Nadim Bashir – The Fortunate #10 – The Humor of the Prophet Muhammad
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The Prophet sall campaigns are lighthearted and have a "utterious" attitude, but not humorous. The speakers stress the importance of showing love to children and building bonds with them, as it can become "frictionous" and "monkey" to others. They stress the need to avoid being too afraid of others and limit one's jokes.
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Mr. Lohana Haman honey layer behind me and will slaughter was someone that also to him Hamid Walla earlier he was so happy he is my my bod. So today Inshallah, in this segment regarding the clock of the Prophet SAW Salem, I wanted to take this opportunity and talk about the humor and how the Prophet saw him he would joke around with his members, the Sahaba the women at his time, the women who would come to him and how he was able to really connect with people. The very first thing I do want to say about the nature of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that while he was truly the prophet of Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam, as many people believe that if you really want to
do Dawa, if you really want to inspire people, you have to always be serious, you have to have a very firm demeanor. This was not the nature of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. In fact, Allah subhanho wa Taala He says, For Bhima, Rama to mean Allah He lint Allahu Allah subhanho wa Taala he says regarding the Prophet sallallahu it was said to him, that it was by a mercy from Allah subhanho wa Taala that O Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam that you are lenient with them, when Oh, Quinta Farben volleyball kalbi, l'enfant Domon Holic, but if you were harsh, if you were harsh, if you were rude, you're hard hearted, then these people they would have left you and they would have gone far
away from you and they would have scattered from you. This is mentioned as sort of an Emraan so Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had this very calm demeanor. He had this very kind of attitude in nature, that he was a person who would appeal people to Himself and as his bringing them closer, closer to Allah subhanho wa taala. At the same time, when it came to joking around, and being like light hearted with other people, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he did everything with moderation. Our dean teaches us balance more than anything else, that when it comes to even your EBA you should have a balance when a Sahabi was overdoing when he was worshiping Allah
so much that he was not balancing his family life and his bad life and his devotion to Allah. Even the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reprimanded that man and said that your family has a right upon you to so our deen teaches us balance, meaning that yes at times we can be humorous at times we have to be serious. So this is the nature of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now, when I share with you some things right now, I want to I want us to understand that when we talk about the humor of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
I'm when I shared with you some of these things you may 1 of all you may think to yourself that these are not jokes, these are not actually funny. Like today we have a different standard of what funny is, we have a different center of what we find funny or humorous and so forth. At the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would joke around, or he will be humorous, or you'll be light hearted with them in different ways. The point is, the most important point is that we don't have to joke around or be light hearted exactly the way the person was. But we have to be light hearted at times too. Now the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam while he was a prophet of Allah.
One time he was even joking around what is the habit of the Allah to run home? And the Sahaba were shocked. They're like, this is the prophet of Allah. And he's being light hearted with us. And the Sahaba they said, yellow salah, are you joking around with us? And the Prophet saw some said, Yes, I'm joking around with you. So there is nothing wrong in all, is nothing wrong in having that kind of personality. The very first thing I want to share with you some examples from the life of the problems of Salam is when he was playing around with children,
Hassan and Hussein or the Alexon Houma, the grandchildren, the prophets of Salaam, very dear to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And what he would do is that at times, he would hold her hands, and he would put their feet on his feet, and then he will raise his feet. And he would, he will bring them close, and then he will put them put them down, bring them close, He will kiss them and put them down mean that he was playing around with the children. One time was to Lhasa Allahu Allah, he was some came in Medina, there was a place where the children would play. He went over there one time, and he called her saying to him, now Hussein did not respond. He he said to his own
grandchild, come to me, Hussein did not come to Him. Now the persona did not say, oh, you know what, what kind of child he is, but the means but nothing like that. Okay. He went, he ran after Hussein. He ran after him laughing, playing and finally he grabbed him, kissed him, hug him. And then he put him down. Most importantly, probably solves the problem. It is some was playing with him. Jabba the alotta on one time he mentioned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was on his knees, and he was on his hand. Like he was like, at that time, we say, you know, like we tell our children, you know, get on your, you know, your father's back like a horsey. But he was saying like, you know,
