Do Not Seek People’s Approval

Nadim Bashir


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AI: Summary © The importance of finding pleasure in life is discussed in a video on Islam. The speaker emphasizes the need to be aware of one's emotions and prioritize those who are not attainable. They also stress the need to cut out certain feelings and prioritize those who are not attainable. The speaker gives advice on finding happiness and making one's life easier for Muslims who want to speak to their family. political parties are also discussed, including a program to make one's lives easier for Muslims who want to speak to their family.
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the very first Khadija we will find is a Hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam narrated by Omar a group above

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were in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says even

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is a longer one. Basically, the premise of the study is that the mother saw Salah is emphasizing that whenever you do anything we do to only focus on what God has saved. And hence the word imagine you're into a longer discussion about what is and how to do everything only for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala but I don't want to talk about that assignment today. There's another form of what he had that many of us are brought on to many of us we're doing good, but we stopped doing

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God because of this form of the and that is freezing and trying to find the approval of other people. Today, someone like Allah will find that there are so many people who want to do good things, but because they're always looking for the approval of other people, and when they don't get that approval, and they get criticism, then they just turn away from doing that good. This is a form of short time. This is a format to shape on a tactic in a trigger chiffon to stop you from doing any good that you want to do.

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after the data was running, he was sending me sent a letter twice.

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asking her to give me some advice. You have heard about some same so many things, to share one thing beautiful that you can with me, I should bother either Hi, she shares the quote in the hadith of Rasul Allah Azza, WA Bharti, he was sent down, we're in iadis Salam said, that whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa taala. And in doing so, the earn the displeasure of the people,

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eventually pleased with him. And now

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he knows people and he will change the heart of those people were initially displeased with that person, and they will be pleased with him. And on the flip side, I shall continue to say that the Pavarotti he said, I'm said that anyone who does anything to burn the displeasure of Apollo, but they do this in order to earn the pleasure of the people

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who dismiss that person. And in the people that were trying to be pleased, Allah will displease them, and Allah will get them displaced or displeased with this person, two, brothers and sisters, when I'm so close to coming home and saying to the prophesy, somebody is telling us that whatever we do, do not do anything to seek the approval of other people. Why? Because people change, people are different. Every person, their temperament is different. Their psychology is different, their mindset is different, different, the mind frame is different. The likes and the dislikes are different. When you talk to other people, and when you try to gain their approval, you will never be

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satisfied. We as human beings, we are weak. We always want to fulfill other people, we always want to make sure that I'm doing the right thing or not. But this is why we are reminded in the Quran. And this is why as Muslims, when we read the Quran, and we come across a shift, where we come across the idea of associating partners with a law these are not only for those people who do share it, but this is also a reminder for us, Allah subhanho wa Taala high level Zuma at the end of the 23rd he gives a very beautiful paradise, a very beautiful example he says Borovo

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fee issue. The Shack is Sunnah wa, Salam

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Subhana Allah What a beautiful example by Allah, Allah says that, let me give you the example of a man who has to be so many gods and so many identities, so many identities and so forth. And you have on the other hand, you have one person who has to be any one of us.

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Can these two people be alike? Can they be similar? Can they get equal 103 From all that our praises is robust about

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what Allah says, We hear that when you have to these are people that they were associated with Allah, but we can use this for our example to the thing about the person whose only cause and the only focus is to please Allah versus the person, another person whose focus is to please other people, they can never be alike. And the person who's always trying to see people's approvals over the approval of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, then they will never been happy in life. This is why he says he gives a very beautiful example he says that when you look at the eyes, the eyes they find pleasure when you see something nice, that is you find pleasure. When you when they hear something

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beautiful and he says that when when the nose finds pleasure when it's you know something that is nice, he says the How can the heart find pleasure? He says when the heart has the mighty for of Allah subhanho wa Taala when the heart is focused on pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala then this heart will be in a good place. This heart will be pleased just like the eyes do you find pleasure? This hard will find pleasure. Brothers and sisters, a person who's always trying to find the approval of other people and seek the approval of other people this

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is also a form of RIA. Today in this dunya we're trying to find the approval of other people on the Day of Judgment, we will not be satisfied in this dunya. And when we face Allah on the Day of Judgment, Allah will tell us that those people whose approval you were trying to seek in this dunya go to them today, brothers and sisters, it is not worth it. If I'm there, if I'm trying to anything good, because I want the approval of other people. If the approval comes and hamdulillah if someone passes on the back Alhamdulillah fine, but I do it only because I want to please Allah subhanho wa taala. So then that brings me to the last part of this code is what can we do if we are in this

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dilemma? We are in this if we are in this dilemma, and many of us are in this situation. What can we do to fix this situation? First of all, understand, just like if someone were to tell you two plus two equals three, we will say that it's impossible that two plus two equals three. Likewise, it is impossible for us to have any control over what people think about us what people will say we have no control over that. Why do we try to please other people when pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala is more fruitful, is more rewarding? Yes, today we may not see the benefit. But most certainly in the hereafter when I stand before Allah subhanho wa Taala I may not have people's approval, but I will

