Reda Bedeir – Raising Our Parents

Reda Bedeir
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of parenting and the negative consequences of parents not understanding. They share stories of people who have experienced similar struggles and emphasize the need to be present in a situation. The importance of forgiveness and protecting family members' privacy is emphasized. The conversation also touches on the negative impact of parents not understanding and the need for professionalism in the field.
AI: Transcript ©
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I remember last year when I was here, I was doing raising or parents password. And

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somebody made an announcement upstairs and said, raising or parents. And one of the answers was so it says, You mean raising our children? I said, No. I mean raising our parents. Okay. And halfway through the course of the presentation, we'll see why did I say, raising.

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But let me introduce the main reason behind choosing this title.

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Most of the time,

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everyone, as a member of the family,

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they almost claim their rights before they think about performing the duties. And by the way, this is the reason behind any problem in the house. So I say in the house, it means the family, not just the spouses, but also the children in the relationship with the parents.

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Give you a quick example, the brother, the brothers here and the sisters can tell what is the most frequent is

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that the parents will always carry with him

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up to

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I was

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almost 13 times

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with the rest.

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Right? Because this is giving them the rights, right? But do the children have rights upon the parents.

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And here's the equation.

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And remember this statement before you claim your bikes performing your duties if you want to be.

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And this is the magical statement in solving any problems. Any car couple that come to me with the problem, it's brought down to the statement.

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They'll always do this. My son does not respect me.

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And is not

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my son doesn't have good manners. Did he teach him?

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What are you eating in the house, for example?

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who raised him

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and this is why I'm talking about raising webcams.

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He comes to a point where this story that I'm going to share with you now

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we'll sum it up at the top of the low I'm a father came to visit in Napa County. My son is ungrateful and disobedient to me.

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And I'm going to deliver on what his name is mentioned justice comes to the mind.

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So he said, Can you bring him

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because it's always the case that we sometimes judge based on listening to one party or one side of the story. We can live up to this because it's unfair to

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listen to the other part of the story because they might be horrible. So this is what

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I remember one time my wife asked me to take care of the kids for two hours. And we as parents or hospitals, we think it's easy.

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Why does the woman not?

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that was my first experience to be left alone with my two little

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First Five minutes, first five minutes. I heard the scream coming out from the next door

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as if she was shot with a gun.

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And I ran and we crashed halfway in the hallways. And she was crying away what what I thought she's like she's like

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I should calm down.

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very sad.

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Smell the emotions, you know.

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She went to the washroom she made and she came back and then a second she went back to the same emotions that make you happy.

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He said, No, there isn't any way to lose just to calm down so I can listen to you go back and make, you can make 100. Listen to

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the G alive. That's the way

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when she met her when she came back.

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He passed the front of my desk without my permission as a criminal.

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How can you do is to bring him here.

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And for Kenya, what happened to him and his two years old.

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I saw rose in his

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pocket, he said that I don't know that this was sacred, but I can't walk with him in front of it without asking your permission. She didn't write inside.

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And then I just harassed in front of the disk. And she pushed back against this. And this was you can see, Alison, she's the one coming to complain.

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So if you don't listen to the other side of the story, between the parents and the children, between the two spouses, you might come up with the wrong solution.

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And this is exactly what I was teaching us.

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And then she said to me, I asked him, because you told us a principal who never starts is wrong. And he's the one who walk in front of my desk first. Somebody didn't say,

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a sacredness, a holy area.

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Like he couldn't, he

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couldn't say sorry.

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Good luck with the end of the story. There's a class called denial

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continues. Let's go back to the story of Ramallah.

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So, the Lord said, Bring the son, because he's

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bringing him so they brought him

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and the son showed up our hospital. Why is that? Why are you ungrateful to

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ask them?

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What they will choose for me as the Lord?

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Because no, sleep.

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Second, look at the limiters for me that

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the name of an incident, the beetle

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is the name of this one. What would you choose?

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To choose a good name?

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And then he said, he did not teach me one

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of the things

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as you saw, so you shall be?

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is it?

