The categories of patience according to its condition
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CHAPTER 5 – LATE NIGHT HEART SOFTENERS
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have children with their parents. Sometimes we hear horror stories that say like, how is that even possible? Like, are these people humans? You wonder if they were really humans or the devils. Just in disguise Allah and Mustang. That's what it means over animals are incapable of doing that.
It's the jinn that can do this because they become demons are sheltering as Allah described in the Quran. And if humans they transgressed to that level, they can truly become satanic but we hope inshallah that will never cross these lines around to one thing we mentioned earlier in regards to how can people
control themselves from going that far we go back again to the same principle and I have to emphasize this is extremely important to understand for us to exercise patience, we need we need the strength of Iman and the strength of a man depends on what do you guys remember
the strength of your Eman depends on what
does it depend on knowledge?
The strength of your iman depends on what
the practice of your knowledge to endure the harshness of learning and the harshness of practice and like what, you know, this is haram. I have the knowledge, you know, this is haram. And now you've been tested with that that you know it is haram. Your patience is what right now,
to use that knowledge to stand in your Eman. Know why this is wrong to do and stay away from it.
That's how you raise your iman. But if you know this is wrong.
And you know that your knowledge telling you it's wrong.
But your Eman is not strong enough to kind of like endure the hardship of staying away from it. That means you're not going to be patient, you're going to cross the line to fall into the mistake and there's no beer. So it's there is no doubt, having the knowledge is important. The more knowledge you have, the better chance you have to strengthen your Eman if you practice it properly.
Milan, actually Subhanallah chef Yasser just mentioned, is so profound, and it's a reflection I had on a statement that we find here and the next part of this chapter.
If you ask what distinguishes us from the animals, their element mentioned the word or cool.
Your brains, your intellect, your faculty of reason, they don't say Kulu. They don't say your hearts, they say your brain, your intellect. And yesterday, we talked about this idea that it is your knowledge, it's not your knowledge that's going to save you it's your iman, but your knowledge will generate your email, your knowledge will generate your email, and that's what they're gonna emphasize here. So to give you a very practical example,
you know, your favorite food at a restaurant, you know, 10 years ago, you never used to have calorie counts on the menus.
Now those items because they got calorie counts on them, it's like, God, you know, I wish I didn't know that this little thing is 2200 calories like I was enjoying this. I was enjoying it before I knew the calorie counts on it. So there are two things that have to happen here. Number one, you have to care about being healthy. Number two, you have to know about the harm of that item. Right? Imagine if sins carried them the count on them.
Like imagine, right? So hey, you really want to engage this right now, by looking at this, you're about to incur this many sins on your marathon on the Day of Judgment. First, you have to care about your marathon on the day of judgment and know that it exists and be certain that that accountability is going to happen. Secondly, you have to know the degree of that sin, which is why Allah talks about sin with disgust in the Quran are you hipbone had to come and yet could Allama Aki Mehta, you're going to eat the dead flesh of your brother. Forget about the the number of counts. Allah wants you to be disgusted by the sense to where you hear about them and you say this is gross? Would
one of you like to burn themselves? Would one of you like to have this happen to their eyes Would one of you like to have this happen to their ears? So this actually phases into the next portion of this chapter, which is the difference between us and the Monica, the difference between us and the angels. So when it comes to the animals, they go from being you know, pursuing of their desires, but not having the methods by which they can pursue to being predators. And then you have the jinn, which are like us and that they are called to spiritually restrained themselves, but they have the capacity of being satanic. And in fact, they were a failed experiment amongst themselves, not Allah
failed them. They failed themselves, because the corrupt Jin who did they prey upon, by the way, the righteous Jim because they have Jinn that are solid as well. So the corrupt Jinn were tyrannical towards the rights of origin and they they filled this earth with corruption. And so Allah subhanaw taala took away the feed off of from them. And then now you have the human beings turn. And you have the angels that are watching this. And he talks about, well, what's the difference between us and the ain't
joules And subhanAllah I want you to actually marvel at this for a moment in sha Allah Tada as we're in the last 10 nights of Ramadan, every single area, every single Hadith where the prophet slice and have mentioned to us, Allah calling the angels to witness human beings is witnessing them in the capacity of their cell phone is witnessing determine the capacity of their patients in that at a chateau Milan Bella either when it comes to their desires, or when it comes to trial, and tribulation. So when it comes to their desires, when you wake up and pray, the prophets license that Allah laughs at this person and he calls the gym, look at this person leaving the comfort of their
bed, giving up their sleep, leaving a you know a companion, leaving the coolness the warmth of the bed the warmth of that of that companion, whatever it may be, and then going and making will do in you know in these harsh circumstances by the way, you know that those taps hot water and cold water taps don't exist everywhere in the world even today. Right Subhanallah like look at this person getting up and basically torturing themselves right to do will go in the middle of the night, right? Despite the temperature of the water leaving the coolness and comfort of their bed Yamuna eco angels look at this person. Look at this person. Look at this person. Oh my god, oh angels who chose a
