Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari – The Best Family & Community Man Peace & Blessings Be Upon Him

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
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from Eduardo Hurry up will you need

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me could even tell me

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in pharma when I was in Canada welcome

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respected brothers sisters, the roadmap

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to login with our country.

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First of all, I would like to

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thank the organizers

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for organizing this event for inviting me. It's an honor and a privilege for myself to be here in this great, wonderful city of partitioning.

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This is actually my first time actually ever delivering a talk in the city.

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Very good center that we've seen with your last panel data except the efforts of the youth organizers. And all of you as well for coming taking out your precious time.

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The topic that I have,

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and the title of my speech, it says on the program schedule, which I think you might have, or people might have seen the best family and community

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when the organizers initially contacted me, and they said to me that your title is the best family man. Of course, we're talking about a sort of lifestyle about money.

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I said to them add community, because I don't want to just talk about the best family man, but the best family and community man. And why don't you also do is just talk about the messiness and Allah

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because talking about Sierra is, of course, is a means of reward and a great virtue. You know, to sitting here and discussing the seer of the messengers of Allah, it brings about a lot of reward, but maximum benefits is only gained. When we talk about things practically, we can talk about the messengers of Allah where he was like this like this like that he did this. This was this was his character. This was his mannerism.

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And that's it. It's like a story. That's not enough benefits is only derived and gained. When we talk about it practically, how does it affect us because the zero is only mainly for in order for us to emulate and practice upon. And that's what the Quran says.

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was waiting for you the rest of you in the messages on Friday the Senate is a perfect example, as well and says we're going

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to be ruining the messenger Salallahu Alaihe Salam said if you love Allah and obey, follow me to eat kebab, which is following in the footsteps of the wrestlers gonna love it to the center. That is the main objective of this program or any other program ACO program. We know that it's the hope the purpose and objective is not. So when we talk about the messengers

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being the best palaemon and community man how does it affect us as Muslims as men and women, brothers and sisters, and also attending this program, when we talk about him being a best family member and a community man, a social person. This is actually one of the very, very important aspects of our Dina Surya. We have to remember something which we forget many of the times that we we sometimes sadly restrict the teachings of Islam to certain forms of worship, or some external laws. Many of us sometimes we think Islam will we act as though Islam is just to do with prayer fasting, the God has external rules or the way you dress. That's the Sunnah we're talking about

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following the Sunnah, sunnah you

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is not only the signal of the market, it's not just the way you dress. It's not just by wearing a hat, so I'm just wearing growing a beard or wearing

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Sona is more than that. And that's why we have so little.

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You have internal, external sunnah doesn't mean, it doesn't just mean that God just lit it. And that's it. I felt

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the sun of the messiness of Allah. Are you someone who is much more than that goes much beyond the way he would act and behave, deal with his family members, how you would deal with his wives with his children, how he would deal with his companions and friends how you would by itself? How was he a father? How was he a uncle? How was he a person who was a buyer or a seller? We have seen the environment centers also when some would say act upon the sooner that we need to think when I go to the market when I'm buying a car when I'm dealing with a fellow Muslim, or somebody else gonna find a cop? I'm actually the Sunnah of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in how I find this ha.

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The Sunnah is also equal we drive a car and one of my teachers once said, If you want to know what the Sunnah of driving a car is, because they will look closer. Yes, you do that. And they basically get out to grab a cup, of course is permissible

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to know how to drive a car for one moment, before we drive. We sit in the car we should think to ourselves, if the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was right now behind the steering wheel and driving, how he

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does when he speed it's good to go again it's easy to grow. But to to have someone wants to drive a car it's more difficult that's the real sooner. How do you drive the car sometimes we put nonsense office line because they see your Muslim driving fast in taxi or gravel wherever on the motorway 80 miles per hour, 90 miles per hour speeding itself is maybe haram many of them are set speeding breaking the law is an open society. Within we put people's lives in danger the way we park our cars, giving harm to any any any human being or even an animal by the way we drive our cars will talk then that is unlawful. If we come to the masjid and we block someone's driveway, we are not

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actually doing the actual paper we are committing an act of sin, according to Islam. So

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I'm sitting with them in heavy shade.

