Loneliness and Inner Peace

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari


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Rila Rahim.

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hamdulillah It's my second time that I've had the honor to attend a event organised by this organization. I think the last time he was calling alignment Dawa. I would like to thank our hosts today. May Allah reward this organization and also the masjid here for giving us the opportunity to host this program. And all of you today for coming, taking out your precious time. May Allah subhanho wa Taala reward all of you, and everybody involved in organizing this very important topic. I have a few points. And I really would like your attention, I need to discuss this topic in about three to four points.

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The topic is a very, very important topic, as you will know, loneliness, and internal peace

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loneliness, depression, anxiety, stress, emptiness in life.

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And the opposite of that internal peace, contentment of the heart.

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The Quran says and the verse we just heard by the recitation of our party Alladhina amanu. We're talking about, you know, Palu Woombie decorilla. Arabica, he talks about you know, Hadoop,

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indeed, with the remembrance of Allah do hearts find peace. But again, I want to explain this verse when I come to it because a lot of us have very restricted ly understood this verse what this verse means some of us think we just made record of Allah in the morning and we find peace, it doesn't mean just that. But before I go on to four different points, I want to mention four really important points about

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achieving acquiring, obtaining, gaining this internal peace and happiness and contentment, peace within our hearts.

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Before I do that, I want us to first define and understand what contentment and happiness and peace really is.

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In order to acquire something, we need to understand what that thing is that we want to acquire. We've misunderstood what peace and contentment and happiness actually is. For some people, happiness and contentment is in acquiring a lot of wealth, or in being healthy, or in having a good family, a large family, or living in an area where there's lots of people. And loneliness is where you are alone. Someone has no family by themselves. There is one man owed his he had no children, his wife's passed away, no brothers, sisters here, nobody here he is unknown living. We think that's the definition of loneliness washer. In Arabic, we say washer,

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and the opposite of that is owns. So what is the real definition? What is the meaning? What is the meaning of peace, contentment, and happiness, and not being lonely? So the definition is, first what we really need to understand what is the definition of peace, peace and happiness is not in Alas, Baba Hera, it's not in wealth. It's not in materialistic things. It's not with materialistic things and people around us loneliness is not there could be somebody who is lonely, apparently lonely living with nobody. There's no family members, yet this person is not lonely.

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And on the other hand, you can have a person in amongst hundreds of people, large family, grandchildren and great grandchildren and great great great grandchildren. Does everybody Bangladesh community will have hundreds of grandchildren, hungry Allah which is good, so many children around you, yet you feel lonely. There are people who there could be a person who has no wealth, his poor.

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There could be somebody sleeping rough outside, no house. Yet this person is content. He sleeps for eight hours, and you have to kick him when he's snoring and still slow and snoring away. There's no worry concern of the world. There was an incident mentioned as well that this person, you know, there's one of the kings he was sitting in his balcony of his castle or mansion or palace. And he saw that this person who just who was a wood seller, he just came with his bag and he just put it down and he took some, you know, Chuck patties out from his bag, and he was eating and he was enjoying every morsel of that capacity. And this king could actually because of illness and medicine

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and medical reasons could not eat that food. And he was thinking that this guy is much more in a better better state.

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Me. Sometimes there are people who don't have a mansion yet they are more peaceful. And somebody can have a mansion and have the best bed and the best bedroom and the best mattress and the best, you know, all the luxuries yet he needs 10 tablets to sleep still can't sleep. You need tablets to sleep, you still can't sleep. So what is real happiness and contentment? What is it? It's not in? Well, you could have it. You could have wealth and b It's not opposite to one another as well. I want you to understand that it doesn't mean that wealth will bring you you know, sadness. No, you could be happy and wealthy and you could be happy and poo. You could be sad and wealthy, you could

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be sad and poor. It's not to do with wealth. It's not to do with physical health. It's not to do with luxuries. It's not to do with people around you. What is it that

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real contentment and real peace and real happiness is a fear to color. It's a condition of the heart. It's a state of the heart. This state of the heart is not acquirable just like that this is a Nirma It's a gift. It's a bounty given by Allah subhanaw taala like the other mercy, this is alcohol Amin Allah, it's an utter It's a gift. If Allah subhanaw taala grants and blesses and gives and provide somebody with this Neshama with this bounty and with this gift of internal peace, internal contentment, then this person will acquire that can contentment and that peace and that's happiness. And this is why it's internal. In Arabic happiness is called what happiness is called what in

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Arabic. One of the words used. So rule. So rule,

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Allah so rule, a similar word is simply

