Islam vs Culture

Nouman Ali Khan

Channel: Nouman Ali Khan

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Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan talks about how Allah made us into different kinds of people and diverse tribes so that we can recognize each other and learn about other cultures and societal norms. This would help better our practices and imbibe goodness from different people and cultures. Allah has designed it all in this manner.

Whether Muslim or not, the problems arise when some practices within a culture become unfair. Our Deen came into being to correct that which is corrupt, unfair and unjust.

Some practices show the clear contradiction between Islam and culture adopted by many cultures. We need to understand that when Allah has shown the way, we are no one to stand in the way and make our own rules and norms and regulations that contradict Islam and then we wonder where the Mercy of Allah vanishes. We are to blame because we have violated the basics of Deen and have disobeyed Alla and invited His wrath upon us!

 

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a lot of times Muslims have conversations about the conflict between Islam and culture. Sometimes Sometimes their family arguments. And you know, somebody's saying, well, we want to follow the sun and you are following my parents are following culture or my uncle's are following the culture and it makes it seem like that our religion is at war with culture. And I wanted to dedicate this football to clarifying what alerus origin has to say about our religion and culture.

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The first thing we should know is that allows origin created human beings, and he meant them to be different nations. He meant us to have different kinds of societies. In fact, he says, which I love, I'm sure Ruben wakaba elita awful. He says he made you into different kinds of people, and different tribes. So you can recognize each other and out of who is not just about recognizing the Arabic word out of what includes the word Earth in it, which is social norms. In other words, you're going to go to China and learn some things about how they do things. Then you're going to go to Indonesia and learn some different things about those people. You're going to go to India, then you're going to

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Australia, and you're going to learn different things about different cultures. In fact, the word for you know the translators Ayesha Reuben acaba, Eva. They translated as people or nations and tribes, but the word shout out in Arabic originally shut up was actually a shut off in Judah, it was a hole in the wall. You know, when somebody makes a wall, it's got a little bit of a crack, or some imperfection that's actually called a shadow. And the reason why I use is one of the reasons I uses that word for people or nations is that no nation is perfect. Some nations have a crack somewhere else and other nations have a crack somewhere else. Just like human beings aren't perfect. Some

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people are very good at organization but can't speak very well. Some people are really good writers, but they're not good at math, eliminate human beings, imperfect, the he gave us some strengths, and he gave all of us some weaknesses. The same thing with culture, some some cultures have a lot of strengths. And at the same time, they have some weaknesses. And other cultures have a lot of weaknesses. And at the same time, they have some different strengths. And this is one of the reasons a lot of shrewd. He made us into

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Different cultures, so that we can learn from each other each other's strengths. So we depend from each other and learn best practices from other cultures. One of the purposes of doing that is to actually recognize that Allah wants us to never assume that we are perfect, that we're better than anybody else. And that's why within the same is said in a chronicle, and

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the most noble among you are the ones that have the most apply inside. In other words, if you don't understand this is what happens. One culture assumes one country assumes one group of people assumes they're number one, they're the best. They're the most dignified. And they look down on other cultures, they look down on them as they are, in theory, they're less, you know, this was the mentality of many people who kind of colonized the world, or conquered the world. As the colonized, they said, We are bringing our higher world you know, a higher lifestyle or worldview, we are elevating these lowly people are making them better. You know, even the pharaohs the foreigner, the

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Quran talks about a lot. The Pharaohs believe that they have the most supreme lifestyle on earth. And when they saw Busan in silicon, Valley, salaams message, the Pharaoh said, one of the biggest reasons we should reject Him is when you have hubba, vitalia quetico Muslim, they will get rid of your perfect lifestyle, the lifestyle that everybody else wants to be like, everybody else wants to be like you because you're number one. And so everybody should be emulating and following our culture. So some cultures believe that they are superior, you know, for Europeans that colonized so much of the Muslim world and the non Muslim world. Many of them believe this notion, if you haven't

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studied it, you should study it, they call it the White Man's Burden, their civilized and everybody else is barely human. So they have to go take over so they can bring us up to speed with the rest of you, you know, make us human, make us more human, make us more civilized, they had that mentality among them. But this is not just something that non Muslims held this was this used to be something of Jackie D. So the company that has I believe that they're superior, you know, and then when you believe that they're superior, and then when you get somebody else believes that they're superior customers believes that they're superior,

