The Forbidden Fruit is Sweet – Late Night Reflections #4

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Mohammed Ismail Ernie also have a cinema the Sleeman Kathira mama bad we welcome you all back to our late night hotter as a very last time at center as we study with Chef homosalate man who the book of Imam in New Jersey Rahim Allah Allah say the hotter captured thoughts every single night as we discuss one of his random thoughts to him that profound ideas and reflective moments for us in this age, Millennium after his passing Rahmatullahi tar alley, and tonight inshallah with data we're going to be discussing the chapter titled, the food the forbidden fruit is sweet in Arabic in which was started as Alma no matter who the forbidden fruit is sweet. He says Rahim Allah Allah Khan, the

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Amal to her son Nevsky Allah Mamoni atman I thought about how the self eagerly seeds whatever has been kept away from it, like when you give something away from your nerves, pursue that even more and further. Tell that stop don't do this is gonna go after this even further, we're going to explain more in details in shallow Taliban for it to help sahaya Z to Allah Kadri Quwata Hill Manor. And he said, I noticed that the more Amara is forbidden, the further the further the self pursues it. I can as a matter of fact, you can see that in your children as well too. As parents will the young ones, you tell kids don't touch this. What do they hear you

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touch it?

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You just told them Don't touch it. And for them to hear? You should try right that's how paler the trunk how that's how they filter these things. And one of the most interesting thing we're going to see inshallah later on is that our Alma they treat the nurse yourself that you as a baby act as a child,

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because and that's what they say, when NASA Cataclysm into true Kosha bah, bah, bah, went after we unfortunately, your nerves just like a baby just like an infant. If you leave it, it will grow what old was still desiring nursing and drink of course, almond milk from the mother, even as the ages actually. But if you forbid it at some point, it will learn to stop. So that's the same thing over here. He says when you tell it then don't do that. It pursues even that more and more there's a bigger desire to pursue cholera mo loudhailer alright to the sheer will Owen. I said I saw in an event he said I saw an example noted from the early example of humanity. That's what he means by

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that a shareable Oh which means the first generation of mankind like basically saying, this is embedded in us human beings from the origin of our humanity. Because I've seen that origin of our humanity that are the money has salam ala Manu Jana Shudra how you Santa Monica throttle us Jarrell Munia Jana, Adam, when he was forbidden to eat from a specific tree if he became more keen to pursue that tree, even though they had so many other thesis advisor

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there's so many things out there but why this one? Why I cannot eat from that one it becomes more desirable to pursue that particular tea.

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Then he says colorful Ansel in Arabic proverb Alma Oh, hello, how are you soon Allah Allah mana water work on Isla Malam urinal. So then the Arabic proverb it has been said that what is forbidden is sought after, and what is not yet attained is actually still least desired. What Allah will O'Meara, NASA will do a la Sabo wallow Nuhu anti fetal bar, the Rocky movie, that's an interesting concept, and it's maybe from their duration of them died from their time is much more interesting. Because it was also said that if people were commanded to be hungry, they would have endured hunger. If you told them to be hungry, they're probably going to say, okay, I can deal with that. He said,

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however, if they were commanded not to, which means if they're forbidden, if they were forbidden to break apart feces, which is basically the aim is via L bar, the cameras dropping? What's the value of camera dropping as a man? There is no value to it. If you see a camera dropping in the desert, what are you gonna do with that? Maybe take a picture and post it online.

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He says something that's completely insignificant like that, if you tell people don't touch it, don't try to break it. What are they gonna do? They're gonna try to break it. Why? He said, Carla, because people will say call man or Hina and who in the shade, they will say people that will justify that behavior or breaking. You know, the animal droppings, he said, because they will say to themselves justify this to themselves. Certainly there was something in it for which we were forbidden from.

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Like we mentally justify that because there must be something about this to be forbidden.

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For us, God Allah him Allah Allah and then he said, Look at theta a Hubble showing insanity mamounia. The most beloved thing to man, the human being is what was made forbidden for him, for that matter has to answer the Delica he goes, I've been searching and investigating what could be the reason for that? Why is it that we will say to something, it's forbidden. We pursue this Furthermore, even we push ourselves after it even though we could tell that it's not harmless, but we still pursue that. He said California to Delica we celebrate. I found two reasons for that. Number one, a huddle room firstly, and then NAFSA latas Bureau RL hustle said that the human self

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cannot handle being restricted.

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The human self cannot handle being restricted for in New York he has to have you sorted but he said that the nafs is already constructed in being in being sheltered in this body and this shell. So what does the nest want to do? Break away from it

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get out of the body to go into the world and experience this and experience that experience like trying to find outside experiences.

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So when you try to restrict that it's like I'm already restricted in this body. Let me try things out of that experience. That's what he says called for in the hospital will mana be men and Zaditor issue. So as a result of that, when the nerves had been constrained, it was constrained in any way that apply Shaha it becomes even more reckless becomes more rebellious every time you try to concern your love unis. It becomes more rebellious. Cloudy, ha Okada. Insanity Beatty Shahara. Let me also Valley so therefore take the example of someone's would stay at home alone. If you stay at home by herself for a month, you can do that. They wouldn't bother you. Allah, Allahu La Roseman Beatty, que

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yo man tal Ali. But if that person was told not to leave the house, if you're forbidden from leaving the house, one day becomes too long.

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Even though you stay for a month, you didn't bother. The bother was by choice. But now you're told not to stay in the house or not to leave the house. So now you feel that you've been restricted from leaving, therefore, it becomes too much to handle COVID COVID For example, quarantine, quarantine. So Hannah. That's a great example for all of us, Hannah. It just everybody right now suddenly they realize the value of being out. Right. Carla, would you have a car? Well, well, okay. The law who I will tell you. He said the second thing right now. So the first one why then apps keeps pursuing Of course, these things. So the first reason for that because the nurse is very rebellious, doesn't

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like to be restricted and constrained. The second reason he says con ama Thani

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and now your shortcut, I had to hold on to how come the nafs the self doesn't like to be taken under any authority.

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Like it doesn't, doesn't want to fall under authority.

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No rules, doesn't like rules. Basically. That's what it means. He said kind of what he had just a little harder. That's why he loves the hara was to break all the rules. You tell them this is wrong. It's rebellious. They wants to break the rule. I don't want any authority. I don't want him to tell me what to do, what not to do. And that's very evidence specific in our time today. The culture of our time is all about self, you know, centered culture. Everybody's looking for their own personal life. And now we hear words such as this is my life. I can do whatever I want to do, this is my body, I can do whatever I want to do this is that how the whole thing about me, me, me, me, we don't

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want any authority or any kind of authority, even religious authority. So he says that's why it really enjoys the Haram because it's just give them that sense of rebellion. I'm breaking away from that authority. But while the cow just totally blew by, and as a result, it could barely even enjoy that which is permissible, it's permissible it's out there for you to go and enjoy it but it's not enjoyable because I know I can do it. But I think I will tell you what to do not to enjoy. Now I want to try that out. It's much more enjoyable because there's a thrill of breaking the rules and quiver of course defying authority. When he had that he then he concludes by saying well he had yes

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to Allah you had tab Buddha, Allah matara water through Allah, ma youth. And that's why he said and this is why it is easy for a person to worship as per what it sees what it senses and sees and favoring vivid over anything else. Subhanallah this chapter shall I now call the menorah Mahboob is very crucial for us in our time. Why? Because the scope of what's haram and halal is changing and what defines Halal haram Haram is being challenged as well too.

