Ramadan 2023 Appeal
Fajr Club Day 5
Channel: Nouman Ali Khan
Series: Nouman Ali Khan - Fajr Club
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saw somebody called up to look at the sorry about the late start today we've already prayed or fudger prayer and done the basic of God but we're gonna start with that today.
So yesterday I spoke to you guys about
a stuff little stuff.
Right? And what to do they also and today we're gonna do a lot a
a lot has many names. One of his names is a Salaam, which is kind of the same as level article. Yeah.
The word Salam means two things, it means peace and safety.
Allah hemanta surah means Allah, you are peace and safety.
You are peace and safety minkah Salah means and peace and safety comes only from you. You are peace and safety and peace and safety only comes from you.
we talked before about not asking apologies from anyone other than Allah. Right? But now, it's a completely different conversation. It's not about messing up. It's actually about what we want in life. And if you think about the most important things a person wants, is actually those two things peace and safety.
A person wants to feel safe when they come home. Safe, let's just say safe from getting yelled at. safe from being made fun of safe from getting beat up. See from like, safety of all kinds. Right? So a person vironment and of course, you know, the reason we lock our doors when we go home is because we want to feel safe. Yeah, right. But you know, when for somebody buying a car, the most important one of the most important things I look at is the safety features, you know, you put your seatbelt on, or you you know, of course, the car is designed in a certain way to keep you safe, so you're not exposed, if something hits you from the outside.
So many of the decisions we make in life, they actually have to do with safety, entire cities are built around the idea of safety, you can't just build a building, you have to have safety inspections, you have to make sure their fire exits, you have to you know, so you know, and if, you know you like sports, you and I like basketball, right? And there are safety precautions you have to take when you're playing basketball, you know, there's no such thing as a flagrant foul, there's such a thing as a, you know, a referee trying to keep you from, you know, and you have to wear certain kinds of clothes and you know, you have to you should wear proper gear. So you don't trip on
yourself and things like that, right, even an exercise. And one of the things that, you know, coach Steve helps us do is not hurt ourselves and move in a safe way. Yeah, right. So safety is actually a really fundamental need in life. Whether it's safety for our feelings, whether it's safety physically, safety's, like, one of the most important thing by the way, even when it comes to like, you know, you guys want to go to school, you want to go graduate, you want to get a job.
But Why Does somebody want to get a job, or they want to get a job because they can then make some money? But what are they going to do with that money? Before they think, well, I'm going to buy whatever shoes I want. Or I'm going to get whatever games I want. Before that you probably need a roof over your head, you probably need
to get electricity. Or you probably need to get food, which is all a matter of survival and safety. Right? So, so much of what we do in life is actually about safety.
But even when you are safe,
sometimes you're safe, but you're still not at peace.
It's the other side of it. Right? Because this word means two things. It means safety. And it also means peace, right? So you could live in a safe neighborhood, you could live in a safe house, you could have a safe car, you can have all the other kinds of safety, but you can't sleep. And you're you're so bothered all the time. You're so stressed out all the time. You're sad all the time. You know, you're just not calm and you're not addressed. Something's missing in your life. Yeah. And we're telling Allah, that these two most important needs feeling at peace and feeling safe.
When it's like it's think of them if you think of them as a need. You can think of them as water and air. Right?
If you don't have water, you got to go find it.
If you're underwater, if you can't breathe, you got to come up, you gotta be able to read, right? You're telling Allah that these two needs that I have the only real place I can get them as you
I can get it anywhere else. everywhere else.
Try to find a place to be saved. I think I'm going to be saved, but I end up being more unsafe. Everywhere else, I try to find peace, I think I'm going to find peace. I think it will make me happy, I think I'll finally be satisfied. It just ends up making me more dissatisfied. The only one who can give me peace and safety is you. By the way, when someone gives you peace and safety, that that only happens when
they have an extreme love for you. Like a good example of peace and safety in your life is mom. Right? When a baby's crying, then mom is going to make the baby feel at peace. And I'm going to create a little baby and put the baby down gently because mom wants to baby to be what? Safe, safe peace and safe, peaceful and safe. So that's an act of extreme love. But we call Allah, a Salaam, we're reminding ourselves that the most important things that a person needs that nobody can give a person the way a luck hand comes from him because of how much he loves us. And it can only women can, it can only come from you. It can't come from anywhere else. This is actually, again, another
side. You know, the last, the first part of this is always how people can make you feel pretty bad. Or you can feel bad about yourself. And when you have to turn back if they turn back towards love, but they'll compare that when you're in trouble with somebody else.
