Gardens Of The Pious #141 Jun 10th 2015

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AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of respecting the month of dash in television and learning the Quran to gain forgiveness. They also emphasize the proper way to propose a proposal to a person and the importance of giving it to the guardian of the person. The speakers stress the importance of being kind to oneself and avoiding wasting time in one's house. They also mention a statement about women being treated the same way as children.
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love our code is the greatest. The moment only glory to Him. He bought me you must to be the best and give his best religion to them. Allah God is the greatest, the one and only Glory to him on any illness to be the best and give his best religion to salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Anna V almost have her say dinner Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi human who Allahabad. The views everywhere. Welcome to another Live edition of your program. Guardians of the pious. Tonight's episode is number 167 in the blue seas of Guardians of the pious we're seriously planning chapter number 40 With regards to be dutiful to your parents, and

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upholding the ties of kinship, and this is an episode number four in that chapter.

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The hadith which we are about to tackle today is Hadith number 316 Hadith number 316. Narrated by the great companion Abu Hurayrah for the Allahu Anhu call Jaya Raju loon. Ala Rasulillah Salam Allahu alayhi wa sallam or for call, we are rasool Allah. Min hapu Nursey be host near Sahaba T. Coil OMO

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call us who my men call a mock call assume my men call it a mock call assume my men call it Abu. Al Hadith or Tessa Khan, Ali

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Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu Anh narrated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam est

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a man came to the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him and he asked him, Who among people is most deserving of my fine treatment?

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The Prophet peace be upon him said, Oh Mark, your mother.

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He again asked, and who's next? He said Oh Mark, your mother.

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Then again he asked the third time,

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oh prophet of Allah. Then whom? Who's next? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said again your mother. He then asked for the fourth time.

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Then whom there upon a messenger of Allah peace be upon him, said your father.

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There is another narration which provides a similar meaning. And hadith is agreed upon its authenticity and Narrated by Abu Hurayrah and collected by both Al Imam Bukhari Muslim, may Allah have mercy on all of them.

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The person who came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to inquire about who deserves my best treatment, most was a Sahabi by the name why are we in Haida may Allah be pleased with him, as the generators of the Hadith said, it was this Campania.

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There are two rights, the rights of Allah Almighty

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and the rights of the human beings and the rights of the rest of the creation, the animal rights, the human rights and all of that this is all stated in the book of Allah stated in the teachings of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam, and was supposed to give everyone the due rights as he said in the Hadith Hadees Salman and adult that for our tea, I would love that for our to equally happen hochkar Give everyone their due rights. When it comes to the rights of others, particularly human beings. There are priorities, there are people who have more rights than others, and they should be given the preference, the kinship, the family members, I'll call Raba. The relatives and

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they themselves have priorities. The brothers and sisters are closer than the cousins, and nephews and nieces. And the closest of all are the parents who have more rights than anybody else.

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Then also with regards to their parents, who has more rights

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then the other, the father or the mother.

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And why are in the equal, if they are not equal, this hadith explains it Oh,

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and the companions of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam understood from this hadith that the mother has huge rights upon her children, the Father likewise, but the rights of the mother are much greater treble the rights of the Father. And there is of course, reason behind it. If you read, in sort of Lachman on Allah, the Almighty says, number 14 was silent in siRNA. The early day, we enjoin upon an inside mankind, to be kind to his parents be one day, then, after saying that we enjoined upon him to be good to his parents to treat them well, and to be neutral to them, he specified the mother hemella to mu, when Allah especially his mother, because she bought when she was pregnant, in

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weakness, upon weakness, suffering upon suffering, similar to the idea of Surah Al cough. And number three, when Allah Almighty says again, or Sonal, insert every holiday then afterward he says hemella to mu Quran while the auto, Quran, Wareham who have your son who, Salah soon

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hemella to more Quran, his mother, his bearing was in pain, difficulty and hardship, who encountered all of that? The mother? Don't you think that the father was away from that was negligent or did not share the happy moments and the sorrow and the grief or difficulty and hardship he did, but not as much

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math as much he had to sleep in order to get up in the morning, to go to work to earn his living to provide for the family. So

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so the mother had the greatest part of hardship and difficulty in burying the child. And then at the moment when everybody is waiting outside the delivery room, waiting anxiously to celebrate and you know, congratulate each other for the new baby. The mother was suffering the most while giving birth

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encountering tremendous amount of pain.

