Do not go into excess

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Nouman Ali Khan

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Episode Notes

Nouman Ali Khan delves into the topic of the Musrifeen – the people who go into excess.

The word Israaf means to go what is beyond necessary. Israaf brings a lot of negative consequences into one’s life. Allah does not love those who indulge in Israaf. The following Ayah from the Qur’an delves into the aspect of Israaf:

“And when affliction touches man, he calls upon Us, whether lying on his side or sitting or standing; but when We remove from him his affliction, he continues [in disobedience] as if he had never called upon Us to [remove] an affliction that touched him. Thus is made pleasing to the transgressors that which they have been doing.” 

[Surah Yunus, verse 12]

“Our Lord, forgive us our sins and the excess [committed] in our affairs and plant firmly our feet and give us victory over the disbelieving people.”

[Surah Ale Imran, verse 147]

When we fall into stressful times, we need to contemplate on what we were neglecting and what we were doing in excess. This is the principal part of our Deen. We need to bring deep reflections into our lives on our problems with Israaf and constantly strive to live in the middle path.

 

Episode Transcript

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Today's goodbyes about a word and a concept that is talked about very often in the Quran. Everybody knows that a large Xhosa no Quran condemns those who disbelieve or those who are ungrateful. Allah azza wa jal condemns hipot hypocrites and people who commit ship who put partners besides a lot. But one of the terms that gets overlooked that's actually quite often talked about is this group of people called al muslimeen. Some of the harshest statements and by the way, just so you have an idea of what Muslim means, in simple language, it means someone who goes overboard or someone who is excessive, and it's actually one of the ways in which the pharaoh is described, is described in the

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Quran in del mustafina. Home, homos haben. Now, those are the people of fire. Those are the people of the hellfire. So it's a pretty serious word that people that go into access but there are degrees of access. Allah azza wa jal reminds us level to Mr. Mosley, filling in on the under the tongue of a previous Prophet, Allah said don't follow the way and the decisions and the lifestyle of those who go in excess. So the idea of being excessive, is actually a very powerfully condemned idea. This is important because our religion, at the heart of it is balance. Allah azza wa jal describes the skies and he says, was somewhat out of Aha, well, the Amazon, Allah tato filmyzilla, he says, He elevated

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the sky, and he put a scale in a balance in it, which means that the Earth and the Moon and the Sun, everything is in a position, they're balanced, the day is balanced with the night, you know, and the all the heavenly bodies have a place and a position where they're supposed to be equal to the Pelican Yes, back home. This is the way Allah likes things, things to be in harmony and balance, things that are small and vague, pitted against each other, and weighed against each other, and rotating and each each of them performing a role. And when Allah says that it's sort of mine, he adds a lot of ofin means on so you don't violate the scales be simple translation so you don't go

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overboard, or excess in the skills meaning just like love put the entire skies in order. And in some sort of a harmony and balance, we're supposed to have balance in the way we do business and the way we conduct ourselves and our thoughts, etc, etc. And there is a possibility of excess. So let's first talk a little bit about what this excess means. The word Seraph essentially means to go over what is necessary to go beyond what is necessary. So for to keep things simple, if you are hungry, you know, especially now that Ramadan is over, before Ramadan was over, if you're getting close to our time, then you are so hungry, that you keep putting stuff in your plate, even though at that

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time, you're very convinced that you're going to destroy everything, but about 25% of the way through your plate you're full, right, so you put more in there than you were ever going to eat. And that's because you're suffering from his wrath, you're going over what you need, because you're compensating for the feeling that you have, you know, silly examples of a slob can be softened food, which is very common, is you know, people go to weddings, or invitations and they go to these things. And there's a line for food, right, and everybody's getting their plate filled up, and you get to the chicken and there's a bunch of you like chicken legs more than anything else. So you

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collect all the chickens, you're looking at the guy, you know, behind you, he might get some because I might if I come back for a second, they might not be here. So you get enough chickens to start a you know, a restaurant of your own and your plate. But you do that because you're suffering from Islam, if you're not going to eat all of that you take more than what you need. Right? So Islam can be in food, those are easy examples. And it's not just eating, putting more on your plate that you're going to eat but eating more than you need to eating actually more than you're already full, you're still stuffing your face, you know, or you're still getting the munchies all the time.

