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Ramadan Special Lecture On 7-21-12 with Sisters Of Sunnah

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Omar Suleiman

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stand up.

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My dear sisters, may Allah subhanaw taala accept your Ramadan from you all of your fasting

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mean when I mean, a lot more somebody was sending more data cannot be killed so they can Mohammed in the long run he was send them on

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my cell with a, you know what a beautiful form and to be honest with you, I did not know anything about the group before I was invited to speak with him.

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Just a little bit of research. Today myself, I'm extremely impressed. And I have colosse contact to bless you all, and to elevate yourself up to make you choose students of knowledge to allow you to remain sincere, but in the light Tada. And hopefully, I you know, hopefully allow you to host many events, and many of these webinars in cell law.

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As we all know, this isn't really a trauma bond pep talk as much as it is now we are already in normal bonds. So basically, it's hard to make the most of them about now that we're already here. And the first thing is to really appreciate the blessing to say

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that we were allowed to witness some of that. Because truly, you know, there are people who passed away last week. And in fact, even with myself I was getting

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two days ago, I was getting all these text messages. And all these phone calls of people that were crying and I was wondering what was going on and then and then I realized that when you went to yahoo.com and Twitter, the top trend was almost that a man dies. So people actually thought that I passed away but it wasn't me it was actually the former vice president of Egypt. But, you know, when that happened, you know, so basically, I was getting these voicemails Alhamdulilah still life.

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You know, I just wanted to let you know, happier lives. I said, you know, thanks for coming today, you know

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11 wake up call, obviously for me, and it just it made me think you know,

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we cannot take for granted that Eliza that allowed us to live to see this month. Because witnessing this month in and of itself is such a huge blessing. We already become entitled to much of the mercy of Eliza just by being here. And this is the month as we all know that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that when normal dawn comes, the gates of Paradise are opened and the gates of Hellfire are locked, and the sales team are put away. So even if a person was to pass away and then abandon and this is far more blessings than passing away, and another part of the year because this is a time where Allah subhana wa tada His mercy is magnified. So a lot of it I mean, we

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you know, we're certainly grateful for the opportunity to be the guest of a loss of Hannah Montana and to be allowed to witness this month. But with great power comes great responsibility. And what we notice in Islam is that the greater the opportunity that Allah subhana wa tada gives us, the greater the sin is of a person who does not take advantage of that opportunity. So for example, in hajj and has a sin is multiply just as a good deed as multiplied as the mountain. Allah, He explained that this just as a loss of habitat, Allah has given you this opportunity, if you go to Hajj to witness hearts and to be a guest in his home, and to be forgiven for all of your toxins. If

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a person is still in those moments, don't allow themselves to argue,

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to not lower their gaze to fight to become foul to lie so on so forth, then the same is magnified because Allah has given you a great opportunity and you're not taking advantage of the opportunity. Likewise, we see in the hadith of gibreel salaam, where do you believe it is?

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to witness the prophets of Allah It was so I'm saying three times and they wondered why he said amin and the profit slice I'm informed them that debris rally histogram was making and what was he making graphs for? One of the things that you've been running is Sam said made a loss of Hannah horchata

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humiliate the person. Although he might unfold May he rubbed his face in dirt. And he also said hello Hartford and then ERISA they didn't have done which means that he has failed and last called means that he put his effort towards something and his efforts were were fruitless. And he lost. And one of those artists was a person who witnesses trauma bond and he's not forgiven for food on the bond, because it's that incredible of an opportunity. So how could a person miss that opportunity and not take full advantage of this of this great opportunity that we have to be forgiven for all of our sins, because the prophets lie some seven months sama Ramadan, he rocky seven

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in gauging his Eman all of the aspects of his Eman and St. Seven, seeking the Lord will be forgiven for all of his sins. So we have to think about that you know, a sin inside the masjid is greater than a sin outside the most is a sin during Hajj is greater than a sin outside of a sin during Ramadan is much greater than a sin outside of Ramadan. And there's a very powerful narration which is narrated by arrayed

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in Muslim Alabama. And it's also an activity that once the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was informed of two women who were who had pain in their stomach, and they were not, and they were fasting, so they hadn't eaten anything. And the Prophet slice on them commanded that two bowls be placed in front of them. And whenever the bowls were placed in front of them, they vomited. Now, they have nothing in their stomach to vomit because they weren't eating and they had abstained from food. So what did they vomit? It was it was something very, very, you know, scary. They actually vomited human meat. They actually vomited human needs and what is the profit slice on say about them? These are two

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people who abstain from what a lot of them have made a lot of meaning Allah has naturally made food and drink and nourishment allowed for human intimacy with the spouse has allowed for you. But they did not abstain from what is how long they did not abstain from what is haram and that is backbiting because a lot of that tells us and I will have to come

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up

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with one of you like or one of you be pleased with eating the dead meat of his rather where you would be disgusted you would hate that. Let's talk a lot so be conscious of a loss of Hannah lasagna and being feared him and being all of him in a loss of habitat is to love him or hate him. He is always willing to accept your conscience and he is ever you know, merciful, Most Merciful is the believers. So this shows you again, you know that crime of backbiting in Ramadan is much more severe than backbiting outside of Ramadan, because a person should be watching themselves more than anything right now because this is your opportunity. And so we have that, you know, this hadith and

