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The conversation between multiple speakers discusses the meaning of Marriage Marriage proposal or partnerhip in business, with a focus on the importance of supporting a genuine person and financial support for family members. The speakers also discuss the history of Islam, including the importance of the master mind of ec testament and history, and the importance of praying for one's health. The conversation is difficult to summarize as it appears to be a jumbled mix of disconnected sentences and random characters.

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Santa Monica Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh a welcome back to another love edition of gardens of the pious. We'll begin by praising the Almighty Allah alone, and sending the greatest peace and salutations upon His most Beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. Today's episode, my dear viewers, is number 603 in the Blissett series of Guardians of the pious still in chapter 256. And there is a second episode in a study in this chapter, like to remind you the chapter title which is the cases during which it is permissible to speak about others, which may discredit them. So, some cases where it is permissible to backbite and it will not be considered backbiting we listed about

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six cases last time. And then we discussed some a hadith, how the prophets Allah, Allah and SLMC in about a particular person,

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Visa who last year in order to warn his family, and meanwhile he treated him well. And today's Hadith which we'll begin with, is Hadith number 15 133. Another sound Hadith agreed upon its authenticity,

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age during which, whenever you will be asked, consulted or entrusted to give you an opinion concerning a particular person or persons who is proposing to somebody's daughter, or about to do business with somebody and go in a partnership or somebody

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or the respect of seeking knowledge from this person and inquiring about his belief, and whether he is of the mainstream or a man who adopts innovations. So this hadith we'll talk about one of those cases which is marriage. Fatima bint case, may Allah be pleased with her harlot, our title navios Allah Allahu Allah He was a nama for hula to in our journey, we're Malawi at Hawk Ernie for Hola, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and muawiya Basu Khun Lana Allah. When Jeremy Fela Yabo Lau saw on Tiki

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with death upon Allah, that's a sound Hadith agreed upon its authenticity.

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So, this lady companion said, when I came to the Messenger of Allah keys be upon him and ask them that there are common companions who propose to me for marriage. Why are we here? That's why we interview Sophia, and the other companion is Abu Jen. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not hesitate to give his honest opinion.

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And he said, as who is here, he is extremely poor, and he has no property, while I will jam, le Yaga will allow so I'm not typically it's a metaphor, which means that is very harsh on women, and he beats his wife.

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So if you accept Him, you gotta be prepared that he has a temper and he beats his wife.

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This is Hadith in brief. Of course, the Hadith has a background about the move into Christ who's married and she got divorced. And after the ADA, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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was consulted for her concerning Alpha pub.

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Men will propose to her the man at heart and it wasn't only Abuja. And while we are in Abu Sofia, there was another person who Salma Ignas aid in the Haritha but she didn't include them because it seems like she dropped them off the list. So she focused her choices on to

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Abuja, and why we have NaVi Sophia, and Emile Salalah seller is entrusted. So under regular circumstances, if the prophet is in a gathering of his companions and somebody said you know, more how

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is very cheap. Omar is very poor. Why? Why is this the truth? He doesn't have any money.

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The Prophet sallallahu Sallam would have gotten offended, I would say, if that vaulted him, you should see forgiveness and he apologized to him. In this incident, it was the prophet himself who said, Why? Because he's interested, the woman wanted to know, help me out. You know, you're the Prophet of Allah, your opinion really matters. So these two guys whom do you prefer? I do not prefer any of them for you. That, does it mean that this is a discredit to those companions? And they are no good? Of course not. Absolutely not.

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Why? Because while we interview, Sophia, may Allah be pleased with him and his father was a companion and was a great companion. And the Prophet chose him to be one of the survivors of the Revelation. So sometimes you would call her interview Talia or a niqab or Maui and maybe Sophia, and say, I received a revelation from Allah it down, you entrust him with the law, and the prophets, Allah Salam was illiterate. So for the Prophet to entrust somebody to write down the word of Allah firsthand. This is crediting that person is vouching his Ananna. And his credibility is a trustworthy person. But he is the man who made this a new, extremely poor, how is he going to

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support you, while you use to kind of lavish life before.