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have Allah's approval. And if I have Allah's approval, that is all that matters. So this is why it is important to always understand that remember that we cannot have any control over what people think of us what people will say of us, if we don't have control, just let it go. There is there's nothing that we can do about that. The second thing is that always be consistent in your Ibadah to Allah subhanho wa taala. Remember that when people criticize you, even if there's good that you're doing, people always be critical of you. People will always criticize you remember the ayat at the end of sort of hatred where Allah subhanho wa Taala he tells Rasulullah sallallahu it he was sending

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him whether or not Allah we know very well what other Allah says, Allah use the word other than indeed we have an idea. Just because you don't see any sign. It doesn't mean that Allah does not know what our heart is going through, or what Oh, Allah is unaware of our situation. Allah says what occurred there now Allah anaklia Sadhguru kabhi Maya Boulogne. This is Allah telling us wa sallahu alayhi wa sallam, but the message is universal. For everyone who's doing something good. We know that your heart is being constricted because of the criticisms that you are facing. For some very handy Rebecca, welcome Mina Sajida in that do not worry about what they're doing. Just be amongst

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those who are who makes you do to Allah who are obedient to Allah subhanho wa taala. Praise Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, wa Buddha, Rob back to Kenya pain and to the end of your life to the end of your life. Do not worry about what they're saying, just engage in the bad. So this is something an advice given by Allah to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, this is an advice also for you and I brothers and sisters.

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The next thing is that what can we do in order to bring this happiness to our heart, we're trying to find happiness and people's approval, where we can find happiness is when we help other people. I've talked about this before the importance of going out of your way helping someone else out whether you are in need of the help, or you're not in need of the help. When you go out the way when you help someone else out when you feed someone, when you put a smile on their face, will Allah He you will be happy, Allah will pit happiness in your heart, you may not find happiness and people's approval, but most certainly you will find happiness when you help other people. And finally, there,

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if there's anything that stimulates these kinds of feelings, if there's anything that provokes these ideas, that why and you're always worried about other people that we need to cut ourselves from those kinds of things. There are some people who put a post on Facebook, they put a post on Instagram and so forth. And after every few minutes, they're going back to check how many people have liked their comments how many people have shared their their posts and so forth. If we are so obsessed with people and how they think of us, and it is social media, or anything else that will stimulate these kinds of feelings. We need to cut off those kinds of things. We need to cut those

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things out of our life because those things are being detrimental to us. They are psychologically harming us spiritually. They're harming us too. We need to cut those things out of our life. Anything that will take us away from Allah subhanho wa Taala Let it not be part of our anything that will take us away from Allah subhanho wa Taala leave that in leave that leave that out of your life brothers and sisters, it is it is going to be beneficial to you now if not now later on inshallah it will be beneficial for you. There is a quote Eva who Shaeffer Allah Ali, a very beautiful quote. He says, Read oneness

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In Arabic, he says Riva Nursey all year to learn to the rock. He says pleasing people is a goal or is a mean or is a matter that can never be achieved? What are you the law He ha you're to learn towtruck so beautiful. He says that the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala is a goal in life that should never be left out. He says * rock mela you Drake. He goes leave those things that are not attainable. And he then says what rock man what what the what the rock mela youth mana you truck and attain those things that cannot be left out in life. There are some certain priorities of our life that cannot be left out. Then attain those things. There are beautiful saying by Imam Shafi

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Rahmatullah YALI. I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us if last I asked Allah subhana wa Taala to grant us a heart that is only worried about the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to free our heart from these kinds of things, anything that can take us away from Allah subhanho wa Taala that can make us mindless of Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah remove or remove those things from our life? I mean, no, but I mean, burdock Allah when I

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wants to know, Hamid and Abdul rasuluh. I'm about once again, I want to remind everyone that we have a season of elections that are coming around. And this is a situation that yes, the people who are running for positions of leadership, they may not believe in the Quran and Sunnah. But at the same time, as Muslims living here in this country, we have to find a way to make our situation better at all circumstances in all aspects of our life. Tomorrow in sha Allah, between four and six, we have a program here that we'll be taking virtually, you can log on in sha Allah, and you can find out the Who are those people running for certain positions. You, as a citizen have a right to ask questions,

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you can hold these people accountable. And you can ask them certain questions about the welfare of our family, about the safety of our family, about the welfare of our society, and so forth. So this is your obligation, if a Muslim things that I don't need to be part of this, and I will just deal with the situation the way it is that we have no one we have no one to blame, but ourselves and we cannot complain. Subhanallah we see that Muslims don't want to be engaged in these kinds of matters, but then later on, they want to keep on complaining and they want to say that oh Allah help us. Yes, dua is part of that. But being part of these being part of the system is also part of that being

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part of the system and doing what our what we need to do in terms of our civic responsibilities, is tying that camo and then we put our token Allah subhanho wa Taala I ask ALLAH SubhanA without to make our affairs easy for us. I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bring those people in a position of authority who will be beneficial to the Muslims will be beneficial and there'll be better for us in our families in our Muslim community at large. I ask Allah Subhana Allah to grant us Aafia ask Allah Subhana Allah to uplift this pandemic from us. Allah Hamada. Ana huddle Bella.

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