And you go talk to them about how you messed up. Is that a pleasant experience? No.
If you if you royally messed up. And then your teacher says Can I see new mom? Can you see my office? Back in the day when we used to practice her for the play? And I'm upset with one of the boys. And I say Hey, can I talk to you on the side for a minute? You think that they're expecting a pleasant experience? No, it's a very uncomfortable thing to try and you know, stand up to what you did and face somebody who you disappointed. First part of this law was we mess up in front of a loved we have to ask Him to forgive us, which is an uncomfortable thing. The last thing you feel is peace.
And now you're immediately following that up and saying the only source of pieces you You're the only piece and it can only come from you. In other words, a bite is different. When we apologize to somebody else, when we want to make things right with somebody else is different. We make things right but a lot it's different. You shouldn't confuse it with how things work with people with people doesn't matter how much you apologize, they can still say mad at you. Yeah. Right, no matter how much you try to fix it, they can still say it's not fixed. Because people's hearts are they don't have enough. The ability that Allah has. The love Allah has the ability to forgive Allah has
allowed me to give a limited amount of that to people. But the the unlimited version of that is with a lot. Right? So turning to him, and asking him for forgiveness will not make you feel disturbed. It'll actually make you feel at peace, you will walk out of the principal's office, you're not gonna be feeling good about yourself.
Wait, by the time he's done, you know what, when you walk, walk away from a prayer, and you're done apologizing to Allah and acknowledging that he's peace, you actually feel good about yourself. It's the opposite. So this is this. This next part of the prayer is actually a very beautiful part of the prayer for anybody who's listening adults or kids. When we're missing peace in our lives, we should really concentrate on this part of the prayer, a lot of mine to sit on.
And in saying that, with the water filter, it will do a little bit later.
was the last thing I'll tell you about this a lot about a lot of mindless development.
So I have my coat on right now. Right? And let's just say, I sit here and I say it's cold in here.
It's cold in here. What would you do? Like if you're in the living room, and that says it's cold in here. You'd get up and one. He didn't take turn the temperature up. All he said was what? It's cold. It's cold in here. And you went and turned the heat on. Right? But he didn't say turn the heat on. He just said it's hot in here. Why? Because you have such a close relationship with him. That when he says one thing you understand what he's saying? He didn't have to spell it out. Or he could say, I'm thirsty.
And he didn't say Go get me water. All he said was what?
I'm thirsty. On the flip side.
I am craving a burger.
You said I'm craving a burger. And your your dad knows what's your favorite burger places and he goes, let's go. We're going to blah blah blah. Right? He didn't say let take me there. All you said was I'm craving a burger. The same way with Allah. We didn't say here I'll give me peace.
We didn't say to Allah give us peace. We said Allah your peace. And peace only comes from you but we didn't say anything else.
But Allah, Allah knows that I saying that lovingly. It's like a lie saying, I understand what you're saying. Yeah. What are you saying? God, like, give me peace and safety. Because it can only come from you. As is really beautiful saying without saying that's happening inside this prayer in Allahumma, salaam, WA.
Okay. We'll talk more about the rest of the DA tomorrow, let's change or you don't have to change, but let's mentally prepare ourselves for not torture. But getting better. Yeah. Okay.
some young man asked me advice for skinny young men
Wait, so are you like skinny before you?
Actually Well, in the army, it was 142 pounds, Oh, you were in the army,
I would recommend eating
might seem simple.
Most people don't eat near what they think should be eating, and they think they're eating a lot. But at the end of the day, you're not, you're still that skinny exercise. And eating more meals, and enlarging your meals each day will help you get there.
But you know, a lot of people, they just don't feel hungry.
I think they don't feel hungry because they don't exercise
as well through an exercise.
So as you start exercising, he should start wanting more food than sometimes I mean, it, just kind of gotta force it down, you gotta expand the stomach, be consistent with it. And then you'll be able to slowly increase that week after week after week. And then the foods that are that contain high calories. You want good fats that have a lot of calories to a peanut butter, avocado, nuts, things like that.
But just eat,
eat and work out.
Usually, most people don't eat two meals in a day. This is I think they also i when i was skinny, I ate a lot. But a chunk.
There was no, there was nothing being digested. It was just when you have that aspect to but we really eating a lot. I felt like that.
That's what I mean, because usually skinny people, people that are trying to gain weight, they feel like they're eating a lot. But that two to three meals a day. Or that one big meal that you're eating a day count isn't really a lot. So if you really look back and look at the consistency from Monday through Sunday,
I'm sure there's days in there, we skipped meals because of this or that.