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it reminds us of the hadith of Debian it is set up and the great blessing of Allah subhanaw taala upon us and what the prophets life that Allah subhana wa tada has no need of a person stop, from food and from drink. If a person does not give up on the zoo, ball speech, foul language line and backbiting. Allah has no need of your breaking, you know, you're restraining yourself from food and drink. And so what I wanted to really look at today is the essence of Psalm what we should what we need to make sure that we are doing right now more than anything else, because a lot hadn't was out of knows that we might not have another opportunity to witness my bond again, and I mentioned this

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in my alma bond prep lecture, but I'll mention it again a very powerful had the facilities the opportunity of them a bond and this is narrated by Roger and also an official so he has an authentic hadith, where the Prophet sallallahu wasallam he used to always ask the companions if any of them had a good dream last night.

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I made the law or the alarm on home and he is who he is. He's one of the 10 promised paradise. He's one of the veterans of business. He was so was so dedicated in the Battle of offered that the profits from the law he was selling them he said who ever wants to see a Shaheed walking a walking martyr than let him look out for her and and obey the law. It'll be alongside I know, and I will be alone will have this dream. And in this dream from herself, I was standing in front of the gates of paradise. And with me were two companions who passed away to Sahaba who had passed away. One of those Sahaba died as a martyr he died as a heat and he died a year before the other one, and the

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other one who passed away did not die. He died in normal death and he did not have as many good deeds or he was not as known for his righteousness as the first one was. So out of the alignment of the color of Paradise came and the first person he called upon

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was

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the man who passed away second, who did not die. So he called him to Jamaica first. And

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then the caller came back and he called the other men, the other Sahabi. To agenda so the other person answered its agenda to so I was left alone in front of the gates of paradise. And then whenever my turn came, I was told that go back, because it's not yet your time. Now, this is a great dream,

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because it reassures him that he certainly is from the people of paradise. So the next morning, he says that, while some of them asked, as was his tradition, who amongst you saw a good dream that he'd like to share with us today? So don't be alarmed who says so I shared my dream. And when I shared my dream before how they were shocked, the Sahaba were shocked. And what were they shocked that the Prophet five someone said to them, and he Radhika targetable what are you amazed by or what's shocking? You are companions. So they said O Messenger of Allah.

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The one who got called to Agenda first was not as good as the one who got called to Agenda second. And on top of that, the one who got called agenda second was a Shaheed. Okay, he was a minor. So how come he got called second and not first, and the prophets all along or your sermon listen to his answer.

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But the mecca has given that person live an entire year after the other one. And they said yes. And then he said for a long while you were at the rock yahama barn and he caught another from Oman, he had an extra MMR. The farmer cannot recover from that. And He fasted such and such, and he prayed such and such. And they said, Yes, on messenger of Allah. And so the Prophet from life and I'm set for another day.

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Will, then what is between them is greater than what is between the heavens and the earth in terms of their degrees in paradise. Pamela? So what is the proper placement telling us? Yeah, having another bond, and taking full advantage of that bomb, a bomb, that opportunity can allow a person to surpass even the saheed in Paradise, how Allah just for having another opportunity to go through a trauma bond again, and to do it, right. So when a loss of habitat it gives us this great opportunity, this trauma bond, it is an anon it's a trust from Allah subhana wa Tada. And the prophets, I send them he said, unauthentic hubbies, in Alinea, he never had that Allah Subhana.

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Allah has gift of mercy, a loss of data has gifts of mercy. And you know, sometimes you see not the heart. And that's how being translated as a birth of mercy, it's a humongous gift, this large gift of mercy.

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So presents yourselves to the gifts of a loss of data that

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might be that you might come across one of those gifts and our first call,

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and you will never be deprived again, of good, just because you presented yourself to that gift that a loss of power was Allah has made available to you as his servant. So, you know, and hamdulillah and hamdulillah and Hamdulillah, we have Oman. But the idea here is to make a commitment to change and to stick and abide by that commitment. And as Mr. Heyman law says, the only way that you know, whether or not your normal bond is accepted, is the same as he would know whether or not any good deed is accepted. And that is the ability to continue in that good deed. You know, think about that, that's very profound. If a person goes to rehab, and the person goes to drug rehab, and they're able

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to stay off of drugs for the entire month that they're in rehab, that will not be proof enough that they've actually passed the test, and they're actually sober, that instead of a person would need to be able to come out of rehab and to then interact with the environment again, around them, and to be around people again, and still be able to hold themselves. And that is the true test about whether or not that rehab was successful. And so the true, you know, test of our bond is that mean we'll be able to develop long lasting habits and start lots of change, just as heads How do you know if your head was accepted or not? If you really are able to continue in the good deeds that you were doing

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in hearts. Now obviously, it's only natural that you will not be able to continue

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in the same amount of good deeds that you have before, but no one is going to be able to maintain the same with the same amount of energy and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said, he man is he do not take decreases and increases that the difference between faith increasing and decreasing, and a person completely losing their faith is what the prophet sallallahu wasallam said there will come a time however, that a person will go to sleep

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believer,

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you will go to sleep a believer must be happier and you wake up a disbeliever then

