Surah Yusuf #19

Nouman Ali Khan

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Surah Yusuf Part 23_ She Locked All The Doors

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh

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Billahi min ash shaytaan Raji what are our that will let he who he Beatty Hyun FC he wahana katene Baba Khalid haylock Kala de la he in la hora b x and Ms.

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In a hula you flee who Wally moon. Rubbish at least recently Emily looked at me lasagna colleague, Fernando de la salatu salam O Allah, Allah Allah Allah He was a Marine, Mr. Raja, once again everyone Samadhi come to light Allah workato my intention today is to cover or at least hopefully can cover entirely what I can extract or I can attempt to extract from iron number 23 of solid use of this is now the fitna that Yusuf Alayhi Salam was placed in so once Allah mentions his qualities of maturity, hikma hokum, and then his son but he makes the most of a situation and does the very best that he can. When he gives us these qualities that he has, then immediately after that we see

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that Allah has put him to the test. So the first thing to observe here in the sequencing of the ayat is that when Allah gives you strength, I'm going to give you something good, then that good is put to the test, that it's going to have to stand up against something bad, to see how good it truly is. And that's just the nature of the struggle in this world. Allah has given us lots of opportunities, lots of blessings, and each one of those blessings can be turned into a curse. It can be an if we a few if we abused them, or if we misuse them. The other important thing to note here is the advice the timeless advice given by jacoba salaam, to his son, he told him in the shade, Donna Lillian,

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Sania do move in when he was telling him watch out for your brothers, they'll scheme against you. He said, The devil is an open enemy. Right. So the the brothers on the outside are your caretakers, they're yours. They're your siblings, they're your blood. But there are things you have to look out for. And the dad's already been observing that and he said, the real enemy behind all of that is the devil. And that also suggests that the devil works in slow and steady ways. And the devil works in scheming ways, and he gets people to do things behind the scenes until they finally take action. So what I try to illustrate to you in the story, in the part of the story that has to do with the

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brothers is that the evil plan was, or the evil intention and the evil feelings are brewing, and they could have been addressed, there was a way to address them in healthy ways, but they didn't. And they allowed those toxic feelings to get worse and worse, until it leads to a catastrophic action, attempted murder, or at the very least abandonment of the of a child, which is for all practical purposes, leaving leaving into in the hands of death. Now, on the in this part of the story, we find the devil scheming again. So the devil plays with different people in different ways. And even though Yusuf Ali Salaam had to deal with the devil scheme at the hands of those close to

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him, that were put in charge of him that were supposed to be the crossbar around him, while that is concerned, and and the devil got to them, and they brought him all kinds of harm. The similarly now he's in the house of the minister. And the first thing we learned about that household is the husband told the wife honor his residence, a creamy myth. Well, he even said, we have good hopes for him in the future, as in Fina, own a tequila, hawala done. So that's the cut. That's the only conversation we have in the Quran. So it's strategic by a large design, there are hundreds of conversations, if not 1000s, or 10s, of 1000s. That happened between husband and wife. This is the

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only quote that's taken from the entire experience and mentioned in the Quran, because it's that significant, that the wife was told, honor his resonance, which also suggests that he's going to be out at work most of the time. And she's in charge of how the sleeves are dealt with, how they're fed, where they're sleeping, how their housing is, etc, etc. She's in charge of payroll and HR, if you will, inside of the house. But now he's come to the age of being a younger man. And he's he's developed certain really wonderful qualities which Allah describes as well. I'm a believer should the who, Athena who hookman or ailment, workaholic energy not seen the previous side that I talked

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to you about now, yesterday, I spoke to you about these ions from a spiritual point of view. And I also spoke to you about these ions from an intellectual point of view. But now we're going to talk about the same ions from a social point of view, from a social point of view, a young man who is wise beyond his years, extremely intelligent and well versed, clearly, very well educated and knows how the world works, and is morally upright, seems to be making the right decisions all the time, carries himself in a decent dignified fashion, speaks volumes and the confidence with which he carries himself to the point where even his master makes him in charge of decision making at times.

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So this young man exhibits wisdom, intelligence, confidence, spiritual and moral excellence. I mean, if there was a list for the perfect bachelor and what qualities he should have, he's got them and we're not even talking about his looks yet right? That

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So that's a later issue. So but before any of that, these incredibly attractive qualities, that if you know, if I think I would want a husband for my daughter, what should I look for, you know, or for what a woman would want to look for in a good husband? These are some spectacular qualities, why wouldn't he be attractive? Why wouldn't he be someone that a woman is drawn towards, even if he's doing nothing to draw that attention, just by being the way that he is? It's, it's gravitating attention towards him. And that's, you guys know, the stories that's coming later on anyway, that he did gravitate so much attention towards himself, that was unwanted, he didn't want that attention.

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But just the way that he is just the way that he carries himself just the way even that he looks. So from the most shallow to the most deep analysis, because you know, somebody could be good looking. And then they open their mouth, and you're like, yeah, yeah, it could be that way. Or it could be someone's highly intelligent, but difficult to look at. Like could happen. You know, someone could be, you know, morally upright, but not very intelligent, you could have one thing, but not another, another thing and not another, there could be something missing. But here, we're talking about a total package, you know, so he's incredibly charming and attractive in that way, even if he's not

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looking for that kind of attention. It's just coming his way anyway. And the problem with being the center of attention, whether you like it or not, is that you typically, you know, you could catch anybody's eye. But for most people, it'll just be a thought, and they'll move on. But then there are some people who the wrong kinds of people want to take further steps, right. So you could find somebody attractive, and then just, you know, and move on with your life. And that's okay. But here, there's something else that's going to happen. So that's one thing that I wanted to kind of have in the back of your minds as we proceed. The other thing is, I did mention today in a post,

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and I thought I discussed it with my wife, and she thought it was appropriate to do so ahead of time instead of in the live video itself. Just to give you guys a disclaimer that the subject matter that's coming from number 23 onwards, does have to do with infidelity does have to do with attraction does have to do with going towards Xena, and the lessons that we have to draw from it just like I've tried to do with the earliest I out of the surah. Every time we stop at an IRA, we try to ask ourselves the question, I asked myself the very difficult question, what are the points of guidance that I can extract for this for myself, as a slave of Allah, Allah is telling me

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something that I need to learn from it. And the same thing I could, I could gloss over this part of the story because younger kids are watching and not extract what can be extracted, because when we start extracting that sort of stuff, it may not be age appropriate. Now that's set some people off the wrong way. And I'm, I'm not interested in responding to social media comments at all, but I do see opportunity. When people do comment, I see an opportunity to understand how, what kinds of thought processes are out there. How do people process things? How do people think about information? How do people think about the revolution or the religion or Koran and things like that,