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What did you do? First to expect them to get a weekend son?

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The duration the way it should be? Did you choose a good mother for the teacher? They choose a good name. Kids have rights, too.

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So this is why I chose the name. So don't be confused by saying Oh, he made a mistake. He went raising our children. But he wrote to his parents. No, no, no.

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Okay, I might be harsh on the parents today.

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But this time by being harsh on the kids first.

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And this is the part that we finished last time.

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What do I get? If I'm kind of grateful to my parents?

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And then what's the punishment that's waiting for me if I'm unkind and disobedient to my parents?

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So to start with the positive side, what should I get?

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If I'm crying to my parents, you can see the side they are the key to children

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who would like to make it to

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one hand?

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he was going to remember these three steps. And the Sahaba heard him after each step saying I mean, I mean is another

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word, meaning Allahu Allah accept the door.

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So after a personal change, I mean, they can't see anyone. Why is he saying I mean, is he saying I mean?

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That I mean is different from me.

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Because, I mean, it's obvious but I mean, that's the main

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By the way, sometimes we

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in the salon when they say

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it should be.

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Okay. So we put,

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because I mean means possibly what I mean, and based on how long you're going for something that's me. So we have to sit properly to be mean. So when the book started asking him after he finished the book,

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we heard you say, I mean, I mean, I mean, I couldn't see anyone talking to them came to me while I was going to the member, and they said that

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a person will be excluded from the mercy of Allah.

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Oklahoma, when

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a person will be excluded from the mercy of a lot if he were to live to witness that there was one of them, or both of them during the old age, and they will not be the reason for him to make it to 2003. I mean, I said, I mean,

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I mean, about that.

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So imagine if you live to witness your parents and the old age, and it wouldn't be kind enough to them to make them the reason for us to take each other. That's number one.

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What do I get if I am grateful to them? And it can go back to the

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Can you imagine that being kind to parents is equal to Japan?

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Can you prove this? Yeah.

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First one, as you see,

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a man came to the profits of a lot.

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He said to the profits of a lot is profitable.

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I want to subscribe, my name

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So, to help take care of your parents, this is equal to another man came to the profits of a

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prophet of Allah. Again,

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he asked for permission to join one of the expeditions. And the boss asked him Is your father life?

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Is your mother life? He said, Yes. He said,

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Go and take care of your mother, because Paradise is under the feet of your mother.

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So amazing one time or sitting was one of the scholars. And he said, Can anybody Bring me some dust from gentlemen. And one of the students of knowledge, he left.

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And he came back after five minutes, with some dust in his hand. So here we go. So what is that? Did it to ask for dust from gender? It said, I just went and I started digging under the feet of my mother. And this is

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in the process of let's say, the gentleman is under the feet of your mother.

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Look at people, they take things seriously, because sometimes just make fun of what we hear. We take it lightly. What Why are the serious? Taking care of your mother?

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And see what you have? Don't

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take care of your mother.

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What do I look at you have your agenda. There's an easier way to go.

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What else do I get

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away out of hardship and tribulation. You all know the story of the three people who were falling in the desert.

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And while they were traveling, they came to a cave, they entered the cave, and then a rock moved and blocked, you know, the opening of the cave or the gate of the cave.

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So the three of them started remembering the good life.

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And they made this what we say this is the first one of the ways that you can, you know, ask a decision through something to look at lots of relationships.

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God, you can do the decision for your good deeds.

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And this is.

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So one of them. It's a long story, but I'm going to share one of them that's relevant to our topic. He said, Oh Allah, you know, that I have old parents. And I have never ever in my life eaten before I made sure that they have eaten the food. And one night, I was working outside, and I came late, and my kids were crying out of starvation. And my parents were asleep. So I stood up all night with the food waiting for them to wake up. I didn't want to wake them up to disturb them, until they woke up and offered them the food, that I give the food to my kids. If I have done this only to please you

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move the rock.

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Not enough for him to attend. The other two mentioned the good deeds, you know, I was finally moved on.

