Loss of a Child

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Santa Monica Welcome to LA here but I can't too

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many brothers and sisters, we begin by placing our maker Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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We praise him during all circumstances. We praise him during his, we praise him during hardship, and we ask him for his help. We sincerely ask him for his help, and we asked him to send his blessings and salutations upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family members, his companions, and all those who tread upon his path with utmost sincerity until Judgment Day.

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Yes, indeed, we're living in trying times, extremely trying times, we're in the midst of a pandemic.

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And at this juncture, we asked him for his help. And

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I'd like to begin this video by reminding ourselves of the ayah in the Noble Quran. For in my history you saw in a mile or so you saw, Allah says, So truly with hardship comes ease. And he goes on to again say, truly with hardship comes ease. So as believers, that is hold on to this idea.

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Today, I want to talk about losing a loved one, and most specifically the loss of a child.

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Most of us are aware of the 20 day old baby in Sri Lanka, who was cremated only a few days ago, due to passing away whilst having tested positive for COVID-19. As per the test and report put forth by the authorities.

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I'd like to dedicate this video to offer my deepest sympathies and condolences along with sincerely praying for the family and offering words of consolation. We pray for this family earnestly May Allah subhanho wa Taala comfort the parents, and may the loss of this child become a means for them to acquire the pleasure of Allah. And may Allah the Most High love their beautiful child, to drag them into Jenna into paradise in the next life. I mean,

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losing a child is one of the greatest trials in life. And this trial has been compounded for this family upon so many levels of pain, that Words fail to try and encompass or describe the pain and grief that they must be going through.

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So at this juncture, we also pray for every parent who has gone through this very trying ordeal. It's a trial and a challenge by the brothers and sisters that many of us will find extremely difficult to understand. If we have not experienced it and none of us want to. Because it is so difficult and experience to even think of comprehending it, it tugs it tugs away and breaks your heart in places that you never knew existed in your heart. Subhan Allah, it is a trial that the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went through six times the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam buried six of seven children Subhan Allah, one begins to wonder about the strength of the Prophet,

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the emotional strength of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam How did he find it in Him, to smile at everyone and to have so much to give to others around him? After having gone through all of this Subhan Allah the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So at a juncture like this return to the Scripture, for relief. For solace, we turn to the words of our maker and the words of merciful Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for comfort. Our maker Subhana Horta, hyla, he states in the Noble Quran, will enable you and can be Shea mineral Hovey will do, he will not cause a mineral and while he will unfussy with a mirage well Bashir is Sabine

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And then a lot goes on to say, well, Bashir is Siberian.

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Now amidst all of this turmoil, amidst the chaos, amidst the difficulty,

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give glad tidings and to the sabi rune now who are the sabi rune, the sabi rune are those who hold on to this beautiful concept of sovereign patience, give glad tidings and to the patient ones. And then Allah goes on to describe the patient ones who are the patient ones, and levena either a saw but who maceda they are those when afflicted with a calamity. What do they do? How do they respond in early learn he was in LA here or geo and

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this statement,

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I want to take a few moments to internalize this statement. It's such a powerful statement. Some of us think that this is a statement that is merely uttered when someone passes away.

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No Subhan Allah look at the meaning in Allah He was in La Jolla Raja own in NA. If you were to dissect that statement of trying to understand it, to internalize it in, surely we in Allah, surely we belong to a law in nyla. We're in and again indeed, are surely lay here on your own. Again, surely we lay here on your own, will all return to Him. Look at this statement. Surely we belong to Allah, and surely to him, we will all return.

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What a powerful statement, what beautiful submission.

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This beautiful concept of surrendering yourself submitting to the will of your maker subhanho wa Taala, where you where you submit yourself complete submission in Nadella who are in that era here on your own. When we internalize this statement,

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you've seen my dear brothers and sisters, it is upon us to go to the Scripture, it is upon us to go to the words of our maker for comfort.