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And that's why Abdullah Hypno unburied Malhotra may Allah be pleased with him say to the man who was carrying his mother while performing tawaf, it said Good for you. But this is not even enough or equivalent.

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For equivalent to when screaming when can that she experienced while she was giving birth to you?

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The father, after words, provides for the family indicates raises rushes to the doctor sends you to school works hard, sometimes two shifts in order to provide you with a very pleasant life. Suffice all your needs. Because of that the children appreciate what the Father do

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what the fathers do, because you see the father's working hard, struggling order to make the life happy. Pay them what they need, school tuitions, food supplies, buy them a car, get them married, and all of that. So they appreciate what they see

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the part which the mother suffered most, the children were entirely unaware of the suffering. They were either in the womb or during the delivery they do not remember any of that. They do not appreciate any of that most of them. And then the suckling for two years or so.

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And during these two years that are the hardest or the most difficult, every friend of ours whenever

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a couple receives a new baby, we we ask them we inquire about the baby. How's the how's she they are great, but they do not need to sleep. I know that he says that they do not let my wife sleep because he goes to another room and he sleeps. But the one who's awake all night long, long with their baby whenever the child is sick whenever the child is having cramps whatever, the child is having fever for any reason. She cannot close her eyes. All of that happens when the child is unaware of what is going on. So he may be less appreciative they

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And

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to his father because he sees he witnesses when he says, give me my allowance, he gives him money, he appreciates that. I need to buy a bike, I'll get your bike when he graduates when he gets a good score, when he sends to swimming classes, when he sent to see a field trip, who's paying for all of that, so people tend to appreciate what they see what they visualize, because it's tangible. That's why Allah Almighty in Surah Blockman and inserted a cough emphasized the fact when I says

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one and

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then another a insalata Lakoff, he says hemella, to Quran Wa to Quran,

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the bearing was in pain and hardship and the delivery tools in pain and hardship then so we have the pregnancy, the conception the building of the child in the delivery, then I'll feel soiled

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you know, almost two years, or if she completes the course, well, well either to run a ladder Hoonah how Laney CAMI Laney naman orada, your team Maraba.

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They deal with hardship. So Allah Almighty reminded us over and over and different yet, so that we appreciate what the mother have done for us, whenever we will, not paying attention will not attend to that or,

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in addition to, in most cases where the mother was a house engineer, the mother was raising the children busy with educating the children and raising them, she did not have a chance to go to work, have a job to make an earning to make an investment or to have her own saving. So she is dependent on the husband,

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the husband who's been working, has his retirement plan, now has his house has his own position. So he is in a position where even the children were not attentive to his needs, he is self sufficient.

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But the mother, she may not be in this position. And that's why over and over and over lot of emphasis and a confirmation of the rights of the mother, not because one of the parents is better. As a matter of fact, as you move the vast majority of the Muslim scholars and the interpreters of the Hadith concluded from this hadith and all its narrations, different narrations, that if the rights of the parents are 100%, then three quarters of those rights are for the mother versus one quarter. For which is for the father why because the Prophet sallallahu Sallam answer the question which was asked three times men I happen Naseby Hosni. So Haverty also Betty is in Omak and the word

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omocha here with a page Obama, if you consider it either a subject or it could be a predicate to a subject, so we put ADAMA, but it could be

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like a direct object. So in this case, some people will pronounce it as a Mac, which means f of haka

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if it is with as air, or take care of OMAP with us over the meaning that in other narrations, you will find there is

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FATCA, Zabur, or adamah, or a page because it's as a subject or a predicate.

