Grief and Patience

Musleh Khan


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to Muslim on some of our

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brothers and sisters we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala for his forgiveness and us mercy Hello hola mean for our brothers and sisters across the world and particularly in the male lines so make it easy for them. May Allah subhanho wa Taala ease their pain and suffering and may Allah subhanho wa Taala Give victory to Palestine Allah whom I mean, you will ask Bob

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I want to share with you a few verses from soda to Yousef and then we'll talk about what today's reminder and how it's connected not only to us on a personal level, but some of the things that are happening around the world because they let

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Allah subhanaw taala tells us and sunnah to use

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or total.

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What kind of SFR the use of

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will be but are you know who mean who's in for who are Kelvin.

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Pilu Tila

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tough to otelco used for Hattah to coordinate Halden otaku Amin al Hurley keen

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Harlequin nama Eshkol bethey wishes knee heel Allah

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or en la Humana Tara Moon

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this was the time in Surah Yusuf the father yaku barley his Salam had just gotten you news

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after many, many years have gone by that use

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Finally his Salam is missing. He just gets news that Binyamin has gone.

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The brothers went to Egypt did what they needed to do. They came back without Binyamin.

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Something happened to Iacobelli salaam he got triggered, what was the trigger? What's the Wallah on home? He turned away.

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I want you to pay attention to everything in this

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because everything every word, every letter in pour n means something.

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The fact that you pull binary history, the mentions he turned away what Well, I know him is like you turn your back. You give the person your back and you walk away.

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Why does Allah tell us that?

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Why would Allah highlight the turning away of your cool bar that you set up? You know, sometimes when you get upset, whether it's angry, upset or emotionally upset,

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you know, sometimes we like cover our emotion. It's kind of the same thing.

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Something triggered and he just turned away and his emotions just came out he couldn't control it.

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Then he says, What color Yeah, so far the use of he says My goodness, how I missed use of

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I suffer. The Arabs would say LSA Abarth will us like one pain, uncovers or reminds you of another pain?

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Right now there's no conversation about use of how they use them. It's about Binyamin. This whole incident was because of Binyamin.

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Well, what happened to Jacobo days? He immediately remembers use of Fridays

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and he breaks down

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any night

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What do we learn from this?

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Sometimes people are going through an emotional breakdown when you meet them

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see older teeth the smile How are you hamdulillah that's the standard greeting right? How are you hamdulillah very rarely they will ask you know really how are you? You look exhausted

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something wrong I

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haven't seen you in a while.

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Pay attention to the after Alhamdulillah that's important when you ask the follow up question hamdulillah Good to see where have you been?

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It's been a while

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so what till when

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the hides the emotion

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then it gets triggered about use of Farley's

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won't be able to die you know whom in Houston for Hua Calvino, then his starts crying, his eyes become glazed.

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You start to losing his sight of it for Hua Kelty Arabic students.

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remember, we said every letter counts, every letter matters important.

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If the area said, Well, what Kelvin

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it was the letter of fat was changed to the letter. Well,

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this area would then be that he was triggered. And he felt sad, but you wouldn't be able to connect his grief back to use of he could just be saying use if I missed you. But his grief could be attached to many other things. But because the letter Fi is there, it's directly linked to use of family history. See how different that is and then the ISS Kaeleen. kelvim is like this emotional weight has been carrying on for a long time.

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All of us have that story.

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We all have a Killeen.

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And sometimes you might see like kids playing at a playground.

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And then it reminds you

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of your children.

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Children that are with you.

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And perhaps maybe children that have passed on.

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And when you look at those images and those videos

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they don't have to be your kids. But they remind you of you and your family.

