Nadim Bashir – GEM #04 The Prophet SAW was Un-Selfish

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The speaker discusses a story about the Prophet sallam alayhi wa sallam, where Jabil talked to people on a romantic relationship but it was handled in a sexual manner. A woman named Debbie sold a car to the speaker and a woman named Javis is trying to sell a book for $40 but is confused about the price. The importance of finding one's happiness and not being in the bubble of pride is emphasized.
AI: Transcript ©
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Continuing with our series gem which is talking about us, Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam. Today inshallah I want to share with you something very interesting about Rasulullah sallallahu. It was something that often we don't read in the books, and that is that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when he talked to people, he studied people, he learned about people. And he would only talk about the things that they would like to talk about, and not the things that he likes to talk about. Let me give you an example. How often have you been to a wedding a gathering, where there are some people Subhanallah they're so filled with their own ego, that all that they're doing at that down to

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that event is just talking about their accomplishments? How many times have you seen that I'm sure you've seen those kinds of people, or I'm sure you've come across people that they're so self See, they're so they're so ego centered, that even if you shared an accomplishment of yours, they will not worry about your accomplishment. They won't give you praises for your accomplishment, but they will talk about their own accomplishments. They will say you know what, you've accomplished this, but you know, what I have accomplished in life and they'll talk about their accomplishments. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not that kind of person. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam understood people. And when he would talk to people, he would talk to them on a level that would relate to them. When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was coming from thought if he was *, his clothes were filled with blood. His shoes were filled with blood. He's sitting in a garden, and that garden belonged to two people who are not Muslims. They sent their, their their slave his name was does that go and serve these graves in these fruits of that? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam is meeting a das perhaps? I mean, it is for the very first time without a doubt. What do you think he's talking to others about? Imagine sitting

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with a person that you have no idea who they are? What would you talk to a person about Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he knew how to talk to people. He knew that let me talk about something that they can relate to. And he asked a does, where are you from? Or does and he says I from Nan wa he says Nan wha he was my brother is from Nan wa he goes your brother's from Manoir he goes yes my brother unis Allah He said um, is from Nan WA, and like this Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was able to establish a connection with him. And soon after that, he converted to Islam and he came into the fold of Islam. This is who Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was, but I want to share

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with you another more, much more beautiful story. And that is a story of Jabil or the Allahu taala. On see Jabra the Allahu taala, a man whose father passed away in the Battle of Oxford, he left behind nine daughters and his son Jabon. And not only did he leave behind all these children, but he left behind a great amount of debt. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he this is now he's, he's in this particular situation. Java is going through a very difficult time in his life. He's trying to take care of his sisters. He's trying to also take care of his father's debts. And the next battle the next expedition that will recall, this is an expedition that took place in the fifth

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year after hijra, and it was in this expedition where the revelation of salt on Hove came down because the enemies they said that when the Muslims they pray, then at that time we will attack them at that time Allah subhanho wa Taala he revealed the ayat regarding subtle health but anyway is that to recall Jabra the Allah one he had a camel and Rasulullah saw some Caesar his camel is extremely weak. So what the Prophet saw some did was uh, he stayed behind. He went all the way back to Java and he says, Jeremy, what's going on? And he says, yada Sula, my camera's weak. So the province of southern what he did was he took a stick, and he simply just tap the camel with the stick, never

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beat it, it never hit it hard. Just simply tap. And all that he did was after he tapped it, the camel stood up and he was energize with this, you know, this unique kind of energy and it began to run and walk at a fast pace. Jabara the Allah to Allah. He's shocked. And now Jabby Ravi, Allah won in the province of some are standing all the way at the back of the army. Now Javelin is a young man, he just got married. What do you think is on his mind? Marriage is on his mind, right? He just got married. Rasul Allah says Sam never talked to him about anything else. But he knew what's on the mind of Javis he says Javid, how's your marriage going on? You know, how's your marriage going on

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Shabbat, see their problems as salam. He talked to people about what they want to talk about. And he says, gotta so long. You know, I got married. He says, Who would you get married to? Do you get married to someone who was previously married? Or someone who's never been previously married a virgin woman? And he says, Yes, sir. I got married to a woman who a woman who was previously married, and he says that perhaps you should have got married to someone who's not previously married, to which Jabba the Allahu Anhu said that yada so Allah, if I got married to someone who's younger than me, then I needed someone to take care of my sisters. Hence I got married to someone

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who's a little older than me. Roscoe.

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Also some set data is absolutely fine. There's nothing wrong with that. Now, as they are coming and he can see you don't see this is this is the thing I'm trying to talk about Rasulullah sallallahu I used some he could read and people's voices, he could study and he saw in Java, his voice as if Java is saying, I want you to get married to a virgin woman, but because of my sister, it's I had to settle on a woman who was previously married, to which Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that job so before we enter into Medina, let's stay outside of Medina for a bit. We're going to send the news to the people of Medina that now our expedition is over, and we're going to come in sha

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Allah and your wife will inshallah decorate the house and clean up the house inshallah and make it in a presentable manner. And the Prophet Allah use some said very exactly, that she will set up and straighten out the cushions. Now when Debbie heard this diversity, yes, who love cushions? I don't have questions. I'm a poor man. I don't have anything Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said Javid this camel of yours can you would you sell it to me? And he says, Of course I mean your Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, I can't say no to that. So he says how much will you sell it to me for it for one that? He says no Rasul Allah, you know, I know he was weak now is fast. I want to sell it