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But I probably know Saldana, the one who eats from this distasteful

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tree and another Iranian Muslims and my boss.

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Whoever eats onion and garlic because he's got a bad foul smell. Then don't come into the masjid

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when you're cultivating if you want to buy a shovel the prayers don't come to George Polk come to the masjid Lucia so Allah What do you sense I don't need to eat and brush your teeth useless you walk, you know, apply some perfume to come with that odor and others in the Mercy infection sinful and rather, a person should pray at home.

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What happens in the midterms? We know before you start before Monday, we can't do summer we can't do we can't wait to go home and eat. So we eat a few samosa pastry near their house and consumers

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manipulable cloud inside inside it's hard to do that I'm saying since it's unlawful, these are important loads of Islam to come an even worse than that is for someone to smoke and come straightaway. I'm not talking about smoking, which should be humbling, but that's another discussion. But if someone smokes, the worst part of it is coming to the Virgin and straightaway start your prayer next to someone where you will be spending seven minutes eight minutes inside where you are harming someone was crazy. You happen to love people you happen to be once when somebody came to look at them straightaway it needs to go along with a

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few drugs straight outside and straight.

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It's very difficult actually, I couldn't take it any worse. I drove myself and then I had to because it was harmful for my health. So then went and started from the natural. So these are issues that we sometimes forget this is part of the Sunnah of the messenger. So

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when we talk about being a person who is you know,

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I will say that the Sunnah is just it's not just external, external as well as the internal it's good beyond just the basic regard or the basic if we look at Islam, three quarters of the loads of Islam is to do with wash with taboo with rights how to be a social human being that's three quarters of Islamic rules, based on social law, social dealings,

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even driving a car, how would the

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car how would you park would he start arguing with someone because I'm fasting so I don't know. If someone's coming you know, narrow streets. We have a lot of those. We have a lot of those invested up here. narrow street, the real soon

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Now, the real deal or is someone to say, Okay, I'll reverse back. No problem. Go ahead, get away. That's that's what we call a real believer. And you go back, you go, Okay, I'm waiting. I've got all my time towards this this happens brother once came to me with this velocity was driving. I made him you know, I just said of the agents sitting here. We're going to switch. You do whatever you want. And he was actually proud of the fact I said to him that this is something you should be ashamed of. This is not Shuja This is not bravery. This is what your your power might lationship you to be so wrapped in a machete

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unless you just said that the real brave person is the one who swallows is the one who can control himself. That's the real man. That's what we call men. Gentleman, because they are gentle. Not someone who's rough or someone who's found someone who's aggressive and we will look at to see

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whether we are good

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enough to be found whenever you want

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to curse people what else Sahaba a swab in average to see yell and shout in the market. Navarro says remarketing you know but he didn't tell the local

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public, O Messenger of Allah because of the Mercy of Allah upon you, you are gentle towards people have you been harsh hearted,

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foul mouthed leader harsher than

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they would have dispersed the Companions would have dismissed you would have left you and the reason why many people will pull towards Islam, many people pull towards the messiness of

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selling is because they saw

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they saw what they saw his character. So his behavior, they saw his mannerisms. They saw how he dealt with elders, how he dealt with young people, how he treated orphans, how he treated women.

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This is how the messiness of it was so much of Islam, the teachings of Islam. Three coaches are to do with being a community man, a family man, a social person, we set to live in a time we're here to grind, which is the opposite of circle grind, so that the wranglers may maintain ties having a cordial relationship, or digital writing is in every level of society. Ties being broken.