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There's, you're constantly just you know, consuming and consuming and consuming and consuming. Or even within food, eating things that you're not supposed to be eating more than you should like, okay, sugar is a necessary part of, you know, the body's functions. You know, bread isn't necessary, or carbs are a necessary part of the body's functions. But everything is in a balance. And if you go overboard and say I just keep eating candy or keep eating sweets, Allah teaches us his natural order of things. If you eat things out of order, or you excess in one ingredient over the other your body is going to suffer, your health is going to suffer and you may not see the effects of it right away.

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But maybe 10 years from now if you're going into the hospital because you have diabetes or heart issues or let's because you had you had a slough. So what is slough does is it brings a lot of negative consequences into a person's life and I started with the example of food, but its life can go beyond that in spending. This Allah azza wa jal describes when Latina is a unfuckable lamb use free food to walk anabaena Delica karma when they spend money, they don't go with access, meaning you just need one bag but you want to get three because you like all three colors. Or you're going to go to the grocery store to get eggs. But by the time you came back, you spent $200

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Because you start stuffing everything in the cart, that's the kind of stuff you didn't need it, but I might need it, I might need this too, I might need this too. And you just tell yourself that you want it, or you need it, but you don't really need it. And then some people because of that they have a hoarding problem. Like they can't even fit all their clothes in a closet, or you know, their pantry is overflowing over flooded with stuff that's from 1987. You know, people collecting things people unnecessarily collecting and hoarding things that they don't actually use, and don't actually put to work. This is a kind of a craft that people suffer from, you know. And so sometimes it's, you

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know, you can tell for yourself, if you're suffering from some form of soft like hoarding, if you go home, and you find small little trinkets everywhere, and you don't know where to put them. And you don't know what therefore, if you just go around your house looking at what's the what's the purpose of this thing? What is it for, you know, and you have a bunch of those things, then you're probably suffering from Islam. So it can become a real problem for a person to collect and collect and collect, or to want more and more and more eating and spending and hoarding. And of course, this loss can be in entertaining yourself. It's okay, everybody needs a mental break. At some point, if

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you've been studying for six hours, you need a break, you can play some video games or something or, you know, watch something on social media or to go play outside play sports or whatever it is take a small mental break, that's fine. But for some people, their life is a mental break. That's all it is. They wake up and they entertain themselves. They go to sleep and they entertain themselves. They're clicking away and tapping away and swiping away all day hours go by, and that's all that's going on. That's the kind of stuff you know, being in touch with somebody is okay, but living on WhatsApp is a problem. You know.

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So there's balance, there's limit to things, and then there's excess and this excess is actually a really serious problem. Allah azza wa jal says, in the least, you know, problematic or the least threatening language. Allah says, in Allah, Allah, your humbleness. riffin. Certainly Allah does not love those who do his wrath. But the idea that I really wanted to focus on today that has to do with Islam. It comes from salute Yunus and I recited in the beginning of this call back. And I'll address some of the other forms of Islam as I go along and try not to. But this I in particular, Allah describes a phenomenon that he's talked about in a few places in his book. He says, when a human

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being is hit with harm, when a tough situation falls on a human being. Maybe it's a financial tough situation. Maybe it's a health tough situation. Maybe it's a family tough situation. Maybe it's a it's a spiritual crisis. It could be any sort of tough situation that falls upon a human being. What does he do? The Ana Legion Lee, aka Eden, aka him, and then he starts praying to us calling on Allah. Yeah, like get me out of this situation. Only you You're the one who can get me out. I've tried every other avenue there's nobody who can help except you. And whether this person standing or lying on their side, or sitting down they're constantly calling on Allah, Allah fix this problem for

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me, help this problem. Help me with this problem helped me with this problem helped me with this problem. There's a desperation to turn to Allah on behalf of this person for kalambaka, Schaffner and foodora, who, and when we alleviate that difficulty from him, Mara Kala madrona. And then he walks around like he never called us elaborate muscle, he walks around as if he never called our attention to the harm that was messing him up. That was that was hurting him. So you first when you're in a troubled situation, then you're desperately calling on Allah. And when that problem is solved, and everybody goes back to normal, and we act like we weren't praying to a love we weren't