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And the scholars understood from that, when the Guardian refuses a person who is jobless, who doesn't have money doesn't have house doesn't have anything, they're not blame moldy, because by the end, somebody is going to vote for have to put bread on the table has to provide for my daughter. And if you don't have anything, you don't have a roof to shelter you. You don't have a job, at least to get by. Then why do you propose

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I mean, walk by to earn anything, have a place to live in, people are encouraged to assist financially such person, but until then, it is a rite of the guardian to decline this offer. Because you don't want to give you $1 to somebody, and then you turn around and you support them both. So instead of financially supporting your daughter, now you support her and her husband, and if she gets pregnant, and there are children, you know, you take care of the financial responsibility of all of that as well. Can I afford it? You see if you can afford it, and you think that this guy is a genuine person, and this guy just needs a chance. And he's very intelligent. Go ahead, and I will do

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that myself. When I find the right person to my daughter, I don't care. But if we are people who are in need for help, and this guy is proposing and his Blanca doesn't have anything.

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So in this case, I gotta confirm to you and I gotta tell you the truth, but unfortunately, this person is broke. This is Reba. No, that is not backbiting. Why because I'm giving a shahada while most of the shadow motormen you consulted me and this is an Amana? I gotta give you the view, which I believe is true.

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What about Abuja? He said Larry abou Sahoo Anna tippy alasa is a stick and a lot is the shoulder like you know, he's always lifted his stick.

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Why? is ready to beat somebody? So if you accept them, then you gotta get ready. You might get hit. And then also LaLana Snapseed in the Hadith while I love baribeau l. II am the person who hits his wife is lucky.

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And that's why

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Anna Sydney Malik and I Isha have no record that the prophets Allah Salam Nether ever laid his hand when a woman or a child or a servant would only meet on the battlefield

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Subhan Allah. Welcome locker the cannula comfy Rasool de les also attune Hassan, so those people who want to imitate and copy the greatest example of Prophet Muhammad Salah Salem should do that.

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should not be the waves through my head them. Okay.

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Then the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, Well, I can Oussama. She said Osama Osama. Yeah, she knows how much he loves Osama and his father, his father, Jose didn't Haritha they were only about the Quran came to cancel the adoption in that format. So don't give him your last name, and so on. And they didn't have if I was listening,

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and he was black, and his son likewise. But when Islam came, they removed all those barriers based on ethnicity, color, mother tongue, or whatever. So then Chroma Komenda law here at Polycom, as it stated and number 13 sauropod which was indeed the most not even all of you is the most righteous, it's not about color. You say take Osama. She said jasola was her most and as like you know, everything you said was, is a properly lay or solid. Now if you accept them, you will be obeying Allah and His messenger like in the case of July be, but she didn't want Osama in the first place. But she accepted him when he said it will be pa Illa Hilda soon. And when they got married, they

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have Masha Allah lived a very happy life, according to the durations. And she was very pleased with the decision that you've taken after the advice of the prophets, Allah Allah Salam. So the hadith is short, but it is very rich has a lot of meaning.

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Most importantly, we learned that when somebody is asking you for the purpose of making decision of Marriage Marriage proposal, or partnership in business, or shahada, you trust this guy, then say the truth, and nothing but the truth. There are other features which are apparent to everyone like, this guy is really short, Allah created him this way, or has a big bill. You know, he needs to exercise we have seen that. So I'm not gonna talk about that. I'm not gonna try to discredit him and say, What do you like about him? Anyway, look at his nose. He has a flat nose. Look at his belly is very short. Now this is backbiting why? Because they have seen him they're not asking you about the look.