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Ties being broken at every level of society we find disputes, disunity conflict fights, arguments at every level of society, starting from the family between husband and wife, parents children to the wider family because uncle doesn't get on with this auntie and his auntie and this mother in law and his daughter in law, we have so called practicing we think we are practicing we have nothing to do with practicing Islam because a basic Muslim according to the messenger

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and mostly what is the definition of a single off of ask him so Allah

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said the Muslim is the one that comes in first of all we know Muslim is a Muslim man said even Muslim descended from a believer is the one from whose hands mean physically and was tongue we verbally no believe is

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the meaning of Islam coachmen is called as the if you say What is Islam? Islam is a name of not inconveniencing others, whether it's a Muslim or non Muslim or any tradition about

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not harming and not inconveniencing our neighbors or relatives. So at every level of society we see disunity discord, conflict, family, relatives, and then within Muslims with this Masjid diversion between different cultures. Pakistani, Indian, Mumbai Arabic whatever you did, there's racism that we find the messengers of Allah I used to abolish racism in the Genesis

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you're not good because you're red or white to be white or black

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sure, we'll cover it covering

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the whole Quran and Sunnah is filled Islam came to abolish race racism and sadly within us we find at some levels not everyone's like that but if we do that we need to we need to put this right we need to correct this that this is unity based on tribal you know background that this person is a majority or he's from India or from Pakistan from Bangladesh. And then within Gujarat is as well within Pakistan is is Miko, Sharif and Kashmir and Sharif Magellan actually but Sula, Sharif emotionally from all these different was contained in a movie and there's one brotherhood. Sadly sometimes we have more in common. A Gujrati Indian Muslim will be more close with

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Have more friendship with a Hindu visualizing, rather than having more friendship with

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a man rather than having more friendship with a Somalian Muslim.

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Because nothing in common. Islam is the main factor that brings our hearts together, we should have more love and more brotherhood and sisterhood and more in common with our fellow Muslims, whether they live in Botswana or Sudan or Somalia or further behind, or Pakistan or Bangladesh or wherever. So at every level of society, we see Katya to Russia, and the Quran cause those people who break ties as far as the food

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we have

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given us

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these are the ones who cut off ties, they break ties, domestic

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agenda, the call here, all right, the one who breaks ties, you don't talk to somebody, I don't talk to somebody, we don't talk to anyone, this person will protect us shall not enter agenda.

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This will

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lead to

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from an HR

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don't desert your brother and sister for more than three days. If anyone does not talk to their fellow Muslim brother or sister more than three days and he dies in that state, you'll have protectors. He says, now he shall be cast straight into the fire

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regardless of how much

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this person is offered, with all due respect to those very important aspects of our deen.

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So this is where we see the messiness of Allah said you know, David Bohm is coming 50 To sharpen the knife of the 15 shotguns there are many versions 910 different IDs collectively they are strong together.

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It was mentioned that

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on this night on the ninth of 15th of shotgun

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you're able longfield have been another attorney shouty literally but you've done so many people beloved forgive

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on this night, last night, right in the middle of shotgun 52 shotgun.

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Allah with a fee in this night, you don't make people 1015 20 100 201,000 3000 4000 1 million, 2 million billion. Because very sharp, very lightly. Very, very good. That's why it's called layer two. Right? Why it's called layer two. We think you should advance it's actually

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shot Michelle. In Arabic We say play the baraka night of freedom, because freedom from the fire, alarm and free on this night, how many people an amount which is equal to the head that is on the backs on the body of the sheep owned by the tribe called Caloocan. This vocal used to be a tribe. And they used to own 1000s of animals. Imagine 1000s of animals and all the hair on those houses language. In other words, it's not like a number. It's without any end.

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People just so many people every year on the 15th night on the 15th of Charmin in the middle of sharpen data.

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Allah freeze from the bottom now, this person is supposed to be adjusted to enter hellfire, he's forgiven.

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Some people let's not forget, Allah will not even look or he does not even look at Mercy on this right when millions and billions and beyond are forgiven.

