wrist work when I want to break my wrist work miss work wait.

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So,

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so

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far the mesh he was using the miswak

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this is an RV anatomy it's called miswak on a road allok it's called Road America

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All right, right. This is called in Arabic road route like the sake of Allah. Allah is the tree called Arak tree. You know, it's called the miswak but it comes from a from a tree called a rock tree

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or a tree. So, but so he, he, he was she was that she was, you know, she was doing this, you know, she was doing this, and then Halle Halle came, and he and he saw her doing this with the miswak and then he looked at the miswak and then he spoke to the miss work.

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What did he know? He's talking to the Nice work, he says.

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Have a

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walkie

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talkie and aloka Hello Hello Holla Holla Holla Holla Holla lo condemning. critelli la cartel Touka

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murderers I mean Nisha chaos he was coo

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coo se wacka

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he says How about

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how lucky you are or

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how lucky you are or miss work?

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how lucky you are or miss work to touch my my my wife's lips?

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How lucky are our Oh miswak to touch my wife's legs?

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Aren't you afraid that am I see you Oh.

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Aren't you afraid that I will see you doing that? Aren't you afraid I'm going to see your Ark.

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He says if you were a men of war, I would have fought you.

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If you were a men of of war, I would have fought you. You know it. It wasn't hero. It was a was a was a fighter he was a Knight was you know it. So he studied him. If you're a man of war, I will have killed you.

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It says all nobody has ever escaped from me except you or the ark.

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No one has ever escaped from me in the battlefield. No one has ever escaped me except you or miss wack.

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No one has ever escaped from me or you miss work.

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Just because he saw his wife using the miswak. And then though in this.

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So I used to love how anxious Fatima so much. I used to love Fatima very, very, very much. So when the Prophet told him

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when the Prophet told him, all right, I accept to give you my daughter Fatima except with a condition and the condition is that you will be you know, kind to her and gentle with her and nice to her.

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And then the Prophet Mohammed

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took them to their homes in his own right to his own. And then he says, stay here. Don't do nothing until I come back. Don't do nothing until they come back. So far. They were set in one corner and Addy set in one quarter. They did not touch. They did not do nothing. Because the Prophet says don't do nothing until they come back.

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The Prophet went to take care of his things with his you know the Sahaba or the family or whatnot and then he came back

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and then the prophet Isaiah some says, Oh Allah give me your hand.

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Either Give me your hand. Fatima Give me your hand. He took their hands together.

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A llama enough? hobbema he says a llama enough

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or long enough? automobility What have Vanessa la

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Allahumma very clear Huma Abedin cada Hema webedi

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been home a few higher. Oh Allah Fatima. She is the most beloved dog

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To me, she's the most beloved person to me all of you know that Fatima she's the most beautiful person to me.

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Allahumma barik lahoma Rebecca Hema was my baby mama, Allah bless their marriage and bring them in and bring serenity and prosperity in their marriage. Baba

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ba ba,

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ba

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ba ba, ba hula hoops.

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Listen, no, no, this is just the song of, you know, the song is taken from this. The song go for a magazine is taking it from this balaclava. This is the route that a person should say when two people get married. So the Prophet made that draft for them.

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And then he told him put your hand on on the on her on her forehead.

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And then we said that there are a lot in the

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military becoming, shall we? How shall we measure military? You see all this is happening? All this is happening? In the meantime, archivists thinking, what should I ask of this man? Who's asking my daughter's hand? What should I ask of him? What should I get from him? What shall we know? Shall we shall he get this? And shall he did that? You know, this wedding should be this you know, and that, you know, and the meantime as this is happening so many years, so me as far brother, and mommy says mommy says that he's thinking, What shall I get from this man? I should make his life miserable.

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I should make his life miserable. Um, we're gonna ask Can we going to make him we're going to milk him like we milk like we milk a cow or a camel. We go into milk him

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when this is happening, you know, I paid Ben Mooney shows dad, they're thinking, you know, how can they look some hamdulillah the Prophet took care of everything. So Lola himself

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took care of everything. made it easy. He made that.