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you wake up a believer malusi capital and you'll go to sleep a disbeliever meaning, you know, the inconsistency and faith that we have today, or that a person completely loses faith and then they get a little bit excited. So they come back and then they completely lose faith again, and then they come back. And that's not the way it's supposed to be. Because you don't want your Eman which is going to determine your entire you know, your abode for your eternity you don't want your email to be unpredictable. You don't want it to be, you know, to be bipolar, if you will, because a lot of it because that will find you in one of those states and there's no way and if it's a 5050 chance, then

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you're really walking on thin ice. So you want to make sure that your email is stable, but at the same time, you know, your email and because sometimes your email is higher, there's no doubt about it. And you know, we find Carmela will be a low tide animal handler once when tabula rasa declared the Aloha Angel, and he said I am a hypocrite, I'm a hypocrite and I will work it will be a lot of time who said Why are you hypocrite? Why are you saying that? May Allah protect you? He said, because when I'm with the prophets, I send them I don't feel any need for anything else. Right? It's all about it's all about Dean, I'm sorry, I feel no need for a junior. All I'm thinking about is

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Allah subhana wa Tada. So this, we're not even here. But then I go home and I see the family and I got to worry about money and those types of things. So the dunya gets to me. So I'm a hypocrite because I'm not the same in the presence of the prophets. lysozyme as I am, when I'm not in the presence of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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he started to say, I'm a hypocrite to them, then I'm a hypocrite. So I'm a rookie and hamdulillah. I go to the Prophet play for them. And they say, we are not happy. We are hypocrites. How about some opponents? Like somebody says, Why are you saying that? They see also law, when we're in your companionship, we feel no need for anything else. All we're thinking about is you all are thinking about you. And all we're thinking about it, and then we go back to our homes. And all of a sudden, it's all you know, it all goes, it doesn't all go away. But we start you know, getting flooded with concerns of the dunia. So the prophets like Selim, he told them, that if you were to be in the same

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situation that you are with me all the time, then the angels would start reading you in the street, meaning it's impossible. It's absolutely impossible. And that's why Abdullah Ahmed, it will be a lot of time.

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And the US was a person who was overzealous in the time of the Prophet twice, and it was a young man with a province like them have to consistently advise to take it down a notch. Because he read too much more on he prayed too much any faster, too much to a point that he was becoming neglectful of his family. And

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in the house of the alarm, I knew I had a strong love for the prophets like Selim, he collected the Hadith of the Prophet five, seven, he was the first one to write the Hadith of the Prophet place, and I'm saying a strong love for the Prophet twice on him. But whenever someone from a law passed away, I belong. He said something very powerful. He said, no matter what do I have to lay him out? Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, for me, to still be able to bring myself to do a good deed today is twice as beloved to me. Then when the prophets lie, Selim was still alive, alone, like let's think about that for a moment. Right? To be able to do a good deed today, to be able to

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do a good deed today. After the PowerPoint sounds good, what's better than praying a lot behind the prophets life stuff. What's better than fasting and breaking your fast with the profit slicer? What's better than getting savarkar on the province like Philips asking you for your silicone? What's possibly better than that? He says, No, it's better now. It's more beloved to me now. He says to be an akuna Rasulullah Salallahu. Salam

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ala,

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always thought about was the aka the junior had no, we have no concern for the

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young engineer and he says now today, we're being flooded with the dunya we're being we're being overwhelmed with opinion about

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the law. No, you know, some kind of law that's him talking about his situation, you can imagine his situation will be a lot harder. He's one of those people that you would say who's probably forgotten more than we all know to put together and who does worry rather than all of us put together in his low time right in his downtime, but that is that's him making a very, very powerful point that the goal of rehab is to be sober outside of rehab. So we need to develop some long lasting habits in savasana that will continue after Ramadan. And we need to remember that we are not in the slaves of Ramadan but rather we are the slaves of the love of Ramadan and the Lord of Ramadan. So Ramadan

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comes and goes, let you know if there is a one stop chance, a one stop chance of you

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dying in Ramadan. And that's the only time of the year that you're reaching for and that's the only time of the year that you're praying extra Naloxone and beyond and that's the only time of the year that you're watching yourself from from backbiting and from those types of things. That means that you that you have an 11 out of 12 chance of dying in a state of reflux and heedlessness. So we need to develop some long lasting habits in saltwater. We need to make sure that this will not bog we develop a routine or regimen Okay, we keep ourselves acquainted with the foreigner the way that in a way that that will continue after Ramadan and saltwater Allah. So in Ramadan, for example, I need to

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I need to make sure I read the Koran twice a month, at least, let's say okay, twice a month, at least what we find with the Sahaba is that they had three stages in their life when it came to a lot of simple answer reading beforehand. They had a stable phase of reinforcement throughout the year, when Ramadan came, no Sahaba doubled their recitation for the first 20 days of Ramadan. So they kicked it up a notch in the first 20 days of Ramadan. And then in the last 10 days of Ramadan, they even went further than that. Okay, so we see a lot in the great Northwest. But of course, he used to read the Quran, four times a month, then we'll move on came, he would read the Koran