You only ate one giant meal. And then you look back at us, man, I had a lot of food that day. Like no you didn't, you just ate one really big meal. And half of that's not even good digestive news for anything. Yeah.
Ah, that was 142 when I went in and out to 20. So
that was the biggest thing I changed is making sure I was actually getting all of my meals and every day, I set it aside to where I need to get five to six meals every day. And if I don't, then I didn't need a lot.
We'll start with rotations. We'll
go to the left.
I was doing these this morning
in the car and I got an email and I did this.
All right. We'll do arms rotations forward.
anybody's trying to gain weight or lose weight, I would say the easiest way to do it is track your calories. Get an app like My Fitness Pal. really pay attention to how many calories you're putting in a week, or reverse.
And if you're still not gaining weight, add to the calories. If you're only doing 2000 calories a week, go bigger.
Then switch it to 2500 calories.
You're still not gaining weight, go forward.
Move it to 3000 calories, eventually you're going to gain weight.
Same thing vice versa. If you're trying to lose weight. Really track every bit of what you're putting in your system. Go and relax, relax.
If you're trying to lose weight, you're eating 3000 calories a day, you're still gaining weight, drop it to 2500 adjust your calorie intake. There's a lot of apps that will track your food.
We're gonna do hip rotation
to the left
Right, right ankle.
Located switch legs today about foot.
We're gonna do jumping jacks for one minute. Sure thing. Ready? Yep. And begin.
Keep a good rhythm
while you're doing great
10 more seconds
and relax. And give you guys an option today.
Legs are core
democracy. We're gonna start with crunches.
memory, fingers that are locked behind your head.
Elbows all the way up to your knees. Don't pull on your head.
shouldn't feel any pressure and your neck pulling up through your abdominals.
Randy we're hands down by our sides. Just like this.
Thumbs down flat.
Stand our legs out.
Here we go. Let's go. Halfway.
There we go. Point your toes.
Go down a little further.
We're gonna hold it
10 seconds. I want to get him up. Get him up, get him up.
We're gonna do this again, except we're gonna move our legs just like this. Couple flutter kicks. Okay, right now. We're gonna give it five more seconds. 321 Let's get him up halfway.
There we go.
Put your toes
Come on. 10 more seconds
to push through.
we're even getting their sleep
For people at home that happens with teenagers
what happens when
both of my teens are always eat more bananas bro.
Still need to exercise and eat healthy. Just because I'm like getting older day by day.
Sounds so offensive when a kid says I'm getting older day by day.
The growing process respect because you're getting older. No respect for the term getting older
or 19 crutches.
I know I'm getting older when I get 30 minutes less of sleep and it feels like I didn't sleep at all.
Have you legs?
Amazing, lightly sore, but not
like, you know what I experienced last week.
He did legs yesterday. Anybody at home that doesn't know. He actually works out twice a day. So a lot of comments worried about if he was going to be too tired for the class later.
And before fudger Club, the workout in the morning was more than an hour.
hour and a half. Yep, I used to work out before this. Haha.
Oh, you work out. Yep. It was saying before we started this this week, before this week thing. Oh,
I like for you. But instead of this half hour thing, we have a 90 minute thing.
Another class, and then in the afternoon, I got together with him again.
In the evenings I take a walk.
I always make it harder for him. So no matter what he's doing, it's always gonna be different.
jobs to me.
struggle with life.
we're gonna do an easy one. Just gonna plank.
But we're gonna do it in the pushup position.
Hold that body nice and sturdy.
So there'll be a little slower pace a
little longer breaks in between.
Yesterday was a little faster.
can show you breathing.
I don't hear the young young men.
taking those breaths and you hold your breath, it just becomes harder and harder. And relax.
anybody guess what's next.
This is a smart man. Yes.
All the way up all the way up.
Like a way to try to do is focus it on what muscles are using right now.
Pay attention to what section of your abdominals are using
and the next time try to shift it to a different area.
Work on your mind muscle connection.
That's one of the hardest things for me.
That's all work in progress. actually thinking about the muscle while you're doing the exercise. more in tune you can become with your body the more results you'll get
Yesterday I can't even get up. It was the hardest thing.
The legs were sore.
Like cuz it was like it wasn't
like a straight roll, right?
There's all the Beyblade things. No, like,
Yeah, I love those. They're really good for my face on concrete.
They teach you a lot of stuff.
There we go.
Speaking of rhythm, slowed down, I want you to go nice and slow. Don't worry about any fast pace. Goal just to get it down and getting get more in tune with the body.
Remember, have the right arm is going back.
Left leg is going out.
Left arm goes back, right leg goes out
your abdominals to be nice and tight throughout this whole process.
