Who Gets Allah’s Mercy

Nouman Ali Khan


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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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inshallah, today I want to share with you a topic that's also very close to my heart. Yesterday, I talked to you about Ramadan in preparation for Ramadan. And today's actually a little bit of a different topic, I wanted to talk to you about the last part of surah number 25. So looking for Khan, and these are our they describe a special group of people. What makes them special is Allah describes them as a badass man. This phrase you have to understand first, the slave of Allah, the One who accepts Allah as his master is called

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the plural of Arab, there are two of them, there's a there's a bead and there's a bird and some say that about actually comes from the Arabic. Now when Allah uses the word I bead, or the this, this ayah does not say a deed or Rockman it says abajo ruffman is the difference. A deed is used for all the slaves of Allah, the ones who believe and the ones who don't believe all of them. I mean, all of the less things well, mala who you need to Goldman lima beans, Allah does not want to do wrong, obviously, any of the slaves, that's all of them. But a bog is special people,

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rather special people so already the IRS are beginning letting you and me know that the people will talk about in these IRAs are special. But don't be depressed. When you hear that you're like, Oh, it's gonna talk about special people, not me. Maybe I can go back to Facebook. Oh, hold on.

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But and I'll explain why. Then he says about Oh, man. Now Allah azza wa jal has so many names.

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You could say about the love

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about the harlot. He chose to say about the man in the hotbar. For those of you who weren't sleeping in the hotbar. Today, I was telling telling you something about a rough man,

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when it was love and mercy and care is extreme. And it's immediate. I added temporary, but these two first extreme and immediate then he uses of man. And so Allah says the slaves of man, the good slaves, especial slaves of Allah who get a was immediate and special mercy.

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These are the people Ally's describing in this passage, I would love to be in this group, you would love to be in this group, because this is the group of people that alesse has, he goes out of his way to care for them out of his way to show them love. Who are these people? Now, we're gonna read a lot of descriptions. But the beauty of all of these descriptions, I'm gonna get a little bit technical with you, but I hope you can stay with me. All of the descriptions we're going to read grammatically speaking is not even a whole sentence. It's actually what you call in the Arabic language.

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What you call in the English language, the subject. The predicate isn't even mentioned until like 10 hours later.

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It's 10 hours later. And let me just because I brought it up to you now subject and predicate looked at that and cover. Let me just make it easy for all of you. Those of you who don't understand what I'm saying inshallah, in two minutes you understand. In a sentence there is the part before the is and there's the part after that is will start not mine is boring.

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There's the part before the is what was the part before the is

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what's the part after the is boring. There's two parts. Now the first part, whenever you say the first part, it is doesn't tell you everything. It doesn't tell you everything. It makes you think

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Curious, the motor that the part before the is is there to make you curious. And then once you become curious, the part after the is is there to tell you, let me tell you something about it. Let me give you some information. So the first part is there to make you curious, like, for example, if I say cutter

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and I don't finish my sentence and I walk away, tell me what is

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Right. Now, what I'm saying to you is that there are going to be 1011 iaat. And they're all the part before the is

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there all the partner for the is he's not even the part after the soul and the Curiosity right now or maybe I'll end it later, maybe I'll end it later what is after the is that's at the end, we'll get to that. Now, there's going to be a lot of descriptions of a group of special people called abajo McMahon, but

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even if you read 10 descriptions, they are not one group with 10 descriptions, they are 10 groups with 10 descriptions. If I say about one person, that he is strong, tall, knowledgeable, but equalities, does he have all those qualities at the same time? Yes, all of them at the same time. But if I say these people are strong and these people are tall and these people are knowledgeable, I separated them Yes. And I separated them with an end. These are important because Allah did not say all of these qualities belong to the same group.

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Allah loves special people and they belong to different groups. When you listen to these IR tonight, you have to think about which group are you in? Which of these can you qualify for? Maybe you can qualify for more than one and inshallah you qualify for one of them at least. Hopefully one of them I gotta be in one of these because these people get special love and special care and special mercy from Allah. May Allah make us from them. Okay. Now, having said all of that, the first kinds of people Allah loves what a badass man allatheena I am shuna Adam are the honan

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the slay the special slaves of man, the ones who walk around on the earth, they hang out. They go for a walk. I know you don't walk much outdoors here. So they're walking in the mall, or walking at the airport. They're walking by the beach, or taking a walk. And by the way, just because it says Yamuna It doesn't just mean they're walking Jani Hakuna sejati him when they're driving their cars also. Right? Whatever, however, you're hanging out, you're outside in society, you have this element of humility. honan you feel weak before Allah.

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You're humble in the way you walk in the way you talk. Sometimes you don't have to be arrogant because you say something arrogant in the way you look at someone. There's arrogance. In the way you carry yourself this arrogance in the way you insult someone with your face.

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arrogance, that's not the jump shoe, not the honan there are people that have you have a good job. Maybe it was one of you works in one of those big towers over there that look all crazy, those big towers. You work over there and you're you know, walking around and there's a guy who works you know, in construction. He picks up bricks or cleans the street or something. And he gets too close to you and like

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women, dirty dude, he's a Muslim, and Baba even if he's not Muslim, he's a human beings. Allah azza wa jal honored all children of Adam woollacott columna Benny, Adam, we honored all children of Adam, who are you to look down on another human being? Unless as people that are special to a lot, they have humility when they walk? I'm sure not only honan but then how do you know if you're humble? How can you check? Is there a litmus test? Yes, there is a test. And Allah gives us the test in the ayah. If you're asking yourself and I'm asking myself, am I humble? Or am I arrogant? How would I know? Well, here's the test. What either hakama homolka, Helen colusa Rama. When people who have no

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control over their emotions, talk to them, when idiots talk to them. When obnoxious people talk to them. When arrogant people talk to them when ignorant people talk to them when angry people talk to them. When insulting people disrespectful, people talk to them.

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And somebody insults you It hurts. When somebody talks to you badly it hurts. But Allah calls all of those people Jai Hindu and gehad actually in Arabic is the opposite of African gentlemen, someone who has no control over their emotions. a bad word comes into their mind and comes out of their mouth. They don't think about it. So you're driving in the streets of Qatar, and some guy cuts you off. And you Honk your horn.

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And he stops his car and he gets out of the car.

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at you. And you're like, Oh, yeah.

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I'm gonna show you.

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You start responding back. Wait, wait, wait, hold on why the Hata mahamudra Hey, Don, Carlo, Salama, Islam and some article. Okay, sorry, you're right, I'm wrong go. No,

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you have to learn to do and if you can't do that, then you are disqualified from category number one.

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You want to be in category number one. And you will not say if, if you see ignorant people talk to you, if you know obnoxious people address you. Allah says when I talked to you about the difference between if and when yesterday when means it will happen. It means it might happen. Allah says, there's no there's no possibility percentage it might happen to you, it might not happen to you, it will happen to you. It will happen to you. It happens to me all the time.

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All the time. I was at a machine not over here in America, I was at a machine. And I was sitting in talking to some board members about some program I wanted to do and a brother walked in. And he heard that I wanted to teach Arabic.

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He was an Arab fellow Egyptian fellow. And he heard that I wanted to teach Arabic. And I'm, he's like, you teach Arabic? And I was like, Yeah, a little bit.

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And he said, Where are you from? I was like Pakistan.

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And he said, Oh, yeah. And he took out a napkin. And he said, write the alphabet for me.

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So I wrote down the English alphabet for him.

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And he said, you see, you don't know how to be able to Yeah, you're right, I'm sorry.

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And then he started teaching me the alphabet. 30 minutes, I sat there and I learned the alphabet with him. And then he had to go, let me left. And that night, that night, at the same machine, they asked me to give a lecture, the importance of learning Arabic. If you go on YouTube, and you search, how to learn Arabic, and why learn Arabic, why study Arabic, that lecture was at that machine, and that guy was in the first row, smiling at me the whole time.

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But he comes to me and says you Pakistani, you're gonna teach Arabic? I'm gonna go

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shoot, no, no.