gathering of hate instead of a gathering of wasting themselves away. Look at this person Oh angels who came out to the day of alpha covered in dust and disheveled look at this person. Oh Malika, who just lost a child. And still the same. Enter rely on La Rajon will hamdulillah look at this person are angels. And the angels love this person and they showered praise on this person. Because this is where the human beings shine. When you choose suburb when you choose patience, Allah says Yama, la Iike look, look at them and the angels love you and they honor you because they don't have envy towards you. The way that the the way that the jinn and the shayateen are or some other human beings
might. So I'll just mention one statement here. Paula Qatada Rahim Allah to Allah halacha Allah Subhana Allah mana aka regulon Billa Shaha wahala calda him chahatein Bedard. Recode wahala Carl insaan or general Allahu Aklan. Mashallah. Thurman Volibear occlusion whoever who for whom Iron Man or woman Hala butcher, what to who applauded for her Kalba he says Putana Rahim. Allah says Allah created
angels with reason with the faculty of reason, but they don't have desires. The angels have never eaten and drink. Can you think about that for a moment? The angels have never even tasted food Gibreel Alayhis Salam has never digested a morsel of food the angels live to please Allah and they are created completely independent of food and drink that actually in and of itself is something to take a step back and go wow. creatures that have existed for 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of years, and they never had to have a sip of water. And that's why when they went to visit Ibrahim it his set up and Ibrahima Islam pushed the food towards them. They just kind of stared at him.
They look like and that's where Ibrahim is now oh Josephine fcbd. But like what's wrong with you guys? Why are you not eating the food? What's the strangers just came to my house and they're not eating Gibreel mica II, they've never put food in their mouth. They've never done anything to satisfy a desire. They have the faculty of reason. Without shallot I want to make a comment on the story I should share. So holla some people want to read the story they have a different way of looking at it. One of the most interesting that I got a question from someone who said chef Are you saying that all this food went to waste
and I'm like ah Hold on I'll go with
Ya Allah subhanho wa Taala has a really good example of of remedies you know we had these three angels come in the form of human beings to teach the teachers about a great lesson in regard to dealing with comb loot and and this brother Marcia was concerned about the food that they brought him or Assam cooked Yeah, and this is all going to as I said, Well, I wasn't there to witness
just say how people Subhanallah things differently their focus are different. It's like the man who asked Imam a shabby Rahim Allah. What shape on his wife's name? He said I wasn't invited to the wedding. I don't know. I have no clue. But at the end of the day here Hala Allah Who Subhana Allah Munna your Quran?
Bellagio, Howard honestly marveled at that for a moment. These angels only see the glory of Allah, they love the worship of Allah. This right here is their metaphorical sense their desire, they see gatherings of height, this is what gives them happiness. They have zero Shaohua Allah created them with no desire what an incredible creation of Allah subhana wa Tada. Then Allah says, well Fela, then he says, well, Harlequin Bahasa Allah
created the animals with Xiao Hua betta a cool, unlimited desires but they don't have the faculty of reason here they're not thinking about, you know, again consequences or Athleta, or the hereafter anything of that sort or the obedience of Allah or the disobedience of Allah, Allah created them as an example for you. And you look at that, right? Well, hello people in San Juan Jadeja who UCLA Warszawa, then he created you.
And Allah gave you some of this and he gave you some of that. Allah gave you the faculty of reason, he gave you an option to think before you do. And he gave you the desire to choose whether to do regardless. So it gave you the utter the faculty here to think before you do and then the desire to choose to do regardless of that. And he said, from Nevada, UCLA, who Shehata when you choose this, over that desire, then you are with the angels.
And when you choose desire over this, you become an animal. And in fact, you can actually go lower than the animal and become like a devil, you can actually rise above an angel, because a person who chooses Allah subhanaw taala, over their desires is even better than the melodica. As we spoke about last year, I went to Josie Rahim, Allah Tada was much if I would like to give a metaphor for people to understand the meaning of this. So when we say that if you if you put your reason above your desire and your instant, what does that mean, you ascend above you become in the level of the angels. But if you put your desires ahead of your reason, that means you, you go down, you descend,
you go all the way down below even the level of the animals. So what does that exactly mean? Why is it so why is it easier to go down than going up? I think we all laws of physics, it goes with gravity. It goes with gravity, because we've been equipped with that nature to desire, right? As part of our instinct in order for us to procreate, to survive, to feel, you know, good to validate ourselves, all these things, we need them all these desires, whether it's an intellectual desire, or to be for example, validated or an emotional thing, or even physical thing, we all have those things we would like to fulfill them. And they gravitate, they gravitate. So naturally, if you look, go, if
you look on you follow your desires are going to pull you down. You go with gravity, and there is absolutely no effort on you to do that. You know, like, may Allah protect us all from from from the feet. And but if someone sitting you know, on their own, suddenly they see something while somebody's walking in front of them, and they're not dressed appropriately, right? Do they have? Do they feel anyone is pulling their head to look at that individual, for example, that person? No. But it's natural gravitation to look at these things, maybe at this out of curiosity. So if you do that, you go with gravity. So you descend, you go down to the level of the animals. But if you use the
code that we talked about, yes, I do have that desire. I do have that instinct. However, as human beings, it was codified with a code of ethic that is coming from Allah subhanho wa taala. Like telling me, Look, I know you desire this, but I'm telling you don't look at it.
