Beautiful Counsel

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wisdom in hikma. And then he says, Well, no, and I thought it has an end with beautiful counsel, which added humility here and debate them or argue with them in a way that is more beautiful or better. And not Becca, who will be Mandela and Sevilla, he your master certainly knows who he is, in fact, the one who knows better knowing in regards to who is lost or strayed from his own path, well, who will be martyred in and he is more knowledgeable about those that are committed to guidance or those that are sticking to guidance. So that's the idea. And I've talked to you a little bit about calling. I've talked to you about calling to the way of your master. I've talked about wisdom last

time. And today I'm going to talk about the next phrase in this ayah which is called the way of your master with wisdom and what I translated as beautiful counsel, and more enlightened Hashanah. So the first thing I want to do is kind of explore what this word means in the original language of the Quran in the Arabic of the Quran. And moreover, and how is it then transformed with the word AlHassan, the word of mouth, the the origin, the original letters of it are wine and law. And this word, what other is used for when you remind somebody at that scale bail out, and that's the most common definition you find among the Arabic lexicons. Is that good, we'll archive meaning reminding

somebody of something and what it's going to lead to.

So you know, if you remind somebody, you're late for work, that's not Moreover, you're late for work, and you're going to get fired if you keep doing this. That's my thought, because you didn't just remind them, you reminded them of the consequences that are coming. Right. So it's more advisors, specific brand of counsel, or if they say, what the good, but the specific piece of it is consequences. And because of that addition of the term consequences allow him. Some have concluded from it that allow the whiff that it's a way of scaring somebody, obviously, when you talk to somebody about consequences, then it could be about, you know, bad consequences, keep this up, and

this is going to happen or if you don't do this responsibility, then that's going to happen, bad stuff is going to happen to you. So the word more in love, which is translated here as counsel, in its original sense, one of its meanings is to remind somebody of something that is scary, that can happen in the future, if they don't take this advice. So bad stuff that might happen because the advice isn't taken seriously. So that's one part of Moore's law. The other is a dedicated Wilhite, actually to remind someone of the good that can come their way if they take advice, which is actually also about consequences if you think about it, right? Because consequences could be good

and consequences could be bad. Like oh,

A doctor that says if you eat right, this this, this, your blood pressure is going to go down your heart rate will be better, your cholesterol levels will improve this will happen that'll happen benefits of doing that. Or they'll flip the script and say, Well, if you don't eat right, I'll be seeing you for surgery in six months. They could they could scare you, right? So both of those actually constitute Moreover, now, this is something that you and I live with every day, we talk to each other, and we give family and friends and anybody. People give us advice. We give them advice. And we typically include consequences with that advice, very common very often, right? So you know,

and that's our motivation for doing something or not doing something is we want things to get better. And we want to stay away from things getting worse. That's basically what the purpose of advice is, is not it's not rocket science, right? So that's the that's the word that Ally's using. But let's put it in the is context. Now. Allah says call to the pathway of your master using counsel, using this kind of counsel, meaning, but the first thing he said is wisdom, right. So he said, Call using wisdom, and then he adds this beautiful counsel, I haven't even gotten to the beautiful part yet. We're just talking about the counsel part. What that then means is because we

are in one of its meanings is because we are supposed to be wise and sensible in the way that we call somebody, when it comes time to giving them counsel, we should think about whether or not this is the time to mention good consequences, or is this the time to mention bad consequences? Right liquidity mccarl macom. Everything that said, has a time in place. So is this the person? And is this the occasion? Is this the time? It's good time for the advice? But do I want to tag this advice along with the good things that will come positive reinforcement? Or am I going to tag it along with negative reinforcement and both of them have a place? They're both necessary. And you can sometimes

have a mix between those two things. If a If a child is misbehaving. And a parent keeps telling them keep this up? You see what I do? Do you keep this up when your dad gets home? You know, in Pakistan that we where I come from, they have some interesting phrases that he bought Yamanaka to Hugo Kalani, right, I'm gonna chop you up and feed you yourself.