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desperate to a lot. There were no tears in our, in our doors there used to be but when that's gone as if that relationship with ally is pretty much over, I got what I needed, I can move on with my life now. You know, and so but but what does this have to do with this love? Interestingly, it doesn't seem like it has anything to do with this off, but the wheel of life ends this is very particular, because alekos Vina del musli, phenol, Macedonia, Milan, that is how we have made for those who do excess, whatever they do has been beautified for them. Allah says that is how Allah has beautified their behavior of those who people who do excessive things. The idea is unlocking a very

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profound secret about our lives. When you live a life of excess, whether it's money excess, spending money, where you shouldn't be spending, entertainment excess that I talked about before, or you know, social access, which means you're always hanging out with somebody you're always out. You're always with friends, you're always talking to people, you never have any time to worship or any time to do one thing this whatever you do you do into excess. When you live a life like that, then you will fall into trouble. Then there is going to be hard times falling on you. Because it's as if I'll give you examples of men. It's an easy example to take because I can relate to it. As men you have

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many responsibilities on you. You may be happy, maybe have responsibilities towards your parents. You ever

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sponsibility towards your siblings, you have responsibilities towards your spouse, and you have responsibilities towards your children, then you have religious responsibilities, you have work responsibilities, financial responsibilities, you have friends that you need to stay in touch with, you have physical health that you need to stay in touch with. There's lots of things pulling at you, lots and lots of things pulling at you. But if somebody decides that they're going to take care of their health, forget everything else. Because then now they're, they're tilting the balance in one side, they might end up actually becoming really healthy. But everything else falling apart is going

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to bring them a lot of problems. Or somebody says, I'm going to take care of my children, I'm going to forget about my parents forget about them, then there are going to be lots of problems coming their way. So when we do when we take one thing, and we go in excess at the expense of other things, there's always something else that needed your attention, that needed to be balanced out. So every time we do excess, we're actually depriving something else denying something else's rights. That's actually what's going on. And as a result, there are going to be troubles coming our way. And then we turn to a lot begging for our problems to be alleviated. So actually, one of the ways we can

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contemplate when we fall into trouble, when we fall into the stressful times, is where was my excess? Where did I go overboard? What did I neglect? And what did I go too far in, that I go too far into something. And that's why I'm in the situation that I'm in. This is this, how I found myself here, because I lost that balance at scale that was supposed to be there. So this is actually a really important principle of our Dean, a very powerful principle and other examples of that, that I want you to think about for yourself. They have to do with, you know, even emotions. So for example, getting angry is normal. If somebody upset you, you got upset, or somebody said something

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upsetting and you got angry. That's a normal reaction. But you know what excess would be that you start living inside that anger, you're eating and breathing that anger, you're constantly thinking about that anger, that was one event, one thing that was said, and now your entire rest of your life is shaped by the thing that was said. And as a result of that your view has completely changed of all things. Nothing is good anymore. Nothing makes you happy anymore. Everything and since you're already upset, now, things that never used to make you upset, they'll start making you upset. You start getting annoyed at everything. And when that happens, people around you start suffering. And

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as a result, it's a chain reaction starts and you end up in bored. That's because you had a Seraph, you went too far in that one emotion. The same thing happens with other emotions, like joking around. joking around is a normal behavior. It's okay to feel happy sometimes. But if you're always joking around, you're going to end up offending people. You're never going to take matters seriously. There's something serious being talked about and you're making jokes about it. You're dismissing other people's emotions, you're dismissing other people's needs, and as a result, you're going to end up creating a lot of conflict. So a Seraph can create lots and lots and lots of trouble

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in a person's life. One of my favorite draws in the Quran that has to do with Islam is actually found in Alabama Ron, and I like this, especially for many reasons. One of them is that Allah azzawajal describes these people that used to fight in the path of Allah many centuries before the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam with their own profits, they had their own profits and they were called on to sacrifice their lives for the sake of Allah, and before they would go into the battlefield, or Maracana, Oklahoma Illa and Carlo robina Filipinas lubaina. What is sarafa nafi Marina was a bit akadama was so natural, calming caffeine, it's a four part there are these people