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On this night when millions and billions are forgiven, that young love Allah does not look at okay, forgiving, forgiving Allah will not even look at the right one of them is the one grace and there's another few would be the one who

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was the one who comes to pride. And there's a fourth one which

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I remember the moment but whatever your call to Moshe is three The fourth one is very important. Lucia is the one who has Madison his heart, the one who breaks ties, the one who was madness, hatred and malice towards other people. So we come to the rescue, because something negative is negative about this brother or sister or this daughter in law from this family or she always you know, we can't even smile this person will not allow the noise and look if we can't look at anyone we smile and we are the creation of Allah with Allah

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Harrington if you want Allah's mercy on you have mercy on the people of the earth.

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So this you know, the whole

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We begin with people starting off at home, and then they'll have relatives and then the wider society at large and messengers of Allah he will send them the way he tells he was full of mercy known as him and those amounts are nothing.

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We did not send you except as a source of mercy even this I can talk about you quite a detail. The way Allah even mentioned will not have Samantha elaborate with me, that the word crack that and the way it is mentioned that I don't have time to explain but that the messenger SallAllahu sallam was for fluency full of mercy. This Mercy was he started at home. He said in one Hadith where there's a heavy companion take that the messengers for the love where he got into 711, and that's who he would normally the messenger is going to love himself and would list us tell us his names. And then you will say,

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My name is Mohamed, my name is Fatima. Well, then the passion and the last of the prophets,

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Hashem, I will be the one that whenever the first one should be resurrected will look off in the last of the prophets, whenever you Toba name, the prophet of mercy, and then said when a view of the Prophet of Raqqa In another Hadith

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with the use of an Oculus and some funny messages, for instance, and even

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to go to Russia to notice that oh people I have been sent as a Mercy tube

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as a rationality. In other words, Allah has power with Allah who is mine.

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He's all merciful. He is sending a gift to us from him,

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in the form and shape of the messengers of Allah, as amis. Allah is the giver of the gift. We are the recipients. Remember when someone gives a gift to this new parties, the giver, the take on the item of the gift, Allah is the One who the giver of the gift, we are the recipients of the gift, and the gift is the being of the messengers of Aloha, you send him he was full of mercy. We know that we read the syrup. But what do we have to do? We have to take lessons because he is the perfect example for us with his family.

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He will at home with his family he was with me he used to be very cordial, the way he treated his family and his merciful nature. In the shamanic read, kind of

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legal journey he was very soft and tender in his nature. He was very gentle in nature. He was very easygoing a person who wants to follow in the footsteps of the rest of us and a lot of it is someone who is easygoing who someone who's gentle you don't become aggressive and rigid when you become practicing every once in a university I was giving a talk and I mentioned it once or twice and it was his brother right in front of me it was quite tense and

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something was wrong with it. So as to

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some greens so w

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passionate become practicing now. I've actually become practicing which means that he thought that now since last week, and is now a crying smile and anybody very,

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very serious. The messengers are alloga You send them who can be no practicing is say you will Moshe.

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Genuine Abdullah is Belgian says ma hegemony Rasulullah Salallahu

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Salam, one hour early endeavor, some of you will never get the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam place a barrier between myself and him self. And never did you see me accept his module methods. This takes months months by not artificial business mind. It has to be genuine with sincerity from the heart. Once a heavyset actually nobody more smiling than the rest of us and Allah despite and if the real interesting part is that despite him having the whole worry about the

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integrity, he was very upset, very sad, very, you know, yet he never let this show. You know, because there's two types generations Carlota was in the streets operation one ERATION season

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was very sad. But then also the narration statement. He was always smiling. So is there a contradiction? So scholars explain the loan and there's no contradiction. internally. He was always sad because he was

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he was very concerned about his own internally. But externally he was very pleasant, very joyful. Which means gives us another message is that you know when you have a worry or concern, keep it to yourself. What we do is when we're depressed we make everybody else depressed. Come to home analogies is a problem you know, especially a man you know, you see a man through

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The flu. So when we get flu, everybody, everybody has to have flu your wife.