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In the hamdulillah as Muslims, we know the value of the Sharia right? The value of the of the Shara is to tell you what is right and what is wrong. And as Muslims we believe it's all coming from whom, from the ultimate authority as Allah Subhana Allah says it will hook mu A learn Allah He is the one who establishes the rules. So when something is right something was wrong something Hala something is halal haram. We know that because Allah subhanaw taala said so, and we obey Allah azza wa jal we listen to ALLAH SubhanA has commandments in the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. So now we come to a time where the Torah is being challenged in the authority of the religion,

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obviously, we go back again to whenever somebody is forbidden, without questioning right now, why, and why not? Your take on this year. So this one, I'll handle some Ursula ano Sacmi Manuela, it's actually a really profound chapter in regards to what we've been talking about in the last few days. Because this idea that people always want what they can't have as human beings, Allah Subhana Allah knows how he created us. Some of their element mentioned the IOA Holyfield in Santa why etha man has been created weak. And the prophets lie Selim said that a shoddy a strong person is not the one who can overcome someone else physically, but it's the empty capsule or in the lava, the one who

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controls himself when he's angry. Some of the elements said that of the wisdom of that is that the more self control and the love is one element of self control. And it's the most obvious one, when you become angry, do you lose your temper and do you know, blow your top, but the more you control yourself, the stronger of a person that you actually are self control equals strength in our Tuscania and our discipline, right? So this idea of human beings being rebellious in their nature, we hate being told, No, we hate being told you can't do this, we will do things that are to our detriment. Just to insist on our authority and our freedom. Yes, And subhanAllah even atomized. And

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this is the thing, when you see something that is Atomy, that's from Adam, it has to them, there's a nature here of the human being that has to be curbed. That has to be overcome. Adam and Howard had the whole garden. I mean, just think about that you have every single part of this garden that you want. What I talked about how the insurance just don't go to that tree, if the tree was not pointed out to them.

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And if Shavon did not tempt them with it, they might have just walked past it anyway. Because of the the amount of trees that were there that they could eat from and that they could benefit from, but just don't go to that tree. Well, what's in that tree? And we hate being told no one's power. When I read this immediately, I thought a quarantine right? You hate being told you can't drive you hate being told, you know, whereas people you know, like working from home,

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like being able to be at home. But once you're told you can't leave the house. It's like, wait a minute, I feel like I'm under house arrest. Now, who are you to tell me that we don't know how to act. And somehow actually, I remember. I was listening to a commentator that was just talking about why in America quarantine was so hard versus other countries where quarantine was relatively easy. People were much more likely to follow instructions. And he said, Because Americans hate being told no, we're not used to it. Right? This the land of the free, right? You do what you want, you know, this idea of freedom, freedom, freedom, freedom is creed here. It's our theta, right? It is your

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creed. The Creed is do you. That's the creed. And I think that customer service has the culture here as well. It's something unique in America doesn't exist anywhere else in the world. So it's all about you. And that empowers the person to really seek their own pleasure as well to even if it was defined any other authority, right? And the the the extreme end of the which is very scary. And it's not undermining his Salaam. It's actually where it veers into being satanic or 8am and a tougher isla. Whoa, how do you see the one who took their desires as their God? That's actually a shape on description. However, a human being has the capability to be satanic. Right? So the Adam, the Adam,

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quality is Elijah, we're very quick. And we were hasty and we don't like being told no. And so when we're kids, we don't like our parents telling us No, when we get older, we don't like you know, the, the Imam telling us know what, you know, the religious authority, the political authority, we hate being restricted, and we're very hasty. If you let that transgress a little bit further, you become satanic, you start to actually undermine the law because you don't like you start to change it you start to rebel against God Himself. There are multiple manifestations of this Subhanallah but but you know, I'm loving this a little bit louder. And he talks about this that you know, the most hated

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words to Allah subhanaw taala someone says to you it tequila, you know, be mindful of Allah and you say, leave me alone. It's my life. Don't judge me. Okay, there is judgmental attitudes is a thing. being condescending is a thing that's condemned in the Sharia, right? There's a dub Ignacia the ways in which Nasi has to be given advices to be good

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And, but eventually we get to a point where, because human beings fall into a culture of self worship so much the idea of someone just telling you right and wrong just become so bad. And so you know, historically speaking, what did this play out and think at the moment Julian you know him Allah, he talked about two people fighting in a masjid. All right, let's let me give you the scenario, you walk into the muzzle of the prey next to someone

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they pray according to a certain method. Alright, so let's say they do it off out again, or they don't do it off. They don't raise their hands at the time of going up, up and down from the court both obviously we find it between the Sunni schools, okay?

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At the end of the Salah, hey,

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raise your hand.

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Right? At that point, that person is not going to be defending their method, but it's like, Who are you to tell me? You know how to do this. And let's say it actually it's not the laugh and muda hub or anything like that. It's like, you know, someone's actually praying wrong doing something wrong. But because you told me, I didn't like the way you told me how to do this. I'm going to reject it altogether, which is very, very, very dangerous. You know, Imam Malik Rahim Allah. This is the angelic side of things. Right, the famous story of Mount Malik. Now if you read the life of Imam Malik Rahim, Allah He was actually a proud man. And I don't say that in a negative way. I don't say

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that in a negative way. I don't say that, in the sense of satanic pride. He had a is a Heba a great sense of authority in his presence, you know, you'd be scared to joke in His presence. He were very he was intimidating, not out of arrogance, but just out of the all that he carried himself with, right, almost to a point that he wasn't as approachable maybe as some of the other Imams not because again, that's, you know, Allah created people differently. You have this and you have that, you know, any mathematical him Allah to Allah somewhat he walks into the masjid, and he sat down after Salah to Lhasa, meaning he walked into the mezzo time, where according to him, you don't do to hear

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to the masjid. You don't pray the to Doc guys of entering into the masjid. And then someone told him young young man chastised him and told them Aren't you going to preach the records to Imam Malik the Imam of Medina. Right. And Imam Malik got up and prayed, even though it's against his understanding,

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to pray to hate and message it to pray the two records of entering the masjid because he said I, you know, when they asked him the students ask them like, wait a minute, you taught us not to pray to darcars afters. If you enter into the message after salata rasa, we're confused now. And he said I didn't want to be one of those people who Allah subhanaw taala says when it is said to them to prostrate, they refuse, they become they become arrogant, right? I didn't want that idea to apply to me. So I didn't want someone to tell me pray. And I say no, no, no, I couldn't do that. So even though it wasn't his understanding, he still prayed at that time. SubhanAllah. So just to not fall

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into that category, because it's a bad mindset to get into. And the scary thing is, the delusion of shaitan, the delusion of shaitan is that it can actually lead to self righteousness. So a person starts doing things even wrong in the religion in their matters of riba that are more I'm not the matters of the acts of worship or the matters of interaction, social interactions, right? And we see this all the time, may Allah protect this, we're not exempt from it, right. But a person starts to insist on bad interpretations, wrong interpretations, just because I want to prove that person wrong. So I didn't like what the Imam said, I didn't like what that brother or sister said in the

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WhatsApp group or on Twitter. I don't I didn't like how they told me off. So I'm going to go Google something. And I'm going to find the wackiest fatwa I can find.

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And I'm gonna say that's the one see, just so I can be the champion of the truth. That's how much a person's hatred for authority can let their ego destroy them. And it's an it's a very scary thought. As far as I know, first, you have to understand why there's even prohibition to begin with people that need to realize there's nothing nothing really random. This goes back again to the biggest umbrella under Sharia will you call my Casa de Sharia, nothing in the sharp nothing in the show that being commanded, being commanded to do? Well, being forbidden from doing nothing is random, it has to serve a particular purpose. And that purpose falls into what we call Mikasa. The Sharia mean, the

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objective of Islamic law, and the object, all these objectives are simple, whether to bring you good, or prevent harm from that from coming to you. So to bring you good, or preventing harm. So whenever we see something in the Sharia that says, Do this, even though it's so hard for me to see that why do I have to do that? Even it might not understand why you have to really believe that there is a purpose behind it. And that purpose is coming from the man who legislated that command for you. So it's good for you, or is going to remove harm from your way. And if Allah subhana wa Tada also

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There's something wrong, don't do it prohibited from doing something, no matter how sweet, it sounds to me to do it. If Allah said, Don't do it, then you need to believe that this that's forbidden fruit it sounds or at least feel sweet to you. But Allah subhanaw taala said that this weakness could be really dangerous. And you have to stay away from it because it can bring you harm and prevent something good. So one of the things I've been able to zero him Allah has in his book or the cyber in he comments and his principles. And he says, Look, cool man who you are and who, everything that you've been forbidden from doing the purpose of that, because actually doing it will preventing

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you from doing that what you've been commanded to do. What does that mean? Drinking alcohol, for example, why you've been forbidden from drinking alcohol. Because if you drink alcohol, what's going to happen? You lose the faculty of mind. And if you lose the fact that if I was going to happen to you, you're not going to pray, you're not going to be fair, you're not going to be honest, probably going to still going to commit so many other things. So doing this haram will prevent you from doing a lot of the commandments that ALLAH SubhanA ordered you to do. If someone commits Zina fornication adultery is going to prevent them from what

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they demand.