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It's okay. It's all right. You're right. I don't know anything. It's okay. Don't get worked up. Don't get all full of yourself. If people speak to you in that way, it's okay. They have a right.

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You know, and you don't know why people speak to you in this way. There may be some other things going on in their life. You know, and they come to you and they let their anger out on you. You have to be kind of merciful and courteous to people. They were they were women. There were men that came to the city of Los Alamos and he was on and started yelling at him.

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From the bedroom, they were Muslims. They started yelling at him.

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And you know, the provinces don't didn't get upset. He just calm them down. The Sahaba would have killed them. Relax. Just peace. You know, this is a Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. When people say things that make you angry, you just gotta calm down. And by the way, guys, men over here. Your wife will say a lot of things that make you angry boy. Oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

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And when you hear that you don't say that she's Jehan. But you do say Salaam. Just be quiet. Don't talk back. Sisters upstairs. Ladies. your husbands will say things that will boil your blood. Oh my god, you will get angry. And Allah has given you a special power. I have three sisters. I have a wife and I have four daughters. I know girls have special powers. And their superpower is they can answer you in a way that will like stab you in the heart. Oh my god, they have the most amazing answers. Like Ah,

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but you sisters, when your husband is out of control and he's becoming too emotional or too angry.

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So change the subject. And Solomon. Solomon does not mean that Allah says you have to say Salaam and somebody is fighting like a Solomon, Solomon, Solomon. Not like that. That's not what that means. Let me tell you what Solomon Solomon could be a hand here in grammar. You know what that means? They speak calmly. They don't just say the word Salaam. They speak calmly. They speak peacefully. They speak in a way that disarms that doesn't make you angry, you know? And so for example, you know, one time I was sleeping in the machine.

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I was I was in the attic and I was sleeping in the machine. And you know, when you're sleeping, you don't know what you took which way you turn from sleeping, and I woke up because somebody kicked me in the stomach.

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There's a really old gentleman in our community. He was an underlining fellow. And he was also making a tick off he didn't speak any English at all.

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I just spoke. And he kicked me in the stomach. And I wake up, oh, look at him like,

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and he goes on my back was towards the bookshelf, which were the massage ways you can have your back to the front, he kicked me in the stomach.

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Now I could get up and say, Come on, you could have woken me up nicely. I'm fasting and then you kick me in the stomach too. And but you know what I did? I just hung out with him afterwards, just sat down with him. I said, Can I recycle it you can correct micron. And we just spoke in sign language. And I recited the Quran to him and we just hung out the whole time.

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You have to deal with people peacefully. You have to calm down. When you deal with people, you will meet all kinds of people, all kinds of temperaments. Some some of you are stuck with a boss, who in Allah when Allah Hello God. Like he's always angry, he wakes up angry. He you know, he's eating and he's angry, even if he's angry when he's smiling, even when he's angry. You know, you have that kind of a boss, but you know what you have to learn to deal with it peacefully, peacefully. You have employees you have some of you are teachers, you have students that make you angry, you gotta calm down. You can get angry in the classroom. Those who have lost a lot more I do sell them is told, we

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were told in the break room only man, he says I was sent as a teacher. He sent us a teacher, he never got angry at people. And this is never, you know, his servant is telling us that he lived with him. And then his end, he never told him do that. Why did you do this? Why didn't you do this? The entire time.

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And that's your slave. That's not even your employee. That's your slave.

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He never said this to them. So call of Solomon is really important. And why is it important? Because what the next time you have to force yourself to be humble and calm things down and not respond in anger. Then you tell yourself I'm doing this because I want to be from McMahon.

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mahatama humble Jacqueline calm Salama. This is category number one. Category number one, people who can control their anger, people who can control their pride. People who can let go of their ego and just defuse the situation, even if they're right. Even if they're right. They just say it's okay. It's not worth it. It's not worth the fight. You know, Carlos, Elena, and tell you an interesting story of Amanda hanifa Rahim Allah, Allah hanifa. Obviously, you know, a great deal of his time. And then after people are coming to him for photo all the time. And he his mother had a question. And she asked a question. So he told her the answer. And she said, You don't know anything.

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Your mother didn't say that to you, right? I'm gonna go ask that one over there. And that guy that she wanted to go as he was dying, he wasn't an island, he wasn't dying. That means he can give people reminder, you can tell people about duck wall, but he doesn't know about it or anything like that. So his mother goes and asks him, and he says, Let me do some research. I'll get back to you. And he comes back to who?

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It was like, Hey, your mom came over and she was like, she had a question. And is like, okay, here's the answer. But don't tell her I told you.

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Right. Sometimes you will have people in your own family that don't like hearing from you. Maybe you became closer to the dean. But they're not that close to the dean. And that makes you angry. It makes you angry that some women in your family don't get a job. It makes you angry. Some young men in your family don't pray. You get mad at them. No, don't get angry at them and speak with them peacefully. Speak with them calmly, your anger will only take them further away from them, they will bring them closer. You know, you have to have a soft heart towards those who are not there yet. You were not praying five times a day. There was a time when you weren't like that. If somebody spoke to

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you angrily would you start praying or go further away? Think about that. Think about that, unless often your heart so you wait until it less often there is and you have to be soft to people. I remind people that Allah azza wa jal told Musa alayhis salam to be nice to have around.

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So be nice to fit around, around, try to kill Mousavi Sara, when he was just a baby said I won't kill 1000s of babies every year he called himself God. There's so many reasons to hate fear own. And Allah says when you go to him, Well coolala who code and Lena.

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If you have to be nice to fit around. What about your wife? What about your husband? What about your children? What about your cousins, your brother, your uncle? These are the people that make us angry. These are the people family makes you really angry. I'm telling you. I know siblings make you angry and these are the people that deserve the most soft responses from us. We have to change the way we behave with them. This is called Solomon Okay, this is category number one. Category number two, whether the Nairobi to Nairobi, him Sudan waqia.

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And there's another group of people who are special to a lot they spend the entire night either in such dollar standing tiamo 100 everybody's like, Okay, next category, I can't do this category.

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You know what's amazing?

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If you say someone is really close to Allah, then you think this person must make the 100 and align this passage that someone who's really close to Allah first category is not that people have tiamo Lane. first category is who? People who control their anger. Is he how much he loves. He loves the people who control their anger even more than the people that spend the whole night in prayer. So pauwela levina up to 900 pM sujeto kiama. Okay, give me the third category.

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He says when the dino yopu Luna Ravana, free fun by Johanna

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It's so beautiful this this category. There's a group of people Allah loves because the only thing they just ask Allah Allah just I don't want to see Johanna.

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I don't want to take me away from them. I don't want to I don't want to be turned away from it. And not either. hochanda Rahman in NASA, it was takala Momo common. Its penalty is very heavy. It's a huge pain. I can't bear it. I can't even think about Johanna. It is a terrible place to be for a little while or for a long time. I have to explain this part to all of you. It is a terrible place to be we'll stick around for a little while more common long term. Now,

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there are some people like I was I'm sure you've seen this on YouTube. If you follow my videos, there was a young girl in Florida. At a youth program. She asked me a question. She wrote it down. She said I do a lot of her arm things.

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But I'm not going to hell forever, right? Because I'm Muslim. So even if I do go to hell, it will not be forever. This doctor says I don't want to go to jahannam not for a long time. Not for a short time. I don't want to see it. Allah loves the people who understand that they don't want any part of jahannam short or long. There are some Muslims who say of course, I don't want to go to jahannam forever, but I don't know one weekend. Maybe we can do that much hard on you know, this is from the Jews ayama motto that they said a few days we can handle it. I mean, come on, you know, after that is the gentlemen. Okay, so then you party here you pay one weekend price, and then you go back to

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Ghana? What's the big deal? Allah says those are not a bottle of mine. A bottle of mine are the people, the special people to a lot of the people who say Allah, I don't want to see Johanna not for a day, not for two days, not for a minute, not for a second. And not permanently. I don't want anything to do with Jana.