When a kid is misbehaving, or wait till your dad gets home, with like, Dad is like the executioner apparently. Right. So this is fear of the father when he gets a law that said, I'm here. So, but the idea is if you keep scaring somebody with consequences, consequences, consequences, constantly, you're gonna, you're gonna get beat, you're gonna get punished, you're gonna do this, you're gonna do that, and then we bring that into religion, you're gonna burn in hell, you're gonna be called them enough, if you're never gonna, you know, we keep keep bringing consequences of this life, Allah will curse you and this and that, or a level throw you in hell, when you do that over and over

again, a person becomes numb,

you know, they become numb, like, you know, in, in different sports, they have like, you know, when people train for fighting, and like Muay Thai, or boxing or something like that, then their knuckles or their shins or their knees, they actually the nerves around them start dying out. And they don't feel the same impact on their skin, and on their bones, as other people do, because it's been hit so many times, they don't feel anything. They don't feel anything. You know, they become stubborn to that pain, like it doesn't affect them, like it affects other people. They the shell gets hardened, the bones get hardened, you know, more reinforcement happens. Now, why is that important to

understand, even in psychology in the way that human beings operate. If you keep yelling at someone all the time, if you keep scaring them all the time, if you keep telling them of the bad consequences all the time, then that's not something that affects them anymore.

And that's the third dimension. So there are two dimensions that I mentioned of the word Moore's law. One is that it's reminding somebody of bad consequences. The other is of good consequences. Yeah, the third dimension of this word is we may have a cool article,

they say, an advice that will shake the heart up,

or by which the heart will become soft, like some what that means, basically, in Simple English is, you give somebody advice that you know, they're going to take to heart.

Right, but the problem with that is you and I don't control anybody's heart. I can make somebody feel something ally is in control of the hearts. But what Ally's teaching us here is, you should be smart enough to know that when you talk a certain way, will that impact this person emotionally or not? Or are these words that will make somebody defensive? Or put a guard up or tune you out? Because they're numb from that? That same thing over and over again? Or are they going to actually tune in and listen? So there are different approaches you can take, right? So, as a teacher, I've taught adults I've taught children let's say a child.

is misbehaving, right or he's bullying another kid. And I want to give him some advice. I pulled him to the side, I could do a couple, I could call your parents, you know, I could I could go down down that road. If I ever see you that again, you're never going to be let you know, here again, or you know what, there's no recess for you. There's no this for you. There's no that for you. I could go with the consequences. Or I could sit him down and say, Listen, I have seen you since we started. And you're one of the smartest kids we have. And I'm, I'm so impressed with how you think about things. And I remember how you answer that question. And I remember how you help this person. And

these are the good things that I love about you. So I'm really surprised that you're acting like this. Because I know you better. I know you're better than that. And what do you think if you keep on doing that? Do you think that the kinds of things that make me and other people look at you and be proud of you and your parents proud of you, you think those things will stay? I think those qualities will disappear. I don't want those to disappear. What makes you a wonderful child? I want those things to stay preserved. So how about we make a little bit of change? And when you start talking like that, you know, this is a moment is all Hassanein somewhere Why? Why am I choosing that

route? Because something some kids I can tell. They've been yelled at so much. And they've gotten in trouble so much getting in trouble is their normal.

So somebody's talking to them, like wait, you think I have good qualities is a shock.

That's a shock. You've got kids that get, you know, they have violent tendencies, they have violent tendencies, they get kicked out of schools and stuff, right? They, they get angry outbursts, they get into fights and whatever else, right? And you have one of those kids and you they come in the act all hard. Because they're used to acting that way. Because Well, people think I'm a loser anyway. Or people think I'm, you know, aggressive anyway, might as well show, I'll show you aggressive then. Because what, what people do, and children do this, adults do this, how we talk to them, and how we project, how we see them, that gets reinforced. And that's how they start seeing