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If I can do this, why bother? Why I have to do this why I have to do that. So he says the the reason why there are provisions because going into the prohibited matter following that sweet fruit most likely will prevent you from doing that which have been commanded to do. Okay, so what's the value of that command? That's the matter the question, you say that okay, but why do I have to obey these rules? Sherman was talking about this, the ego prevent you from following your the commandments why because I don't like authorities. But if you truly believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala and you believe that you are a servant of Allah Zoda you are the creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala and

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he's the one who puts the cam and the rules Subhana wa Tada then there's always benefit for you from following the commands of Allah azza wa jal, and going into the prohibitions will prevent you from doing that. The least value you could think of which is for me, one of the highest values as well, of following that command is what as the Prophet salaallah, Assam says, in the Hadith

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as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, in the Hadith, child codici, that Allah subhanho wa Taala says in this hadith call, Walmart carova la, the che in a hub Bhulaiyaa meme after to La da my servant is not going to draw himself or herself nearer to me in anything better than following what I've ordered them to do.

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Like you can think of yourself like some people, especially in our time and our age right now, defying authorities, obviously, they want to create their own way of worshipping Allah subhanaw taala.

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They want to create a standard for themselves, but there is nothing that will bring you closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala that what Allah has made obligatory or commanded us to do subhanho wa Taala

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Can you all hear us?

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Everybody in the back now? You hear us?

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I don't know if you're telling me go away. You're telling me raise my voice. raise my voice Hamdulillah I don't know if you're raising the roof. Not sure what's happening here.

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Actually, I'm not sure if they can hear even the the sound of the pounding on the on the roof over here because we are under the dome right now. And it's very, very loud over here. In Las Panama Tyler allow it to be a sign of acceptance of our glass of wine. I mean, check. I wanted to go to this, this part as well sort of at the end and some of the other reflections on the river map in regards to how this translates into the other elements of our lives. One of the things that you find about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that one was sort of on Salah when he was sent him was told that he hurt someone.

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Or when the Prophet SAW Allah who it was Saddam was, you know,

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shown that someone felt left out of something. The prophets lie some did not try to defend his actions. You know, we talked about the famous incident of the Saudi man the prophets lie some posts, you know, and when the prophets lie some poked him some of you might remember the name from the first I'm not sure if you all remember the name for the first night but the prophets lie some poke the on Saudi man and he told the prophets lie some you hurt me it was all si some could have said, look, it's an important time and you're playing around you're messing around. And this is not the time for you to insist on your right or your help. I'm trying to settle an army here but also lost

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my son was quick to how do I rectify the situation. Likewise, if one of the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam complained to him about something that she was feeling, Masuda allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he listened. He was very attentive.

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And that's because the prophets lie. Selim did not have enough. So he didn't have that ego.

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And so the idea here, you know, and Jeff was talking about man is good enough slash gorilla, the person who is not grateful to the people is not grateful with Allah. A person who is arrogant with Allah tends to be arrogant with everybody else as well. And a person who's humble with Allah subhanaw taala tends to be humble in general with people as well. And so when they're told, you know, look, I didn't like the way that was set. I didn't like how this made me feel. They don't immediately get into defense mode. They apologize, they listen. They say, What can I do better? What can I do better? In fact, you can't point to a single incident from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam his life, where the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam became arrogant and foul, right? As a result of something of that sort. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam accepted you know, even when Sophia called the Allah Tada and told the prophets lie Selim. You know, she was crying and the prophets lie some so why are you crying? And she felt like the animal that she had been given to ride was smaller than the others.

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And they used to make fun of Sophia Radi Allahu anha for height. Right? And you know, and so the prophets like some recognized where that pain was coming from, and the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, immediately, he wiped her tears, and he said, I'll get you another one. And he made it, he made it better sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And so when it comes to our dealings with our parents, you talked about this in the Hadith about gratitude that the way of gratitude to the one who's above you is obedience. And the way of gratitude to your peer to the one who is equal to you, right is more Kalfa to pay them back into compensate in the way of gratitude to the one who is

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technically less than you, is to use words of gratitude and thanks and encouragement with them. Likewise, when you talk about humility, you know, when it comes to your parents, sometimes your parents might be wrong. Okay. But do you have to beat them over the head with it? You know, sometimes Subhanallah I see this right? No, no, you see the shift, someone gets again, the overzealous super religious person all of a sudden, gets really, really, really religious. Okay. And then next thing, you know, they want to go home and they want to trash their parents house and everything in my house has been uncalled for. It's like I was changing your diapers yesterday.

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And here you are now and you're coming home. And you know, and there was actually an example like we knew like one week in one week, we saw a young man transform where he went home, and he broke the TV.

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Because it's so sweet haram.

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It's like, you know, a month ago, we were his parents are saying a month ago, we were catching you watching stuff on the TV that you weren't supposed to be watching. Now you're coming home and breaking the TV and saying haram haram haram haram. So what does that do?

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You know, if there was anyone that could have been arrogant with someone else, on the basis of pure substances, Ibrahim on Islam with his father, but look, I brought him on Islam addressed his father. Yeah, Betty. Oh, my dear father. Right. And he talks to him in the UCLA journey. Minella Elmy Melania. tikka? Look, there was some knowledge that I received. That didn't come to you. Not I am an island and you are a juggler. I am a knowledgeable person. And you're a fool. Not I am a prophet's and you are a wicked man. A journeyman man in the attic, you've taught me some things that I've learned from you. Some knowledge came to me, that did not happen to come to you. For to Bernie,

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because the wrath on Sophia. So on that basis, I'm asking you to follow me not because I'm better than you on the basis of the washi. That came down to me. And I'll guide you to the straight path in that regard. Yeah, but I'm not trying to humiliate you in the hall for an ache, I'm worried about you. So this is the son to the Father, right. Then on the other hand, you've got the father, the parent with the child, sometimes the parent rejects the truth from the child. And it's also unjustified. Right? Because ultimately will lead them to reject the truth just because I don't like that it's coming from my child, even with the full edip the child gives to the parent, right? And

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presents the truth and presents like a discussion. But who are you to talk to me that way? I'm your parent. That's also arrogance. The point is, is that the arbiter and all of this should be the truth. And it's not happening husband and wife, if your marriage is about scoring points on each other, seriously, if you're keeping a running tally and your marriage, your marriage is going to fall apart. It's not going to go right if you wait for your spouse to make a mistake, so you can capitalize and you can exploit and you can say see, you were wrong. I told you and you put them down and humiliate them with that it's not about the mistake. It's about them being mistaken. You want to

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beat them over the head with it. So your marriage is constantly trying to score points, right guilting one another shaming one another exploiting one another's vulnerability instead of building each other up instead of being labasa nakoma Hana Liba Santa Claus for one another. You're stripping each other and humiliation. Right? In the metaphorical sense humiliating one another like wait a minute. That's not what a marriage is supposed to be. And so Subhanallah the children, the spouse

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Is the parents, the authorities? What ends up becoming the casualty? And all of this is first and foremost the truth. Secondly, societal breakdown in relationship. And so Subhanallah Dino nasiha, Hashem, a Dino, no, say how the religion is sincere advice. If we can't give sincere advice to one another, as brothers and sisters, then we're forsaking a fundamental concept of our religion. But if everyone's too afraid to give nasiha to each other, and we've all put up barriers with one another, don't give me I'll see how Don't tread on me, then we're all going to end up leading ourselves into a place of destruction. May Allah protect us. And now that we know that when it comes to the subject

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of prohibition, it's all about the breaking authorities, the novices rebellious wants to try to be independent from any kind of rules and that anything of that nature, and like even it will judge him Allah that he's saying over here, for it to hurt sigh as either Allah, Allah cardrecovery Will manner. I've seen that the neffs becomes more keen in doing something which is prohibited.