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And we have some were upset, we make everybody else upset. The sooner is to try to only talk to one or two important people that you need to share your things with, and not make everybody depressed. So this was our single source of love, if you will send them Irish on your loved one, the wife of the most of us who best to tell you the details of the messages of love. That's why the best referee is your wife or your husband, your best referee, if your wife or your husband says this guy's a perfect good man. And this is this is true. Because outside, anyone can do presents because we all come to love you we deal with people, genuinely very good. So I shall be Allah Allah when she was

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asked how's the messengers of Allah? Because remember, I told him didn't come to the bedroom? This is why, you know, family man at home is difficult. Why is it difficult? Because there's two reasons. There's two reasons why to be good. enclosure at

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home, it's more difficult an upside two reasons. One reason is because we spend more time at home less time outside, we're here for a few hours, no emotionless greeting

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workplace, a bit more workplace because he's spending five, six hours at home, you have to share the same house with people you have to, you know, the same room, things identical. So more time at home. And what's the second reason? The second reason is because outside sometimes it can be a show. Because you know, people I want people to see I'm a good person.

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At home, that show part goes away. Because we don't want to want to show off in front of the wives, husbands, so it's more difficult. So this is the messages are love and use and when I showed your loved one and I was asked

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to love it, you sent the baby how it was the demeanor with the behavior of the messiness of a loved one and sentimental. How was he? She said, God

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he was the softest and most tender of people

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kind of alienness the salmon the *? He used to always smiling on this.

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She was also asked In another Hadith is Capo Hari nightime interview Salah Yes, now he he wore what the the messengers of Allah do at home.

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She said that a fee may be used to help and serve his family. And another UI is to try to resolve issues is to cook events sometimes, okay, let's cook it's good to Sunday. This is also something besides that I'm always this is also not to cook at home kind of female, led by either

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color change. However, whenever he then believes everything and goes and like was a woman as well. Doesn't mean because women are female, for them was one of the messengers of Allah who sent them. This is an example an example. They can learn and act upon his verbal teaches

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himself in simulations he talks about men when he said you know,

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the reality is that even the best amongst you are the best and most there was a good Muslim practicing man is not a job or a body or an oppressive there's no place for domestic violence. Because it wasn't good, gentle Muslim man practicing man is someone whose gender he treats his children and wife with tenants, not with oppression. This is not part of the teachings of Islam and a good practicing Muslim.

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After covering the basics of Islam and the origin that's the basics, but that is the nature of practicing was consistent and solid comes outside the chakra military government in genuine India * shift is

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a woman who offers a five time press observes a faster robot obeys her husband respects her husband, part of obedience is respecting others but she should enter Paradise from each other does she wants

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Are you mad it was on

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the agenda? Any woman who passes away actors in a stage when a husband says that I'm happy with them straightaway.

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I remember those incidents, fears go investor. You're an old man in 70 Somethings right 70s passed away. I remember purchasing this out. And those people were sitting there and he said, you know to everybody, everybody, I think everybody be witness that you know, he says that any woman who's leaves this world in a state where her husband is happy, directly strictly to gender. Everybody says I am happy with my wife.

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Imagine testimony given by husband by your wife. This is this is these are the type of types of things that takes us to genuine

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So at home, you know, with a with a husband or with a wife, as I was saying domestic violence is no case is a hater behind the messenger. So Allah might've said and said, Yeah, we don't have a home page and who didn't and what have you, you know, you go through the you beat up your wife, like she's his slave, Jill, the app for the art of yoga, Joe, hurry up last night, you might want to, you know, fulfill his desires. But in the day he is beating her up, and not just beating the way we speak a woman as well in the way she speaks. She must be sweet in a tone that she uses when she talks to her husband. Sometimes women think that okay, if you know, when we when everything goes,

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smooth, sailing, your husband's from a woman's okay. It's not your work. I mean, you're excused. The way we speak as well, every mother, probably

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every word statement, we accept that comes out of our mouths, we will be accountable for that in the next slide. And we have it's not easy, of course, but we will need to look at the positives of our family members and overlook the negatives. Sometimes we think you know, we just look at the negatives, because

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life throws

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a way a husband should not dislike a wife, and vice versa. That's not vice versa, we can take that message. Because if there's some things you don't like a bunch of other good positive things that you like, you can look at, we look at the negatives rather than concentrate on the positives. He says, concentrate on the positives and overlook the negatives. Those ones are how we came to the rescue.

