Khatira – Toxic Friendship

Nadim Bashir

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AI: Summary © The transcript discusses the issue of companionship in the Arab world, which is a problem that people may hold back on. It is also highlighted the historical context of Islam, including the story of the Polish community's hesitation to admit their religion. The importance of finding happiness in one's life and finding one's spiritual potential is emphasized, along with the need to find one's friendships and find one's best friend in order to achieve success.
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shorter a MacArthur has me revolving around a certain issue that goes along. That goes around in many, many times in our lives. So how long I mean, the times when I counsel people when I sit down with people and just talk to them and their problems, one thing that I've seen very consistently is that a common complaint has been that I want to do things in my life. I want to move forward in life. But there are people in my life who are holding me back. And there are people in my life who don't want to hide for me, they show face, they show me a face that they care for me. But behind the scenes, I know that they don't care for me. There's hypocrisy in their life. And they're the ones

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who are holding me back. And they usually told me that sometimes it's family, sometimes it's friends, sometimes it's community members, sometimes there's relatives, and the list just keeps on going on today inshallah want to talk about this matter. First of all, is that we learned that this is not an issue that we see today. This is something that has been going on for a very long time. So that for con Allah subhanho wa Taala talks about companionship, Allah says that there will be a person on the day of judgment where Yo Ma Guevara Remo, Allah, your day a was talking about that. Remember, the day will come where the volume will be chewing on his hand. Now, first of all, I want

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you to think about this. If you see any person sitting around and they're actually chewing on their hand, you can tell right away that there is something of great undermined, there is something they're worried about. Allah is saying that on the Day of Judgment, you'll see the volume, he'll be chewing on his hand on his hand, your other volume, Allah your day, you're cool and he will say, Yeah, Anita, Anita huduma, Rasulullah, Sabina, that Yahweh and then he says, Yeah, way later, later, honey LaMotta his full and Halina. He says that I wish I were taking such and such person as friend, and I will not taking such and such person as my friend, Luca Avallone. This person, he deceived me,

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he misguided me by the if journey. But after the vicar and after the hidayah of Allah came to me, this person misguided me now, there's a story behind this, that there was a one of the leaders of the Quraysh it was his common practice that whenever he would come back from a journey, he would invite everyone to his home. He was a very well off leader of the place he was a Muslim. So he invited us who also allow your salon Rasulillah Salam was considered as a leader of the community. So he invited him Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said to him, that I will take your food. Now one thing that you have to always remember when it comes to the Arabs, they're very big on hospitality

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and they get very offended. It's something that within the the Arab world is is part of the nature of the Arabs, that if you deny their hospitality, they can become very offensive. So what happened was that this The problem is that I was telling him, I deny your hospitality, I will not take your food. The only condition I will take your food is you recite La ilaha illAllah. So this person he says, Well, you know, I, I have to i The person has to have food for me. So he says okay, I should have Allah and Allah why should I want him from the Rasul Allah, he gave in he took his Shahada. The next day, he met what may have been halal or may have been have said that I heard you became a

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Muslim. I found out that you became Muslim. He says, I became a Muslim. The Prophet saw something he asked me to so I converted to Islam. He says that are you coming under pressure, he goes, go back and denounce your assumption, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and so this person, this leader of the Polish, he went back to Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he denounced his arrange and based on this, these ayat were revealed now, this these ayat are generally often explained when we're talking about noble companionship. But here I want you to think about this. Let's try to understand the story here. You have people like Omega Ben Harloff, you have people like Abu Jehan

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deep down in their heart, deep deep down in their heart. They knew that there is some legitimacy with Islam. Ebola Abuja, Hall was heard saying that I would convert to Islam, but my tribe and the tribal Ross was salam. They go head to head, we always are competing with each other if I were to become a Muslim, and I come under Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. And I accept or sorcerer as my prophet is as if my tribe is accepting defeat to the tribe of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and because of this, I cannot do this. Because when you see the stories of Israel in Mirage, when you see the stories of us herbal cough, and so forth, when there's when the Quraysh went to