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dependent, of course, how much prohibition is there? The more you say no, the more likely we fear right with your kind of like, desire even to pursue it and go after a question might come right now. How can we break this? How can people break the all these incentives that makes it more appealing for them to pursue and more appealing to commit the Haram, even though they know it's prohibited? How can we help people break away from that?

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Try not to hear in the voice of others,

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the tone of their voice,

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nor consider the messenger being that person in front of you. Try to always hear the call of Allah subhanaw taala

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you see everything around you as a sign. Every person in your life is a sign every single moment Subhanallah every single moment, Allah subhanaw taala is communicating to you in some way. Right? You might not be paying attention, but every single interaction every single person that you meet Allah azza wa jal is communicating something to you. And so if you get caught up in the aesthetics of it, you know, mominul desire, Rahim Allah Tada actually talks about those as Rahim Allah says, Even if someone gives you an Aussie Hana bad manner,

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you know, consider that consider the substance of their nausea, let's say 100%. Let's say it, let's say 80% of it was bad advice. And it was nasty, and I don't have to validate the person's bad manners. I can say, You know what, let me think about what they said. Let me think about what they said. Let me actually take this in. And then put down Rahim, Allah to Allah has a beautiful, beautiful scene, and somehow it just came to my mind. Because oftentimes, if you realize it to someone here that the analogies that are given are to take something that's very physically tangible, and then to apply it to the spiritually often distant. Imam Kodama, Rahim, Allah said, if

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you were walking and you had a scorpion on your back, okay?

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You would want someone to tell you, there's a scorpion on your back.

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Right? And in fact, if they didn't tell you that there was a scorpion on your back, when it bites you, if you're still alive, you're gonna say, Why didn't you tell me there was a scorpion on my back.

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But Subhanallah sometimes we observe in one another spiritual diseases, very obvious spiritual conditions. And we don't say anything to each other.

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Why? Because that's the type of culture that's where destruction tends to happen amongst us, we don't say anything, because I don't want to offend. And I don't want to, you know, but the spiritual scorpion is far worse than the physical Scorpion, because the consequences of the spiritual bite of the Scorpion is in the afterlife. And the physical bite is in this life. And so this idea of look what's a lot trying to tell me, and if no one's giving me advice, I'm gonna look for that advice, by asking people for advice. And more than that, learn your religion, learn your religion, you know, there's 100 labrum in such a degree of information that's out there right now, such a wealth of

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opportunity. Learn your religion, there's there's a certain level of ignorance, that's not acceptable anymore in the 21st century, you know, might have been acceptable in a time where you didn't have mass communication, where you didn't have access to certain things where you didn't have access to teachers and retina, and access to basic fundamentals of the religion. But now, that excuse kind of goes out the window when you have that access. And so that way when the debates happen, you know, what's halal? What's Haram is this sunnah? Is this fuddled, is this not followed? Your arbiter is not Instagram or Twitter, right? Or the argument the bad argument that you're having

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in your Whatsapp group or in person? It's, you know, yeah, actually, it's very clear from the Quran and the Sunnah, that this is what is obligatory for me as a Muslim and I don't want to meet Allah subhana wa Tada. Having violated what he set forth for me as a boundary that throws all of the arguments out the window, and makes it all about yourself in your pursuit of Allah subhanaw taala rather than the other people that are in the wind, power, going back again to what Josie was saying and when

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are the reasons why people do what they do that they want to break.

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So that's partly why I even Jojo hemella When he says that two reasons number one is because we don't like to be constrained. And the second one we don't like to be under any authority. So I've been given a Kamal Josie Rahim Allah speaks on this matter. And he says, Look, in order for you to be able to find it easy for you to follow the commandments, meaning to go and do that which has been you've been ordered to do and abstain from that which should be forbidden from doing he does two things over here. Number one, the full submission, which is why you're called Muslim. And number two, to realize that you having any control in your life is an illusion.

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What does that exactly mean? Wait a second, I thought we had a free world. Right? So how does that now? Work for me? Let's talk about the first submission. If you're a Muslim, you know that the name Muslim comes from what from Islam? And what is Islam? Exactly, submission. Today we we love to Whenever someone asks us, what's the meaning of Islam? What is the first thing we tell the people about Islam? What is it as your ma piece? But that's not true.

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It's not the first thing about Islam? Yes, it's the result of the first meaning is actually this is peace. But what is the first meaning of Islam submission, you can only get that peace when you submit to Allah subhana wa taala. But if you want to live your life, on your own rules, you're going to struggle, no matter how much you try to think that I'm going to get that peace of mind. It's your own rules. But God designed this life in a specific way the rules of doing and not doing and if you follow His commandments, you will find that piece. So the first thing is submission. The second thing is thinking that you have control in this life is an illusion. But at the same time, we have

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to also accept my control as partial, not full control. What does that mean? Allah subhanho wa Taala is the ultimate control over

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everything in this sort of this universe happens

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by his permission, subhanAllah with the good and the bad, and the other end, your job is to follow the commandments. So your level of freedom is in choosing to do what Allah has ordered you to do or otherwise.

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But if you don't obey the commandments, and you call, go ahead and commit the prohibition, you're still doing this with his permission.

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Your Free will is also in his permission Subhanallah to have a free while you're on doing basically. So therefore, in order for us to stop really, and pause and think how the fruit of the forbidden fruit is sweet. We need to realize number one, look. This is forbidden because Allah Subhan said so.

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And if I believe in Allah azza wa jal, and I believe in His commandments, I need to submit to it. How can I convince me myself to do that? If it's so hard for me to accept that how can I do this by realizing and remembering the ultimate control and this world is belongs to him? To him Subhana wa Tada. So the sooner I submit myself to as well, the faster I get to that level of peace I'm looking for. But if I keep always rebelling and rejecting ALLAH SubhanA commandments and prohibitions because I want to live my life. Go for it. Live your life, see if it's gonna get you any peace.

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It might get a temporary peace. But it's still there's always that void, because you're not doing you're not following the instruction, the manual that came with you when you were sent this world, the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet, Salah Salem. Yeah, there are some instructions that too long, too much too troublesome and it's a lot of energy for me. But ultimately, if you follow the instruction, you're going to have the full capacity and the full full blown performance of that device. Similarly, if you'd like to find the full really full performance of yourself as a human being, then just follow the instructions. That's where you have the iron fella or be Kela you don't

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have to you Hackie McAfee Mattias Urbino by by your Lord, they don't believe until they make you Yeah, Mohammed sly Salam, the arbitrator, they make you the Judge of all their affairs. And then they get to a point where what the maniacally Doofy unforeseen hydrogen monopolies. Once they've remembered the soldiers of the mind, I'm going to follow this. I'm going to follow this I'm going to submit to this right? And then I no longer find how much I don't find that that discomfort anymore. Like if I adjust my mindset and it is a mindset by the way, it is a mindset that I'm going to follow what Allah in the messenger slice I'm telling me, because it's in the favor of my knifes, it's

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actually in the favor of myself and I'm gonna get to that in a moment. Subhanallah but at some point, I don't find any hurdles in myself anymore. I really don't find discomfort anymore. When I know it's from the Quran and the Sunnah I'm gonna follow it and then you suddenly notice Lima, like just like complete submission, and I'm at peace with that submission Subhanallah this is actually some

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thing that some of the scholars mentioned in this regard because our knifes hates being put in its place so much, okay? The only way to control it is to convince it, that you're controlling it for its own good.