I'm a camel Get on my back. So Subhanallah Jabra says that we came inside and we found the grand sons of the Prophet SAW Salem on his back and the province of salaam was moving along the room with his grandson on his back, once again, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam being playful with his own children. And so when it comes to our children to you know, there are times when I hear stories, where fathers do not want to show any kind of affection. They don't when they don't show any kind of love to their children, it is most important is so important and essential that we show love to our children, play around with our children. I know sometimes, you know, especially with the immigrant
community, for those of us who have come who may have come from overseas, you probably don't even know how to dribble a basketball, you might not even know how to dribble a basketball, but just to be playful with your children. At times, play with them, you know, at times, play with them. You're not you may not even know how to play a board game. But at times, sit down with your own child, sit down with them and just you know, find out what exactly is a board game. Even if your children are playing video games at times, of course, times and there's a context by time to sit down with them because see, that's what that is what they like. And when you show interest in what they're doing,
and you're being playful with them, eventually when you tell them later on to do something inshallah they will listen one time was who also Allahu Allah He was send them he came across a child. This child's name was homemade. And he found out that his his bird died and the Prophet SAW sent him he went to cheer him up. He says yeah, well made my father no aid Oh, man What happened? You know, hey, and because Iran It was light heartening for, for homemade. And so this is this is Hoodless, who also Allahu alayhi wa sallam was meaning that when we see our own children crying, try to go you know, a lot of times parents they will come and say, Oh, you're a boy, you're not supposed to be
crying, right? That's what happens. Most cases, grow up, be a man and so forth. But when you see our children crying, just like the Prophet sallallahu it was, go to them, give them a hug, be that be affection to them. This is something that goes far. And this is following exactly what Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did. Now when we talk about his wives, the Omaha don't mean I shall have the alotta on her once she was traveling with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam and the Prophet alayhi salam, it was always his nature that he would travel at the back here.
To travel all the way in the back, so the entire army was in front of him. So one time he told all the Sahaba that you move forward, and go ahead and just continue your journey to Medina, and I'm going to be here with Aisha. So what happened was the Aisha Viola and she says, the time that first time when me and the Prophet SAW sent him we raised on camels, we raised on camels, she says, At that time, I was light in weight. I was thin at that time, this was the very beginning of our marriage. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi, wa salam and I we raced, and I beat, I beat Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she then says that years later the Prophet SAW Selim was
on his mind, yeah, that I shall beat me. So now one time later on again, when the prophets of Solomon I Isha, were on an expedition to power some he sent again the Sahaba forward, and then I shall says that by that time, later into Medina, I had packed on some weight. So then the Prophet SAW Selim, you want to race me, and the Prophet saw some he defeated me. And then after that he was you know, as they say, you'd always rub it in their face. So the Prophet saw some he would always rub it in Ayesha's face. But the point is that how you know how easy nature the Prophet SAW, Selim was easy going, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was and so question is that when it comes to
our spouse, you know, one thing is that I understand that from the culture at times we come from, we feel like we have to always be very, very serious at home. We don't want anyone to take advantage of us and so forth. This is not hula hula so la hottie was sent him was, you know, if we're so much worried about our authority at home, there will be no love and affection at the home. So this is why once again look at the Prophet saw some how he was playful with his wife, one time, I should not be allowed to and she also mentioned and this is narrated from normality, bit of a shield or the ultra iron, that once a wicked Ohtani came to the house of the province of Salaam. And he knocked on the
door. And he heard I Isha. And the problem is, I'm talking to each other. And Ayesha had
her pitch of the pitch of her voice had risen little in the her, her pitch and the pitch of her tone was slightly higher than the pitch of the tone of the Prophet sallallahu. It was set it up. Now a booker walks in all the time, and he begins to get really upset his own daughter, that How dare Can you raise your voice above the voice of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the province has sent him he intervened, he intervene. And he says, obika don't worry about it. Me and her. We were just talking and so forth. She was not being disrespectful and you don't have to worry about it. So when he said this to obika Rodon, that he was able to calm down and he was able to leave. At that
time the province has Salam he will tell Aisha Ha, see are protected you today. You know, I saved you from a big problem. So this is how Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would at times tried to be once again, easy going with his wives.