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I know it'll take a long time for me to explain this. But I want to take a minute or five minutes at least to explain this to you. There is an IRA and pseudo MBR

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there's one is a little MBR that describes the least punishment in jahannam

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jahannam is described in so many places in the Koran, but the least least least I mean the easy punishment of jahannam is describing certain ambia How easy is it? The person described has not tasted the fire. They have only tasted a breeze. You know when you have a fire it has a hot wind. The hot wind is called left her with a lamb but the ayah doesn't use love her he says well they must have enough how would a noon with a noon it actually means a cool breeze not a hot breeze. And enough highs used when you know when you close the door and some hot air comes in. As you're closing the door that the air that comes in or goes out that's called enough

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unless as those people will taste enough hot air. Not even inside jahannam were outside they haven't even gone in yet. And they didn't taste fire. They didn't taste lava. They didn't eat anything that they're just exposed to air and not even hot air which kind of air cold enough highs even there's hotter air in the engine and it touched them barely must set on it barely touched them. You know sometimes you're boiling or frying things and something comes out and it touches us a little bit. But that's not air. That's liquid. Allah doesn't say liquid will touch you What does he say? air will touch you and it will barely touch you for a split second. split second it will touch you.

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That's it and it won't even be the full fledged it will be not enough had to either be a big it will be enough Hassan min as Avi Arabic minute techniques to make it very little bit of air just tiny little bit so it's not even the whole door was opened and the wind came in. It was like a tiny little you know how you have window inside the window a little bit of it opened and a little bit of an air came out and you felt it on your skin just for a split second.

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And then this is the only torture this person received. There is nothing else yet and they're not even in hell yet they're still outside. that's evident from the word NAFTA. He says Yahweh Ilana, the person swears I have never felt more torture ever in my life. This is the word I must be in the worst part of hell.

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Wayne, the association describes weigh in as the worst part of Hellfire so scary that hell itself is afraid of it. jahannam is afraid of weigh and this guy says I must be in Wales. Yeah. Why Ilana?

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He's not even inside yet.

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The Muslim understands the believer the student of Quran understands in the house. Mr. Calvin Momo common. I cannot be there for a little while and a long time. I know. I should not have the mentality of bunnies slide who said

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just a few days we can handle it. You know, I've had long hard hot road trips outside with no air conditioning. I'm tough. No. in the house, Mr. Catalano comma. This is a category by itself. These people are special to a lot. The only thing to ask allies, y'all. I don't want to have them. I don't want to have them never at all. That the eye itself qualifies you to be special to Allah subhanaw taala what a mercy from Allah. So now we have a few categories, people who control their anger. Category number two people who gamble Nithya Mala.

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Then category number three people who ask Allah, they don't want to go to hellfire.

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They can pay the penalty of hellfire. Then what category? He says upon Allah, when levena De Anza, poo poo, wanna know? What kind of I mean, as Anika calama the people who spend money, when they spend money, they don't spend too much.

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And they're not cheap either. They're right in between.

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When you go shopping, you say I make good money, put it all in. I'll take two of those. I'll take three of those. I'll take five of those. What's the biggest TV you have? I want a TV that doesn't even go through my door.

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Give me that, you know,

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what's the most expensive car what's the most you know, you just want to show people how much money you just want to pay paid. You can eat food at a restaurant, but you want to go to the restaurant where they charge you 200 We also sit down first.

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You're spending too much, spending too much. Right amongst the people who spend but they're responsible when they spend.

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They're responsible when they spend and they're not cheap. Either. You don't go to the store with your wife to get the cereal and the milk and the vegetables and she's putting milk in you like you're gonna drink all that milk and eat all that milk. Get the small one. Don't do that.

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You know, don't be cheap either. You have to have a balance in your budget. Let me tell you something. The economic crisis in the world, the fall of the European economy, the fall of the American economy that it's barely recovering from, you know where it came from. It came from people spending irresponsibly, and then institutions spending irresponsibly, and then government spending irresponsibly. And say we can just put it on the credit card, put it on the credit card, put it on the credit card. People got approved for mortgages for their homes far more than they can afford and they said we're approved, go for it. You get you get your credit check and you can lease a car it's

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more expensive than you can afford. But hey, I'll just make the minimum payments I'm okay. And people built upon this debt because they didn't spend they spend outside of their means are on is teaching us or is teaching us that when you spend money, don't spend money that's not in your pocket. Don't take loans, don't be addicted to your credit card.

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Don't be like that spend within your means spend within your budget. You know, the only time the Muslim gets careful about spending is when they have to give sadaqa

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that's the only time the you know there's a you know the box is going around and people are collecting sadaqa for the masjid and you say man, electricity bill gas school. There's so much the whole budget for your family comes up in front of you you become a certified professional accountant, you know.

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But then when you go to the the video game store, or the electronic store

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and you're buying the new guy, the new phone, the tablet or you're buying the movie or whatever. The whole budget doesn't come in front of your eyes. You don't say what about the gas What about the electric you just spend it. You just spend it. We have to be responsible spenders. We can't be cheap and we can't overspend. A lot of you Mashallah are doing well financially. So you say to yourself, I can afford it. Just because you can afford it doesn't mean you should spend the money. Your money has other uses. You can you can help your family you have a lot of family back home. That's not

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Well, you can help them there. But you have a lot of community over here that's financially not very well off, you can help them, you can help people get out of debt.

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Your Money can do other good things. Instead of just buying yourself things, you know, you don't have to get the newest car, you don't have to get a decent car. I'm not saying get a car that you know, it's like, you know, the might as well get a donkey instead of a car. But not don't get that kind of car either got a decent car, but you don't have to get like all blinged out like a 350 z with like, spinner rims, and like, you know, neon lights and like, slow down when you drive by and chill out, dude, just get a normal car. You know, don't go crazy. Don't don't pay five times the price to buy the same kind of shirt, because it has the logo on it. You know, it has the brand. Oh,

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come on, man. They were made in the same factory. They're playing with you. They're messing with you. If you think that you're you get some more value when you wear a different brand. Don't be duped by these things. You know, be reasonable. You don't have people you know that people like to buy it expensive stores. And they like to carry the bag from the expensive store. And they like to play with extra most people. Oh, last door. Okay. Yeah, this guy? Mm hmm.

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Okay, and I've been at Haleakala, they maintain a healthy, normal, responsible budget in between. and we have to teach this to our kids. We have to teach this to our kids. Don't just give your kids money. Baba, can I have 20? Real? Nobody even asked for 20? You probably ask for 100 nowadays, right? What does the 20 look at 20.

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What does that, you know, I could wipe my nose with 20 Give me some real money. But I'm saying when you give your children money, make them work. That make them earn money. Don't just give it to them. When you just give children money, they have no value for money.

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They have no value for it. When you say you will wash the car, you'll vacuum the whole house, you will do this or that if you you know don't have work outside work inside the house, but work serious work and then I'll give you something, then you will earn it. You'll do all the dishes for this week. And then I'll give you something and even if you give them $2 but two years, five years 10 they will value it. If you just give it to them. You ask them the next day, where's the money? What money What are you talking about?

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They spend it like that because they have no value for it. I had a very wealthy friend in America, whose son memorize Quran. So he was so happy with his son, he bought him a BMW.

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Okay, and then m three. That's a serious car guys. That, you know, I've sat in an mp3 before and I've remembered molecule mode because the guy driving it went like he went 160 miles not kilometers miles an hour. That's insane. You know, speed of light. And the 1617 year olds driving an mp3 and he like got into three four accidents destroyed the car, destroyed the car. Father says these wealthy guy you know, he's a surgeon buys them. Alexis destroys it again. And he says he came to me and said, What should I do? I keep my son keeps destroying cars like why do you keep giving it to him?

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Tell him I am not buying you a car, go get a job. earn your money.

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So he works at a tire shop. He his father's a surgeon but he works at a tire shop. He works at a clothing store. He goes and does all kinds of you mowed lawns for people. He earns a little bit of money and then what does he do? He paid he buys this 15 $100 really bad car. But he washes it every day. He takes care of it. He's so proud of it. Hey, sisters, sisters.

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What just happened upstairs who's fighting?

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just end the fight right now. And let's come back to the those Okay, I know it's hard. I know. You don't want to do that.

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I still hear you. Yeah, you stop it.

