Channel: Abdullah Hakim Quick
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Now this was a shock to the Prophet peace be upon him because although he was noble in his lineage, he wasn't a wealthy person. And it was known that many of the of the senior people in kadesh had approached Khadija for marriage, and she refused them. She was constantly refusing men. She had high standards, as they would say today. And so he was surprised and he went immediately to his uncles, and they accepted this. They accepted. And she was 40 years old.
At the time was in the car, and his uncle's attended the Disney Car. And his uncle hums out rhodiola Juan especially went with him. The niqab was witnessed by the heads of Ben who Hashem and Ben were murdered.
And her father for waylaid, according to the most authentic reports, was the one who gave her away in the marriage. Her father, the mother of the dowry was 20 camels. 20 camels, not 20 camels in those days, was a high Ma, because the camel was like a BMW today. So it's like 20 BMWs. And so this this was a good size Maha that he was able to get through his family. And it is reported in the life of the Prophet Salaam, that he never married another woman until her death.
And she also bore all of his children.
what is important about this, that we should consider
is the fact that, you know, there were many scandals, many things said, against the prophets of Salaam, and especially in his approach to marriage. And many of the Western orientalist would say, he was a person who got married so many times he was a lecherous man, he loved women, and so forth and so on. But let us consider now this sacred marriage, the prophets, Allah Salam was 25 years old. And she was 40 years old.
And he was at his prime as a young man. And he was a young person who hadn't experienced that much. But at the same time was coming from a very powerful lineage. And, again, when we look at the life of the Prophet peace be upon him and we look at their attitude toward age, it was different than today, people today tend to put a lot on numbers in terms of age, and they downplay the the personality of the person, or the activity of the person I can recall. Very clearly in Canada in I was counseling people. And a woman called me This is a true story. She called me and she was frantic on the phone, brother, Abdullah, you have to do something. This woman wants to marry my son. This no
good woman. She has the audacity to approach my son. My son is 25 years old. So I said, Okay, how old is the woman? And she said, She's 40 years old. And I said, Do you know the story of the province, Alice Elam?
And she said, No, how could somebody 25 marry somebody 40 years old? Then I said to him, Do you recognize Do you know that the Prophet peace be upon him was 25 when he was married, and that his wife was 40 years old? And who is the best example for us? So don't get caught up necessarily in numbers of age. Look at the person. Look at her activities. Look at her Dean.
Look at what she's done in her life. What she has to present and don't get caught up in numbers. Khadija rhodiola han ha bore all of the children of the province of Salaam except Ibrahim. Now his son Ibrahim,
was born by
Maria El Cap to the Coptic Egyptian woman and the other children. It is reported were born by Khadija and they will cost him the son was al Qasim and his other son was Abdullah. So the two sons from Khadija Abdullah is also known as a Thai hip and a TA here. These are nicknames for Abdullah. So it's not three. It's actually one who had two nicknames and the process of them many times was called upon Qasim, Abul Qasim because this is his oldest son. This is this is his cornea.
The girls that he had his daughters with Zainab ruqayyah
own called phone and Fatima may Allah be pleased with them all. All of his sons died in their childhood. All of his daughters died they passed away during his lifetime except for Fatima Roddy alone
Who was this man?
It is important for us as we see him coming into his prime coming into his marriage. And people beginning to respect him now and he's, he's filling out now as a human being. It's important for us to have a general description of the prophets of Allah. This is because we are maybe sometime in Sharla. You may see him in your dreams. And it's important to know what he looks like. So you don't get confused with shaytaan you know, who is impersonating somebody else? And so, the books of Sierra and especially, especially the Shama, Shama Illa, Timothy, was the famous Imam of Hadith
tetapi de Rahim Allah, He put together 400 Hadith in 55 chapters, in this book of Shama. And this is considered to be one of the most authentic works, in terms of giving descriptions of the Prophet peace be upon him. And it's important for us to know this description not that we worship the description, or we try to change our features to look like the description. But you know, it is important for us to know this, and even through his description, you will begin to see how Allah subhanaw taala chose somebody in the middle there extremes even in the human race extremes and color extremes and height, extremes and features. But the province of solemn somehow appears to be sort of
in the center of things. He is described as being a man of medium height, not too tall, and he wasn't too short.
