Divorce in the Quran

Nouman Ali Khan


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Allah subhanaw taala gave us lots of kinds of risk in this world.

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And one of the most amazing that is he gave us is the spouse, the husband to the wife and the wife to the husband. Adam Alayhis Salam was placed in Jannah.

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And in Jannah, Allah said to him or scone Anta was ojochal Jana, what could have been her rather than hate to Allah mentioned that is of the spouse first. And then he mentioned you can eat whatever you want. And Jana, so even in describing his life and Jana, he said, settle down and peace, you and your spouse, and now both of you eat. And we know human beings know a thing or two about joy. You can have a lot of money, you can have social status, you can have people's respect. You can have the best clothes, the best car, you can go on the best vacation, but if you're there alone, nobody's around. And you're sitting in the nicest hotel room on the earth, but you're sitting there alone,

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there's something missing in your joy.

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Allah even describes in Surah Nisa, one of the tortures of Jahannam in the words Carly then fee her is implied by implication that one of the tortures of Johanna is that a person will be alone, they'll feel like they're the only one there. In fact, one of the kinds of torture in this life is called solitary confinement. Like if a prisoner, they're already in jail. But if they mess up even more, if they do something that, you know, makes the warden of the prison angry, then they get thrown in solitary confinement where they don't get to talk to anybody. And that is another it's above and beyond the physical pain or the, you know, imprisonment. There's a psychological

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imprisonment and being alone.

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In fact, depression, anxiety, you know, so many of the neck and even suicidal thoughts. A lot of them have to do with a person feeling like they're the only one there alone. I traveled quite a bit and one of the things I like to do is just try to understand what Muslim youth are going through

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So I was at a school in an Arab country not too long ago, and I surveyed a bunch of young girls, there were about 400 of them. And I asked them, you know, tell me, I just want to know what you feel most of the time. And, you know, usually they have these girls and the principal is there and the teachers are there and the cameras are on and they're not going to speak. So I said, I'm just going to go and just have a conversation with you. No mic, no camera, just tell me. And the most common answer I got was I feel alone. Or I'm afraid of being alone. I'm terrified of being alone. And Allah azza wa jal knows that he created the human being even the name for the human being is in sound,

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which has the word owns in it. It has the word love, compassion, companionship. in it. We are creatures, unlike other creatures, other creatures, find a mate just for biological reasons. We don't just want to be with somebody for biological reasons. We want to be with somebody because we feel like they're our best friend. We feel like they can we can connect with them, we feel a good happiness or joy or calm or tranquility and peace, which can only come in the ultimate sense it actually comes from the spouse. And so Allah azza wa jal says, Oh scone, and was ojochal Jana, and the same word from Sakina. From from sukoon and Sakina. And second, Allah then uses in the purpose

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of marriage, he says, Lita, scudo, LA, so you can find calmness in her. And you can find calmness in each other peace and each other. The world is full of stress, the world's got all kinds of problems, you got money problems at work, you got boss problems, you gotta you got traffic problems, you live in New Jersey, so you know, you got traffic problems, you got all kinds of stresses on you. And the one place where all of your stresses go away, as you go to your spouse, you go to your wife, you go to your husband, all that disappears. Lita, SCU, Eliza, and because they give you that calmness that cannot come from anywhere else. That's where Allah even adds to that and says Jabba Allah vena cava

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Dutton, WA he placed between you in extreme love and care and loving care. That's something that Allah adds on top of the relationship, but the fundamental relationship is one of Sakina. But life is not that simple.

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Doesn't always work out that way. You thought you're marrying someone that is going to give you Sakina and then when you get in, the only Sakina is when you leave the house. When you come to the house, then you're like, What is this, you know, for the HA? And

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so there's a, you know, Allah azza wa jal describes Robina habla and I mean, as Regina was reacting Kurata Aryan, that Allah We begged Allah to give us the coolness of our eyes Kurata Aryan

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with our spouses and our children, and the even the expression coolness of the eyes, the Arabs used to use it before the Quran Kurata you know, who are you know, and they used to make a dua against someone llamada Allah, Allah called Asad Allahu aina. Who, so they used to say colordyne, who is the simple explanation is, you know, if you go to the airport, and some mother is saying goodbye to her son, she's crying. Yes, she's saying goodbye to her son, and some mother is at arrivals. And her son just came. And she's also crying. So one mother is upstairs in departure terminal crying, and the other one is arrival terminal crying. But there are different kinds of crying.