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Okay. Sisters, let me tell you a little secret to how you get people to stop talking. You stare at them the way you stare at your husband when he forgot to get the groceries.

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Okay, you don't have to say anything. Just stare at them without look of death that you have mastered. And they will be quiet within 10 seconds. Okay, it always works. Okay. Anyhow, so spending responsibly. What's the next category? So beautiful? Somebody says man, stop. No, man. You gave us these categories, but I don't know. First category was control my anger. I'm like the Hulk will start. I can't control my anger. Forget that one next category. tiama forget that. I don't even do chiamata har I okay. I'm Elaine. Forget that. I can't do that when Give me the next one. Oh, they make a lot of daughter ask a lover and I can't remember the I'm busy right now I give me the next

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category. So can you spend responsibly nosedive Grand Theft Auto just came out

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You know I can't spend responsibly right now tell me in Ramadan Not right now, give me the next category Allah says when does the malaria their own ama Allahu Allah and Allah for those who don't call anyone other than Eliza God, he opened the door to all Muslims man.

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He opened the door to all you are special to me if you don't call on anyone other than Allah

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Subhana Allah. And then he said, there are a couple of other things when I have to learn and laughs and that he heard Rama, who

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don't kill anyone. You're like, at least I check that guy didn't kill anybody. I'm good. I must be special to Allah because I haven't killed anyone. And you wonder why would Allah put that here? I was talking about high expectations, anger control, beyond the main responsible spending, there are these are special qualities. What's so special about not killing someone? Someone's like few at least made that category. When is known. And they don't come in, in a big, big sense, right? Why did he mentioned that? I believe he mentioned that because for some people in the world, these things are difficult.

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There are some people whose whole family's mushnik they're the only one on top.

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And for them to only worship alive, it's very hard, but they still do it. They still do it. They're special to Allah. There are cities and states and countries where wars are going on. People are killing each other. And it's very easy to join in and just kill somebody. And they say No, I will not kill an innocent person. I won't do it. Even though it's really hard. It's really hard for them to stop. Everybody else is doing it. There are places in America where there are gangs, cities that have gangs, and this kid lives in the neighborhood. If you don't join the gang, either you're with them or you're against them. So if you're with them, you will kill other people. If you're against

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them, they'll kill you. And he refuses to kill people. He's risking his life that's special to Allah. He says what is known, and they don't commit Zina. They don't have boyfriends and girlfriends. They don't have secret relationships. Why did he mention that? Because for some people, it's always there. He's a good looking young guy. He walks around in the wall and the girl looks at him and goes he.

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And he's like, Oh, this is easy. You know, nobody's watching. I think it's okay. Should be alright.

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And he stops himself. He still stops. It's hard. I know. It's hard, guys. I know. It's hard. But you stop yourself.

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The girl thinks that guy's looking at me, man. He must think I'm really pretty.

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And she starts smiling. She stops herself. No, this is wrong. I can't do this. This is not right. Just because my parents aren't watching. Just because the police isn't here to stop me. Doesn't mean it's okay. What is known, they don't do it. They don't behave like that. There are young men in like, Where I come from in the US. Obviously, you know, kids go to college, and college in the summer is bad. You know, it's bad. And you have an 1819 year old boy whose whole hormones are raging

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inside of him. And then there's like, in his college classroom, there's girls sitting that are barely dressed.

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And this girl comes over to him and said, Hey, can you help me with the homework?

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He's being tested, viola is being tested. You guys are gonna be tested. That's not just in America, by the way. As much as an American, you'll be tested in the mall. You'll be tested when you go out and hang out. I know. I know. Who told you don't worry about it.

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I have big ears Alhamdulillah.

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You You will be tested with this. And if sometimes it's not going to be easy, especially for the young people here. It's not going to be easy. Maybe you have friends on your phone, man. Your parents don't know about it.

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You got a secret? You got another profile on Facebook. You're just updating it right now. And you have to unfriend all of those girls. Yep, you do you listening. You have to unfriend them. And don't call them back and don't text them back. And when they say What happened? You don't like me anymore? You don't even say no, no, no, no, no, it's not you. It's just Islam. No, don't do that. Don't even talk back just leave it drop it. And of Sorry, no more. Girls, if you're up to this stop it. You stop yourselves. You know you. This is not something your parents will come in control you when you are teenagers, and you have hormones and you reach the age of puberty and you're attracted to the

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opposite gender. That means in Islam, you are adults and you have to make your own responsible decisions. Your parents are no longer responsible for your Islam. You are responsible if you are 14 years old, 15 years old, even 13 years old and you die today. Then Allah will not say minor go easy on him. You are treated as an adult in our Deen. This religion makes you an adult early. The moment you start feeling a little funny about the other gender. You're an adult

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You will be tried by a lot like a 50 year old like a 30 year old You're the same as them hold yourself to a higher standard don't think of yourself as just a kid you are an adult when is known well many have identical common whoever did that he's he's gonna he's earned his come into contact with a great sin. How can I Muslim do this? How can a Muslim do *? How can I Muslim kill someone? How can a Muslim commit Zina? How can they do that?

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You bla bla bla bla man Kiana. The punishment will be doubled for those people. The pat the passage began these are special people to me. And now Allah says these cabal are these three things shirk murder and Xena adultery, illegitimate relations, these three things. If a Muslim does it, anybody else does it they will get punished. A Muslim does it I'll punish him who

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he knew it and he still did it. And we should take at least he didn't know when he did it. The Muslim newer and still did you ba da da da Yama on judgment day on Resurrection Day, the punishment is doubled for him while your fluid fee mohanan. And he will remain in that punishment humiliated. He will constantly be humiliated. Because shift and killing a person and Xena are humiliating crimes. They take away the dignity of a human being. And so Lhasa which is extremely angry at these people, then you're like maybe somebody sitting in this audience that's made some mistakes in their life. Don't raise your hand. Only Allah knows your mistakes. I don't want to know and you shouldn't

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tell people. It's between you and Allah. Maybe you made some big mistakes in your life. What about you you hear these ads are like oh my god, double punishment.

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Maybe I should leave the machine right now because this is pretty depressing. And then shaitaan comes to those kinds of people. You know what shaitan says to them, man, you go into hell anyway. Might as well party it up.

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You know, what are you doing in the mustard anymore? You're you're already on the express train. Just go all the way man. You know, you're already a gunner. What does the law say about these people in them and taba? What Amala? Well, I mean, I'm an insanely.

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The exception is people who did shift people who did murder people who did Xena. But the exception is even if you did these things, these things are all of these things. If you turn back to Allah,

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and you became a believer again, it's like you came became a new Muslim and you came in from all over again.

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And this time what I mean, I'm Allen solly. Han and he was very serious about doing good things from now on, is not just a amela funny Hi, Yakuza Amina.

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This is called the absolute additive, it's added to the verb to emphasize it over anything else. What that means in Simple English is this person came back to return back to Allah fix their faith. And then after fixing their faith, this time, they take their actions very seriously. They take their actions very, very seriously. They are really keen on doing good deeds. I mean, I'm an unsightly one. If you can become that person, even if you've done some terrible things in your life, thought Lula eco Ubud de la Jose, Tim Hashanah, then those people, Allah will take all of their sins and convert them into good deeds.

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He will not just get rid of your sentence. We want a lot to get rid of our sins. Maybe your sins are the size of a mountain.

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I don't want to see that mountain on judgment day. Allah will not get rid of the mountain, Allah will turn the mountain into a mountain of good deeds if you can make Toba. This is

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a live stream telling us the people that are furthest from Allah. You know the suicide Salam told us lie as Danny Hina is

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the one who commit Zina is not a Muslim, another believer at the time he's doing Zina. He's not a believer. The people furthest from a lot of people who lost their Eman. The people who do * the people who kill another person in this in person, the company will come in, they're further from Allah. And Allah says even if they are so far away from me, they turn back towards me. I will forget all of their crimes and I will convert their crimes into good deeds for them on judgment day.