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what a seremi

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secret. Happiness is internal, it's secret, it's hidden, it's not external. It's not in lights, it's not in darkness or light. You could be in dark place, but you could be happy, you could be in a light place. You could be on the beach and you could be depressed. You could be in a small apartment on East London somewhere and you could be happy. This is why we see so many people despite having so much luxury depression is at its peak. We're not even talking about depression right now. I actually a couple of years ago I was in Ireland we had a talk at one of the universities and the topic of the lecture was depression in Muslim students at the university because so many students even Muslim

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students are complaining of depression and anxiety and there are so many brothers and sisters after the talk having questions about anxiety about stress about depression, the people suicide rate, you know, if you look to do some research on this, how many young people teenagers 1819 20 year olds are daily tweeting and on social media expressing a desire to commit suicide or they're living in some place remote place of the world where you know, their hands are being chopped off. Now they're living in America they're living in England they are living in the West affluent societies yet want to commit suicide.

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So many people there were there was another report where all these sports stars they go into alcoholism and drug abuse. These sports stars football players who earn 100,000 pounds

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a week

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200,000 pounds a week 300,000 pounds a week and the case depressed what's happening. So many of them have resorted to treatment because of psychological illness and mental health issues. Why because Allah subhanaw taala did not grant them with this K fear two column this Nirma this this bounce a gift of happiness. I will mention this thing that look there are two different things here we miss we miss understand or we confuse these two things. One of the words used is Raha for happiness of raw means comfort? Yes, it's used in other than Arabic as well. It means comfort.

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Anyone heard of the word? You must have heard of the word or Ah ha ha ha means comfort. There's two different things here. You have you can have Raha which is comfort. There's a difference between euro and the US bubble Raha Are you understanding? There's a difference between

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happiness, peace, comfort itself and the meanings to happiness and peace itself? Two completely different things. Money wealth is a means to happiness or comfort, and peace, wealth. It's a means family relationships, luxury materialistic things, all these things. They are meant as Barbie raw, but Raha itself is something else. You could have the means

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I have Raha and you could have the means or not have.

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You know, a few years ago, I was in Denmark, which is the Europe, one of my teachers and he mentioned one of my teachers chef moved to Turkey with money hungry, the whole lot. You may have heard of him. He was invited. He had a few talks there. I went from here as well. So we were sitting at

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for dinner.

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So as he was sitting, people were discussing different things. So one of the brothers Danish brother, he said he was just discussing about the Danish society. He said, Sure, if there's a research done survey done in Denmark, you know, where Denmark is Scandinavia, a lot of people are depressed there. In the whole Scandinavian area.

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There's a survey done, that Danish people are the happiest people

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in the whole of Europe.

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And that was a proper survey. It was published. So the show said, mashallah, you know, we're just talking about Denmark,

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another brother from the other side of Asia, but also just two days ago, a report was published in the newspaper and they did another research. The highest rate of suicide is also in Denmark.

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highest rate of suicide is in Denmark. And it's true. Send Scandinavia like even in Norway, I've been over many, many times. One of the reasons is because in these countries, the weather is depressing sometimes, you know, if you're in winter, you have like four months of no sun in northern parts. I've been to those parts. We went in the summer in May, for five years ago. We actually went right to the northern part North cap, which is the end of the world we took a flight and then when 10 hours drive instead Rahman was from England. He was with me, we went together. And we went to the northern parts, where basically, there's no sun doesn't go down. In Oslo, more people are offering

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motherboard. Like, If thought is at what 1045 we're complaining at 930 1045 1050 11 o'clock is Orisha, sorry about how Phil Collins told us about Asia. So if you go more north, there's actually no night.

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We went we were praying we said okay, six to seven o'clock show prayer, sir. Okay, let's pray. So, nine o'clock, we were driving with a let's just stop over. And we said, let's pray nine o'clock, Margaret, the sun is still up there. And then about 11 o'clock, let's pray shots till bright. One o'clock is again bright. There is no the sun just does not go down. Imagine the opposite the winter, four months, five months, three months. There's no day. It's just Night, night night people get depressed. But anyway, that's in Norway in Denmark.

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The other brother said that the highest rate of suicide is in Denmark as well.

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So anyway, I was sitting next to the shelf I said, Do you think that there's a what do you think about these two, two, you know, surveys? Do you think there's an explanation behind it? He said

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if they are both true, then Allah Harlan but what comes to mind is this that the first survey was looking at a spa or Raha

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the means of happiness, they looked at Job prosperity, to look at, they looked at

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financial well being they looked at all the different things. And when they looked at that they said the Danish people are the happiest in the whole of Europe.

