Leaving Islam, Apostasy & Atheism
Channel: Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
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it's fun. It's privileged to be
here today in this beautiful city town.
The place the place just started my friends here
in Oldham and Rochdale. He said what led to me getting mixed up between Oldham and Rochdale. Rochdale
gave an example maybe it's like Miguel Medina hadn't really said.
So, it's an honor and a privilege. I'm thankful and grateful to the organizers, the Rochdale Masjid here, Islamic center for inviting me in arranging this central mosque of Rochdale for arranging this program.
And really a very important topic a very important subject that really needs to discuss, I remember when this program was advertised, many people are saying, Will this be recorded people from different parts of the world, different countries, people will save such important topics such an important subject that affects a lot of people. It affects a lot of people in the family can really easily be recording the last few questions I said as organizers. May Allah reward the masjid organizers, the Imam,
our Imam here and all the other speakers and for everybody. That assistance was me, of course involved in arranging this program and contributing a lot of what everybody shot. I have a few points, maybe some disjointed points
perversions or parenting.
this is a vast topic. And time is short, I just have some very random type of disjointed
points, if I can connect them shallow to try to connect them, these are just some random points childhood related to this topic, a very, very important subject.
First of all, I saw the Potsdam and this not just on the fire the poster, but you hear this a lot. I think we have a poster, the epidemic of apostasy, epidemic of apostasy. This is a big issue. It's a huge issue. But I would beg to differ.
That it's maybe I don't know if you can use it as an epidemic. There are a lot of people but it seems that there are a lot of people in relation to how many people are not leaving Islam. If you look at the comparison of those who are leaving Islam, and those who are not leaving Islam, percentage, maybe less than 1% of people who are leaving Islam from being Muslims born Muslims or who have embraced Islam. So it's not a it's an important issue. It's a very sensitive issue. It is definitely something worth talking about discussing and looking at the solutions or the problems and the solutions.
Without a doubt, but it's not something that we should do that online. Lots of Muslims in every household in every community, in every city, every town in different parts of the world, Muslims are leaving Islam and it's becoming a big issue. It's not as big. Rather, if you look, on the contrary, there are more people embracing Islam. There are more people embracing Islam just recently, I actually read the recent report, which was from the government actually tweeted this a lot. I just want to just find this.
You know, the government when they when they do some, like research on different aspects of the communities living living in the
living in England.
They actually said that, let me let me just see.
Yeah, this was from
governments review into opportunity and integrated integration, which is published just like last month. And from that, among faith groups, the number of people identifying themselves as Muslims grew most significantly by 1.2 million people this last year.
This 72% increase is higher than for any other religious group and Muslims make up the largest non Christian, Christian, many of them are Christians anyway, they just identify themselves so reading whose lives could be the largest faith community in England, make some Muslims make up the largest non Christian religious population in the UK at 2.8 million in total, compared with 0.8 million Hindus zero point 4,000,006 0.3 million Jews and 0.3 billion Buddhists. This is last year 72% increase, Muslims are increasing.
Who knows? The Quran says what what is the purpose of
this great we think, this report and then we're looking at apostasy made me think that the Quran is saying that if you turn away from ALLAH, if you don't practice your religion, Allah will bring other people into religion and take your place
from a vertical and the Quran says that they will not be like sheep. So this is something we need to ponder over that, are we leaving Islam or people amongst us are leaving Islam, and as others are embracing Islam and recurring Muslims are taking our place. This is just one of many verses of the Quran talk about this, there's quite a few verses that Allah will change a lot and bring others into your place into Islam. So it is an important issue and definitely worth talking about. But I would say it's not like an epidemic. And it's really many people are turning to Islam. And this is just last year in the United Kingdom. If you look at other parts of the world, in America, you go to many
people, it's an increase long is on the increase. If you go to New York, I was there last year in New York, there was a literally tons of people on a daily basis embracing the slump. So many people are embracing this not just in New York or of America, Canada, different parts of the world. So more and more people are coming into Islam, and very few people are leaving, but we need to ensure that we don't let those viewers well leaves. Now it's our responsibility. It's a joint responsibility. This is not just the responsibility of the masjid, or the mosques or the Imams or the shoe or the teachers or, you know, the scholars or you know, people who are in positions of authority in the
community. This is a joint responsibility of every Muslim. This is everyone's responsibility. We parents, especially in the Muslim world, are at the verge of parenting. But it's the responsibility of every Muslim, that we ensure that people don't leave Islam now, when we issue how do they show me how to do that? Why are people leaving Islam and that's why solutions and the reasons and solutions. Sometimes we become the cause of people leaving Islam sometimes parents because of course of some some of the children leaving Islam, sometimes the teachers, there's very, very reasons. So that was just my first point. Second point. That was just just the icebreaker. Look, you know, it's not like
it's all not all, gloomy until like everyone's leaving Islam.