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And then he left.

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But before he left, he told me Yeah, Ollie, your Fatimah stand up and pray. tolaga

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stand up and pray to the Prophet is milking him his way and you people are making them their way.

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Hmm. The property is also making him but his way says yeah, Fatima, Ali, stand up and pray to the cat together.

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And then he left home and then he says as though they're Acoma la la de la palabra. de el I if you bought under the protection of Allah, Allah.

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wa. And as you know, what kind of marriage was it?

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What kind of marriage was it? The marriage between Allie the prince and furthermore, the princess.

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The prince with the princess.

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He left and before he left he told them I leave you under the protection of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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This is why Ali had so much love intense love for Fatima so much. So he wanted to fight the ark. He wanted to fight this

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little girl ah.

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He used to love his daughter so much because his daughter she used to live far, at least a bit far. And he wanted to bring everybody close to him. He wanted to bring everyone close to him. So how do you think no man held up dinner man? He came to the Prophet as a Salomon headed everything. I mean, he's the one who helped the Prophet as I said, you know, build those other houses. And then he says, Yeah, la sala.

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You You miss Fatima? Ha, you miss Fatima? He says, Yes, I do. Because she used to live far and he wants it to be close to him. He says yeah, that's of Allah.

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I want to buy her you know, this, give you this land close to your home so that you can bring him up and make and let her live next to you close to you. The Prophet says, we've asked you for so much Oh, man. Oh, yeah. How do you how do you know man, we ask, have you have too much. And then heading says jasola The more you take from me, the happier I am.

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The more you take from me, the happier I am. And then he gave him that then. And then they build that house for Fatima to live very close to the Prophet Mohammed but Prophet Mohammed he did not just do that and went on and says no, no, no fine. He went and he asked it

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although he is the father, but now she has a husband. He went and he consulted with the husband.

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Some of the fathers they think that you are a dad but he is

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Her husband, he has more havoc on her. Okay, okay, when she gets married, and when he says that when your daughter inshallah gets married, right? Her husband would have more rights. What Huck. Monique, he went in, he asked le le, this man is offering us land close to me, you know? Would you like to come closer and live close to me so that Fatima can be close to me? He says, of course. So, of course.

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I'm telling you how the father was there. The father, he was there, Prophet Mohammed Alice was there.

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He was always involved.

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But are you always involved as a dad? Are you always busy?

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for your children.

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Remember what I said earlier, and some of you who came in late, you missed out on a lot, and they beg you please go back and watch the session from the very beginning.

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Watch the session from the very beginning.

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You may be given them so much, but you're not giving them the core elements of what they really need. They need your time, they need affection, they need your love. They need your hand and your tenderness.

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This is why that foundation I shared with you is the pivotal role of the Father. And that is you know, the the foundation number number number four,

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the pivotal role of the dad of the Father.

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And number two, so this is number one. Number one is your children, they need you. Number two, you could be preventing yourself from the sweetest, sweetest blessing of Allah subhanho.

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wa Taala you could be preventing yourself from the sweetest. Yeah.

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The very first smile, you're not there. The very first word, you're not there. The very first move, you're not there. But who's there, the mom, she's there. The mom, she's there for the very first smile. The mom she's there for the free first ma the mom was there for the very first move. The mom was there, the mom was there, but the dad, we're always busy. We're always busy, we need to understand this, your dad and I, we need to understand this we're busy, but their children, our children, they need us more than the food that we feed them. They need our time and our affection.

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The Prophet Mohammed I just saw them, you know, playing with a hassanal Hussein,

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Biggie you know, piggyback them and he says to them, you know, he would go in his suit, they will come and they will jump on his back. I used to sit them and he would play with them. He would kiss them

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came a man

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by the name of an aka You know, he came that he saw the Prophet hugging his or her saying and he's kissing them and he says all you people kiss your kids is albies and bedwin all you people kiss your kids. He says I have 10 kids. I've never kissed them. I've never kissed them. He says what can I do to you? You know it looks like you know Allah has snatched out Rama from your heart.