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So the first survey was looking at us verbal Raha the means to happiness. The second survey looked at happiness itself and which indicated that most people want to know the highest rate of committing suicide, despite having the best job prosperity and job opportunities and financial well being and prosperity and materialistic things. On the other hand, they are very, very sad internally and this is why there's a massive difference between us Baba and Raha. So, to conclude on this point, Tom is very sure this is a lengthy topic within hours on this. The definition of peace of happiness of Raha of Tama Nina Latina? laminotomy, no Kowloon. decorilla is is that it is a gay fear it is a state it

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is a condition of the heart, which Allah subhanaw taala grants to those who wishes and how do we get that from Allah. That's what I want to talk about four steps. But this is the definition and before I go to the four steps to get that gateway of the heart, internal peace and tranquility. I will also mention this before I mentioned those four points is that this does not mean that we don't get hardships in life. hardships in life is something else and

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peace in the heart is something else altogether. You could be ill you could be sick, your legs could be chopped off, but internally your heart is at peace.

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You know this idea. Some people have this idea. There's too much hardship and difficulty in life. This dunya was made for that it's dangling behind

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Allah made Janna for just bliss and pleasure and happiness and joy. This is what the Quran says. You know a lot of places this is one of the greatest Nirma in the Quran. You know when Allah talks about different different rewards one of the best is La hopeful and I let him wander home you know in so many places in the Quran Allah says La homophone la he would have imagined living in Jannah This is a ultimate level of rewarding Jana there is no fear no fear about what no fear about being poor, no fear about losing people around you no fear about someone attacking you. No, you just your mind is at peace. There's no fear.

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No human being on planet Earth can say I have no fear in any way shape or form.

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No one you could be a multimillionaire, there's still fear. And wala homea has known the second greatest now my agenda is there is no reason there is no sadness, there is no sorrow, no human being on planet Earth, Muslim or non Muslim, good or bad, righteous or wretched prophet or a normal, every person went through hardship, even the Gambia look at the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we complain about our problems in life. Has anyone here ever had to put two three you know, bricks on their stomach to quench their hunger. This is a man who Namibia the best of creation sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who actually chose to be poor Allahumma shouldn't have his own rotten Misaki his

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poverty was out of choice, he actually chose it so that it can be

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means of consoling those people who are not rich and wealthy in the world. He brought him around of Allah the Prophet of Allah yet he is being told to slaughter his own son anyone being told you that you have to support us and we just about slaughter wood here and you know an animal when that comes in, we think we've done our job

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we just slaughter animals or we've done our job again this is a whole topic why do we do it? Here is another topic. It's been everything has become customary or to hear there's a deeper meaning why we actually slaughter and do this code Barney. Why do we do it? But anyway, if I go there will take a lot of time. He is

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ordered to slaughter his son. He has been put in fire anyone put in fire here. This is Hunting Allah Ibrahim Ali salaam, the Prophet of Allah.

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All the prophets, this is why there's a hadith either I have Billa who I've done some Beverly Hills Bella or sub but when Allah loves someone, Allah inflicts difficulties and hardships as a means of purification for that person.

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I should do Nursey Belen, Olympia from an unfulfilled answer, the closest to Allah go through the most hardship and difficulties. So this understanding that we want to live with no hardship, that's not going to happen will never happen. This world was not made for that. This dunya was not made for that. That just doesn't happen for anyone. And you can never be like that. mentally, psychologically, you will, you will always have hardships. But again, going back to the definition, despite having all the hardships and all the difficulties from a financial point of view, from a family point of view, from a wealth point of view, from a health point of view, can you feel

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the mind and heart is at peace that you get in this world, you will get hardship you will be ill and sick. They were great people earlier on they were extremely ill and sick. But internally, like Aculon you know, they said Baba and they had they were ill.

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If you got a headache, you will still get that headache you will feel the headache. If you're ill that doesn't mean that you know if you make vicar of Allah then you know we'll just go well you know, Allah will make you ill you will be ill. Actually it's an arrow from Allah, being ill, but intellectually UCLan from from your internal mind and heart point of view, you will not be sad on that illness, you will be contented with it. So this was just another point because no human being can live in this world without hardship and difficulty. There's this story mentioned again, I don't have time but I'll just quickly bring in some of the books that there was a person who met so you're

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gonna have a peace be upon him heard of Segura, Harare. Salam. There's lots of discussion about him whether he was a prophet of Allah or just a pious What do you have Allah And is he still alive or not? There's nothing categorical. If you look at photography of Imam Muhammad is Allah and he has mentioned all the different opinions. There's lots of opinions and it's not something that we need to dwell on anywhere we need to be

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focused on our lives. But therefore, this story was mentioned about him in one of the books that somebody met him

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so he realized this was either a huddle or a sauna

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he said can you make dua for me sent inshallah you make dua I'll make 12 mil Dora

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can you make dua for me that I

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I live a life that there's no misery or hardship, I have no stress in life, make that offer me

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several 100 hours from searching that, that's possible. Because the dunya is not for that. So okay.