The animals don't have that. But humans do. Because Allah subhana wa Taala wants us to exercise this patience in that moment. What makes a person look away, look down and not pursue that, look, that Eman that they have that is based on that knowledge that will help them be patient in that moment. Why because now I'm taking I'm thinking about the delayed gratification versus the instant gratification animals. They go with instant gratification. Humans, they've been told look, delay your gratification. You have a code of ethics that have given you to pursue that so you're gonna have to ascend above, obviously, when you started going up, it requires a lot of energy and a lot of
effort. So to simplify that the Prophet saw Sam says Hofer to Jana to Bill Makara will refer to Naropa showered Johanna was surrounded with what with all the desires,
and Jana was run with all the hardships basically to go to agenda you have to cross all the way through all these hardships to get there. It's not gonna be easy. So a lot of effort. And if you want to see the example of the life of the prophet Sallallahu wasallam Allah subhanho wa Taala told us to the prophets, Allah Salam fareeda ferrata fansub this is for us to be patient in volunteer Lee patients that goes way beyond. He said to him called Farida for after fansub Well, a lot of bigger follow up, which means when you're done giving Dawa when you don't give him Dawa, I mean how much that was a professor Sam, you know how much effort he put in his Dawa in Makkah, everything on his
energy SallAllahu wasallam. So after a long day, we'll give him Dawa. What do you expect the instruction that would come to him? Gets
unrest. All right, take a break for the next day. Instead Allah subhanaw taala the Prophet Salah Salem for EDA, for after fansub when you're done giving Dawa, go ahead, stand up until you feel fatigued.
What does that mean? That was the hour for the people right now work on yourself,
which means for all of us to exercise that volunteer to patients right now. It's not natural to you. It is not natural to because natural, what's natural to you, you go with your desires. What is that natural is to go again voluntarily against the desire for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala I cannot emphasize this point. Enough in regards to in order for you to be patient. You have to strengthen your iman in order for you to stand your Eman. You have to practice what you know. In order for you to be able to practice that you have to expand on your knowledge. Because Allah says in my actual law, how many bachelor Allah ma those who truly those who truly fear Allah subhana wa
domanda servants are those who have the knowledge many of us today they avoid knowledge why? Because I don't want to have any judgments me like hey, ignorance is bliss.
Well good luck with that as a as an excuse before Allah subhana wa Donna. So you need to expand your knowledge. What does that exactly mean? This life is not for you to get rest this life for you is to toil and work so hard. seeking knowledge is important. We come here every night in sha Allah Allah in the month of Ramadan. I hope that what you learn, you guys going to expand your knowledge so you can start practicing more. So you can start to your Eman so you can strengthen your emotional shield so that your patients become inshallah to Allah, your way to avoid all these difficulties you go through check. Now I want to give for the notetakers at least something that profound also profound
principle that we have here from Chicago and Padre Jelani Rahim Allah quoted in no claim Rahim Allah mentions this from Abdulkadir in the Seventh Chapter, and photo Lape.
He says that
any member of the public Jelani says that a servant has three things.
Because remember, there's acceptance, and there's endurance, acceptance and endurance. Tomorrow we'll talk about techniques of endurance. All right, tonight, remember these three things, Saba requires acceptance of three things, a command that you're obligated to carry out. So Allah gave you a command, you have to know that command and you accept it.