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So again,

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we're lucky we're lucky, we're lucky. I'm telling you. This is true from experience of so many people. If you are going to your parents will at some point of time, you will be close to a car accident, that was

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one of the top of one of your accounts. And the process of them said

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nothing stops the loss of data except data. So once something is supposed to happen to you, and your mother, your father, at that point, may strike those out stops.

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Nothing stops.

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Lots of parallel data will always be sent to the parents.

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What else do I get? expiation for sins.

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Sahabi one time into the pockets of the love is

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still too early to be to stand up and do some of

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the prophets of Allah Salah one time was approached by the Sahaba. And sometimes they will present the Sahaba to the people who presented them.

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Unfortunately, into extreme some people who are against the Sahaba. They call them you know, disbelievers. And they were not hostile. Others exaggerating the Sahaba and they pick them as if they are prophets. And they are invaluable.

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The Sahaba are the best human beings after all problems. Yet, they're still human. And those who attended my class, you know, on the shoulders of giants with a magnet, they will know exactly what I'm talking about. Shallow will bring it

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maybe offer the time or often take a break for lunch.

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And that was I shared so many stories that despite the best, but

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guess what? Some of them were major sins, adultery, slander it, they make.

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They have done so much in their life. We cannot compare ourselves to the budget the old ones.

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So Sahabi at one time, he was walking to the matches. They have been cases like what we have today because many of the brothers and sisters, oh life is very difficult. Well, lucky they face challenges, more worse than the trends we're facing today. At least we're born to parents.

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They were born to parents who were worshipping idols.

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Imagine the joy

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is for children

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is to make this one item out of booth and worship him during the night to sit there.

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Today, please help me do this to me. I mean, his skills.

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His four children accepted Islam.

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But they wouldn't talk to him because he was very old, and he would be mad at them.

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So they tricked him.

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They said one time we'd have to make a plan just to make fun of the gods. He might start thinking.

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So they came to the light. They took the father's got the smell of wood, and they throw him in the garbage.

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So before he went to bed, you want to find his garden.

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He searched everywhere. He couldn't find him. He will. He found him in the garbage. So he was mad at this god help.

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Can you do this? How can you allow this to happen to me too, Chris got washed it, put it back. And he stopped the preventing him. Don't let this happen to you again.

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And then the following night, his children did the same thing. Grab the garbage for the garbage.

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The man again, searched for the garden, couldn't find them

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in the garbage.

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He was so crazy to put him as a person.

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And he found a source to his neck. When they come, it's time to talk to you defend yourself.

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you will think still right?

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third guy, this time they tie the Gulf to Iraq, and throw them in the sewage system

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is down.

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So you look for the god everywhere you couldn't find him, looked in the garbage couldn't find them. He went to the sewage system. He found his not with his face, town, they're tied to the rock start to think about feeling illusory. They know what you don't deserve to be who

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you are.

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And then his children.

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Finally, there is one real God, what are you talking about?

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The process of filming. And he became a Muslim. After 16 years,

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after 16 years that we lost photography to him was many he had a problem with one of his legs. So Panama imagine that was worse, would win the battle game is for children, you know, participated in the battle.

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And then he came to me said, I want to participate.

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You're late, you can't work properly. And suppose I said,

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I want to make it to tender with this thing. Please give me he said your four children. And all of them are participating. He said please allow me. And so power law he joins and he died in the battle. What I saw with Ninja Warrior, entering gentleman with his name and even though in

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the movie, no lane, no blind, no nothing, because all of us would be the same.

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So anyway,

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on his way to the budget,

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he did something major.

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And he felt so embarrassed. When he entered the message it happens I have done this I'm coming down to pray. For most of you went to the

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Prophet of Allah, whom I went to the masjid.

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I saw over and I kissed

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how's the

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You're in pure now. You're almost there anymore.

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People make mistakes. And this is how he

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attended. He had no answer for him.

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But he asked me to leave the message. In fact, when the Sahaba told them about someone who was praying in the Quran versus a prophet of Allah despair, commits adultery

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now famous.