He was also of medium complexion. He was not very light skinned, not white complexion, nor was he dark skin. He was a medium Olive complex complexion, sometimes described as the color of wheat. His hair was not straight. And it was not very curly. It was in between. So there was curls that were in between. He had broad shoulders, and his his hands and his feet were very fleshy, meaning he had powerful hands and feet. And he used to walk at a fast pace. They say when you walk next to him, you sort of had to trot to keep up with him. So he was very athletic. And he walked out at a fast pace. But they say he walked he was slightly bent over when he walked. Not that something was wrong with
his back. But he wasn't proud and arrogant, as many people stick their chest out and hold their head really high. And they walk. But he was sort of humble. When he walked walking at a very fast pace. His hair was black. And his beard was a full beard was full.
The hair also his eyebrows was was prominent in his eyebrows. And his teeth had a split in the middle, there was a gap in between the middle teeth, that means something to people in certain cultures. If you have a gap in the middle of your teeth, I don't know what it means in South Africa. But but maybe it does have meanings. In any event, he had a gap in the middle of his teeth, he had high cheekbones and a very high nose in terms of the bone structure on his nose. And he is described that he is not the tallest person. But whenever you looked at a crowd that he was in, he seemed like the tallest person in the crowd. And that is part of the miracles of the province of Solomon may
have something to do with his his stature in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala. And also the light and the law, that that that came out of him. And he is he was his skin was radiant. He had a radiant skin, he took care of himself. oily, he put oil and is here, he used to wear it's a perfumes and he used to comb his hair constantly. He'd be doing miswak as you know, constantly brushing his teeth. And he didn't wear a lot of different types of clothing. But he was very careful about his clothing.
Also in terms of his general personality, he wasn't a talkative person. You know, today, in some cultures, people talk a lot. And if you're sitting next to them, and you don't talk, they start to feel nervous. Like this person's not talking. In some cultures, people laugh and American culture is now propagating this laugh oriented culture onto the world even have laugh machines. So when a person says some it says
right, so it laughs right. And all of us have this in us know that we constantly laugh, but the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he never really broke out into a major left, he would smile a lot, but it would just be it smile enough so you'd see that his molar teeth.
Also his speech was very controlled,
and that he would let you talk and when he said things that were important things and he wouldn't say things just to talk for toxic and this is very important in the personality of the province on the solemn because he was the receiver
And so in receiving Revelation, this is not the position of a person who is a talkative person who wants to always give you their own opinion. It is somebody who would be trustworthy enough to be the vessel of Colombo law, the words of Allah subhanaw taala. And also the the ideas coming from the Creator, that would be expressed in the Hadith.
And so the prophet SAW the Solomon, his marriage has given to us great wisdom.
The first wisdom, or the next wisdom that we are getting out of the marriage is the fact that he was approached by Khadija. And this is an important concept because in many cultures, even within Islamic cultures, it is thought that only the man can approach the woman for marriage. But in this case, the woman approached the man.
Also, she was a wise woman, she was a rich woman, he was a poor man.
But still, even though she was rich, he gave the dowry she didn't give him the mod. He was the one who gave the bar. This is the Islamic concept in some of our Muslim countries, they give what they call Maha Fatima, the mother of Fatima like 33 rupees or so they'll give and then the woman's family pays everything. They throw the walima and they pay for every This is a Hindu custom. This is not an Islamic custom. Because within Hinduism, when when the woman marries the man,
she is the one who is gaining he is God's gift to humanity to the life. But in Islam, it's the opposite. The man is the one who's gaining so therefore islamically The man is the one who pays the bar. Okay, that's not the other way around.