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I will make them a bottle of mine to me, because they came back. They were so far away and they still came back to me. That's what a lot once. But when I say Yatim Hassan, what can Allahu Rahim Allah has always been extremely forgiving, always loving. Now somebody shaitaan comes to them as they're listening to this dubs and Showtime comes to them and says, hey, look, if you do a really bad sin, and then you make Toba, you can take the mountain of bad deed and turn it into a mountain of good deed. So why don't we just go out there and do some really bad stuff, and then make Toba because, man, that's the easiest way to get a huge pile of wood.

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And somebody else's thinking sitting there, man, these people were so messed up and they may

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towba and I'll give them so much, but I didn't, I'm not that bad. I just missed a couple of Salas. I got angry at my mom ones. You know, I talked back to my husband, and I said some mean things to my sister. And you know, I talked back to my father, my mother, etc. I have some issues. I've done some bad things, but it's not that bad. I didn't kill anyone. I didn't do zinna so is my Toba any good. I mean, there's always big things and they made Toba is what my Toba is for smaller things. So does it count is it any good? Allah says in the next ayah woman taba Amina

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anybody else who makes Nova? And does any good deeds? Find out we are doing a metabo that's a pretty good though. But he's also coming back to a lot of the very serious doba In other words, you don't say man, I haven't been really bad. So my job is not as good as the guy who's, you know, who's a gangster is like, kill 20 people and then he became a Muslim and NATO. No, no, no, no, no, no. Whatever sins you make, whatever sins, you may remember one thing about sins.

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If they are a, if they are no big deal to you, if your sins are no big deal to you, then they are a big deal to Allah.

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And when your sins are a big deal to you, they're a big problem for you, then they are a small problem for Allah.

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Allah will forgive them easily if you care a lot about your mistakes. If you don't care about your mistakes, it can be a small mistake, but it won't be very big on Judgment. Because you didn't care. Karen comes into heart Eliza justice. What is it? What is in our hearts, our attitudes? So woman tabouleh? I mean, it's hard to avoid amahi matava. Okay, so we have a few categories. These are all special people. What's the next category? There's so many ways to get into gender. So many ways to be a man and by the way, this is the part before the IRS. Remember that? We're still before the IRS. We haven't reached the end.

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So what's the next category? He says when the dean Eliasch Haruna Xu young people Please listen carefully. These are people they never witness useless company.

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Zoo means false testimony. It also means company that is useless doesn't have benefit is bothered. In other words, they don't hang out until two in the morning smoking hookah.

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They don't hang out till three in the morning just talking nonsense. They don't do that. They don't hang out with their friends. And you know what they do at the mall.

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They don't do that they don't get together and watch movies for hours and hours and hours. Why not? Because they've already made Toba. And when someone makes Toba, they know you know, when you go when you do big sins, you know how you get too big since you start with small sins, and then they get bigger and bigger. And then you get into the big things, then you realize that your sins were a result of your friends. The people you spend time with, they were the one that gets you It makes it easy for you to do bad things. So Allah says now that they have made Toba, they make sure they are never sitting in a gathering of evil. They're never sitting in a gathering of falsehood. Sometimes

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you get invited to a party.

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And maybe those people that invited you are not very religious. So they're blasting the music. Women have makeup on their men and women are mixed together and you're in the middle of this party. What do you suppose it's your uncle? It's your cousin's party, you're like, you know, stand up as a ballerina.

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And then walk out.

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But you make an excuse. I have to get going, shall I gotta get going? Are you Mashallah you live in a country with the land can be heard anywhere, right? So hopefully you get there for 10 minutes you were in that gathering, because it's family, you got to go, then you heard the sound is, hey, it's Vietnam. I'll be right back.

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And then you go, and you pick them up, and you hang out until I shot a shot, then come back to the party and say, everybody's already left and I go, yeah, sorry.

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You can do that you but you have you don't embarrass those people. You don't embarrass them, but you don't participate either. You find a smart way to get out of it. So Allah says whether the inhalation reservoir is our model Ruben nahi mabuchi Rahman. When they pass by useless conversation, when they pass by a useless activity when they're exposed to it and they will be then they leave it in a dignified way. They don't just make a scene alone just there's some funny stories in my life and when I was a college student, there were a bunch of guys in our college Muslim guys they used to play cards. Outside the masala there are college in Queens College we had a masala and outside

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themselves a student room. The students used to get together and they play cards. Now they're inside the studio room. There's some people making salad and outside these guys are playing cards. So this guy came out with you, you people. Are you playing cards, you should be making slots inside.

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And this one guy looks at me does grow beard, man, leave me alone.

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Why would it? Why would he insult him like that? Why? Because when you see people doing useless things, you cannot get angry at them. You have to leave them in a dignified way. If you're going to give them advice given in a respectful way, respect people, even if they're doing wrong things, we have a hatred for sins, not for people who do them. We don't need to hate people who make mistakes. We hate the sin itself. So our model will be lovely maruka Rahman, some of you have friends that have bad habits, and they invite you. Some of you have friends that do drugs. I know. And you know about it. Sometimes they've even offered it to you. And you're like, No, no, not only should use try

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to stop them from doing it, if you have friends like that, get away. One thing you should do is try to get them out of it. And if you can't, you should distance yourself, save yourself. If you are not going to go save them, you'll get messed up with them. You have friends that have some friends that drink, they don't care, they drink, you know. And obviously it's Haram. But when some people do haram a lot, then in their mind, it's not that haram anymore. It becomes no big deal. You know, they say in Arabic compare hotrock borsato swap. You make a big deal out of something, it's a big deal. It's not you don't you minimize it, it's minimal to you. It's not that big deal to you. It's not a

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it's not that bad. You know, do you have friends like that? You have to try to advise them and if they don't change their ways, you cannot be in their company. You have to distance yourself. Model module kerama they walk away in a dignified way. Now we're coming towards the end soupcon Allah, when does he know that this is the next category? When the Lena is algo que be if you're behind? Let me tell you this next category could be all of you that are sitting over here right now. All of you. You have an opportunity to belong to this category. Well, myself included when the Athena is a looky loo Be it Robbie him. Lamb Yasser Rouhani, ha summon omiana when they are reminded of the I art of

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their master, I am being reminded when I'm speaking I am being reminded of the I art of my master. And you sitting here are being reminded of the art of your master. Allah says when they are being reminded of the art of their master lumea why they have so many more Anjana. They didn't pass over those IOD they didn't trip over them mute deaf and blind.

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They didn't just go over them like Oh, I didn't you know, it's a nice speech, but I'm still going to do what I'm going to do.

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You know, my teacher used to call it an older Samsung Sony on a

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right. If people listen and they listen and they nothing changes. You've been listening to speeches your whole life, what has changed. Allah says you want to be a badass man. You listen to a podcast, you listen to an mp3, you listen to a YouTube video, you listen to a dust like this sitting over here. And when you walk out of here, you say I will not forget these lessons. These are lessons for my life. It's not just a speech in a program. It's not just a program. This is reminding myself of the art of my Rob. What he told me to do, so I will become I have to become one of these people. He has someone who I'm young and when the Drina who Luna Ravana hublin arminas wodgina was Maria Tina

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kurata. Union. This is the daughter of this Omar today. Let me tell you something, guys, I've traveled not that much. But I've traveled enough. I've seen enough of the oma to be able to make some observations. The crisis of the oma is not economics. It's not politics. It's not education. It's not corruption. That is not the crisis of the oma. The crisis of the oma is that the family unit is being destroyed. People don't know how to raise their kids anymore. People don't know what it means to be parents anymore. Husbands don't know what to what it means to be a husband anymore. wife doesn't know what it means to be a wife anymore. Children don't know what it means to be

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children anymore. That is being destroyed by the modern context we live in. And when when we learned this da, we learned that one of the things that will protect us will save us save our oma is that we protect our family. We protect that unit. The biggest priority the parents in this room have the biggest priority you have is the Islam of your children.