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One of them is the is the tears of sadness. Those are the eyes being warm, the Arab used to say Afghan Allahu Aina, who may Allah make your eyes warm, meaning that Allah give you tears of sadness, and depression and grief.

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But the other the mother who's hugging her child who just came from the airport, and she's crying, this is Kurata Aina Aina, her eyes became cool, she's crying, but these are tears that are bringing coolness to her heart, you understand? So we met, we begged Allah, that we want so much happiness from our wife and our husband, that it makes us cry with happiness. It makes us cry with joy. That's the doorway make to Allah.

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But then you have situations where the only time you are crying, is when you leave that crib crying with happiness. And she says, I'm going to my mom's house for a weekend and you're like, Oh, my God, say that again. I felt really good.

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You know, and you're the entire purpose. The purpose for which you got married, was that you could be at calm, you could find the coolness of your eyes. But again, sometimes for a wife or for a husband, it doesn't work out that way. And that doesn't mean that they're bad people. It doesn't mean that they're no good or evil. One of them has to be bad. One of them has to be wrong, you know in the American do

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Divorce Court system. And even in England from the from the 1700s. Early on, a man could not get divorced until he proved that his wife cheated on him.

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He couldn't say I'm not, I'm not at peace. I'm not, you know, we're not good for each other, we end up arguing all the time. It's just not good for us. You want to know you have to prove that she did something terrible. You have to prove it. And the woman had to prove that he cheated. Or he has another wife. And he did some other crime. Also, he robbed a bank and killed somebody. Because if she came in said, Well, he's cheating on me, that just says and what else you got?

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Because you know how we haven't in America, when you go to some places, you have to show two forms of ID. Right? They're like, You need to show me two crimes before you can let go of this husband. That's what they used to have in American legacy. And by the way, Reagan, I believe it was in America and much later on in the UK, it was in the 70s that they they developed something called no fault, divorce, no fault divorce means I'm not saying she's a bad person. I'm not saying he's a bad guy. It's just not good for me.

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A woman came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, the wife of 31 case, she came to the resource Isola, and said, law article and he, if you look at well, again, I'm not complaining about his character. I'm not complaining about his religion. He's a good guy. He's a good Muslim, he's got good behavior.

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But alcohol COFRA battle Islam. But I might fall into Cofer after becoming Muslim. She wasn't trying to be open about what she's saying. She's saying, Look, staying with him, doesn't give me peace. And then the shutdown will come and make me want to find peace somewhere else, and that will be covered. I don't want to do that. So I'm not saying he's, he's an abuser, or he's beating me or whatever. I just I can't stay in this marriage is there's no Sakina. And for me, that's what she said basically.

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And this is the same that applies for men.

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But now, the purpose of my hobo with you is that Allah actually gave us guidance, detailed guidance on how to peacefully end a marriage if it needs to end.

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If it's going to end it better and the way that it started, Allah starts the marriage Lita school no Elena doesn't find peace. And then at the end of the marriage when you're going to let her go Allah says ask you know Han Nam In Hi through second time in which the groom you better let them go by giving them housing peacefully also.

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And this is what I'm going to focus on what is it? What is Allah's instruction on ending the relationship which is so powerful, by the way, Allah talked about Talaq divorce, and how to do it in more detail than any other law in the entire Quran. Any other law, nothing gets this much detail. Allah talks about it I after I after I insulted Bukhara he talks about it again in surah. Nisa, he mentioned it again. And so to Lhasa, and then it's an entire Surah dedicated to it. So total luck over and over. And so the noon has some injunctions in it too, over and over again. Why? Because human Allah didn't teach us how to be in a marriage, you can figure that out. You just need the

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basic guidelines, but how to end a relationship can get messy.