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that they're superior, everybody thinks they're number one. Everybody thinks they're number one, and they don't recognize the flaws in themselves. So they say what can we learn from these other people? What what they're going to teach us. So what cultures do often is they create an antagonism towards other cultures, you know, us versus them, and allow us origin says, actually, I made you diverse as people. I made you diverse, so you can recognize what is your weakness? And how can you go to this other civilization, and learn their strengths, and bring that back to your society and make them better. And when they come to you, they'll see some of your strengths. And they'll take them back to

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their society, what's called best practices, learning from each other, that was the point. So that's the first thing I want you to know, as a reminder for myself in you that actually Allah as always, you're creating different kinds of cultures, different kinds of foods, different kinds of clothing, different kinds of languages, you know, different kinds of heritage, different kinds of architecture, all of that was part of a lesson plan. A like design, this is this way, a lot design humanity this way, this is a loss making. But on top of all of that, what happens with certain cultures is that a culture is when most people do things the same way. Most people have the same,

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you know, like food, for example of food from one country. If you if you want to eat biryani, then obviously going to taste the same with small variations. If you want to have a honey food, every food is a certain way of making money food. So food is kind of consistent, right? Because when you belong to one culture, then the clothing and the way you do things and you know cooking, and the way you speak the language is the same. But some other things also become the same. Some practices inside the family also become the same. So we do businesses also the same. And sometimes cultures develop unhealthy habits. There are some very good things about culture. But sometimes cultures get

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unhealthy habits. So for example, the culture I come from in Boston, when you tell someone you'll be there at nine o'clock, it probably means 1pm. Right? So that's part of the culture. So when they say the wedding starts at 8pm, everybody basically leaves the home to go to the wedding at 10pm. That's what that means, because their concept of punctuality is off. You go to some other cultures, and punctuality is a very big part of the culture. When you say a date, that means 801. They say Why are you late? Why are you late? That's That's some other culture. So what I'm trying to get at is it doesn't matter if it's a Muslim culture or not. where the majority is Muslim or not, we develop

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unhealthy habits. Now Allah azza wa jal told us in Oman very clear. It's actually not cultures that are the problem. It's when some practices within a culture

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They become an unfair, unjust, or some practices inside of a culture become a means by which other people are being oppressed. They create volume in a society. You know, when cultures get really bad, you know, what happens is a old joke, you know, the, the, in many cultures when when you go in some countries you go and you hand the passport officer, you hand them your passport, and he says, it's a little light.

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I can't, I can't process it's okay. It's a little light, I can't process your visa, or I can't stamp this because your passport is too light, what do you means you got to put some cash in there. So it's a little heavier, because he expects a bribe.

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And then you realize that the local language is actually primary. You don't have to speak the local language as long as as long as you speak bribery. When a police officer pulls you over. And this has actually happened to be in several Muslim countries, they'll see a certain kind of car, they'll pull you over and say, What do you have in the trunk? Well, we have food is one time we had food for an orphanage, food for an orphanage, he goes, I'm hungry too.

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That's literally what he's not hungry to suddenly come I'm hungry.

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And I getting it.

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No, but I'm hungry. I have children also,

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you know, and that's normal for them. That's not out of line, it's normal for them. And that's part of the culture. And people have accepted it. As if this is just what you got to do. This is what just you just got to do when I went to business school. One of the craziest things I ever learned in business school in international business, as major American corporations, when they set up branches in many parts of the world, including the Muslim world, they actually have part of their budget called corruption. That's part of their budget, because they know that culture has corruption, you got to paint some government official off, you got to pay some people off, you got to do this, and

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then that, then you'll get your way, then you'll get the regulations approved. And they actually have that in their budget.

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Because they've accepted that's just how things work there. These are unhealthy practices inside of a culture our Dean did not come to get rid of culture, are the king to get rid of the impurities from every culture, everything that is unfair, everything that isn't okay. Everything that is unjust, everything that's corrupt, should be removed. That's what Allah expects, when somebody accepts us, he doesn't expect that we should dress all the same. He doesn't expect you're not more Islamic or less Islamic. If you're not reading the tome. That's okay. When you when I go to Russia, I wish to lychnis because I'm more comfortable in it, that's where I come from. It doesn't make me

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less Muslim, or less Islamic. You're not more Islamic or less Islamic. If you don't speak Arabic, Allah raised you to, you know, be a Muslim in you know, the bigger problems in China. Are he raised you in America, or he raised you in Canada, and you speaking with that this is a language that a lot of talk all languages he taught online, but this doesn't make you less Muslim. It doesn't do that. But when you accept what Now let's take a step back and understand something about cultures. Culture is when the majority of the people around you are doing something.