Stop and we have 20 seconds left. You guys got this?
Pay attention to your body.
Three seconds to one and relaxed.
mental Yeah, yeah, definitely mental.
all the way up. Oh, yeah.
Don't cheat your body.
Same thing. Oh, yeah. Focusing on the abdominals in a different section this time.
Don't cheat yourself. not cheating me. You're cheating yourself.
Rock Solid. Oh, yeah. All right.
I'm gonna have babies stomp on me.
Babies. The babies
means he can he can take some some marshmallows to the stomach.
top, whatever napkins you want.
See I got very creative on that one.
your abdominals are using there's a long row.
Pay attention to my section has been contracted right now.
He tried to shift it
Some people have four packs. Some people have four. Some people have six. Some people have eight. Same people with same people and 12.
Just depends on how your body's built.
As far as exercise is just anatomy.
Everybody's built a little different.
All right, feet, straighten their
arms out. No feet straighten their
hands are gonna be here. And you're just gonna slowly come up and touch your toes. Don't jerky motion nice and smooth.
Still too tight. Yep. Keep stretching
We'll break for about 10 more seconds and then we're gonna knock out how many crunches
do one we all know
Superman Superman. Oh
we're just gonna hold it no rose. Hold it for one minute
Whoa, it should be longer right
wait a minute seem longer bird
seem way longer today. No, just when I do this, let me get
my five minutes
pends on what you're thinking about
focusing on the pain. how tough it is. Don't feel like it's taking forever
focusing on how much better you're getting how much you enjoy it.
That's the case for anything.
Five seconds. Five seconds Come on.
is really good.
Very comfortable. It is a very comfortable for
There you go.
Again, make sure you're not pulling on your neck.
Where there's some twists
Russian twist? Yes. Yes.
this is too easy.
Bring your feet off the ground.
Make sure we're breathing
your feet on the ground.
Lay that body back a little further.
There we go.
focus on your breathing.
A breakfast biscuit.
eggs, rice and avocado.
Your deceptive, calm demeanor.
We'll see. Everybody can keep it going. Everybody stop. We can go for 30 seconds straight. We'll be done with the twist. 30 seconds.
Okay, ready? Wait.
Come on, be pushing through.
And keep it going. Keep going keep going to go.
98765432 114 crunches, you mean 13? Oh 13.
Further along, I thought
Has anybody been able to pinpoint the area? They're working? Like midsection
or a little bit?
Usually I'm here focused on boring.
You starting to get the hang of it. Yeah, starting to feel it.
I will see you guys on the next one. to focus on the upper hand. I do.
Think about tightening the upper.
And then while you're doing it, the next conscious will be Is it easier for you to squeeze your lower abdominals or your upper?
Lower I guess yeah. That's an effort for me. I will focus on on what's easiest for you this time. So focus on your lower focus on your upper ball. Next one.
I was just in that area.
Thank you. All we're gonna do
11 I want you to try to focus on the upper abs. Okay.
I want you to focus on your lower.
You feel it? Yeah, I tighten it up there. And it hurts now.
This is good. How does he get more control? Yeah.
on do you have fun on one section and a half on the other.
If you have to lay back halfway through and think about it and adjust, it's fine.
I start focusing on Lord burns all across here.
Probably engaged your obliques quite a bit.
Twice. Yeah. Now they're engaging with the crunches as well.
elstat Now I know.
We're gonna try to fluctuate back and forth from one section to the other.
Use your core for everything.
More control you can have over your core, the better
every exercise you should be engaging your core. When you pray, you should be using your core.
When you're sitting you should be using your core
stronger and deeper you can work your abdominals
the more you'll save your back as you get older.
and work our way down to one
point you guys take it on your own pace.
Not got each section take a break and then knock out the next.
The upper section hurts.
use your math skills for that.
We're gonna get here.
like when you eat like a smoothie from like Internet
will give way too many fast food places in your head.
In and out.
Don't ruin your exercise. Go and eat and fast food right after.
Yeah, we recommend not eating it at all.
Yeah happens. Just make sure it never happens after you just worked out.
You must go in and out get the protein
burger instead of
just the meat wrapped in lettuce. Oh really?
That's my cheat
Like no ketchup with it. No like,
usually pay attention at that point. It's just
at all like drinking soda is not good for you at all.
squeezes the lemon, and then you drink what came out of it.
That doesn't tend to be the case. Usually there's a whole lot of sugar getting.
Yeah, it's more sugary than lemon.
lemon, lemon water can be good for you.