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and I think some of these two senses are important to share, not to address this particular issue, but the larger thought process. So one interesting comment or response that came my way when I shared this disclaimer, was that the Quran is for all human beings, all all ages, and we shouldn't be holding back from hiding the book of Allah from children and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam where's the evidence that the prophets I seldom ever stopped children from learning with use of this is not the right Who are you to do that? And you know, etc. So forget who am I am nobody Anyway, I'm not sure if I'm not a scholar, I don't have a job center seed. I have none of those

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things. I have a good friend who's remarkably qualified intercede. She has a hip surgery. I learned from people that are incredibly well qualified intercede, but I have no hesitation in claiming that I'm not a scholar, and I probably never will be and I'm completely comfortable with that. So it's not a secret. Anybody who follows me already knows that. I will however, say this. From what little I can understand. Our messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would when people would come to him with the same question he would answer it differently. Right? So even our messenger always have to slam guidances for everybody, but he's not giving everybody the same answer because some answers are

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appropriate for some people in certain settings. Allah says about his Quran, Quran and Baraka, Holy Quran, Allah Nasional maakten. When is the noun within the Zilla, the recital that we broke apart, so that you can recite it on to people at the right occasion. So in other words, the entire Quran is for all of humanity, but not all of it came at one time for all of humanity. Some art came for a certain situation for certain group of people that are dealing with a certain thing, then another set of eyes for a certain group of people that are dealing with certain things. And the occasions and the audiences were specific. And that taught us even a sunnah of Allah in teaching. Teaching is

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about what to teach, who to teach it to and what occasion is most appropriate for it. Even when Luqman the father figure described in the Quran is giving advice to his son because we are talking about avoiding certain lessons for children. What does

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How does Allah say it? He says if Allah The one who lived near wha hoo hoo hoo which is an add on when look mindset to his son at a time that he was counseling him in other words, he found a particular there's a time where you're just eating with your son there's a time where you're doing work together there's a time where you're you know, there's there's different contexts in which you can't bring up religion or it may not be the most productive because uh Yeah Dad I'm busy right now are their mind is somewhere else but he found this time this opportune time to give him advice. Now having said that, you know, you could say, well, children, they should be mature enough because the

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Quran is for you know, all human beings and since it's for all human beings, we're all mature enough to understand the entire Quran. But even that line of thinking has a problem because he the best of generations is the Sahaba, the Allahu anhu legendary and a lot considered that they're not ready for the prohibition of alcohol immediately. In fact, he first reveals it, a little bit of it SoTL Baqarah and he tells them what if mahoma kurumi, Neff rahima, the sin that comes from them, the penalty that comes from them from gambling and alcohol is greater than any benefit that can come from them. You know, what is Muhammad? Ali Hema, then later on in certain massart, we find one

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article about salata, antem sakara Tata Luma Taku. Later on in my daily life, Allah says, Don't go near the prayer while you're drunk until you know what you're talking about. Now think about that. Prayer has already been revealed to the prophets lie Selim and Israel will mineralogy which is in Makkah, and now it's been a few years and he's in Medina. And now Allah is saying, don't be drunk when you're praying. So there's no prohibition of that for that time. And Elian has wisdom sees, he told us already, he reveals an idea at the right time at the right occasion. Yes, so he in his wisdom knows that even the best of the generations is not ready for this yet. There's a time where

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they will be. There's a right time to teach this. They're still maturing in their process. And then comes at the very end of Revelation. You know, sort of neither the Fifth Third of the Quran is actually one of the last suitors revealed. That's the surah that even says a yo macmall to lacantina. Come today I have completed my religion for you. It's the it's the end of the sila, the sort of lighter, so the tobei sort of lighter way at the end of the seal of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, the 23 year story of the Quran. This is year 23. Yeah, and there are less as digital minimalist shaytani funcione boo financiamiento hoon, that alcohol gambling and other things like

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you know, lots and, you know, casting loss and among other things. Well, my Isabell is not an illegitimate Emily, she thought these are abandoned abominations from the work of the devil. These are filth from the work of the devil. Will you stay away or not? Now that's interesting. They did the alcohol did not become the work of the devil in the 23rd year.

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If alcohol was already the work of the devil, it was already the work of the devil even before the Quran was revealed.

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Because it doesn't just something doesn't just it's not like something became haraam. There's a difference between saying this is forbidden. Yeah. And the difference between saying something is from the work of the devil.

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If it's from the work of the devil, it's been an evil, not just something prohibited, but something evil and it's been evil from when it's been evil from all along. And yet Allah help Allah stopped from telling the believer and he's telling the believers, the devil is your enemy from the beginning. He's telling them the story of Adam alayhis salaam from the beginning. And he's telling them how the devil is their enemy, and anything the devil uses he's warning us of, but there are some tactics of the devil you're not ready to stop yourself from yet

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that he waited till the end. In other words, he didn't assume that he that a large hotel did not in his wisdom, not you as soon as the wrong word. He didn't just give us a prohibition and expect everybody to follow it. Yeah, he wanted people to reach a certain level of spiritual development before certain things were given. And it's remarkable that unless these things that way, these people have fought in the path of Allah, they have sacrificed their lives and money and all kinds of things in the path of Allah and yet he decided that he will hold off on this revelation until the very end. Right. So what does that tell us? That tells us that Allah azzawajal teaches in stages

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later kabuna token Anto buck, you are going to develop from one stage over the next over the next over the next Now coming back to this subject matter. If the argument is that our children should be able to listen to all of this stuff, in some respects, you can say and the reality is we are in a hyper sexualized world. Everything from pornography to sexual jokes to you know, sexuality being the subject matter of cartoons of TV shows gender identity being a crisis situation at this point. Those are realities. six year old kids are watching. I mean, the other day I was exposed to a kid's cartoon show, I don't even know its name. But there's a boy and a girl and they're normal kids, but

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they have a superpower that they emerge and become a boy girl thing and that becomes a superhero. Right toccoa gender identity being taught or gender confusion being taught by way of cartoons.

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Right, this is the world that we live in. And if our kids are exposed to sexuality, and if you know about that, then maybe it's okay for them to be part of this conversation.