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once every three days, once every three days. Then when the last 10 nights of Ramadan came, he was reading it once a day, okay, and I'm not expecting anyone to do that. But what I'm saying is, they kicked it up a notch whenever wanting and then when the last two nights, it's like something precious is going away. Like I'm losing, I'm losing something precious right now, you know, I want to I want to salvage the rest of my normal bond, because a person who aspires for excellence will always feel like they were falling short. So I feel like I'm falling short. So I want to do more, I want to do more, I want to do more like the mountain climber him a lot. He described a person who's

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who's running and he's got sand in his hand. Right, and the sand is going through his fingers, it's falling out. And so he runs to preserve as much sand as he can, as much of it as he can. You want to preserve as much of the treasure as you can. So you know, when you when you fail to plan you plan to fail. So what are your plans right now for the last 10 nights of Ramadan? But you need to be planning right now don't make it spontaneous. If I feel like we didn't answer the I'll report app, no everyday mama bond, no matter how, no matter how little Gaga I do, even if I've got a huge gathering tonight a huge dinner I need to prepare for, I'm going to make sure that I read the for at

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least at least two juices a day, at least two chapters a day. And that's smart. That's 40 pages in sound Watada. And hopefully we can all do that, at least that much a day. And then when the last two nights of Ramadan, no matter how you know how good or a bad idea, whatever I have to do that I'll kick it up to for example, three times a day, because if I do three pages a day, in the last 10 days of Ramadan, I would have finished a separate recitation and entire recitation of the Quran and left the microphone alone alone. And that's something that he really wants. Also, in in Ramadan, it's extremely important for us to make sure that our interactions with people, our interactions with

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people change, right. And Ramadan is certainly a time

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where, you know, you can actually start to set new trends with your friends. So if you and your friends are used to backbiting For example, this is a fight to say, look, it's Ramadan. Let's try to get rid of this habit of backbiting when someone throws up a name there, when someone says hey, how is so and so doing? You know, how is this person doing? And how is that person doing? You don't even say anything? Because you know that usually how is so and so doing leads to about 510 minutes of backbiting. So you kick it you say, Look, I don't want to talk about anybody else. I'm not gonna sacrifice my car, because of so and so I'm worried about my normal bond being accepted. I want my

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thoughts to be accepted. So forget about so and so for now let's worry about ourselves. And Ramadan is also a time that some of the scholars they said it's actually a time to start studying the Koran together, because the Grenadines Salam would come to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and he was studying the Quran with the prophets I saw in Ramadan. So it's a time for us to sit together and read the Quran together as some of the scholars of Hadith they derived one of the rubic one of the wisdoms of that Hadith so it's a good way to start redefining your relationships, making them relationships where there is a habit for you know, calling each other to wake each other up for some

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of the threads or possibly inviting each other for a thought for moderators thought not going overboard, okay, that's a whole nother topic but not going overboard for thought. But inviting each other over for a stop and remembering Allah subhana wa tada together, speaking about good things together. It's a good way to redefine your relationships, and to use this as an opportunity because if your friendships are bad, if you're the people that you're around are not good, then no matter how much you progress along, it's all going to

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Go down the drain when you start hanging out with those people again, so use them as a chance to interact with people that redefine your relationships with people just as you're redefining your relationship with a larger than you should be redefining your relationships with with people. And this month because from here on forward, you want to make sure that you are a different person and you want to cultivate an environment that's going to allow you to continue to grow, to continue to nourish your Eman and to get closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And so if you wake up, and he might have been telling me about him a lot, he said that if a person wakes up in the morning, and he is

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not progressed from the day before, he has not progressed from the day before that he is a loser. He's a loser. If he has not gotten any better, that means he wasted a day of your life. If you're not a different person today than you were yesterday, it means you've wasted a day of your life. You wasted a precious moment. And then he said to him a whole lot to Allah and if a person wakes up in the morning, and they are less than what they were the day before then that person is a facet, that person is now actively rebelling against the lives of them. Okay, so when would you need to be progressing? And you need to be asking yourself if you're gonna hold on this year, the exact same

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Ramadan as the year before. Also, are you going to have the same bad habits because, you know, in essence, although we're talking about doing many good deeds, the meaning of Ramadan is to kick the bad habits. It's as simple as the cookie, garlic masimo killer cookie bond and the venom and public support. You were given this order of fasting just as every single Prophet was ordered to fast and every nation was ordered to fast so that you can become aware of a loss of habitat and gain taqwa. You know, it's one thing to fear someone that whenever they're not in your presence, or whenever you don't recognize their presence, then you still act in any way that you want to but you only fear

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them in a way that you're you know, that you would fear a person who's holding a weapon to your head. There's no love, there's no or there's no respect, just walk there. And it's another thing to be in on someone and to fear them so much that you don't want to do anything that's going to offend that someone. So what did the scholars describe a surprise if you read taqwa? The definition of taqwa it is peloquin mouthy abandoning sin. It's as simple as that abandoning sin. Okay. And so, in essence, over a long time, we described it as a person who's walking between a bunch of forms, and he's making sure to hold himself pipe so that he doesn't get tricked by any of those thoughts. Now

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why is this so relevant for Ramadan? Because the means to restrain yourself? Okay, when a lot tells mommy and daddy has set up for to do

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that if anyone comes to you after she gave birth, are you sorry, sir.

