The Smiles and Tears of Prophet Muhammad #18 – The ideal husband

Nadim Bashir


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AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the importance of learning from culture and the way people act when it comes to their behavior. They explain that culture tells us that everyone needs to be the father of their children, but the speaker also emphasizes the importance of being the father of one's own family. They also mention a story about a woman who was angry at her mother and felt like she needed to be the father of her children.
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salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Bismillah R. Rahman Hamdulillah hoobler alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi hmri In about one of the most beautiful things that we learned about us Lhasa Allahu Allah you sell them is that no matter what situation we are in, no matter who it is you can always learn from Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The problem is our son was a father, the Prophet of Islam was a husband, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a son. The Prophet SAW Allah Islam was a father in law, the province of son was a son in law, the Prophet sallallahu, his son was a single father, he was a single parent. And so we see

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that in no matter what situation it was, the province of son was there and you can always learn from the province of someone's life.

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One of the things that we learned as a prophet saw Salem is that how which what kind of amazing husband he was, what kind of amazing father he was, any father, there's so many things that we can learn from Ursula sallahu alayhi wa sallam, and as being the best husband, there's so many things that each husband can learn from from the life of the prophet saw Salem, many times culture dictates to us what is respect and what is not respect. Many times culture tells us that these are the norms and these are the abnormalities in your society or in your families. But for me and for our into what we learn from our deen and what we learn from allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a yes,

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culture is there. And I'm not saying that culture and Islam are two opposites. In fact, if we find something in our culture, that is directly not contradicting any practice, or teachings of Islam, then there is nothing wrong to adopt a culture. But one thing that we learned is that in our families, especially within our families, that there's a lot of things that go on, and we have a misunderstanding, because culture has taught us something, and the CETA of the Prophet, their personality, the problem teaches us something very different. Let me explain. One of the things that many of us have learned, especially when it comes to fathers, when it comes to husbands is that the

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when they when they were growing up, they always saw their father's doing certain things. And they thought that this was the norm, whether their fathers were doing the right thing, or the wrong thing. They felt like this was the norm, and Subhanallah, you know, how many of our kids and how many of our youth, when they when they get married, they're actually taught this idea that you need to be the man of the house, you need to always have an upper hand over your wife. And you need to always put your foot down on her no matter what the situation is. And part of that is that you know, sometimes Subhanallah you see in some family, some husbands and what like this is not from the seed

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of the Prophet. This is not from the personality of the Prophet. But you see some times that and I've seen this happening, too. I've heard about these kinds of stories, where sometimes men, they would get upset at their wives in front of other people because they want to show who's in control. One time, almost even half hour, the allotted time. He knocked on the door of the Prophet SAW law while your son and his wives were there. And what I was hearing outside this room is that the province is saying something and the wives are responding to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now you know Subhan Allah, many times we can take that the wrong way, especially in the

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culture like for example that I come from, sometimes it gets taken as a disrespect, often Sana dua via you know, we hear this so many times, husband says something, the wife responds back, it gets taken as a disrespect. Here, the person is having a similar conversation. He's saying something there or saying something by the power of someone saying something to them. It's a dialogue taking place. The problem is I've never saw it as something to do up dinner. So what happens is that he knocks on the door and the ladies they run inside, and the innominate hottub is upset and he's telling these women and that you should be fearful of Rasulullah sallallahu Isom, you fear me, you

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should be more fearful of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet was salam. He had no problem with that. He had no problem with that. And that's a key thing is that what we learned from us was SLMC, only mahatva rota and he was this kind of person. And by the way, the reason I shared the story is because just looking at the behavior of these women, they also had a smile on his face. He was just like laughing about it, that you know how much they fear Him, and they ran inside as soon as they hear the Voice of America. But the powerful lesson this is that if you want to be the ideal husband, you feel like you want to be the ideal father. There is no one better to

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Learn from them Ursula Salah Salem and do not ever feel that I need to always, you know show my dominance over my family and so forth. The Paulson was never that type he never was in a situation that he says I need to show my dominance over others. Be calm, be soft. This is who this was Saddam was I ask Allah to give all of us ability to become like Rasul Allah so Allah while you're setting them, I'm gonna block them in this akmola Hey, Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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