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Because they know a lot worse already, you understand, they've been brought into a very ugly world, and very ugly reality before the right time. But if that is the case, then they need to be they need to be taught. But if they have been sheltered from such things to some extent, and we have been able to preserve some level of dignity for them, and to be able to safeguard them from the kind of lewdness that is pervasive in society, then maybe when they are ready for it, when they get to a certain age, then parents should be having the birds and the bees conversation. And then beyond that, and beyond that, now, the conversation about modesty, or sexuality or shame is also several

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conversations, not one conversation. It's not just about being attracted to the opposite gender, or about Xena, here, the conversation first and foremost is going to be a broken marriage, a marriage that that a woman is inclined towards infidelity inside of a marriage, which is way more than sexually, we're talking about marriage and a crisis inside of a marriage. And if you've never even had a conversation with your kids about what marriage is, and then you say, No, no, I want them to listen to this first, then the first exposure, they will have two what marriages from the Islamic point of view is a broken marriage, which is kind of a problem, which, which is why I give the the

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disclaimer that these conversations are in fact sensitive. And I should take the time, I mean, I have kids come to this, this, you know, my family comes, my kids come here, and they sit and they listen to these rules. And today, they're in the other room. They're not because I don't want them exposed to this yet, there will be a time where they better be exposed to this, there will be it and that's a discretion. And that's why I put in my comment, it's discretionary meaning you have to decide for your family Allah knows best. That's at least my two cents on it. But I think it should be, you know, that much should be shared. For some people. This is entirely common sense. And for

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some other people, when I say this, this makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. And that's completely okay. I'm not here to convince you. I'm just here to express what little I know, if it's a benefit in short lived benefits myself and all of you. And if it's not meant to protect you from it, it's all good. Okay. Now let's get started with the we have one scene I in number 21, where he's a child brought into the service of this ministers house and he's being told to the wife is being told take care of his housing, honor it. And so now, he seems like he's got a bright future then Allah describes his maturity. Now we're now number 23. And without any pretext, without any warning, we go

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straight into the heat of battle. Where our that hola te Amina first translate the whole ayah briefly, then we'll dig into the phrases, what are what that will look at her and the one in whose and whose house he was the one in whose house he was. Now I'm going to use the most common translation, instead of digging into the language of the Arabic side of things until later, the one in whose house she was around whether it was he baiting her enough, so he tried to seduce him. She attempted to seduce him. That's how I'm going to translate it for now. We're going to come back and dig into that deeper, Well, a couple of words, and she locked all of the doors and she latched up

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all of the doors. Okay, so there seems to be multiple doors wherever she is. And it seems from the halaqa the shadow that there are multiple latches or keys or whatever, and she's locking each one of them. Okay, so it's a process. It's not just click and the doors locked. So it's multiple doors, we'll call it and she said, hater lock. hater lock can be basically two things get over here. That could be one basic meaning Get over here. And it can also mean I am ready for you. I'm ready for you. I prepared myself for you that those are the two basic ideas that can come from a Dalek. Carla maravilla he said, the refuge of Allah's refuge allows refuge that's the use of our sounds words

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immediately, in order to be synonymous. While it is, in fact, my master, he has been really good when it comes to, you know, taking care of my living, taking care of my housing, my master has been really good and taking care of my housing. Now, who is he referring to as the master, it could refer to Allah, because he's a slob. But it could also be the master of the house who's taking care of his housing. And then he says in the whole life, your whole body moon, certainly, those who do wrong, never get what they want. And they're never going to be happy. And because also mean then they'll never succeed. We'll dig into that phrase later to this is the idea that we're dealing with. That's

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all we're going to talk about today. I want to start off with two things. There are two individuals in the saya there's use of who's in this room, and there's the owner of the house. The first thing to note is the way that she's being described. The Quran already described her as Emirati he, his wife. Yeah, when she came when he came home, he said to his wife, Leah, Marathi. So the expectation is that the Quran can carry on that language.

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Ige and go with it. In fact, you don't even have to talk about her with a noun, you can just talk about her with a verb you can or with a pronoun, you could just say around whether or whether it who CBT fi NFC. She, she tried to seduce him, if you just read here she tried to seduce him. Anybody with common sense reading this would assume Who is she? The only she mentioned is his wife. That's how pronouns work. Right? So if she's been mentioned, all you have to say where she and the story can go on. Okay, fine. We didn't say she. But then the only word used to describe her was his wife. So the next thing could have been his wife or his master's wife tried to seduce him. But that's not

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the language here either. The language here is and Letty, who are fee Beatty, her the one is in whose home she was.

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The one in whose house she was. interesting phrase, because I thought it's his house, the Masters house, he brought him home, it's clearly the Masters house, it seems this may be an A hint, towards the ancient world. In the ancient world, politicians, governors, elite Royals, etc. They had multiple homes, maybe even multiple wives, and each wife has her own mansion. Yeah, and this is this is this wife's mansion, it could be like that. It can also be in the ancient world, you know, the king, or the Royal or the minister or whoever he had his chambers. And then the queen or the woman of the house had her chambers to and they had a common room also. So they had their own bedding.

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Also, they had their own, you know, belly was reading that up, it is kind of like that imagery to they had their own kind of residential situation. But even if it's not that elaborate, and it's not some massive palace, with her quarters, and his quarters, or whatever, and a big banquet hall and all of that, like old castle style, even if it's not that massive. The other implication of it is, is that he's mostly not home. And she runs the show at home, in whose house he was in the woman, the woman whose house he was in, tried to seduce him, right. So the idea that it's he's in her house, as opposed to seeing his masters house. Right. So first of all the house is being mentioned. And then

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the house is being attributed to her, suggesting that she's pretty much taking in charge of everything that happens at home. And she's basically a dominant figure in the home. And everybody does what she says because this is literally her house, you know, I say this, my house is basically like that. She's in charge, she has the authority, which means he spent years not only listening to the, you know, has the owner or the diseases, the photophores, you know, instructions about, you know, attending meetings and doing some work. But since most of his day is spent at home, he's also been under her employer, she tells him what to do, and he does it. And he's been doing it all along.