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Right. And sometimes it can be the all your family accepts a certain kind of culture. And so there's a pressure on you to do what your family wants you to do. And sometimes what your family wants you to do is against what a mom wants you to do. That happens. Sometimes that happens in very extreme cases. Sometimes, sometimes Muslim families are earning her own money.

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That happens. It's a reality. The father decided to get into a haram business clearly Hold on. But he says, you know, you have to get by you have to survive, what do you want me to do? And then the son or the daughter grows up enough. Now they're adults themselves. And they say, Baba, this is not okay. I believe this is how I'm looking at this ayah Look at this, this Hadith of the prophets of the lower Musa. And the father says you, you're gonna give me

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you're gonna teach me so this is why I brought you into this country. Who pays your college tuition? Who gave you the car? Who's giving you this house? You should be ashamed of yourself. Islam doesn't teach you respect of your parents. Hmm.

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And so you're gonna get you tried to say something, right? Because you tried to say what you are doing? And then he says, Look at your uncle. He did it. Look at your cousin. They're doing it. Go talk to them. Don't talk to me. Because they created a culture. When somebody else does something wrong. It makes it okay for you to do it too.

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It makes it okay for you to do it too. And there it's not just about making money. Women do this. Men do this. Young people do this. Oh, people do this. They are you know, in our Deen, for example, there are some things that are hidden. There are some things that are it's not just you take her arm and you make it. Hello. That's what some people do. It's haram to make money certain way. It's okay. We decided that we made a lot for ourselves. It's okay, we'll just do an extra hugs. Doesn't make it up. You know, we'll just go to Homer every year that would make it up. You don't decide how that works. You can't keep doing sins and then make up for it with actually

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curricular activities. And

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that's not how this works. When they set it over to the left,

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art Toba is not acceptable repentance is not acceptable for people who keep on doing the same things, same sins over and over again, thinking, Oh, I'll just make up for it. It's okay. I'll do it again. It's okay, I'll do it again. It's okay. I'll just give an extra.

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You know, I'll be so religious on the 27th of Ramadan, it'll all clear out the budget will be balanced of all of my deeds. That's not how this religion works. That's what we tell ourselves. That's a lie, we tell ourselves, but let's understand the flip side of it. When something is held on, according to Allah. And then people because of their culture, they make it.

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So in some cultures, for example, until the oldest son gets married, the younger siblings cannot get married, as well for them.

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A lot ever made such a rule, we made this rule. Now we made this rule and the older son says, I don't want to get married. And the younger son says, I'm ready to get married. And I have a job. I'm of the age. I even found a family. They're in agreement. I'd like to get married. And the parents say what? No, no, what are people gonna say?

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You can't do that. They say you cannot do that, which let me tell you the religious language work around for you.

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According to our culture, this is unacceptable. People are going to say what the older brother is hanging out by himself, and the younger brother got married, but

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you don't want to hear these big words. So we're gonna take the right that you have that Allah gave you a login, that young man, that right? We're going to take that away from you, because our culture says it's how long? So who becomes the higher authority? Who's now for Muslims? These are Muslims. Who's the higher authority? Is that a law that's the higher authority? Or is the culture now a higher authority? Allah says, Man, hakama, Zenith Allah, Allah to everybody.

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He says, Who dare make something that Allah has made beautiful and halaal, who dare make it wrong? Who dare prohibit something a level out? Who dare do that? I'll give you extreme cases that I've personally seen that have hurt me, that have personally hurt me. There are there are women that they get married. And when they get married, they find out that the family they got married into the husband is got a drinking problem, or he's, you know, going around and he's, you know, inappropriate. And the in laws are insulting this woman. Sometimes there's physical abuse, sometimes there's emotional abuse, she's being humiliated talk down to they, you know, they keep telling her

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you're worthless. We did you a favor by marrying our son to you, you're, you know, you're garbage and we can't, you know, you should be grateful that we even give you a you know, one day meal to eat or whatever, all these kinds of horrible things. And this woman comes back to her family. She comes to her own mother, and says, Mom, I don't think I can stay in this marriage. I'm being humiliated every day. I'm being tortured every day. Sometimes it even gets physical. I can't take it anymore. I know what the mother says. It's okay. We went through it to go back. What are people gonna say if you get divorced? What are people gonna say if you don't stay married anymore? You should go back

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because you're gonna humiliate your father. You're gonna humiliate your mother, how your sister's gonna get married if you get divorced. So go back and take it have Southern Maine got a lot of change everything. You know, when a woman came to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam saying that she's unhappy in her marriage.

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She came to the province lesson, she said, I'm unhappy in my marriage. What did the messenger say to her?

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Go back? What are your family gonna say?

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Allow me a right when somebody is being abused, or somebody who's not getting their rights met, they have the right to at least hakama me by any mean after you do, if at the very least, if there is a problem, get the both families involved and have a real open conversation that hecka means people who make fair decisions, people who make fair decisions, and what does it mean to make a fair decision? What Allah says is fair is fair, what Allah says unfair is unfair, your culture is done. When it comes to fairness and unfairness. Your culture cannot decide what is fair and unfair, that comes from Allah. What comes from Allah? So he says, How come How come actually means someone who

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makes fair judgments? And you can get someone from her family and someone from your family? Do your best to work things out to solve the problem? And if not, Allah does not hold that against someone

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that does not consider those people, you know, doomed. What are people going to say about a woman who's divorced, she's like, you know, it's worse than cancer.

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And what is it mostly about our messenger so in the long run, he was, he says,

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He says,

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you know, in public,

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if a man decides for our messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he should divorce all of his wives. He fought with the mothers of the believers, if if Allah decides that he should just divorce all of you, and Utila who is Raja Hiraman conda. Allah will replace them with spouses that are better

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When he says spouses that are better at the end of that ayah he says at the bottom of karma, he says previously married women first. Then he says previously unmarried women, a law honored women that were previously married, married or divorced or the husband died and says he would prefer those for his messenger sallallahu wasallam. What does our culture do?

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What a cultures do a divorce.

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They're like black sheep. They're like, Oh, don't blow invite them. They'll bring bad luck to your wedding ceremony. That's what we do in our countries. So what we've done is Allah azza wa jal, you know, he removed oppression from cultures. As a matter of fact, this was we're not the first people who have this problem. before us, Allah gave a law and a Sharia and a book to the Jews to the Israelites. And they over time, let their culture become more powerful than the book of Allah. They had the book of Allah also. But they let their culture become more powerful than the book of Allah. And then Allah give the Quran to the Muslims. And we let our culture become a supreme authority even

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over the book of Allah, we allow that to happen, then we say that the Quran is in the highest place. What can

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we say when Allah says,

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When Quran is being recited, listen to it carefully and silence yourself. Be quiet and listen, is it just about the sounds? Or is that a lot of speaking, he has the ultimate authority, nobody can raise their voice above what the law says, well, ally expresses his opinion, no other opinion matters. All the other opinions become silent, because the Lord has given his opinion, well unsettled. Your your tongue is not just about being silent, but

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it's actually silence your opinion, silence your culture, silence your references, because a lot has spoken. And he says, Why should you do that now.

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So you can be shown love and mercy and care from a love. In other words, if you don't do that, that allows love and his care and his mercy will be removed. If you don't do that it will be removed and then you're You and I are the ones to blame. We put the book on the last second. And then we wonder why we're the last marsico Why do we have so many problems in our family? Why do we have so many problems in our countries? why we have so many problems in our culture? The answer is clear.

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You removed yourself ulisses Yuan Rama, here's how you get it. You want to learn lessons. Here's how you get it. And we're the ones who removed it for ourselves. And then we complain, I keep making God nothing's happening. You can't keep putting the last book number two, and then taught her to alonza Yala. Make me number one

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doesn't work like that. doesn't work like that. When you violate the laws law, you can make the most beautiful bars, they mean nothing.

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They mean it's a scary reality. I pray that all of your doors are accepted. But the reality is we cannot change reality. We cannot change reality. And that describes the messenger describes a loved one. A person who went to hedge

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and he lost all of his savings going to hedge is covered in dirt. You know if it's covered in dirt, destitute, holding onto the wall of the GABA, making the right to Allah and the messenger as well Madonna.

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Food he's eating is how Ronnie earned her money and eaten food. The clothes he got her her army bought it from a source. He took somebody's inheritance and took it for himself and bought those clothes. He didn't give his wife her mouth and then use that money to buy himself some clothes. He or he sold something haram and bought himself some quotes. He borrowed money from someone never paid it back and bought himself some clothes. He ate that food he and somebody is wrong. And then he comes to the camera and he's crying in front of a lot. The messenger says

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how in the world can he be answered? How in the world will those dollars go anyway?

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We every every one of us, me and you? We want our dogs to be answered. We want our dogs to be answered. We cannot get those answered if we don't turn to a love and understand what it means that the Quran is in the highest place. That when the messenger Ali's Auto Salon gives the verdict, and that's it you cannot feel uncomfortable about what the messenger decided how they're supposed to laugh.

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You know, Allah says follow on because I mean, what are you happy McAfee Mashallah, we know, they have no email, they have no these people, they have no faith, he swore by himself until they make you the judge of everything that comes up in every issue that comes up about right and wrong about fairness and unfairness. Go back to a lens messenger. The messenger should decide what's fair and unfair, and until after you figured out what the messenger was

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emphasizing later, and after he begins to understand his verdict, then they find no discomfort inside of their chest. They don't feel any tightness because of that verdict because it goes against them. They don't feel any discipline

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For the moment, they feel even a little bit of discomfort, Allah swears those people don't have him on

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an hour of pika like me know, until this happens when you send me with a schema, and they give themselves completely in submission. But let's turn to the other side. Before I conclude this coupon,

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the IR that I shared with you actually

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isn't if I'm sort of calm, and cir about what happens to people who allow the culture, meaning other people around them to be the authority they did. They met the expectations of people.

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But they didn't meet the expectations out of ourselves. When they had to make a decision, the only thought in their mind was, what are people going to think? What are people going to say? What are my elders gonna say? What's my family gonna say? What is the community going to say? What are they going to say online about me? What are they gonna say that? You know, this opinion, opinion therapy, I need to fit in. I need to keep up. And those people who you followed whose opinion you cared about, you already know this. Now. How many people you know these examples burn because people put themselves in difficulty. It puts themselves in difficulty. They say we have to get our daughter

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married. We have to book the biggest haul we can find. Because other family remember their home? How are we going to have the guy in the machine really behind the machine? What are we focused on? Are we homeless, we have to get a real home but we don't have money. So take a loan, it's okay. It's okay. You can pay off little by little credit card. It's okay. You gotta you gotta do credit. You got approved, go take the loan out. It's no big deal. So now you're starting and Nicole is an active Ababa when the Lima is an activity partner, and now you're starting that activity with a war against a lion has messengers a loved one and you sell them by taking Riba no big deal. It's okay.

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And then the niqab is happening. And you say, Okay, it's time to decide the matter, even though the man should be decided way in advance.

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And you sit down beside the man and the father of the girl says 100,000 150.

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Know, it's okay. You don't have to pay right away. It's just a number. Really the

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amount that makes a marriage valid. It's just the number, the Book of Mormon, the Book of Allah, the law, the law that validates and again, this is just a trivial for religious numbers of zeros on a paper doesn't matter. You don't have to give it just whatever, okay?

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And there are people that are my father's generation. They're my father's generation, and I speak to some of them their wives sometimes and say, so, do you ever get your bad because we don't talk about that.

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Muslim Muslim cultures, Muslim culture, these are people that come to Salah, they pray Juma, and our mothers never got there

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are men can you imagine how serious that is?

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When I try to ask this, you should be grateful. I work so hard. I do this. Wait a second, wait, hold on a second. When you agree to marry a woman, you agree to the man, that means that isn't it is hanging over your neck? You don't get to complain after that. Because Allah says, Well artemisa also Ducati him on a

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given happily and quickly given happily in command. That's the last command. What have we done in our cultures? We make the things that a lot take seriously into nothing.

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And the things that Allah doesn't say there's nothing is no, it's not a bad thing at all. We make it hard on the opposite. So we do that because of our cultures. cultures are many have many beautiful qualities. But when the sickness enters the cultures, then I tell you the scariest conclusion I reached a level made me realize oh, to make my position incorrect, I fear.

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You know, for some people back in the day, they didn't worship a lot. They worship idols.

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They didn't worship on their worship titles, the idols were the highest authority for them. You know what's scary today? For a lot of people, the highest authority is a culture.

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It's even higher than

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that. Who do you actually worshiping?