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I'll tell you,

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I can't make that work for you, because that's not going to happen. But the most that we can make dua is that look at somebody who you think has the less problem nice problems in life and is in a very good position in life.

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And tell me who that person is. And they will make dua to Allah that Allah make your life like his life.

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Said, Okay, I'll meet you tomorrow. Let me go and see. So he went to do in his investigation journey. He went to one person and different people and people in his community here and they're different people and he's looking around. Everywhere he goes, someone looks good, but he's got problems there. Someone has some good issues in his financial affairs, but then he finds that healthwise, the guys has problems everywhere one person second, third fourth, he just couldn't find somebody perfect that he wanted to be like, finally came across one person mashallah some elderly person who has lived a very good life and he's got a mansion in his living there and he's just

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sitting out there and retired and now he's got children and grandchildren and they're all healthy and he is very healthy and you know, affluent and no much you know, he was just there in his palace and in his garden sitting and you know, people are just eating and all grandchildren are there and just a very happy happy kind of state and he has everything. Yes, this is the person shall I'm going to meet him tomorrow I'll tell him can you make dua to Allah I want to be like, so he went to meet when you went to see this person, he met him he sat down with him. After a bit of conversation he said

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the reason why I came to see you was I've been for the last day meeting different people but I just can't find anybody with no hardship in their life. Finally, I think I found you're the closest to perfection. So inshallah I want to be like you look are you mashallah amazing live family children. So I'm going to ask Sarah holiday Sarah to make dua for me that Allah make my life like your life.

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Is brother held his hands and wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, brother.

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Before you go, this is what you see everything. This is just an external. And then he started mentioning his internal life stories and you know, half of his grandchildren they illegitimate.

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Half of my children I illegitimate my wife had for three, four or five years, and he was mentioning and he started crying and listen, this guy's scratching his head, listen to his life might have his gender I'm in paradise. You know, what I've realized is no perfection for anybody. I'm good as it is.

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I'm good as it is. This is another problem in our society. We like to compare our lives we like to compare our lives other people's lives never compare. That's one of the things that actually points I was going to mention.

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Never compare. That's like the fifth point I'll come to that remind me the fifth point I know time is very short. Allah says in the Quran, whether or not blue one can be che in middle Hovi with jewelry went up so Mera naam worry what unfussy was Tamara troubleshooter saw the read and Latina de la saga Tomasi about color the winner in La Liga Raja rune, Allah says We shall surely test you, every one of you will test you with fear in this world. If you're living if you're a human, you're living in this world you will get hope and hunger and thirst and people will pass away around you and have some somebody in your life your wife will pass away your father will pass away your husband

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will pass away, your child might die someone something in life, this is the reality of the short life. This is what Allah said after that Alladhina la Saba to Musa when they are afflicted with hardships to make sure that the heart is content they say in render, you will realize your own we say these phrases, but these are not just for saying all of these, you know all these different phrases. They're just not for saying this therefore actualizing for understanding you need to understand these phrases. You know, we said it was almost like in a laboratory. What happened with the mineralogy in the nursery we're in either here or Giroux, what does that mean? There's a huge

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ocean of meaning behind that. Surely we belong to Allah, someone passed away you found out that your uncle passed away. You say you know what, oh, something happened. You had a car crash accident, in, in law, we belong to Allah, he owns us. He's our mechanic is our master, I am his servant, I am a slave. He does now use alarm if Allahu Arun, he does whatever he wants, I belong to him. He can do whatever he wants. It's his role and it's his judgment and it's his decision and is his, you know, decision that he did whatever he did. So in Allah we belong to Allah. So the test has come to me. I have no right to complain because it's, you know, the story of the Sahaba Bhutan, Hanuman Salim long

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story when there was a young child who was very, very ill, you must have heard of the story.

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In, and the father left for work seeing the child was very, very ill. And when he came back, he actually had passed away. But an amazing wife didn't even the way the wife approached this whole issue was when the husband came back cooked a nice meal for him and then actually fed to him, didn't tell him he came in asked first question, how's this? Our baby hamdulillah in a very good state. That's what she said in a very good state. And then they ate food. And they actually, you know, dressed up for him this as a hobby. And then they had relations and then after the relations in bed, then she actually said to her husband, can I ask you something? If our neighbor

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borrowed a bottle of oil from us, or some oil or something from us? And then our neighbor wanted that oil bag? What do you think? Do you think it's bad? Do should we feel bad that they want it back? Or should we give it back to them, of course, if we borrowed some oil or something from our neighbor, it's theirs, we give it straight, without any like,

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without any complaint, we should be giving it back to them.