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So from this Ayad and from this hadith, we understand that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam put lot of emphasis on the rights of the parents, particularly the mother, because of the weakness of the mother in general, because of the earlier suffering during the pregnancy during the delivery, and during the breastfeeding and during the childhood, and still the father have rights in one Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, and while you do our support of webull Jana,

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how's that?

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The Father, the Father, represents the middle gate to paradise. If you want to enter heaven, he is not just one of the gates his the medium gate of paradise, but the emphasis on the rights of the mother and giving the finest and the kindness treatment to the mother, because of the reasons that we mentioned earlier. According to some of the Shafi scholars, they say that they

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There is no difference between the way we should treat both parents both equal with regards to the rights they have upon their children. In either case, brothers and sisters, we learn from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam added, your mother is given precedence to your wife, your mother is given precedence to your own children.

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Your parents are given precedence to anyone else in your life, including your own self. This is an opportunity that Allah Almighty gave you, in order to be forgiven, in order to enter Paradise, in order to find it easy to be eligible for the intercession of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and to be blessed in your life, to have a roomy and spacious place to live in, to increase your provision, through being useful to parents, may Allah Almighty enable us to fulfill our duties towards our beloved parents, those who are still alive, and those who passed away. Because you stated before that a man came to the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, and said that he's been useful to his

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parents, so long as they were alive. And now since they both died, he asked him, Do I still owe them any rights to be fulfilled? He said yes. And he mentioned in further adding him if they had promised anything to do fulfill it, and upholding the ties, which they used to uphold, because they were the link between you and them, far away relatives, a crummy saw the female, they have friends, you know, honoring their friends visiting their friends. Why? Because they were friends, your late parents or in your form. What do our humor was salatu Allah Hema, while it's still formula human, to make dua for them, to see forgiveness for them, to ask Allah Almighty to bless them. So those rights are

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everlasting, as long as you yourself are still alive.

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The following hadith is also Narrated by Abu Hurayrah of the Allahu Allah and in this hadith, which is Hadith number 317. Abu Raja Ravi Allahu Anhu.

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narrated that and in every year son Allahu Allah He was an AMA call. All the men earn full. Ovid are all the man force or Marathi men for men others about why you're here and they'll carry a huduma Elkie Lahemaa fella mute healer who agenda

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Hadees

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Abu Hurayrah is narrated by an inner Muslim and it has various narrations.

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In one Hadith he says about the man for avid

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and in this revision, he says above him and full without the word.

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Then by the end phelim yet holy Jana, in another sound narration it also says phelim youth healer who agenda.

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Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu anhu, the rated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam aside, may he be disgraced? May he be disgraced?

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And he say, may he be disgraced? Whose parents one or both attain old age during his lifetime. And he does not interjection by rendering being useful to them.

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Well, in this hadith brothers and sisters, it has actually

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a story because this is just a segment of the Hadith. It is not the entire Hadith.

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The hadith

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is also narrated by many other companions, when they witnessed the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam while extending the pulpit.

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When He ascended the first step, the heard him saying, mean and in

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and the word mean is a supplication which means Oh ALLAH is steady. Oh Allah answer this dua.

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Respond to our supplication.

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Then again, he paused. When he climbed the second step.

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he again said I mean,

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when he climbed

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Third step, and his pulpit consisted of three steps. he again said I mean,

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after he finished his ceremony, the companions of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam inquired about saying Amin in a loud voice, I mean, second time, I mean the third time.

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So you say, Journey Gibreel angel, Gabriel peace be upon him have come to him while he was ascending the pulpit to deliver the speech.

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And he made a supplication in front of him, saying

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Ravi Mehta and for IBD and the word Ravi, Ema and FDA, this is the, this is the nose, which is the sign of pride. And that's why you see, you know, arrogant people raising their heads up like that, like their nose is in the heaven. So when he says, Are all the man

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and for Ivan, may his nose be in the dirt? May he be disgraced? May he be disgraced? May he be humiliated? Ha our hustle. Why? Why would the Prophet sallallahu Sallam make such dua but first of all, find out whom that Jibreel peace be upon him was invoking Allah to disgrace this person, he said, may be disgraced.