Backup of areas, beautiful religion, and thank Allah Moreover, you are useless. And lots of people are the Muslims, because they see they see the Hikmah the wisdom, the
beauty of this religion, one brother I met in America a few years ago, if he became Muslim, I asked him what made you become Muslim?
He said, Well, I asked him I said, what way did he read the Quran? The Quran he said, Actually, no, not I didn't read the Quran wasn't the Quran. I read the Quran somebody afterwards. But I was picked up picked up a book on the sea or the biography, the characteristics of Allah's messengers.
Just three, four pages, and it was so beautiful things written about him. I can't we're all intrigued and interested in photography and can you give me the detailed biography of this messenger of Muslims, Muhammad, I will read about him more. And he said, I read more and more about him.
Eventually, I very loved with this person. And then I said to myself that this person with these characteristics, these traits, these qualities, these are the characteristics and also the messenger SallAllahu sallam, it is impossible. It is impossible not to believe in what he says. Because these are such characteristics that a normal human being cannot have. And it's true. Even another person was told me that it's just impossible. If you read the seal of the messenger SallAllahu sallam. It's just impossible for someone not to believe in Him. But the problem is we don't need it loosened as long
It don't let the car we don't read the biography of the messenger some of some of his qualities and attributes and character traits are basically beyond being a human, we still believe is a human but it's a he's a chosen human being a different human being prevalent in Russia, right? And Russia is not like other human beings. He is, you know, the chairman the rest of them was known. If we just read his characteristics the way Mike's I know that's another topic I want to get off topic, but just like, you know, one of the things he mentioned that there's a hadith of the messenger Well, honestly, in America, the World Organization, political lobbyists, oh, are you sort of passionate
or enable football? I served messenger purpose on a worldwide for 10 years. When you serve someone, you don't just meet him in the masjid. I stayed with him day, night, morning, afternoon evening, giving him food helping you assisting him imagine 10 years from our caller, we often cut to him 10 years. He never even said the word one word of contemplative in our language will be some like,
I used to do that in 10 years imagine can any human lead to
care 10 years, you've got somebody who's your employee, you're the person the business. He's bringing the food, he just did everything in 10 years, not once.
One hour, a night, depending
on the shaky fire to give up. When I suddenly I was supposed to do he never said why didn't you do it? And something I wasn't supposed to do? He never said why he didn't do it in 10 years.
So these characteristics of laws messengers of Allah when you send them people read, see or they become Muslims, they get the a feeling that they fall in love. It's impossible not to fall in love with this message of Amazon, the largest sentiment is religion. I suppose now it's
and we have
talking about tariffs.
And I heard half of this talk. And I apologize, I came a bit late.
So I don't want to talk about that as well. Just briefly another like I said, disjointed place these doubts we can these doubts that come to the mind, I think what he was mainly focusing on some of the objections and 1000 Certain teachings of Islam. And those are of course, very important people need to tackle them, you can understand them with an open mind, like you will see, with a clear mind with an open heart and mind not being pessimistic, not be skeptical, like really going to, you know, with a mind already made up.
However, there are certain other doubts that come into the hearts and minds of the men and women.
And this has always happened, just doubts should cook, perhaps
doubt about everything, it'll people sometimes it's meant to be shut.
Downs about religion, different apps come into the hearts and minds of human leaves. Sometimes the it's like misgiving was was a function. Some of them are to do with
sinful activities like you want to commit the sin or you want to do that, or do you want to do this, but the very, you know, the strong ones, and the dangerous ones are the ones that come with our faith and religion. And these come into the hearts and minds of us believing men and women even good believing men, women, even some of the compatriots are this like for example you up believing you're Muslim used to matter will you be believable, you lie just tells that, you know, isn't a real God who you know isn't really hereafter is there really a life of details and gender John Landau five paradise doubts you know, like, Am I really like what am I doing? Well, this whole isn't is it is a
hell of a deal. The Quran is these doubts, these doubts affect people.
We need to understand that these doubts, do nothing in terms of your EBA and your fleet and draw the inviter plan, if you mentioned isn't in line with the Hadith of the messengers of Allah or he was, this is a sign of EMA. Those companion Asami will give them the messengers of Allah or you send them and he said also, sometimes we have doubts I have doubts in my mind that to bring them on my tongue I'd rather burn in fire and become a coal.