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We have to tell ourselves that every single thing belongs to Allah subhana wa Dan, we belong to Him. And whatever we own, we think that we own these things, but they ultimately belong to Allah subhanho wa Taala. While Illa Hill methyl Allah, Allah is above these examples, but for our minds, you see, we have got fragile minds for our limited and finite minds to comprehend. Think of the example

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of you

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having a friend who gives you a car or a house. Now, at the end of the day, these are materialistic things, but for us to understand, means you go with this example. So think that you were given a car, let's say you needed a car, and your friend had an extra car. So he tells you that and because of the good friendship that you enjoy, he's like, you know, take the car, use it, or take the house use it.

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You know?

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Now, at this juncture, the car belongs to your friend, but he's letting you use it. The ultimate ownership lies with your friend. But he says, You know what, use it, it's fine. Use it, but I needed to ask it from you.

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And he's so good. He's so kind hearted. He's so generous, that he lets you use it, and you're using it for years on end.

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But now, deep down, my dear brother, my dear sister, you know, that eventually, one day, if he were to come and ask, you have to give it it might be difficult. It might be difficult partying, because now you're built a relationship with that possession. Right? But you know, deep down that ultimately, the ownership lies with your friend. And it is because of his generosity, it is because of his kind heartedness that he gave you.

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You know, for your convenience, to benefit from that particular possession in the form of a shelter in the form of a mode of conveyance, whatever it may be.

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But now, he's asking for it, you have to release it. So similarly, my dear brother, my dear sister, everything that we have, in terms of our possessions, in terms of

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our loved ones, in terms of our own health,

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the body that we have been given, every single thing, every single aspect was given to us by Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And

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as believers we know that everything will come to an end

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But what matters is how we respond when those aspects are taken from us, when those aspects when those things when those matters are asked, how we respond. How we cope, is what matters in the eyes of our maker subhanho wa Taala.

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So how how will the believers cope? How will the ones with patients cope and respond in that Illa here in LA Rajon to Allah we belong to Him we shall return. And what is the reward for those who respond to these calamities to these tests to these trials within alila he were in LA Roger Owen, what will the people have inner Lila he was in LA he Roger own be rewarded with the next ayah Allah goes on to say

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As you can see my dear brothers and sisters that he wants a priceless from Allah subhanho wa Taala when you cope appropriately when you turn to the scripture for relief for comfort.

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I'd like to

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share a hadith it is recorded in the Muslim of Imam Ahmed Rahim Allah

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amen come to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he had a son of his with him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam looks at the men and he asks the man Do you love your son? Do you love your son? Do you love him?

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The man says yeah rasulillah Yes, I love him. May Allah love you as I love him. So he illustrates the immense love that He has for his son.

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Then a few days passed by and the prophets that alone while I'm paraphrasing the narration By the way, it goes along the lines of these words, days pass, and then the prophets that allow it when he was Selim once noticed that the child was missing.

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And then he asks what happened to the son of so and so.

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Then it was said to the messenger Yeah, Rasul Allah, the child has died.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then looks at the father, consoling the father, comforting the Father. He looks at the father and he says, Would you not like to come to one of the gates of Jenna? Would you not like to come to one of the gates of genda and find your son waiting there for you by the gates of Jenna to welcome you into Jenna?

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demand response? Yasser Allah, is this just for me? Or is it applicable for all of us as in for every single parent who loses a child and that's why, at the beginning of the video, I prayed for every single parent who has gone through this trying ordeal.

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The Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam he says, No, it is for all of you, all of you for every single parent, my dear brother, my dear sister, if you have lost a child, you can expect that child that beloved child of yours, waiting at the gates of Jenna, the gates of Jenna to welcome you into Jenna.

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And there are other hobbies. For example, Abu huraira are the last one who he mentioned that the child will drag the mother drag the father into Jenna, because because this pain this loss of having lost the child it's so heartbreaking. So the rewards are colossal, massive. There's another Hadith

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and

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if I'm not mistaken this hadith recorded in the book of multimedia Rahim Allah.

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There was a companion who after having buried his child, he seated at the gravesite.