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Whom he said one who hears your name and still does not send the peace and the blessings upon you. So may the best peace and blessings be upon Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sana. Every time

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we hear his name, we say his name PSP upon him we should say Salalah Hadiya salah or Allah, your Salah to a seller or send the feast and the blessings upon him by any of the prescribed form. Sometimes if you have a chance to recite the loan salutation Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad Anwar Ali Muhammad came also later Allah Brahim Allah. Ibrahim Fe La La Mina in Naka, hamidou Majeed, what Berek Allah Muhammad and voila, early Muhammad, the last segment of add to shareholder This is the ideal form of sending the peace and salutation upon Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. So every time every time Yes, every time you hear his name, you should say, My peace and blessings be upon

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him.

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That's why even when we read the Quran, and we recite and say Surah, Mohammed, you just saying the name of the surah you should also say sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Unfortunately, many of us while being busy typing, so whenever we caught a hadith, some people make an abbreviation. We put the letter Assad indication of SallAllahu Salah

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while the right thing is to say, and write it down fully sallallahu alayhi wasallam each and every time you send if you send the blessings upon him, Allah will bless you for 10 times they are off.

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And in Surah Tila hazard he said in Allah how America who you saw Luna Allah NaVi yah, yah, Latina. Salalah. He was a limo Tasneem Allah and His angel send the peace and the blessings upon the Prophet YouTube. Oh, you will believe join them in sending the peace and the blessings of Allah. So that is the first doc that he said anyone who hears your name and still does not send the peace and the blessings upon you may be disgraced. Say me. So he said, mean Allahumma steady. What about the next two supplications that each one Wilde is sending one step. He said, I mean, what are they? In sha Allah we'll learn about them soon after we take a short break. So please stay tuned

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and welcome back. Our phone numbers and contact information should appear on the screen.

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The following invocation of the three invocations

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Gibreel peace be upon him made. And then Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam said a mean, because he asked him to say I mean, asking Allah to accept his invocation was that may he lose

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who, the one who witnesses, the month of Ramadan, and still

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is not forgiving.

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One whom Allah gave him another opportunity to witness the Blissett month of Ramadan approached, inter elapsed, and instant they say

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his sins are mountains above his head.

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He was not forgiving. That is because the month of Ramadan is an opportunity for everyone to be forgiven. Who will not be forgiving one who does not want to be forgiven?

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Who would remain hungry, the one who did not even bother to search out his hand to get a chunk of meat or something to eat, the food is there but you don't want to eat. It's your problem. So he's a loser. May he be disgraced? May he be humiliated, the one who treats the month of Ramadan like any other time, it comes by and it zips off, and it's like nothing has happened. Nowadays brothers and sisters, and this is not our subject, though. We're talking about being dutiful to the parents, and there's going to be the next supplication. But I had the opportunity to drive around last night, the amount of filth, the amount of fascia that has been propagated in commercials, on billboards, on ads

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everywhere on the highway in the city everywhere, you know, inviting people to row in the Ramadan.

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The amount of filth that is being proposed that it will be aired on so many screens during the month of Ramadan absolutely for free. It only confirms the fact that these guys are enemies of Ramadan.

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Enemies of forgiveness, enemies of Allah and His Messenger peace be upon him.

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Allah the Almighty says Allah who you read on your toolbar icon. Allah wants to grant you forgiveness. Allah wants to grant you repentance and accept your Toba. This is what love was. That's why he scattered the seasons of the visual seasons, seasons of goodness seasons of forgiveness. If as is there, your sins will be forgiven for the past year and a year to come the fastest day. You know, the past sins of the last year will be forgiving. You first during the month of Ramadan, all your sins will be forgiven and so on and so forth. While you read the lady in a tabby, Rona shouty and Tammy Romanian of Lima. So this is what Allah wants to grant you forgiveness, to accept your

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repentance by all those wicked people.

