How To Deal With Failure

Nadim Bashir

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This past Saturday or last pass two Saturdays, we have been talking about happiness. And if you have not been there for that hotter, just to give you a quick idea about happiness, there is no such thing called true and everlasting happiness in this dunya any kind of happiness that you and I we experience in this dunya it is very, very temporary, very, very temporary. And the only thing that will bring you happiness in this dunya is when a person understands their true purpose of life. And for a Muslim, their true purpose of life is to please Allah subhanho wa taala. When a person understands their true purpose of life, and they chase that true purpose of life, this will

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eventually bring them happiness in life. But then, of course, you know, someone came and asked me that, how do we deal if this is how we attain happiness, but we live in a dunya where we always experience failure. We live in a dunya where we experience setbacks, and not one time setbacks after setbacks, failure after failure, how do we deal with this in this dunya first of all, is that we have to understand that in this dunya any kind of failure that you and I we experience, ultimate failure, ultimate failure is what Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the Quran, because when Allah says the ultimate success is one thing, that means that Allah is also describing the ultimate failure in

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this dunya when you and I we fail, we can move forward, we can always rectify, we can always undo what we have done, whatever failure and whatever setbacks you and I we experienced in this dunya then they're only temporary, they're not eternal. So keeping this in mind, Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in the Quran, once again going back to purpose, our purpose of this dunya and what we're working towards and so forth, Allah says for men Zorzi Han dinar Whoa, the halal Jana photographers, this is the true meaning of success, anyone who is saved from the fire of Jahannam and he is entered and he is given admission into Jannah which you and I we all are working towards every single hire

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every single good that you and I we do, why do we do this? Of course for Allah's pleasure to gain Allah's love, but at the same time, we always are driven by incentives, what is that incentive that you and I have been given? It is Jana. So that is why Andy and that is success and what is ultimate failure anyone who is not given admission into Jannah and anyone who is given or is told to go into giant Jahannam that is in you know, based on the Quran, that is what is ultimate failure. So that is why we need to understand that in this dunya anytime there are setbacks, anytime there is failure, it is not permanent. It is very, very temporary. So we study from the Quran, and I'm gonna first go

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into the Quran first. And not only that, but just give you a glimpse of different prophets and how they dealt with, with failure. First of all, is that when you talk about failure, think about the story of Adam Alayhis Salam, a man who was in the place where you and I, we wish to be one day in sha Allah, and he was removed from that place because he did something that is wrong. But even though there was a setback in his life, there was a sort of there was a short term failure on his life. What did he do and what do we learn from the story of Imani Salaam is that we move forward, we learn from our past and we move forward. And what did he do? That's exactly what he did when he came

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on this dunya What do you say to Allah subhanho wa Taala Rob Birna ya allah alumna and fusina we have transgressed against ourselves. We're in tofield Linna water Hannah Lena Coonan Amir Hossein, he made a sincere Toba to Allah subhanho wa taala. And what happened after that? Of course, he did remain in this dunya but he moved on. So whenever there is a setback in life, and we all deal with setbacks, we all deal with some kind of failure in some capacity, but we learn from it and we move on, just like we find the story of Dumanis salaam or what if there's a situation where there is setback after setback and you feel like there is never a situation where you are where you've where

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you experience success, then we always go back to the story of Noah and his Salam. Think about a man, one man 950 years 950 years to chase one goal. That's it. He wants people to accept Islam. There are people and there are generations who use the the

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You chase after one goal, but you don't find in the history of mankind one man I mean you know when you have setbacks after setbacks, any human will give up after a while. No human has done what no other you some has done 950 years going back to the same people every single day, he did this for 950 years. So anytime we feel that you know what, I'm I am experiencing setback after setback in my life. Perhaps this is what is written for me No, like we see in the case of Nuada you sum we have to always move forward. failure or setbacks is never a perpetual state, like we find in the story of Jakob Alehissalaam, Jaco Valley Islam was disconnected from his most beloved son for so many years.

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Not only that, but he went through such an emotional trauma experience that the Quran says that he became blind as a result of that traumatizing situation where the Quran says whether you have bought it now who has money for who works for them, that he was so he was going through such an emotional, traumatizing situation, and he was so traumatized, and he wept and he cried so much, that his eyes became white meaning that he could no longer see. But even in the case of Jacoba you Salam, even though he lost his eyesight, he never gave up on Allah subhanho wa taala, he realized that this is not a perpetual state. So anytime we feel that we always keep on moving forward, keeping in mind the

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story of Jacoba Islam. Whenever we do suffer setbacks in life, we always keep on moving forward. Why? Because perhaps Allah wants to get us to a destination. But the only way to get to that destination is by going through this route of setbacks after setbacks, like we find in the story of use of either husana Think about a young child thrown into the well. And then he is picked up and sold into slavery. And then he goes into a young man, and he is accused of trying to commit Zina, although it was then proven later on that she the the wife of the king was the one who was trying to come after us fighting Islam. And then we find the story of the prison and while he was what and

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then he stayed in prison, and not just probably for a week, or one year or two years, fella beautiful Sydney, build the Aussie Nene many, many years, yet this man use values and realize that this is all part of Allah's plan. Because at the end of the day, this man where he was in a prison, completely forgotten, Allah subhanho wa Taala gave him a reason. And Allah gave him honor and dignity in a way that he became the most important person in the country of Egypt. So this is why we always realize that Allah has a plan. And you and I, we need to always trust Allah's plan, even in this situation because they in Philistine all the setbacks that we are seeing. This is perhaps this