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That's what he does. And slaves back in the day, were almost like, not even tricky, you know, considered human not only in trade, but even in the home. People were comfortable, completely okay with changing their clothes in front of a slave or doing whatever in front of the safe because they thought of them as furniture on the wall. Like they're not even people. Right, so they didn't think of them as human beings. Now, she now I want to get to the word to seduce, which is the common English translation for urawa. But this is certainly a complex verb in Arabic. And as even as your search suggests, it may be from the archaeological Koran, meaning an innovative expression used

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uniquely by the Quran, for which you don't find commonly precedent in pre Islamic Arabic. So we can't go to pre Islamic Arabic directly for the way the verb is being used in the Quran. We have to kind of explore the origin of this word, the etymology and then see how the Quran is using it and try to figure out what's being what we can learn from the way that Allah uses the word seduced, you know, and that's, that's the thing. If, if I had a seven year old, eight year old sitting here, and I'm describing what seduced me for 10 minutes, I don't feel comfortable. I wouldn't want my seven year old who's sitting here, but I want you to know, I want the adults to know because clearly Allah

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wants us to know. So that's important for us. So now let's get to that. I'm going to read a little bit from Ignacio Rahim, Allah Filmora Wada, and Muqdadiyah to the Creole Mojave Sierra del Masada. First of all, it suggests something that happens continuously. The word the word is referring because of the pattern in it, the pattern is la vida, Allah. So he says morava must be the the female pattern. When verbs occur on this pattern in Arabic, it suggests something he's saying that's going to take the take place continuously. So the first thing we learn is not seduced one day.

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We're learning that there was a process of seduction. There were several, you know, expeditions towards Yusuf Ali Salaam that may have been far more subtle, not so direct, but maybe caught, you know, attempts to get his attention attempts to maybe dress more provocatively around him and see if he looked

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Or say something or compliment him? Or, you know, what do you think how do you think this looks or whatever these subtle little games may have happened already, that may have happened and they're slow and so that that's one one piece we'll move on to was tamela fifth degree, and this pattern is used for something that is repetitious. We'll move on to the duc de BB de la Melman Gianni been well mana Amina Geneva la mina Rama mangiarotti macabre de Manila t macabre, Latina Amelie be Miss Lee. Now there's a second part were verbs that occur on this pattern suggests that there are two parties and one party is trying to conquer or overcome or struggle against another party to get them to be

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victorious over them. So for example, mutia era, like Sha era is a competition in poetry where one is trying to overcome the other, okay. katella is when one is trying to kill the other and the other is preventing the killing from happening once fighting back from this, okay, so whenever this this this pattern is used, a suggestion is one is trying to do something to the other, and the other is not letting it happen. They're fighting back. It could be that they're fighting each other, but they're opposing, they're on opposing sides. That's what the verb does. In other words, she's trying to seduce him, and he's trying to fight it off. So both sides are captured inside the word rajwada.

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by use of that word, it's suggesting that she's not just doing something and she's not meeting with any resistance. She's doing something, but he's being he's warding it off at the same time. So it's not just offense, it's also defense. You got I'm saying that's inside the word rajwada already, what that could mean is she's fishing for compliments. He's not even taking a glance. She's trying to say, Oh, I can't talk to anybody, like I can talk to you. And he's not useless. Like, I think I'm gonna go cook the carrots, or he's getting out of the conversation. He's not giving her even a little bit of attention. You know, in order to sell time to Carrara, Colorado, he's like, leaving

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her in the cold, right, letting her freeze because she's, she's trying to see if she can get him some way somehow, to maybe become a little bit more friendly or be a little bit more appreciative or maybe, you know, catch him taking a glance or something. And she's not able to get that. And he maybe he already sees that that's happening and he's just avoiding it every every chance he can. By the way, the Bible is way less subtle. The Bible is saying she kept saying Come Come to me, come be with me, come to my bed. And he kept saying no, no, no, no, and there was a process. Like she said it for weeks, when we get to the Bible verse either. That's not what the Quran is saying so

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explicitly. It's saying that she tried to really enhance him in by a slow process or repetitious process. And then he's also fighting that off. Yeah, that's what the Quran is doing. Now, what else is in here?

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Well morava Mr. kamin, Raja Raja, if Jadeja was the Hubba shopaholic Mojave Mojave, I hadn't officially Shay in McAllen, we had him and Yabu Fillmore, our Alma Leuven, who, for our that'd be minor. However, when someone's trying, and they're trying to get you to do something, they're trying to pull you towards something, then urawa is used. It can also be used when when someone goes and comes and goes and comes and goes and comes. Let me try that again. Let me try that again. Let me try that again, when somebody's repeating their behavior like that, so and by the way from it also comes the word Rueda in Arabic and Rwanda actually means slowly, for my hidden calf, Irina m Hill

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home provider, that word to work slowly towards someone. And Lucy even said that this word rajwada actually means a multilevel belief to demand something but demand something gently, to be very subtle in your demand to not be overbearing in your demand to be subtle in your demand. Right. Now, by the way, that seems like it's contradicting the rest of the ayah. Because there's nothing subtle about what you did is there, right? That you know what that tells you that the subtle demands were ongoing. And when all of that stuff failed, eventually we get to this extreme point. Right? So that's, and that's the way the Quran sort of painted that picture. Now.

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The other piece of this that's really important is the verbs I Neff, c e, and this is going to come later on and I'll repeat the explanation of this one we get to Yahoo ballet song because the verb verb will repeat itself with what the brothers of use have tried to do when they tried to squeeze Benjamin away from him. Same verb was used. Okay, we got to get Benjamin away from him suddenly, Robbie do so now similarly, we do beta abana anarchy, anarchy, something like that. So we're gonna, we're gonna get our dad we're gonna get our dad to let go of our brother. Okay or his brother but

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Here, what I want to talk to you about is something really important. urawa seems to suggest to slowly pull at someone, gently pull at someone, yeah. But pull out someone for what, and never see

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from himself. From what that means. Like even our shoe says, it's a thoughtful, who is dignity has character, you know how you say, I'm going to take his innocence. I'm going to take his innocence, I'm going to take his soul, I want his heart.

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You know, if he says, For example, I want his beauty, or I want her beauty, etc. Meaning they have something precious. I want it. I want it. And that's his own knifes meaning the actual self of use of not his body, not his looks, she sees something in him that she needs to own.