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That Oh neffs This is for you.

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I'm trying to get you intergender right now. I'm trying to make things easier for you, this is for your benefit. And so it's first coming to that, that, that understanding that look, this is for my benefit. So let me let me submit to this because what Allah and the messenger say, some give us like Allah, Allah does not put us in our place, just to humiliate us or humble us or put us in like a bad situation. You know, this idea that everything that Allah prohibited is for our own good.

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I believe that I believe that there is not a single thing, I'm not going to wait for some 21st century study to come out and say, Oh, by the way, this is, this is actually kind of harmful for you. Okay, I know for a fact that what Allah told me is bad, is bad. And I'm at peace with that, right? So even if at times, I feel like, I know that Allah subhanaw taala did not put a prohibition on me without reason, even if I can't come to understand that reason. So Tasleem. I submit to that wholeheartedly. And I'll add one thing, just since we're going along with the analogy, one of my teachers mentioned this, I think it's very important, and I might actually carry this to a halt.

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Because I don't want to because if I start on this track right now, I might go too far with it. But other money snom didn't burn down a garden. He just ate a little thing from one tree.

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It's not a big deal, right? Like, alright, fine, other messed up. But I mean, the end of the day, he just ate from the tree.

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Sometimes, that's how we convince ourselves and the belittling of sin. It's not a big deal. It's a small transgression.

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Is it really, you know, someone says, Is Allah really going to punish me because of this?

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And I'm like, Are you really going to disobey Allah because of this? Like, switch the equation around? Is a law really going to punish me because of this, and I'm gonna keep on doing this. I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do that. I don't care. I'm gonna insist upon insisting e alchemy Kurata denote the prophets lie. Some said, Be careful, beware of belittling small sins. That's sometimes most arrogant thing you could do with God is every single day in the face of Revelation, I'm going to do what I want to do every day and I don't care it's not a big deal. Like I'm killing anybody. It's not like I'm committing Zina. It's not like I'm doing this like I'm doing that what's the big

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deal? I don't care let all those people say haram let Branson or whatever it is. It's okay at least I do this at least I do that that's what a decent

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bliss a bliss escape the consequences of a sin with what

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by exaggerating his good I've been worshipping you all these years. Yeah, Allah.

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That other Muslim do that. That other money has Salam flaunt his worship to Allah subhanaw taala. And so yeah, Allah. Come on. I just made one mistake. I was obeying you the whole time. Like, do you really have to do this to me? Or was it a lot? I'm not and for Santa. Allah. We wronged ourselves. No, no. Tasneem there's Tasneem even in Toba. Right? Even in repentance. It's not just the Naadam it's not just feeling regret. You know, when you if you have kids and you tell your kid, do you know why you're apologizing?

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Do you even know why you're apologizing? Right happens to me all the time. Okay. Do you know why you're apologizing? Are you just saying sorry? Because you don't want the consequences? Right? Because as a parent, you want them to get that you want them to get the memo. Like hey, do you know why you're apologizing? Do you understand what you did wrong? Adam Alayhis Salam understood what he did wrong. And that was he disobeyed Allah. Did he ask ALLAH SubhanA wa so what was what was it about the fruit anyway? What was wrong with it in the first place? Yeah, Allah. Can you tell me now that you know this all happened? Not this all went down? No, because at the end of the day, I told

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you not to eat from it and you ate from it. So Robin, an alumna and fusina Subhan. Allah, Oh Allah, we wronged ourselves because you can't wronged Allah. We wronged ourselves at the end of the day, who suffers the consequences? You didn't do any Knucks and taking away from the milk of Allah stands out from the dominion of Allah Subhana Allah, you hurt yourself. Robin alumna and Susannah wronged yourselves ourselves in Lambchop Lonato Hamlet and Hakuna Corsa and if you don't forgive us, and have mercy upon us, then we will certainly be from the losers. Now I want to actually close with going back again to where we started. When even Josie Rahim Allah Tala was wondering you know that

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the more you insist on forbidding the dentists from doing some things keeps pursue that more and more. And we mentioned that the reason why

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why the provision is so dangerous, we'll keep breaking it because whenever you commit a sin, you've already actually most likely did not do something that's been you've been ordered to do. committing these sins. This forbidding marriage and field forbidden actions will prevent you from doing the command. Because so what's what's the problem with that big problem? Now, you ask yourself, which is more valuable to fulfill the order

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are the commands or to abstain from the prohibition? What do you guys think?

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Which is more important to obey, to obey in terms of doing the commands or to abstain?

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It's kind of like an argument among Dharma themselves. But as a matter of fact, the majority they say, What is much more important is actually doing the command

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during the command is much more important than than abstinence. How's that? And that's why again, the value is saying over here is that look, when you don't, when you keep doing the sense, you're not gonna do the command, which is a more valuable thing.

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If you keep coming to the sins, you are not going to do the most valuable things, which is to obey Allah subhanho wa Taala and do the commandments. And he says an example for this because look, you could commit tons of sins, tons of stuff, everything that is haram, you could violate that and you could do it. But if you put everything together, everything together, and you do one commandment, it can take all this away. What is that commandment is called a Jamar Toba

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because fulfilling that commandment of Toba will erase all the sins Subhanallah This is how valuable fulfilling the commandments. But unfortunately, nowadays, what people most likely will do again, they design their own way of worshipping the last panel with that on their terms, their own terms. So we find ourselves going into what our next one it takes us to, like we talked about in the first session going down the river right? With the gravity of Venice. So we started committing all these sins and all these prohibitions, and as a result, we are not fulfilling the commandment. They are much more valuable to us than anything in this world. Very profound. Subhanallah point from a New

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Jersey rahmatullahi tonali Shiva you're gonna hit to add or we can take

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there's a statement from Allah Akbar. You guys ready? can order Maccon kale ham say Alaba Chai oh my god

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they come out right all right, God God is a farm Hi Will Surah teach and gays How long did it take you to learn that man

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it's been practicing all night. So you want to translate it for them to

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back home kill him say hola che

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if this if the self is Macomb like like judge I'm trying to mix the order do not to be here. So the point is, is that if a person along that route says I don't know what I'm doing right now, by the way, I'm trying to translate this check I'm gonna need your help with this. I'm gonna bring you up here. So let's

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so if the person if you try to stop the person who's Maccon who's if you listen to the desires, you follow the desires of the person who's makhoul Then they're going to end up destroying nations like Genghis Khan. So Chen guys is gangers right? That I get that right Mr. Dua please help us all right, most of us will have come take over on that note actually multisoft can come up please. We please please, please can you get it? No, I want to give him my chair for a moment just share a few words and thoughts. I'm hoping that we'll have Wahid of course from Mr. And hamdulillah barbarian visiting and I told him to call them up. Can you correct my auditor please?

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I feel like I just disrespected him by making him by taking his chair. I feel so bad but I don't feel too bad I just feel a little bad

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but he's he's been in touch with us he was cheered and I would feel really bad given

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having both my

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was actually enjoying the beautiful session from Miss amazing Michelle says, I feel like we don't have the spot to speak in front of us in Chicago. Nor should I think anything was already said I mean, some of the old depart gather a shaky.

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You got it perfect. But in the sense of how do you learn about poetry shiftless, it's heavy.

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the one chef who you're talking about if we can just feel if you allow me to just add one of the statements of majority Rahimullah when he was saying was yesterday boo and Mbah that when a person starts indulging in certain acts are forbidden when the acts of obedience become less enjoyable for them, and it becomes less pleasing and fulfilling. And one of the reasons why we commit certain deeds is because it fulfills us in different ways. It has multiple incentives. So when it becomes become becomes less fulfilling, there's less incentives for us to do it. So one of the poems of the Cabal, he says, can be a hottie that the moon doesn't necessarily boss images and may get hazhar was

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such theater opera. Hey, marriage, Sabina Yasmin. Juma tsirbas Such the work up to the mean sir Anya Luggie sada Tierra del hito Sonam Oshana tgcat milega nama.