No waffling around with you know, well this and this and that. And some scholars say this and some scholars say that when the only scholar that says otherwise is someone that has no name on Google that you found somewhere on YouTube, whatever it is, or some Tik Tok, you know that she came across that somehow uproots you know, an Illuminati and Laura what is known in the religion by necessity, the amount of the OMA the consensus of the scholars, none of them know no acceptance, Quran sunnah, consensus of the Scholars, this is how Islam has been understood for 1400 years. This is acceptance, Allah has commanded me to do this, I'm not going to go rethink something because I'm unable to do
it. All right. This is extremely important for this generation, because this is how it is lost how knowledge is lost, because no one says anything anymore about the standard. So the standards themselves get compromised, because everyone's afraid. So ever that is in regards to our worship in regards to our eating and drinking in regards to our dress in regards to our relationships in regards to our social interactions. There is a standard here that's been upheld. It has to be accepted here by the author. I'm not going to try to undermine this and if I'm falling short of it, it's a weakness on my own. So he says Rahim, Allah Tala shahada, the first one is a command that you
are obliged to carry out. The second one, he says, a prohibition that you are to avoid. So first, you have the fallout, the command that you are commanded to carry out, and then you have the Haram The prohibition that you are commanded to abstain from. So don't try to make the Hello, hello. Then he says number three and this is perhaps the hardest, a divine decree that you have to accept. Accepting the color of Allah subhanaw taala. Accepting the power of Allah means that I'm not going to question Allah, or say anything that is displeasing to Allah in the midst of my hardship. So this is the level of acceptance. Now what you want to do is build from acceptance to endurance and each
of those three things. So three things that there's acceptance, the command, the prohibition, the decree, I accept these three things from Allah subhanaw taala. I have patience and acceptance. How do I build endurance? You want to go with the commands? We'll stop it later. You want to practice patience by working on those commands of Allah subhanaw taala until they know
Longer yield difficulty but they yield joy for you. No longer is Salah, a burden, Salah is a joy for you no longer is fasting a burden. Fasting is a joy for you no longer is giving charity. It's a joy for you to give charity, right you want to build to a place of joy that's endurance. When it comes to the Haram, you want to get to a point where you have water you have what's known as extra caution that the scholars say when you have a normal Sunday with someone or be an environment not fair, who says talking on his phone Hello, that we left off half of head out of things out of fear of them being haram, that you have a natural aversion as the prophesy subset your self your soul starts to
feel uncomfortable with the haram to where something is even gray area and you naturally get away from it and you have rebelled you have pleasure and abstaining from it. Like I'm not gonna I'm not worried about these things that I'm holding myself back from because I know that Allah has something greater for me in the hereafter. Right? So you build from acceptance to endurance and then when it comes to the puppet of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada where you're actually able to verbalize and hamdulillah in that Allah He wanna Hey, Roger hamdulillah
Ralina belie Robert within Islam Medina will be Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam nbia were pleased I'm pleased do Allah I'm pleased with this now. I'm pleased with Mohamed Salah. So the first level acceptance and then inshallah Tada what we'll speak about over the next few nights and No, tomorrow night is techniques. We'll talk about how to build that endurance in each of these three buckets and show him over time, Rahim Allah then he concludes with a with a the last thing he talks about is how when it comes to building your patience, it also grows with you mean it's a process. That's what he's trying to say. So look, you don't you're not born with it. You're not born with
that level of endurance? No, you grow it as you grow old and new life as well, too. So he says over here, well, I'm actually fell inside of today I'm going to be in Arkansas, when the insulin was first created, which means when you're born, basically, you're born. You're born kind of like still not because we don't have all the faculties there. Lemieux fluffy Illa. Shehata la vida, a lady who matters really, because we were born with without the the faculties of the mind and the physical ability to do things and so on. The only thing, the only thing that was given to you to be patient with is what? Being hungry. So that's when the baby basically when they're hungry, what do they do?
They cry. When they don't get food, what do they describe themselves, they fall asleep. That's the level of patience. Some adults act like this as well, too, sometimes unfortunate. Because this is the first thing called photography hadn't had the necessary disability behind the human at that level, his patience is basically is involuntarily just like the animals. because not a lot of choice. I'm just gonna cry myself to sleep, called Wallace, Idaho cover letter music over to several FDR before reach that level of recognition, when they become old enough to recognize the difference. You guys don't have that ability to make these choices for either Vahana Fisher how to live, when
that child grows to the age where now they start desiring to play.
Like when they become two years old, for example, the terrible two of their lives, of course, obviously other parents lives, obviously. Because now they have the desire to play, they start Delhi who were the sovereign FDRs now they've been prepared to exercise that voluntarily patients, such as when the parents told them, hey, don't do this. If you do this, I'll give you that if you don't, I'll give you this. So now they exercise it, you as a parent, teach them to exercise that voluntary patience. But if you don't exercise that with them, because you're too over protective or maybe just you know, being too easy with them, they will never learn to be patient with these things. And as a
matter of fact, a lot of parents who those who are martial or helicopter parents don't want their children to grow or deal with negative emotions. So their kids never really exercise patients against these things because their parents take care of everything for them. So when they become adult, they don't have the skill. And that's why unfortunately fall easy for these for these mistakes and errors. Pile fairy that I love has been a shower to Nikka authority over the summer, when they become old enough to desire intimacy. That's when now their level of patience has been intensified.