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They're asking you about if you know anything that we don't know about his manners is a flap his status you live next to him you will use neighbor to his schoolwork or your his relative. So again, the information which is sets happy to make those people made the decision in case that these informations were concealed for that they didn't know. Oh, yes, I gotta tell you Abuja

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he beats so do you know that Did you know that and even though Oh here is the son of the chieftain of Makkah. But Abu Sofia himself has another story that she will be discussing Inshallah, shortly that Mahalia himself is broke. His father is rich, but Wailea is book, The following Hadith, another Hadith agreed upon its authenticity. The hadith in order is 15 134. And I truly hope and I pray that you, my dear respected viewers, are benefiting out of studying this interesting series. And in sha Allah will be Asada cartoon geria, a continuous charity for those who sponsor the program. And for those who presented the program, and for those who share the program episodes, or some form, or

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certain clips in order to educate others. This is hopefully in sha Allah, ln A naffaa The beneficial knowledge which the Prophet sallallahu SLMC that when the person buys all his deeds come to end, except three ways. One of them is

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a continuous charity. In the new interface, I don't have to be a scholar myself, but I can share the knowledge with others so they they benefit out of it. And,

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you know, we rarely ask the viewers to give their feedback, but it is important to get your feedback on a regular basis with regards to how much benefit you're getting. What needs to be improved, or advanced in any of our programs in the UK

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What would you like to present in the future? Couple.

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It was in Kabul it was last week I believe. When one says tacos she said she would love to see a program for the children immediately we started working on it. I'm not going to be presenting it though, but inshallah you will like the program and hopefully it will be aired during Ramadan. Insha Allah Hadees number 15 134. So don't forget to share with us your feedback whether you're watching us on YouTube in the comment bar or on the Facebook page, or pages, and they didn't the outcome or the Aloha McCall always know Mr. Rasulillah he Salalah selama visa for us for the NASA he should Kahala de la hidden already very

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Again this narration would share with us a glimpse of an incident they dental outcome or the Allah in Return of the Hadith, and the main player in this incident. So we set out on a journey along with the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him and we faced many hardships of the narrative no obey

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the chief of the hypocrites say to his full words, do not spin on those who are with the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him until they desert him.

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He also said and if we return to and Medina the more honorable you as

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referred to himself will drive out out of Medina and then which is the disgrace one

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the Almighty Allah

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expose them a young man by the name say didn't outcome then rate of the Hadith heard what are the law hidden or vagueness a rule say to his followers of the monarchy okay. So he went to the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him and he said, I informed him about that. And then he sent someone to Abdullah hidden obey. He asked him whether he had said that or not have the latoken Oh,

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you have not done anything of that sort. And he said that he was buried, who carried a horse tail to the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him. Zaid in our calm said, I was so much depressed and under way distress. Because of this until this verse was revealed. Verify in my statement, Allah revealed Surah Al mana if you hold the hypocrites which begins with when the hypocrites come to you or Mohammed, say and they say We bear witness that you are indeed the Messenger of Allah. Allah knows that you are indeed His Messenger, and Allah bears witness that the hypocrites are liars, indeed either Jack and one of your own or Luna shadow inocula Rasool Allah.

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Allah rasool Allah we are shadow in one after Kena the care the bone, so the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him called the hypocrites in order to see forgiveness for them from Allah, but they turned away their heads.

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Abdullah hidden obey eveness alone

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was the last chieftain of both allows Anil has Raj after the Battle of glass, which was beat

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We in an Elsa and Al Hassan and they almost finished each other and the eliminated all the chieftains. Nothing remained out of them except one by the name of the law hidden or very eveness at all. When the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him waltzed into Medina, it coincided the day during which were both tribes. We were going to

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inaugurate

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Abdullah in November so to be the king of Medina yesterday, the chieftain of the whole year Philip and so on.

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But those people who accepted Islam, and those who did not accept Islam, yet by the heard about the Messenger of Allah, when the new spirit Muhammad peace be upon him has arrived, every buddy left Abdullah innovativeness saloon, and they turned away from him and they ran to receive the Messenger of Allah. And now after started hearing from him enjoying his message people accepted Islam. How to Live innovativeness saloon was totally neglected. Obviously, that felt his heart with envy, the score and hatred.