Once a woman came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she was old. She was elderly. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she said that will I go into Jana, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says that, haven't you heard the news? Haven't you heard the news? Don't you know? Oh, like elderly women. Don't go to Jannah elderly women don't go to Jana. So this woman, bitchery, she turned around and she walked away. She was very sad. She was crying. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Call her again. And she's and he said to her, that haven't you read? surah Allah wa kiya because and when he said that, haven't you heard that elderly woman don't
go to Jana. He again he said have you heard in Surah Al waka with Allah says in And shutting Hoon in sha for Jana Hoon. Abba car on oral been a trauma that these women who are elderly their ages will be brought down and they will enter into Jannah in in the state that they are young. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said that this is what I meant is not meant that you will not go into Janna. Eventually the lady she left with a smile on her face. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one time he told another another lady and as the Quran mentions that Allah the Prophet said to this lady, that did you find out about your husband, he has whiteness in his eyes. He has
whiteness in his eyes now what that actually meant long time ago like in the story of use of alayhi salam, Allah subhanho wa Taala says about Jacoba his sunnah was a young Latina who mean in a prison he fell who woke Aleem that Jacoba ism he cried and he cried and he cried that his eyes became wide meaning that he became he became blind. So the Prophet SAW Salem, he said to this lady that haven't you heard that? That your husband's eyes, they're white. And so this lady she
says no yellow so Allah my husband can see he's not blind. And he says, No, there is some whiteness in his eyes go home, go check. And when she went, she went home, she saw her husband, and the husband was there. And he quit. Of course he could see. And she says that the person told me that you were blind and he says, No, probably there probably someone told you that there is some whiteness in my eyes. And look, there is some whiteness in my eyes around the the actual eye. So this is the province I'll send them just, you know, he's messing around with you little. So then she realized exactly what Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was saying, once the once it's a hobby
came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he says, Yeah, rasool Allah, I want a camel to ride on there. We're going on an expedition. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says, Okay, you Shala you want a camel? I'll give you a baby camel. Okay, I'll give you a baby camel. And he says, Yes, Will. What am I going to do with the baby camel? What am I gonna do with the baby camel? And he says yes. And so the problem is, I explained to him, he goes, No, no, I'm gonna give you a baby camel. Don't worry. This is a good sized camel. So when the camel he said yellow Sula, this is not a baby camel, the Prophet sallallahu it was some he replied, that yes, one
day this was a baby camel one day, and it is a baby to some other to its parents. It is still a baby in that sense. So this is why I refer to it as a baby camel. This is the this is what the Prophet saw some. He was just trying to again once again, mess with him the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Another story that's mentioned about the this as a hobby. He was carrying as we all know, that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam whenever they would travel, because of the law of Allah subhanho wa Taala no one did one of the differences between the Omaha mumineen and the why and the other women, the Muslim women besides the Omaha Momineen is that no non Muharram. So a
non Muharram cannot see the wives of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So this is why every single time they will travel, they will travel in a box called a low dodge. Okay, they will travel in a box called a low dodge. So once this man he was traveling, he was carrying this whole dodge and he was walking little fast and the whole dodge was shaking a lot. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says that don't you know what's inside, there are some crystals inside. You know what he was referring to is his wife. But he was saying that these they're delicate as crystals are so imagine if you're carrying a crystal how delicate you would be. So be delicate when you are when you
are walking with them. Boy here are the alotta on a very, very well known story I've mentioned before, where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he went and he grabbed him. And he and I even know who's grabbing him and he's saying who's gonna buy the slave and who's gonna buy this slave? And the problem is I sent him a he's missing the process is messing with him the puzzle was, you know, having a good time with him. And he was saying, Get off me Get off me. And then the problem he really I mean, he realizes that is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that that is when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made him feel better when he said that yes, who Allah Who
even if I was a slave who would buy me and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that you are very valuable in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa taala. So this is how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was very easygoing. Now, one thing that we do find about people is, you know, there are always going to be some people that they love to make fun of others. They always like to joke around with others, but they can never take a joke themselves. Even when someone messes with them. Someone has a little good fun with them. They can take a joke Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the complete opposite. He would always take a joke. He was always easygoing. Also, one
time as I said, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was on his he was on his knees on his hands, and he was moving around he was crawling around in the house with his grandchildren. And once a hobby came inside the house of the Prophet SAW Salem and he says, oh the Prophet saw some is a camel the Prophet son was a camel and look at him he's a right arm you know there are people I mean their children on a him that are writing him. The fact that he said that the problem is a camel he is like a camel. It never offended Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in at all. In fact, even when the wives of the Prophet SAW Allah was salam, even when they would talk to the prophets of
Salaam and sometimes they will be light hearted with him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he never felt any kind of disrespect. Now, when it comes to humor when it comes to being funny, and joking around with others, there are some key rules that we have to keep in mind and I'm going to finish on this in sha Allah. The very first thing is that when it comes to joking around, there cannot be any kind of lie or fabrication that is involved. And this is why the Prophet salallahu Alaihe was sent him he said, Woe to the one who tells lies
To make other people laugh whoa to him. This is a Hadith narrated and mentioned in Abu Dawood. So meaning that if we are joking around with someone, and we make up information, fabricated information, just so that we can make other people laugh. This is something that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that we should not do at all. When it comes to joking, there should be no backbiting there should be no slander, there should be no degrading of anyone's honor and dignity. Because more than anything else, the honor of a Muslim is very, very sacred. So if you are joking around and you hurt someone else's feelings, then that does not become a job that becomes
a crime. You have hurt someone else's feelings, and you have violated their rights. This is something that we will be questioned about on the Day of Judgment. At the same time, the job cannot be terrifying or offensive. Once those will also allow her it was some he was traveling. And you know, the Sahaba Athan, whom I want you I want, you know, when you hear this hadith, you really understand that the Sahaba were human beings also. So they what they did was that they took a robe and they tied it to a man. And then what they did was that the man was asleep. So the man was asleep. They got a robe and they tie them up, and they began to drag him. And he got up and he was
scared. So the Prophet SAW Allahu Allah, he was setting them when he heard about this, he said, It is not permissible for a Muslim to frighten another Muslim. Now, what do you get out of this? What do we do today? When we frighten others?