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So Kaeleen we all carry our own story of Kaeleen in a different way. Allah azza wa jal give us strength Allahumma Amin

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now the next day

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the sons look at the father in the state and they say something to him that's that's really not polite. They say to him Paulo Tala

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tough to tell the quarter use of takuna huddled otaku demeanor Hurley keen. They say Pato Tala. They might sound similar to wala, that's not the A Tala has the letter in front of Allah's name, what this means it's very rare. But what that means when you see the TA is that

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there's a bit of a shouting match happening between the sons and the Father. And they start arguing with him, you're still sad. You're still complaining theories, their voice?

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Now, here's the lesson. I want you to think about this, because this is a subject we can almost never talk about. And many take for granted. This is happening in the family, isn't it? A father with his sons. So it's happening in the home,

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we're getting a little bit of sensitivity training of how we deal with feelings within the family, as opposed to outside our home. You know, when you see like your brother or sister crying, sometimes we see our parents crying, it's easy for safe to say that we've been so dramatic.

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Exploring with you wasn't that bad crew up,

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get it together. We can be really hard when it comes to our feelings with our families.

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But outside the home Subhanallah My heart goes out to them.

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That's the reminder. It's something to really pause and think about because our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us the best view are the best to whom, to your family.

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Say if you want to take your heart and goes out to them, you know where you give that heart to first. You give it to your home.

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But your pool barely history doesn't have that.

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This is the next lesson. The next reminder of this. He doesn't have that connection with his family. He can't talk to them. They're not sensitive to his feelings and what he's been going through.

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So usually Muslims, what do we say to someone like that? We say listen, just make doramin What's wrong with you? Talk to Allah.

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Just keep it to Allah. And that's it.

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And that's not a bad thing. It should always be like that, shouldn't it? So why didn't ya cool bar lady Salem just do that. Why this back and forth between his children. We learned something here as well.

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It's important to have people that you can unload and talk to

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even if they're not your family. Sometimes our families are not the right people to unload. This area reminds us that's okay.

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That's okay. And you don't

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our prophets, Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam actually did this. Not on one occasion, several times, several times before the Battle of

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he heard they're coming and we should go in are mobilized. They're on their way from Mecca. You know what he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did? He first went to the youth and asked them, What do you think we should do? How do you think we shouldn't respond? Like, should we write a letter? What do you think we should we just wait? Maybe they're willing to talk first? What do you think we should do? The youth gave their response?

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Then he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam goes to the Senior Companions. What do you think we should do? Should we wait? How do we respond? They gave their advice?

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Why didn't the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, just go straight to dua? Well, let just give me the answer of how I should respond. Sometimes it's important we talk to each other.

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The dua to Allah is always there. But it's not the only source that's available to us. Those who choose I will only leave my affairs to Allah and only talk to Allah, that is between you and Allah what Allah will help.

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But the person who says Look, man, I really need to talk to you. And they start crying and unloading is not a moment where you say, man, your Eman Subhanallah you need to work on it. You need to get yourself together. So that's one of the core lessons behind this. But some will say well, nothing will stop keep reading, looking and listening to the next area.

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Yeah, Paul barley, he said, when he hears what the children are saying to him, you're still remembering use if you're still going

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On like this takuna huddle, done, you know, huddle done from huddle don't means like somebody who's paralyzed. So they're saying to the Father, you're gonna make yourself sick, you're gonna become paralyzed, you're gonna really ruin yourself. Get over it. Listen to him what he says, Are they he's still a pilot in the mushkil bethey was ni il Allah.

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He says, Let me tell you something.

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I complain and my grief is only for Allah. Did you see what happened? Because then we'll take this a out of context and say, What do you mean? You know, he talked to somebody else. Look, he's clearly saying I leave my affairs and my complaints only to Allah, but keep it in context. This is after all of this back and forth happen between him and his children. Lots of things took place before we got to this area. Then he reminds them that even though it would have been nice that I could talk to you guys, you don't understand. So let me remind you, I do trust Allah.

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He is always with me. And my doors are always with him. Allah azza wa jal keep us close to him. Hola Hola, me, NAMA escuela methi methan what that's the main Hallmark detail and can see it already and

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Bethan is a word you hear all the time.