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What will they do when you're gone? Are they only making salad because you're standing over there? Or are they making salad because you've been able to put the taqwa of Allah in their hearts

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yaku Allah His Salam is dying, he's dying. And he looks at his children and says,

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I'm going to Shahada mode is called and even he

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is dying and he looks at his children says what are you going to worship after I'm gone? while I was here? You used to pray. Used to worship Allah used to make God him but I'm leaving. What are you going to do after I'm gone? What are you going to do? That's tarbiyah

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This door. Our Master give us the gift hub. Lana, give us the gift not Athena, not Athena. Right. It's Helena, from Heba from Hebrew in Hebrew and Arabic means a gift that you didn't expect. Yeah, Allah give us the unexpected, undeserved gift What gift mean as wodgina was a yachtie Nakata from our wives and our husbands and our children, give us what makes our eyes so happy that it makes us cry kurata it cools our eyes. You know what that means? It makes you so happy. You want to cry when you listen to your child recite Quran, and they love reciting Quran that it makes you so happy. You want to cry. When you look at your wife and watch how she's raising your children, it makes you so

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happy you want to cry, when she looks at the husband who wakes up his two children for his children for budget and takes them to the machine. She wants to cry. She's so happy. Our husbands cry, and our wives cry, but they don't cry because they're happy.

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They cry for other reasons.

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You know, we are asking the law for tears of joy. We want to be so happy with our family. How are we going to do that? Right now? Every day you go home, you fight with your wife, man. Every day you go home?

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Like why were you so late? Why are you asking me always asked me Don't you know there's traffic look outside the window. And you start every day every day? And then you're so angry, then you look at the child and he's like, what are you Why are you playing with a toy? Why do you look happy?

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We don't have happiness here.

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Where's your homework? I didn't get any homework. You know, why not? I'm gonna complain to your school.

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You know, God, this is not karate.

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There are people who come to the machine first a lot.

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And a lot is supposed to make you give you peace. It's supposed to make you calm. It's supposed to settle you down. And then they go home and there's a tornado that walked into the house.

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Home children or children hide under the bed. You know, the wife gets off the phone so that you know, you cannot be the reason for your family to be afraid of you. You should be a reason for your family to be joyed overjoyed, your children should be loved or they should run to you and hug you when you come home.

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That's the relationship you should have with your children. And while I'm on this topic

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20 years ago, 30 years ago, 40 years ago, parenting was different. Now it's not the same. You cannot afford to be I'm talking to the fathers here. You cannot afford to be authorities over your children.

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You cannot afford that you have to be friends and authorities with your children. Our fathers were not friends with us. They were authorities. We didn't like slap our dad on the back and say Hey, Dad, let's go play some basketball. Let's play some football. We didn't do that about him on Baba. Baba, can you sit straight?

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Somebody can you get their shoes. That was 20 years ago, 30 years ago, your kids don't do that.

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And they won't. You were living in 2013. Brothers and sisters, we have to accept reality our children are exposed to a lot of things. It doesn't matter if you're in the Muslim world or anywhere else. If there are no remain, you have to respect your parents, but our children, we have to the only one who will give them the love of Islam is you and you will not be able to give it to them. If you're only an authority. If you only yell at them and tell them what to do. But you're not their friend.

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Every father here should know and master the video games your children play. You should be better if you're letting your kids play video games. First of all, that's a problem. But if you are letting them play and you're not going to let them stop, then you better play with them.

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And you better be sitting there playing with them. You don't go watch the news. You're not going to change the world.

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You've watched enough news, believe me and nothing has changed.

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You need to know what you know whether the stock market went up or down. You don't even care about stocks. Why are you watching the news? It has nothing to do with you. Listen to it in the car. When you're in the don't come home and watch TV. Don't come home and watch the news. Come home and play with your kids. do homework with your kids. Talk to your kids. Take your kids to the machine.

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Do that with them.

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Make your kids love you.

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I tell you I'm telling you if we don't have fathers, if the fathers don't do this, we will lose this on them. We will lose our next generation. I am telling you. I'm guaranteeing you. This is the real problem that I cannot come from America chef Mufti mink, and most of the men cannot come from, you know, all different places in the world. They come in the city and they give you a dose. We can only help a little bit.

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You can only help a little bit the real change that will

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Come in your child's life will come from you. Or come from you are bunnahabhain arminas wodgina, Tina kurata Aryan. And now let me talk to the sisters for a little bit. Sisters, you're stuck with your husband, stop being angry. Accept it, and try to love your husband. Try to make your husband happy. Because believe me, if he gets even a little bit happy, you will be really happy.

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I'm telling you right now you say I'm angry. Why should he be happy?

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I know you I know. I've talked to enough of you. I know.

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He doesn't care about me. Why should I care about him? And he thinks the same thing. She doesn't care about me. Why should I care about her? You start, you'll be nice to him. You smile at him and he'll get he'll get all shot? Like Why are you smiling?

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Is everything okay? You know, is your is your mother here is that.

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You know, ah, you have to be nice to your husband. You have to don't dress up when you go to a wedding. Dress up for your husband.

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Even if you have four kids, it doesn't matter. Dress up for your husband. There's enough shaitaan and fitna outside,

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your husband should find beauty in you not anywhere else. Use you should and you should be caught you should compliment your wife. You should say nice things to your wife. You shouldn't just always complain. Where are the keys? Where's the mail? Did you get them? Did you get the groceries? Did you do this? Did you or you didn't know anything or you don't listen to me? Stop man. There's not enough salt. There's too much salt. There's not enough sugar, there's too much sugar. There's not hot enough. It's too hard. Stop, stop. say nice things to your wife. And I know if you're like Indian Pakistani, that it's very difficult for you.

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I know. It's very hard to say nice things to your wife. In our culture. If you say nice things to your wife, your ribs hurt.

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You know, so you have to immediately follow it up with something mean, you have to say something bad right effort to balance the equation. You can't just say nice things. So if the food is really really like, Oh, I still got a check. But I still hate your mother like something you have to

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you have to add something.

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You know, but don't try to be this is the de we're asking a lot to give us so much happiness from our wife and her husband and our children that it makes us want to cry out of joy. How will that happen? You cannot ask Allah for something and not make any effort yourself. It doesn't work that way. You cannot say Robbie Johnny mukhi masala tea, may Allah make me establisher of the prayer and you're sitting lying down in bed vans going on, you're like, it'd be Johnny Maki, Maserati.

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I was not gonna send you angels and carry you and lift you to the slot and doesn't make you make ruku and get you back. You gotta get up yourself, man.

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You make dawn you make some effort yourself, you're not gonna make dough. And all of a sudden your wife will start loving, you know, you have to show her love too. You have to do that you have to make some effort in the house. I am telling you. This is the work of the oma today fixing the family, fixing the family. And when our children see that the husband and wife are fighting with each other, they slip through the cracks. So they get in trouble with the mother. They run to the Father. When they get into trouble with the Father. They run to the mother and they know they can do whatever they want that way. Because they know father and mother don't like each other. When father

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and mother are a team. Oh man, then they got nowhere to go.

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You went to you go to mom, mom's like, Okay, hold on. Let me call your dad. Let's talk about this together. Oh, no, no, no. I was hoping we could discuss this by ourselves without getting father involved. No, no. You know, this is humbling. I mean, as wodgina was reacting.

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And why should we do this? Why should I care so much about raising a good family being a good husband will lie when you're a good husband, your son will be a good husband.

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When you're a good wife, your daughter will be a good wife, sisters. This is what's good. And if you're not, then you will create bad families now in the future and you will be the fault. You will be the reason. So we say Matatini mama make us Emma make us leaders over people that have Taqwa. In other words, everybody who has a household is an Imam, you have an imam of the masjid. You have any mom of you know the masala but every house has an Imam. You're the mom of your house.

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I don't care if you have a beard or not. You're the mom of your house. I don't care if you memorize put on or not. You're the mom of your house. And you want to make sure that your household that you are a mom over these people are looked at in the last thing I want to share with you about these requirements is why why did I say what I learned in Latina mama on judgment day when I stand in front of Allah as an Imam over my six

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Children and my wife, when I am a mom over them, they will be tied to me.

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And if I didn't do my job with them, and they made mistakes, because of me, their mistakes will also cost me I will be dragged down with them.

