Muhammad West – Hastiness – The Mother of Regret
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The speakers discuss the importance of the 9th year after the hij lie of Makkah, whereornings are known as the conquest of Makkah. They emphasize the importance of setting up deliberate behavior to achieve a level of consciousness and prioritize achieving the next level of spirituality. The speakers also discuss common mistakes made during divorce, including incorrect predictions and hesitation towards judge's evaluations. They emphasize the importance of avoiding divorce and not being afraid of the judge.AI: Transcript ©
All praise and thanks is due to Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Salawat and salaam upon Rasulillah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam,
his companions,
the students,
and all those who followed them
in righteousness.
We thank Allah
Allah who has granted us the opportunity
to once again gather in the House of
Allah
during this Mubarak hour
of Jum'ah.
Insha'Allah,
our topic today
is one that we share
specifically with the Hujjaj,
but it's one that generally
each and every one of us
require
in our lives.
The 9th year
after the hijrah of Rasulullah
is known as
the conquest of Makkah,
there were tribes and groups who hadn't openly
accepted Islam yet.
And so when they saw the success of
Rasulullah
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, some of them had believed
already, but
And
so when Makkah is conquered,
they come to the
prophet
Sixty tribes, one after the other, coming to
take the shahada with Rasulillah
Rasulullah and learn from the prophet
One such tribe
is the tribe of Abdukais.
And so these people, we can imagine this
picture, Madinah,
tribe after tribe coming into Masjid al Nabawi,
coming to meet the prophet
They were so excited to see the prophet
The tribe of Abdul Qays, most of them,
they leave their camels unattended.
They don't tie the camels.
They don't change
into a new outfit
or take a fresh hoodoo. They leave the
animals and they run into
Masjid and Nabawi.
But there's one individual
who stays behind,
Al Shej Abdul Qays.
He parks his camel, ties his camel, and
then ties the camels of everybody else
in his
waft, in his delegation.
He takes out the bag that he has
there with a clean soap, takes wudu, freshens
up, puts on the new soap, and enters
Masjidun Nabawi.
When he meets Rasulullah
The prophet
says,
In nafiqah
khulatayni
yuhibbuhamullah
You have 2 qualities
that Allah
loves
and Rasulullah
loves.
Now you can imagine this individual has never
met Rasulullah
He hasn't studied Islam a day in his
life. So how does he now have Islamic
qualities
that is loved by Allah
and loved by
So the prophet
mentions to him what these two qualities are.
The ability
not to get angry quickly.
The ability to keep his composure
when he's angry.
Walana,
the ability not to be hasty.
And so
he asked the prophet
did Allah
create me like this?
Or is this something
that I
developed?
And this is a question that, ulama,
they discuss. Good character, is it developed? Or
is it something that you are born with?
No individual has a perfect good character.
If you perhaps, you don't get angry very
quickly, but you perhaps miserly,
you might be
a happy chappy,
but you don't like to,
you know, visit people. So, each and everyone
has his strengths and his weaknesses. And so,
because Allah
loves us so much,
those
character traits that we need to work on
and put extra effort in,
Allah rewards
even
more. Allah
has created us
in a certain way.
And Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, says that we
were created
We were created
with haste.
So
we find that even our
early
father, our great great great great great grandfather,
he was also Hasti. We are created like
that.
Salman al Farisi
radhiallahu ta'ala Anhu
and even Abbas
radiallahu ta'ala Anhuma
speaks about the creation
of Adam alayhi wasalam.
And so
Allah fashioned Adam,
and he was like a shelve
laying in Jannah
without any
ruh in him, without any
soul in him.
And then at one point, the the the
soul was blown into
Adam alaihi sallam.
And so when the
soul reached the brain,
right, what happened?
He sneezed.
And Allah, Subhanahu wa ta'ala, told him, may
your Lord have mercy upon you.
Then the the soul moved, and it wasn't
like quickly just like that. It moved
and then his eyes opened.
I like now I don't want to tell
you it's like the Frankenstein movie, you know,
when the when they give him a
shock, and then this being comes alive. But
it didn't he just didn't stand up. So
the the soul moved to the eyes. So
he opened his eyes, and he could see
how his body was actually coming to to
life. So he saw the soul moving into
the arms,
into
the fingers,
into the thighs, and he was amazed and
he wanted to stand up.
Even our father,
Adam
was also
hasty.
And so when the prophet
teaches
Al
Ashaj that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala loves someone
who's not
hasty,
why is it that Allah
created
us hasty and then expects us not to
be hasty?
