Nadim Bashir – Siblings Relationships

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The importance of maintaining family ties and kinship is emphasized in Islam, as it is the basis for healthy lifespans and healthy relationships. The segment also touches on the severing of relationships between siblings and parents, the negative impact of severing relationships, and the importance of sharing good news and helping others. The segment emphasizes respect and balancing boundaries, as it is necessary to avoid conflict and maintain healthy lifespans. The importance of reaching out to family members for peace and happiness is also emphasized. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a video about a fundraising project.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim in Al Hamdulillah Muhammad who want to start you know when I started when I was Billa, Himanshu Rudy and fusina Ahmed sejati Marina Mejia Hila Hoefler medulla, or main yodel for their head yella wanted to do Allah Illa law who lash at ICA when it's the unknown Mohammed and Abu rasuluh I'm about for the call Allah Baraka Tala emoji Africana, Hamid bow there would be like me shirt on or Jean Bismillah R Rahman Rahim yeah your aura Buck Mullery halacha coalminer, sinuata wahala common Huzzah. Jaha wobba Salmon humeri jeden cathedra when he says, What up Allah Hi Lolita Harmon Allah Allah and Allah community BAM waka Allah to Allah you will arena I'm

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gonna topple Wahaca Ducati what are the Moto Illa Antimo Simone Wirkkala to Allah you Hallerin Amana tabula Coenen said either you slept like

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Uber Come on, man, you tried la hora Sula PHIPA the fares are frozen all the muscle duckula Who dalim for inner circle Khalifa Kitab Allah will highly had you had you Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were shadow Ohmori Martha to her Wakulla motors is in beta what will be the art in Bala Wakulla garden for now my bad. I ask Allah subhana wa Taala that just as he has gathered us here today on this day of GEMA May Allah subhanho wa Taala gather as with our families, in general for those of Allah in the companionship of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I mean eurobodalla Mean,

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brothers sisters, when we think about Islam, what exactly is Islam? Islam is not only praying Saud five times a day, Islam is not only fasting in the month of Ramadan. Islam is not only reading Quran when we get a chance. Islam is not only making Vica to Allah subhanho wa Taala the reason why Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he talked about family. And he said that the best amongst you are those who are good to their family is because what we show outside to the entire world is our Quran. When we showed you the entire world is our solid. We show the entire world our fasting and our CM but the true

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All colors, and the true love of a human being is exhibited and how they behave at home. This is why today Inshallah, in this football, I want to talk about a very serious issue. You know how many times people have called me and they have talked to me about their issues, they have talked to me about their family issues, their family dynamics, and SubhanAllah. One thing that I hear constantly, and I felt like that enough was enough. And there is, you know, time has come that, you know, we have to talk about this in the hotbar. And that is the importance of keeping family ties. When we talk about family ties. Of course, this is a very broad subjects, a very broad subject, we can talk

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about maintaining a relationship with our family when it comes to our relatives, but I'm not going to talk about even relatives today. I'm talking about your own blood family. Today. I've heard some I mean, today, you hear so many cases, so many stories. When you ask people about their family. I hear this so many times, we are 10 siblings, 10 Brothers and sisters, and none of us talk to each other. We are eight siblings, none of us talk to each other. Brothers and sisters. What's so mind boggling about this even more, is that when we talk about this disconnection, this severing a relationship between siblings, it doesn't happen in other families, but it happens in the most

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religious families. It happens in the families that pride themselves on the we are religious. This happens in families that pride themselves on that we are great supporters of Dawa, we do this. And we do that these are people who recognize themselves, they see themselves as religious families, and the most amount of severing of relationships is happening within the religious families. Think about this for a moment, brothers and sisters. I know that every single parent wants their kids to remain connected. We have three four kids, we always talk to our kids to support each other. We always talk to our kids to look after each other. Today, mom and Bob are here tomorrow, Mama Bob are gonna are