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But if I raised my children correctly, and I did good with them, and they went on to serve Allah's Dean and become good people earn good deeds that allow raises them, and when he raises them automatically, because I'm chained to them, he raises me. We asked a lot to be with him over Mottaki. Because we asked that because we need it on Judgement Day, my deeds are not enough. I'm going to need commission from my children and their children and their children and their children.

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I tell you something,

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where I, you know, I'm originally from Pakistan, and I come from a family and a extended family. That's not very religious. We're not like, super religious, I wasn't raised religious. And we made some salad here and there. But overall, we're not that, you know, and the most Pakistani families are like that. There are some that are religious, but most of them in our circle, at least we're not like that. Right.

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And you know, what? They were really like, you know, when I started learning more about the religion, my cousins and other family members, were kind of a little bit in shock. Or a little bit taken aback. Why are you growing a beard? We don't do that. You know, why is your wife wearing Hijab and niqab and all of that? Why is she doing that? You know, why do you Why can't you be regular? Why can't you be normal? They said, right? Because normally we know women don't want a job and it's all good. And the men are the way they are and salata once in a while is fine. No big deal. You go to a wedding, but by the time MongoDB shall go by nobody cares. Songs are playing. It's no problem.

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Right? And so they say you are leaving the tradition. Why aren't you like us? Why do you want to be like the Mona Lisa. What do you want to be? I'm a really strange I'm always albino. I'm wearing a suit. I know. It's weird. It's confusing to you. I understand. I'll explain it to you one day, I'll come back and explain it to you.

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But for now, let me tell you something. Look back two generations ago. Look at the picture of your great grandfather and his wife. They barely had black and white photographs back then.

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What do you guess what grandpa's got a big old beard and grandma's got you don't even see her face.

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That's our tradition.

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Someone in this lineage decided that they will not take the deen seriously.

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And then their children decided not to take it. They take it even less seriously. And their children take it even less seriously until you get to a point where they're not even Muslim.

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I met a I met a fellow while I was in. I was at a Quran conference in Las Vegas. I swear it was a Koran conference. Okay. So I was there at a Quran conference. And I met this really old white couple. You know, they're in their 90s, blond hair, blue eyes. They came into the machine.

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And they said, What are you doing here? He goes, Well, we just became Muslim last year.

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And we decided that we want to meet as many Muslims as we can before we die. So we go stop at every machine in America. And we started in Ohio. And now we've made it to Vegas. And we're going to go on to California and so on. And I was like, why did you become Muslim?

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91 year old man and woman become Muslim. He said I was looking up my family tree. And I realized that we're actually of Lebanese origin. And my great grandfather who moved to America was actually a Muslim.

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But then his son, my grandfather, and married a Christian. And then the children were raised pretty much between the two religions. And then they ended up choosing Christianity. And then we were raised Christians and I've been raised a Christian, My children are Christian. But when I look back at my lineage, I said how was My great grandfather Muslim? What is Islam anyway? I started reading it and I came back to Islam. Allah Allah. So how do

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you know what how many people lose their religion? How many people and you don't have to become a Christian or a Jew or an atheist to lose your religion? Isn't it enough that we're not even praying anymore?

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Is it a level that our children aren't even praying anymore? Unless isn't for unfastened acaba, la sala.

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He didn't confirm the truth and the proof is he didn't pray.

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Accepting the truth of Islam. The proof of that is what you pray. You don't pray. That means you don't really think it's the truth. For Kabbalah, Salah can get the rotonda he lied, he called it a lie, and he turned away from it. And he said, I wonder if you're not turned away from the prayer, you know? So now these are the qualities of a badass man. But this is all one part of the sentence. What is the conclusion? What is what Allah giving these people? He says, ooh, LA, zona, la hora, Fatah Bhima sabado. The slaves of Allah who control their anger and all

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Those who pray in the middle of the night and also those who make daughters be saved from jahannam and also those who are financially responsible, and also and also and also and also what about them, they are the ones that Allah will be giving them they will be compensated with very high and lofty mentions. They will be given palaces because of the suburb they had. Because of the patience they had. What is the law telling us? All of these qualities require What? Some what a sovereign mean, someone doesn't just mean patience, it means constancy. Let me tell you what constancy is because Ramadan is coming. Some people become very good Muslims in Ramadan, but they don't have the suburb

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to continue after Ramadan.

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You can have these good qualities you can control your anger, but you say I controlled it for like two months.

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I ran out of gas.

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And I went back to normal again. No, no. sobor means when you take one of these qualities, it's for life.

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If you're able to make that a lifestyle choice, then these people get gender Viva sabado Well, you're not going to hear what Solomon and they're going to be greeted they're walking into genda and the angels are waiting there. And they're walking in there calling your name Hey, I'm so happy you're here. Congratulations. This is your palace. It has all of these entrances by the way there's a waterfall in the back we'll check it out all of the others giving you a full tour of your palaces and you're being treated like a tour guy. Angels are your tour guides and Jenna you know kunafa here and was Salama and when you go to an expensive place when you go to like you know sometimes hotels

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look like palaces. You go spend how many nights in a hotel One, two, it's expensive. And then you realize I'm going to leave here but I should take some pictures before I know. It was nice. It was a nice or you go to some beautiful island or beautiful resort vacation place How long can you stay there just a little bit you're being given this beautiful tour. Allah says Holly Dena fee ha they're going to stay here is not temporary. This is your home now. This is where you live. How soon that must occur on Momo common. This is such an awesome place to be temporarily and long term. Now the question comes How come Allah mentioned I understand gender he mentioned long term. Why did he

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mention what?

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temporarily? Short term Why did you mention was Takara hasta la Mr. Carmen Momo Carmen FMO Carmen

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Hulu woodfill Jelena Kalamata moussaka because because if you make it to one level of genda, Allah azza wa jal is giving you the option, it might be that it might upgrade you to the executive suite. Next Level agenda. So this home you have an agenda, as awesome as it is might be temporary, because Allah is about to upgrade you.

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And then you go, you go to the upgrade, and it might be the last again about to upgrade you again. And so there's an open there's a door open in this ayah for Muslims, maybe we make it gender has seven levels, you make it to level one,

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maybe the basement of level one you made it, what I was offering you over time will still give you even more, more above and above and above. I'll keep giving you better so Pamela, so how to love It's awesome. One of the descriptions of gender in the Quran we find is Marquis thena Fie Abba de Souza says Maquina de la vida. Marcus in Arabic means someone who's waiting for something. And they're excited.

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Musa alayhis salam told his family Wait here.

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I'm gonna go see about that fire on coo

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coo coo coo Nora, you stay here when they're staying here? are they waiting excitedly like, I can't wait till he comes back or they're like, yeah, might as well stay here. No, they're nervous. They're excited because they're waiting for the next thing. Allah says in for iron. We will constantly be waiting in genda in excitement you know what that means? Allah will give you fruit and you'll eat Wow, that was amazing. And then you're excited because the next delivery is coming. Then Allah will show you a palace and you're so happy but then you're excited because the next palace is about to be shown. You're constantly going to be upgraded and this is going to happen forever. Forever. You

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can't go beyond iPhone five guys.

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You have to wait you have to make lots of Doha for six.

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No, you got the Samsung whatever. That's it. There's you have to wait till the upgrade. But you know, everything about genda will be upgraded and upgraded permanently, permanently permanently. Keep moving up. This hustlers, Mr. Khurana mahkamah. I shared this with you because I want to encourage you and your families to be a badass man.