There are certain
levels
that we can reach with Allah
and these levels
come at a price.
There are 2
concepts that are
very close to each other,
but also different
somewhat. We have something called the fitra,
natural inclination.
And this fitra has a strong relationship
with the soul, with the ruha.
And then we have the tabi'ah, the nature,
which has a strong relationship
with the body.
And sometimes
we have to go against nature
and make that effort to go against nature
to reach that next level with Allah
Conquering that nature
is the price we pay to meet Allah
on another level. For example,
we are created by nature
attracted to the opposite *.
It is only natural
that we
will want to gaze and look at the
opposite *. But then Allah
and the prophet
teaches us to lower
our gaze.
That's a battle.
That's not easy.
Something is nice. You want to look at
it. But to meet Allah
on that next level,
you sacrifice that
and you are raised.
Similarly,
Allah says about us, and they love money
intensely.
We love money. We like to amass money.
We like to have a nice bank account.
We don't like to spend. By nature,
we are miserly.
But Allah
loves
generosity.
So we need to pay the price. We
need to go against the nature.
Similarly,
we are created
hasty. But to reach Allah
on the next level,
what do we need to do? We need
to pay
the price.
And so Allah
who doesn't make mistakes,
He, Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, created the events
and the earth in 6 days.
Ibn al Qayyim
has a beautiful,
statement that he says about
taught deliberation to his slaves
to do things deliberately.
Thinking.
Don't just make a decision with without thinking
it through. How many
half masjids we finally kept on half built?
A half built madrasah,
a half built institution. We can't complete it.
Why? It was built hastily.
If we waited,
if we saved more money to have the
entire
amount for the project and finished it all
in once, it would have been
better.
So Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, as Ibn Uqaym
says,
Allah
teaches us to be deliberate in the choices
we we make. And he says, if the
one who does not make mistakes
created the universe in a deliberate manner,
then it is more appropriate for those
who are vulnerable
to making mistakes to do things in a
deliberate
manner.
There are many things that we are hasty
in. One of those things is that we
are hasty
in attaining
wealth.
And a person who understands that Allah is
Al Razaq
understands
that if his whole lifespan,
he would receive R40,000,000
or R50,000,000.
It won't be R50,000,000
1¢.
It will be
rand.
And
attaining that R50,000,000
could either be in a halal way or
in a
haram way. And so we find
a Qissa
in the life of Ali ibn Abi Talib
radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu. He comes to Masjidun Nabawi,
and there's somebody standing outside Masjidun Nabawi. Very
much like a a parking
guard. Alright?
So
I leave Nabitaalib, he's aisti. He gets to
Mashidun Nabawi, and he tells this man, keep
my
camel. Alright? And just then and thee, he
has the intention to give this person, once
he comes out of the masjid, to
dinar.
This is what he has in his mind,
to Dinar. I'm gonna give this guy to
Dinar.
He comes back out of the masjid.
What does he find? He finds the camel
there without a leash.
And I think no leash, no, you know,
this,
that you steer the camel with. The guy
took it, stole it, and off he went.
So he sent
his assistant to buy another leash in the
market.
The guy went,
and lo and behold,
he found this man in the market.
And what was the asking price for the
for the leash? 2 dinar. 2 dinar.
So Ali ibn Abi Talib says, how amazing.
If you had just waited a little bit,
you could have made that same 2 dinar
in a halal
manner.
But we are so
hasty, you know, this guy matriculated with me,
and then he went to university, and we
graduated together. Why does he have 3 properties,
and I'm still living in a windy house
by my mother? And then we start thinking,
how do we make quick money, quick schemes?
And then,
like
that
pious predecessor
said, that the fruits
of hastiness,
we will always reap in the form of
regret.
In the form
of regret. May
Allah grant us goodness.
Another common
error that we make and another common area
that we are very hasty in is divorce.
You know
you're sitting with people. Right? And so I
had this one case, and the uncle is
there, and
the the father of the girl, the mother
of the girl, and the couple.
And the father says, Hey, Usanidun kalamak fanaan.
I said, Uncle, hold
on. Hold on. What do you mean by?
No. She all 3 talaqs. I said, but
what about reconciliation?
Give one
all of them, unanimously at the table.
3. I said, but 3 is as one
is as good as 3 if if it
does finish. No? 3. I said, okay.
3.
