Channel: Musleh Khan
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Swamiji him a woman malakut Amen.
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hamdulillah or Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah, Allah He offered who saw the woman who Allah, Baron said Omar Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. And we are now at verse number five, six and seven today in sha Allah hotel. So let's get right into it. Because as you can tell from the title, really, really important subject with the truest believers of Allah subhanho wa Taala are most concerned with? Now, the answer to that question is verse number five, and sorta to be known. So if you want to know, out of all the qualities of a believer, you know, we mentioned in the previous episode, that this surah will Latina homeless, sacchetti fare alone, you know, the ones that are in
constant, you know, they're constantly busy and focused on all the things that they do affect you don't everything that they're doing for the sake of, I got to purify myself, I gotta keep working on myself, this sort of calls for you and I to create a project about ourselves. And really, what the believer does, is you take one of these,
take a notepad, or on your phone or whatever, and you start making a list of all the things that you want to change about yourself. And that's what little Latino homeless, zeca deferiprone is all about. So you're looking at all of these issues that you're concerned with about yourself, and you're trying to work through them. And every day of your life, literally, it's a lifelong project. This is not a project that you work at for a weekend. You know, people don't purify their themselves or go through habits and things like that, just over a weekend or a day or two. You sit there and you concentrate on, these are the things that I need to change. And even psychologists and experts
out there one of the tactics that they use to help you overcome some of the struggles emotionally, intellectually, psychologically, even spiritually is they'll tell you write it down. They'll tell you write down Okay, what are you concerned so you can actually unload it, but you can see it, right, they're dead in front of you, and you start tackling those issues. So now that that's done, it's a very generic verse, a lot takes all of what we talked about, what levena homely Farrugia him half 11, the believers they are also the ones who guard their privates happy alone. Now Allah gets very specific, this a is concentrating on the concept of Fela fascia, which we mentioned in previous
verses, especially when we were in suited to note, if you don't know about suta, note, all of it is online, you can just go to my YouTube channel, and it's there. We do a whole entire episode just on fella hitch, and Fantasia, which is shame, anything that revolves around shame, everything that connects you to shame that you think that causes you to think about shame. And let's be honest here. And even if you know you're somebody or you know of somebody that falls into shameful behavior, all of that is counted here. The believer is constantly protecting themselves out of shame. Now, this is a massive topic topic, because why?
This is the area in which the believer is most concerned about. But the problem with this is the approach. Now let me give you an example. You have the first group, people who are approaching the first group are like the ultra, ultra conservative. And when we're talking about chain, let's talk about the highest level of test and struggle when it comes to this subject. And that is the opposite gender, especially when we're talking about industries, you know, online, you know, the oxygen of the internet is shame, like 90% of what you find on the internet, and especially if you're just somebody who just cruising around, you're just browsing around online. You know, you can't even
watch a YouTube video without getting an advertisement that pops up and you're like, What in the world I'm just watching a surah or you're looking for your favorite speaker, your reciter so you look at the list of all the videos and an in between them. You're like, Oh my god, what, what is that video doing there? You can't do anything. And there are companies
Did invest millions and billions of dollars, so that they could perpetuate this kind of content and make it accessible and free and it's constantly pumped in front of your face, you're constantly seeing this stuff. Now you, on the other hand, have to try to confront this massive tsunami waves of shame on the internet, on social media and what have you. And then on top of that, you've got to tell your kids stay away from all of that, it's almost an impossible task, you know, I compare it, it's like the end to try to fight with the elephant, you know, so it's almost an impossible task. But the belief or however, they are constantly in the state of working at themselves to do whatever
it takes to protect themselves from this, and it is possible to protect yourself. But the approach is really strange. So the ultra conservative, what they did, is that they basically shut they put this massive wall, you know, and when I say wall, like, literally, they put this barrier between you, and anything that leads you to potentially, you know, touching and being exposed to that level of shame. So, so the, the example that we'll share with you is like, imagine you go to a place, right? Like, for example, when I was in Medina, when I was in Medina, when I was there, you know, I Medina University is obviously an all guys school. And, you know, some of some of the guys there