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family gets involved, fights happen, people hate each other. Some people have a lot of anger. Some people, they say, your wife might tell you, I love you like crazy. But if you ever leave me, I will hate you like crazy, too.

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So you're just you're just on a road trip, and you're just got the threat of your life. She's like, I just I don't just want to leave. I want to see you burn.

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Right? And so there are people that don't just want to end things peacefully. They need revenge, they need to they find joy in seeing somebody else in pain.

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And it's not just women who do that men can do that, too. Men can say, Oh, you want to leave her? Okay. Well, I'm going to make you feel the pain of leaving me. I want you to feel it. Before you go.

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What does Allah do? This is this is one of the most to me one of the most incredible lessons in the Quran. Because it's not just about divorce. It's not just about divorce. It's actually about our relations with all human beings. I'm going to start by giving you an analogy, which doesn't have anything to do with divorce. I want you to imagine that you got invited for a lead to one of your cousin's houses. Yeah. So you go to their house.

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And you get along with everybody but there's one cousin you hate him.

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Maybe he cheated your business. Maybe he stole money from you. Maybe he insulted your father. He did something really bad. You hate that guy. If you see him, you're gonna there. Somebody's going to jail. That's what's going to happen.

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You're gonna beat him up and you don't know that they invited him also. So you got invited and the one guy that you have you have a, you know those tart darts in your home you got his picture there and you shoot darts at that face. And that guy was invited to but you got there a little late it was Muslim time, and he's already leading the salah.

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He's leading your cousin that you hate. Target your public enemy number one leading salah. You joined the Salah,

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and when you join the Salah, you hear him reciting Quran but you hate him. You absolutely hate him but he's reciting Quran and he says Allahu Akbar when he goes into core

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are you going to go into too cool? Are you going to say no, not for this guy.

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Everybody else goes on record now. I'm not doing it.

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Nope, you will go on record. He says send me something Allah Who even Hamidah you get up and you settle but I was looking around.

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He goes in such that Allahu Akbar, you go in such that.

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He says a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah you say salam, ala Guerra, and then after that, you beat him up. But until the Salah is over,

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your personality clash, your animosity, your hatred, your rage, all of that disappeared. Why? Because you had surrendered yourself to Allah, when you are worshipping Allah, it has nothing to do with your cousin.

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He doesn't exist. You're making salah.

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And when Salah is over, you can go back to that. Now keep that. Keep that example in mind. And I'll share something with you from this remarkable idea. When does somebody want to get divorced, when they have no peace left?

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They can't live with it. There's they're always fighting. It's always bad, you know? And so there's no Sakina

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but when they pronounced divorce when they say I divorce you and the the analogy here given actually is for all of the Matala path. And also for the women that are, you know, they're hyperlipidemia three cycle periods, right? If they're pregnant until they give the baby if they're too old to have a period and it's three months time. So all of those conditions in well now let's just say it's three months, three periods. You reverser, Allah first says you cannot kick them out of your home.

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Or first of all, you only got divorced because you cannot live with this woman. And Allah says, You will live with this woman for three months.

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Yeah, Allah, I'm doing this because I cannot live with her. And Allah says, but three more months.

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Okay, fine. I'll live with her three more months, but I don't have to like it.

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And I'm gonna make sure she knows that. I don't like it either.

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So you might accidentally forget to pay the heating bill.

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But water is too cold. The electricity is not paid. You purposely leave the door open? Oh, no, accidentally leave the door open. So the house starts freezing.

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Accidentally, you didn't put any gas in her car.

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So it's like what's going on?

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And you keep making little, little little things difficult for her.

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Well, look, Allah says I have to give her a house doesn't say I have to provide five star accommodations. I don't have to be nice. I wasn't even nice to her when we were married. Now we're getting divorced. Why do I have to be extra nice.