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And then what happened

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was that

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words of comfort were conveyed to this individual

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Through the words of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So this companion, the narration goes along the lines of these words, one companion is comforting another companion and he says the prophets lie Selim is reputed to have said that when a person's child passes away, Allah subhana wa Taala addresses His angels and he says, You have taken the child of my slave Look, listen to the listen to the narration, my dear brother, my dear sister, a law looks at his angels and he says, You have taken the child of my slave to which the angels respond in the affirmative, they say yes. Then he says you that Allah subhanho wa Taala goes on to say, you have taken the apple of his eye, the

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apple of his eye, as in you have taken something that is extremely, extremely beloved to my slave to which the angels say yes, yeah, Allah. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala he asks the angels What did my slaves say? And then they respond, he praised you, yeah, Allah during during this trial during this calamity during this loss. He is in this Abbess. This vacuum, the sadness, but yet he praised you. And he said, in LA he was in LA he Roger horn, were really to Allah we belong and unto him is our return. That Allah immediately says, build for my slave housing Jenna, and call this house bait will have named the house the house of praise. And you can just imagine that the child that's

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individual lost will be in this beautiful house. This palace that has been built for him because of having lost his child. Okay, we say lost, but in reality the child has been entrusted into the care of Jamaica subhanho wa Taala. The child is frolicking in the gardens of Jenna, the child is frolicking in these beautiful palaces that have been built for the child's parents for the mother and the father. And the child is going to drag the mother dragged the father into Jenna into these beautiful palaces.

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Another Hadith while the with the Allahu anhu he narrates the prophets Allah Allison is reporter Sarah had his record or the book of Imam Himalayan the Muslim Ummah, Dima Allah, the Prophet sallallaahu reporter said, I swear by Allah in whose hands My soul is

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the miscarried child look or mother or sister. If you have gone through a miscarriage, look at the words of your messenger. Let this serve as words of comfort. The miscarried child would pull his mother will pull his or her mother with their umbilical cord to paradise if she sought a large reward for it and if she was patient,

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a mother who miscarries she bears it with patience. She praises Allah during that circumstance of hers. She says in Allah he were in LA Raja home that she entrusts her affairs unto Allah subhanho wa Taala then that child that miscarried child would pull the mother would pull the parents with his or her umbilical cord to Jenna two gentlemen, dear brothers and sisters look look at the beauty of these narrations.

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I'd like to conclude the video by touching on how a Muslim looks at afflictions.

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We have this famous Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam where he says ajibade the umbrella mean how amazing or what an extraordinary thing is the business of a belief or the affairs of a believer and everything is good for him and that only applies to the believer. The Prophet sallallaahu Selim goes on to say if good fortune is his lot, then he is grateful and it is good for him. If good fortune is locked, he is grateful. He renders gratitude he holds on to sugar and it is good for him if something harmful on the other hand on the flip side, if something harmful afflicts him, if something bad happens to him, then what does he do? He holds on to patience. During good times. He

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doesn't forget Allah subhanho wa Taala he holds on to sugar and during hard times during difficulties, he is steadfast and he holds on to patience and this is also good for him. The headache is a recorder in the book of Mr. Muslim or Mr. Hola.

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My dear brother, my dear sister, this life this worldly life is one of affliction. It is one of trials. It is one of tribulations. This is the believers perception of this life, this worldly life dunia. It's a lonely life, her lonely life.

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Allah says Allah, Allah, Allah Mota. Well Hayato Leah Balu Akuma ucommerce Anwar mela. We understand through that I add that this life is a test to see which one of us is best in our deeds. And we know through the words of the Scripture through the Quran and the Sunnah of the prophets, Allah, Allah Islam that the next life will be one of bounty, one of happiness, everlasting happiness and eternal paradise, the beautiful and lofty garden of amache. For the one who attains it, there'll be such bounty, such happiness in in Jenna, that

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we all sincerely pray unto Allah Subhana Allah Allah, that we are admitted into this beautiful garden, under which under which rivers flow,

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we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us from the people of Jenna. Finally,

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I would like to console every parent, every father, every mother, who has lost a child with the words with which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam consoled a mother, whose son had died.

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The Prophet sallallaahu Selim his report I've said to Allah belongs, whatever he takes, and whatever he gives, everything has an appointed time between him subhana wa dialler. Have patience and have hope of a reward from Allah subhanho wa Taala. This Hadith is recorded on the book of Imam Al Bukhari. Rahim Allah. With that I conclude, desert Camilla Hara was Santa Monica rahmatullah wa barakato.