Nadim Bashir – GEM #11 How The Prophet SAW Treated People With Low SelfEsteem

Nadim Bashir
AI: Summary © The Prophet sallahu alayhi wa sallam's advice to his closest companion helped him grow and develop his own abilities. The three stories about Fatima's success, including a woman claims to have a large nose and a man claims to have small legs, are also discussed. The importance of building one's values and avoiding mockery is emphasized.
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So, today as you know that every time on weekday nights when I get up, we talk about the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, from the perspective of how he would deal and how he would treat different people. We have to understand that in the time of the Prophet sallallahu, why do you have some of you has to have it on the Allah on home, there were some Sahaba, who were brave, there was some Sahaba who are not so brave. You have some Sahaba, who were very strong in their character, and their morale and so forth. And there were some who might be a little more weaker. There were some who were strong in leadership, there were some who were weak in leadership, every single Sahabi

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had their strengths, and there was some Sahaba who had their weaknesses. This is why one time once the hobby came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says, Yeah, rasool Allah make me a leader Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, You are not fit to be a leader. And that's why I will never make you a leader. So what Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did was that he understood the weakness and the strength of every single companion, and he will use them in their appropriate manner. Likewise, amongst this habit of the Allah on home, there was some Sahaba, who were dealing with self esteem issues, they never had confidence like others, The Hobbit or the Allah

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on whom they will have confidence. Now, when we talk about self esteem issues having low confidence in one's life, it could be for various reasons. Often, when a person has low self esteem, it is because they're more concerned of what other people are thinking about them. Or they have heard other people say things about them, or past remarks about them, that would highlight their weakness, and hence a person who has low self esteem, they could even develop some insecurities about themselves. And eventually what happens is that a person he tends to stay away from everyone else, they don't like to be around other people Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he knew that there

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was some Sahaba, or the Allah on home, that they had some kind of insecurities. There were some Sahaba, who were dealing with low self esteem. Now in our day and age, what do we do is when we see someone who has low self esteem, sometimes we might tell them go and get help, go and seek some mental health, mental health help. And sometimes as a parent, it could happen to also many cases, that instead of helping them, we may even antagonize them, we may even be critical of them. Why do you have low low self esteem, grow up Be a man we say these kinds of things, sometimes to our children to what happens is that instead of instilling confidence in them, we even increase we

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magnify their insecurities, we magnify their so their confidence issues. So that is why we always go back to the life of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because he taught us that when you have people like this in your community, there's a certain way that you deal with them. I'm going to share with you we shall say three stories from the life of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, the how he was able to instill confidence. And not only that, but these people who may have had low self esteem, or they may have a body issue you don't like people they say they're loved people who come and complain about the way they look. You know, some people say I have a big nose. Some people

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say I have a small nose, my hairline, this my head is big, my head is this shape and so forth. Why is my Why'd Allah create my eyes this way? Why did Allah give me this color eyes? We always have these kind of, you know, you know, complaints about ourselves. Allah subhana wa Taala created us and the best way that he wanted us to. So when we have these kinds of complaints, there was some Sahaba, who has some physical abnormalities. There were some who made fun of those Sahaba Radi Allahu Anhu and the Prophet SAW Allah while he was sending them, he would tell them he would highlight their strongest things about themselves the most impressive things about their personality. So the free

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first story is a story of a companion by the name of Zara hidden Zara here is mentioned that what kind of demand he was not a very attractive person. Whenever people would come across him because of his physical appearance. People would generally tend to stay away from Zara head. So the Prophet said Allah while he was some is mentioned by Anessa Malik kinda you hate boo boo. The Prophet SAW Salem love desire hit very, very much. And one day Zahid is standing in the marketplace. He's in Medina setting in the marketplace. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he comes and he grabs Zahid from the back. He grabs him from the back, and one narration says that he covered his eyes.

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And he began to say, The Who is this Get off of me Get off of me. And he turned around, and he saw that it was none other than Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam so you see the Prophet sallallahu ala you were sitting down with a person who felt that he was not you know, he was not accepted in the community. He was not accepted in society. Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam is having a good time with him. He's making him feel good. And then now

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Not only that, but then he says that there was law so long why someone he turned he saw the property some he never said any more Who is this? And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says, me yesterday has an alum who's gonna buy this slave. That's all he said. The Prophet of Islam said, who's gonna buy this slave? And at that time, Zaheer said, Yeah, rasool Allah. I'm not a slave. But even if I was a slave, no one would buy me. I have no value. My value is nothing. People don't think of me of anything, then people don't have any value for me. What do you Rasulullah sallallahu I said I'm saying to him, to build his confidence to build that to get rid of this low self esteem. He

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says, I hear you know, you think that no one will purchase you because you have no value in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala there is no one who can put a price tag on you. There is no one who can put a value on you because your value in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala is priceless. How do you think Zai had after that felt? A man who had no confidence, a man who thought I have no value the province or someone's telling him you have such an amazing value in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala that no price there? No, there's no one who can put a price tag on you. Now this next story, we're talking about even the mysteries of the Allahu Allah and even the mysteries of the