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used to make from 1000s of years ago and Allah sees fit that this door is so timeless and so valuable that Allah made it a part of his Koran So you and I can benefit from this door. He says, first of all, these people that were struggling in a less path would say, yeah, Allah forgive our sins, and I'm gonna fulfill another lubaina Okay, I'm gonna fill in Luna as a cover our mistakes covered the embarrassing things that we've done cover for us. The second thing after filling alumina is what is seraphina fee and Marina and the excess in the decisions that we've made in the life decisions that we made every time we went overboard? Yeah, Allah forgive that. So they saw their

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sins as one thing, one problem. They saw another problem where they went too far. When they went too far, you know, there is such a thing as even access in the religion. The Quran describes tells the believers lotta Hello fi Nico, don't go overboard in your religion. Let me give you an example of accessing the dean. when accessing the dean happened. Somebody says I want to study Quran. Great. I'm very happy that you want to study Quran. No, but I want to study Quran all day. But when you have a family, you have responsibilities. You have a job, you have to take care of, you know your children, you have to take care of your spouse, you have to take care. No, no, no, I just want a

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last word. The last word is enough for me. Allah will take care of them.

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While the book is telling the book, you're reciting all day, the Quran you want to study all day, is God telling you to go take responsibility?

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You know, and that is sort of happened some one time I was talking to people that were, there's a group of sisters that study Quran very diligently. I mean, they spend, I don't know, 1416 hours a day just studying, studying, studying. And it was interesting. Before I had that meeting, one of them their daughter came to me and said, You're about to speak to this group, my mom is in this group. Could you please tell them to stop? And I said, What?

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Are you pleased? Because I missed my mom. I never see her. She's always studying. Even when she's home. She's like, don't bother me. She has headphones. And she's studying vocabulary of the Quran. And she's doing this. And that's all she's doing. And I just never see her. And I don't know what and I, you know, I'm hoping that you can tell them something. And you know what else the scary thing was the scary thing. She goes, because of her. I don't like studying the Quran because I don't want to become like her. That's scary, huh? That's scary. So when I went and spoke to this group of ladies, I didn't talk about this girl, or call out her mom. What I did say was, let's recite an ayah

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together. And we read somebody out of the Quran. And some of those are for example, you know, we're in a summer caveat. We're in a valley. Okay, fantasy, but haven't they looked to the sky, how it was raised? How have they looked at the mountains? How they were settled down? I said, How many of you have gone recently on a? How many people have studied this ayah and really raised their hand the study? Do they know all the vocabulary? I was like, so how many of you have gone to a mountain?

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How many of you want to just look at the night sky? stargazing? You ever do that? No, no, we don't have time for that. We have to put what the Quran says Didn't you look? Didn't you go see, of Columbia zero fill, or they didn't they go travel in the land? Didn't they see a lot of beautiful creation. You want to read about it, but not do it. But a lot is telling you to go look a lot it's telling you to go see. So in other words, even access happens in the religion. It's ironic that people are studying Quran while ignoring the Quran. That can happen. It's not happens in our emotions, is love. Is love, by the way, is also a I mentioned aggressive emotions like anger. But

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there's also passive emotions like silence. Like for example, you know, something wrong is going on, somebody is doing something wrong to you, or doing something wrong to someone else in your family. And you just say to yourself, I should have suffered, I should be quiet. And because you're quiet, the person who's doing something wrong, continues to do more wrong and continues to do more wrong and continues to do more wrong. And you say no, no, no, my subject is being tested, I should be more quiet and more quiet and more quiet. And because of your silence. Now the wrong has increased 10 times more.