That's how dangerous they are. I can't even imagine to bring them on my tongue, the messenger sort of operation and said Sullivan Iman, is actually one that's clear your mind that shows you're the one who is so worried about them and you don't want to bring them on your tongue. In another narration is a Muslim. When are we going from the scrotum there was more or less the messenger so what he says
You said that Allah Khalifa that is pure faith, that is pure faith. So these doubts like some of the shield may explain this as it like this is similar to you know, a thief or a robot will never come to the heart will never come to our to the house of somebody whose house empty if you've got an empty house for nothing in the no world with
the rubber boot camp shall not only comes to the heart of that person when there is an envelope of EMA he knows that this person has image ons job is to put what was and this is why a very strong remedy for these type of belts is along with many other things that make you think of a more rigorous formula and we'll talk about one or two other things, but a very important remedy is the recitation everyday as much as possible after four prayers before going to sleep or out of the ugliness Ignacia he must be charming was was a nurse and let me give us some some piece of goodness virginity one that's very important. So I'm sure everybody knows,
every Muslim has memorized.
In this we are asking a was protection of God's refuge from Lake Champlain was was in finance. We say pull out the darkness very Kipnis lightness you mentioned three attributes of Allah. And then we say we shall pray Lois was in her nursing levy you must face with risotto Linda's Paula I seek a protection your refuge from the evil of who it was, was it a nurse from that?
Creation that evil the evil of the one who placed with these doubts and was was an misgivings was was a lot of work was was a lot of misgivings in my heart and calmness and the one who puts the was was puts the misgivings and then retreats the word hundreds with like those will erase it to zero to Movado a rocket of said highness. This is hundreds accessing the retreats. No other reason has couple of meanings of this one very important meaning of this is that this Shame on the police when he does
please the muscles are in the hives. As soon as you seek a loss protection or refuge you retreat run away.
You run away straightaway graykey word no one allowed to expenses your comrades a week similarly, Michelle it was wasn't her nurse. He runs away he retreats and he receives a lot of the translator again.
And then we see like a you know like a mouse the mouse look under the hood
take the cheese and go back cookie. This is this is what the chevron does a harness he will retreat. He will retreat. He won't just stay there and keep on putting muscles up as long as we turn to Allah will take over. This is the meaning of Michelle was was a con nurse and this is why the Quran says whenever these type of jobs come in the community volunteers with first aid.
When shame on placing this this doubt in your heart then seek protection refuge or save
time for loss of handle Allah Allah and Shiva is very big limiter in Shere Khan
and his misgiving and his doubts do not have because he is in a managerial administrative or the accident the Nina Wallace of the Board may have shaken
these misgivings and doubts that and whispers that Shavon places in your heart, Nigel it's like whisper in your ear. Nurture in Arabic is a word when someone tells you something secret like you know,
Quran use black for Chevron's misgiving when it comes from like whispers in your ear, and that puts into your mind this, what he said the dog we've shaken this would have harmed me, as long as you don't let it carry on and then you act upon it or say something in accordance with it isn't harm. So nothing to worry about. If someone has any kind of doubts, the company has had it. But as soon as these doubts come, you turn to Allah you practice being and the more you practice, the less these kinds of doubts come and I will just end on this with this point. That this is very important that you know we have a life in which we are connected to Allah connected to Allah. You see, the mind or
body is always a function, you know, the mind of the human being is always function. You know, this mind was giving us every single one of us here, we think about something 24/7 Right now you guys all thinking about hopefully what I'm saying right now, I'm not thinking about somebody else. But as long as we are awake when we're sleeping when we're dreaming, or when we are awake. 24
Seven we are thinking about something every human beings mind is, you know, like in the jungle of thoughts. We're driving a car if you're driving by yourself, if you're listening to something maybe you're thinking about that. But if you're not
then daydreaming and thinking about different different things that drive me you're walking nowadays people take less because their orders on this sadly, but we always take the mind is always thinking about something. What do we mean a think about? We think all robots will 9597 97% of the time when we think about our Lunia. As soon as we wake up, we think about work, job shelf, factoring taxi, money, Inland Revenue, post office letter, even even more letters, emails, the text message, WhatsApp, this app, that
Facebook, Twitter, this person meeting, we finding that person, somebody focused on any decoding or this person or this or that just everything I'm not saying it's wrong, but it's all about the dunya affords 24 hours of Antonia the only time we think about it is very reasonable even as long time we start off with the and then go back to dunya and then we come back to the
how much percentage from 100% of our time is our mind focused on our deen and Allah this is the greatest remedy that our flow of course we need to turn towards Allah. We need to think you know sometimes think to ourselves, this is the one the Quran is filled with verses telling us to contemplate the football or develop more affection to think about Allah think about somebody to drive the car just think wow, we really amazing one day I'll be Jana Sharma sitting in that amazing part of my shop I'll be going there How amazing would that agenda be? And then showers just come out and I might say okay, let's go and have some coffee. Right? This new era
in gender seven will be amazing. The the amazing coffee is just you know, currently magic. Imagine how we see Allah Allah Allah. Allah has said to us last week when women have a witness and observe and see or was proud of the other. So we will see Allah you know the Hadith says in the Quran alone,
you will see in detail Lord like you see this panel is full moon
Full Moon burn, which is not alone most of you will you find no difficulty in seeing it imagine seeing a wall or just a
reflection about around this
mountain is amazing.