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Leave him in shambles. Gradually. Will he continue spraying his prayer rooms.

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Because Allah says what you saw in the

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established Assad regularly at some point will lock in to stop you from doing or saying anything. I'm glad you understand what it means. We're just not really good at

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it. If I if

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I had to

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walk in

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front of a

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diner gave the answer to the Sahaba

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in El Paso that you live in,

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would you do good deeds.

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Step number one, and then you came to the mercy to do something good. And you felt remorse that you have done something wrong alone except you

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once you set a stop for a while, from your heart

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In response to a lot, a lot, go to the engines. And he says, I limit the number of

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When you say I asked for forgiveness, above talks to the agents, and he says, My servants also knows that he has a war, who will hold her accountable for what they have done. And he goes on to say that witness, I have forgiven him

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because I

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passed by someone one time, and he was saying,

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he said, he invested for Canada.

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The way you're saying I asked for forgiveness is a sentence of it needs you to ask a lot of forgiving.

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Because you have to feel it. You have to mean it. How many times we say things that we don't mean.

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And we mean things that we don't say.

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And this was sometimes you hear like a husband and wife when they're angry.

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I love you look at this person,

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as trying to solve a problem communication between two spouses who came to me for life.

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what do you mean?

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express your emotions try?

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you talk.

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You know, the voice of the woman's heart.

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goes through her. Hear, you have to all say this all the time. But you don't have to say no.

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And it's a part of like gradually starting to say

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And then

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soldiers in the army for life. This is the emotions, you have to feel what you say. Because the other person's speech a woman has given the six senses not like this is like assessment.

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You know?

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She knows where you are.

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Okay, so Allah subhanaw taala, gave away out to the Sahaba and said, do good deeds, because the good deeds will erase the bad deeds, as a lot of forgive him, and he prayed a lot, forgive him.

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Be positive.

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And then after the relationship,

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listen to the end of the story.

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The process, Allah says, do the do good deeds, because they will erase the bad

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by kissing over who's not your wife?

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And then asking him Is your father life? He said, No, he passed away. He said, Is your mother alive? He said no, she passed away. He said is your

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is your ally? Is it Yes? Is it going to take care of her? Because the art is like not

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even being tied to the system of your mother

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is an act of obedience to a lot of us.

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What else do I get?

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If you think that Oh, lots of

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are lost last a pile of data with honor.

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And what's the story behind this? We all know the story of

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boys. And public is the man from Yemen. The prophets a lot more

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about delegations, delegations will come to you from Yemen. So all those asked a man asked about a medical device company.

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I don't see him, asked him to make the offer. He asked me to

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imagine somebody from Yemen

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is the second is

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the law and what is the demand of the whole profits?

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Yet the person is asking him that somebody's coming amongst a delegation from Yemen to make that for him. There must be something special about that right

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now okay.

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So the prophets have a lot of filament told him something about that man. He said, Ask him when he comes so that we can identify him, ask him if he was afflicted with leprosy,

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cure them, except have a spot like the lowly recording that we have today.

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That's a

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lot worse.

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And right after that you would say what we're doing today next

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week, I am grateful to

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the profits of the local audience

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was asked this question.

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What's the most beloved acts of worship of Allah? Is it a solid model?

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To play on time?

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He said, he was the second most beloved,

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to be kind and grateful.

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Then after that, he said, and you have

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look at this, because if you don't connect to a relationship with Allah, you will never think about, you know,

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if you don't develop good character to take care of your parents, you will never think about it. So there are steps that will proceed that have to be prepared. This is why, you know, one of the points of one of the famous scholars have pointed out he said,

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Hi, yah, salaam

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whoever does not respond to the goal of Al Assad

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would never respond to come to fight.

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You have to prepare yourself first.

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Okay, what are the consequences if I have this obedient around, now that we knew the foods

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let me just stop here for a second.

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Just want to share a clip, a short clip with you.

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This is Richmond.

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Turn off the lights.

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centers for

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sport easy

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Well, there's more

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Got to get the message behind the clip.