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Allah did not tell us you have to do all of this. He said at least do one of these. Give me one of these. So I have a reason

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They call you a badass man give a lot of reason to be called and I bought a lot man give a lot of reason. You know, he is so loving and kind that he he instead of setting higher requirements, he lowers the requirements he keeps. Okay you don't you can't do that one. How about this one? How about this one? How about this one? How about this is how Lola is so many gamers? Allah azza wa jal truly make us a bottom of man. And may Allah azza wa jal, you know put Baraka in this community in the lives of the Muslims here, may Allah azza wa jal make for all of you and your wives and your children, for the sisters or brothers, the elders, the young for all of them learning for an easy

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learning the CEO of Rasulullah saw Salaam easy, you know memorizing for an easy understanding the language of the Quran easy, and a God that you guys are the reason that the Arabic language is revived in the knowledge that you guys speak Arabic so well and so purely and so refined, there is not even a single bit of imea in it. You get so good at Arabic, that Arabic itself gets revived by these foreigners that are sitting here. I want to be part of that plan. I want to make you guys into Arabs, sooner or later. inshallah Tada. I mean, I'm inspired, I think there's a real potential in the at least the Muslim community that speaks English. There is a very easy way all of you can learn

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very, very good Arabic, the language of the Quran, connect directly with the Quran and speak the language of our beloved was also the Mahabharata. He was you know, one of the reasons we should desire to learn Arabic is not just to understand the Quran, but because these words and these, this language came out of the love of the words of our Habib sung Allahu Allahu wa sallam. That shouldn't be enough for me to want to speak it should be enough you know? It's just out of his love. I want to speak this language. And if you're going to learn this language, don't just learn how to order a shawarma.

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Learn it properly so you you taste it you you know you really get engrossed in it and you see its beauty. Allah gave this woman a gift. You and I are from different ethnicities. They were from different ethnicities but the one thing we have in common is the Koran. Welcome Anwar Ravi Coronavirus Arabic you know are Rasulullah Ravi dasun is an Arab Allah made the Arabic language universal. Turkish is for the Turks French is for the French or do is for the Pakistani Indians Punjabi is for the Punjabi is Bangla for the Bangladeshis. But Arabic is for the Muslim.

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Arabic is not for one nation is not for one ethnicity is not for what it's for the Muslim. Every Muslim, I don't care if you're French, or German or Italian or Spanish, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, even Punjabi, I'll take it.

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I'll take it.

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You can learn Arabic and you will and you will be awesome at it. You have to believe that Allah will make that easy for you. If your intention is you want to get closer to Allah word, then Allah will open doors for you, you could not have even imagined, you could not have imagined. I want you guys to at least take first steps in Arabic. How many people here can read on but they don't understand it. You can read it, but you don't understand it. This vast majority of you. If you're in this state, I used to be like you in 1999 1999. I read Quran but I didn't understand what I was reading. I took her class for three weeks, I began to understand what I was reading. I kept doing about half

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an hour of study a day. I've never studied Arabic full time in my life. Never. I've only studied Arabic and on part time, I made it a part of my life. And I'm still a student of the Quran and I'm still a student of the Arabic language. That's what I want for Muslims. You don't have to stop your life to learn this language. You just need 20 minutes a day. You just need 30 minutes a day. I want to be able to give you that plan. I want to give you that plan. You run with it. I gave you yesterday by yuna.tv. Yes. on it. Some of you are already students on it. There are there's a pro I started teaching my own daughter My 12 year old daughter, 11 year old daughter, I started teaching

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her some Arabic of the Quran, how to understand Arabic of the Quran. 15 minutes, 20 minutes a day.

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And she's not a super genius. She makes a lot of mistakes and forgets things and gets in trouble and all of that. But I decided to record every session as I teach her. Because I figure if I can teach her a 10 year old and you can learn. Your kids can learn, your wife can learn you can you can all learn. And if you can stay with it, you can begin to understand the Quran. It's just 20 minutes, 15 minutes a day for maybe three, four days a week, not much. You can do that. You don't have to change your lifestyle in order to do this. So I want you to try to use it. It's called Arabic with the pasta. Look it up. Google it even you'll find it Arabic with pasta. You know, it's on Vina TV the

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website I gave you yesterday in court in Ramadan. I don't want you to study Arabic I want you to study Quran but after that just little by little by little

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learning some Arabic You are blessed to be in the heritage you're blessed to be in like our country like Qatar, there are so many orlimar here and so many gurus here and you're missing out

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because they're all in Arabic.

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I think you can get there in a year, within a year you should be sitting in those calacatta

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Understand? Why not? Absolutely you can do it in shallow Tada. So that's that's the hope and the prayer I have. I want all of you to sincerely please make draw for myself, my colleagues my teachers and also my family especially made God that the projects we have the project I personally have I think that we we did something pretty interesting in America you know, we we started this experiment of teaching Arabic in America and Subhanallah we've seen amazing results. Students are speaking Arabic fluently they're joining you know, Islamic universities and other countries. You know, after meeting the Arabic requirements from us, people are shocked that they're learning Arabic in our in

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America of all places. We think we're we've reached a pretty successful curriculum. Now the job is to make that curriculum available to the entire oma so the entire Omar can learn her entire Omar can begin to understand for answer make the offer our project and make dog that allows origin you know, helps the Muslims learn through it and improve and keep the sincerity going for all of us and even at Allah that is the sincere request I have from all of you in shallow data. It's really it's been an awesome awesome trip for me. It really has been and one of the things that you know, if I have to say to you, is you know, we live in different countries and different continents were separated by

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oceans, but will lie when you come to a Muslim country and you see all the faces you see majority of them are people of La ilaha illAllah you get a new love for the oma is got a new love for the oma you know they everyone here is someone I hope to see and I don't get to know you today. Well we're gonna have a lot of time in genda

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we're gonna have a lot of time to hang out you know, that's the I see these people I want to meet agenda. I want to get to know every one of them. And then we look back and say I remember that program. You were there. You were there. Oh, wow. Yeah, that was pretty cool. And we can request is there a recording available in general for this program? Can we have that and the angels might play a recording for like yeah, that was pretty cool.

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You know, I want to do that. I want to it just really I'm more inspired to see more and more of the Muslim world because I think it just This is love that needs to be there in the oma it's missing then it's missing. show love to each other. When you go to the masjid and pray make a friend don't just grab your slippers and climb over the next guy and grab your shoes and go see salon to someone. So while you go How are you? How's it going? cetera just make a friend and even if they're weird, like they don't say why they come the salon. It's okay. Okay, find the next guy. Make get to know people become social. And the machine is the place to do that. People who come to the machine, there

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are people who want to get close to Allah, that's the best kind of friend you can have. Right? Make friends at the machine. Get to know people let the machine sisters, it's helpful for you to do that too. You can make other friends with other sisters here. When you come to make a lot don't just give sisters the look of death that I talked about before. You can also turn it off a little bit and talk and have a normal conversation and make some friends. This is how the oma get bonds is how the oma comes closer and closer and closer. This is how we stopped killing the how we can kill nationalism and tribalism and racism. We can kill these things by putting a lot of alarms or there's a burqa in

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the house of Allah take advantage of that. I pray that Allah azza wa jal helps all of you do that. I make lots of art for the future of this community, the president of this community, may Allah protect you from all kinds of fitness. May Allah azza wa jal make you stronger and stronger in your Eman. May Allah azza wa jal protect not only your deen but also your dunya in you know in this part of the world now love and Baraka and all of your risk, may Allah as well make you people of South Africa. May Allah make you an example for other Muslims to follow. Allah has led to help you create services for the oma that don't just benefit your own people, they benefit people all over the

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world. May Allah azza wa jal bless those and reward those who work so hard to make this program happen. And so many programs like this happen. I know we on our end, they're very difficult to deal with. So they were very patient with us and they really went out of their way to take care of us in the hospitality I felt here is unbelievable. I've never felt that kind of hospitality anywhere ever before. So I'm very, very grateful to the brothers and maybe even the sisters that were involved in putting this together. The institutions are very grateful to fill out for the opportunity. Alhamdulillah I'm very honored that I got to be here and I met some of the faculty in the

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administration and the director Mashallah it's a great bunch of people make dua that Allah azza wa jal puts even more like enthusiasm in their hearts so they let you know they've led even more programs like this happen over and over again inshallah Tada, but I'm personally I'm leaving with a

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very optimistic hard. I'm leaving shallow toddler tomorrow and I'll be making to offer you as I travel, but I'm, I'm telling you I feel good about what I see I know there are problems but there's far more opportunities than problems really and the opportunities here excite me. They're really, really exciting. So inshallah, maybe in the future you'll see more of me here in

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color. Thank you so very much for listening tonight. barakallahu li walakum wa salaamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh