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Ali Albarghouthi

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Discussion of the blessings of having a home and ways to transform it into a Muslim one

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hamdulillah Hamdan bin Obara,

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Karim Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala and he was like me he was telling them

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about

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All praise belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We thank him. We thank him as he deserves to be thanked a thing that is beyond what we can give him. And we send our peace and blessings upon His Messenger and slaves, Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and upon his companions and family and those who follow them, till the Day of Judgment,

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in Surat, and the soul of that some have resorted to the sort of blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us about a blessing one of the blessings that he had given us,

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Willow jalila, come in beauty come second, our jalila come into the land and the Buddha. This is the blessing of having a home.

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And Allah says Allah had given you from your homes a place of rest.

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A place where you can seek comfort and and this is not a blessing that we are always aware of, conscious of. But imagine the blessing of having a home, that you have these walls that you can go into, you can be private with your own thoughts, with your own family with your loved ones, it shields you from the outside, extreme heat, extreme cold, the chi, the chaos of outside the discourse of outside, you can raise a family within you can feel safe, they can feel safe.

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So this is a great time and you can just only imagine if you didn't have it. You know, you can see those who have taken the streets as their as their homes, the street corners, the pavement as their homes or those who have been forced out of their homes and they live in refugee camps. This is the home right now. So when you look at it, when they look at it,

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they realize how much a blessing it is to have a home that you can find comfort in.

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And

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there should be there ought to be as there is a difference between a Muslim and non Muslim, there ought to be a difference between a Muslim home and a non Muslim home.

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So not all homes are alike, though there is comfort in them but not all homes are alike. And there's a hadith in Sahih Muslim, where the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says

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that the youth are long, he will lead the day with coleauxv chemists and is

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the example the likeness of the household ally is remembered and mentioned. And the house was not remember you mentioned is like the example of the living and the dead.

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Two different houses, a living house and a dead house. Now you can think about that. There's another Hadith right that says that the person who remembers a London one who doesn't is like living in the dead, but now we are in this hadith the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is saying it's not only the individual, it's the entire home, that becomes like a living home or a dead home. And why is it dead? It's dead because of who is the giver of life who is the truly living Allah subhanho wa Taala as Allah gives physical life to you, without him you would not have any life. He also gives the spiritual life emotional life psychological life. So when Allah mentioned a lot brings life that

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mentioned brings life to the individual and to the house. When Allah mentioned life slowly goes away until there is death and where do you find that in the cemetery right in the grave.

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So there is a correlation you will find in another Hadith, the messages a lot of it was seldom said

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a lumen salata, compy boo,

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boo ha makabe.

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It says, make a portion of your Salah prayer in your house, do not turn them into graves cemeteries.

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Why because you do not pray in a cemetery the dead do not pray. So do not make your house turn it for a place that is a living place into a dead place where people do not pray in it. Or in another Hadith Kala Kala salado it was seldom

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in the shade on inferior mineral Beatty that the trophy so to

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read Surah Al Baqarah. Do not turn your house into a cemetery that she thought runs away from the house. he flees from the house, which is what the Baka is recited.

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So now, imagine that in your house, you're not really alone.

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You're not you don't only have your spouse and your children or in laws or what have you. There's also someone else who's living, there could be angels in it or shaitan in it, that is living with you.

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So the messenger is saying what, do not turn it into a grave, it shouldn't be a living house, read Surah Baqarah read Quran in general, but treat Surah tillbaka because that shaytan will flee if you read it. That's how you animate the house, bring life to it, and make it blessed.

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That is a blessed house and that is a living house.

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But obviously we do not live alone in our homes. There are people also who live with us. And one of the near miss the great numbers of Allah Subhana Allah is that he had given us meat that we can find this Sakina with inside the house, I mean it and Holla Holla comin and fusi come as Raja Raja anabaena Kumar, Rama, infidelity identical to the common yet the fact of the science is that he had created for you from yourselves. So that you be familiar, right? That's why it is from yourself. It's not from an alien creature, or a strange creature, we're coming together, it's very difficult close, when it's from yourself, it's easy to find comfort and serenity. So he created me to you form

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yourselves, and he had placed among you, compassion, and love.

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This is the there are signs in it for those who ponder and think. So as we find comfort in the home, we also find comfort in mates. And we also find comfort in children.

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But it doesn't happen all the time. And there are reasons why this doesn't happen all the time. Why doesn't it happen all the time, because your relationship with any individual is not directly the result of what that individual does or what you do.

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It's the sum of three types of relationships or three kinds of relationships. It is your relationship to that individual, but also your relationship to Allah and their relationship to a lot. And the sum of those three relationships determines what you do, how you behave, and what they do and how they behave, and how they relate to you and how you relate to them.

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So it's really simple and limited to look at what they do or what I do and think this is the sum and this is the entire story that is not the case.

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That is why the key to a healthy relationship with any individual life. healthy relationship within the family, with children, with a spouse, with a house with a wife, and with a husband is the key is a good relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala that is the first key so that any person or a few have any problem with any individual

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within the family and will focus on the family but even outside the family, the first thing that you need to ask yourself before what is what what is it that they're doing wrong? To ask how is your relationship with Allah first and how is their relationship with Allah is and if you fix this, other things are easier to fix.

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As they say, vena cava in a law you slay lahoma vena cava vainness fixed what is between you and Allah Allah will fix what is between you and people.

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Fix what is between you and Allah that is the key because it is not possible for you to fix your relationship with humans, while your relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala is barren or non existent.

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Why is that the case for two reasons at least?

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First of all,

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those who have a man are guided by Allah subhanho wa Taala. To the good saying, and to the good deed.

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Allah gives them a light, as much a man as you have, Allah will give you a light, this is what you should say. This is how you should behave. This is what you should abstain from guidance that sometimes you are aware of. And sometimes you're not aware of protection that you sometimes are aware of, sometimes are not.

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So you need to have that amen and close proximity to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah,

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for your relationship actually to blossom, because Allah will protect you and Allah will guide you and Allah will put Baraka in your relationship will put Baraka in your children will put Baraka in your need to put Baraka in the house.

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So, that's the first thing but the second important thing is what is that these relationships right actually take work, there are guidelines, there is suggestions, there is advice, there are commands that come to us in the Quran and from the Sunnah of the messenger, Ali Salaam and it is not easy to follow them unless you have a man

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you may know about them.

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them, but it's not easy to follow them unless you are motivated by a man to follow them. Because they do take some sacrifice, they do take some getting used to. And if you don't have a man what will propel you actually to pursue them? And I will tell you will take and show a few examples of those. Just to illustrate

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where the messengers allow you to send them says Cairo, Cairo camellia and he wants

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the best of you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best to my family. When you hear this Hadees

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what impact does it have on you? If you're not interested to be among the best? What impact will it have on you appear afraid of Hellfire?

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If you're not aspire to be the best and you're not afraid of the punishment of Allah? Will it have an impact on you. But now take the example of a woman fearful of Allah. He knows that he could actually end up in Hellfire, and he's terrified of that. And he loves Allah subhana wa tada and loves the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he can't wait to imitate him and do what he does. Now he hears this Hadith, the best of you, he says, I want to be among the best. I want to escape Allah's wrath. The best of you, I want to be among the best is the one who's best to his family. When that's the key, you want to be among the best believers, you'd be best to your family.

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And here's what the messenger is saying, I am the best also to my family. That's how he achieves it. There is no break between the inside and the outside inside of the house and outside of the house. In fact, it's more emphatic that you be inside good inside

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rather than outside because they deserve more of your kindness than people on the outside your wife, your husband, your children more deserve of your kindness.

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Then people are on the outside. So that is an example of how someone when he has a man and receives instructions when the messengers of Allah Allah you it will send them he or she rushes, to actually practice it. So to be among the righteous. Apolo Pollyanna was tough for a lot of you

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hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah. Hamden, Catherine Pavan Mubarak and fee. Wa salatu salam ala rasulillah, Mohammed Ali salatu salam.

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When we hear, for instance, another Hadith

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about the virtue of smiling in someone's face.