You need patient unit hardware patients right now. It's not just a matter of you know, the kids are coming to you out of the game. So you see you have to be patient with these friends and not it's a bigger thing right now. There is an instinctive desire that is extremely extremely strong and intense desire, so requires intense level of patience. So what he's saying is look, you as a human being you grow with this level of patience and endurance you grow it with you, which again, the segment for the parents and the individuals if you don't allow your kids to be patient and exercise patience with them because you want to be generous to your kids give them Moreover, they asked for
they never learn to endure patience when it comes to real tests. So he says over here called worry that the hardware Castletown will occur when they reach now that level of
cognition, they reach the age of maturity right now. So the previous one was about puberty. But now about rush rationality here, it says clarify that the hard worker soltana Luckily, we're going we're covering the Stan application server. Now he says when become mature, and they raise the now they develop the faculty of reason and mind, they need an army, an army of patients visit soldiers of patients, which means what your tests are going to be even more because Allah Subhana Allah Now that he has given you the faculty of the mind the reason by what you just right and wrong, you can acquire knowledge by what you raise your Eman to in your patience against these things. Your tests
are going to be so many so you need what you need an army soldiers that will help you to be patient right now. Why? Because your tests are going to become right now more frequent. And eventually you're gonna have to always keep yourself clear. So you can make the right decision right choices in sha Allah Allah so the point here is making Rahim Allah is that you grow with it. You're not born with patience, you grow it. And the last point that he mentioned after that he goes, When you get to this point, what do you need in order to have
those those soldiers of that will help you reach that level of patience, because that's when Sultana Naboo comes in, which means the knowledge of the way the knowledge that comes from the prophet the knowledge that comes from the Quran, and the Sunnah of the Prophet Salah Salem, when you have conviction, and you believe in the akhira and you believe in the Haram and halal, you believe in the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala when you believe that Jana is hot and true, and so on, what are you going to do? You will delay your gratification
and you will endure patience. Why? Because I want to ascend to be on the level of the angels, not the sentiment the level of the animals. Wallah. Yeah, I think inshallah So tomorrow is going to be a very important one because we'll get into some of those techniques of dealing with with get instant gratification and things of that sort and there's some profound insights. Inshallah so let's say first question has been the Lazarus Alright, now they are put the QR code for you on the screen. And I'm gonna take few of the questions that we had earlier inshallah who Tana
for the sister we'd like to make sure that your your Padlet is actually different color. And if we have any of our audience who are watching with us from
out of state, or even internationally, make sure to write for us where exactly you're watching from. So at least we can take some of the questions that comes online and shallow Donna
show if there's a request here. So before the stream started, we were asked about the question of counseling. So I think it's important to mention once again, now that seeking counseling is not from the dispraise where the show Chautauqua of complaining because you go to counseling to learn mechanisms by which you can, inshallah try to have, you know, patients going forward not to merely complain or things of that sort. So you're actually taking a step forward and shot Lazzara to learn healthy tools, healthy mechanisms. And so this is not the opposites or an opposition of southern patients in any way. In fact, inshallah Thai can even be rewardable. So no one should should look at
us as belittling that that, that tool. So we have a few questions coming up right now Marcela, from different places, or to one of the sisters she's asking
how to shadow canal Mala. Okay, fisherman Oksana sub will angels are the angels share with us any of the categories of patients? Can you go over this part? I think it went quite well. hemella. He mentioned that when it comes to the angels.
The patience is different than ours because they don't have really the consequences like us in terms of making a choice. So they're only being created and designed by nature to be patient in regards to fulfilling Allah subhanaw taala is command so the patient is actually is not. It's considered involuntarily. This is how they were designed because Allah says lie also Allah Omraam Well, I don't know.
They've been designed like this, they would never disobey Allah subhana wa Tada in whichever command that he would command them. And they will also put Allah subhanaw taala as commandments. So that's why we say it's in that in that way that the involuntary is different. Certainly the questions even there for Anttila for how to Shadowclan and Monica vishay Amina sama Saba preliminary colonial telawi how you heard about recording him where Marathi for him, Bella Ibadah wa la home can never see Lana. I love this. He says he's asked him to pay him or him Allah has asked so do we share anything with the angels in regards to sub he says they don't have to fight against themselves the
way that we have to fight against ourselves. They don't have to fight their desires or you bother to them is like how we breathe. Lucha they like breathe very bad though. Right? So to them. They're the oxygen of the angels is worship. Right? This is exactly how they live their lives and this is how they live their existence.