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If there was Sakina to begin with, I would that would have continued. But this is the end. So you know, I don't want to do this. And maybe, maybe you're nice. Maybe you're nice. But she's mad. What did you say you want to divorce me? Oh, you thought I was bad. Or you haven't seen bad yet. I'm gonna show you. In these three months, I'm gonna show you how what bad really looks like. And now a side of her comes out and anger from her comes out. ugly words come out, a rage comes out that you've never seen in your entire marriage. And in that time, once you settle out those three months or those nine months or whatever that time is in that time.

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Me as a slave of Allah is the same as the guy who's praying behind his cousin.

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Whether you're whether you hate your cousin or not, in this time, the way you behave towards the woman you're divorcing. Whether she's going crazy or not, whether she's raging or not, the way I have to behave towards her Allah is saying he starts with askin ohana, which has the word Sakeena in it. So it actually means provide them housing, but I would translate this as provide them peaceful calm housing.

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You got to stay calm. And you say Ya Allah I couldn't even stay calm when I was married. That's why we're getting divorced. Allah says yeah, but this that was that was for her. This Sakina is for me.

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You're not doing it for her.

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You're doing it for me, you have to calm yourself down.

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Then he says Ben hyphal second term in which the comb, you have to provide her the same kind of housing that you make for yourself. You like the house to be a certain way. You pick the right neighborhood, you put the right temperature, we put the right kind of furniture comforts, right, our home is our palace, and we like things a certain way. And he says the same way you want to be perfectly comfortable. You like for example, you like orange juice, you will not if you really like your orange juice, when you lose 25% You already know you're gonna get it before you before it runs out. Because you don't want to be in a crisis situation and there's no orange juice.

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When there's something missing, you're gonna restock, you're gonna put it because you can't compromise your comfort. Well, if you're going to provide the same standard for the woman, you're divorcing, then if she likes orange juice, and she likes the eggs your restocking before it even runs out before she even has to say anything. Because Allah is essentially saying you're giving her housing and comfort the way you would give to yourself.

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You're actually serving the exact same way you would serve yourself. That is the standard Allah put for such a woman. A skin ohana. Men hate to second domain which they call.

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Then he says Well, I told our Rohana don't cause them any hurt.

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Now you can hurt physically. You can hurt financially. Normally you give now you're not giving normally you spend you're not spending you can hurt by you know when people are married. They do things for each other naturally. Right? Maybe sometimes you do the dishes sometimes she does the dishes. Maybe sometimes you help with the baby. Sometimes she helps with the baby. Maybe sometimes you get together she gets together. It's understood. But now we're like we're gonna I don't have to do anything extra.

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I was when I liked you. Now it's official.

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I don't like you. It's official, I already said for lucky turkey. So I don't have to do that. No, no, no, don't cause any even the most minor kind of hurt. Not with your words, not with your actions. Not with your finances. Not allowed. Not allowed.

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And by the way, if you think about her, there's going to be very hard because every time you see your face, you're like I just want to get away from you. I don't want to do more for you. I want to do less for you.

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But you're not doing it for her. She became invisible like my cousin became invisible when I was praying Salah I'm not doing it for her. Allah is telling me to do it. Now this is between me and Allah.

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Different mindset altogether Latuda ruhuna that he says little boy here who either you don't cause any kind of harm that might make them feel uncomfortable, that might make them feel tightness. Allah is going so far as to say I have to now think about not just what I am doing. I have to think about how she will feel.

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Allah is forcing me to think about the piece of rehab. Myself I have to think about the discomfort that she will feel inside when I behave. Labrador Rohana little over a year Chua Lee Hannah.

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And then comes the next matter.

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He says if they are found when canola to Hamlin and if they're pregnant,

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find fugu Elena hardtail Donna Hamlin, then if they are pregnant, then spend on them.

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Well, I can now and Fuqua la Hannah

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Allah azza wa jal says spend on them. He doesn't say spend just enough on them spend adequately on them. He just says spend on them. What does that mean? Men when you say man he spends on his wife.