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Allah one. We all know that Mashallah. He was a great scholar of Quran. He was a great scholar of fit and so forth. And in fact, Imam Abu Hanifa Rahmatullah lay his fifth predominantly emerges from the opinions of Edmund Masaru, Daniela, that I'm in Minnesota, the Allahu I'm most people don't know that he was a, he was very short, in terms of his physique. And in terms of his physique, he was very short, and is mentioned about his legs, okay about his legs, that they were very thin. They were very thin. So one day he got up on a tree, because it probably some needed something. So he got on a tree. And as he came down, his soul must have come up. And the Sahaba there, they began, they

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saw his thin legs, okay, they saw his sea legs, and they began, they began to make fun of him, they began to make a mockery of his thin legs. And they began to say some insensitive remarks. Now Now think about this, in pretty much order your loved one in terms of his height, in terms of, you know, the build of his legs, it's not like other like everyone else. And at that time, while they're making fun of him, Now, imagine a person in that situation. Everyone's making fun of you. Everyone's laughing at you. You feel insecure, you feel down Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came and he said, that you make fun of this leg and this Shin of Ibn was rude. That is so thin. But the Prophet

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SAW Allahu Allah he was setting them he says that by Allah and Allah skill on Allah skill of justice. They are heavier than Mount Hood.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he sees that a man has been made fun of what does the Prophet says I'm due he came, and he told them his value. Not only that, but we also find in the case of bilateral the Allahu eye. Now I want you to understand about the situation of Bilal, you know, there are a lot of people who have gone through some psychological trauma in their life, emotional trauma in their life. And what happens is that people sometimes may even move shift from one city to another city, they may even go to another state and they start a new life. You know why? Because they cannot see those people and they cannot be around people who have traumatize them in

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their life. Nothing about blood or the Allah one. He used to be in Macau. He used to he remembers very clearly how he was dragged in the streets of Macau, and how kids will throw stones at him. He remembers how he was put his back on the ground on the burning hot sand and a rock and a stone placed on his chest and telling him that give up Eman. Give up Islam and he will say what I heard. I heard that he will affirm his faith in Allah subhanho wa taala. He remembers everything. Now the time comes for Fatah Maka. He is so far he's in Medina. He's with Russell Lawson Salam, a place where everyone has given him a reason and dignity and respect. He is the son of Rasulullah

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. But now the time has come that we have to go back to Makkah because Fatima is taking place and there perhaps, beloved rhodiola, one will see those same people who were his masters, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in front of those people who were his masters at one time. He wanted to raise the value. He wanted to

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Raise the confidence of Billetto the Allahu ion and give him this honor and shadow of indignity that those people who used to own him one time, those people who used to abuse him at one time, now in front of them, Allah, the Prophet SAW Selim, the Prophet of Allah is giving him so much as on the day of Fatima AKA, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came, and they said that, you know, people began to say what is the Prophet SAW? So I'm going to do now and the Prophet Allah, says Allah Yong Yong Yong Wilmer Hama, today is the day of Rama and they have mercy. When he came in from the Quran. The Quran said that we know you as a noble man, you are the son of a noble man, at one

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time, they could not even stand the sight of the prophets of Salaam. Today, they feel like the Prophet SAW Selim is coming with vengeance. And they're saying that we know you as a record as a noble man. And the prophets of Solomon said, Let them go. I'm not going to take revenge from anyone today. At that time, the Prophet sallallahu. It was something he told Bilal, beloved, you stand up high. And you call out the Adan And subhanAllah when he called out the other than the same Qureshi leaders who were his masters at one time, they were saying to themselves, that how can Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam give honor and dignity and give this man such a position in front of us

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and we are the elite of the Quraysh. But the Prophet SAW Salah wanting to send a very strong message that before Islam, a man who did not have reserve after Islam, this man I'm going to give him reserve Islam provides is an A man like believer, the Allahu, and going back to Makkah, and he had all these memories because this happens. Imagine seeing someone that you have been traumatized by Imagine seeing them every time in your life, ever in your life. And Wallahi you start shivering Wallahi you start, you know, you start, you know, you start sweating, and you start feeling uncomfortable. Why? Because you have memories. And those bad memories are again coming up, and

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beloved could feel that. So the Prophet said of one to make Bilal feel honored, and he gave him that honor. And so we learned from this is that when there are people first of all in our families, or if there are people in our community, who have self they have self esteem issues, or they have insecurities. It is our job as a Muslim learning from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that how he would treat these kinds of people, how you will make them feel honored, how you will make them feel valued. This is what we need to highlight. As I said earlier, I'm going to finish on this. Usually when it comes to self esteem issues, they begin they occur when they hear some negativity

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about themselves and they've become default under pressure. When you come across a person who is dealing with low self esteem, highlight something good about them, highlight some positive about them. Every single person has positives, and every person has negatives, highlight the positives, make them feel good about themselves, make them feel honored, and make them feel dignified. And this is how Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam he would treat people because at the end of the day, it is not our job to judge people. Allah says in the Quran, law Yes. cortico woman Coleman Assa Kuno Halal men home while and he said Oh Minister in a year could not hide on men when they do not ever

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make a mockery of anyone. Why because they could be better than you in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala so I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to give us the ability to understand these things. And may Allah subhanaw taala give us the ability to do what Rasulullah sallallahu it was someone do in all circumstances I'm a little bit odd I mean, what is that people love hate Saddam why are they going to live

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