And subhanAllah how amazing is a lot as Aziz al Hamid like you think about people I mean, this is just a reflection but you think
about people and someone thinks like, their disobedience will decrease from the kingdom of Allah in some way. And the prophets lie some said there's not a span of four fingers in this entire galaxy and all of the heavens, except that there's an angel that is standing there or bowing or making sujood praising Allah subhanho To Allah There are angels that were created from start to finish in such the in prostration only praising Allah subhanaw taala so you think you know you're gonna you're going to take away anything from this deen or take away anything from the kingdom of Allah when you disobey Allah subhanaw taala that's again a person to a point of delusion with with their pride now
a question comes from one of the brothers says
in terms of the reward if I wasn't patient at time of hardship, am I still gonna get the reward for the of that hardship that I got to go through basically is patience considered an extra reward? So the relevant mentioned, the Hadith where the prophet sighs I mentioned a suburb and the submittal hola that patience is at the first strike is like the Hadith where the prophets lie some says Allah, you know, I had to come Hatta until the end of it. No one of you believes until this and this and that. What it means is that you have not perfected you have not reached the peak of faith until you love for your brother, what you love for yourself, not that you're not a Muslim. Likewise, true
patience is at the first strike. However, what that means is, even if you missed the window of a sophomore Talulah of the first strike, there's still patients that comes after that, that's rewardable patients, but the greatest reward, the truest patients has realized that the first strike, that's where you have a moment where you have an opportunity, but long term patience is indeed rewardable. And long term patience is measured by progress, not by words, but by progress. So yes, there is such thing as long term patience and coming closer to Allah subhanaw taala. Some people Subhanallah it's easier for them actually. And the submitter Buddha, because of the way that
they're created or the nature of the trial. And the beginning, they say it Hamdulillah. But then as time goes on, they grow resentment, they grow anger, they grow sadness, and grief, and then you find them depart from that patience. So patience is throughout that entire process. Another question coming from from Minnesota, a sister she's asking, Will parents be held accountable for not training their kids in patience?
On as mine?
Will parents be kids are all patient Michelle Missoula? Will parents be held accountable for not training their kids in patience? Now, spoiler alert, for Rahim and people basically, they don't know they don't have the skill, even to train their kids, they don't even have the skill themselves to be patient with their kids to start with. The thing is that your kids really going to learn from you.
The kids, your kids are going to be learning from you. If they see you patient, they'll hamdulillah they will learn that through observation. It doesn't matter what you tell them really, if you practice it, they will learn that from you. But no matter how much you train them to be patient, but if they don't see your patient, you always, you know, always annoyed, you're always gonna look agitated, you're always complaining, you're always you know, yelling at them, no matter how much you tell them about being patient, they're not gonna listen to you. So therefore, definitely, you need to exercise that with them and fellow Darla, so if parents failed to do that with their kids, or
they're going to be held accountable for that? Well, I hope not. Because maybe when they're kids, they're one thing but as the kids become adults, and now it's your responsibility.
Yes, when your kid I will blame your parents. But once you become an adult, don't blame your parents anymore. It's your responsible right now to start learning about exercising patience. Inshallah, Donna,
But what does it mean, when you can have patience with some situations and not with others? What does it mean?
This is why you don't mock anyone, or you don't look down on someone. Some people excel at a bar that acts of worship, because they come easy to them, but they struggle with others. And you might excel in in particular about when someone struggles with that particular act of worship, and you might look down on that person. Likewise, some people endure naturally for whatever reason, you know, said he hasn't just talked about a household that you grew up in, you just endure naturally, for whatever reason, a particular type of trial better than others. That doesn't mean that you've generated patients inside of you. That just means that you were able to bear that particular notion
of trial. Because you were you were kind of accustomed to it. It's like if you lived in cold weather, right? Question from Minnesota, if you live in Minnesota, your whole life, right? You can bear freezing temperatures a lot better than someone who lives in Texas, okay, because you're naturally accustomed to it. That doesn't mean you're necessarily a patient person. That means that Allah azza wa jal gave you circumstances that made that particular trait easier for you to bear. So as a Muslim, you want to complete yourself. You want to try to be balanced, you want to try to fill in your gaps. You look at what others have that you don't have. And you try to have that instead.
You look at your failures. What
or others are not failing. And you ask yourself, How can I stop failing in this particular regard? And when you see others failing in a way that you're not necessarily failing, you ask Allah for protection from that and you ask Allah subhanaw taala to help that person through it.
A question coming all the way from Canada. Mashallah. So,
let it go.
Okay, what's the best way to observe patients when dealing? When dealing with it physically? Like being tested with health? How do we exercise patients a situation like that?
First of all, Canadians are very patient people, Michelle, on Do we have any Canadians here? Any of y'all here?
So you apologize for everything and you know, you're constantly patient, mashallah, in your nature.