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She wants to she already owns them. In one sense, he owns them and that she can tell him to clean the horse, to cook the food to clean the house, he owns them. But there's something in his soul that she wants to own. She wants him to be obsessed with her. She needs to see in him a desire for her. And so she wants to this is now the the simplistic word for that as seduce. But the way the Quran is describing it is listen to this. It's as if because Yusuf has mentioned urawa to Robert, who I let you who have ubti enough, see, so he's mentioned twice, it says if she tried to rob his true self from him for herself, listen to what I'm saying. She tried to pull his true self, his being away

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from himself. So she can have it. It says if there's you, but there's the real you inside you, that's the most precious part of you. And she's interested in that real use of inside. And she wants that for herself. And she wants to pull that away from us of himself. There's something in him that makes him special. And I want that special all to myself. It's not just that she wants our sexual urges met. There's something deeper that's being said here about control about owning someone about possessing someone, which is why before we go to what she did, what we want to try to understand, is maybe build a psychological profile for this person. I don't want to paint her as a devil or a

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deviant or an evil part. The Act is evil, no doubt about it. But by the end of the story, she's also repenting. So there is redemption even for her. But, and the plans already made it clear that these are going to be different traps laid down by the devil. Right. So the duck brothers fell into the devil's trap. Yeah. And they were ready to commit a heinous act. Now she's fallen into the devil's trap, and she's ready to commit a heinous act. You see a parallel here, you see a pattern of behavior? Well, if that's the case, then we better understand what may have transpired that allowed her to fall that far. Yeah. So if you even try to paint an imaginary picture, I'm not getting this

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from factual information. Let's start to paint an imaginary picture. You don't have to agree with this imaginary picture. But it helps me at least analyze what's going on with this lady.

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She's married clearly, that we know. It also seems to be very clearly the case that she's not unhappy in her marriage, and neither are they on the same page, maybe even suggested by when he comes home and says honor his residence, meaning he knows that the way I want to deal with things in the home is not the way she deals with things in the home. It also suggests that she's kind of living her life. And he's living his life, because the phrasing was in whose house he lived. It's like it's her house. It's not even his house. Yeah. So there's indications in the Quran where they are distant in the marriage. So it's a marriage for show. He's a politician after all, right? And

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politicians can have marriages that look good politically, maybe it's a political marriage. Maybe he married into wealth. Maybe she married up, maybe it was a good move for the family. Maybe it looked good for society. Maybe it was good for PR. Maybe it was good for the election campaign, you know, because political marriages happen like that, right marriages of convenience. But it's not a marriage where there's love and, you know, friendship and constant companionship, and she's obsessed with him and he's obsessed with her. Clearly, if that was the case, this wouldn't be happening.

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There's something emotionally missing in her life. There's something and clearly use of Alison's qualities that make him attractive from the previous hire. They're not even mentioned the physical so she's not just drawn to use of medicine because he's good looking. She perhaps is drawn to use of it some because my husband is not like that. He's not kind he's not gentle. He doesn't pay attention. He's not respectful. He's not this, there's not this, this or this. And then she notices. Even Yusuf Ali some I would imagine if elite women in Egypt came to the house and they went crazy over you so honey Salaam, I would be hard pressed to think that she doesn't notice that when you

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send me some walk by other servant girls or other girls in the market or other women that they don't talk about him.

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Like he is the senator and she knows, I have that right? This trophy servant. I have him in my possession. He's right here. And she's maybe making a calculated decision. I can't divorce my husband, maybe I'm stuck. Because it's gonna look bad for the next year election campaign.

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Maybe people are going to talk, where am I going to go? If I divorce him with this, with this marriage came this beautiful house, the servants these finances, if I divorce him, I'm left on my own. What am I gonna do? It's not like nowadays, when you divorce, the woman takes everything. It's not like that. Right? This is back in the day, she's gonna be out on the street. Or maybe my family who put me here put me into this marriage, because it looked good for them. They're all going to hate me. I can make an enemy out of my own family, what am I going to say to them? What society is going to say? What are people going to say? What is this one gonna say? What is that we're gonna

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say, or maybe even I know that there are other women that are eyeing my husband, the moment I divorce, and they're gonna leave on the opportunity. I'll be damned if one of them lives in this house. This is my house. So she's got all these reasons to not leave maybe. Maybe she tells herself she's forced, because her husband has told her you can never leave this house. You're my wife. And that's it, deal with it, do whatever you want.

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Or, you know, you can and it could be there's the parallel to this, by the way, by contrast, is a wife who's also in an Egyptian palace. That's RCI in Egypt. Yeah. And she's also in a terrible marriage clearly. And if you want to empathize with this lady and say, Well, you know, I turned towards infidelity, because I was so broken in my marriage, and he doesn't care about my feelings, and he's not a good communicator. And he's always worried about his work. And he never talks to me. And we're not even friends and we haven't even real conversation, forget about intimacy, he doesn't even look towards me, etc. These are all the reasons why I became disinterested. And obviously, I'm

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a human being, I'm just a person and look at him. You were, you know, how can you blame me? She could make up an entire alibi that makes herself look innocent. But you know what, there's someone who's also in a similar situation, which is ossia will be allowed or not, and she's actually in an abusive marriage, because she tells a law when a GD means that I don't know where I'm at he, you know, rescue me from the Pharaoh and what he does. And he she actually even says it nearly beighton probably in debate and agenda, Master build me a home for you in heaven. I don't want this house.

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I don't want this greatest Palace on Earth. I don't want it Yeah, like, get me out of here, please. rescue me from the Pharaoh, I don't want anything to do with him. What I'm trying to tell you is even if she tries to make an alibi for herself, and say, I resorted to this kind of thing, because obviously I'm not getting my emotional needs met. And my you know, my, my sexual needs met my physical needs met, you know, and I just did it so wonderful to be it feels so good to be around yourself. And slowly but surely, she's become obsessed with him, she finds excuses to have him clean around. So she could just be around him just have his attention. Even if he can't get his attention.

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At least she's or she could tell him what to do. At least he has a little bit of attention. You know, anything she could do to just be around she's and she's developing this emotional attachment to him, because she's so broken in her marriage. But what was the actual solution? You know, you could say she's not a Muslim. They're all a cafe or Egyptian society. So they don't have Halloween Haram. So what do they care? Let me tell you something, marriage, and the sanctity of marriage. And when a man and woman come together, and they have to be loyal to each other, is not a Muslim thing. It's a human thing.

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It's an all over Planet Earth thing. It's a law put it in our fifth law thing.