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This guy spends on his kids. What does that mean? Spends a little bit he gives them 50 cents a month. What does that mean? That means he open handed. He lets loose. He's not tight fisted with the budget. He's generous when he gives. If they are pregnant, then spend Why Why should you become extra generous if she's pregnant? Here you are thinking man, I want to get rid of this woman while you're pregnant. Oh my god

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is complicated.

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things and Allah is saying a life that is a NEMA from Allah has come into your garden you're this you will show gratitude to Allah by being more generous than you were before.

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So your relationship with her is not even the issue anymore. Now you're showing gratitude to Allah. is unthinkable Allah Hanna, Hatha Yoga Agha habla Han and by the way, when you're spending on her her food, her clothing, her warmth, her health, when you're spending her on her comfort,

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aren't you automatically spending on the baby?

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When she's eating good food, who's also eating good food? The baby when she's warm, who's also warm the baby when she's protected from sickness, the baby's protected from sickness when she's saved from anxiety, the BBC from anxiety. Isn't that the case?

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So you're actually now Allah even didn't even describe them as Hamlet. He said, we'll add the humble carriers of a burden, like the focus or cause al Hammond fill color. So you brought the attention to the pregnancy. So it just could be considered to the baby until they give birth to a child. Now once they give birth to the child.

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Then Allah says in our dharna lecan

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You could have some kind of Milan Can you call for in Donna Hola, Donna.

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If they feed their baby, if they feed their baby called in Organa. Loco, if they feed the baby for you, men.

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Allah is teaching us something very powerful in the saya is teaching us that the moment a baby is born, the full 100% responsibility of the child's health of the child's finances, of the child's housing, everything related to the child that involves responsibility. 100% first goes to the man,

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man's responsibility.

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Man's expense.

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If the mother the obviously, when a baby's born, a dad can't feed the child, the mother has to Breastfeed the child. If they're going to feed the child. They're providing you a service we see when you were married. You were a team. So she's not doing you a favor, because you're a team. But if you're divorced, the moment she gives birth, she's she owes us zero nothing. The moment the delivery happens, the relationship is officially over. So now if she's feeding the baby, she's actually doing something for you the man. So Allah says our 200 Euro, Honda Naka and fugu Elena. Now he didn't say spend on them spend on them means they're your responsibility. While she was pregnant,

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she was your responsibility. Now he says our two Honda or Juraj, Honda, give them their salaries, give them their paycheck, give them their compensation. Why? Because now this is a service she is provided for providing to benefit you. She doesn't owe you that.

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So she's going to pay you for her, you're gonna have to pay her for her time. The milk that she's feeding the fact that she might be getting work somewhere else or to be doing something else with their time. She's not doing that for you.

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So you, you've got a car and then the question becomes, how much should I pay Ya Allah? Is there a minimum wage law in the Quran? Or is there some can be $3 $5? What are we talking about here? Allah says, Whatever you will be no can be my roof.

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You need to come to a decision together in a dignified way about how much the payment should be.

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You need to work that out with each other.

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You see, this is a person you're not you don't want to spend your life with this person.

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But every step, Allah is telling you to be extremely, extremely, extremely courteous and fair with this person is any

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extremely kind and courteous with this person. And all of this instruction is to the men.

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He didn't say anything to the women.

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And some of you brothers can say, bro, I went through a divorce man. She was crazy. She did this, this, this and this. What does Allah say about that? What she did? Allah is telling me what I should do. He should tell her what she should do. Is there any IOER Allah says she should calm down a little bit?

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She should not do this. Is there anything like that? Because you know, she's just one cycle.

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Nope. I can't give you anything. And I have some thoughts on why?

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It's because in these months, when she has been divorced, the divorce is not final yet. He could take her back.

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And depending on her behavior, either he will say I was wrong. She's a good woman. I hurt her feelings by divorcing her and she's still acting in this dignified honorable way. And your heart will become soft towards her.