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Well, what is it that you want me to do to you? It looks like Allah has snatched mercy from your heart. He says whoever does not have mercy on people on earth. Allah will not have mercy upon him. He says I have 10 kids. I've never kissed them. This is a message to those who say I don't have to tell my kids that I love them. They know I love them. They know I love them. I don't need to tell them that I love them because they initially know I know they need to hear it from you. They need to hear it from you.

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They need to hear that you love them. They need you to hug them. They need you to hold their hands. They need you to carry their hair. They need you to touch them they need they need to hear that from you. That's as I said earlier, moms most moms majority of moms, if not all moms, they don't have that problem. This is why you dads, dads and I we does we need to work harder on this.

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We need to make more efforts on this. Mom, they will love her regardless. Regardless, the mom she will even if she's mean to them, even if she they will. They will love the mom. Eliza has given her this, this nearmap they will love them all

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that we need to work harder on that.

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And number three is

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Allah will ask us about our kids.

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Allah will ask us about our kids.

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Well, he will ask us about our kids and those of you who have come in late again one more time

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you missed us You missed, you missed a lot. Please go back and watch the session. Please go back and watch this session. Those of you who have come in late, go back and watch it once I'm done in shallow dive.

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Number three for the dads. We have Miss Alia we have a responsibility

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cuando, Camilla and Oklahoma Sol and unlike the Yeti,

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everybody has responsibility and everybody would have to assume their responsibility and everyone would be would be accountable about their responsibility.

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So this is you know, When, when, when?

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When the Prophet Mohammed Salim says, ma'am, in Muslim

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men and Muslim Please don't ask me questions now questions at the end. Right so that I'm in the midst of my train of thoughts. Don't cut my train of thoughts when you asked me the questions at the end of shala. Who to add right so the Prophet Mohammed Salah Allah Islam says ma'am in Muslim niaga Saga, Sonia pulumi, bye, main hotel and oh, oh behemoth and in southern Canada who sada was named Allah, the prophet Mohammed as Islam says, any Muslim who plants a seed,

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who plants any seed, and any bird or any animal that eats from that seat, that person will get a sadhaka and reward from Allah subhanho wa Taala any Muslim, any person who plants a seed, and that seed was to grow to provide some fruits and whatnot and any tree any any any

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bird or any animal that eats from that tree or from that seed that men will get will get the you know, it's a setup, it's a charity for him or her and anyone from Allah subhana wa Tada. You have planted a seed to you dads because the message today is for the dads. Right. You and I we have planted not only a seed we have planted Benny Adam.

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We have planted a son of Adam.

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We have planted a human being.

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We have planted a man with a lot of emotions. A girl with a lot of emotions,

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with love feelings. We have planted a son with a lot of energy.

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You have planted a girl full of tenderness. You have planted a girl a daughter full of of, of gentleness.

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You have planted children

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that don't eat Haram.

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You see the one he only planted a seed and the Prophet says anybody who comes and eats from that seed they will get you know sadaqa and as a reward, we have not planted the seed we have planted a son of Adam, a human being.

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What do you think the reward would be?

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When the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says and now this is the message to the fathers as well. But now about daughters, the prophet Mohammed sambar Islam says, Whosoever is blessed with three daughters, whosoever is best with three daughters, and he was to discipline them, to discipline them and to you know to provide for them until they grow up.

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They will be a shield for him from entering hipfire alone.

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There will be a shift for him to enter from entering hellfire. Then the Sahaba said yes Allah, how about two daughters? The Prophet says even two daughters, and the Sahaba said, we're not even we're just trying if you were to ask given $1 and the profit would have said one daughter, so we did not ask him but the Prophet says whoever is best with three daughters, and then he says even if it's $2 and he was to discipline them and to educate them until they grew up, you know and teach them everything. They will be the shield for him to and from entering to fight. So Maria, Maria, Phoebe hand Rosa Lee Jose le

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manisa and all the other girls out here right all of you with the desert of listening. I hope your dads are listening. I hope your dads are listening to this and your brothers are listening to this. The Prophet Mohammed Ellis autism says whosoever is best with one daughter one daughter, whoever is best with one daughter on

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the other hand, it says three this headed says whoever is best with one daughter How about if you ask so many daughters Mashallah.