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You committed and it's rough. Because you were supposed to you weren't supposed to yell and scream. You're not supposed to become ignorant, but you're supposed to at least speak the truth. At least call out a call a spade a spade, call the truth for what it is. This is what it means the law. So we'll talk right they counsel each other truthfully with the truth. It is what it is. If it's wrong, it's wrong. Sorry, dad. It's wrong. Sorry, mom. It's wrong. Sorry, my son, I know that hurts. But it's wrong. Sorry, my wife or husband, what you did is wrong. It is it is what it is. It needs to be called out. If you don't do that you create an ISR off against yourself against somebody else. So

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it's rough takes many forms. And this is why it's not something I can give you all the examples of, in how many ways can Islam exist, but you, for your own life have to take a very careful stock and say where am i doing too much work? Or where am I doing? Not enough at all? You know? And what am I taking focus away from? You know, even even when it comes to matters of love. There is such a thing as is so often love. You become too obsessed with someone, too too consumed with someone a mother can become overly obsessed with her son. All she thinks about is our son. Or what are you doing? What did you eat? Would you sleep? Are you at work? Are you still at work? What's going on? All the

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time, all the time, all the time. Why? And if she's doing that, then she's no longer able to be a wife to her husband. When she's no longer able to pray the way she's supposed to pray. When she's no longer able to take care of her own health the way she's supposed to take care of her own health comes back to the same point. When you have too much in one side, you start ignoring other sides. And that's a hard thing to come back to balance to calibrate yourself. That's why this law it's remarkable the wording. First thing we ask Allah forgive our sins, then we ask Allah whenever we went in excess cover that in other words, every time we went in excess, something else must have

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been destabilized. So yeah, Allah basically stabilizes us again, which is why the next words are even so profound and so logically connected with a domino, firm our feet, give us stability where we stand subcritical dominant plant our feet. What we learned here again, is what does this graph do? It makes your life unstable.

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We learned that another ion sort of use is slough brings problems in your life. Now we're learning your feet can't be firm, if you have this life in your life. Every time you have this off, something is thrown off. There's anxiety in your life. Now there's turbulence in your life. Now there's problems in your life now in my life now, and something's not right. And you can, you can feel the harmony. When there's balance, there's harmony, everything is where they're supposed to be. You can feel it on the inside, and the outside, when things are not where they're supposed to be. You're disturbed. You can't sleep. You can't get peace of mind, you can tell if you are suffering from

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yourself or not, just by the way, your thoughts are, just by the way your thoughts are. Because if you have your feet planted, and you're secure and where you stand, then that's actually a result of a Seraph being removed from your life, sort of been a Filipina fluvanna with raffia Marina with a bit of dominance. And finally, now that you're standing tall, now you can face any opposition wants so Nigel COVID caffeine, it says if the IRS saying Yeah, Allah, you know, these were people that were going into battle, right? So Allah is describing these people as Yeah, make a strong first before we go into battle, how do you become strong? First, Allah forgives you, then you're able to

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get rid of that excess, that imbalance. And you're simply, you know, you're able to become strong, and now you're able to face whatever opposition comes on. So not uncommon caffeine. So this is a profound way of thinking about how we can bring harmony into our lives, how we can restore harmony into our lives. Allah xojo will ask us about our Islam. Some of you have softened how you love your kids. You love one more than the other. You're nicer to one more than you are the other. Even if you're not mean to one if you just come one son comes over I love you so much. You go boo, boo, boo, boo boo. And the other one's just looking Hey, somewhere they go.

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You didn't you weren't mean? You weren't mean, but that still is soft, because they feel neglected. They feel neglected. Or if somebody does something wrong. One of them eats a cookie. Hey, I told you I take the cookies. But the other one eats the cookie or come on? Why'd you eat the cookie as a little bit of a soft over here. And that will create problems down the road. Not only will they resent you, they'll resent the other sibling. There was and then you wonder why are they fighting with each other? Well, they're fighting with each other because of your stuff you created that you created that problem. So you and I the way we carry ourselves, the way we deal with people, the way

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we you know, the way we you know, conduct ourselves even emotionally, what's going on inside of ourselves. All of that needs to be rechecked and we need to find out whether or not we have become people of Islam. Allah does not love people of Islam. It's not the easiest example of it is in spending. But it goes so far beyond that, which is why Allah azza wa jal says lottle to ammeraal Muslims don't follow the decision the way the decision making of those who go and access me allows me to protect us in every way from Islam and help us to identify where the Islamic exists in our lives, that we are able to find harmony and balance again, and realize that we can make all of us

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have those whose feet are planted firm and their sins are forgiven. barakallahu li walakum Hakeem when a fire Anyway, it was a cookie