would have like their sisters or their wives or things like that, that would go to an all Women's University, right. And sometimes when I would get a ride with them, you know, they'd drop the home or whatever the brother would be like, okay, I just need to pick up my sister, right? So we drive to the Women's University, you know, I'd wait in the car. But you know, he would tell me, and I would see this, to get your sister out of the university, or at least and let her know that you're there, right, didn't have cell phones, at least at that time, right? He would have to go up to a guard at the gate. And there's this massive fenced gate all around the university. Okay. Second thing is, all
the female students are dressed exactly the same. You can't see their eyes, all you can see are their shoes or their sneakers. So he would go to the guard, and say to the guard, name, so and so on, he will give his sister's name, the guard will announce the sister's name to come to the door. And you're talking about 1000s of sisters who are all dressed in black full of niqab and everything from head to toe. And the only way he would know and recognize her is by looking at her shoes. And then he would come she would come out, get into the car. She would never say Salaam Aleykum, at least to me, right? Like, you just don't do that there. So now here's the point. Now, when you come
back to places like this, right, when you come back to societies and cultures like this, where everything is pretty much open, and it's free, you can talk to everyone. Now you run into the problem where you don't know how to interact with the opposite gender, go to the grocery store, and you're at the cashier, and they're like, Oh, good morning, how are you and you're like a stop at all. I was going to say Donna regime, I can come to this grocery store no more. Or maybe I need to wear a mask or gloves. I don't know what to do. And you start developing this awkward approach like you don't know how to even have a basic conversation with your female professor that walks in to the
classroom and you know, she asks you so what do you think the answer is? Okay, let's start a discussion. So what are your thoughts? And you're like well, first of all, I can't talk to you I don't know how to talk to you and you're female and Islam taught me this and then you're like, whoa, whoa, relax. So you it becomes a credibly difficult. Now what happens over time?
After the months, the years go by, eventually what was once upon a time an impossible task for you. Now you've become accustomed to it. And what becomes the shame
that university you're like, God those people they're crazy. They're so conservative. There's so this under so that and it leads me to the second category, the ultra liberal when they look at that framework, Gallaudet University in Saudi or anywhere else, and they look at massages and our you know, some certain communities where they have separation, separate doors for the for the sister separate doors for the brothers, the wedding has to be separated, the dinners have to be separate. They look at this and like this is appalling. You know, we're all humans. It doesn't bother me if I say Salaam Alaikum to them. It isn't that why should I have to walk into a different entrance? Why
can't I sit with my family? Why why why why why. So what is conservative?
appropriate for one category is shameful and unacceptable for the other, but you're both trying to achieve somewhat the same thing. So what do you do? What do you do? This is where scholars have given us several, several different approaches to the scenario, what do you do?
The only thing that I will share with you and because it This requires lengthy discussion and a lot of consideration of culture and society and habits and things like that. Right. And I know that a lot of you listening to this, you come from different countries and backgrounds where which I don't know, I don't know, certain culture, I don't know all the cultures and societies on how people interact. Like, like I said, Before, when we did a whole session on gender interaction, when we were insulted and nor one of the things that I mentioned to you is culture plays an enormous role in the rulings on to what capacity and what are the standards in society, when it comes to interaction with
the opposite gender, that's not our conversation here. What I want you and I to concentrate on is that the believer does whatever he or she needs to do, especially when they feel like they have crossed the line, in whatever way shape or form, that's what I want you to concentrate on, when you're looking at to sorta What have you said, or potentially done or have done, and, you know, wait a minute, I shouldn't have done that.
I shouldn't make click a website. Okay. So you're, you're, you're just browsing on the internet. And this advertisement comes up, and you look at it, and then you look at it again, and again. And then before you know, to your mouse, the cursor just kind of goes and clicks on it. And you're like, Oh, that's lithologic I'm happy when you're always protecting your you regret it, you repent from it, you do whatever you need to do to ensure that doesn't happen again. That's what I want you to concentrate. So all the fic behind it is a separate conversation, which we've dealt with in sort of 10 notes, if you want to learn about that, you've got to go to suta Turner, I'm not going to tell
you what episode it is. reason why is because there's a lot of context that that's involved. You want to learn about gender interact interaction from the court, and then you need to go back to Sula to know and go through, I think we just did 10 or 12 episodes, so it's not very long. And in short, Allahu taala, you will have a good understanding of what to do in scenarios like that.