Anything for HoloLens you can refer to eligibility closer but will have the capability now they go a challenge. The marches are the creators of typing, reflect imagine imagine this country sadly and maybe more hills that either nowhere right there's only one hills, at least you have some Pennine clothes, but culture that will come to Scotland and amazing these things bring you to Allah these every will frequently show you love to do other than that why every state there is a sign that
so many verses about the phone call up a picker Africa EMEA later Africa now people misunderstand
the response in Arabic word sometimes those who do they mix up they will do with Arabic sometimes the same word but in Arabic Search For Meaning you figure it will do or some other language means what worry this doesn't mean worry here Vega wisdom, remembrance of Allah and Victor
when we have this summer when you're contemplating reflecting deliberately sometimes just sit there for the spouse just reflects us these powers will take you to other
people. Astronomy astronomy has led them to Allah, they are doctors, I've met them personally that their medicine has taken them to the hospital die. Just mostly Andalusi code arises out of
your own body. We have one even understood this, you know, five six feet of the human body and the intricacies of this human body let alone understand the universe and now you know questioning everything about the universe and the creation of the universe and evolution and creationism and all of that we haven't understood until now science has advanced so much we have understood our own bodies not just one forget our body one aspect you speak to specialist I spoken I expressions. So there's so much research probably we've understood canvas and on the eye
this is a nice question is one I just imagined like just imagine what grade narrow this is Allah has given us just close your answer. Sometimes. You know, we don't realize Greg can have a whole lot. You know how to realize an area
realize everyone's going to talk. And when they spend like one hour, I'm going to close my eyes and spend the life without to help you. If you imagine I just gave a talk grown up, close my eyes. Just talk.
Try this. These are things or take a storm. Say okay, 10 minutes. I'm just gonna close my eyes. I'm gonna try to do okay.
Okay, 10 minutes.
And then angula Amazing now on this one now, can anyone make this? Nobody can make this. no science, no technology, no even cloning, you'll be up here. Some people misunderstand what cloning is, I did a reasonable research recently, he will tell you because he had some
upcoming medical seminar with the doctors. So cloning, not nothing is made from scratch, everything is connected. Everything's connected, nothing. All of these things are amazing signs that take us to the last panel to Iowa we should take time out to reflect and ponder as a family sometimes. Now you married us to people who's married to a romantic, you know, Chip somewhere you and your wife or you and your husband. Go and do more with the creation of a house.
Look at the sky look at the hands it's become the kind of scars look at the moon, you know, look up just contemplate seriously, these things take you to Allah subhanaw taala and this is why we're connected to this point. The existence of God was never never questioned ever in the history of mankind.
The existence of a god was never questioned. This is a recent phenomenon. Like maybe 5060 years like all these perversions that have come up recently, the more recent recent phenomena is all of this and atheism atheism and the denial of God has become is a reason there was no question nobody in history you will never find the recorded history but they will people who deny God never even though she want to look at the Quran says what is similar to love they want to know God, you ask them who created heaven and earth is elaborated. And this is why in the Quran, talk about existence. There's no need for that. Like is there something wrong with a braid like this is how you might have crazy
the glasses. Aquila shepherds, what are some of the what can you even doubt in the creation in Allah, the Creator of the heavens and earth? It's like it's a foregone conclusion that God exists. This is why every prophet from undermining slavery was gonna know how do I even do that? Even Jesus and Muhammad Sallallahu, every single prophet, none of them called the people to be a God. They call them to the heat or the eyes of the Quran, the verses of the Quran talk about
position along with me. Who
Well, you know, to me that's why there's
so many verses I talk about the oneness that the read of the loss of power to us, there's no verse in the Quran, that actually talks about the existence of a god.
Because this is like there's something wrong with someone's brain in mind, this is a perversion. This is what happens in good mood in Europe.
It's the natural, the natural disposition, the natural nature, the natural instinct, you know, some of these things are natural, but we live in a time of perversions, what we have learned was conversion. Conversion means you have gone up on a shelf, you've left a balance where you've gone to the right or the left in any aspect of life, when someone leaves the middle of balance when they go to the right or go to the left and that is considered to be perversion. They didn't solve them stopping go this way or that way, in every aspect from and this is why we live in this time where all this you know, people occurrences and also suddenly showering was was the calmness and peace of
holiness. I forgot to finish up their minute genuinely on us.
So what are you saying oh Allah I seek a protected refuge from the one who's getting worse was I'm putting in my mind the mind and heart who retreat minute agenda from Jin and from mankind. In other words, this surah is not just talking about the bleezin Satan talking about shell even in social energy he believes was from the G terminology first.