2 days later,
the guy finds me. Shit, there's nothing we
can do, Manuel. I was angry. I said,
okay, we already spoke to somebody else about
this whole anger thing. And then I gave
him the answer
of Abdullah ibn Abbas. Mujahid radiallahu
ta'ala, student of ibn Abbas, he says, I'm
sitting
with Ibn Abbas,
and a man comes to Ibn Abbas
and he says, oh, Ibn Abbas, I divorced
my wife
3
times.
You know, if it was in the ladies
hands, I'm sure there's somebody who's been divorced
300 times already by his wife.
Now I went out for supper 1 night,
and people take divorce so, you know, lightly.
We went out for supper with some brothers,
and there was one brother who didn't arrive
yet. And then he came, and he said,
oh, I just divorced my wife 3 times.
What are we eating? In the same breath.
In the same breath.
And very often,
if you were to give people,
you know, if you go to one of
the Islamic organizations, the MJC or Evers,
90% of the time, they're gonna tell you,
come back.
We have too many cases on file. A
judge in Riyadh,
he says
that,
very
often, it just takes for me, for the
husband,
to utter the the words of Talaq and
the
the form the Talaq form is read on
my computer. I must just press print. I
must sign it, and off they go.
But every time when people come like that,
I tell them come back in 1 month.
He doesn't have a reason. He just come
back in 1 month. 90% of the people
don't come back.
So this man comes to Ibn Abbas. He
says, I divorced my wife three times.
Ibn Abbas, he says,
You do the stupid. Ibn Abbas uses the
word hamooka or hamakah. You do the stupid
thing,
the stupid act.
And then you come, ibn Abbas, ibn Abbas,
ibn Abbas. And in our context, imam, sheikh,
Mawlana.
Is there no way out?
Ibn Abbas tells him
that Allah says,
Whoever fears Allah
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala makes a way out
for him. When you did that 3 divorces
in one time, you did not fear Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, so I do not find
a way
out for you. It is Ibn Abbas, radiAllahu
ta'ala, anhu, who said that during the time
of the
prophet, 3 divorces
in one sitting was considered 1.
The time Ubakat, 3 divorces was considered 1.
2 years of the khilafa of Umar ibn
Khattab, radiAllahu ta'ala, anhu, 3 divorces was considered
1. And then Umar saw how men played
with divorce,
and he said, no, we have to put
our foot down.
3
is 3. And that's 3 over our own
marriage.
Our marriage
you know that 20¢ games that we used
to have at the corner shop? If you
run 20¢, you get 3
lives. Right? The 3 lives up, you throw
another 20¢ in. No. Doesn't work like that.
Our marriage is 3. If there are 3
divorces, there's no
reconciliation
until
that woman marries somebody else and not a
planned move. Okay. Throw and slap, and then
we can get
husband is angry with the wife, wife is
angry with her husband. 3 tolaks. So the
the husband is angry with the wife, wife
is angry with her husband. 3 talaqs. Children
are grown up, they get married. Mommy is
single, daddy is single. The wall of Yetro.
No, no. There's no 20¢ to throw in
for 3 new lives.
It is
as it is. We also
says
that Allah
continues
to accept your du'a
as long as you are not
hasty.
How are we hasty?
We would say make statements like
I asked Allah
and he did not
give me.
The scholars say this type of dua
is like we have in the Quran,
where Allah says,
while other. Do not spoil.
Do not cancel out your sadaqa with man
and other.
Man is when I gave to Ahmed that
nice white soap, and every time I see
him, I say, oh, smart soap. Can you
remember when I gave you that
That is man.
The scholars say the type of dua that
you make I asked Allah and He didn't
give me. It's like that. It says, if
you tell him I gave you and you
didn't give me. Alright?
So this is one of the cases
where hastiness is not allowed in asking Allah
to end of insha'Allah.
When is hastiness allowed? Hastiness is allowed
when we need to perform our Hajj. Prophet
says, be hasty
in performing
your
Hajj.
If your name is on the ready to
go list, don't cancel and say, no. I
couldn't get the 1,000 samusas. What are the
people gonna eat when they actually come to
my house? I'm not able to go and
greet the kramats. I'm not able to go
and greet everybody.
I can't do all the toiletry shopping.
If your name is called go because you
don't know if you'll be able
to go again
next year. Make haste.
Be hasty
in fulfilling the Hajj, says the prophet
You don't know if you're going to fall
ill or if any other excuse comes. We
would have never thought, and especially Hajj agents,
would have never thought it'd be a year
where nobody went for Hajj, and Hajj would
be exclusive to a anti form answer.
So when we have the money
and we have the intention, inshallah,
to not delay it for anything else.
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