themselves. They they adopt that image. And you know, when you break that you can break that by a moral hazard. And moral hazard also means call to Allah zwei by saying something that you know, effected your own heart because you can't know anybody else's heart, right? But you do know your own heart. So maybe something that from Allah is religion, that deeply impacted your heart is something you can share. And you know what that will do? There's a saying in Arabic, Maya, Maya luminol, we assume

what comes out of the heart goes into other hearts. If you felt something, if you felt an ayah move you if you felt a story about the prophet SAW, Selim brought you to tears and you think somebody could hear that and they could feel what you felt. So you're no longer talking about I need you to feel this. I just want to share with you something that I felt, right. So this becomes about you because that that motiva you have experience with and that becomes a motivated seller, meaning it's a very personalized way of sharing, you know, something about LSD, sharing something beautiful, some good advice with somebody and motivated hustler. And then that last part of hasna is actually

literally the air one of the most common Arabic words for something beautiful. Something good and beautiful is called Hassan. It's something we asked for a lot in the famous door that we even make when we do a lot of the Kaaba robina atina for dunya Hashanah or fille de Hashanah, Okinawa, but now we want Hassanein dystonia. We want this world we want Hassanein the next life. And then we asked a lot of protectors from the punishment of the Fire. Why? What is how Santa good and beautiful things good and beautiful things that and that die is very beautiful, because we want good things in this life. But the only truly good things and beautiful things in this life are the ones that lead to

good and beautiful things in the next life. So as for the NEA has been our philosophy has, and it's the same adjectives that's used. So there's a connection made between this world and the next. You can have good and beautiful things in this life that will make your next life miserable. And then you can have good and beautiful things in this life that will make your next life also good and beautiful. And we're asking for that kind of combination, good and beautiful things here that lead to good and beautiful things in the next life. Now coming back to this I give good and beautiful advice. And that's where a person would have to learn a little bit of empathy. They'd have to think

if somebody talked to me this way.

If somebody gave this advice that I'm giving to somebody else, if they gave this to me, how would I have responded? Would I have thought that that's beautiful advice.

You know what I have thought, Man, I wish I heard that sooner.

Because you in order to do a more advanced hustler. You actually have to put yourself in somebody else's shoes. You don't have to tell yourself this is what this person needs to hear man.

They need to, I'm going to drop it on them today. I even got to prepare it. I googled it, I googled all the evidences, I'm going to give them all the deals, ama de Lille slap them today so good. Because unless has called to the way of your master, so here, I'm gonna drop it on them, then hold on. Because none of that was about you putting yourself in their shoes. You know, that that's not how a beautiful counsel works. So it's remarkable that a lot before he even talked about counsel in desire, he first talked about wisdom. Right. And if you combine those two, what that means is, we're not going to be able to give the right kind of counsel with the right references to the consequences

without using wisdom. You know, what? actual experience that I'm shocked by that I've met many, you know, individuals around the world that come to me and say, you know, I don't even like cold buzz anymore. All they do is talk about hell.

Right? All they do is you're gonna burn in hell, you're gonna burn in hell, you're gonna burn in hell. Now the thing is, the reality is that the Hellfire and the standing before a long Judgment Day, and the terror of the Hellfire is a big subject in the Quran. There is no way to deny that there's no way that that's not a reality.

But if you are imbalanced in the way you present that reality, and let me explain why, why would that be imbalanced? A lot of times the art of the Koran, we're talking first and the original audience was the koresh, you say when we do sere studies, we say that suburban New Zealand is absolutely critical. Meaning when was the IR revealed? Yeah. So the IR was revealed to certain groups of people, for example, the Quraysh, who were the worst of the worst, towards anybody who believe they were the they were terrible to orphans, in many cases, they were terrible to those who couldn't stand up for themselves. And they were absolutely criminal towards the prophets. I saw them

and the believers, they tortured them physically, psychologically, financially, they did all kinds of heinous crimes against humanity, if you will, they engage in those sorts of crimes. And then what I did is, Allah reminded them of the consequences of those who don't believe, like them, people like them, and the kinds of punishments they're going to get.