Okay, so he was from the jinn that this verse this sort of the world is telling us we are seeking Allah's protection from the Shall we shape our basically means away from Allah. literally the worst shape and reshaping. We know
because he's the one who takes you far away from Allah far away from believing Allah. So when it says gene chip on the aura you will check on we live in a time where there's more human challenge today.
One of the greatest creativity on is our nerves, and everything around us the locality that that surroundings the friends that we have, and the things around us and this great you know, mashallah manifestation of technology that everyone has enhanced is playing a massive big role in in people getting all these steps, because you're bombarded with 100 and 400 million ideas, people whose minds are not perverted because they've gone away from the balanced way of perversion, that natural in every aspect, in every aspect, from sexuality from, from faith in God to different aspects. Nothing is now abnormal, anyone doing this to some other things that even in sexuality, you know, we live in
a time where I know that this could be up to misunderstand what I'm saying.
No one should be homophobic. We don't hate anyone who has, you know, different sexual
tendencies. Maybe a good word for it. inclinations, or whatever. Okay, this is of course you don't hate us. Of course, in Islam, you don't hate you don't dislike I actually have a talk on this one. No in Islam, but at the same time, we can't change our religion. It's not permissible in Islam. Homosexuality is not permissible, not just under subsection two, not permissible in Islam. Sex outside. Marriage is also married in a manner that can't get married a woman can't get married to come to America in any sort of sexual interaction is of course is Zina unlawful, but it's a simple activity. You don't hate someone for having doesn't do activity and you have data for them, you have
concern for them just like someone who doesn't. Okay, that's the same message. And as well, this is the same as I said, but what I will say is I'm now moving into a time with X people, you know, I've seen this trend, but there will be a person yet. me maybe like, all these things come together. She's an atheist, for example, atheist, lesbian.
Nora, with gender she, I don't believe in two genders anymore. There is no such thing as what is this this male, female gender, there's no such thing as made a lot of people saying this, there's no such thing as male, female gender. I'm like, What's the word for it?
Transgender. There's all these different different words, I was once reading on this. So that's been
even sexuality, they use all these words, I recently had a talk on this, I was doing some research pansexual and transsexual and this sexual,
very gentle Google Sheet like what does all these words mean? Past. So I checked on pansexual was pansexual. Pansexual is a person who has no particular inclination towards a particular gender, they just don't believe they just say we connected to a soul, whether our soul is in a man or a woman or whatever, like, you know, maybe 100, Allah Allah, but it could be anything. And this is, you know, that's me an atheist. All of these handweaving add to that, some say some sisters might get upset. The feminists that
extreme feminists are lesbians, and at the same time feminists, and at the same time, you know,
was the same, just gender like it's just a perversion of ideas.
So people don't know what's happening. It's like, all the norms that even in Western culture, even United Kingdom the West had normal things which were considered to be normal people are coming off of that and this is why they started question, God, religion and faith and everything, all of these things. It's the mind getting corrupted poverty with all these different ideas. And you know, people are not willing to listen those who are they just weren't interested they're skeptical they're skeptical about everything.
believe in God as I was saying connecting back to this it's a it's a normal thing believe in God is not short. It's no because it's the fifth or the city or what placing the the hearts and minds of everyone else you know why it's not the Quran tells us why
the Holy will render a shadow and that's
why in the hood and had a lovely dinner, every one of us over to this I have just missed out on this promise from us.
When Allah took this
before He created the universe
he took this old from everyone and it's bigger and bigger and I noticed your your load on the indie
everyone, we all agreed
Do you agree? Yes. How
we all allow me to testify these are so this happened, we have to believe it. We don't remember that is I mean, he doesn't even remember being in the mother's womb
you remember seven months, another seven months one day was not bumps because she was just the car was you know she was in the car, maybe while she was going down the stairs and you felt when
Having said that I should people,
people who actually have set a direction remember this, all of that Allah.
like somebody remembers. This is recorded some of the lesson from the self mobility visit is to remember this.
And this is why when we have a child that is born in the house, one of the first things what do we do?
What's the what's the wisdom behind that? Hekmat wisdom is instilled into the heart and mind of the child to read Oneness of Allah shahada testimony result of the messenger mood of the Prophet Muhammad SAW for himself that we are nature. So we might say what's not doing is impact we don't remember that.
It's just like that, you know, promise and treasure that Allah to promises, we don't remember it even this, Adama it's pouring into the mind. And it starts from them, and I'm gonna come to parenting time is very short, gone.
you move on quickly.
This is I will say this is natural. So that denial of a god the existence of God was never questioned. This is absolutely actual normal, as long as we have a natural human mind, we don't have a perverted mind, we have a clean sound mind. Anyone who is has a clean sound mind will be guided towards the last panel data. And those who then get
deviated or who have tendencies towards leaving Islam or start doubting and leave Islam. One of the main reasons many of them, many of the people who left religion, as I said, it's a recent phenomena 40 5060 100 years around that much before this whole leaving this religion was never in existence. This started a lot within the Christian communities and the Jewish community. Many of them they left religion in Islam is like, I mean, we're thinking we're putting ourselves in in the beginning, it's an epidemic, epidemic.