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You sometimes even express that out loud and he was so vocal when he would insult with her, the perfect sort of silent verbally in front of his companions, but he was a big shot. Then when the battle of bad was concluded, and Allah granted Muslims, this amazing victory unprecedented and unexpected, on the level of use of all his smart smoke, but in EU, we decided that I cannot oppose this guy on the way I've got to pretend that I'm one of His followers. Otherwise, he would engulf me, you know, he's become superpower he defeated Quraish you know, so he decided to become the enemy within a mall with his companions and followers. And this was the beginning of sowed the seed of

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hypocrisy in the history of the Muslim ummah. The fifth column, the hypocrites, the enemy within are much worse than the enemy confronting us on the battlefield.

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Because I know that there are enemies, and this guy is giving me a hug and a step in me the other words

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that are revealing why valuable information sharing our secrets with the enemies, and Omar Abdullah innovativeness, several didn't spare an effort to hurt the old man, and to hurt the Prophet peace be upon him and his family.

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And every time I think about this particular guy, say to myself, if I were the Prophet, I would have learned it from day one, because we all know that he's a moneta and this is an incident where he had caused a great trouble it was during the Battle of Benin was Pollock.

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And it's also called NYC because of the water will which is known as a Melissia. When the Prophet sallallahu Sallam marched forth to Benyamin study palak because they were preparing to attack Medina, and he surprised them with the attack. And then he the taken about 100, of whom prisoners of war and they were completely defeated, utterly defeated. So they declare victory and on the way home they camped somewhere and the servants were going to bring fish water from the water will so the picked up a fight in oil, Sal has Raja and why rain and so on. And when this happened out, the labor of a minister will pick up the line. And he said look, he made some offer remarks was that what he

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said that this hadith and what was recorded in the area, so it was heard, but this young man, they didn't.

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He made some terrible remarks such as a medical call, such as the vagina Elon Medina, delay or collision nominal vision and as human health, such as

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Latin Pupu, Allen and Endora, Suri lazy these guys have become whatever they are right now because we supported them financially. If we see is our financial support and social support to the immigrants, they will become disgraced and humiliated, like the world before. Obviously, he said that in his gathering of the one FLT they didn't all come who's very disturbed, so he ran to the Messenger of Allah and he told him the story. And then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is teaching us devotee

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anything for granted he's a good kid is a good boy, but don't take anything for granted. He collected Abdullah in November so he said did you say such and such things? You totally denied under oath I said I swear to Allah and never said anything, he made it up. He's a young kid. He made it up, you know, he, I don't know he fabricated all of that. So we just decided the outcome was under the surface because now before the Prophet here, how could this guy say so then he swears to Allah I didn't say there are some people like that they don't have blood, they have poison in the veins and arteries, their business,

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they will sell the mothers for their own benefit of the live innovativeness rules like that. And there are many people are living among them, and among us,

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like that, and watch them that as well. In any case, the prophets Allah seldom accepted his oath and he dismissed them. So Allah subhanaw taala revealed the innocence of that outcome. And that album, I have no awareness alone is a very clear and plain hypocrite. He revealed the surah and he named it after the hypocrites is called Surah Al mon fu Kuhn, and he spoke about the traits of the hypocrites, and he pointed out to Abdullah Hypno veganism. Upon their return to Medina.

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Abdullah, the son of Abdullah innovativeness rule was a head of the army and he took his sword out, everyone is passing by mass harana Enter peacefully until his father and his people were in time. So he took your sword out in front of his father and said I would never let you sit in Medina until you know who is the honorable and who is the disgraced? On third the Messenger of Allah permits you to enter. The father was going crazy because people in Medina did not know anyone who's more beautiful and loving and caring to his father than other live no vagueness than Abdullah the son of Abdullah innovativeness. But his stance now is completely different. So he didn't allow him and he was stuck