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Honestly go for love my, my wife is she's like this. And she's like that. And she's like this give a whole list. My wife, she swears and she's landed that she does this and she does.

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I want some advice. Do you know what he said?

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Unless you

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actually know I can't live without

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keep it.

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Give us okay? You don't want to give that answer because he came with 200 negative habits of his life. He wasn't looking at the positives. So the red one messengers of Allah

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or she is

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that all the good things I can't do without?

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Okay, complain. Because we don't look at the positives, we always look at the negatives. And likewise, for the women, with children as well as in our family, the way we treat our children, very important. The messenger Salallahu Alaihe Salam was full of the USC, to his children, to his parents to his children, you know, my parents, Quran talks about the rights of the parents

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you know, with the with the defeat of Allah, looking after parents and serving them and being hospitable and caring towards them.

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Being humble towards our parents is part of the teachings of the song and you know, you know, make it live for them.

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But also children, again, what happens sometimes is that the parents will only want to focus on the parents rights and the children only want to focus on the children's rights,

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rights for the children as well as parents. There's a hadith which is another we'll go for the moment Buhari

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the ratio of the loved one who which you may have heard from

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him but he says that loving Muslim into one

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there is no believer who has Muslim who has parents who are Muslims. You speak

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every morning he wakes up to them, to serve them and with the with the intention of reward.

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There's no Muslim who does that. In fact, how long would have been even agenda except that Allah opens two doors of parallel sources when Canada Hawaii for life and if he has one Paradise, and he'd served him and his good and looks after them and gentle price was that that went

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way up. And if he angers his parents love me or Allah or who had

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Allah will not be happy with this person until his parent parents don't become happy. So somebody asked Well, he will not allow who even if his parents oppressive, he said well, yes, even if there

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is an introduction, very important. You know why? Because one of the messages on the market he was saying the same you hear that? A child, a son or a daughter

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routers role or his fulfill fulfillment of the rights of his parents is not dependent on his parents fulfilling his rights. We are indebted to our parents for the rest of our lives for the mere fact that Allah used them as an external reason for us to come to school. If they gave us both, and that's it did nothing after that not even paid our fees. Okay, so chapter nothing, we still are in depth, everything else an extra bonus, we are not good. We must not only be good to our parents, because we are good. And likewise the opposite. This is not a transaction. Many times we think it's a transaction. If my brother's good to me, I'll be good to my brothers, my sisters go to eat and

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I'll be good. Abraham, this is Mason Watson, Bill McAfee, Allah Kendall Watson,

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who was a maintainer of tides is the not the one who maintains ties because as a repayment, because anyone can do that, if someone's going to be good cheer, that's like, if you don't do that, then you're an animal. I mean, that's, of course, part of being a human. The real maintain of the ties is when people cut you off, someone says I to

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someone standards us, we don't send someone you know, that's bad news to us, we don't have you. That's the real eating.

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this is what is happening the same, it's not a transaction. If my parents are good to me, then I'll be good to them. Likewise, children as well. Don't look after your children don't care for them, just because you don't want to grow up.

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Do it for the sake of Allah. I was once driving a car and I saw in the back of the car, you

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look after your children, because they're the ones that are choosing your nursing nursing home.

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So we're worried that like, that's just an investment, investment for the house, not investment for his work, you do what you have to do look after your children and give them love, give them support, give them time, give them attention, give them care, only and solely for the sake of Allah and data because it is our Islamic religious obligation and duty and responsibility only for that reason not be dissolved, there'll be good afterwards to us.

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That's a bonus. When you give a gift, we give a gift to a friend Muslim now because then when then they will give us a gift. Don't invite people to a wedding because they think God invites us, oh, let's see who invited us we have to invite them. This is all a point Islam because into the interest of river, which is just transactions.