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Likewise, our load and our great are lost planet, Allah gave us a beautiful baby rented it, you know, gave it to us borrowed it to us gave it for a while, for a year or two, Allah subhanaw taala has asked us for it, you know, his acid back. So we have given it back to a well

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this is how and he understood as well in a very, you know, very wisdom filled way she explained

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rather than, you know,

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my son's dad and this is what you call Reba Bill Kadar, contentment, it's the feeling is in the love, we belong to Allah, Allah has a right and then the second part we're in in a year or Giroud, we shall surely be returning to him. This is also look the test

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in Allah, we belong to Allah. So Allah has a right to test us. We're in a Euro Joe, we should return to Him. So the test is very short. It's very short, 50 years, 60 years, my son's passed away. Okay, how long? It'll be another 30 years, I'll pass away, and then we'll meet down there for eternity. No problem. It's like you stopped at a service station. You know, the whole family left the train at the service station, or whatever they are. And they were eating and one of them was just inside the train and then the train just left with him and gone. And they came back. Where's the train gone? Was with our brother. Oh, he's gone. He's gone to London.

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He's gone. When will we go? Let's take the next train next time when he's about five hours later. Okay, five hours night we meet him. That's right. someone passes away. exact example. 670 years of life, listen to this. How long do we live in this world? 60 7080. They say average is about 6570. Now, anything over 6570 is a bonus. If you're 30. Broke, brother, man you've got you're halfway your lives done. I normally say you have three legs, you know of your life. First leg, second leg, third leg 2040 6021 thirds done 14 second Thursday, first 20. You just they're just growing anyway, you just growing you don't even get called by 20. You just growing and you're thinking that you know

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getting married and my work and my job and my days. And by the time you settled on a 30, half your life is gone.

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And then the 4040 you'll get a bit of wisdom and then the last 20 You just there 60 And time to go

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is very short. 60 years, 70 years, 80 years, 80 years in comparison to how long in the next life?

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100 years? Totally years. 3000 2000 100,000 200,000 1 million, 2 million, 3 million billion. Hello?

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Eternity. What's the relationship? What's the connection of 80 years to eternity?

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Imagine after 4 billion years you come out in January in your palace. I mentioned this many times. You won't even remember these eight years using maybe I think I was born and I was in a place called England. I got married, had a child grandchild died.

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This is the Quran actually tells us this girl I know whom you may or may not have them yet. But will she get an old boo ha. When they will come to the next live this life will seem like a moment of the morning or a moment of the evening. As she had an Aloha, it's a it's a dot it's not even to say this dot this dot here in this whole table here. That's like more than our life in the greatest, you know, grand scheme of things. So this life is very short. It's very short. People are passing a nine just like any that's why you get 6070 But people go earlier than that as well. So in that way, nobody has Roger owners what he means and Allah subhanaw taala is telling us the look. Everyone will

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get hardship and difficulty. So actually, I've spent a lot of time in just defining happiness I actually wanted to talk about but I will mention those things.

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Real happiness is not in these monetary items or materialistic things. And it does not mean as well that we don't have hardships we can get hardship, but real peace and contentment is a fear too. It's a state of the heart. How do we get that? We said it's a gift from Allah four or five, five different ways. Each one of them requires like an hour of talk, honestly, but I have no time. So I'm just going to really summarize them. Imagine each one is gonna have spoken about one point once about an hour, 15 minutes one of these five points. First way of acquiring this nirvana of Allah

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of contentment internally, are you understanding internal contentment of the heart and the mind, despite having hardships externally, you will definitely get hardships externally, but the mind is at peace, the heart is at peace, the mind is at ease. Internally, you are not restless.

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This comes about with what we call

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the doubler.

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Basically, using the brain, Allah subhanaw taala has given us this awkward one of the crisis of this age of this era is people don't use this enough. One of the crisis of the time is what people don't use the intelligence enough, you know, we have to remember this. This Deen of Islam that Allah has given us has a lot to do with the brain. In order to be a good Muslim, you have to use the intellectual brain. You might think

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I'm not saying you need to be a professor, just basic, you know basics of the brain. Everything of our deen is connected to the mind. We are Muslims nowadays we live in a robotic Islamic life. Do you know what that means? A robotic Islamic life? A cultural robotic automatic we don't have manual cars we have automatic that's that's how Islam wake up. Like we're born. I happen to be born a Muslim family. Okay, this is how people do this how to build masjid so how are you gonna say Ramadan? Sir? Who Iftar after Are we okay? Kobani old here, marriage this this. Okay, that's how it's done. Done. Okay, whatever. Nobody knows why they're doing what they're doing.

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You know, using the brain. We don't understand the meanings of what we are reading what we recited the first chord the dumper is a very important part.