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So what are the consequences? I found the opposite

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opinion to my parents It

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was a Halloween day.

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And then he said to them,

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shall I inform you? He's talking about the major sense, but he described it as alcoholic.

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So the biggest amongst the major sense.

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And then they said, Please profitable. He said, I should give him to associate partners with peloton, then right next to that he said we're open

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and to be ungrateful or disobedient to us.

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being ungrateful disobedient to your parents,

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is one of the biggest amongst the major sins.

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What else

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a lot of parents will not look at the person who is disobedient angry parents on the Day of Judgment, that is the profits of a

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certain daddy and these are the three first one he said Allah.

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One person is an addict, alcoholic. And the third one is admin, the person who,

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you know goes between people with with like, you know, amongst people with minima, you know, he will just take a piece of news from here and add something and then try to force enmity amongst people. Or also could be the person who will always remind people of the papers that he has done to them. So whatever he does, he doesn't do. He doesn't keep reminding people that they play helped you remember that they will give you the money.

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So do what you do to preserve

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what else you know, deprivation of gender, as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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he said, three types of people will not make it to gentlemen, and he started with and

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again, the person who is disobedient or ungrateful, to the spirits and he said, the person who does not have protective jealousy, you know, he would see his wife or his children do something haram and he wouldn't feel anything inside is

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a woman who dresses and behaves like men.

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The Wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala the prophets of Allah wa sallam said, you know, Allah subhanaw taala has made forbidden to you. And then he mentioned so many things. And he you know, the first one he said,

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so being disobedient and he specified this by talking about mothers more than others. And then

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because this was one of the customs of the Arabs during the, during the journey, that they used to bury the baby girls.

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What are the eyes of the devil so this is supposed to disrupt so number 17 is diversified, sums up the central theme of good advisors that you very you know, the

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that you worship none besides him, and then he said what we want to do and you have to be kind and grateful to your parents in may have not been there in

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that in that you know, when they reach the old age while you are taking care of them before they used to deny themselves you know, food and drink and clothing to see you this the best eating the best food. Now they're old and they are all in your house and the car

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Keep up the old age, Allah subhanaw taala said

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do not show the slightest

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act of anger or frustration. In fact, you know, the word says that

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oath is not the word, you know, is the explanation of frustration with somebody, you know?

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So even a word, it's an explanation or you know, you are showing frustration Don't ever do this your parents ever look today. The parents thought what happens the kids talk back.

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But despite this sign frustration, not even show them

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and do not remind them sometimes the family happy old parents living with you in the house. And because you know, they have too weak now they're holding something and they spilled the water or something, you know, fill in the garden crashes, like you start to prevent these okay? Hey, Dad, what's wrong with you? Can you hold the company your hands? Because the mess that you have created? I've seen people treating the parents like that. So Panama, you know, when when

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a man came to him, when he was cutting his mother get in touch all the times, all around,

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carrying him? And then he said, Do you think I've paid my mother off? By doing that?

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It's not even one second of the labor of the pain that she went through while she was delivering. And we asked the question, you know, you are telling them now, even if you have to take her to the washroom, how do you feel. And so I did discuss that before. It's used to cover you when you were young. And she used to be happy to change your diapers.

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You carry her now and what you wish for her, you wish for her to die. But she used to call you when you're young. And she used to wash your life. Just never seen.

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So don't ever show frustration. Don't ever provide them for anything that they do.

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Anything has to come out of your mouth, it should be good words, we are not you know, extend your blood, we

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take you to jail for what you have done to me.

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And more and humble yourself over the winter break citizen

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our problems

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and then make them

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hola Have mercy on them, as they have raised me when I was young.

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This is how we should treat our parents and you can go through the list of the

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What else?

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What are the rights of the parents be grateful to your parents.

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But there's only one case

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you cannot obey them.

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Because there's a whole system that says that

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there is no obedience for the creation. It's this obedience to the Creator. So if your parents commanded you to pick up the hijab, do not listen to that continuing

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to follow the suit, and the commodity to shave it don't change because the commodity or their commanding. So they're commanded to do something that's disobedient. That's disobedience

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into them. And here's the here's the here's the belief.