The second thing that I want to mention is that of course,
keep in mind, the industries that are invested billions and billions of dollars into making you click these ads in these websites and making them accessible to you. And SubhanAllah. That is an incredibly difficult challenge and fight for all of us who are trying to maintain the spirituality of you know, the consequences. If we get involved that we look at and we do those things. Now we're trying to protect ourselves. We can't even go into a social media platform without being exposed to it. If it's not an advertisement, then it's somebody's profile picture, then it's somebody who posted this or that they're just like, oh my god. So if you forget about social media, you walk to
the mall, you walk by like a lingerie store, but because it's right beside your favorite clothing store, you know, it's beside like your favorite shoe store. And you're just like, I got a pass by there anyway. And even if you don't pass by there, you find some other route. Fine, you do that? Then you walk by several 100 people around you and you're just like, oh my goodness, what do you do? So what I say to families is this and this is the only thing I'll leave you with with this as we move on.
Instead of trying to figure out how to battle through the impossible. I believe Allah subhana wa tada knows best that especially in this day and age, it is literally impossible to protect yourself completely from this kind of fitna. Impossible.
I'm exposed to it, you're all exposed to it. It's impossible. What you have to do instead is to learn how to live with it.
And we can still live with anything and everything that surrounds us and maintain all the things that our religion calls us to maintain, we can still do that. Because why? Allah tells us he will never overburden you with a situation that you don't have the ability nor the capacity to overcome. You will never be put in a situation that you don't have enough men strength and knowledge that you can protect yourself to an extent spiritually we're talking about of course, right. So keep that in mind and have content
fidence in this portal and it protects you, but there are certain things that have to be in place so that when you call upon this protection that it works for you, it's there. So for example, a lead tells you
what meaning do mean absolve him say to the believing men to lower their gaze. So the next time you see something and you like turn the other cheek or you lower your gaze or you do something or you keep yourself busy with something else, that's a part of Amen. And that becomes a habit that you develop over time, you've got to work at that it's not something that you just turned on. So it's not going to be an easy road you're going to see things you're going to hear things you're gonna like stuff and a lot you're gonna be staying stuck for a lot more than 100 times a day. But the point is you keep saying learn to live with your surroundings right it's impossible to create an
environment or a situation where all of this is completely eliminated and I'm talking specifically even for like kids that are very conservative about intermixing you know in a you know, and free mixing and that sort of thing very conservative if that's your thing that's okay, sorry about that guys. It was a strange interruption on my phone there. But for the massage it's out there that are you know, create that environment that's your thing if that's how you want to do it, that's fine. And you can stand on the men but on on the microphone and tell everybody it's held on for us to you know, pre mixing is how long we should the sisters need to be the brothers need to be here, exit
through separate exits, brothers on this, if that's your thing, do that that's fine. not argue with that. But you don't find the same scenario as soon as you step out those doors that those brothers and you know whomever those lectures that told you it was haram haram Haram, that they're doing that when they walk into the mall, that they're doing that when they're walking into other places. So this tells you and I what you've got to figure out different ways and methods to live with it and cope with it understand, this is your culture, this is your society, but you can still maintain and protect your email. That's the point you can still do that. It's still well levena home before rugi
him happy alone. Now the exception to this
Illa Allah is watching him except with their wives. Oh, my mannequin, a man whom or what the right hand possessives which we'll get to in a moment for him, no moto moto mean, then there, they they are not blamed. Now we need to break down this a bit by bit to really understand and appreciate what it's talking about Illa Allah is watching him. So now when it comes to your spouse, to your wife to your husband, none of these rules apply. Period. There are some exceptions, but that's another conversation. Okay. So when it comes to your wives, it's a free for all. And that's understood, okay. The next part of this old man malakut, a man whom what the right hand possesses. This
particular phrase or sentence is a subject of a lot of controversy and social circles across the globe. When people want to criticize and make fun of denounced, put down scrutinize Islam, these are one of the verses that are used to do that. And obviously, you and I both know, and especially those that take the time to really ask the right questions and study this verse will realize that there's nothing controversial about it at all. So now context, here's a couple of points that I want you to keep in mind. So you understand what alma malakut Amen, who is talking about, and it's found in several places throughout the program. Number one, before Islam, there were slaves, women were also