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gonna be gone. You three, four are gonna have to look after each other. But don't you think it is hypocritical, that when our kids when they see that my parents aren't telling me to remain connected, but when I look at my own parents, and I look at my own uncles and my own aunts and so forth, none of them are talking to each other. And is this the case not just for weeks, but for years on end? Brothers and sisters it is part of our deen just like we believe in the importance of the Quran. We believe in the importance of the Sunnah we believe in the importance of solid is the cut and height and so forth. There is a great importance in our deen. There's a lot of emphasis upon

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keeping the relationship with the family. First of all is the prophets of Allah Almighty He was sending him he says in a hadith Narrated by Abu Roylott or the Allah one in Allah to Allah Hello, hello, hello. Hello. I'm in Hong Kong Matthew Ron, the Prophet saw some says that will Allah subhanaw taala had created all the creatures and when he finished from creation from the task of creation,

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the ties of relationships stood up and he said he yeah Allah. Paul had Pamela EV becoming

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Paul and a matter of Lena and also an Ursula man was so lucky. Well up. Mankato, Rocky, Paulette Bella call for that for that. Lucky. The problem is that Allah why are you someone says that at that time, this concept of kith and kin stood up and said to Allah subhanho wa Taala Oh Allah at this place, I seek refuge with you against severing my ties. Allah subhanho wa Taala said at that time, that or that I treat with kindness, those who treat you with kindness, and I severed ties with those who severed ties with you. And then it said it myself I am satisfied mean that Rahim said I am satisfied Allah Subhana Allah Allah says this is for you. This is a Hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu

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alayhi wa salam and what we learned from this hadith in a nutshell is that our quality Listen to me very carefully when I say this, our quality of the relationship between us and Allah subhanho wa Taala is contingent upon our quality of relationship between our families. If I make it a point to sever my ties with others, Allah will sever his ties with us. And if I keep my relationship and I make a making an effort to remain connected with my family, Allah subhanho wa Taala remains with that person. Another Hadith Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he talks about that those who maintain a relationship, Allah subhanho wa Taala will increase in their wealth

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Allah subhanho wa Taala will increase in their lifespan on the Allahu Anhu called to Allah moment and Sir become Matheson will be he or her Macomb for inner ciliata Rahim Maha button fill. Messiah attune fill man, Mensa tune fill acid Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he is telling us that teach your children learn about your lineage to facilitate this kith and kin. And this ties of kinship. And then he's Anakin salaam says For indeed keeping the ties of relationship and kinship encourages affection and love within the families and increases your wealth and it will increase your lifespan. Today. Subhanallah I've whenever you meet families, they will tell you, especially

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the families, even though they have so much materialistic, you know, opportunities and they have so much in their life, but with Allah He a family that is closely connected with each other siblings are working with each other and they have a good heart within each other and they are around each other with Allah He brings happiness to your life. We also find that in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala says for manda alpha alpha for ajuda. Who aren't Allah, think about this brother and sister This is a very powerful verse, Allah subhanaw taala is telling us that those who make it a point even though someone has done wrong to you, but if you make it a point to do solar, if you make it a

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point to reconcile that relationship, Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling us for a Jew who Allah Allah mean that it is such an amazing reward that will be given to us by Allah subhanho wa Taala that Allah did not even explain or he not even mentioned what reward it is. He just said it's an amazing reward from Allah subhanho wa taala. On the other hand, we find also in the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the punishment, the consequences regarding those who sever relationships, the very first thing is Allah subhanahu wa taala will send his curse upon the person who severs relationships. Allah says in the Quran, for HANA I say to him interval Latham and tuxedo

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fill out what to call to our Hi Macomb hola II can Edina La Nina whom Allah not only will Allah subhana wa Taala send his curse upon them, Allah subhanho wa Taala will make them death and Allah subhanho wa Taala will make them blind. What that means is it may not be in the physical sense, but in the spiritual sense. Allah subhanho wa Taala will take away their ability to listen to what is heard, and how many times you see in families, especially families are always cutting each other off and families are always ruining relationships. When you sit there and you tell them brother sister, this Avila Allah Allah says in the Quran, they don't want to hear it. For them, their ego is bigger