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Medina and the Jewish community there is said, go back and ask your Prophet about these three questions. Who else have Volkov? Who was burning? What is the rule and Rasulullah. Sasson is able to give all these answers and so forth. When Rasul Allah, someone's bringing in the Quran and they hearing the Quran. They're standing outside the house of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and night hiding from each other. Listen to the Quran in taking you know, just enjoying the citation the Quran, deep down inside they knew that there is some legitimacy to the to Islam, but what they did was that in this case, they are the one

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ones who are not moving forward, but they will not let anyone else go forward either. Even if there was a person who had some goodness in their heart, like this other leader have the courage, even if there was someone who said that you know what, let me give you some a shot. Let me just even listen about Islam. These were the people who were holding them back. And likewise, as I said earlier, there's always going to be people in our life who are going to always hold us back. That is why it is absolutely important. And we see from us allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, The Who are the people that he surrounded himself with. It was those people who helped him in this in regards to

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this dunya and regards to the archetype, it was people like the Sahaba of the Allahu Anhu that helped him in his cause. It was people who did not even believe in Allah who helped in the cause of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam like, like his uncle Abu Talib. So the point I'm trying to make is that a lot of times we surround ourselves with people who hold our who hold us back in regards to our dunya. And regards to our spirituality in regards to any other thing in life, they will hold us back. And what we have a problem with is that we cannot let go, we usually have to sever and we have to move forward. That's the only way you'll be able to move forward and you're

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going to find some happiness in your heart. I'm going to finish on this Inshallah, let me give you an example of a tree. See in the Quran, often Allah gives the example of a tree. That's why I'm gonna give you the example of a tree. You don't want to people come for landscaping, and they come and they want to plant a tree. Usually that tree is in a flower pot. You've seen that right? Yes or no? When they're about to plant a tree, that tree isn't a flower pot, right? Yes or No, not that seed of a tree. Think about it, you put it into the flower pot and it begins to grow. But can that seed that seed of a tree can reach its fullest potential. If it's going to remain its entire life in

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that flowerpot can reach its potential, it cannot reach its potential. Only when you take that seed out along with this routes, and you take this tree out, which is a premature tree, you take that out, and you put it into a ground a full ground, and then the roots can get deeper and that tree tree becomes stronger. Likewise, if that sea were to remain in that flowerpot, it can never reach its fullest potential. Why? Because of its environment. Likewise, many times if we want to reach our fullest spiritual potential, our intellectual potential, our emotional potential, and any other potential that we want to achieve in our life, many times we have to change our environment, just

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like that seed has to change his environment in order to become a full tree and reach his fullest potential. You cannot live in that same environment sometimes have the same friends that are holding you back the same family members that are holding you back. And then you want to reach your potential, sometimes it will not happen. I'm not saying go and cut off relationships. No, our dean has always strictly against that either. But at the same time, you don't have to be used by other people. At the same time, you don't have to always be around them. People who make you feel inferior. Listen to me very carefully. If someone makes you feel inferior, there's no need to be

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around them. If someone makes you feel worthless, you don't have to be around them. I don't care who it is, but you don't have to be around them. And if you have to be around those kinds of people who will hurt you in the heart, who are going to destroy you internally, and they're going to have an effect on your mental state, your mental health state that even if you have to be around them be around them at a bare minimum, and then you cut off. Because this is where people I see people are so much in pain internally. Why because of their surrounding. So this is why our Dean has taught us not only is it about noble companionship, but just that we find the soil Bucha hell and Omega bahala

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do not become Do not be around those people who are going to always hold you back. There are people who don't want to move forward in life and they cannot bears they cannot bear to see anyone move forward in life and become happy. So cut off from them be more happy inside and choose your friends wisely. I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us amongst those who have friends who care for us who are not toxic in our life and who genuinely cared for us and who want the betterment of us. I mean nobody I mean does that Kamala had a cinematic life to live with Catherine

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was a gentleman Eileen.