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Lots of kind of the highlight. This is the story of Saudi Arabia. Of course, when he accepted Islam, his mother started pressuring him to leave Islam.

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And he came

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over, I bought my mother so much. And my mother is threatening me. You know what she did? She went on a strike. So we're gonna eat, I'm not gonna take a shower. And a lot of people will blame my destiny. So we live with this shame for the rest of your life.

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I love my mother so much.

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So let's talk about

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Allah subhanaw taala you know, consort of mine, you know, kind of a theme. A lot of pantalla said, or in general that Carla and historically marriage

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fell over over yet.

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If they were to just pressure you to commission

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obey them. That's what his mother was trying to do. Yet, be kind to them.

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So even if my parents are not Muslim, I have to be kind to them. Yes. For the rest of my life. Yes.

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Yes. Is there any other sin more worse than should

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This is the model

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yet, don't obey them.

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But be kind to them.

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So this is why it happened. I went back with a mother, who was trying to subside the first one. He said, Oh, man, the

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He said my mother, if you have 100 souls, and I've seen you crying in front of my eyes, 100 times, one after the other, I would look

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at that, and she took

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Okay, what are the night some people asked me? What about what about the rights of my parents after they passed away, my parents passed away?

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How can I be kind to them even after their death? Yes.

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Us wants

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give charity on the behalf, contribute to

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a fountain to school.

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carry out the final instructions, you know, they would write something in their words, they would say do this and do this, as long as it is obedience to Allah do

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also join ties

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reach out the tension, you know, the relationship, which are dependent on that anyone who's close to your father,

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even the friends or your mother, be kind to them, this is also your parents, after the counselor.

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Now this conclude with the last part, which is go back and be passing the parents

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over they deserve when it comes to being obedient to them. But let's blame them also today for something that kids have in the parks against them. So please listen, with an open heart as you listen to the first

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question is, so what's wrong today in the relationship between the children and the parents? What's wrong?

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Let's just listen to these messages coming from the children to the parents.

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They don't have time for

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whoever agrees with this statement, raise your hands.

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Okay, both parents are busy because both of them work full time with the children complaining they don't have time for me.

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Another complaint, my parents not understanding. Yeah, because we were raised back home. We didn't go to high school here. You know what happens in high school. Back home, if you just move like this, you'll be beaten up almost to death.

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Today, go and visit the high school, the teacher standing right there, and the kids are on the iPhone in the YouTube. And he can't even touch them. even talk to them.

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It's completely different.

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You know,

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most of the time.

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Now we're surrounded by Muslims.

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And during the summer.

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So they have challenges that we have never been exposed to. Yet we treat them as if they are like us.

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you know. So if you're speaking a language that they don't understand, and they're trying to speak to you, you don't understand them that you know what's going on? What's wrong with you what's wrong, or what's happening in school.

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But I can't find what the Father is busy and busy. I'm always waiting some people today

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to contribute to the community but suppiler today, because of the concert we live Under Armour curry woman. So what do you mean by that? what's the what's the cover? Like I want to help the community before I help my husband. I want to help the community before I help my children.

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So she delivers at one week if she can for one month, but she leaves the

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office and she goes to work.

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She doesn't want to stop.

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And then later on, both firms were so busy making money. They come to the event event What is your robotics thing? Why? My son's not a good person and my daughter that I have spent all my life making money to raise them

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person, my son ended up being a boyfriend and my daughter.

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My son yesterday was running with the life, you know, behind his mother. And I talk to him, he talks back.

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And then one time I asked the dad and said, How old is your son?

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How old is this? 25?

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What have you been for the last quarter of a century, 25 years have been busy making money.

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So when the kids get lost, we think that the man

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will have a magic stick and he will hit.

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What is the question?

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So can happen. It's not gonna happen. Your job is to raise your kids. This is why I said to my first vision is raising our parents. Where are the parents?

00:56:08 --> 00:56:09

another message?

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I learned professional life.

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Okay, you know how we teach our kids?