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But if you connect it to the emotion that he's going through methylene this a it means like, I've had this pain so long.

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Now I'm gonna let it out.

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When you watch those images, and you watch the news, and the pain is in there, the emotion is in there.

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This reminds us It's okay. Sometimes you gotta just let it out.

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I have people coming to me saying students and other Muslims they'll say you know I cry every time I watch the news. The response to that is okay, let it up. It's fine

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then you're up to barley history continuous

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pilot in the mash called Betsy was the eel Allah or are the women Allah He Mata Tara love one another's things about Allah that you don't know. In conclusion?

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Yeah, cool. ballyhoo Salam is reminding his sons and all of us.

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People with iman.

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They know things others without Amen. We'll never know. You know, what we know.

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Carriers of la ilaha illallah, Muhammad Rasool Allah, we know what our brothers and sisters know. In the hodza Have you seen the interviews where they lost 10 and 15 members of their family and they still say, Yes, Moon, Allah, whatever.

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They still say Alhamdulillah.

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How do you say that through all of that pain and loss?

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The people of Eman know how.

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Because you carry La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Allah Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in your heart. That's what keeps you strong.

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That's what keeps us going.

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And that Insha Allah, this is what I leave you with.

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That is the thing that you and I have to hold on to. To find some wisdom and perspective as to what is happening and why it's happening. We may not have all the answers, but at least we know your

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we trust you.

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And we believe in your wisdom until our Z's will Hakeem if you can say that, then you have what it takes to continue not only to see those images and videos, but to do your part and at least praying and making dua for our brothers and sisters. I pray that Allah subhanaw taala ease their pain and suffering. I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala keep our families close together. And I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala preserved the message of la ilaha IL Allah, Muhammad Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in our hearts and in our lives. Day Iman, always and forever Allah whom I mean, upload OMA to smartphone was stuff that will LaHood you welcome Marissa, you must have the minimum

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quality them to stop in the Hall of affordable

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Mr. Mullah Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah either he of total Salah woman word, America, my brothers and sisters I leave you with this final reflection

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and turn your attention to suit earlier in Milan after the Battle of Oh hood was finished

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70 Plus companions of died.

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Prophet alayhi salatu salam sat down and looked at at the companions that survived.

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And all their heads were down.

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They were hurt.

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They were disappointed in themselves.

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They probably felt guilty as well that they let their leader down. He gave them in certain instructions.

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Things happened and it led to all of this. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala reveals the area Febi Mel Mateen min Allah lovey Lynn Taylor home,

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that if it wasn't for Allah's mercy, you would have never gotten yourself in your heart to soften up to understand how they feel.

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So my conclusion to you is this, the Mercy of Allah. Sometimes we think that the Mercy of Allah is that Allah will just step in and excuse us, of all the pain and the wrong, the mistakes that we've done, and that's the Mercy of Allah. Actually, it's much more deeper than that.

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Think about the Mercy of Allah as a love staying on this journey with you and me. Through all the struggle and pain of life, whether it's with you are what you see around the world.

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When you hold on to your faith, Allah's Mercy is he will give us the strength to cope with what ever pain and struggle happening to us and around the world. It's Allah's way of saying,

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I will go on this journey of recovery and strength with you. Don't worry.

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That's why when a lot talks about mercy in chlorin

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pay attention to how the area started and you'll notice that most of the time when an area ends with a mercy

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the area was filled with problems.

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It was filled with mistakes that the person made the servant made. It was filled with sins, so many struggles and Allah says a full AHA photo Rahim what can Allah have a photo Rahim? Come here. Don't worry.

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Hold on to my faith and I will take care of you. I pray Allah subhanaw taala keeps us close to him. I pray that Allah subhana wa Taala always blesses each and every one of us with His mercy and His protection and forgiveness. I send peace and blessings to all Rasul Salah Toby was salam and morally

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