That's the context in which this conversation is happening. So they alleged talking to some pretty bad people. And he's talking about some pretty bad consequences for some pretty bad people, You with me? And now you take the IRA, without understanding who the conversation was with, and what it was originally doing in this place. And now you start having the conversation with a 13 year old who missed their budget prayer,

or a 16 year old, you know, or to, you know, a young man or young woman who messed up here and there, and now you're dropping the warnings of crush on them and reciting the whole surah on them. Yes, the surah is for humanity. But the wisdom of the Quran is a Quran and Sunnah Holy krahula Allah nasi, Allah Moxon was Allahu Allah. And this is a recital, we broke it apart. So you can read it on two people at the right occasion.

And we sent it down gradually. So the best people who heard the Quran didn't hear the whole Quran at once, and they didn't hear and just any idea, the last spoke to a certain audience a certain way, another audience another way, another audience another way. That's why solos have different styles. That's why even if they're talking about the same thing, they talk about it differently, because different occasions, different audiences, that's a steady and allows book, and that's a study and how we should communicate effective communication takes these things into consideration. That's part of our I thought has an another example of that, that I feel very strongly about. Some of you might

find this politically incorrect, or controversial. I don't think it's controversial at all. His stories of the prophets, there are stories of many prophets in the Quran, new Halley salam, Saleh Ali Salam Shriver, la Salaam, and the list goes on. And in all of these stories of the prophets, there's a common thread, the common thread is prophets, and this is the kid Sunday school version. Right profits comm people don't listen, then a lot of destroys the people.

And only the few people that believed in the profits and the profits themselves get saved, then a new profit comes. Most people listen or don't listen, most people don't listen, then they get destroyed. And then another set of lessons another profit for different people. Right. So what happened to the club of New Hampshire, I even Musan, you name it one after the other, you know, the pharaohs or whoever else? Over and over again. Yes. So now you're explaining this or you're sharing this and say, Well, our kids, the most important thing for our kids is that they need to know the stories of the prophets Hold on, hold on.

When the Quran was revealed, and these nations and their destruction was being talked about, who was the original audience of that conversation?

The original audience of that conversation was the Quraysh who were acting just like the people of North. Yes. And a lot whole them you guys are about to be destroyed because you're acting just like those who came before you who acted in this way and I destroyed them. So you are you think you're better than the people of nor

do you think you're better than the people have solid and shy?

You know, karate can afford to be moody mean that's how we deal with all criminals, you're gonna act like that I'll treat you like that what Anthony dallisa natella hit abdillah you will not find a change in the way Allah deals with things. A while has a consistent way of dealing with things. So what am I saying a lot of times the stories of the profits were being given to people that are on the verge of the same consequences of destruction.

Children are not on the verge of being flooded

or being destroyed in this life.

They do need Islam. But as what a seven year old says which one was more highly sound was that a fire flood fire or water how they let kill his people.

Then we've created a very negative image in the children in the in the minds of children about what profits do, because in their minds simply over simplistically, profits just come to what tell people to listen, and when they don't people get killed. That's oversimplified and a gross oversimplification. And there's nothing beautiful about that. And here, what does Allah say, call to the pathway of your master using wisdom and good counsel. good counsel. If you create only fear,

that's the only way people are gonna listen is by way of fear. If that's the only thing that'll work, no be my Yeti cooler, calm, or something that will soften the heart. That's the definition of Admiralty law. So finding the appropriate thing to share at the appropriate occasion, is the son of the Quran is also the son of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, and finding the most beautiful way to share that is critical.

Biltmore Hotel has Santa with beautiful advice. And the thing is, I was reading about Morocco to me today, and I thought about this idea. And he said something just in passing something obvious. But it really struck me that Allah revealed this ayah to the prophets. I said, I'm first because it starts with you called singular, meaning the Prophet is being commanded to talk to people. And he was I just gave you the examples. He was talking to Christians and makia. And the police were not nice. They weren't, they were hostile to what he was saying. They weren't eager to listen, they weren't tuning in, they want you to tune him out. But probably even cut him off, you know,

aggressive people, they don't even let you finish a sentence, right? cut you off. And they'll start insulting you on top of that, oh, raise their voice over years over drown out your voice, they'll do those kinds of things. And they even got physical on top of that. All of that's happening, analyzing us stick to wisdom and beautiful counsel, even if most of the time you have no opportunity to say something beautiful, even if you find that half an inch, take it.