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than Allah subhanho wa Taala for them, their pride is bigger than Allah subhanho wa taala. For them they would rather be the recipients of Allah's curse, and they would rather be made deaf and and blind by Allah subhanho wa taala. But their egos are bigger than that. This is why Allah subhanho wa Taala he mentioned this in the Quran, we also find the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that a person who suffers relationships, their punishment is in this dunya and in the HERA Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says in a hadith, that there is no wrong action, more likely to bring punishment in this dunya in addition to what is in the ACULA than oppression, and

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severing ties of relationship heroes was salam in the Hadith, and he talks about volume and the Hadith that he talks about lon he has connected a severing of relationships with the concept of one brother and sisters, let's, let's open up our eyes. If there is issues in our family, if there's an issue between ours between the siblings, let's try to come together and repair that relationship and more than anything else. Think about this for a moment. You and I we pray we give sadaqa we do so much. Why? Because we we want the ultimate price. We want Jana, we want the ultimate goal, we want to reach our ultimate goal, but Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he tells us in a hadith and

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listen to this hadith, the Prophet alayhi salam says let your the whole janitor call Tehran do all you want. We can strive our entire life. But think about this. If we are part of the problem, where we are staying quiet in the face of the problem remember when you stay quiet in a family that is your approval that shows that you are okay with people not talking to each other. The problem is are some is telling us that a person who severs relationships, they will not enter into Jannah

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think about this once again, as I said earlier, how many religious families we talked about being religious

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And yet we have this problem. This is a wake up call for all of us. And the last Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the prophet Allah you Psalm says that the Amal, of the person who suffers relationships, or who's a Messiah and who has these kinds of issues in their heart. There are mine when people don't talk to each other in the family, their family are not present to Allah subhanho wa taala. Your aamra is going to Allah subhanho wa Taala our hunch is going to Allah, our Quran is not going to Allah, praise Allah as much as you want. None of that is going to Allah subhanho wa Taala because we have an issue within our families, and we're not talking to each other.

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And when this happens, then our Arman ours are restricted, and they are they are in they are suspended in the air, and they are not going to Allah subhanho wa taala. Brothers and sisters, we might think we're doing so much but if we are part of the problem, remember that none of the hay that we are doing is going to Allah subhanho wa taala. So then the question is that how do we fix the problem? We don't have a lot of time I want to quickly run through this. How do you fix the sibling rivalry problem within families? First of all, the advice for parents I have is do not play favoritism favoritism amongst our kids. The minute you play favoritism amongst our kids, the minute

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you appreciate one over the other, the minute you demean one in front of the other, the minute you are unfair to one compared to the other Wallah, you will lose your kids. They may not see something today, but the minute they become 18 The minute they become 21 They're not going to want to do anything with you and they're not going to want to do anything with their sibling. Most families that have sibling issues. It's not because there was some other there are some other issues. The main issue is the key issue is their parents were unfair between them. How often do we see that when it comes to our boys we can let them go out to three o'clock in the morning four o'clock in the

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morning but when it comes to our girls, they have to be home by subtle McRib. I mean this disparity, this unfairness. Why? Because they are girls and they have to get married and so forth. What about our boys?

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They don't have to get married one day. You think they are just so you know, pious at times? Yes. If you know your kids are at the masjid, for example. There's the Malay program that is taking place. You understand the girls at the masjid, they are protected. The boys at the masjid they are protected. But brothers and sisters, I mean, when we do this as parents, we will lose our kids and our kids when they grow up. They're not going to want to be around each other. We also learn from the hadith of us who also Allahu alayhi wa sallam the father of normal living machinery Hola, Juan. He is coming to the salt Solomon saying that I want to give my son a gift Rasulullah saw someone's

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asking him, are you going to give everyone else a gift? He says no, I'm gonna give only one child. Only one child of mine a gift. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, I'm sorry, I don't want to be part of this process. This man came asking for the blessings of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when Rasul Allah says, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw that this is going to cause an issue and this is not right, what the father is doing. Rasulullah saw some he clearly he backed away from that situation for the siblings. What do we learn from this? And how can we maintain a relationship? Number one is do not ever cross the boundaries with your sibling, do our