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As he says

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that's pretty much a good recap.

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That's pretty much what it was. He says, you know, once once we allow the Halawa of sins to indulge in overtake our hearts, then even search that becomes less enjoyable. And once last 100 and the beautiful verse of a cultural hukou was called bouton, where it means that when Huck comes Bata will wither away. And I'm quoting him Allah has many opinions on this area, one of the opinions that he states is the same way Huck is powerful enough to remove Balton purity is powerful enough to remove impure inclinations, when we have pure inclinations and when we cultivate those pure inclinations, impure inclinations will wither away and do times manager and Allah who goes in the middle Cobain if

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you Jofi it will be very difficult for a person to have conflicting inclinations. And that's This is why one of our scholars most efficient with Tony Mala, he would say that one of the things that made Sahabas unique is that they identified one source of motivation, one point of reference, in that one point of reference gave them consistent abilities of making consistent decisions. When we have conflicting points of reference and conflicting sources of motivation. Then now the decisions also become conflicting. There one source of motivation was pleasing Allah subhanaw taala and seeing the Prophet some smile where the poet says Bonita kata who will hire to Maria Juanita Cataldo Well, Anna

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mugabo What at the beginning of a NACA Amuro Are they any elemina Horrible either, so Himachal would do for Kulu Hagen, Aquila de vaca to Robbie to Robert Yeah, Allah if you are pleased with us, and everyone else is secondary opossums is a Hadith of Ronnie menos Lucha Bina who were being Allah, Allah, Allah Hama been who have been a nurse, when an individual rectifies their relationship with Allah subhanaw taala and makes that relationship the greatest source of their motivation, then leaving things for Allah becomes easier. The demand for us is to leave since the demand for Sahabas was to leave their leave everything on the left from Mecca to Medina. So there was a source of

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motivation that was much bigger than just themselves. If we look, just back in just one more minute, if you look in the history of mankind, it would be difficult to identify an era and the people that were drowning in the ditches of darkness in the ditches have flaws and evil moreso in the people before the coming of the puffs of saga with the Persians in the Romans would fight over not ruling them. But then a time came where the same people ruled the purchase in the Romans. So what changed? Was there an increase in wealth was there an increase increase in education, there was an increase in obedience of Allah. There was an increase in obedience of the prophets of Sanlam. And now that

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obedience empowered them to take over the world. Forget taking over their knifes. They were able to take over anything that they put their mind to where it's ball says, job Aruba Doherty, here Jalon omen kneser Artheon Kolodny Munzee la semana. He says when a person identifies that there was a source of motivation that's bigger than them, their destination does not become anything less than the sky, anything less than 10 because now they have a greater source of motivation. So how do we allow ourselves to reach that source of motivation? The post Islam was asked if a hatred of him Allah says about 27 times what is the greatest deed? And based upon the questionnaire he gave

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different answers, once he he actually posed this statement to the Companions, he said, Who will take these statements from me and act upon them and teach it to others? And then the first statement that he mentioned? He says cave Hakuna Buddha caverta, hakuna Buddha nurse, how can you and I become the greatest worshipper? So our ability of worship is what makes us what makes us special in the eyes of Allah? subhanaw taala How can we become the greatest worshiper? He then responds by saying it takelma heard in the Quran act within us, stay away from that which Allah has prevented, you will find a way you will find a way to become the greatest worshipper, the Halawa of good deeds is

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dependent upon us losing the Hello of saints. So the man at the Ronnie Ronnie Rahim Allah says, look it

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up lately him in LA we fell in love with him. When Ola laid back to back off he had the dunya he says the people that enjoy worshipping Allah at night, find more enjoyment in that worship than the sinners finding their sins. And if it was not for the ability of pleasing Allah and I would not enjoy living in this world, because I find so much enjoyment in pleasing Allah subhanaw taala there was a king by the name of Muhammad Muhammad Allah Snoopy.

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He had a slave named as, as became the treasurer Who's ever heard the story before the subcontinent region people evolved more than I grew up reading. It's like Cinderella. Okay, Marcia, you have these you said, you guys were baskets and goatees. Right? Pretty much you have 99% of being Desi and you're in DC community. Mashallah. Right. So Mahmoud made is his treasure. Treasure is a big deal, but he was an outsider. So the entire cabinet was like, No, not this guy. You have royalty in your family choose us to be your treasure. And then he put them to a test. One of the tests that he gave them amongst the many, as you call all of them to his palace, and he gave them the Queen's Diamond.

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gave them the Queen's Diamond, the most precious element in a kingdom is a diamond of the Queen. He calls each of the members of his family and he says, break the diamond. Go ahead and break the dime or attempt to break the diamond. So each of the members look at the diamond and say, Have you lost your mind? This diamond is silver ashes. Doesn't matter what you give us you will never break the diamond. And they give the diamond back one by one everyone comes and gives a consistent response. Finally, as comes as enters the palace, and machmood says to him, break the diamond is takes the diamond and he attempts to break the diamond. So the king says you're what's what's wrong with you.

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You're breaking the Queen's Diamond is the old king. When you told me to break the diamond you only gave me two options. Option number one, break the diamond uphold your command. Option number two, break your command and preserve the diamond in in my eyes, breaking your command is far more detrimental than breaking the diamond. So I would rather break the diamond and uphold your command because I find my honor in upholding your command. Our honor, isn't upholding the commandments of Allah subhanaw taala when Allah here's the two warriors SULI Wilhelmine in Allah Azza wa Silla, our honor is directly dependent upon our obedience in front of Allah subhanaw taala May Allah bless you

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for allowing us to be here today. Bless the community. We've been across different country, different states in the country. There's nothing like Dallas martial law. You've heard that enough. Except for Michigan.

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Except for you know, speaking a foreign language. I love this VISTA community. Bless the people of Valley Ranch, bless the people of Dallas and sha Allah, allow us to unite again and again in this world.

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Michelle, I'm sure gonna take questions. What are you doing?

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You're gonna go on the corner.

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So you sit in the chair, I'll sit there. I'll

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promise we'll take the questions. Hello.

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We're gonna start. We're going to start from the right side over here. I think the standard stuff on the sister side and shallow data

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Nine plus. I mean, that's not very affirming. For me. I'll just be honest, I need someone that speaks what to do. It's a great

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duck. Shaquille, what do you think? Very good. All right, listen.

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Bismillah God. So God, sorry.

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So my question is like, so when we try to talk to our parents, and they call us out on something that they think we did wrong. And we want to tell them like, we want to explain to them that we were not wrong. And we're trying to say respectfully, but they're taking it as disrespect, like, how do we talk to our parents telling them that, you know, I didn't actually do this. And then when they say no, stop talking back to me, just be quiet and leave me alone. Like how do you explain yourself to them without coming across as disrespectful? is my question.

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Are we gonna go into a parenting workshop right now?

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Look, I mean, this this question is, though, with so many things, really, a lot of it is not necessary. Here's the thing. When you talk to your parents, keep in mind really sometimes the argument is not necessarily

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a rational argument, really. It's much more of an emotional argument. The fact that you speak back, you know, and talk back to your parents for them. That's like a blasphemy, even if you're right. Why is that? Because I believe it goes back to the standard of respect. We live different generations, different subcultures. So your parents came from a culture where talking back to your parents is like committed Kufa, basically

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and your generation guys, no matter what it says.