If you compare how many people leave Christianity and Judaism, 200 people live in this nominee, saint is very tough. Many of the wrestlers of That Christian, it doesn't make sense to them. It's just you know, what the reason, one of the main reasons is, and this is my third kind of point to which you might take up number three, I'm not putting other numbers, as I said, disjointed points is that many of them undergo some sort of bad experience in the name of religion.
That experience in the name of religion, oppression, persecution, a lot of them have persecution in the church, etc. And this is the same thing happens within slides. In the name of Islam when there's oppression, where does Horseware witness persecution where you use religion and there's no religion there? Whether it comes from parents whether it comes from religious leaders
this happens you know, people that they just go they make a 180 degree turn like they were practicing but some of them though in practicing families might be for shapes family or something and they were beaten up like crazy right? And then you suddenly like, what is all this negative Islam?
Say what points here this issue another issue too young not believe in in religion, you should not be believing because someone else if someone's doing something, that's their problem, like, we try to take you out and someone says I'm leaving his mom like you did a favor on that person completely. No, you weren't in the first place. You are believing in God that's your own. It's not like you know, I'm betting against you. Because you are pressing. These are leaving Islam we are talking about.
So this is from the beginning. He was wrong. You're practicing Islam was not supposed to be based on someone. But anyway, it has happened. It happens to people because of oppression because of persecution because of this. And this is one of great problems. Now. This is what we need to tackle in our communities. And maybe the Russians, you might have tackled this, but this is really important in many faiths, many Muslim community
There is a misunderstanding or ignorance. There's a lot of Jehovah work through these armies. I've been Medical College. We don't differentiate between culture and Islam. There's so many issues I can list like, for example, forced marriages, there is no place in Islam for forced marriages. It is completely Absolutely, categorically, totally, wholly wholesomely. fully, completely whatever words you want to use, haram, an awful sinful oppression to go on the depths.
Completely a type of force on a boy or a girl, whether it's physical force, emotional force, psychological force, emotional blackmail, are you willing to kill myself? If you don't marry my sister's daughter's living in the same city in the same village in the same alleyway in the same backyard? In Kashmir over in Vienna for something or if you know that I'm going to be with
this is there's no place for this in Islam. Absolutely. Ha, we need to tackle this.
I've delivered many, many various courses. I've talked about this a lot. This new verse, and it's you pick up headaches is clear headed, there is no place for forced marriage in Islam. There's one woman came concert with
her father was the generic somebody. She kept progressing yourself. We also know the homeless and my father forced me to call you for the divorce. Why do you do that it's not she has to stay in this marriage. It's up to her who she lives with. And she has to agree to the one she marries his or her life. You have to live with him. You're married. This is a problem in our community. Sometimes we think that the too long is not used to give Americans like the great grandma for gays marry the great granddad from this side, everyone. Everyone has to match the Greeks and we got to get along with everybody. Otherwise, the marriage is modern. We make marriages difficult.
There's just so many examples where marriages are becoming difficult. Why do we love young people commit haram because the more we close the door for halal, the rules of harm open up, you know, you can't get married until x uncle and ex ante and great granddad from this one. This one, every single person to other people are happy and everyone has their view and opinion. And then everyone and until that one doesn't come from this country. And that one doesn't say yes. And this one everybody's not an eagle and everyone just thought you should. According to the Sahaba the manager was like, Okay, I want somebody today. Yes. Again, tomorrow, after we shall have similar to this job
everybody makes for less than an ETL happened that one companion got married the messenger so got it set up. So he went to a retailer yellow stinky and he said, I bought on Monday. No, because I know I've done my business to be out of state. So this whole international of America has some perfume that's related to that. So
imagine, like today until my great chef doesn't come from Botswana. I can't get married.
He didn't even feel the need to tell them was masochism. A love for himself. marriages. It takes 35 Well, it takes seven seconds to
actually count it. I give myself during marriage, accepting my marriage. Five seconds. Seven seconds once we said slowly I talk to people I said speak less counties, we come to seven seconds. We prepare two years in advance for seven seconds and then the last seven days.
And then we have to make the community happy and the one EMA on this and all these are problems depression comes people they feel depressed and work culture. This has nothing to do with Islam. So culture,
arranged marriages, okay, that's fine.
If you can help family can help, no problem they should have young people should listen to the parents because they love them and for them, but at the end of the day, it's their choice. It's their ultimate choice. If they're making the wrong decision, look, most of the time 90% of the time, it's actually nothing to do with you in any way. So worldly world religion, the worldly reasons why I disagree.
