Life with Children #21 Final Thoughts

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Said mid commodity to lucky Obamacare to everyone Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Noah Barrett. Welcome to the last and final installment of life with children, our family life series that we've been doing for the past 20 some odd days of Ramadan. And this is the final, I guess you could say the final episode, the final installment in sha Allah hotevilla. after Ramadan, I'll start a different series, a brand new subject, I'm addressing other issues. But at least for now, I wanted to take an opportunity to hear to really go back now and reflect on some of the things that we talked about the purpose of the series, how to utilize it, and

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the lessons that we spoke about the lessons from the poor end incident, and how you could utilize those lessons in your own parenting techniques and in your own life and your interaction with your children regardless of their age. And so mainly this particular journey had began with the reflection with sort of local men and the advice from the father to his son. And we went through every single advice, extracted everything that we could in terms of techniques, ways to approach certain issues, scenarios and problems and how to resolve them. Even before we got into sort of Lockman we started getting into different areas. What experts have been saying around the world in

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terms of dealing with problems dealing with problems with parenting, just because somebody has a child doesn't mean that there are parent, we looked at all of these issues. So I really hope that in sha Allah, especially for those of you who have been following me throughout the series, to really take the time to go back and listen to this again and share it with people who you think might find use, you might find it useful and beneficial. The second thing that I wanted to share with you is that tonight, at least where I am in Toronto, it's it being the 27th night of Ramadan, I thought to myself that this would probably be a good place to stop the series, the most blessed night of

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Ramadan, the the strongest candidate in terms of what they like little puddle could be all of the rewards and bulka of this particular night, and just how it's just the perfect time to stop. So I intentionally wanted it to be this. Tonight, I had originally planned for only 20 episodes, but seeing that this is the 21st it's just literally final thoughts and reflections.

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Please keep in mind, one of the goals that I had behind this was not to tell people how to parent, and not to make anybody feel like whatever they were doing was not working. But to really show that including your culture, your tradition, your heritage, the country, the place that you live in. Considering all of those factors, how the poor end and sin in terms of parenting can still be applicable, it can still walk you through all of the struggles and problems in America, wherever you may be. And this is why the poor end is a universal message for all of mankind. So wherever you are, whatever the issues that you're coping with, in terms of parenting, this poor end can solve that for

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you. And this is what the main goal of the series was all about. It was to show our viewers that this book can actually guide you through every single known issue struggle or problem in parenting that you could think of now that you've experienced and what is to come until the end of time. That's what this book is all about. And we barely scratched the surface. It's a massive topic throughout the entire port end. But the point is, at the end of the day, I hope that in shout Allahu Taha, it was a source of reflection, inspiration and growth for you and your families. The last thing that I want to share with you is where we go from here, there's only a few days left of

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Ramadan. And he does around the corner in sha Allah. And we briefly mentioned in one of our videos that when our day comes, pretty much nothing, we're not going to be together praying or eat as a community, that's for sure. At least we could have a Salah in our homes, pray as a family, and then you can tune into one of the reminders that will be broadcasted online. I'm going to do one actually, I'm going to do several, so you can definitely just come onto my page and you'll be able to see in here, a shorter email reminder. Secondly, when it comes to the prayer, try to do the little things that you always do when you prepare for the heat sauna. So wake up, take a shower, try

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to get it done as early as possible in terms of the sauna and you don't have to be all decked out I know you're still in your home but at least aware something pleasant something nice, something that could least add that you know this prayer is going to be special that he does here and go all out when it comes to your food, make something or or whatever it is that you want, but just make it a fun day.

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something meaningful, at least it gets a taste or sample of what their eat experiences like. And you know that when it comes to young kids, you know, that means gifts. So do whatever you can to get some gifts for the kids in the house and just follow through the rituals follow through the traditions of reading the Sunnah acts of it read. So try to do that in the in this particular Ramadan, just so that we can at least have that experience, or at least a little bit of that experience in sha Allah. last and final thought that I have is that

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I wanted to extend my utmost gratitude, first and foremost, Allah subhanho wa Taala, for giving me the strength to get through this, there was some very challenging times in the month of Ramadan, I particularly for me, particularly in terms of isolation, it was mentally exhausting and challenging at the same time. But nevertheless, I'm a strong believer that you can live for long enough sin illa wisata, Allah subhanho wa Taala would never burden a soul more than it can bear. And so I believe that the end of the day, we all have what it takes to get through COVID-19, to get through this Ramadan. And to get through whatever challenges are ahead of us. As long as we are alive. Allah sees