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Are parents you're still chill. Like you didn't do anything wrong no matter what you say. So as a result, again, we have in this issue this problem, really the problem of the standard different standard we're dealing with right now. So I don't want you to consider what your parents are telling you to be right or wrong, because culturally speaking, which we are two different standards. But if you want to focus on one thing, that's very important. Focus on the emotional message that your parents are bringing to you, when they tell you, you're being disrespectful, really, it's not about what you said, it's about them feeling hurt. So if you focus on making them feel good, if you may

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focus on making them feel good, doesn't matter what you say to them, they're gonna take it. So therefore, next time, try to do your best to shallow data to approach them in a way that is emotionally meaningful to them. Because if they're emotionally charged, and you're emotionally charged, both egos now are kicking in right now. The rational argument has gone out of the window, no one is listening, everybody's hurt. And we all both will be focusing on. You heard me make me feel better. So you feel your parents are still treating you like a child. And that's what he's disrespectful. And therefore, that your children like nothing. And that's also disrespectful. So

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who's going to judge Jews being disrespectful or not? The best way again, to go back to that emotional part. So that's parenting advice. Obviously, she hasn't, if you have anything to add, I think, look, a lot of times where this comes from, is,

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how can you help them actually be a part of arriving at the right decisions, that's also part of the unique way in which you could talk to your parents, you know, because again, what ends up happening often with parents is they're trying to insist upon relevance in your life, not just authority at some point, but when you grow older, like still being relevant to your decision making, right? So there's the authority part, and there's the relevance part. And if you show disregard for both, then this is going to mean that they're going to be completely shut off to everything else that you're saying. And so sometimes, even in the form of consultation, like let's have a conversation about to

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say, I love you, and I respect you, and I want you to, I want you to hear me, and I hear you, and I want you to know, I always consider your opinion, and help them be a part of arriving at the right decision. You know, shouldn't we think about this way? What about this? What do you think about this? What do you think about that? And at the end of the day, sometimes none of that's going to be enough. Sometimes, all of that is going to fall short. Because as beautiful as the advice of Ibrahima Islam was to his father, like it's a message, it's a methodology. His father was responding, his father responded what I want him to do to Rahimullah and so he loved joumana Jewelry

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money, who do you think you are, I'm going to kill you. You know, get out of here, get out of my face before I stone you. You know. So that's with the most beautiful of advisement of such an MBA from the most eloquent of prophets to to his father, and that's what the response was. So it's important to try your best. And at the end of the day, when if they tell you to do something wrong for that home. Look, Mom, Dad, I love you, this is not out of my disregard of you. This is out of my regard for Allah, at the end of the day, like I really feel like I have to do this and I'm really not trying to do this because it pains me that you're hurt but I have to do what Allah subhanaw

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taala commanded me to do. And so I think that's where it becomes important in sha Allah to Allah and you know, soften, soften, soften soften you want them to hear the message and not feel the disrespect hear the message don't feel the disrespect so the brother side inshallah Tada.

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said

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Good to have you again. Ross. Shafer

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actually had a

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go

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I have

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a few can answer the question, but I got a little bit confused and bottles about the when the atom was told not to go to to eat from a particular tree. I thought the shaitan not his neffs let him do that. Because what is that now? mache? Tom. That means the was not the neffs of ad was a trap

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by a shaper. So the next question is, if that's the case, how can we as human beings, our little level

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as a delayed How can I tell this is from the Chopin or this is from my neffs what's going on in my mind because a sometimes

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especially with Ramadan, we know the shaitan are all you know,

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shackles. So how can we tell this is from my neffs? In other days of course,

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that's my first question. What is enough?

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Go ahead.

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I should go ahead. I'll give a little bit then if I want to comment on this because I think it's such an important point.

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personal accountability

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Hi there my name is Sarah could have blamed Sheikh bomb in his when he was repenting to Allah right? Again, take the example of the child when they come in front of you. But my friends, but this person but that person but that person at the end of the day, be personally accountable.

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Adam it is Sarah blamed himself who did shaytaan blame?

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No, he didn't blame out of who to take on blame.

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Allah He blamed Allah Himself. Look at the just the variation here. Adam had such personal accountability. That he said baisa Roberta Allah and was we wrong ourselves? Because at the end of the day and everybody Lisa Nicodemus upon my servants, you don't have control over them eliminative acumen allowing they found you, Elon Darrow to confess that up to me, I called you you responded. The money has set up is the epitome here of personal accountability. And that's how we have to be if you're making Toba if you're gonna blame everyone else, if you're gonna blame anyone else, then that's not a sincere repentance, even blaming the shape on look at shape on the other hand shape on

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did not even say you know, yalla you and I were good until he showed up.

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He says what we've been waiting. How, look at this arrogance. My lord, you lead me astray you set me up. You set me up. Did Allah set shape on up? No.

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You have, you could have still had your ranking in paradise. All you have to do is follow along just like everybody else. All you have to do is obey. But don't be the man of Layton. You lead me astray. And so I'm gonna ruin their fate.

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At no point does he ever take personal accountability? The brothers and sisters it's a warning for you and I on the Day of Judgment, you stand in front of Allah alone.

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You know, so how long as we're reading through the Quran, and I really want us to be if you forget everything I've said don't forget anything that they've said I'm being real seriously if you forget everything I've said tonight

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the reason why Allah keeps on emphasizing in the Quran, that a day that you will not be able to have anyone come to your aid know what he will be able to come to your aid, no friends, no parent, no child, no one will be able to come to your aid is because if you put that moment of standing in front of Allah subhanaw taala ahead of you at all times. Like these things really sort themselves out. Because I know on the Day of Judgment when a lot asked me about something, I'm not going to say hold on let me go call this person so they can explain what happens

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like yeah, I messed up. I know I messed up Yeah, I tried I messed up

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And subhanAllah This is where we lead each other astray when we're gonna say yeah Allah but the terms yeah Allah but everybody else was doing it yeah Allah but my friend told me this was okay yeah, Allah but it said it was Halal on this website. Yeah, Allah but it was just a small sin. I didn't think it was that big of deal. Yeah, Allah but this Yeah, Allah but that don't make those excuses. But don't be vulnerable to Neff. See? abou Allah can be there and multicarrier what a boy will be Numbi how beautiful say that it's the fall. I admit to you Your blessing the CHE bomb say to Allah Ya Allah by the way, before you kick me out. I want to thank you for all of the years you put

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me here. Oh, do you ever hear of what would that could be that Mexicali? The CEPA never admits the blessing of Allah upon him. He raised a jinn to the rank of the angels, Allah took shape on who was a jinn and raised him to where he was in the company of angels in that rank. And he never There was never a woman that can be an aromatic ally. And there was never a boat will be them be I admit my faults, you're not going to get better. So long as you escape those two things, you will only rectify yourself when you admit the the favor of Allah upon you. And when you admit your shortcomings in regards to that favor. So this was his personal accountability.

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If I just add one more thing, we need to understand that the nuts we learned earlier that it always goes with the gravity right, goes down down the river. So it's always goes after these lowly matters of this type of this dunya and the shaytaan job is what they just encourage this but that's all which is why the argument in the in Jana, as Allah subhanaw describing the Quran says when they when the people Jana, we're talking to the shaitan you did this, you did this. What did he say? Peranakan Allah Coleman Silva, Allah

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undoubtable subjectively, I have absolutely no control over you, except I told you to do so you just listen to me, that's all. So his job is not to force you to do this or to do that. And that's again to the point of Chef Amarrian. We need to take accountability. We need to take full accountable for our actions, and never ever blame it on the shaitan all the time, because I know that shatta he wants you to do that, of course, but take responsibility. That's number one. Number two, which is worse, never, ever blame it on Allah azza wa jal like many people sometimes say, Why did you do this to me? Why me? Why not?

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He made it very clear you're going to be tested by will get surprised when you get tested? Well, I didn't expect it that way. Well, that's your fault. Because the God made it clear in the Quran. I'm gonna test you with wealth and money and health and this and that all these things are open for the test. So don't leave it Allah subhanaw taala if you test you because you said I will test you live on yourself that you will not prepare it for that. You will not prepare yourself for strong Eman that when the test comes your way you will sell hamdulillah

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they will yourself that's how it goes Allah Allah

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for the sake of follow up, we need to take more questions and shallow down. So I gotta sisters in the back.