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They invited us we have to invite them these are all you know cultural customs, which have nothing to do with Islam. And this is one of the basic aspects one of the great teachings of Islam, which is different from every other faith group. Because everyone Christians, Jews, every faith group will tell you one thing, be a good person, treat people. The difference in Islam,

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with the teachings of Christianity, Judaism and other faith is this, that everyone else, yes, it will teach you be good, be nice, be gentle, be hospitable, be good towards people. But it's long. The intention is that it is only for the pleasure of Allah there is no ulterior motive. When I went to you, you're good to me when we put our parents or children, our family by Muslims, it is all normal for that person.

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Not even for that person, not even for our own parents. Yes, we want them to be happy but because Allah has made probably the two points, the main objective is the pleasure of Allah. The main aim and goal is to seek the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa taala. So with children is not the best community man, the best family man with the best man, the way he treated children, the messengers, our loved ones in him, as you know, didn't have time because he had none of his children lived, you know, to be young children or teenagers. So where did he manifest his rational with young people is manifested within specially with his grandchildren has in pursuit of your loved one and he would

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regularly kiss them. The messages of love by himself once kissed hasn't been it will be a loved one. So those a person by the name will pop up with hobbies. He was sitting, he looked at the rest of us

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in the ashram, nakaka to Washington, I'd like to know because one of the

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10 of these, you know, running around potentially. So the message is

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he will tell you but

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the one who doesn't show compassion, mercy, Allah will not show compassion and mercy to another person. He actually said the same thing so so you people, you kiss your grandchildren and children, you kiss them this is children, not just your own children but a child. I seen this in some some cultures, especially the Arab culture, small children that come against the hands of the parents and elders and elderly people who

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rescue survivors and your young children.

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MSHSL warmer in southern Canada.

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Is anybody coming is Serbian and South Korea. He would go and visit the unsavoury, you know, severe Williams,

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he would kiss their children and he would place his hand over their heads up show. This is a similar show inverse to any child, don't get me we have a child come to the rescue, hey, we have a

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seven year old six to 1809 year olds, negative doesn't come into musket. It's all about shouting and screaming and outside and get out from him. This is not the way of doing this is not the messages of the workplace and his message, there was a man who actually use

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a villager word recently to use the racist journal

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for investing in venture came to the mercy of the lesson study unit imagine that happening in one of our streets in a city of

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probably 10 minutes will have to come. That's how I started looking at it.

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The messages of love and sympathy from their own, don't stop. One of the reasons we should move to an exchange is that because you stopped someone urinating right in the middle, that it causes harm to that person. And also another reason is that if you start rushing, you're running after him and he's just polluting according to rain, rain and the homeless.

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They finish his job, and then afterwards just for water treatment, and then he went to him. And then he explained to me

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that in those who have been on a difficult line to Quran that feel that this message is not appropriate for things like urinating centerpieces for remembrance, because

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there's another alteration incident where somebody came as messengers for longer

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than we deserve. I want you to please give permission or to

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messages and extensions along any extension that you want. Would you like to someone comes into now with your mother, your sister, your daughter, your auntie maternal? Aren't you concerned about that? He said no Wi Fi. He said likewise, people don't like to save their mothers and sisters and then the rest of us.

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But anyway, that doesn't afterwards he said Ma, x and y live and

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I have never seen a teacher better than him. So a loved one is neither before and after. So there's ways of doing Darwaza has compassion and mercy in propagating the teachings of Islam. So with children,

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with children, we need to show this mercy the wider society we need to be very careful you know we've won society making sure I have pointed out to some things we made sure the meaning of Islam is not to inconvenience other people, liking for yourself what you're likely to fall for a Muslim brother system and

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making sure that our relationships are good, in light of this fear of the messenger

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transmit first of all to to feel the ability to practice all of your shoulder

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I want to speak to guests on WhatsApp for that indicting VLAN and in writing speed. Allah subhanaw taala was the ability to act upon what was said and real

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guidance, the guidance and the proper seat

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so we can implement that into our lives.

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