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If anyone comes to you in a nursery I have

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to the nanny from anyone comes to you from the man then say that I have taken a bath with my Lord. Now what is this fasting not eating and drinking without the fasting was about? Absolutely not because the same ayah was saying to Mario

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Savio, Karina, he can drink and rejoice. Okay, the same idea. So the first thing is to hold yourself to restrain yourself from all of the accusations that you're going to receive from all of the slander don't defend yourself allies are general defend you. So it means to restrain it means to hold yourself back. The scholars the urges to say farmer to sumps when the Sun reaches its peak The sun has stopped so long is not just reading more for Ramadan is not just attending more total. We're Bella is not just doing more good deeds. But Ramadan in essence is what any mountain will claim Rahim Allah describes a taqwa eyes. He says,

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Listen very close.

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Just

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when we talk about the love for the car, he said, anybody can do good deeds. Anybody can do good deeds. Both an atheist and a believer in the laws of Canada can do more good deeds. And trust me, you'll find atheists, as you all know, soon there'll be atheists that will,

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that will start to

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volunteer more. There'll be people there there. I remember a Hindu that was coming to the Muslim to pray for young women every single night. Okay, because of the peace that he gave. And we would ask him every night, you know, are you getting closer to being Muslim? No, not at all. You know, it's just, I'm getting you know, I just feel now that that you know, I feel a sense of peace here. Okay. But when is the last time you found you found an atheist sister that says I'm going to start wearing Hijab? When is the last time you found someone who does not believe in the last thing, I'm not going to backlight anymore. I'm not going to lie anymore. And so that is the true testimony of faith and

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that's why the mountain fire Mahima law says no one truly has faith except for the one who

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Abandoned, since restraints themselves were like we backed by so much that we don't even realize it's disgusting. And imagine if the proper place on was to put those in front of us or do we vomit human meat at this point? If not, then we still have to worry about the issue on the on the piano where the profits by firms that I saw the people who backed by on the day of the Sutton mount are scratching their faces off with IRA nails, peeling off the skin from their face and a loss of funds out of the stores and then they keep on peeling off the skin from their face. That's just for backbiting. And backbiting does not just include talking about a person, when you feel someone's

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name up there, knowing that the other person will back by you are also guilty of backbiting. And in fact, the scholar said you have two sins because the prophets lie to them said I'm Muslim and Muslim. Now you slim what is the first thing he said about the believer the light of the believer on the other believer is that you don't submit him, you don't give him away. You don't betray him. And so when you say so have you heard about such and such, but when you say someone's name, knowing that the other person is gonna back like you, you're only you're only fooling yourself, you're not fooling a loss Have you fallen into the sin of backlighting and that person also, this person of

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backbiting and you have the sin for inviting them to sin, all of that on your record? Because I was was uh, knows what you're doing. Okay, once upon a time knows what you're doing. So restrain yourself, hold your tongue, put your tongue in your mouth and don't let it come up except for good. engage yourself interest via and look at the difference between a gathering of the product lifetime and our gathering. Sometimes we look at these ideas and we say, Wow, how is this possible? In one gathering of the messenger slice?

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We counted the prophets lie some in one mejlis in one another No, you don't even belong. He says this one thing was less than an hour, less than an hour the province lies and I'm saying

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Oh my Lord, forgive me. And have mercy on me turn towards me accept my repentance because you are the acceptor of repentance, and the one who is most merciful. Now how could a person be backbiting and saying

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earlier in their comfort level he 100 times in one gathering? So what does that show you? The anecdote, the way to prevent yourself from that is to engage yourself in good. Don't give that biding its chance. Don't give like it's tense. Don't give anger it's tense, because you're too busy and being in love with a loss of Hannah horchata. And the one who's busy with the Hanukkah will not have any time for the hunt. Because remember,

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he said the one who's dealing with the Creator has no time for the creation, you hold yourself back, restrain yourself. That's a common law, even when it comes to food and drink. You might notice that number one, you're able to do things much easier.

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Or you're able to fast and you know, much easier than you would in other times and part of that reason, and you're not in a jovial human life isn't a masterpiece of say the Prophet. He said that a person who is a person in Ramadan is so distracted with a loss of data that he forgets his own hunger and thirst. You want to know if there is right when you're not feeling hungry or thirsty because you're too busy feeding your soul, you're too busy with a loss of heritage to start thinking about your food and drink. That's when you know that you're doing the normal bond with that you're doing it with excellence and performing. So the more engaged you are and good, the more distracted

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you are. And so what my bond allows us to build that shield, the fuckwad the meaning the root word of what is wakaya a sealed, the new means a seal and lots of how

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to say I've been a lot has changed the doubles and giving you a chance to build your seals when you build your seal. Once a bomb comes out, make sure that he's not able to attack you from the same way that he was able to attack you before. If you used to fall into backlighting easily used to used to allow your gaze to wander easily before you start allow yourself to form those sins before make sure now you've built a strong enough sealed so once a fog comes back whispering to you you're sealed has blocked him from from coming to you. Because whenever you purify your heart, you build in build your structure, you build your sealed with good deeds, and that's why I fight for them so that they can

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have a loss of habitat. It is the fortress of the Muslim who is the head of heaven, the fortress of the Muslim, because you abandon sins by naturally doing victory by keeping yourself engaged. You build a fortress so safe and cannot attack you. And when you're in your grave. No, you will not be able to be punished if you have fortified yourself with good deeds and not allow anything to penetrate on the inside. Now I'm going to leave you with one thought. And this thought was a very powerful actually was my first time reading it today I was reading

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about aside from him on the table human life. It's something very powerful and he said that in the grave

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In the grave, whenever the punishment comes to a person, whenever the punishment comes to a person, is the law the car has has everything will surround him, all of his good deeds will surround him, and will prevent the punishment and say, Lisa, given that you have no entrance from here, there's a Hadith of the Prophet. But then we reflect it. Why is it that the Prophet five center mentioned to us a woman who fasted who prayed, he did all of those good deeds, but she was back to her neighbor, she had a foul mouth with her neighbors, and the Prophet said, Nothing. He has enough she has no good inside of her and she's in hellfire. Isn't that apparent contradiction? Why didn't her salop

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protector? Why didn't her see our protector? Why didn't those things protect her? And what the women who came over him Allah said that so profound is because she has because whenever a person has bad character, whenever a person has bad character, that is something that is an internal disease, it's an internal disease. It's not an outward force that's attacking you at that point. It's an internal disease. So the salaat and we'll see I'm cannot protect you from that the salon the CM can protect you from the minor sins that you commit between follow up and things of that sort. But those internal diseases that manifest themselves in very ugly ways, in that character, in complaining in

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backbiting and allowing yourself to engage yourself in all of these diseases of the heart, that those things, the salaah will not protect you in your grave. And what got Seyfarth out of Paradise was not a lack of Salah was not a lack of fear. What got him out of Paradise was that internal pride that he had that internal disease. So this is a month where we purify ourselves, restrain ourselves, try to get those things out, try to acquaint ourselves with Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the more we learn to make due to a loss of power, the more you make dua to Allah subhanaw taala, the less you need to call upon other people, or the number no claim Rahim Allah says about a person who complains

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to other people and amount of claims such that help them when they

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hear complaints, complaining about one who has mercy on you, someone who has or you're complaining about one who has mercy upon you to one who has no mercy, so dangerous often there are. So you don't have time for Sakura, for complaining to create creation anymore because you're complaining to Allah. Whenever you're engaged in the Meza of worship, the pleasure of worship, you don't have time for the other for the so called pleasures of this dunya. So the point is, again, to purify, and then at the same time to fortify, purify, purify, purify, by getting rid of the sin, fortified by doing good deeds. And the only way you're not a llama bond is right if you've abandoned those sins, and if

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you have continuous good deeds, I hope and saltwater out of that at the end of this Ramadan, we can really look back and feel accomplished, not proud, but accomplished. And there's a difference between the two. And I'm with this on this note, huge difference between being proud of something and being and feeling accomplished, because of something. Pride is something that is, particularly the worst form of pride is urgent, is whenever you're so satisfied with yourself, that not only have you developed kimberleys developed pride, but you don't progress anymore, because you think you've done a lot already, you think you've done enough, you think you're already on a pedestal. So that's

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dangerous. That's when you have pride in your good deeds, not the proper place. And I've started listening

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to a very interesting hobby. He said some a lot he was telling me that self love has to kill us accuracy.

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If your good deeds make you happy, and your bad deeds make you sad, then that means you're a believer. That is how you identify a man and yourself. So naturally when you have a man, thanks, pleasure feels good, nothing feels good. You have a certain pleasure whenever you break your past, you have a certain sense of accomplishment, a certain sense of confidence, right? Because even the dot that we make when we break our thoughts and there are many innovative thoughts in terms of breaking the many things that enter through without that from the Sunnah of the Prophet slicin is to say, does that have a

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tendency to

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make this every single night

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the Sabbath is a drone shot, that the first is gone, the first has been quenched. And the veins have been moist, and agile, the reward is guaranteed. And so the word is guaranteed. Like so you have a sense of happiness, you have a sense of you have a sense of joy, you have a sense of attended and I got through this. And so you want to feel accomplished. You want to feel like you've gotten somewhere, but at the same time, you want to make sure that you have not become stagnant. Okay. And that's unfortunately what happens to many people. They become complacent. I pray every single night it matters nothing. If you don't have a relationship with a book of a lot throughout the year. I you

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know, I made

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I was in this gathering i didn't i did not there's nothing if after the year if after Ramadan is over at the first aid party and gathering you have you're going to continue to backbite so Islam means change Islam means it means to change yourself. So inshallah I hope with that your sisters that we all are able to progress in this little bar to reach another to raise the standard so that next level bar and this is really some how a lot you know, I remember I was talking to my teacher said falafel, sorry.

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That's something very beautiful to me one time. He said that when mama bond comes, when mama bond comes, your low standard, your low standard should be what's your high standard was the previous normal bar. Think about that. Your low bar, your low bar should be what your high standard was last time about. Why because at this point, let's say this little one, you've established the habit of praying. So

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the 12 the 12

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confirm some of the prophets like let's say you rooted backbiting out of your life, let's say you started to become good in your job you started to make more. So the next normal bond comes along that's now your bare minimum that's your most better if by the next on the bottom, I'm about 2013 and so let me ask the last cantata from now a lot more than Ramadan of next year inshallah tada to get another opportunity of Ramadan and Ramadan of 2013 if you know I should make sure that the things I've accomplished in Ramadan 2012 is the bare minimum now for me, this is my low standard I need to take it up a notch and take it up a notch and take it up a notch and up a notch. So

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inshallah tada we will be better people that after the Sorbonne asked the last kind of talent to make it a blessing for both you and I inshallah, I just wanted to make one announcement shall Let's see some of you saying Can I post the door I will close the door inshallah Tada. Today there, but the second thing I just want to mention inshallah, on August 7, I'm going to be hosting a program inshallah tada with with the sonic learning Foundation, it's going to be a one and a half hour free session inshallah tada on layer two cutter so we are

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planning on when you started fasting the 19th or the 20th night of Ramadan, but either way on, you know, we have the 10 nights of Ramadan coming up inshallah tada on August 7, so I want to use that as an opportunity for an hour and a half to talk about later through others so that we we feel we feel a rejuvenation inshallah, tada, when that time comes, so, that will be on www.houston.org I ll houston.org. inshallah, you can get information also you can you can see it on Facebook at the Iowa State inshallah. So I hope you'll all join in and

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we will have limited capacity, whatever WebEx can hold us a WebEx software, whatever it can hold will allow. So once that registration fills up, then we'll have to close it down at that point, so please try to register as soon as possible inshallah.

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God bless you all, just second law fair and for having me. And inshallah, I'll take a few questions, and then I will, I'll, I'll take questions for 12 minutes inshallah.

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So you can post your questions in the general chat in Charlottetown. And I'll try to I'll do my best to answer them.

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Our deeds done while fasting.

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More rewardable Sorry, I lost the question.

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Our deeds done while fasting one word and after you break it.

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Yes. The reason being

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that Ramadan is all these done during Ramadan are more affordable than what's done outside of Ramadan. But the best time to do your deeds is when you are feeling the weakest to a loss of heaven with God. So it depends on the beat. I mean, there are some deeds that that that don't matter, but there's some deeds that are better. So for example, as a scholar say that God is the most beloved at the end of your fast because that's when your weakest that's when your your, your moment of vulnerability. And you're calling upon allies, with your with your last bit of energy to say, oh, a lot except, so it depends on the deed itself. Some deeds are just consistently actually some of

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these are more beloved when you're not fasting. So for example, piano player obviously, is more beloved than than a lot during the day during Ramadan. But in general, anytime you do a good deed and it's at your moment of vulnerability, then a lot of Thailand looks at you with with sympathy and with mercy and self love and you

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more rewarding?

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How can you audit yourself?

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Okay, I'm sorry.

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Okay, the next question was,

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was reading your ad in English count when you can't recite in Arabic,

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it's certainly a good deed to read, it's certainly a good deed to read in English, but at the same time, look for and it's only an Arabic Now what is the meaning of that would be that for a person who's just learning how to report they have, they can do as much as they can. So they can read English, nothing, in the meantime, read a little bit of Arabic, just to just to get the reward of that, that's good. They can listen to the Arabic and read the English, or read along with the transliteration transliteration is usually a good a good option Also, while you're learning, so it's good if you don't understand Arabic to read route translation. But I would say just make sure you

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don't abandon completely reciting in Arabic.

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I sent in Ramadan does this mean my fasting is not accepted? You know, interestingly enough, I mean, my Allah, He said that a person and one colleague and one of us he said that if a person duck bites or live in Ramadan, their fasting will not be accepted, and they have to make up the date. But that was that was an earlier opinion of his and he changed his opinion towards the end of his life, to come in into, you know, which which agreed with the majority of other similar dinar, that the reward of your fasting will be gone, but the obligation is still there, their word of your fasting will be gone, but the obligation is still there. You still have to pass

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and you don't have to make up the day. But a person should certainly abandon those sins as much as possible and shuttle off on that a person does not have the right to abandon the obligation.

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I've got some relatives who have hurt other members of my family a lot. And they told me how hurt they felt. What wrong they have endured, is it called backbiting. To tell someone to tell someone who can help you with your situation is not backbiting.

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Kodama him a lot in his book most often and hasn't possibly he talks about the category of permissible backbiting, so to complain to someone who has the ability to help you is allowed

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for the sake of complaining is not allowed. That's where you're complaining about last hematology Mahima Lhasa, and you should make your Sacra you're complaining only to Allah subhana wa tada that the ask someone to talk to someone who can help who can possibly intercede? Who can who can lighten the situation for you, that is totally fine.

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If you're pregnant, and you miss some days due to help, are you required to redo those days and see the poor or just rebuild those mistakes?

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This is a question that the scars around the center differ about

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I love my boss will be a lot of times when he says that

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the option of feeding miskeen of feeding a poor person was partially abrogated before a person before the obligation of a bond with the obligation of Ashura and a person would be obligated to either fast or to give charity, they have the option that a lot of times out of abrogated that within a month. For a person who is permanently ill a person who is permanently ill, then they just have to feed the poor for those days. Now, for a person who is pregnant, their situation is like one who is temporarily ill, okay, temporarily unable to fast like the traveler or the or the one who's sick or so or so on. So for them, they would only be required to read in those days, they would be

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required to redo those days.

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Have you audit yourself and know that certain acts that you do have enough signal?