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So since we're on the topic of Shaohua, nefs, I had a question. So it's a little bit of a follow up of what they asked previously.

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So for example, like us as humans, right, if you see something that's hot, right, if you put your hand on, you know what's gonna bring you you know, that you're going to have the consequence, right? So, similarly to Bliss if he knew, like the power of Allah subhanaw taala. And he knew his consequence of disobeying Allah, and that certain situation was going to be the hellfire. Why would he basically disobey Allah subhanaw taala if he knew that was going to be his fate.

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One sentence arrogance makes people so irrational. Arrogance and ego make you so irrational. You will harm yourself and harm everybody else and do everything to your own detriment because of this ego. And so like it's just not smart. But arrogance makes people so irrational. And so yes, this is really not smart of you

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to do this to yourself, but that's how kibble kibble clouds not just our relationship, it doesn't just become a veil between us and Allah subhanaw taala Laocoon Luca ladina, NASA and Salman for some you forget yourself, it becomes a relationship between you and what is rational just a barrier between you and rationality like this is for your own good, you got to tell your enough's This is for your own good. So I won't say more. I think most people will have this.

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If I can add just one statement to that recognition can be the first step of of change. But it can also be the first step of arrogance. recognition in itself is not something which is commendable. And it in itself, it's the first step towards something which is commendable. The Jews of Medina recognize the Prophet Sodom, a lot of times we caress our egos and in our in our minds in our, in our thoughts by saying at least I recognized it. Recognition is the first step towards the process of change. But if we recognize and stuff that's the first step towards arrogance shaytaan recognize this mistake, recognize the outcome recognize the consequences, but that recognition did not prove

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dividends for him because he wasn't able to stop demolish them recognize his mistake and instantly responded in a way of change. So a lot of time with us youngsters,

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US youngsters

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that said, I

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got a taste of my own

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I'm helping them

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you know, we with our parents, we often say You know, I recognize my mistake, I recognize it. Okay, so what I'm gonna do give you a candy, you recognize it, but you never changed. So recognition is one step. And oftentimes we feel like that's the last step in Shelton just for the previous question. One of the ways he wins people over is in Nila Kumar Lemina. Now so when he convinces us that he is a well wisher for us, of course Mr. Houma. He said one law he am a well wisher for you. So his responsibility is to make you believe that he is your friend. But he does not have access to a heart. The only one that has access to a heart is Allah subhanaw taala Allah the US we will fix to

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do it in us. He has access to the exterior of our hearts, the solder the chest, it's like someone knocking on your door for long enough. The only one that can let him in is you and then you let that person in and now he has access towards your house and he changes the furniture of your house and now you like the furnitures new setup because you think he likes you and you think he cares for you. So he can

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insistence that he likes us, and he supports us. And then he goes ahead and does what he wants. So a lot of times, you know, in America or I mean, nowadays in the world, we live in a very result driven society. Doesn't matter how we got there, the fact is that we didn't get there. So it doesn't matter if it was enough, or if it was shaytaan. The fact of the matter is we are there. So now how can we undo it, a lot of times, you spent too much time on figuring out how we got there, rather than figuring out how we can leave there. So it's more important for us to step away from that place and try to get out of that place. I just, I want to, I want to in the spirit of giving nasiha to

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everyone else, I feel like I have to share this into myself and everyone else, based on the questions probably followed by even sharing this in the middle of the of the reading, actually.

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But one of the greatest delusions of shape on that I've seen over and over and over again, is a person will actually stop themselves from repenting and doing something, right. Because I don't want that person to think I'm just doing it for them.

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And you think about the implication of that.

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I don't want them to start thinking that I'm doing this for them. So I'm going to keep on doing something wrong, so that I can prove that it's going to be my own time. I'm on my own time. I've heard that after hutch, almost every year, by the way, someone comes to me with some iteration of that.

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You know, so when you go home, you go to Hodgins like you, you're in this complete lifestyle. Right? Like it becomes like a lifestyle. And then you're gonna go home and throw all that away.

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And there's expectations, yes, people might have expectations of you're going to hedge or you should have higher expectations of yourself. But, you know, no, but if I go home,

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and I give this up, or I start acting this way, then people are gonna say I just did it because I want to hedge or people are gonna say it's just because I got married.

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That's why I started doing this.

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I mean, these are things we hear all the time as Imams, honestly. And it's like, so you wouldn't be willing, like you just think about this, you'd be willing to suffer punishment in the hereafter. Just so that someone doesn't get the validation that maybe they were a part of encouraging you to get in this life. You would insist on your authority, your own authority in this life to the point that I'm not going to change for what I know is better for myself. Just so no one else gets the sense that maybe I changed for someone else. On the Day of Judgment, can you realize, can you imagine how bad we would feel like so that was your excuse? That was why that's part of the humility

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to Allah subhanaw taala so do what's best for you your naps and the best thing you can do for your enough's is to put it in odia to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, may Allah make us from his sincere about? Let's take one question from this side.

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And the question from this side is right on the guy side.

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The guy side was a microphone, not from the guys right now.

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Want a question from the guy that?

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Oh, we have one like one microphone. I see.

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Okay, who was?

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Slowly? vertical feet? Currently you're half of the room. I have a question about tendons related to the whole idea of the scorpion on the back end. Nobody advising you but giving you the see her if you're in a situation where you you think that some somebody a brother of mine is doing something that is

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ill for them, it's not the right thing. But you're not sure that this is necessarily 100% Haram?

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How do you go about balancing the perhaps you can say delusion of Shetland that Oh, don't don't give the goodness you have versus the idea of I don't want to be someone that is saying something incorrect. Or, you know, I don't want to have some, I don't want to be the person that says something in that isn't actually true and pushes them further away from Islam or the dean because I was too hard in my messy heart. So it's tangentially related. I hope this question still fits within the scope of the discussion. But it's a it's a question that I think arose at least through my mind and perhaps through others as well. No, I think it does. And I believe in the answer to this,

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honestly, instead of trying to condemn the person for what they're doing and what they're not doing otherwise, simply inquire, the best way to do that is to inquire as I see, I've seen you doing such and such I heard that saying such and such. And honestly, I don't know, I'm not sure if this is okay, or not it? Can you help me understand why you're doing this for. So sometimes it's just inquiring, like being inquisitive, not because you want to judge them. So you want to learn from them. And honestly, people love to teach. If you go to somebody and tell them look, I see there was something I wonder if it's good. Can I Is there any base to this? So when you when you when they try

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to explain to you, that opens a door for you to do give them the answer. So you know, that's very interesting, but honestly, I heard from chef from Philander, XYZ I read in the books on So, such and such, hopefully, that kind of, you know, putting them on an equal level with you instead of you coming from above down, makes them open to accept from you and the argument and if not, then at least

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You know what, I need to go back and ask somebody in shallow data and buy a video the answer back. The idea is don't don't try to get from above where they feel that you are becoming more like an authority over them. Otherwise they will reject you. They will rebel. So that's why I tried to be equal with them inshallah. Allah that's my advice. I think we should probably wrap up and shalom. We want to think Mufti Abdul Wahab. Mashallah, yesterday we had chef up the Nasser Jenga come from Kalam, today we have moved up to a hub from Charlottesville we continue that spirit of unity and that is one of the things that we seek to delight Allah. And we pray that Allah Subhana Allah accept

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their efforts and allies that unite all of our efforts for his sake. May Allah forgive us for the times that we hold back out of arrogance, out of ignorance, out of hesitation, out of doubt, out of clear air, may Allah subhanaw taala protect us from all of those things. May Allah connect us to him. May Allah subhanaw taala make us amongst those who say Samaritan, Allah Allah Allah, not those who say some Aetna while saying, May Allah make us amongst those who hear and obey and follow the best of guidance. May Allah not let us be amongst the diluted or the doubtful but may Allah subhanaw taala make us amongst those with conviction and certainty that are always longing for him alone. I

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mean, because I can lol fatal sin I want to call up and talk