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We have Layla and well and Carrie my The Three Musketeers. How about if we have more than one daughter

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The prophet SAW some says whoever is blessed with one daughter, one daughter, and he is kind to her for your son, Elijah. What used to be me? Me Me, Allah. Allahu la Luca the property say Mankato Ebner for your sin la ha, we used to be had a mini me and let me Holla Holla, Whosoever has, you know, one daughter, and he is kind to her and gentle with her, and he's blessing her with the blessings that Allah has blessed him with. Yeah, and he is not he is not. He's not stingy. He gives her from not only materialistic things he gives her from the hangar and from the Jenkins and the care and the love and the appreciation and the affection, right, he gives her kind of look at the

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provinces Canada humane manner, my Salah to him to, to Mohammed Allah. Allah, Allah, Allah Allah, Allah whom a man not or may sala de la isla Jana, she will be from his right and from his left preventing him from Anthony hipfire to go to Shana. Hello, aka one dar.

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One dar

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she will be on his right on his left preventing him from entering his fire and paving the road for him to antigen. One daughter.

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Hmm. So I'm begging all the dads are here and begging all the fathers and all the brothers out there who are looking after their daughters or their sisters.

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Number one, your children they are in need of you.

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Your children are in need of you. Number two, you could be preventing yourself from a great Nima from a sweet blessing from Allah Xhosa. A sweet gift.

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Number three, Allah subhanho wa Taala will hold us accountable about our kids.

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Before I leave, I have a message to single moms.

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Before I leave, I have a message for single mums.

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As I mentioned two heads one ad that says three daughters and one headed that as says one daughter. So this is this encompasses everything now for single moms. Maybe divorced moms, or widowers.

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I understand. I understand.

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Right, I understand.

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Are they any single moms here by the way?

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Even if you're not this is you know, people will be listening to this in sha Allah Tada. So, single moms, I understand you.

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I understand you.

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And you may say What crime have I committed?

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What crime have I committed?

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You know, I understand you.

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So, your children, they need a men in their lives.

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Don't misunderstand me. In shallow toddlers, a single mom, there are many good men out there and shallow Tada. Right. There are many good ones out there.

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But for single moms who are not thinking of getting married, okay? Your your children they need they need a men in their lives, especially boys.

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I tell you, the mom, she cannot play the role of the dad and the dad cannot play the role of the mom, we have to understand this.

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The mom she is who she is, and that he is who he is.

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But your children, your children eyes, they need the mom in their life. They need also a man in their life. So let's admit, may Allah forbid the man has died or maybe divorced. So what should you do? Oh, single mom, what should you do? What should you do?

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You choose or you pick or you look for a men a boy, you could be your brother.

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He could be your brother. He could be your his uncle. He could be his elder friend and he's somebody that he respects. You could be a chef. It could be he could be he could be his grandfather. It could be but he needs a man in his heart in his life.

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For two years as a role model to see to us to mimic he will need that because if he grows up without that man in his heart, as I said in the very beginning, if you came in late, go back and watch my session from the very beginning.

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And go back some of you missed

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some of you missed the

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I'm Ali said to Fatima, some of you missed that you came late. You came late when Ali was saying, you know, saying that beautiful poem to Fatima, because he used to love her so much. And he saw her doing the miswak. And Allie, you but he was to fight, he wanted to fight the miss work, you missed it, go back and watch it from the very beginning. So as I said, in the beginning, that your, your son, or your daughter, they need a man in their life. So

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pick maybe his brother, I mean, his your brother, or his or the husband's brother, or, or the uncle, or the grandfather, you know, or maybe a sheriff or someone in all weekend use. And now you can use as as some as a role model who can see who can then go out with it's very important in his life. Very important in the children's life, especially in that age, as I said, the age between four and seven, where you are crafting or the crafting that personality, as they are crafting that personality they need that men figure in their lives.

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And whoever has lost their son or daughter, I have also a message for them.