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They want to divert you from his three paths. You want you to

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deviate a great deal of deviation

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follow the desires, the lust and the desires. So beware of them. Imagine in many Muslim countries, and I had the opportunity to visit many Muslim countries during the month of Ramadan. The same filth which is produced in one country is propagated in other countries as well. This is a chance that we should respect this month turn off the screen completely in television and just focus on learning the Quran studying the Quran lowering our gaze, but you know to sit before TV day and night, no prayer,

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no prayers, because they're busy at night. There is a series there is this movie there is this puzzle there is this talk show and they're occupied 24/7 and Hasan Basri May Allah admission says in Nana enter a yen, each and every one of us is simply just a bunch of days, numbers, number of days.

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Whenever a day passes, why a part of you

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have departed you a segment from you fill a form you it will never come back until the day of judgment to appear before you whether you consumed properly utilize this time you did something useful or you wasted it.

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You got to be very careful. Gibreel is invoking Allah may he disgrace may he humiliate and dishonor a person whom Allah gives an opportunity to live to witness a month of Ramadan and Ramadan comes by and leaves and this person is a loser

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is lousy

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He is not forgiving. If he is not forgiving. It's simply because he doesn't want to be forgiven. In the Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu sallam said Kulu Matija Toluna janitor in lemon ever.

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All my OMA, all my followers shall enter Paradise, except for those who refuse

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to companions were very puzzled, because who do refuse, he's talking about his own mess not talking about the non believers. They said, Oh prophet of Allah and who would refuse to enter paradise? He said, peace be upon him. Whoever obeys me shall enter paradise and whoever this obey is me. He simply refuses to enter paradise. What would you like to do? May Allah subhanaw taala make us all amongst the rulers of heaven, enable us to witness a month of Ramadan and to gain forgiveness during this blizzard month. So that was the second supplication The third was, may he lose Ravi Amma and for Aberdeen again the same earlier supplication of humiliation and disgrace.

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Why?

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The one who witnesses both his parents, or one of them, reaching an old age, where now they are in need for him, as he used to be in need for them whenever he was young.

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And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, He did not say that and he doesn't serve them. No, no, no, no.

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He went to the highest level where he says, and he cannot enter paradise through serving them. Which means this is the shortest cot to be saved to enter heaven. By being useful to your elder parents. You're all parents whenever they reach an old age whenever they have disability, whenever they they lose memory whenever they don't have the financial support whenever they don't have a place to live in.

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Then you stand up for them, you support them, you are dutiful to them. Whenever they say silly things because they are losing it all you don't make fun of them. Especially in front of your kids or in front of others. Rather you treat them with respect and you understand that this is how it is from

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the Pooh. Bah fellow Russia EBA

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This is what the Quran says look at the curve. Look at the chart.

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Allah has created us from barf or dwarf

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BB weakness.

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Then he granted the strength teenage then use the manhood you become powerful muscular conga students, then what is next 50s 60s So remember the coverton Baffin will show you back again, the curve doesn't keep going up forever. He doesn't go to heaven. It has a certain level. Then he turns around, it makes a U turn from strength to weakness once again. Now only weakness was Shaybah which is similar to the childhood. Yeah, the parents may end up having to wear diaper. The parents may end up have to have assistance to go to the bathroom or take a shower or to be fed to be given the medication. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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I've met from quite a stir Mohammed

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amatola cattle,

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I had two questions.

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My first question is what is the proper being reciting the food as in Salah? If you are beginning like if you have beginning the surah we know we have to recite this pillar before this. But if we are

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deciding to read from the middle, is it necessary to recite the Bismillah before starting the surah? Or we can start right away. Okay. And my question number two, what is the proper so what are the proper etiquette of accepting a proposal for children if somebody propose what are the proper etiquette of accepting the proposal if somebody is proposing to your door or you mean? Yes. Okay. So you're asking what is the proper way that you should propose?