It's just an ego is because she's not no tap on your machine at that temperature would never have made it impossible. It's like 105 As you know, so
most of the time, it's an associate I experiences when I talk to so many people solely through the years 100 And maybe 100 has only been spoken to people about these kinds of marriage issues.
It's most of the time is one of the reasons I can present is Islamic reasons. Parents really think this person is likely to not pray for my son or my daughter than ever right? And they're gone right? And they have you know, that they get carried away in a passionate way in a loving way. But remember, if you print out the loss again another point that if you break up the children from
The young age based on his mouth and the Buddha via you will get to the situation where they want to get married to somebody who's not something
that clashes and come if you start to gain one, so not these things are based on culture in the name of Islam, okay.
Even if you have spoken about gender roles,
that is open, often blind once these are cultural things which have nothing to do this, but then there are certain things which aren't even Islam but then those you have to understand them with an open heart in mind. When the wind Quran tells us that look, in America the man has a right for divorce directly in a woman or directly but she has a longer process with wisdom. I understand that you're willing to everything she wants you. Like I said that is a feminist is an atheist. I say, you know, okay, I'm a half man like I shouldn't be a man like equality. Islam says there's equality between men and women when there's differences like no, there's differences isn't it? Isn't the
differences. There's a man who will give birth to a child no, you know, I can imagine a 14 years down the line that we are more shaky place roughly where they arise you know, we were meant to be pregnant as well. It's not very nice men should be pregnant as well. They should also have menstruation, it could be possible right? It could be this this is why we think going to us is differences is the quantity men and women are equal in the sight of Allah based on a woman who is close to us. But these are gender roles of Allah Allah is a hottie is the creator of the standards that Allah has created men and women he has given medicines responsibilities and certain rights
women certain responsibilities certain rights, and it's a perfect way marriages are destroyed today because I can only say that you know, Allah created man as a man of operation a woman as a woman These are perfect match for one another they match perfectly. The men and women are comfortable with one another they match one another very perfectly like you know, a man and a woman married a man it's a perfect match. But we live in a time where the man has become a woman and a woman has been now you've got a half woman and a half man wearing half man now phones crashing
because people are mixed up the gender roles the man has lost his masculinity has become more feminine even the clothes are feminine tight jeans like you know everything make men as women like just make everything like even the clothing nowadays they have this everything's unisex you know unisex clothing like opportunity you know, some guys is this jacket is if a man or woman who is unisex man woman it's like the guy was telling me that I can see down the you know, a few years the whole these you know high street shops many of them don't have a when you know second floor men section. Women sections just going to be men women section or whatever section this was. So crazy
mixed up. Nobody knows what they're wearing and what they're doing. Everything's just women are wearing men's clothes and men and women wearing women undergone so
it's so this is these are all perversions of the mind. Okay, so shamelessness is a big issue.
Porn is a big issue that takes away from young people away from demons. It's a topic I'm just giving highlights. It's a topic on its own. You know, I recently given talks on an essay recently, he was using the PDF. I don't know why they could be one year to use because everyone talks on different topics, but I can remember one so we did a whole one hour talk just on porn.
You know, this is something that needs to be addressed in our communities how it's a killer diseases and addiction. It's like drugs. You can research on this. It's got dopamine it one has, it has helped me. Yeah, it has. It's a drug. And it takes you're far from Islam and you can't think about that, you know, a process you want. If you did this drug, then you've lost like 80% of your humanity it is. This needs to be tackled how people can see how well your students are involved in how it destroys their life, their marriages. Once you're addicted to it universally, you'll still be addicted to it. I've met people I've met people in their 50s and 60s have said to me when we started
this when we were 1516 where we are in our 50s and 60s. We still can't let go of this habit marriage has not done anything to me. There's many many examples too much too many to sort of mentioned before you test all the sexual perversions of shamelessness, etc. So
we need to tackle these issues. Try to become basically to become patterns in the mind in the heart. Have a heart of modesty higher you know, get back to the balance you must show that once we do that then automatically will believe in Allah when you know that this this spirit of ALLAH will go away.
But there needs to be this
sight, there needs to be a desire, there needs to be a one.
We need to ask a lot sincerely.
You know, I just remembered one incident who I teachers, you may have heard of his name shall we thought it was mighty law. He mentioned this once he's mentioned in some of his books, but even you can find
once he received a letter from somebody from Germany, and Pakistani brother was living in Germany, then gone there for employment working here, Perry, Christian woman, woman.
So he wrote to him, this is funny, about 20 years ago, this incident took place. He wrote to me seven copies, I moved to Germany, and I've been living here for many, many years, I got married to, you know, a Christian girl about anything, etc. And find a now the other day I've had children with her. The other day, I was a saw that she was teaching my child, you know how to worship Jesus and Miro about Christian faith. So he just looked at something happened to me like, you know, he's affected his dad Eman. Like certainly, this is not good. You know, my children is really thinking that my children are gonna grow Christians, like, I've been born Muslim, like my progeny does.
