Ask Musleh – What is the importance of beauty when looking for a spouse?

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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters and welcome to Ask Muslim. So let's take a look at today's question in sha Allah. Today's question comes from our brother who's asking how important is it to take into account a person's appearance when deciding if they are compatible? This is an excellent question. And for the answer, we go to an important narration of Ebner best, although the loveline woman or the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam basically gave us four things that we should look for when choosing a spouse. What's interesting is that the first criteria the prophecy seldom gives is beauty. In other words, you got to have some sort of physical attraction to

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that person. Something must be very beautiful, not only about their character, but something physically there should be beautiful for you. So that's the first thing the prophets I send them mentions in this head, Ethan, the order of this hadith is really important. But what's interesting or what's even more interesting beyond being aside from all of that is the last criteria the Prophet Sela mentions his religion, but then he says that this is the most important thing that you should look for. And that brothers and sisters is the key. That's the foundation when you choose a spouse. You want to make sure that you always choose an individual that has religion has Islam has the

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morals and the ethics of our Deen because with that, that's how you're going to that's how you're going to create a successful relationship. And in sha Allah successful marriage, Allah subhanho wa Taala says in Surah, two room the verse that talks about marriage and talks about all the things that you should do and look for in a marriage just one a does this. And it starts off when Eliza gel says woman a tea and Hala Paulo cumin and fusi comb as well. It's from the miracles of Eliza Jen that he creates from amongst you spouses, which are the Bina kumada and Rama and so on. And you know how the verse continues? So the point of evidence in this particular versus that a lot starts off by

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talking about Akita issues woman at from his miracles, Allah is calling you to him first. So don't even think about marriage. Don't even think about relationship. But think about Deen and Islam first before you get involved in any of this. So to answer the question, beauty is extremely important. But it is not equal to religion and Islam. Because beauty is just a part of of a bigger picture here. So once you categorize that and you look at and you focus on it, in that perspective, then everything in sha Allah should make sense. And remember brothers and sisters, even companions used to come to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And they would say that they wanted to marry an

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individual and the prophets I send them would ask them, did you see the person that you want to get married to? And they said no, and the prophets I send them would say to them, go and look at that person. And if you're pleased with what you see then marry them. So he actually enforced this on the companions. So I hope that answers the question. May Allah subhanho wa Taala reward all of you this is your brother Muslim? was said Mr. alikum warahmatu Allahi wa barakato.

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So today's question, brother is asking how important is beauty in terms of establishing compatibility with a person especially that question sounds horrible Let's try it again.

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Studio take into account a person's appearance appearance when deciding if they are compatible. So basically, should How important is it for you to be physically attracted to that person and their beauty and their appearance in terms of your I don't know what in the world I'm saying?

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I was in a nice flow in the beginning man. Yeah, man.

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Yeah.

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Okay.