Lemons, chopped up lemons and cucumbers and things like that in the water and then drinking the water you get a lot more minerals out of there.
feeling with lemon cucumber water?
reminding me of what I did in Europe.
I was at this conference in the Netherlands. And they had healthy food
for a week.
And I told my friend I was when I was like,
I'm done eating these horse meals. We're going to go to London. We're going to go to America back I was like No, we're stopping in London. And we're gonna find the most Pakistani restaurant we can find. Because I need to feel like my soul was still in my body again.
radishes healthy food does not have to taste bad all it does in Europe. Let me tell you lemon and cucumber water is not very good.
Eating all the meals and system smoked chicken.
Rice sounds good.
People speak English as a foreign language. So when you said smoked chicken, they're imagining a chicken with a cigarette
smoker smoker with some whiskey.
Whiskey seasoning. Could you
summarize rice and avocado?
Have a little saucer dribble on it?
barbecue sauce? No, no.
Ketchup is part of like our national identity Pakistan. Really? Yeah. Can't like
could pour ketchup on the flag. Again this depends on what your goals are to. If you want to stay you know flummery we experience plus you don't have to eat perfect perfect all the time to get healthy. What about three days a week? I can manage that. But you can't eat good or decent for three days out of the week. And then the other four just smashed pizza and
Thank God for Texas.
This is a very unproductive conversation.
I'm gonna go on
to smoke chicken and try that today.
Best thing I can say for anybody stay away from the fast food in general and stay away from sugar.
Sushi was good for you. It's fine. A lot of things are fine it's just mainly the main things that get people is the fast food and all the extra sugar
especially in Texas with our with our people. It's oil.
Yeah, definitely some food with our oil. Some oils can be really good. others not so much. And then you know everything in moderation obviously
You can give a lot of healthy fats or oils, which depends on how you use it.
Like I remember I got this ad, right, you said you should take a shot of olive oil a day
safe and drank a shot of apple cider vinegar. They too.
taste that great. I seen a video like a few weeks ago, like how a lot of people are obese is because their price is too expensive. The Healthy
says it's like $1 for my chicken. And then you got to get like $8 worth of groceries just to make one meal for yourself. Instead, you could like get one my chicken, you get a full off that.
I'll send you the link to the video again, I couldn't find it.
tell you I could spend $100 on chicken and rice and feed my family or meat and potatoes and feed my family for the week. If I go to a fast food restaurant, I guarantee I'm gonna spend 50 bucks in one city for my entire family.
Now, that often goes along the lines of eating healthy and having a wide variety of food. It can be expensive. But those medical bills after eating fast food all day every day can be quite expensive as well.
touch your toes.
In my mind, I'm already touching them
instead of like right here, right.
I'm gonna murder you interested?
You're getting closer tissue like right here. Yeah, yeah.
Progress. Maybe like six inches now.
Tell he's not the biggest fan of stretching.
It was all for
a couple years.
Listen, your guides may come a long way. Okay.
Both hands on the foot are moving up here.
Alright, kids send me videos today. Of how will you stretch? I want to see I want to feel bad. Yeah.
See, when I was like,
I used to be able to be so close to doing the splits. It was like such an accomplishment. Right? Oh, they're probably like five inches off the ground. Right. And then your boxing training? Yeah, cuz we stretched a lot before.
I mean that it was like a hazard anyways.
We're doing this for a week, but we're not.
The whole point of this is to get into a new habit.
You're in good shape.
How long does he do it for like a year
and a half. So
this is all stuff we can do
in place. Right. So all the things that we're doing here is
the goal is to hopefully everybody absorb some of this stuff. And then do it at home, do it at the park, do it wherever and make it a consistent habit. Consistency is what the key is. You said yourself, you almost were able to do the splits, right? That's because you were going for a year. Don't expect results in a week.
You'll you'll see change. The change doesn't become permanent until at least 12 weeks.
And then you want to still continue to make progress. It doesn't have to be dramatic. You don't have to get insane results like this. The goal for anybody should be to make the lifestyle change slowly wean off of fast food become start eating healthy food. Slowly add in that stretching regimen throughout your day. Slowly add in the exercise
and continue this process for the rest of your life. Regardless of COVID or anything else that happens there's always a way to exercise
And better yourself.
You just have to make it a priority.
Guys after this stay tuned I want to give you guys a tour of what we're doing here on campus.
Yeah, you're doing I'm gonna show
no plugs, just a tour.
But right now we're after we're done.
I'm gonna get off this broadcast and I'll do a Facebook Live on my phone.
I ready for a tour. see in a second.
He just said use for your phone.
No, I said just for my juice.
How much juice does