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In order to acquire the peace of the heart and a mind our mind has to be fully connected with Allah subhanho wa Taala 24/7.

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Loneliness is when your heart and your mind is disconnected with your Creator. That's what you call loneliness. What do I mean connected with Allah? There's different aspects to this, connected to Allah meaning as much as possible throughout the day, we think with our mind more about Allah, about Jana about Arthur about next life about the real purpose of life. Look, every human being we all think you know, all of us. 24/7 our minds, we think about something anyone here doesn't think about something right now you're thinking about in Shaba. Hopefully what I'm saying. Unless we're sleeping, you're thinking, you're driving a car, you're thinking, thinking about what phone this

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phone call office, bank, tax credit, benefits, my son school, this, we wake up in the morning, jungle of thoughts in our brain, no problem about dunya but majority of our thoughts are all about the dunya.

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More even in Salah were we supposed to think about the we think about the dunya

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what I'm saying here is that we need to direct the flow of our thoughts towards Allah. If you're driving a car to ours contemplating thinking I'll be in Jannah How will the karma of gender be like, I'll be standing before Allah? Allah says, you know that we will be witnessing Allah subhanaw taala would you who illuminate another in our behalf now veritone Eropa. Now lira, wouldn't be seeing an observing and viewing Allah subhanaw taala Amazing how will that scene be to to witness and see Allah subhanaw taala imagining agenda meeting the messengers of Allah you send them just everything about deen and duniya Dean and are Hera and Allah and His messenger Allah and He will send them

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directing the flow of our thoughts, the mind towards Allah subhanaw taala this really really helps more as much as we can. We can't do it totally but as much as we can, directing the flow of thoughts towards Allah and His Messenger SallAllahu Reserva de and then this includes all our ideas and our everybody should know not be robotic, you know?

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do as we pray, everything with focus with mind with using the brain. We wake up in the morning children recite that to us, they recite to us, and we recite to us as well. What's the meaning we wake up in the morning? And I'm delighted that you're here another Obama turned away that you should why do we read that? What's the meaning each day or you can do a 45 minute talk. There's oceans of meaning behind this prophetic to us. We wake up in the morning Alhamdulillah Hilah the piano learn the meanings. This is why I said we have to use our brain.

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We wake up in the morning we said all Praise to Allah subhanaw taala who gave us life after giving us death, we shall be returning to him. What does that mean? Allah had often unforeseen mot when Latinum Tamati Manami. When we doubt when we sleep, Allah gives us death. So we've woken up in the morning we've been given a new lease of life. First thing when we wake up in the morning, we need to think about this. Not about the tax office. First thing sit on your bed, think five minutes set up. Alhamdulillah hymnody. Here by the mama Tana with a new shoe we should we should be returning to Allah today. Allah has made us wake up. There might be a night that I will not be waking up. This is

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a new day this is a new life I was dead. Sleep is a death ALLAH says in the Quran you too often unforeseen mot how I died, I had a close shave with death. Imagine somebody gets told by the doctor that you got cancer and then the guy gets healed. What do you do you make all sorts of intentions and resolutions if Allah how gives me how that's it. I'm going to change my life forever. Every morning you need we need to say that Allah gave me that he gave me another day. Today that said, I've been given an airman this dua with focus with meaning every dua all these dramas you go into the washroom bathroom, toilet, even children, teach them the meetings, not just lip service Arabic

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meanings especially the non Arabs need to learn the meanings is very important brothers and sisters, you go into the toilet. You know in the morning we go into the toilet. What's happened we went to sleep at night we had all the food and we ate everything and all the biryanis and the fish and the rice and everything without thinking eaten everything snoring away all night. Wages snoring in heedlessness, Allah's machine has been at work at night for seven hours Allah's machine has been working from that food, the energy is being created for your body. This is all we need to think about all of this blood is being made from this food and different different parts of the body is at

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function it's working. And the residue which is harmful for the body has been left and kept on one side that in the morning you go and you release it. And if that doesn't come off the body you could die.

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This is why we recommend from the washroom in the bathroom. What do we say hola hola Ferghana, Alhamdulillah Allah, the other Hubber I need other wild funny, all praise. This is a great name of Allah, who actually removed this from my stomach.

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And if this hadn't come out, I would die. Imagine those people who have done dialysis you know, it's so difficult in every Nirma this takes us me to not just do hours, but concentration in Salah and then thinking about the name of Allah. This brings peace in the heart as well. Every Nirma you know, sometimes we don't even realize you know, this AI. We think we take it for granted just because we see it, we see from it. That's what they say a set how to turn around and say Hi, I'm chef so this surah Ellen Moraga health is a crown on the head of the Healthy People and only the sick people see, you know this, I would just take it for granted. How can you complain about life? When you can see

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with your eyes? Imagine Have you tried and I've tried this and I tell a lot of people try one day everyday try 10 minutes, close your eyes and try doing things with 10 minutes.