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You know,

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the phone rings.

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And then what you do is

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he's young, right? He doesn't move on yet. Right? So he picks up the phone and is

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my father he knows strange and weird signals.

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Why? Because he doesn't know why. Now you're teaching them to be a professional buyer.

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I always say that. It's a white line to white line

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of colors.

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It's a lifeline.

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to worry like

00:57:47 --> 00:57:48

a black and white.

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Same thing happens every day. And

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the doorbell rings.

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My mother said she hates you.

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Versus talk around away. Why would you hide this? What would you say? You mean it?

00:58:27 --> 00:58:31

And then you go and say, I don't know why my my son is almost like really?

00:58:33 --> 00:58:33


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Why don't pray.

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I don't see anybody doing this at home. Because my parents Mashallah, if they pray they can afford they come back home.

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Why train? Because all my friends do.

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Have you ever changed? Who are the Friends of your son or your daughter?

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Because my dad told me, You have two options to marry your cousin to my new cousin.

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And, by the way, a lot

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of misunderstanding.

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My cousin comes from a different culture. She lives back home. She doesn't even speak English. She's come here

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to learn Salvador.

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He doesn't understand what is the meaning of life fear. I gave the word to my brother. Would you like to embarrass me in front of the families?

00:59:48 --> 00:59:54

And then the married and they get divorced after two years. And it's like no, I don't know why the marriage did not work.

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You don't know. Okay.

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thanks to the TV to the movies, and the company for the characters that I have.

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Who teaches the kids, when the parents are visiting, they're watching movies, their friends, they spend more time with them than they spend time with you. In fact, they would wish that they would go and live with their friends, how many times they are going to sleep over for most people with my friend.

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Why? Because they

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don't say this.

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They have the freedom.

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role models are celebrities in sports and movies.

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I wouldn't want to give a speech about the gentleman while they were still walking around. And as an introduction, I said, I have a condition for you guys, because they were all young. I said, I'll give you a paper on your right hand. Remember your left hand I wanted to write you know tense liberties today. And since we purchase from the past

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and then the

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you know, this one over this deliberateness.

01:01:11 --> 01:01:11

How became

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possible that

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I need, you know,

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because I thought I thought somebody would say next to me, and they were like crazy when when the boy came in?

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tell them, do you know,

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who's 12 years old? At the time? And later on, we became the main supplier of the product.

01:01:56 --> 01:02:02

And I said, Can you tell me in the other paper, the technical problems gender was the winner? And they said over

01:02:04 --> 01:02:06

and over? And then

01:02:08 --> 01:02:10

and then I

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didn't even say

01:02:16 --> 01:02:16

it properly.

01:02:19 --> 01:02:21

So how can we keep

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living day and night, taking the wrong ones as the

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this is how to make money fast.

01:02:37 --> 01:02:41

Wire understand the Quran, my father's main concern that I must be one of two,

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with a physician, a doctor, or an engineer

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comes back later, inshallah. I'll send it to the Middle East. And you will learn later on.

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After you get to know Africa. After you make money.

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My parents are new glued to the trends that are facing me

01:03:06 --> 01:03:15

will lie sometimes the kids are watching something in their own room in the laptop. I won't say their goodbyes the pages and they have to provide in the background.

01:03:17 --> 01:03:26

My son is very pious price is what is up until 2am listening to the price

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and then on the record.

01:03:29 --> 01:03:31

But I wonder why does he get a seat?

01:03:32 --> 01:03:33

What is he doing? Do?

01:03:34 --> 01:03:36

I see him? Of course.

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out and then the right prayer? I don't know what type of prayer

01:03:42 --> 01:03:43

This was getting to see.

01:03:45 --> 01:03:50

This is what you bring them to talk with you about their concerns.

01:03:54 --> 01:03:58

Even robots have guided me, my father is against me attending

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or wearing a beard.

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Or I heard the Holocaust.

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That's dangerous.

01:04:10 --> 01:04:12

So take it easy.

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Why don't you go into an

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job and you're not engaged yet.