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How do we accept the proposal? I see. Okay. And now how do we propose if we want to propose someone for my son? What is the proper way? Okay, well, thank you. Thank you, sir.

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May Allah bless you and your family.

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In the prayer whenever you recite you begin your citation with Aleister Aza in the very first raka only in the very first raka then Albus mela before Surah Fatiha and each time recited. Then in the Surah after if you recite a surah from the beginning, you should recite as Bismillah as well Bismillah AR Rahman Rahim you don't recite the list either anymore, and it's the other only in the beginning of their citation in our Kurata Khurana fester is bIllahi min ash shaytani R rajim.

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Only in the beginning, if you recite

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verses from the middle, after Surah Al Fatiha, you're not required to recite Elvis Mela, the right way, the proper way of accepting a proposal and proposing to somebody there is a beautiful dab in the Quran that Allah Almighty says what to view them in other words, we have to router men warrior, when you go to somebody's house goes through the front door, not through the window. And this is not just a metaphor, but it's also

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real as a physical meaning. I mean, if your son likes a girl,

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he's not supposed to contact her outside, or to take a date from her with her or meet her outside, you know, away from her family, then they decide afterward that we'll need to visit the family. Even though this is very common nowadays. But this is not the right way to do it. If you gather enough informations and data about this family and about the girl, and it's a decision that you should own make not only one person Yes, the son says I like this girl find that if he found a girl that he likes. Or whenever you propose to him a girl that whom you assume she's a good life mate or she may be a good life mate for him. So you own make the decision is the Shara matura. Denis the Hara is the

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Hora then you visit the family. And you offer the proposal to the guardian of the girl. This is the legitimate way of offering a proposal. Now with regards to the girl's family. He

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is responsible to check the background of the person who's proposing to his door or the girl under his guardianship, and to investigate to make an effort to inquire about them. That f the girl have not received another proposal which is pending. Because if there was a pending proposal, where the Guardian said, we would love to have you as a son in law that said that's called engagement. And the Prophet sallallahu sallam said in the Hadith lie after Hadoken Allah helped Betty Effie, it is not permissible to propose to a girl while his another pinning proposal so long as the guardian or the family said, okay, even though the engagement is just mere promise, The Guardian afterward have to

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consult the girl

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when the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, what your color Raha and the consent of the girl is so mad to her Sukkot to her age to be quiet. We're talking about the Golden Ages, when the girl

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was shy. And there are many families nowadays a handler like that. But this is not common, though. Where when the Guardian, whether it's the father, the uncle, the grandfather, the older brother, would say to the girl that so and so is proposing to you is asking for your hand, he wants to marry you. So when she puts her head down, and she smiles and her face turns red, that's a sign of approval as a prophet salaallah SlMs eight, which means if she's not agreeing to that she should say it straightforward. Clearly, I don't think so. I'm not interested? Well, I don't know that person that much, gave me an opportunity to know Him. And the two families have to arrange for this meeting

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in a legitimate fashion in the presence of the Muharram so that they get to see each other, talk to each other brainstorm each other. And they check whether there's chemistry or not, during their engagement, nothing which was forbidden now is lawful. I mean, we still cannot shake hands with each other.

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If we cannot shake hands with each other, then it's not permissible to take her out to dine outside to buy her ice cream, exchanged hugs and kisses because this is all not permissible. We're still strangers. There is just a mere promise that insha Allah in the future, we will get married Baraka, Luffy sister Muhammad.

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So the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said mean

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And this hadith which is Narrated by Abu Hurayrah, and collected by a Muslim, is only referring to the third dua that Gibreel Ali Salam made. And now I mentioned the circumstances. And why, why did he say Amin, and what is the meaning of problema and foo, or Rahim and for Aberdeen in the two different narrations, because it's so easy. It's so easy to ensure paradise if you have old parents, and through serving them, through being kind to them, through prefer them over your own self that will guarantee you heaven.