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Close your eyes. Let me try a lecture which I haven't tried to lecture yet. We try lectures and there was one shot I remember used to come from Pakistan he's passed away to him although he was blind and he was giving lectures all his life.

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Try doing something for 10 minutes in your life without that site. Imagine one site is such a great name of Allah that if we stayed in sujood for our whole life, we would still not be paying paying that off.

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That's why one of the Imams knowledgeable humbly mentioned this in his book that so many came to him complaining about poverty. He said would you pay 100,000 dinar if your eyes were taken away from you said yes. What about if your ears were taken away from you? Would you pay 100,000 dinar or Jeremy said yes. What about if your hands somebody chopped them off and you could get them back 400,000 dinar Yes, your feet were chopped off and you could get them back 400,000 dinar that said yes. You've already got about 500,000 dinar

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and you're complaining of poverty.

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You are rich we don't think about the narrow thinking about the narrow when we think about all the bounties and the gifts of Allah subhanaw taala each one of these

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We make sugar to Allah, we don't complain, we, you know, we as human beings with sadness, it's, we've become too sensitive.

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We become too sensitive we can't, we can't deal with hardship because we're too sensitive. We need to look at the positives of life, every neighbor of Allah. Think about all the different mo Allah has given us food. Every day we eat food, we just eat it, like how did this food there are people who can't even see this type of food for years.

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Every Nirma of Allah when you're eating food, you know, there was one incident where

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one of my teachers related from his chef, that they were sitting on eating

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with a few friends and they were most of them are scholars, to the chef said to all of them who are sitting, said look

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Hamdulillah we are all eating here.

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First Name of Allah, Allah has given us this great food now of Allah.

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If we had this great food and Nirma of Allah,

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but imagine we were not hungry,

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you can eat it. We all hungry as well. Alhamdulillah imagine the food is so tasty and healthy and very good. And we are very hungry as well. But the doctors have told you you can't eat because you've got you need to stay away from this food because you've got an illness.

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Nobody has that illness as well. hamdulillah Imagine we had the food is tasty, and we're hungry and nobody has an illness as well. Nobody has that. But suddenly you receive a very like distressing news someone in your family has an accident or passed away or something's really happen. You've got everything But you don't feel anything. Nobody's heard that as well. Imagine you've got the food tasty and you're hungry as well and there's no medical reason with you to not eat and plus there's no distressing news.

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But when you're eating the guys whose feed House who's feeding you he's feeding you with disgrace and like you eat a good dog he's feeding us with honor with respect one food we're eating here with five Nam of Allah every name of allah requires that we thank him and we said humbly every now this is why some of the scholars say drink cold water incense and when it's hot because when you drink you know that Alhamdulillah that comes out that's why in Ramadan when we say you forward again back to the meanings

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Allahu molucca summit will be mental and economical to artistic of torque and then you break your fast open your fast. And then when you drink water or do you say the hubba Lama walk

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through the veins and are nice and moist? Feels good. I go and brother he drank water if that

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was an amazing, cold sip of water after 18 hours of float being dry. But that shouldn't be throughout this network. This just one water. How did he get to us? Allah tells us that's just his 25 minutes I haven't even started my talk seriously. Honestly, there's just so many things. I really haven't really even started this first point. I had about five points.

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But just finish up this first point.

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Every Name of Allah looking at things positively in life.

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You know when we the way we take our life is we take our lives net opposite. We read our life accounts upside down.

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You know what that means?

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We have 10 good things. One bad thing we'll think about the one bad thing I'm not the 10 good things.

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The right way. I mentioned mentioned incident again here as well.

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You know,

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someone's ill and sick a lot of men have man flu. You heard of man flu.

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We are distressed we make everybody else depressed around us as well. There was one share Rahimullah his son had passed away in his lifetime.

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He was old he himself was going through like operations and hardships and health wise problems and like he passed away in two years to end of his life. And at that stage, he received news that his young 50 year old son has passed away. Naturally family members were upset. People were upset someone saying you know like please contour etc. He wrote a letter to all his family members and he said to them, Look, you can look at this incident in two ways. One is you look at this incident and say, You know what, he was too young. He passed away at 50 He didn't finish his life things. He didn't even get his all his children married off. You know, it's very early this that you can look

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at all of that and be depressed or you

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could look at it from another way. He actually went hard and he came back. You can say okay hamdulillah Allah gave him 50 years you know, they say look at your glass as being half full or half empty. This is like looking at your glass half full.