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at a higher price. I mean, I can't give it to you for $1 or one day at home. So he says, okay, Deborah, tell me how much you want to sell it for. And so the books of history mentioned that they went back and forth. Finally, finally, they settle on a price of 40 denims. So Jabra says perfect but one condition I need this camel to get back to Medina. You can you can take the camel I'm gonna be on my foot. So I need this camel to get back to Medina. But inshallah once we get back to Medina, this camel is yours. You give me 40 Then how is the province of some set cool, you know, transaction done. Now he came all the way back to Medina. He left he took the camera home. All the all the

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logins that he had on the camera he took it took it off, he left it at his home, he took the camera back to magenta buoy, he tied it outside. And the Prophet sallallahu also told me that we'll be allowed to the on the go and give him 50 4100 dinars one to two. Anyway, this money was given. Then the Prophet SAW Allah Who are you some Jabra left, then the prophet has some told me now blood take this camel also and go a tight outside Javis house. Now Jabra comes outside his house, and he sees beloved tying this camel. It says that what happened this camels doesn't belong to me. It belongs to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he says the nub of the province has some told me to give

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it back to you. So Jabra is saying that has the set has a sale being cancelled. Like is a problem Saddam retreating from the from the sale. And he says look, I don't know. I just did what the province I'm told me to do. So I took the camel I brought it to your house. So the province so Jabba then comes back to the masjid and he sees us Allah so Allah why you sent me he says he had a Salah. I'm totally confused. Like why did you give me back this camel? So at that time, look at it. See the lack of the Prophet saw some Subhan Allah, the Prophet saw some says that Javid? Do you really think I was negotiating with you because I really wanted this camel? No, I was negotiating with you to see

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how much money do you need to take care of your expenses at home.

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This is this is why we study Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He this was a man who was not interested in what he had. But he was interested in taking care of jabbers house because any young man who has to take care of his family, what's the first thing on their mind that I need to have money to take care of my family? That's what got What does what's on their mind. Rasulullah saw some he reads between the lines and he understands people's nature. So what we learned from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was that he was a person who understood other people, whenever he would talk to other people, he would talk about the things that are perhaps on their mind. The problem

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comes to the mother one day and he sees Judy beam, probably Allah Tala on July beam was single, he was poor, and he was not a handsome man. Now you think about it. Any person, a young man who doesn't have anything, but what's one thing on their mind, what was one thing that didn't want to do? Get married? Right? They want to get married. So he says, JB, I think I know what's on your mind. And he says, What do you think is on my mind? He says that you want to get married today. B? He says yes, well, I want to get married. But he says who's gonna who's gonna marry me? I'm poor. I'm single. I'm not good looking man. Promise. Obviously you don't have to worry about that. The President went to

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someone's house. And they said that is your daughter available to get married. They fought that it was Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seeking their daughter's hand in marriage. And there was so happy that was so Lhasa Salam wants no problem, but they said no, no, not for me. It's for this man, Julie beam. And the father. He took a step back. When he told the mother he told his wife, she took a step back. The daughter heard it. She came she said

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If this is what Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once, then I'm going to marry this man whether he is poor single, now good looking man. I'm gonna get married to him and she married him. The point is once again Rasulullah sallallahu it was Saddam always talk to people. He was never about himself. He was never a self centered person. He was always about other people when he lied down next to it Allah Tala Anna, his wife, what do you think is gonna talk to his wife about battles? Wars? What's going on in the community? No. He says to Ayesha, Ayesha, I know when you're, I know when you're happy with me. And I know when you're upset with me. And she says, How do you

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know that? She says that when you're upset with me, you say by the ROB of Ibrahim alayhis salam. And when you're pleased with me, you say by the rub of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is this is why I'm talking about this. This is this is the excellent model that we find in Rasulullah sallallahu sunnah. So going forward in sha Allah, when we talk to other people, when someone comes to us and talk to us, talks to us about them, their accomplishments, we always share the happiness with them. When we see people going through grief and challenges and difficulties in their life, then talk to them about that, you know, Subhan Allah, there are people have come to me and told me

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that they went to other people for help, instead of getting help those people are talking about themselves. So this is why we learn about about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and always remember, it's always about the other people and Soheila I'll finish on this. When you care about other people, then other people are going to care about you. Unfortunately, today, we live in a very selfish society, where it's everywhere everyone is about me, myself and I, I want to be appreciated. I want people to praise me, we should never look for people's appreciation. Never look for people's praises, because the only appreciation we're looking for is who's appreciation, Allah's

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appreciation, the only praise we're looking for is the praises from Allah subhanho wa Taala which inshallah will be the akhira. I asked Allah subhana wa to grant us the o'clock and the character of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam immunoblot I mean, where does that come located? salam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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in Mussolini now almost Lima D one meaning I mean it one quantity now

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he was law the law the bond the one saw beauty now was slavery a lot the one before she you know

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one voice hearing I want to call her she is the one downside BP now one downside the party was on me now was all in

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one heavy Lena foto gentle home one Hatfield lot the ones that get enough along I guess.

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What's the guilt or? I don't know hula.

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