Give them good give them beautiful counsel, do that for them. What that tells you is a lot did not allow the profits of the law Harley for them to dismiss the Quraysh even though they're the Kufa, even though it was talking very harshly to them in the Quran, but the Prophet is in his place as a human being and allies in his place as a master. The master can be angry at Croatian say these people are going to, they might end up they're going to end up burning, like the way the donations before them came. They will get destroyed the way they came. They better change their ways he can speak as a master. But when he talks to his servant, his slave, His Messenger, sallAllahu, wasallam,

you don't talk like it, I can talk this way. You will talk to them and find the best opportunity to share something beautiful with them. Bill Maher, atlatl, Hassan.

When good in with good counsel, what does that teach us? that teaches us that sometimes you try to talk to somebody, they're very aggressive towards you, or you share something good, and they don't want to hear it. And what do we do? Well, this person is off my mother in law has on a list. I will even if I have something good to share. I don't want to hear from them. And they are not going to hear from me. They're off.

Right? Because I crossed them off. If profits did that, then the list would the list of people that would receive the message of Islam would get shortened very, very quickly.

Because they are they're going back and they're sharing something beautiful, without letting it hit their pride and their ego because they're not doing it to feel better. This is not a feel good job. They're doing it because they genuinely care about somebody. You're calling someone to a path because you care about them. Because you've benefited from this path and you want them to benefit if you genuinely don't have somebody else's benefit in mind. At the moment, a little Hassanein isn't possible. It's not possible, then. The only

thing you can do is kid yourself when you're trying to tell something to somebody and you find the ugliest possible words the most aggressive possible tone sarcasm dismissal name calling this has now become Oh, I'm speaking the Hulk.

This this is you standing up for the Sunnah of the Prophet slicin um, what about the sun Allah commanded him to the ruler Sabina bakeable. Hekmati. waldmann Hassan. And the last thing I'll share with you with today's hookah is it's you know, it's a little bit grammatical, but I think it's an important thing to note.

When you say call, right, and the ISS call to the way of your master, but the important question the master will be he is missing what that means in Simple English is called who

he didn't say called people to the way of your master, called disbelievers to the way of your master call your family to the way of your masters like I fill in the blank right? Call blank to the way of your master What do you put in the blank a lot put nothing in the blank and by the way later on in Xcode, you're gonna find a blank has been filled with john dill home builder t here to debate them in a way that's best. So the Murphy will be he comes back there is a fill in the blank and that's the word them which we'll talk about next week, inshallah. But today, when when he talked about inviting, he didn't mention invite who, why? Because the scope of the invitation is so open.

It's so broad, that there is no one size fits all.

And the kind of wisdom one group will need and the kind of counsel one group will need will not be the kind of wisdom or counsel another group will need. You might have to talk to one child one way or another child another way, you might have to talk to one parent one way or another parent another way.

You might have to deal with someone, one friend one way or another friend another way, it cannot be one size fits all, when it comes to, you know Heckman, Mr. Hassan Saladino, limited to one group, or called them no call this way. But you decide which brand which part of which drops of wisdom, which drops of good counsel will apply to which situation. So he left that blank open for us to fill, you understand. That's actually the wisdom of leaving that Nefertiti he opened it creates an openness. So and he expects us to fill that because he expects us to be people of thought and of consciousness allows will make us of those who can take good counsel and get take the best of it for themselves

and be people of beautiful counsel that people hear and they don't they don't develop ugliness in their hearts from what we said. Rather they're what we what good we have to share the good of it goes into their hearts. And that won't just depend on what we're saying. It'll depend on how and when we say it allows us to make use of those wise kinds of people barakallahu li walakum filco Anil Hakeem when a fire anyway he will it will Hakeem

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