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It's Adam and Eve thing that's been going on since humanity started. That's not something that the shadow of Islam came and addressed. It's always been there. And fidelity is always an evil thing. And her recourse would have been, maybe if I leave my husband, I'll lose this house. Maybe people will talk. Maybe I'll get criticized. Maybe I'm gonna, you know, nobody will think of me as elite all the people that invite me to their homes, I'll be a black sheep. I'll lose the world. I know it, I will lose. Why should I do that? I mean, my husband married me for political reasons. He's just he does not even a real marriage. So why do you have to treat it like a real marriage? You know what,

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I'll get the finances and the political status, and the social status, and the photo ops and the elite party gatherings. I'll get all that from this marriage. But my emotional and sexual needs that are not being met here. I can get that somewhere else I can have whatever I want. I mean, he's not around anyway. So I can have the best of the best of both worlds. Why do I have to rock this life of mine, and turn to something else? You know, I could just die. Because if I divorced him, my whole life will get turned upside down. I don't want to do that. But I could just have this too. And because she's an elite, maybe in her head, she can do whatever she wants. And, you know, slaves are

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a commodity. They're just a thing to use. They're just a thing to use. And he's, he's a beautiful thing to use in her mind. So she wants him for himself. But he's not giving her an inch. He's not giving her even an

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Ah, he's not, he's, he's not biting into any one of the traps that she's laying out for him pretending to cry. So you can give her sympathy and say, Hey, tell me about your feeling is not working.

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He's just using, I gotta go, I gotta do this, I gotta do that, hey, can you sit here and talk to me for a second. And even if he has it, she's giving her the house, he has to sit there and listen to her talk about her feelings. He's just looking out the window. Or he's looking down. He's not gonna, he's gonna do what he's got to do, because he's a slave. But he's not going to cross a certain line. And he just won't budge. And she then starts asking herself, well, if he's not interested in me emotionally,

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if he's not going to pity me, if he's not going to give me attention this way, if he's not going to compliment me, then I need to step it up. I mean, after all, he is a man.

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After all, I am beautiful.

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I gotta take this in my own hands, I will take control. And you know what, maybe he's just scared because he's asleep, maybe I should just give him permission to do what he wants to do. Maybe he wants to do it, he just can't say it. From her point of view, maybe I'll just create the opportunity where I'll let him know that it's okay.

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She always desired him, she wanted him to slip from his true self and take his true self for her to own that self of his. So you can and what that suggests from the other side is so use of can lose himself. So use of Allison could lose himself, because he gave into that he wouldn't be himself anymore.

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And that's a lot of teaching us by this phrase, what happens when someone falls into seduction by a man or by a woman, they lose part of themselves. And then the other wants to control you and own a part of you that they were drawn to, they want that for themselves. They want to take your innocence, they want to take your goodness, and they want it for them. Because it feels good to possess it.

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You know, it's almost as if I dare say it's almost as if sometimes people desire to be the object of worship. When they do this, they want to be worshipped by this person, by way of seduction, they want to become their God.

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And this, they won't say it, they won't even realize that they're doing it. But that's what they're doing. It's a very empowering thing that they're, they're reeling them in. Now it's not working these slow gestures, and these traps aren't working. So what does she do? Well,

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she locked all the doors. And by the way, I didn't say something very important. I should have said it.

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So I told you, she has all these considerations, what are people going to say what are because if you if you're interested in another man, if you're attracted to another man, just end the marriage. I'm not attracted to you, I'm done. They were they were cases, women came to the Prophet, a woman comes to the prophet SAW them, he can't satisfy me.

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It was done. That was it. That was it. It's as simple as that. If you're if you can't be loyal to your husband, you're not interested in him anymore, or you're not happy anymore. A lot didn't close those doors.

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Allah did not close those doors in the Quran. And he didn't even demonize closing those doors. If someone wants to end the marriage, they can they have the right to it, the alternative between that, but I want to stay because my parents are going to go crazy, or my family's going to go crazy. Or I'm going to be out on the street, or everybody's going to say I'm stupid, or etc, etc. And you know, how people think of divorced women in our society, etc, etc, etc. So I'm not going to do that. But I'll go towards her arm that nobody will find out. Also, you're so afraid of what people will say, but no fear of what Allah says.

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That that's the scary part. That's who's the God now? Who's the God that you fear and worship now people? Are Allah? That's the question, isn't it?

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For her, perhaps the desire to not leave was money, status, all that stuff. And at the end of the day, even if it's not fear, she's like, Why do I have to give any of that up, I can do whatever I want. Who's gonna stop me?

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Who's gonna put me in check? I don't have to listen to anybody. I can do whatever I want. It's a free country.

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At least for me, not for the slaves. You know, and somebody can have that I can have whatever I want. Who's gonna stop me? You know, I'm entitled to how I feel. I can follow my feelings.

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So now this part of this mentality, what does it suggest? Fear of people fear of losing money, fear of losing status, but no fear of disobeying Allah.

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No fear of disobeying the law. That's the height of selfishness. And what is he? What is the language suggest? Is she doing this because she cares about you so because you say, Oh, she fell in love with you. So you see, when you love someone you care about them. Let's talk about that, too.

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When you love someone, you care about them, you know what that means? You want the best for them.

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You want them to be safe. You want them to be honored. You want them to be protected. You want them to be provided for you want the best for them.

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But this can't be loved because everything she wants, none of it is for him. It's all for her. It's entirely selfish, entirely selfish. None of this is of any good

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To use. And by the way for Muslims, if you say you love someone you guys tell me I love this girl blah blah blah. If you really love her, would you prefer to see her burn?

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Are you okay with seeing her burn?

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Because the path you're going down is a path that Allah describes a express train to help. Take the halaal road. If you love someone, then why are you okay with them Destroying Themselves in front of a lot? Why would you wish that on someone? How can that be love? How can that be love?

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So this idea that she fell in and people, you know, have in Islamic history, they romanticize the love she had for us. Right? This isn't love. This is an infatuation. This is a toy that she couldn't play with. This is someone that she couldn't control. And this this can also be a matter of pride. You see in the Quran, you've got on the one hand, you've got the Pharaoh, which is the male archetype for pride, arrogance. And the female archetype for pride is actually her.

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If all these women are interested in him, and he Ward's them off, I actually own him. And if I can't have his attention,

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wait, what? I can't have his attention me. He's going to turn me down. Who is he?

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Who is he to turn me down? Nobody, I dumped people, people don't dump me.

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This is her. This is her pride. You know, for her being the object of attention is empowering. And for some women, it can be that, you know, men can have other diseases of arrogance. But a woman can have a different kind of disease of arrogance and my reading of sort of nude as politically incorrect, as some of you might think it is. A lot of told women to hide their beauty. Why? Because it's actually protecting them from arrogance, not because it's of shamelessness. First, the bigger diseases, arrogance, why? Because when people look at her and they couldn't control looking at her, she feels like Yep, still got it.

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It's an every time and eyes fall on her. She feels empowered. Like I control the eyes in the room. Everybody turned around and said, What is that smell?

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everybody heard my heels clinking? Yep. As a little bit of a smirk deep inside. Yep. I know, he's looking. I know he's looking.

