#4 The Best Deeds on Their Behalf-For Those Left Behind

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man comes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he says to him that my mother died suddenly. And he said, I think lo tequila Mutt Posada got, if she were able to speak, then she would want to give charity.

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So he asked the Prophet sallallahu sallam, so can I give charity on her behalf and the Prophet slicin um, says, to give charity on her behalf. Now, the reason why I start with this narration is because look at the point that he started from, if she could speak, what would she want me to do? If she was able to tell me? What would she tell me to do? What she tell me to make my grave more beautiful when she tells me you know the tombstones not the right marble? It's not the right granite? Can you make it a little higher? Can you engrave it with this? Can you put sort of Fatiha on it? Can you burn some incense on top of it? You know, make sure that you watch my favorite TV

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show for me. What would she asked you to do? What would your loved one asked you to do? They would ask you to give charity, they would ask you to do good deeds on their behalf because that's what they need right now. And in fact, they would be angry with you and admonish you over the money that's wasted on things that are of no benefit to them whatsoever. Right? And how do I you see that sometimes that there's so much that's spent on the funeral on the celebrations of life that come after on the tombstone on the grave things that of course, do end up in the realm of the sinful even, but at the end of the day, like come back to it, what would that person say to me if they

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could speak what would they want me to do? And then consider the other side of the realm. The Prophet slicin mentions the righteous person who is in their grave, and then suddenly a visitor comes. And this visitor is exceedingly beautiful, has a beautiful smell, has beautiful clothes. And as this visitor comes to the grave, the visitor says up sure glad tidings Bolivia Sook with that, which makes you pleased, and that which you were promised, and the person responds and says, that face this face this watch what a beautiful face. And this type of face what who can wedge? Yeah, G open height. This is a person that is definitely coming with good news. I know that if I was

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expecting a punishment, this is not the person that would come to me to give me bad news. This is a person that would come to me to give me good news, and to argue because you have to be bringing good news. Are you one of the righteous souls? Are you an angel? Who are you? And imagine how stunned the person is May Allah make us that person. When the one responds and says that I am your I'm an Assad. I am your good deeds. Pamela, I mean, this is a consistent trend, we're talking about the Hereafter, that our good deeds will be personified just as our sins and just as our limbs will become people that testify against us on the Day of Judgment, may Allah protect us from using our tongue using our

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limbs, our hands in ways that are displeasing to him. And the same way a person meets their psyllium meets their fasting on the Day of Judgment meets their recitation of the quarter out on the day of judgment as people that come to give good news. Now, anything in this life that you could have given to that person, right, you think about the most beautiful piece of jewelry that you would have bought the most precious gift, you would have bought the best day of your lives together, anything that you had ever done in this life, to benefit them or to make them happier, make both of you happy in the process that has died along with that person in the sense that they can't benefit from

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anymore, right. But when you do good deeds on their behalf, and those good deeds accompany them in their grave, and those visitors come to them or that visitor comes to them, and that is the good deed that you continued on their behalf. how pleased is that person going to be with your action? So I want to actually break this down into five things to do for the dead when they pass away inshallah Tada. So you can actually remember these five things, and I'll start with this Hadeeth once again, in similar vein to the first one that we started off with a woman comes to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and also says yes with Allah. My mother has died and she had some

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fasting that she had to make up some obligatory fasting that she had to make up. And the prophets lie Selim says, Do you see that if your mother would have died in debt that you would have been expected or you would have taken care of her debt? And the woman said, Yes, the prophet sly, some said, then go ahead and fast on behalf of your mother. So thinking about the fasting the CM as a part of a debt that is owed on her behalf. So you really want to think about it in terms of debts.

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deeds. But let's expand first the concept of debts. So we're going to go through five things. The first one, you know, the scholars used to say glad tidings to the one who dies and their sins, die with them, their sins die with them. You don't want to be dependent on someone else, to pay off your debts or to go seek forgiveness on your behalf, to someone who you hurt, and you never got a chance to apologize to. So first and foremost, you know, think about yourself that you don't want to be in a situation where you need someone to go do that for you. But when someone passes away, think about debts and harm in regards to other people immediately see if they have debts that they owe to people

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immediately. See if there are people that have been harmed by them or that feel that they were wronged by them and go seek forgiveness on their behalf, ask them to forgive your loved one and say, Listen, you know, death has come this was a reminder, please do forgive them, they will be a need of that. So let it go, let's let the grudges die as well and some had a lot you know and times where you see the increase of Riba the increase of usury and interest you see the increase of debts. And you see the increase of spiritual diseases you see the increase of grudges and tensions and hatred between people. So this becomes that much more urgent for us to go into seek forgiveness and pay off

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the debts on behalf of our loved ones in case they were there. So search for those number two our debts to Allah subhana wa Tada. Not that debts to alarm are less important, but I'm talking about the priority at the at the immediate Time of death is to make sure that that person is only meeting Allah subhana wa tie with the deeds between them and Allah, not the deeds that are between them and other people. So that's between them and a loss of habitat. This refers to obligations that they did not get to fulfill. And so this first and foremost starts off with the obvious hedge. There are many times people make hedge on behalf of their loved ones because their loved ones were not able to make

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hedge themselves because they never got the chance to Okay, so hedge after you make your own formula, you make your own obligatory hedge, if you have the opportunity to do hedge on behalf of that person sallyann fasting, which is in the example that was mentioned by the prophet sallallahu it was something to that woman. This is referring to obligatory fasts that were to be made up and the person passed away before they were able to make up their fasts. And that's why By the way, it's important for you to let people know yourself if you have fasts, that you need to make up your close ones, your loved one, someone. So if you pass away, they could make up those fasts on your behalf.

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Why not Salah why not prayer, because prayer is an obligation at all times, no matter what your situation is, right? Hajj, could be an obligation only when you have the capability. And you just might not meet that financial physical capability. Fasting, there are reasons for which a person will need to make up fast. But prayer, there is no excuse to delay the prayer to miss the prayer. Even if a person can only pray with their hands with their eyes. And if a person was unconscious, then they're forgiven for that anyway. But so long as a person was conscious, then prayer was their obligation. And if they did not fulfill that obligation, then you are not able to fulfill that

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obligation on their behalf. So that takes care of the first two things, so debts to people and debts to Allah subhanaw taala, then come the deeds. And I'm going to categorize the deeds into three and Charlottetown. To make it easy. The first of those categories, meaning the third of this list of five are deeds that are an extension of the good that they inspired or taught themselves, meaning what every time we do a good deed, guess who gets a share of that reward, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because without the Prophet slicin, we would not know how to pray, we would not know how to connect to our Lord. So the prophets lie Selim gets a share of the reward every single

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time. You know, if someone narrated the Hadith that established that good deed, and everyone acts upon that Hadith, then the narrator somewhere in there, you know, and we usually only mention what's the hobby, but everyone in the chain of narrators gets the reward and the lantana for the deed that was inspired a parent who taught their kids some sort of good, or a friend who taught their circle of friends or taught their community, some sort of lesson or some sort of good, and the people act upon it, even if they're not intending every single time. This is on behalf of my parents who are taught by my grandparents who are taught by their grandparents and my friend who was taught But no,

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every time you act upon those deeds, and Charlottetown of that person is getting a reward of it. And that is the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala that is far greater than the mercy that we could assign. So be great, right, you know, especially with parents, especially with people that taught you to do well continue to make progress to a lot and that will be considered progress for that person as well by the lightoller. The fourth one, which is by far the largest category, are good deeds that are specified in the Sunnah. What I mean by that is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that these particular deeds benefit a person after

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Their death. First and foremost, we already mentioned your app. Right. So starting off with his default with seeking forgiveness, then you see sabetha. And the best type of saga is sadhaka jatiya, a continuous charity one that continues to flow. So for example, the profit slice of them specifically told side about all the Allahu taala and who to construct a well for his mother. And so I didn't know about that even donated a garden for his mother. So the types of projects that are ongoing subaqua are the best type of sadhaka but any type of charity on behalf of the deceased, but the night out, is accepted and of course, when it comes to a righteous child is better than the do

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out of anyone else. Right. So there are sada sadaqa jariya being the first of them, can I do hedge anomala even if a person has fulfilled their obligatory Hajj? Yes, you can do hedge on behalf of a person you can do at home or on behalf of a person's palate. I once met a person in one of my own groups who was doing Hajj on behalf of Imam and Noah we are human lazada said Subhana Allah why Imam and no way he said because lialda slotta ain't changed my life. So he done multiple hedges and Masha Allah, he decided to do Hajj on behalf of the amount of no so if you want to do hedge on behalf of your loved one or on behalf of your loved ones, and even people that has benefited you, this is

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something that will last panda has given us to where we can keep connected knowledge that is of benefits. Okay, knowledge that continues to benefit. So again, that's inspired knowledge and that is purchasing something or extending a school or funding dowa funding beneficial knowledge right on behalf of that person. The profit slice on I mentioned visiting and honoring the family and friends of the person that has passed away. This is beautiful he did it so ally Sonoma Khadija will the allow on her with her family and her friends, he would always send the share on her behalf. And we also find the love Norma will the allowance Allah and Houma honoring the children of his father's

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friends Subhana Allah as a means of honoring his father. So these are deeds that are specified in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, right. And they broadly fall within the category of

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charity and beneficial knowledge. Right? So doing one of those things or funding something within that category. Don't pay someone to make your right that's different but funding a beneficial project funding something and Charlottes on all of that will be an extension. The fifth category are all good deeds that are done on their behalf. What is the ruling on a slotted slab on good deeds in general reaching them? Meaning, can I do any good deed?

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like reading Koran, for example, or

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anything else right in terms of offering a nephila a prayer on their behalf, all of them, I would say that you could read a Hutson Koran for example. And then the day that you make at the end of hotmail or an for example, you could dedicate that darat to making your art for the person. But then the difference of opinion comes to the deeds that the Prophet slicin did not specifically mentioned whether or not there is a limit on those deeds, you'll find that a large number of scholars have said that all good deeds based on an analogy of what the prophet slicin has mentioned all good deeds that are of course specified legislative good deeds themselves, count as on their behalf with a

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proper intention. And inshallah tada that would count, but what I would say, and Allah knows best is, for the most part, right? Stick to as much of what the prophets lie Selim has specified, and inshallah there is no harm in doing other good deeds on their behalf May Allah spawn to accept them all. And the second thing that I would say is avoid ritualizing those deeds, this is where it starts to fall out of difference of opinion to dis blameworthy where a person starts to say, after three days, we'll do this after 10 days, this 40 days, one year, we'll gather here, bringing in the food, the parties, when we overly ritualize these things, then you you come out of difference of opinion,

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you go into the blameworthy, so I'm going to repeat the five things and shout out at once again, debts to people, that's to Allah subhanho wa Taala and then deeds that are inspired by that person or an extension of that person, and then deeds that are specified in the Sunnah. And then lastly, all good deeds in the nighttime Allah subhanaw taala accept them all on behalf of that person that has passed away.