part of that category, there were female slaves. And before Islam, the slaves had literally next to no rights whatsoever. They had little or no rights at all. But they lived amongst the household. And they had no say, as a matter of fact, unfortunately, I hate to say it this way, but just the painted picture picture. Some of these female slaves were no different than the the cattle that was grazing on the farms at that time. They were no different. They carry no different status than even the animals that the owners had. So their rights were being taken away. Their status was taken away. They were embarrassed, they were beaten everything, they had zero rights. The second thing is that,
obviously, you know, from that, we realized that a lot of them were treated horribly. But then they were also some that lived in the homes and
They were part of the family. And when Islam came, Islam didn't actually come to change the whole social structure in one day or in one month. It happened gradually and over time. And when this happened, one of the things that Islam King to do is to change the social structure of marriages and introduced Nikesh. Nikesh is a transfer of responsibilities. marriage contract is also part of that it's solidify solidifies that Okay, these two people are going to come together, they're going to live together for Allah, they're going to marry. And the contract ie the nikka, is where you outline now, these are the things that he or she are going to be responsible for, that their caregivers,
whoever they may, or their guardians, whoever they maybe whether it be the parents, the slave master, or whoever it was, at that time, that responsibility was lifted.
So what ends up happening, you see the first part of the A, Allah says, In the island as wedgie him as his husbands and wives, so the master of the slaves when the order came down, that Okay, now you actually the women in your home now you've actually have to marry at least one of them, they married one. But then the slave that they had was part of the family, they lived in there, they were just living like, just like anybody else in the family right? Now, if you follow fit of Nika, then this person becomes what you've married your wife, who was always your wife, you married her. It's that's that scenario is done with. But then you look at this person, and you're like, you've been with us
your whole life. You know, we never treated you like a slave in the sense that you know, you're part of the family. So what do you do in the case like this?
What Islam did is that
it allowed him now to decide, either he will marry his wife, or he could marry that slave.
So I hope you understand. So you're either going to choose one or the other, or at least in that case, if this was only for that time, by the way, you've got to decide because why, if you married the slave, now, she is no longer a slave. The second thing is she has rights. Third thing is now you have a contract. Fourth thing is you've got to take care of her all the responsibilities of marriage kick in. If not, you let her go. She's no longer property at that time. Last point is that, now that you have a contract with them, you don't possess them. You don't own them. You're not. They're not property to you anymore.
So in actuality, what kneecap came and did is it actually freed the slaves from the shackles of slavery that they were part of or they were in at that time.
I keep referring to past tense. Why?
Because our malakut a man whom is not allowed or practiced anymore.
Do you know what the evidence for this is? The evidence for this is, every time you see a woman malakut, a man whom it's always in past tense, there is no present tense or future tense of this phrase in the entire Quran.
So that tells you that at that time when nica or marriage was legislated, okay, Allah is not Islam is not going to allow this woman to just be thrown out of the picture. No, you can marry her. Because why you've known her you've grown up with her, whatever you've you know, you've given her certain responsibility, you know who she is, it's like you've gotten to know her her whole life. So if this is somebody want to marry, then you can marry her. Otherwise, you marry whoever your wife is. And now she is no longer your slave. You can hire her to help out and you can do whatever you want. That's a different scenario that has nothing to do with the verse anymore. Right? You can hire
her as a maid and or as a cook or as a helper or whatever. That's that's the different scenario. Oh, my medikit what the right hand possesses. Now, the next point here, the right hand. Why is right hand talked about? Because the right hand in Islamic culture represents honesty, agreement. It's how we make oath in Arabic, or in Islam. And that's why the right hand in Arabic is called what you mean which comes from the same word, amen. Amen. So
Another place in decor and a lot tells us that the mean of the hypocrites is never accepted. So we've you put this all together, that the greement now that is made with who this once upon a time slave was, the agreement now has to be an agreement that even she agrees with, and her rights are protected and her rights are given all of the things that is required for her to live a normal
life that she can sustain either herself or in marriage to you, all of that is called a manual. So it's an agreement, that's fair, that's just and it represents a good decent life for her as well. So the fact that it's called a men or a manual one immediately represents that this is all going to be about justice and fairness. Now, Allah had given her all of her rights. Okay.