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is without a doubt, Allah's plan. Allah knows what he's doing. And you and I, we have to put trust and Allah's plan. And finally, we always learn that whenever there are failures, perhaps the failure will open up another door. Even if I am Rahmatullah Allah he says something very beautiful. He says, when Allah takes something away from you, we often cry about it. We often complain Yeah, Allah, why did you do this? But perhaps Allah is taking something out of our hands, to put something better in our hands. Sometimes Allah subhanaw taala is putting us in a situation because he wants to put us in a better situation. So that is why we always have to put that trust in Allah subhana wa Tada. And

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there is no example better than the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, if you think about this one man, from beginning to the very nearly to the very end, this man went after setback after setback in his life. Never did he ever question Allah subhanho wa taala, even after he became a prophet, while he's making Hijra to Medina, this is a man by the name of Soraka Ben Malik, who's coming after Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is a man the Prophet alayhi salam who does it. He doesn't even have a house to live in. He's leaving Mecca. He's going to a foreign land at that time Medina and he has no idea what's in Medina besides the fact that he has a group of

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supporters over there, that's all that he knows. But in that situation, he never gave up. So Robin Malik is being promised the the jewelry of Kisara and he's thinking to himself, this man does not have a place to live, but he's promising me the jewelry and the treasures of Giza. Not only that, but later on even while they were in hospital.

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I was up, there was a huge boulder that came around, and they call the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet SAW Sanlam, he took the name of Allah subhanho wa taala. And he went after that boulder, and he was able to, and he was able to break it. But at that time, there was a spark that took place. And at that time, he said, he gave this prediction that the Muslims will become victorious. And not only that, but they will even take over the Persian Empire and so forth. Now, here thinking about this, once again, any Muslim who's there who does not have strong faith, in the words of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. He's thinking to himself here, we're fighting

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for our lives. Here, we're digging up a trench so that we are not attacked by the corporation, so forth. We have to deal with the courage. We have to deal with the Jewish people in our community and so forth, because they are the ones who then betrayed Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and here the Prophet he is someone is talking about a different country.

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How does this make sense? But once again, Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam, he knew exactly what he's talking about. And that is why even though there was a minor setback, but they are they were able to move forward in the in the expedition for Davia. That's exactly what happened. They went for the NIA of camera, anyone would have said they lost that expedition. This has been a totally failure of a failure of a expedition. But Allah subhanho wa Taala said, in fatahna, laka fat hammer Bina, so that is why we always learn from the Prophet Sal, Allahu Allah, he was sending him. If you look at the life of the province of Salem, you will see all the way pretty much too high bar,

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too high bar. There were setbacks after setbacks in the life of Russell as a son of the Prophet it is some really, really was able to, you know, be in a much calm in a much more peaceful situation, post hybrid posts for Tameka and so forth. That was a time in his life. And how long did that last only very, very few years. But we learned that even in this man that we all love to follow and we have so much love for him. In our heart. This man suffers setback after setback. Setbacks are not necessarily a sign that Allah is upset with us. That's not how it works. There were other religions who believe in this as Muslims, we don't believe in this when there are setbacks in life as Muslims

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and while I'll finish on this, there are two things that you can recite anytime you have a setback in life. Two things you can recite. Number one is Allahumma Adjani fie Moosey. Bertie was lovely Hiram minha ya allah alleviate this affliction of mine, and replace it with something that is better.

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I know people who have read this dua and setbacks in their life with total Yaqeen with total conviction and will life you hear the stories will Allahu Allah subhanho wa Taala gave them something that is better. Allah gave them something that is better. These are the words of Rasul Allah, He said, Allahu alayhi wa sallam, but when you and I when we read these to us, we have to have some kind of European and this is not like you know what, I'm going to read this dua if it happens, it happens. Alhamdulillah if it doesn't happen, I'm not even expecting anything from Allah subhanho wa Taala know, if this is the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you read it

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with the highest level of certainty, because this is not coming from any other person, but my and your Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and secondly, anytime there's a situation, we say that Allahu Masha FOD. This is what Allah subhana wa Taala wanted, and he did as he wanted and as he had Dustin, so we put that in Allah subhana wa Taala and by the way, when we say that Allah Who Masha file, this is our way to show Allah subhanho wa Taala that I put my faith in you Oh Allah, I may not understand the whole picture. But Allah subhanho wa Taala knows what he has what he's doing. And even if there's a setback in our life Alhamdulillah No problem. I'm going to finish on this just the

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other day Subhan Allah, you know, these people in Philistine you know, we we are here in America showing our pity, but will lie these men, these women and warn them that these children are teaching you and I what Iman is Wallahi OCO Cymbala they are teaching you and I what Iman is, there is a child. He's in a sling, his house is gone. He goes, You know, they're asking him there you know, they're asking there's a reporter, someone from the press asking this question and he says that what about now what are you gonna do now? And he says he was will lay Allah mana. That's why you said Allah ma Anna. Will la he I was thinking this child he has more email than I do. He has email than

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us more email than us. He does Allah Allah then he says that they have they think they have everything, but they have nothing and they say

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We have nothing but we have everything because Allah is on our side Subhan Allah. I don't know what else you can say about these kinds of people and their faith and their and just there is the karma. And no matter what they're going through, they always say Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah is with us. Allah is with us. You think Allah does not see that. So we learn from them. And we learn from the seed of the Prophet we learn from the Quran. Whenever we have setbacks, there's a way to handle and move forward in life. I ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make everything easy for everyone, especially if our brothers sisters and Philistine in Gaza. Our Muslim brothers sisters and friends are Muslim

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brothers and sisters in India, our Muslim Brothers Sisters in in Rohingya in Myanmar, we ask ALLAH SubhanA to protect our brothers and sisters all over the world in this country as we go through this difficult time. I'm eatable Alameen wa como la jolla salaam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh catch

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