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Who gave us a right to be alive for 50 years anyway?

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Allah could have taken your life when you were two two years old. Thank Allah you live till 50 years of age. Wow, that's amazing. Number two, he just came back from hunger he everybody has to die you would have died anyway. Maybe when it's 60 could have done in a bad way. Imagine this is straight after Hodgman. He's completely comeback pure, what better way to die. And number three, he had a son who was studying in Medina and other he went and spent time with him. And his did his MA he spent with him time with him. He came back here he met everybody he invited people for food and died in that state looking at all the positives. Yes, he's passed away. But look at all this positive. This

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is like looking at your life account, right way round, not upside down.

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So anyway, I couldn't really talk about what I wanted to talk about. This was like, you know, the first point instead of so many things about this, this whole issue of the first corner of the double of reflection, concentrating on everything we do our connection with Allah, building Love of Allah in our hearts getting strong love of Allah subhanaw taala this happens by considering and contemplating on all the netline gifts and mountains of Allah. And also the Quran tells us the first quarter the book, Quran says you know it for Karuna for Hulk it's an hour it will hold reflecting, looking at the universe contemplating on the creation of Allah all of this is part of this and much

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much much more if we do that we use the brain use the aka Salah with who what we are reading in Salah why are we reading this? People have offered courses on the awakening the prayer, why do you raise your hands on what do you say and why are you saying it and what is Subhanak Allahumma mean when you're in record so Hannah Robin Aleem Subhana rugby Allah why are you saying that? What's the meaning with focus with devotion? It will transform your life every dua inshallah John what is inshallah me in sha Allah is like huge meanings,

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deep meanings Subhan Allah this deep meanings and hum with all those meanings you say the phrase all the prophetic dramas all the statements you sit in Salah attire to rely was on a lot of Baba what does that mean? What does that mean? What is it about me? Why am I saying this time belongs to Allah so I've been I'm still Allah, but you bought belongs to Allah with that focus, and then the door I'm sorry, remember the meantime the door is insular before salaam, Allah how many the London as a government that's just wondering are there so many doors you can make after Salah is God really. So

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making a life based on this using the brain focus, being connected as much as possible with the with with Allah subhanaw taala building the level of Allah subhanaw taala in the heart will bring this up. This is the meaning of victory in light of mine. This is why some people want to say there is real desire. If you make the Quran Allah then you hardscape peace that is Amino Allah Allah Allah I mean we can all get peace know the meaning of Allah basically in light of mine who is this, that the whole life from the morning till the evening from the morning till the night, the whole life, our whole life surrounds mentally, from our brain and our from our heart, there's a connection link with

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Allah subhanaw taala This is the meaning of Allah Vivekananda hated.

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Every moment, everything we do everywhere we just we are connected. Allah was sitting and talking, someone's driving a car and mind is focused on Allah. You could be doing worldly things. You have no muffler, then everything becomes easy. You know, you become ill and I'm ending you become ill and sick.

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Yes, externally it's a hardship. But you think you know what? Imagine you know if you've got you've got your beloved. Hello, let's say your wife. You know if your wife is like, you know, giving you a punch like this or something. I just pinching you. It's hurting you but you pleasure.

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Nobody is married here.

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Well, you don't know any romance.

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Husband wife, you know that if they're punching her? She's pinching you but you know, out of playfully. It's hurting but this pleasure but this is my husband is my wife. He knows

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you've got a headache but you're so connected to Allah. This is Allah has given me an idea. This is a NEMA. Internally you are happy you

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contend with Allah, because you've got this deep connection with Allah. Even illness and sickness is a Nirmal from Allah. This is why I'll end on this I know going on time. Once hubby came to the messenger Salallahu Alaihe Salam and said, you know Messenger of Allah, this is my daughter she has never been ill in her life. He said, lung in lung, murder him in end of life hail. She has never seen good from Allah. She has never been ill. That's not something to be both to boast about like you've never been ill. She's never seen good. Illness is good it's near Ma. Somebody might say that means the Shiva ask Allah Allah give me the name of illness. No, no, no, we say Oh Allah, your

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illness is also Nirma you know, there's actually seven different ways how illnesses and Irma, I can count them but there's no time, seven different ways how illness and sickness if you think use the brain again, in this 12347 different ways how it's a blessing for us to get sick. But when we say to Allah, Allah the seven different ways this illness this sickness is a blessing for me but I'm a weak servant health is also a blessing so about can you replace the neshamah the blessing of illness with the blessing of health, I'd rather have that blessing rather than this.

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So this is how everything becomes easy inshallah I'm going to end with this there will other second third fourth fifth points of also gaining this but inshallah maybe some of the time or could have already had our software on largest alkaline