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on the waters of Medina. Until the prophets Allah Allah Allah Salam metod him put into an Medina and Mo since his hypocrisy is exposed. Yes, he is praying behind the Prophet and he's hanging around but everybody knows that he is the master mind of hypocrisy. And he's agreed to Simone FL the chief of the hypocrites in Medina and in history to be continued in sha Allah. When we return back from our short break we'll be back in sha Allah in a couple of minutes is taken

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back. You all know in the segment we have all our phone lines ready to receive your calls. So let me quickly remind you, with them beginning the record as usual to them 01 double 095185170 Alternatively I equals 002 Then 01, double 05469323, WhatsApp numbers, code 00134780600 to five and finally, another WhatsApp number Eric was usual 1-361-489-1503

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Let's begin with my boo from Bangladesh. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Doctor is up lottery system like gambling? So is it permissible?

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Well, is a school that gambling

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right.

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Can you hear me? I'm sure what you just called it gambling. And you know that in Surah, two, and you knew that Allah subhanaw taala in soloqueue may therefore be drinking and gambling. Yeah, you know, enamel hammer. Well, Mesa and Mesa is gambling. If you enter in a role and where you have to pay and you may win and you may lose what you paid that is gambling, buying lotto tickets or enter in a drone where you pay that is a major sin. Whether you win, or you lose, okay.

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Got it.

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Okay. Now, who said the

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Okay let's say Erica from the UK aka Santa Monica

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alright

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are you on the phone?

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Okay try again Can we last record

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was had in the previous episode among the reasons which permits the person to speak freely within the limit of exit pain in his mouth llama or wise you can about this person in this manner is complain to the authority about mistreatment about injustice and this hadith which is agreed upon its authenticity deals with an incident like that but first let's take it from Somalia Somalia calm

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yeah man

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I cannot hear you

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sister honey in from the UK. Welcome to the program honey.

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Salam aleykum that's a child.

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I like

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Masha Allah Hi Nene. Welcome to the program. How are you?

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It's not

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Hanifa

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no Hemi that neither.

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Yes. Okay, good. Go ahead, masha Allah, I'm not gonna ask you about the meaning of your name. I would only ask you about your age. How old are you?

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Six, six years old, masha Allah, and you've been watching the program.

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And I wouldn't know. And because we're not allowed to get anything from France. Or we have to learn the language

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to learn the language, which language Canada

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and

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French

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yes, you're allowed to learn the language. It is important to learn different languages. Okay, so this is perfectly fine. And also when a Muslim is learning a language with an intention. I want to communicate with those people. I want to tell them about my faith and my role, then learning this language you will be rewarded for that. Okay. So it is permissible and it is recommended if you have an X but honey that you're six years old and I want you to start from now to learn Arabic to May Allah bless you and your family. Very beautiful.

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On Aisha Radi Allahu Allah Anna in Hadith number 15 135 Paulo, all at Hindu Mala to heavy Sufian Lin NaVi is Allah Allah Allah Salem, in Sofia and Raju Rohan Shahi

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when I say your 3d maliek Feeny already in two min were Hua la Jana call who the merrier. Cfy feet you are Wella Deki Bill Mao who put the sock on Ali?

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So Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her say that 10 Abu Sufyan his wife,

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came to the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him and she complained about her husband, the chieftain of Quraysh. They said I will Sofiane is he's a miser person, negatively person, he doesn't spend much on us. Okay, and he does not give me and my children a debt with provisions for maintenance unless I take something from his position without his knowledge. So the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said to her, they form his positions on a reasonable basis. What is enough for you and your children

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to suffice for you and your children? And this something very powerful brothers and sisters, that are two major lessons to learn out of this hadith, but after the following call, inshallah.

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Sister Emma to love from India, salaam alaikum.

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My first question is that if I have advised someone not watch a particular show that has harmed things in it, even though it does not have music, it just has had scenes in it.

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But they still watch it, but on their mobile phone, so they're not like watching it on a big screen or something. And I'm sitting in that room a little far away, and I'm doing my studying. Would I am I since? No, they're not. Second question is how you're not even if they weren't on the big flat screen. You're not blameworthy. Oh, okay. Okay, so if I advise someone, then I'm not sinful course.