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If that and I'm not saying you have it. So don't get defensive.

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But if someone has it, they know and the Lord knows. And the devil knows exactly what to feed you to make you feel like you have control over someone's limbs, eyes. Men like to physically dominate. Women want to dominate emotions, eyes, you know, attention. And she wants it. This is what makes her feel powerful if her husband's not giving her attention. And maybe even if he is giving her attention. Once you go on a power trip, you want attention from everywhere. So even if you're in a happy marriage, you would rather pose in front of other men to you'd rather get get their their attention to, you'd rather beautify yourself, not just for your husband, but for the outside world

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and make videos and pictures and post them up. So everybody can comment on how beautiful you are.

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Because that's you you have that need. You need to feel empowered. And you know, when when girls comment, you're like, yeah, here's the beautiful things, but you're really checking to see if any guys commented, or any guys look. Okay, so got it. So good.

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If that's nothing that's your intention, but if it is, Allah knows.

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Allah knows. Men have the games they play that Allah will talk about. Women have the games, the devil plays with them. And if she's doing that, well I look at the lab. balaclava means I told you one latch another latch key, put the key away, throw it in the drawer. That's a long process. So I want you to understand something don't have this naive picture that you see from a salon came in the room and she said hold on a second. Click, click, click, wait there. Click Click Click now just hold on one more minute. Click Click. It's done. What happened?

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Why would use it I suppose so perceptive like, Hmm, I wonder why she's dressed so appropriately and is locking all those doors. But I'll just stand here and wait to see what happens.

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That's not what happens here. She desired him. He's not giving in. So she has a you know, whatever chamber she has, has multiple doors. I'm not saying it has seven or 10 doors. Some of us who don't believe they have seven doors, maybe have two doors or three doors. One leads into the main hallway. The other lead to other side bedrooms or whatever else right other further chambers. And he usually comes in from one of those doors and the other door she she locks all of them so he can't run to any any one of them before he even gets there. And then Linda katella Bob, she's locked all the other doors. Well, Carla titler and she says come here now the come here and analyze. But one way you can

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imagine it is that he's not even in the room. Because you come here and she's hiding behind the door and he comes in and she locks even the front door that he came in from.

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Right and now she says hi Teluk.

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She says hey Doug, is this lots of discussion and to see when we get to the biblical analysis we'll come back to the word hate Allah.

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There's something similar not intuitive use of elsewhere in Genesis that is similar to this in Ubud La Jolla, LA I believe that's the pronunciation in the Bible in the Hebrew Bible. But arguably, it's not an Arabic word that it came into Arabic from other languages. The Arabic version of it and the Arab etymology of it suggests two possible meanings. One possible meaning is Get over here or come here to Allah. tala was there, come here in hurry. And we'll analyze that phrase. And the other meaning is to here to luck, meaning I am ready for you. I'm ready for you. So let me start with I'm ready for you. I am ready for you is you know, the woman is giving the man a signal. Listen, if you

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want to make a move, I'm okay with that. I'm giving you permission. I'm giving you the green light. You can do whatever you want. I'm not gonna hold it against you. And in that to luck, there's also a, you know that this permission that's being given, it also suggests something else. So yeah, it's okay. It's okay. If you do that. It's not a bad thing. It's not gonna hurt my feelings. Don't worry about it. It's not wrong. No, it's not wrong. There's nothing wrong with love. You think love is an evil thing. Love is not a bad thing. Look, I'm here for you. I want you.

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You know what that is? That is someone taking something so violent, so evil, and presenting it in language that makes it look like it's the best thing ever. It's so good. Not only is this a sexual urge, and an animal act that violates the sanctity of marriage. No, no, don't think of it like that. This is you're being true to your feelings. I just want you because my heart feels for you.

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I just want to be yours. And the words that you cushion this evil act in are so beautiful, that you're the idea you know, she wanted us to be pulled away from his true self. his true self will see evil for evil. But if she can take control of that true self, she can make him see evil as something good. She can change his worldview. She's hoping she can reshape his understanding of reality, so that this ugly thing looks beautiful. What does Allah say about shaytaan? While naka de la Houma shaytaan Amano was a nanomachine phenomenon. The devil beautified their deeds for them? Didn't we say this is the devil at work in the beginning of the story?

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What will the devil do? He'll call you to something heinous in the sight of Allah. But no, between us we know this is something beautiful. The world won't understand. It's okay. No one has to know. But this is pure love. This is real love. I'm ready for you. I'm, I'm telling you it's okay. So why shouldn't it be okay?

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And you know what? That can be a pretty powerful hypnotic force, that someone who knows who knows the right from the wrong, who knows what's right, they can get messed up in the head. In those moments, this is powerful than any alcohol or any drug. It can flip your mind flip your heart, your brain stops working. Everything seems okay because they've created a an alternative reality. And they've pulled you into their universe slowly but surely. You see, first why is that slowly important to mention? Because slowly you build trust, slowly you build I care for you. Slowly you build. Nobody understands you like I do. Slowly you build I can talk to you, like I've talked to

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nobody else. Slowly you build Oh my god, you're the only one that ever gets me. Slowly. You build and you and I, nobody gets us.

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You know. And now that you and I are our own universe, now I can teach you my morality. Because now I've cut you off from your own self and the actual world of morality.

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So she says, that's the first meaning that I've prepared myself for you. The other one is what hydralic Hurry up and come over here. Get over here. Now what? You could say that this and the first one has sexual implications. It's a suggestive seductive phrase.

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But the other one you can also look at as not a seductive phrase. Let's get over here.

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It could be that she's, you know, inappropriately dressed, telling him to get over it and it's sexual in nature. But even if it's not think of her as the owner of the house, doesn't she tell her servants all day Hurry up, get over here. Hurry up, get over here. Hurry up, get over here. Doesn't she say that all the time?

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Wouldn't she say don't come in my room. Until I tell you and when she's finally ready, she's I'm ready for you. I'm ready for you. Can she do that? Like you know how you put in hotel rooms do not do not enter Do Not Disturb. And you put I'm ready for you. Right.

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But now she's saying Hurry up and come now what is hurry up? Why is that important? Hurry up and come in.

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Unless has about Xena, Willa Takara bozena Don't go near adultery. Don't go near it. Now, the word near is important because Allah is teaching us

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Unlike other prohibitions, this one has a gravitational force field.

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Once you enter into its force field, even if you haven't done Xena yet, once you enter its full force field, it's going to suck you in suck you in secular until you crash. So don't enter the gravitational force field. Because once you're in it, that's it.