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There are some people who say that heaven is beneath the feet of the mothers. This is not a hadith, though, even though there is a similar Hadith, but it doesn't provide the same text. Rather, it refers to the meaning, which is stick to her feet, where there will be paradise Yanni served her.

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If you do that, you will be honored by entering paradise. But there is a common statement that people even put it in frames and this circulate that paradise beneath the feet of the mothers. This is not a hadith, though.

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And while you do also to avoid will Jana, the father is a middle gate to paradise.

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Being kind to your father, being kind to your mother, would guarantee that you shall enter paradise in sha Allah azza wa jal. And furthermore, it will guarantee you a happy life for you a blessing and you will risk in your provision in your household. And it will guarantee you that when you get old, you will be treated the same way your own children will treat you the same way and who didn't like that? Who is who would waste such an opportunity here, there are some people who would waste it, the losers. That's why Gibreel Ali Salam said, may he lose? May he be humiliated. Think about it, brothers and sisters. Think about it.

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If you are successful now and Hamdulillah, and you have a very nice house, buy a couple million dollar worth two $3 million.

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Having a very nice career, sending your kids to international schools, you have a driver, you have a cook, you have a maid, you know what all of that was simply because of your parents, if they didn't put you in the right school, if they didn't teach you, they didn't raise you properly, you'd be a sweet boy, would be a loser. So and our man will carry you and what your own are owned by your father,

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you and what you own belong to your father. If the wife ever persuades the husband, to dismiss the parents, or not to give them preference, or not to support them as much, because we have children, we have future where schools have all of that he should understand that.

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You know, the shaytaan the she plan is whispering to her.

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Satan is whispering to her terrain, the whole family to mess up your whole future. And the Hadith of the three people will get stuck in the cave. And they will certain that there is no exit and they will die there. Each one of them saw Refuge in Allah through some of the means of approach. You remember the Hadith and one of them said or Allah used to have all parents, they were living with me under my care. And he was a shepherd. So you take the sheep every morning to graze. And when He returns, He will give them the bowl of milk to drink before his wife and children before he would even test it.

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There was one day there was not enough grace. So he took them away the herd of sheep. And by the time he returned, it was kind of late, they had already fallen asleep.

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So he says yeah, Allah. I stood next to them. They were lying down and he stood next to them carrying the bowl of milk. And he refused to give the milk, his wife, his children, or even to drink out of it before his parents. Meanwhile, he also hated to interrupt their sleep. So he kept waiting until they woke up. Then he gave them the milk. Then afterward he gave it he pass it on to his children and his wife. You said Oh Allah, I've done that only for your sake. If I've done this only for your sake, give us a way out of here. So the rock was moved. They were certain that there is no way out when they attacked Allah. Allah Who Mahajan wild zuku mean high school layer. That's it.

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So simply, you have an opportunity not just to enter Paradise, but also to have a happier life.

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to prosper, to have good children, to have a good family to have good job, so that your friends, your employer, your boss, and everyone around you will be good to you. Why? Because you go to your parents, if you're not, I can assure you, you will have a miserable life.

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You will never enjoy a thing in this life. And I'm not threatening you. Or I'm not saying this is my assumption. I'm just quoting the Hadith and AI, which Allah Almighty have ordered us to be useful to our parents, or as to be continued in sha Allah. Next time. We still have a couple of episodes before the beginning of Ramadan Insha Allah, may Allah enable us to witness the Blissett month of Ramadan and grant us the honor of worshiping him properly and get on us forgiveness during this illicit time on the next episode, brothers and sisters, I leave you all in the care of Allah who call me Heather. But I still feel lonely welcome was Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi

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love our God is the greatest

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glory to Him. He only has to be the best and gave his best religion to Allah Our God is the greatest

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going

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to be the best and give his religion to them. So why did they know that? forgetting all about and in paradigms, we're shipping comes fire and stones sending their best to the cheapest

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day ignore that forgetting all about how bad guys are shipping cars fire and stores selling their best were the cheapest