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Second question. My second.

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Yes. My second question is, if I am watching YouTube videos just for fun, and the people they are Muslim, but they have a dog in their house and I have advised them to not keep a dog. So if like, is it haram for me to see them watching or playing with their dog? Or can I disclose that part of the video? No, it is not haram. It is not haram. Okay. But you also mashallah euro to them. This is not permissible. And if I were you, I would just skip this part because to me, it doesn't mean anything. It means challenging the prohibition of the Messenger of Allah and those people if they hear the message and they get the advice and they neglect it will either losers each single day the other

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day, somebody was asked me I was really sick. Still who's working with Kim, but I had to go to this office to finish some people who stopped me and said, Jeff, you know, is keeping a dog at home haram. I said yes, it is haram is it but some Imam said it is okay. And some Imam said it is okay.

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So every misconception he says, I try to answer him and call the sound a hadith and eventually by the end I said look,

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the Prophet sallallahu sallam said if you keep a dog at home every day every day, he will reduce from the balance of your good deeds and mountain similar to the mantra of what how many good deeds in a way and how much good deeds you have to jeopardize them to a How can you really afford it then again he said that I heard I say look, keep a dog keep an elephant is none of my business. You know, some people are lying that some people are very stubborn I got my own is to explain to them mostly and make it plain and crystal clear that this is halal haram Thank you Allah.

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Hamza from Pakistan as salam aleikum, other Hamza ionic we smooth

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please proceed on

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Hamza, can you hear me?

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Yes, yes, go ahead. What is your question?

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Okay, let's move on with the Hadees

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sister Latifah from the USA Welcome to the program sister Latifah.

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La from Santa Monica to La Jolla. barakato.

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So, my first question is about selected person Hey, I was hanging out like person to be and it weren't

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paying me.

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I hear you but the question is not clear. Can you can you say it again?

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So, a person did something bad to a person Hey, and of course he went to person city to complain. Would that be considered backbiting says that person is complaining about using B? No, seeking an advice or complaining perhaps Person C has an access to reconcile or to talk to person A who hurt Person B is not backbiting okay? And I listed six reasons behind talking about others in their absence in a way that it may not please them and I said this is permitted. So complaining in order to get your right or to change the evil or the monka that is okay. Like now we're talking about the Hadith so far Aisha and Hynd Vinter Akbar

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also fields worth and what you said.

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Let's take one last quote inshallah.

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salam ala

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ziana from the Maldives

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As Salam aleikum che Wailuku salam ala rahmatullah wa barakatu. Sisters Jada Go ahead.

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Share actually the previous night my question was got wrong. So I would like to again ask the question, go ahead.

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Go ahead sisters. Yeah.

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Okay, if you can collect the question from sisters Jada, in the control will appreciate that.

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So the two major lessons we learn in this hadith, that how a wife has the right to speak about something wrong that is happening in her household, and she thinks it's unfair to her children. That's injustice. And no matter how much she speaks to her husband, he says, the subject is closed. No more discussion. So what am I supposed to do? If you are the earner and the provider who is stuck here? And you've got a lot of money. So she has a golden she can talk to him. Or if the husband has parents or father, she can talk to him and elder brother or the sheriff or the Imam right, what India did. You spoke to the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam. And she said, Abu Sufyan has a

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problem. He's got a lot of money, but he's, they're ugly. And that is affecting me and my children doesn't give me a debt fund

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to go buy for myself on my children. So sometimes, look, they can from his position, so that is knowledge is called stealing. That is stealing. Allah Virgil, Hosea.

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But I'm not stealing from any person, I'm paying him for my husband's position without his knowledge, to just get by myself want children to buy food, to cook for them, to get our basic needs. And so the prophets Allah Senate approved that.