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That's a very powerful question. Number one, you seek the help of a loss pattern with IRA. Number two, but also apply some of that money, you revoke the Dharma, you're able to leave that which causes you to doubt for that which causes you no doubt whatsoever. So when there are certain acts that are in the gray area, it's better for you to abandon it many of the discussions we have especially in the American context around a person with a person who wants to please a loss partner and fears for themselves should always abandon what comes in the gray area.

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You know, not their mo not the love No, I'm not the great Sahabi may Allah be pleased with them all. Actually three of them are companions of the Prophet sights on him. He said the companions but none of us yet we love we abandon half of things because we were so afraid of falling into hell. So you aim high, you avoid doubtful matters, you avoid

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The gray area, avoid opinions that fall into the gray area. For your own self. Don't make things hard for other people make things hard on yourself so that you can avoid them. And as

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he said, I had a friend of mine, a good companion of mine, that whatever his nuts told him to do, he did the opposite of whatever his nuts told him to do, he did the opposite of it. And somehow that's a very powerful part if you think about it. So whatever is closer to the dunya and to to the pleasing of the self and not the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala abandon it learn to abandon the person stays out of the gray areas and seeks the guidance from Allah subhana wa tada and is consistent then inshallah Tada, they avoid those things and Escalades protect us all inshallah.

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Are we allowed to lie in order to conceal our good deeds?

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The answer to that question is that a person should not lie, but a person should certainly try to conceal their good deeds. Okay. Are you

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a Sufi? I'm sorry? Are you a soft Gianni,

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he wrote about him in CRM and without a great Zaha again, you tianni he used to cry a lot in gatherings. Okay, so he would hear the message of a loss of Hannah Tada. And he would hear what reminds me of a lot and he would cry and say what a severe cold but everyone could see right through it. Right. So somehow a lot and that what it shows you is that consuming your good deeds is good, a person to try to have good deeds between them and a lot of there's a lot, even to a point that your own spouse should not know about them.

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So, you know, what that means is that you should avoid directly lying, but at the same time, you know, you should certainly try your best to conceal

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my eight year old grandmother who is on diapers and incontinence, and with incontinence, and completely forget I'm getting forgetful about salaat

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Does he still need to fast and make a lot a lot of stuff are so for fear a lot as much as you can the one who has urinary incontinence, the ruling for that person is that they should clean themselves before salon, every salon salon is still problem even for the one who's paralyzed nose down the philosopher as far as fasting is concerned, if she's unable, from a health perspective to fat than she is now. She is forgiven, she should only give the video she should get, you know feed one per person per day that she could not fast which would be about $10. And she can't do that then she's even forgiven from that. Okay, but the one who is permanently ill if it poses a health risk,

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and usually at that age it does, she's forgiven himself.

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The philosophy she must continue to

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if someone did a major sin and retention and still could not feel for sure, and it bothered because what should the person do in Melbourne so that he can expect forgiveness from a loss and how to look, the way that I always put it is that if you've been going down the wrong path for 10 years, then don't expect to come back to a loss of 100 Tada completely and not feel the effects of that sin and one day, so it takes time to come back to Allah subhanho wa Taala takes time to do away with with the effects of Dustin, that does not mean that Allah subhanaw taala has not forgiven you the moment you make Toba by attacking them and have them come under the umbrella, that the one who who

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repents from sin is like the one we've never seen before. So the moment that you repented, you were forgiven. You were forgiven

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or tasting the sweetness of Salah that is a gift from Allah subhanaw taala. So you have to keep at it and it will take time to develop that.

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If the cellfina are locked up, why do we sometimes continue to send during Ramadan or we just used to doing these bad habits? Say Tom is just a whisper. He's just what's

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what commits evil is you. So

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the nuts becomes polluted, the nuts becomes dirty, the heart becomes dark. So you yourself in essence show up and say Bob is not as vigilant with a person who is easy, who is easy to be fooled and who leads themselves astray as he is with a person who's trying hard. So we find a normal bond that those people who desire

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Good find

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it easier to do good. And those people who do bad continue to do that. Okay, so Stefan does not close percent in the first place. So why should we stop sending him? He just

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it looks like his internet is frozen inshallah, maybe it'll catch back up without necessity,

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friends and family is

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is, you know, which is the last thing that she'll be a lot mindful in the most subtle way there's difference about whether or not will be a man or a woman if a person can play piano live at home at home and have the same amount of assure that they would have outside, then it's better for them to pray at home, even for the men, even for the men. Okay, that was a Londoner thing you know, Kamala also expressed that opinion, a person will be able to read the same metaphor and pray as much at home it's better for them to pray at home, but it doesn't have to be held in the motion. Okay, because that only has just preeminence. So if the sister can pray as much at home, then that's

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better no doubt about it.

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What is the most powerful way of trying to obtain a lot of contrast forgiveness? Not necessarily a lot of spiritless a lot of Toba was the last item said that the one who wants to seek the forgiveness of the last $100 should make will do and should pray to cause and seek Allah's forgiveness. So making your Toba and events

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I'm sorry to say I do have to go right now and so I won't be able to answer any more questions because I just recognize the time so does that will all fade on for having me Bless you all inshallah.

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For sure, coming in the last kind of tired and make everything make the sum of on the festival bond of your life and some luck. So does that belong? I'll hand it over to two sisters now shall pass this Jeremy about a coffee