But on a serious note, when it comes to health,
you know, it's really interesting, because the different types of conditions that we're familiar with right now, and I'm sure the medical professionals here can appreciate this, you know, back then you read about fever, sickness, death, right? Like, they don't really talk much like they didn't really have different names for different types of diseases. This person at the age of 42 years old, suddenly got sick, they had an intense fever, they passed away, right? Allah knows what that would have been diagnosed as whether what what it was coming from, where the infection was, and so on, so forth. So you'll find all these Hadith, it's actually a rich, you know, portion of a hadith where
the prophets it says, Don't curse at him, I like don't curse fever, because fever, it takes away your sins, and it raises you and your degrees. So you'll find all these Hadith about the fever because the fever is like the most obvious manifestation in those times that a person has some sort of underlying illness. The idea that a fever or the prophets lie, some says him an anxiety that you're facing, not a single thing comes to you have a fever or earnings xiety Or even the prick of a thorn. And you are patient with that, except that ALLAH subhanaw taala erases a sin by it, and elevate to a degree by it. So when a person takes with that they have a constant source of edit with
them, even as they're trying to seek a cure, and they're asking the law sponsor for a cure than bitten an ATAR that makes it more bearable to know of the reward that exists for it.
So many questions about marriage and patients.
Is it okay to be patient when trying to find the wife?
Question from the sisters also the say, how do we exercise patience in the pursuit of marriage when the opportunity is not coming away, for example, all these kinds of things. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give those who are looking ALLAH SubhanA give them the the righteous powers, they're looking for herbal elements and make it easy for them to find them in this dunya and acarya Allah. Now in regard to this matter, look,
obviously the prophets of Allah Selim he recommends for us never ever to rush into Maris Allah says, hola called inside of an agent in San was hasty, what's great hasty, we always want to rush into things. Now the interesting thing today in our time, is as much as we desire to get married so quickly. Unfortunately, the people when it comes to making a decision, they just kind of let they freeze.
And as a result, they rather forgo an opportunity because now they're not sure about making the decision or the choice. So they want to have the certainty of just not even making the decision and hoping for a better opportunity to come easier for them, then really enjoy the patience of dealing with the situation they're in right now. And investigate and ask and so when we say being patient over here, you need to you need to pursue the path that will help you seek marriage and get married.
Not looking not trying, not asking not pushed out But put yourself out there appropriately, properly. Of course, you know, for for marriage, that does not defy being being patient. No being patient is put, do all the effort first. And then wait what ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala will judge for you. When a man came to the masjid the ProSolo Salah Salem and he had his camel and he asked Rasul Yara salah, do I tie my camel down? Or do I trust Allah subhanaw taala because our token, first of all to Canada, and then trust Allah subhanho wa Taala with it. The same thing over here. You need to do everything in your power to get married and shallow to Baraka. What I mean by that, of course,
reach the means that will help you get madder than shallow data. And then after doing everything, then you trust Allah subhana wa Tada with the judgment and be patient with the outcome. The idea is this. We talk about the subject of marriage. Our young man women today, unfortunately, so afflicted with that because we have too many options, too many choices. And because we have access to so many options, nothing is satisfying to us. And we keep waiting for the one to cap it on to come and happen. Yes, it's a very serious decision to make
but I hope we shall not allow our young men and women today they are brave enough to make the decision make the choice and inshallah to make the best out of the Nila Zildjian I don't officially have any comment or
I won't touch the subject
good and shallow Darla. Last question inshallah.
Again, how do you maintain patience in marriage?
Something about wife and husband, Gemma alpha, find something else.
Okay, so last one, you're shallow? How can someone who has endured a lot of hardship and remained silent, but they're burned out and starting to lose their patients? What do they do?
Well, look, I think all of us
can maybe relate to that where you kind of like your what you know fails you in terms of how to act upon it. I think that this is where you kind of look back at your capacity and ask Allah subhanaw taala to increase your capacity and to relieve you at the same time. When you look at that you're at the end of sorts of Bukhara.
It's really interesting because a lot of times check we look at the F car that we're supposed to recite, and we just kind of read them like robotically like okay, the prophets lie. Some said whoever reads these two ayaats at the end of the night, kapha tots enough for them. Like pay attention to the words. What I've been allowed to ask is not in Siena, or Atlanta, or better whether attackmen Dana Islam Kemah Hamilton, who are Latina men, Commelina Robina went to her Mina mal Takata, that Abby, oh, Allah don't give us what we can't bear. And when we fall short of that walk for Anna of Atlanta, or Hannah, forgive us, partners, forgive us have mercy on us. And Timo Lana
from so not uncommon caffeine, like this do is so powerful, because it's an acknowledgement that at times, you're going to feel like you're out of steam.