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Now the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did not object to her talking about our Sophia and even though there was a bunch of women listening,

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when a woman is going through marriage counseling, or she has to complain to somebody, in many cases, ministers and you know, you will be among the audience. She calls me Asian 1234 About Us fantasies that I wish I can assist you, by in order to assist you wanna get the husband online, want to hear the husband's side of the story, she said, he said, I will never talk to anyone. And sometimes Aspen is a chef. And she says, you know, he says, If you ever speak to anyone, I will divorce you, I will do this and that. So I'm afraid, and I don't know what to do. And I don't know, either, I would only make dua for you, I can pray for you. And my advice would be to be patient

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because I can never pass a judgment. And based on that give you a specific advice without verifying whether your part of the story is sound or not. And it is right to the other person, sometimes the husband does the same thing.

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And when the woman runs out of solutions, she doesn't know how to talk to and she calls in a program or in a private message and she says, My husband is asking me to do haram things. He says if you don't do it, I will divorce you. So here this is not a judgment. This is a fact what what I say ladies lady called and she said my husband is demanding anal sex.

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And I heard you saying this is not permitted and so on. What am I supposed to do? I said yes, it's not permitted and it's a major sin and and and, and there are some serious warning in this respect. She said but he says there are some opinions I said Whoever says so is a liar. There is no other opinion in this respect. Okay, he says if you don't do that, I will divorce you. I said okay, get divorced. He doesn't deserve to remain in such marriage relationship, because this is off. What I say that even if the message is recorded, I'm not judging the husband. I'm giving a fatwa and the fatwa is to anonymous person.

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So if she's telling the truth, yes, the answer and the fact what is for you, and it is tailored to fit you. But it is all a lie in doesn't concern you

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Have you got it? And there are many cases like that. Now, the prophets Allah sallam said you can take out of his money without his permission, not Bilbao. Oh, unreasonable basis. So no money exceeds that and she takes to buy jewelry that is healing. And that is forbidden. Whenever she takes out of his position and she gives her family or her husband, or give in a charity, she wants to build a machine or without his permission that is not permitted. For a new position fine.

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And the husband shoulder shoulder his responsibility of

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funding and supporting the family financially, as Allah Almighty say, we help women and wily him Why Allah put men in charge of women, husbands in charge of wives. Why? Because they are the bread earner, the providers. And if they don't do that, they don't deserve this quality. One of the viewers complained that she is the owner of the house for the past 20 years. And the husband initially didn't find a job but he liked it to stay at home. Babysitting the kids now they grew up they graduated 20 years and he's sitting at home. She said I cannot take it. See my husband is the one who is vacuuming the floor, doing the laundry, the washing the dishes, I need a real man. Allah

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created us this way. And it is perfectly okay to do this sometimes or to help a home to do the dishes to sweep the floor to do the laundry. You're the member perfectly fine, but you initial task and your main job is the Ocklawaha to be the leader be in charge to provide for the family to protect them to suffice for their needs. If you don't show them this responsibility that you're not a man and then we use Allah Allah is Allah Massoud in the Hadith Kapha. Bill Maher if men and new by Yeah, man yeah how it is such a big sin to waste those who are under your guardianship. Why? Because you're lousy.

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You don't want to work. You don't want to earn you rely on people helping you from here and there. Your brother is living in the States. And you have another sister in the UK and they send you monthly fund and you're happy with that No, get out work or provide for the family. Yeah, we learn all of that from this beautiful Hadith brothers and sisters. And by that we have run out of time for this segment and for the whole episode. And we finished with this chapter as well. 256 And the next one in sha Allah will be the provision of NEMA will get to know its meaning and what it entails until next episode, I leave you all in the care of Allah. A whole akoni has stuff for Allah Allah co

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masala Allahu ala Sayidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Salam wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

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Oh my God is the greatest

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glory to

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us to be the best and give his best religion to them. So why did they know that forgetting all about an empire that we're shipping comes fire and stones sending letters to the cheapest

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day

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that forgetting all about hell bad guys are shipping cars fire and stones selling their best were the cheapest