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Whosoever lost a son or the Father, what can you do?

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A man like whoever lost a son or a daughter. And there are some people who have lost their loved ones, a son or daughters.

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And they wish to have a son to cherish and they say I wish to have a son to be always there for the daughter to hug and be always Therefore I say, Prophet Mohammed ISIS to them has buried all his children.

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Prophet Mohammed has lost all his loved ones as well. He buried buried all history except Fatima. She died six months after he died. But Prophet Mohammed has said that he lost his children as well. So Lola who send them

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so what you can do for them, of course, lots of has hombre on their behalf for your daughter or your son sadaqa sadaqa for your daughter or your son.

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This is the best thing you can do for those who have lost their loved ones, a son or a daughter.

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So I think I have covered pretty much everyone because I want to talk more about the role, the role of the father and the role of the mother as well. Before I moved to the wife, and move to the husband, and then the the children, you know, I want to talk to everybody in sha Allah who Dad I want to talk to everyone. So if you have an also those Mashallah, yeah, and you could have a family, a big family of love sisters, and maybe one or two sons, or one, maybe one son, one boy, and a lot of children, one of the daughters, they also need sisters, they also need, you know, men in their lives, because that son growing up by himself, he needs to have somebody you know to use as a role

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model, especially when the father may Allah forbid, you know, has died. But brothers and sisters, this brings the end to my episode number four, there is no cliffhanger on this session, there's not the finger next to marshmallow Tada, I'm going to move talking about the main main main roles of the Father in Sharla who tada the main roles of the Father, I have got you know many many roles and shallow titles to share with you but if they left you know, you do not want to miss it all I have to tell you, you do not want to miss tomorrow's session Shama Hosanna, because we can all relate to it in the left come call your father's call your you know, husbands call your you know, your your

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brothers and families, let them listen, may Allah bless you all may Allah Xhosa autofit male megadungeon for those that Allah is that Camilla hair May Allah subhana wa tada put serenity and peace and serenity and prosperity and love and joy in your homes in sha Allah Allah May Allah make your home's homemade happiness home. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make your home happy home happy home and shout Allahu Allah, while colloseum is that Kamala hair as Allah Xhosa. Allah bless you bless your health this year. Well take advantage of these final days of Ramadan. It's damata is almost gone take advantage of it said

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and be Allah do

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Li bad

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luck

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is a common law any questions now because

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Instagram they it cut off after one hour so Instagram cut off but now I have time for for for facebook facebook Do you have any questions or Charlotte for me before I let you all go in Sharla maybe not see me she had a question earlier I couldn't even read it any questions

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let me go back and see what was that

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new barriers that are separating the worst and the father was to be available but are they private because of the mother? Hmm

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I mean members creating discord with calm

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burns is separated the wars the father wants to be available but probably because yes, you can never deprive your children from their parents. If if there's a divorce happening between a father and a mother, the mother she cannot deprive her children from seeing their dad and the dad cannot deprive his children from seeing the mom yes it is done you cannot do that sisters and brothers because the problem happens between you and the father may Allah forbid you and the husband right so the children like I mentioned the need the father in their lives as the mother needs as they need the mother in their lives you cannot prevent the problem from that how is that happening right and and

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also a smart mum and a smart that she will always speak good about her husband in the in his absence to his children regardless of what happened between them together but for their children they always need to you know to be to for the to portray the father as something as a role model because if the mom she has an issue with her dad and with her husband right that's between them but the children they always have to keep looking as the dad and the dad as really that role model they don't want to give him that bad look that look that always talk good about your you know, but as a father he was yes he had his fault we all have our faults but you know he was a very good dad a caring dad so this

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is hopefully this is something that you know needs to happen and if you prevent you know your children from seeing them that it is it is it is wrong is done and you don't want to hold responsible about that

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guy that's all and put Baraka in our lives in shallow time

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All right, so that's it I don't know if the draft for me before you break up okay in Charlotte, I will make that for everyone shout out to Adam because I'm about to break my fast Mashallah we make up for all that come lucky we'll see you to militia love to and so that might sound like sound like