And you have to seek refuge in those familiar places of remembrance of Zakat, and kind of look at them a little bit deeper, because the solution is there. But you gotta go back to that. I think that when a person feels like they've endured it for so long, obviously, sometimes there's an unhealthy buildup where recourse is being delayed, right, where a person is just not taking a step towards recourse, a necessary step towards recourse. And then sometimes there are things that are completely out of your hands. And you have to say to yourself, ALLAH SubhanA, which is preparing for me a great reward, should I practice a greater sense of resilience? Oh, Allah helped me have that resilience.
So going back, and this is the power shift of La manager or whatever. Like that there is no shelter and no refuge from you, oh, Allah, except back to us. I may Allah grant us that shelter, may Allah subhana make it easy for all of them, yada, yada. I mean, if I may add to the shift.
I think one of the reasons why people they really feel burned out so much, because they focus so much on the results on the outcome. Like we are fixated on a specific outcome from the effort that I'm putting there. And if I don't get it, there, it's not working. Or we start losing steam or losing patience. We don't realize that
you're not responsible for the outcome. Because you're probably going to be doing everything perfect by the book, you're still not going to get what you wish for, because Allah will test you.
And Allah subhana, Allah promised and he said that he will test you with everything. We shall hope you will do one XML, Amara will unfold terminado vicia Sabreen. He said, I will shall try and test you with everything. diminishing of health and wealth and food and sometimes security and safety. All of that will diminish. So we should have slavery give blood Terry for those who are patient. So many of us, unfortunately, we focus so much on the results. That's what makes us realize, you know, I've been patient for too long. Look, patience is a lifestyle. What does that exactly mean? means my job is not to focus on the result as much as on putting the effort there. I need to put my effort
there. So as long as I'm putting my effort there hamdulillah whatever result comes out of it. I trust Allah's judgment. However, that doesn't mean I cannot recalibrate and look back and see what went wrong and why didn't get what I was hoping to get. And so of course, you're gonna have to go all the consultation that Jeff was talking about earlier. Hey, I need I need to start looking into my effort. Am I doing the right thing? Am I missing something? Am I so you need to put the effort in sha Allah Allah but focus more on doing the right thing. That's all if I've done everything right, if I've done everything right, who cares about the outcome? Oba Casa de was the example and this
Rhodiola Ronaldo look at the time when the her Davia when the prophets Allah Salam, he promised the Sahaba to go for ombre after they were
won the battle 100. The following year, they went with Iran and they went to the number four in Makkah, the McCanns banned him from coming in. After so many negotiations, they eventually they came up with that deal that you go back home you come next year, United armor right now. And anyone who becomes Muslim
when you guys have to return them back to us, but if anyone comes back to us, we're not gonna send them back to you. So many, too many people that was injustice. Like when we thought we saw that there was not a fair deal. So what he did, he kept going to the professor Samuel Rasulillah. Why do we have to accept this? Why? We were almost there. We could see Maccha we could see the cover even what can we got to make the camera? And the professor says, Yeah, Omar, let go for us.
Leave it. And Omar was just like not being patient in that moment. And it goes to the back row. So do ya Abubaker once you talk to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that's not fair. That's not so he was being impatient in that moment. I will workers to do for the hola Juan. He This is the man who really just he does this these things with their son. He told them a simple message. He goes, Don't you believe is the messenger of God? He goes I do because it then fell them herdsa just follows follow His ways. Like listen to him. Omar Rhodiola Juan, he was eager of course you know to for the results. You promised we're gonna go to camera. So for him, the outcome of this trip should be what
do the camera
when the camera was not accomplished. For him. He said we failed the mission. So he became impatient a little bit in that he got over close the deal. He didn't care about doing Umrah or not. He cared about what we did our best. We came all the way to Makkah. Allah subhanaw taala has a different thing for us from the prophets of Allah Salah. So he said, Hamdulillah we go back home, we listen and obey. So what I'm saying to the brothers and sisters over here is that you need to focus more on doing your part, as long as you do it right. According to the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet salaallah Salam, and according to the skills and the guidelines, whatever
thing that you deal with, whether it's at work or family relations or anything like that, as long as I'm doing my best, I'll handle a lot of damage and I should be fine with whatever outcome. Can I try to change that outcome and recalibrate? Absolutely. We go back to consultation, do our best again. And if we don't get it one more time, we did our best. You can do everything right. And you're still going to be tested and the example for this is no Hala has Sarah whom Allah subhanaw taala gave him a long life. He which in which he spent 950 years in Dawa
950 years in Dawa. If anyone If anyone deserves to be spared again, the pain of dealing with hardships of that nature of Madonna with him. Still Allah Subhana Allah tested him with his non-believing wife and son.
Did he feel the mission? No. He did everything in his power, but he had no control over the outcome. Allahu Taala heard and felt we have to conclude here with the light of our Lakota Allah and see you tomorrow night in sha Allah is with a Jackman affair salamati Kumamoto light Allah Baraka