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She wants him to come, we're closer. The closer he gets, the more dangerous the situation becomes You understand? proximity is safety. closeness is danger. When I talk Rosina, when she says, hurry up. She's saying, while if you take a little step, you might wake up and say, No, no, I'm getting close to Xena. Stop thinking and take 10 steps in a row.

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Just jump right in. And then what's going to happen your brain will turn off, there's an animal inside you that will wake up, and it will put the human being inside you to sleep. And then the only time you'll wake up is after it's too late.

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So just hurry up. Stop thinking. You think too much. Just shut up and come here.

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The idea being this is the way that she can rob him of his real self shut your real self offer. Now, I just need the animal in you. This is hydrolock come here.

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Now even though she says it in the authority of an owner, use of Elisa Lam is smart enough to know the situation. You know, I told him a lot we let told us about him. That a level beseeching him the interpretation of all kinds of speech.

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He can tell the difference between come here and come here.

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When she says this, come here, this ain't no come here and vacuum the room.

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He knows.

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And he's his he's lived his life responding to come here and do whatever she says.

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But now when she says this, now when she says his immediate response, Carla ma de la. He said,

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ice The words are the last refuge. My other law that was talking about my eyes, my eyes could be a love and mouth could be a Muslim. If it's a muster it means the refuge of Allah, the refuge of Allah.

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Even if it's the if it's a verb, it means the time in which I can be safe. Take me away from here. So I are a place where you can be safe. I am not in a safe place. But the safety lies with a lot now the safe place lies with the law. So it's actually even a reference to place. That's important because you saw probably some recognizes that some places aren't safe, which means he's teaching us the law put those words in the Quran for us to recognize some places are not safe. It's not just people that aren't safe. Some places aren't safe some times aren't safe and you have to watch out from the places you go to our times you go to because you might lose the refuge of Allah

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He there's and you can you know what places and what times those are? Is it is it the past you know past the late hour in your in your bedroom or no none of your family can see you on your on your mobile devices that the place and the time where you need to work. You know, you don't have to have the some queen in Egypt. tell you hey Turlock now you can get a phone notification Hey tallac

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Can't you got a number of them and each app giving you a different hate Alex

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atelic world we live in.

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And it's not even that somebody is running after you. They're already through the door. They're in front of your eyes. They're real close. And all there is a tap of the finger. That's that's that's where they are no. He says my Avila And the amazing thing about that is actually those of you that know a little bit of Arabic the monsoon of Masada is because there's a fair amount of una Allah.

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Okay, I seek the words I seek or not even said, as if he's in too much of a shock and too much of a hurry to seek a loss protection right now. My other law Allah protect.

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And then comes the beauty of the word

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or rules in Arabic. We say Ooh, Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim. We're used to the translation I seek refuge of Allah. Yeah. From the from the curse devil

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out in Arabic actually comes from plants that wrap around the bark of a tree that cling to it

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also has to do with meat on a bone when you slaughter an animal that won't tear off. It's clinging to the bone.

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When you say my other law, you're saying I'm going to cling to a lion not let go. That's what he's saying.

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The power of those words. Here's a woman trying to cling on him.

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And he's saying I'm going to cling on Allah

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maravilla

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it's so powerful and what I told you yes

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about him having said

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that he is in a society that is promiscuous, that has no moral compass. They don't have a line the equation. He's a young man, nobody's in the house. Nobody's watching. Even the one that he that this attractive woman who's calling him has locked all the doors. She's made all the preparations already. She's taken care of everything.

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Even if he was to, if one was to worry and look around, is anybody watching? No, don't worry, I locked all the doors. All of the stage has been set for you to feel like you're safe. Nothing can go wrong. There's no problem. This is if there was ever a time to get away with it. This is it. Nobody will find out. Don't worry, your secret's safe with me.

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You're safe with me. It's okay.

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And if at that very moment, he screams out my other law. I'm going to cling on to a law he recognizes something. Safety never lies with those who call to alleged disobedience. Only devastation.

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And by the way, one more thing I didn't say about her based on what we've read about her thus far.

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Use of was a slave and being tossed around, sold and sold and resold. Yes.

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And now he's here in this position. And in this position, she's asleep.

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She's a slave to her own twisted emotions.

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And you know what else? Yusuf was being used as a commodity, right? He was just used as a thing to sell. in her mind, her official husband has something to use for her home for her finances for her social status. He's just something to use. But wherever he I can't use him, or wherever I think there's something missing. I can just use user, he couldn't care less about what he feels she couldn't care less about what use of feels.

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This is not about anybody else's just about her. This is entirely selfish, because people just like slave traders treated human beings like commodities. People like this. Treat human beings like commodities, someone to use for my needs. Funny enough, they call it love.

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Funny enough, they say, Well, I wouldn't tell my husband because it would really hurt his feelings. I'm trying to protect him.

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This is you protecting someone? This is you loving someone. How twisted in your mind can you be How far has shaytan taken you? When that gets to when it gets to that point? And you know why my other life is so important. You're trying to suck me into your alternative universe where things don't work the way Allah sees that Allah wants me to see them. I'm going to hold on to Allah, which means I will never see things the way you do.

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I will never lose myself because I'm going to hold on to Allah monado fan of Sahaja for a bow. Whoever knows himself knows the Arab world at ACU nucala Xena, sola forenza hohman fossa home, don't become like people who forgot Allah. Then Allah made them forget them selves. Forget themselves. She used wanting to make him forget himself. He's saying Nope, I'm gonna hold on to a law, which means I'll never forget myself.

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I'll never forget myself now. Only two things can happen. Either. She'll be really sad, upset, broken down, cry, have a panic attack. Or she'll get turned into the Incredible Hulk of stuff with a lie. No, but the Incredible Hulk. Yep. she'll become enraged. How dare you.

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Either she's gonna play on his pity. Or she's gonna terrify him. Or hey, those are the only two options for her. You know, right now she's gonna terrify him. Are you okay? You're coming over here when you don't get to turn me down.

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No, no, I don't think you understand your place. When I want something, I get it.

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You're gonna give me what I want. When he says I'm clinging on to Allah. He added the following phrase. In rugby, actually, I don't want to go further. I think I've dropped enough on you today. So I'm going to go halfway in the IRA today. And I'm going to do the rest of it number 23 and 24 By the way, the adult conversation continues, and it's going to go on until

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maybe i n number 28. So it's a few days in Sharla. But when I feel like maybe things have settled down a little bit, and I'll let you know when we can get the kids back in America lovely welcome. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Somalia, internet.