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And you'll want to make it work. But if her worst behavior comes out and just

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Time. What's the man going to look at and say, Yeah, Allah.

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Thank you.

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That was the right call, hoof. Now I know what she's really like. In other words, the man is being tested with his best behavior from instruction from Allah, and the woman is being tested as if for young Ramadan family Domina. Allah says, let's see what you do. Let's see what you do.

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Because their behavior will determine whether they're going to get back together, or it's going to be over forever, because the man's behavior has been dictated by Allah, and the woman is being told, let's see how you behave. Basically,

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Tammy Robaina can be Matt Ruth, come up to a negotiation among yourselves. Now, for example, a woman says no, we're not married anymore. I'm not going to feed your baby.

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I know it's my baby too. But since we're divorced is your responsibility. And he looks like you I hate that. I don't want to look at him all day. I don't want to feed your child. Let's say a woman says that anybody here would say a stalker Allah. What kind of woman is this? She's not feeding her child. Okay, you know, in Allah, he wouldn't allow her junk. What happened to mothers nowadays? 2024. What does Allah Allah do in the Quran? He says, For me, Robaina could be my roof, or interessato. And if you find difficulty, she's not agreeing. Or you're not agreeing, or it's too expensive for you, or it's too little for her. Or she says, No, I'm moving on with my life or

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whatever, you're not able to agree because you cannot force her. You can't force her. Allah says, because

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then somebody else will have to feed her.

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But Allah didn't. Allah didn't instruct or humiliate or condemn or lecture, even that woman. He did it. It is oh, how could you not feed your own baby, he didn't say that to her. He just said to the man, by the way, if you can't get her to do it, then find somebody else to do it, who you can afford. And the next idea is about Europe. People who can have more money should be more generous. And people who have less money, they should do whatever they can from whatever Allah gave them, for you and Fukushima, atta, hula.

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That's the instruction of Allah. Now, what did we learn from all of that I've taken over my time, I'll just take one more minute. What we learned from all of that is, it's not just about divorce, sometimes you have to deal with people you don't like them.

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You have to deal with a neighbor, you don't like them. You know, sometimes as a parent, you don't like your parents, sometimes your mom just drives you crazy. She's your mom, you're supposed to, you can't, you have to be the best to her, but you can't force yourself to like, how she talks to you.

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You know, so sometimes in our life, we have to deal with people whose behavior we don't like.

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But Allah has given those people rights.

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In his book, Allah has given them rights. So we have to crush our feelings, and we don't have to change our feelings. But we do have to change our behavior. So you don't have to like someone to be good to them. You don't have to love someone to take care of them. The man's letting go of his wife, he's still taking care of her still giving her Sakina still being generous, isn't it?

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So Allah is separating our feelings from our behavior. This is listened again, especially the young men and women in this audience. Allah is separating your feelings from your behavior, how you feel towards someone will not dictate how you behave towards someone. How you behave towards someone will be dictated by Allah, how you feel towards someone, you have the right to feel,

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your feelings or your feelings. Your behaviors are carried by Allah. We're living in a time now. And tick tock therapy world where your behavior is being dictated by your feelings. Do what you feel.

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Do you live your truth?

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Your house is your God, your feelings are your anger. Your anger is dictating you. I'm traumatized. That's why I act this way. You did this. That's why I'm acting this way. feelings, feelings, feelings, behavior, behavior, behavior. Allah separates between those two and that is the test of Taqwa and disorder. That's the tester who will actually separate their feelings from their behavior keeping Allah in mind because without Allah in mind, you can't do it. It's impossible. Without Allah in the equation, you will always let your feelings determine your behavior always.

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And so Allah azza wa jal says at the end of these ayat, Santiago Allahu.

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Allah will make ease after he made difficulty or after there was difficulty Allah will create some nice for you. May Allah azza wa jal bring ease in all of our lives and teach and give us the strength of Taqwa that we can separate our behavior from our emotions. BarakAllahu li Walakum Phu Quran Al Hakim whenever anyway you can read it was again

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