01:04:31 --> 01:04:32

What do you

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make your job

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the opposite way. It's sort of like you know, encouraging towards a job.

01:04:46 --> 01:04:48

This is we're lucky we immigrated and we came here

01:04:50 --> 01:04:59

and the Sahaba from Medina. Always use this analogy. Always remember to ask yourself, they integrate with one thing and they left everything behind.

01:05:01 --> 01:05:03

Whether they stick with them when they immigrated

01:05:05 --> 01:05:08

could be the most precious thing in their life. If they leave

01:05:10 --> 01:05:11

with nothing else than

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one, you will

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keep asking yourself

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if you made a lot of money, with the house, with children,

01:05:25 --> 01:05:29

with everything except your name for most everything.

01:05:32 --> 01:05:35

So what's the solution? Now that we knew

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as children, what we will get for our parents?

01:05:40 --> 01:05:54

What punishment is waiting for us if we are grateful to our parents? Now the parents knew why am I saying raising our parents? What's the way out? This is gonna be a lot praising on parents.

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And I'm gonna leave it.

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I think we'll give them

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a break. You can. As I told you, before, I'm coming back in Salah, would you like to see me again? Ever?

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Okay, so I'm coming back into

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this class.

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With a maverick Institute, it's called denial. And you have this

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sort of your students talk about math, do the math. A lot of

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us that is 31 times

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31 times

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Which of the papers of your work you did art will love you lots of kinds of therapists with many, many blessings. And we take them for granted.

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So how can we be grateful for loss of data?

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By not denying his blessings by acknowledging them? And by using them as Misa will take us two gentlemen.

01:07:11 --> 01:07:15

Gentlemen, what's waiting for the for the good people in gentlemen?

01:07:16 --> 01:07:17

Fire what's waiting?

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And if you go and move from south of Atlanta starts with our

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it should be a rock man. Insert.

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would you like to answer? I have a detailed,

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detailed answer to this question. And then if you move to so you're seeing the power starts with Yes. The next one for

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the power.

01:08:12 --> 01:08:12

Yes. See what

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what was mentioned at the beginning.

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The main themes of Satya seen, again is denial of resurrection. As I said before,

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returning to me, the main reason for every evil on earth today is the denial of the difference. If people know that they will stand up one day from the flames. And they will stand in front of a lots of high level data and will be asked about everything that they have done in this life.

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They will be very good in the studio. And they will be

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at the end of

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the gun got some of the luminance decayed parts of his body. And he fractured him in his hands. And he throw them in the face of the Prophet.

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And he said, Yeah, what is wrong workbook. And

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so he's denying resurrection. Do you think

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that someone else

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is very beautiful I am

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refuted this claim that he will be able to resurrect people who are in the class but I'm going to end up with this

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philosophy that uses the word most of the time. It doesn't mean that all the time. It also means sleep. And there's an if you watch a clip, not out of a literature

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review, it's a it's a very nice clip that I had

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With one of the, you know, the students from auto, about the time,

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it will wake you up because it's called wake up. It's called wake up. And it's based in one eye. And

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so these two solos are very, very close to the hearts of so many people who stop at every single word and explain the deep meaning of them. So power imagine would you are the gentleman shall walk, and every Friday you'll be invited to meet a

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man from a rock man's.

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Imagine, you know, one of my dreams was to listen to the Parag from the processor, I learned that in general, people will

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have lots of panel data recycling, how beautiful that would be. So chocolates.

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Don't miss that opportunity, because this was supposed to be only one time.

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So inshallah we'll give you a 10 minute break. There is registration of all the systems and the back end product here in the front

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row. So they're selling something and they have donation boxes, if you cannot attend the class.

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In the class, you have some parents who want to invest and have something to contribute to one of the students who wanted to come to the class.

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Give some money because the system was a lot. They give scholarship to those who want to attend the class but they can take it

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have been living your entire life in a trance

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in a state of heedlessness Tough luck, negligence in denial.

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At the count of three,

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you will begin to see the signs

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at the count of three,

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you will be away

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