Last thing for in the Himalaya. romelu mean, this is why Allah now says that if you do that, then you're of no blame if you did it, so put this all together, right. So now that kneecap is legislated and you choose to marry her and you create this agreement and it's based out of justice and fairness of all of these things, then that's fine. It becomes a marriage now, and you fulfill everything that in the CAC represents. Last part of this now femen, Neva Taha are all from Anivia to haul water as Alec, whoever is looking for money, but Taha is when you're looking around, because you have like a desire for something, you're trying to find something. So a booty Hall is like you want something.
So this person now is already married. So they fulfill the previous, they got married, for many beautiful, but if for some reason that they continue to keep on looking, keep on looking for more and more than what you have, you don't find you're out looking for the beauty in your home, but you're looking for beauty elsewhere on a website. And then you see something on a website, you compare that to your wife, and you're like, oh, man, my marriage is so messed up, or she's not attracted to me and this and that, for all of the brothers and sisters out there who have a spouse that's addicted to this stuff. And I get this question all the time. That is that are addicted to or
I don't know, you know, I can't get them to control his eyes. Every time we go to the mall, we go to the grocery store, He's everywhere. He loves to flirt or she loves to flirt blah, blah, blah, I don't know what to do. This is one of the A yet that helps to heal that helps to heal that
femininity to her overall as Alec, whoever is looking for more than what their marriage has provided for them.
First of all, it's a disease.
It's a disease when somebody is not content with what Allah says is enough for you and I, when Allah says that Illa Allah as well as you, him, except in your marriage, your marriages, that's okay. You can be free, and you can, you know, be together and do whatever, and that's fine. And if someone is not satisfied with that
this area is teaching us that you have a spiritual problem, disease within you. Because why? What Allah has decided was enough for you. You have said no, Allah, that's not enough for me. Think about it. So it's something so that's the first way of healing is like, what are you doing?
Shut off the computer, get off your phone, put on some kind of protection program or something. So that you get off those websites. When you go out. And your eyes are just like everywhere, then tell yourself? No, my wife wouldn't like I wouldn't like that. If she was doing that. I wouldn't like this for anybody. I've got to stop it because I know it's wrong. A lot will ask you about your eyes, not what she thinks about your eyes, your eyes, why do you open them? Why do you look that direction you're in control of it.
So you've got to be aware that this is a responsibility that you have to be cognizant of, for many bits of our law as early about less is felt, will he come home when I don't so if they're looking for more than what marriage has to offer, then you have become the enemy now, surprise Allah. All this time, we're talking about believers, believers, believers. Now you've gone against all of these believers, for doing for thinking that way. You're not content with what Allah subhanho wa Taala gave for you. That's a big problem. That's a big problem. It solves a lot of issues. So in conclusion, brothers and sisters, you know this verse here.
had gone from very generic qualities to one specific one, fascia shame, and how to protect yourself from that, and how to do the things that you need to do in order to constantly purify and protect yourself so that you're able to continue moving forward for the overall health, of the marriage of the relationship and so that you can keep those little things going. know those little things that become big problems that you can avoid that and heal from it as well. You know, the goal behind these is to try to give the best relationship that is healthy and strong for husband and wife. And then that's what we want to achieve in short, lo Tara. So hope that you guys can appreciate some of
the things that we talked about. I look at your questions I seen some of you wrote some questions. Some of them is not actually related to what we're talking about. So I'll try to answer them and just kind of typed respond to your comment in sha Allah. tomorrow. We'll continue with verse number 910 and 11, perhaps even 12. So we might actually go up to 13. And tell us so the pace is going to start to pick up after we follow past by some of the introductory verses here. With that being said, may Allah subhanaw taala always in forever, give us what is best continue to teach us, bless us, honor us, purify our hearts, purify our minds and give us the best of this world and the earth at
all along the mean, which is like a level higher than what ethical Darwin and Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Take care everyone was cinema.