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boundaries, boundaries of respect, especially when it comes to families learn how to be respectful to each other. One the most. One of the things that breaks the families apart, especially when they grow up is when they are comparing one child against the other. My child is this and their child is this and when you create a sense of competition, clear competition, this will sever the hearts because any mother and father they care about their child but when they see that their sibling is coming around and they're always comparing and so forth. This becomes very very problematic down the road. Also, we learned that just like how to not only get Salam and Musala you some is a story that

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we find of siblings Musa you some had a stuttering issue, he cannot you cannot communicate very clearly. Yet when Allah subhanho wa Taala he gave this MACOM this this de Raja this honor to Musa alayhis salam Musala you Sam He's telling Allah subhanho wa Taala Haruna he was due to be here as the that he's telling Allah subhanho wa Taala that I need support send my brother Harun Harun was older than Musa alayhis salam, but never did Haruna overstep his boundaries never did Harun say to Musa you cannot communicate clearly. Let me communicate on your part on your behalf. What we learned from this is when it comes to siblings do not create cross the boundaries of respect with each

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other. Also, what we learn from the Quran is especially from the story of use of our youth Salaam and his brothers, clearly there was sibling rivalry in their rivalry there. But what we learned from this is the importance of making sure you let go brothers and sisters do

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We're always going to be some people in the family who have to let go, who have to have their vision and their goal in their eye on the bigger prize of Allah subhanho wa Taala use of Allah is some sees. He's now the financial minister of Egypt. He sees his brothers, he has flashbacks, a person cannot run away from the memories, he has those memories he remembers. But at that time, he never held that against them, he remembered and he realized that they are a need and they are in support. And even after they were made aware that this is the same person that they harmed, and they threw into the well real use of out of use and did not use that against his own brothers. So what we

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learned from this is that sometimes we have to put aside our ego for the bigger goal and anyone as a Prophet sallallahu it was somebody who says that a hadith Montoya Allah Rafa hula, whoever lowers themselves, Allah will elevate them, Allah will elevate them. Today we have a belief in our families, that the one who says sorry, first, he is the weak one, you may think that he's the weak one. But according to Allah subhanho wa taala. He is the one who has the most amount of strength according to Allah, He is the one who is the most beloved in the family. So that is why let's lower the solar ego and let's try to bring our families together. Ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make us

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we're amongst those who who have a connected family may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us amongst those who bring people together who reconcile between people and not several people and several relationships I mean noble Allah mean but Allah Allah Anna welcome Phillip Quran Alim whenever I know what you come ready with the game and stuff for the law. Howdy welcome. What is a Muslim in the festival Pharaoh in the who who will have a photo when?

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Bismillah Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was someone that also the Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi. Marine about last thing I will saying is people come and they say I've done my part. Yeah, sure. I reached out to my family. They want nothing to do with me. If that is the case, you've done your job, but you have to do a sincere, sincere job about it. You have to reach out to them sincerely not just call them one time and say you know what, I've done my job No, go out of your way. Once again, lower your ego and Allah subhanho wa Taala will elevate you. I ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make to grant us families that will bring peace and happiness to our lives. We

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ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to rectify our relationships. We ask Allah subhana what that to bring our hearts together as a family and as a community. I mean eurobodalla Mean, Aloha Muslim Islam. When was the mean? Allah who was or Islam when Mr. Muna frequently makan Allahumma sunnah Allah mahalo finna Wofford Billa hola Donna was female Alana while female with Alana Warham Mota and our hookbait Dena illiquidity hide while tsunami coalition wife of Nam included Lloyd Allahumma in nanosilica Alma Nafisa wahama la Mata Kabbalah what is fun was what she meant colada. Allahu manana was becoming a millennial for medical biller. Yasha Amin of Silla touchbar women do it Illa used to

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Harlan, I request everyone to please make sure that assault is over. Just give me few minutes of your time in sha Allah.

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Allahu Akbar.

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah

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a cellar. aleikum wa rahmatullah on

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if you guys everyone, just please remain seated just for just two three minutes inshallah.

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