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Why is it actually more challenging to do it inside the home than to do it outside the home because when you're inside the home,

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do not pretending anymore.

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And you cannot pretend

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because you don't spend their five minutes or 10 minutes or an hour you spend most of your time.

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Outside or when you come to the masjid or when you meet a stranger. It's easy to fake a smile or to feel forced yourself to be cheerful. But when you actually meet your spouse and meet your children, this is who you are. So if you can achieve in fact, a state where you are

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mindful of Allah subhanho wa Taala inside your house, you're among the best of people.

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And even the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a hadith the money that you spent

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something that you spent and give to your wife was spent on your family and something that you spent outside

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the one that you rewarded the most for is the one that you spend on your family.

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So you must have also an intention that I'm doing this for Allah subhanho wa Taala. And as long as we keep Allah subhanaw taala in the middle of this relationship, it's not just me and her or me and him or I and the children or the children and their parents, it's not just us. But Allah subhana wa Taala is in the middle of that relationship and is watching everything that you do

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everything that you are,

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for instance, I will give inshallah just a few examples. The messengers a lot of value sentences and as a motivating fee, probably gentlemen out Can I guarantee a palace in paradise for the one Holy disputations that arguments even if he is right.

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Now if you get into an argument with your parents, or with your spouse, and it's a personal sort of kind of argument, it's not about halal and haram. No, but a personal kind of argument.

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I'm writing, you're wrong, you forgot this, no, you forgot that by and you want to prove that you're right, and that they were wrong, you want to put them down and elevate yourself, you have a choice. Either you can win this argument, or you can win a house in paradise.

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You can just let it go. You don't have to win all the time, you don't have to pinpoint their mistakes all the time.

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And if you do that, because the end of that it says, I will guarantee a house in the highest levels and paradise for the one of good character,

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Nebraska,

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to assure you

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is nine tenths of good character is actually in looking the other way.

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You know that somebody did something wrong, you know that they did something was said something wrong. And you can catch them and you can squeeze the life out of them. And you can make them feel that they're what they've done is wrong, or you can just let it go. And not dispute and not argue. And that is kind of that generosity, actually, of the heart, rather than the opposite of I write all the time, and you around all the time. If that's the case, people will run away from us. But no generosity, and that's how people live in that time, the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was, there is more to say about this course. And there are many guidelines about how to treat your wife

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and how to treat your husband and how the children should be respectful of their parents and how the parents should take care of the children. But the sum of it all or the essence of it all is that Allah is in the middle of every and each relationship, fix what is between you and him, he will fix your relationships for you. That's first, second wall, treat the other with compassion and treat him with just with justice. And remember, finally, that Allah subhanho wa Taala is going to ask you, Hulu camera and Roku, every one of you is interested

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and will be asked about that trust. As a man in the house, you will be asked about the wife and the children. As a wife in the house, you'll be asked about your husband and the children. It's not a tit for tat.

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It's not that they didn't do that. So I'm not going to do it. They said that so I'm going to say this in return. It's not like that. A lot will hold you responsible for what you say a lot but forgive your spouse or your children because of other things. But when you come before Allah and you said, Well, I said this this is because they said that I forgiven them. What about what you said, but what about your mistakes? Maybe then you will not be forgiven but they will be

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so do what is obligated on you give and be responsible and ask Allah subhana wa Taala to fix your relationships. Allah subhanho wa Taala does not turn away those who asked him and asked Allah Subhana Allah sincerely Allah we ask you to make us of those who hear the best and follow it. Allah make us of those Allah fix our relationships for us, politics, our family for us, politics, our children for us, or law fix our spouses for us, while lawmakers generous depart or lawmakers of those who hear your commands and your advice and follow it and hear the commands and advice of your messenger and then follow it while we asked you for heaven on earth everything that brings us new to

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it. And we seek your refuge from Hellfire and everything that brings us near to it. And we asked you for all the good in this life and in the Hereafter and we seek your refuge for all evil in this life and in the Hereafter alone minister Lucas akula when I became minister required a local agenda, cold environment when becoming a Natty or at home in cold environments in agenda

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