is called pranks. Okay? When you prank someone else, this is exactly what happens. And when it comes to pranks, and if you don't know what exactly are pranks, when you go home, do ask her own children, because our children love to play pranks. And so as your own children, what exactly what kind of pranks are played, I have seen videos when pranks are played, and they are done. And the situation turns into fatal, it turns into fatal. So this is why it is very important that we don't play pranks on others where it can be offensive or it can be terrifying. Why? Because I understand that someone may say, well, it's just only a joke. But sometimes that can become such, it can become very
terrifying, and can become very offensive to the other persons. So that's why because that's something like this can possibly happen. This is why we shouldn't we should not be playing pranks upon anyone else where we are terrifying someone else or anything of that type. Another one is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he has also warned us against mocking and hurting other people's feelings, because this leads to hatred and grudges. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the Muslim is a brother of another Muslim, he does not wrong him and let him down or look down upon him. And then he says a Toccoa Hoonah. Or that Toccoa is here. And he pointed at his chest three
times. And then he also says is sufficient evil for a man to look down upon his brother, every Muslim is sacred to another Muslim, his blood, his property and his honor. So meaning that when we are joking around, and we're putting someone else down, we are making everyone laugh against another person. This is something that is not even right. And also we find that the Prophet saw some he would never say anything from his own tongue that would make someone or someone be hurt. Lastly,
there has to be the right time in the right place has to be the right time and the right place. There are people who love to be humorous. They're always humorous. The Prophet SAW Selim was humorous at times, and at times, he was serious. If we're always humorous, the no one's gonna take us seriously. No one's gonna know if we're lying. I mean, if we're joking, or we're speaking, we're speaking seriously. So in order to keep our honor in place, that's why it is it is important and essential that we're not always joking around in every single situation, that then people cannot even take us seriously. And this is what we learn from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. In
fact, Ahmed Abdullah Abdullah Aziz Rahmatullah Allah he says, that fear joking for it undermines the manliness of a person or a man mean that do not be excessive in your joking at all times. In fact, also we find from salmonella we will cause Rhodiola to run as a hobby or the Prophet SAW Selim. He says set a limit for your jokes for going to extremes makes you lose respect and insights. They foolish against you mean that if you're always joking around than the people who don't know limitations, then they will come and they will be disrespectful to you. And so this is why there are times when you go
Be firm, and there are times when you have to be. You can be joking around. And the same thing comes with our family. And it certainly comes with others. And one last thing I will say is that if there's one area also that we cannot joke around, is in the matters of the Quran and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, no jokes regarding Allah subhanho wa Taala that can be offensive. No jokes regarding the prophesied Salam that can be offensive or say anything that is humorous about Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that is considered as disrespectful. So inshallah we'll stop right here. And once again, hopefully we understand these
things. That who the Prophet SAW Saddam was what kind of nature easygoing nature he had, but at times, at times, there were times when he would like, for example, I share with you some stories about his grandchildren. But there were times when he was firm also, when his grandchild just picked up one date of sadaqa, one date of sadaqa. That's it. What is one day going to do? Yes, was took that date from him. And he told him that we are not allowed the family the problem is not allowed to consume the wealth of sadaqa. And so the problem he can't limitations and they understood, even with our own children keep limitations at times. We are being light hearted, easygoing with them, but at
times we have to be firm in our place. Ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us the clock and the nature of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us easygoing ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make our hearts soft in a way that is appealing. It is appealing to other people and we're able to bring other people closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala through our nature in our attitude. I mean, does that come Allah Subhana Allah homeowner, I'm not sure they will either in the staff yokomoto Blake does akmola hate Islam are they going to label cattle