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Who do you actually submit yourself? Because as long as submission, isn't it, you give yourself up? Doesn't matter who likes it doesn't like it. Know how fulfilled it no matter and we're not afraid of whoever criticizes when we submit ourselves to a law. We're not afraid of people's words anymore. For those who have money. Don't be afraid of them. Be afraid of me that someone will show me. Don't be scared of them be scared of me. This is these are all buzzwords, but how much are we scared of people not even be their words. And those people that you're so scared about. They don't care about you. They don't even care about.

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If you were in trouble, they wouldn't be there to help you. But if you did something against their expectations, they'd be the first ones to comment about you.

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And they're more important, the one who provides you the one who fills your lungs with air. The one who gives you every every beat to your heart. The one who loves you inhale and exhale. The one who

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Let you see the ones who let you digest your food. And the one who lets you take it out when you go to the bathroom so you don't die of poison inside your body, that one you deny, and the people who don't care about you, they become the highest authority. So what happens on Judgement Day, as I conclude, is de Beauvoir and levena to be Oh, Mina Latina tomorrow, when the people who used to be followed the people whose opinion mattered so much to you, when those people are going to say, we have nothing to do with these followers, we don't care about them. Just because of that they did their own thing. I got nothing to do with that. I don't know you. I don't know you. What I will

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adapt. And then the followers and the followers are all looking at the punishment together.

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And all of the connections they used to have all the relationships they used to have, are all cut, like they mean nothing to each other. These are the people that read everything, you know, they mean nothing. They mean nothing. And the followers say, Man, I made so many decisions in my life, because I wanted to meet these people's expectations. And now I'm standing and they're saying I have nothing to do with you. They said, Oh, come on.

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Come on tomorrow, Mina, they say if we only had a second chance, we would get away from these people the way they're getting away from us now. I would have nothing to do with you. If a lot let me go back on Earth. Then if somebody even brought up the culture, I would have spin and say, Nope, these people don't care about me. I only care about a lot of his messengers, I love my newsletter, I will not disobey a lot of these messages from people, for expectations for society for peer pressure, I will not do it. I will not make something How long? How long, and I will not make it hard on someone else. I will do it. This is not my right. This is a loss. I will give it to anybody. I don't care

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who gets upset with me. I can't afford a lobbying upset I can afford everybody else being upset.

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Everybody else can be angry as they want. That's okay. Doesn't matter to me. And unless has given you a unique

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value. That's how Allah will show them all of the things that they used to do regret on top of regret on top of regret, oh my god, that decision? Why did I do that bad decision? Why did I do that this decision? Why did I make that choice? Why did I say this? Why did I do this? Why did I spend this? You know every single choice will be brought forward. I made this choice because of people I made this choice because of people and it's not that has threatened it him. It has a rotten and a genuine regret on top of regret on top of regret. Well, mountains are hard enough and enough and they won't be coming out of the

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the law of a law Mulan Amicus from those people. The law of the law is actually a relief. When he told the Israelites well,

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as long as I live that he can

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Allah give them the law, his law so he can remove their burdens. And you can remove the chains that they were tied up in the fetters. You know, prisoners used to have cold colors, metal colors, on their necks with chains, and they're pulled by them. Right? He says culture sometimes when it becomes oppressive, is like those collars with chains on you. He says I gave you my wall so I can remove those feathers from you. And those burdens from you so you can be free. Allah came to free humanity from oppressive parts of a culture, allies, not against culture, he's against bullies. He's against injustice. He's against violating his laws. I pray that that has been a clear message to all

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of you a lot as origin allow us to have honest conversations, first and foremost with ourselves deep inside of ourselves. Before we talk to anybody else. Sometimes we hear from them and like, Man, I wish my uncle was here. He really needs to hear this. Before you worry about your uncle. Just think about yourself. Where can I get a recording of this? I need to send it to some people in my family. We always assume we got a good somebody else got a problem. You know, that's not the approach we should be having towards any message. The first and foremost recipient, even the messenger of allow us to say something lovely. We'll see what I've seen. Peter, Paula, I'm counseling you and I'm

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counseling myself to have the consciousness of a law. So this is about you and me first, a real honest conversation with ourselves first, and then with others lovingly. with others, loving them pray allows that wisdom helps us remove the chains and the burdens that we put on ourselves and come into the freedom in the relief that He has given us in his book and the noble legacy of his messengers on the level.

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