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that in me and in all of you, we have what it takes to get through the next day. And that is so crucial and so important when you're a parent, whether you're a single parent, whether you're a divorced parent, whether you are just parents in general, the point is that at the end of the day, the fact that you are still alive, and you wake up each and every day, and you see your kids and you go through and listen and experience, all the challenges that come with parenting is a sign that you have what it takes to get through all of that. Why? Because Allah still gave you the strength still gave you life to continue doing this. So don't think of it as Oh my God, why is love putting me

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through this? Sometimes we focus on the things that we can't achieve and miss out the things that we actually have the strength and ability to overcome. And so that's really important that at the end of the day, understand your ability, understand your strength, and your life, you're still waking up each and every day, you have what it takes to get through that. For all the students that have been tuning in and listening to this, I have always always done my best to try to stand up for you to try to give you a voice to try to give you an opportunity to be heard. And but at the same token, and it's not just about saying what's on your mind, but it's also about when it comes to your parents,

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to show them the dignity and the honor and respect when you are trying to express your feelings and your opinions. Because at the end of the day, our religion teaches us that we don't have to be silent. And we don't have to be patient through any form of abuse or problems in our home. But when we do stand up, especially when it comes to our parents, that we do this in a civilized way, we do it in a dignified way. Because at the end of the day, this is the order of the poor. And at the end of the day, just common sense tells you that even if they are your parents, but they're bad parents, they're not making good decisions for you. They're not treating you well. You get the help that you

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need. You go out there you seek the support that you need to overcome and get through some of those issues. But at the same time as a believer, as somebody who carries Amen, you do your very best to do that in the most civilized way pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala that's absolutely important. Some of the scholars say that when you keep yourself composed in problems, that is enough for Allah subhanaw taala to give you the strength to get through those issues, Allah will help you Allah will support you and Allah will get you through those struggles in sha Allah hotelera so for the students, take some time that if you missed any episodes, go back Listen to this. Again, these are

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more or less reflections, we took Hadeeth we took a yet and we started talking about them and just reflecting how we can become better people and better Muslims, better children better parents. That's really the ultimate goal at the end of the day in sha Allah with your item. Last but not least, this is the last 10 nights of Ramadan. This is the 27th ninth of Ramadan. Remember the narration of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam he told her I showed her the love of Tara Langham that she should try to say as much as possible, especially in the last 10 I said what I'm about as much as possible Allahumma in the car for when Katie went to hibbeler fo Farah for and or Allah you

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are the source of you are the one that pardons and you love to pardon so pardon us. Pardon me. So you're always asking Allah for pardon pardon what pardon your sins, your mistakes, bury them, put them aside erase the history of those mistakes and sins. This is the door that you are encouraged from the center to repeat as much

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as possible in these last night's and if tonight is later to puddle, I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala bless all of us with the great honor, the great mercy the great status of being able to maximize this night with all of our a bad debt and that it counts as though we have worshipped Allah subhanho wa Taala for more than 1000 months later to Qatar hieromonk elfi share the date of power is better than worship of equivalent to 1000 months so I pray that we get that those blessings in shot local Tera vaada so with that being said, guys, stay tuned because because just listen to this. I have fantastic news in sha Allah just a hopefully honoree day or maybe just a little bit after a day

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a few days or so I'm going to share with you a brand new project that I've been working on myself and some of my students have been helping me trying to get through and put together this incredible incredible project so I can't wait to release that but at least in the meantime, stay tuned I will introduce another series that will start after Ramadan begins nilla heater Allah it's a fantastic series I've put together a lot of material for it, it's a bit more intense. So a cello tada I'm looking forward to that because I get to reflect research and learn myself as I do that. So stay tuned for that in shot long term. I will released one more video in sha Allah before the month is

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over so you can look out for that because they live with announcements and other things but if nullah hytera so wherever you are Guys, please please be safe, be healthy. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala accept from us our worship in this blessing month of Ramadan. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the strength to find see and experience later to unclutter and give us the rewards and blessings of this night of power. Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the strength patience to get through this difficult time reunite us back with our communities, our friends, our extended relatives, the people that we were not able to see for the past few months, may Allah subhanaw taala reunite all of us

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sooner rather than later. I'm getting anxious to see a lot of you in the massage it and then getting anxious to travel again. And so I look forward to that and I pray each and every single day that Allah subhanho wa Taala will restore at least some sense of normality that we're able to travel and see and support one another at American wherever we may be. So with that being said once again a bit just below head on to all of you for supporting me and watching the series and sharing it each and every day. Mail lines. So Joe bless you guys. I look forward to talking to you all again. Take care was said Mr. Lee come to LA he will get to