So it struck me. So he wrote to the chef and said, you know, this struck me, I don't know what to do. I'm trying to tell her but she, I spoke to her and she said, No, no, we never agreed on how the children would be brought up.
Christians questions there are going to become, they're not going to be your external religion, which you pull from your country, they're going to be generated within the Christians. So the Catholic women have power control anyway. So whatever you do, you're going to be the way I want them to be. This I'm really like worried and concerned. So your automated solution I do.
So the short route back to look, no worry, brother, Chihuahua.
Make lots of the auto Allah there's a power of Dora, like he was saying was one of the we, we need to connect we need with sincerity. Ask Allah. Anyone who has doubts may go off of someone who's leaving Islam we need to make if you have children like that, as well, we go out for them. And the person really needs to still see the tenant or like with an open heart and mind Oh, God guiding. So he said to him that, okay, don't worry about that. I'll give you a tip while you do is tell you about
your German Christian wife, and you've been married to for many years. Now, look, I want children to be Muslims, and you want them to Christians, like, maybe you want me to turn into a Christian and I want you to accept Islam. I mean, that's the bottom line. Let's both do this. Let's both every night, let's what we do is less go alone in Egypt, in rooms, by ourselves, and with sincerity, pray to God, you believe in God. And I believe in God, we believe in God. So this is not about atheism. Let's prove beseech our God, Your God, My God, let's say, I will say to my God, that oh god, you know, I'm a Muslim, and I please You know, if, if this religion is true with sincerity with absolute
sincerity, that keep me on this religion and open my hearts mind to this religion. And if not, which is not true that okay, you know, let me become a Christian.
Sincerely, and tell your wife to do that as
his wife is you do that as well. Every day
going and make this supplication to God, please God, you know, like, opening my heart and mind to the truth. If Islam is a true religion and opened my heart, you make me a Muslim. And if it's not then keeping on this Christian faith.
And then he said, also, I'm sending the book with this letter. This is what the show is, right? This is a book that I wrote. And he wrote often very good book called warriors Christianity. It's actually your article, I think, and
then it got translated into Arabic Mahi and lasagna. And then it got translated to English. What is Christianity?
This book, so he said, I'm sending you this book. Tell me why you read this every day. Just wondering should they send replied after a week or two? Because he replied back? And he said, Yeah, we've been doing this, but there's no change. Like he's still like saying that, you know, they're gonna Christians, etc. So she replied back and said, Don't worry, nothing to reply. Continue this for 40 days. Normally 40 days is not it's not for to you because something goes wrong, good habits or you know, good things for today's people are set for three days and wanted to but anyway, is that 40 days, just continue for 40 days, and then you know,
after what, you know, he's replied income. And then, after about maybe five, six weeks after past 40 days, he replied back to the show.
He said it's normally according to our culture, I'm so happy. You know, Subhan Allah I've seen he actually said that people believe in God throughs you know, that really.
And proofs and this evidence and people believing God, I've actually seen alone in my eyes like, you know, it's it's clear the existence of Allah.
Then you notice and what happened was we've been doing this for 40 days, and soon after 40 days. The other day, we were in a car my wife was driving. I was in the passenger seat chauffeur driven and she was driving and you're going to some university because he had like, I think, I don't know something to do on the university. Certainly while she was driving she took the car swerved into the silence, really like head onto the steering wheel of like shedding tears, like really really shedding tears.
Everything okay, like
somebody's company's record ambulance, like I picked up my phone and I called the ambulance. You know, there's something wrong. He had an accident just love a car. And she was religiously shedding tears.
She said, No, no, no, no, called ambulance, everything's okay. She said before I can take you to the closest mosque and make me honestly,
I want to say the Shahada.
And then she said for the last two, three days, we knew all this for 40 days, but just two, three days was just in my heart. And having this you know this, in the heart of our God has placed this I need to become Muslim, and this is a truth.
And he he wrote this in the lesson and then he said, this is another lesson as well from my wife, she was writing to you, I can give as well, and letter from hearts.
Now imagine this this is if we have sincerity. Those people who have these thoughts if you have an open mind, not skeptical mind not already mind made up by a professor of philosophy at the University has already said this is wrong. And that's wrong and evolution and creationism. And there's a lot of evidence alleging as I suppose when I say there's no other way to the truth, then of course, if you broke your mind from seeking the truth, you will never see the truth. So you have to keep an eye on asking Allah for soundness and from, you know, protection from diversity and aversion. Now, finally, I'm just coming to the end, as well as religious. I don't have a total
penalty, but just briefly, some one of the things is that a lot of times people and disappointing those questions because the questions are emailed to me so maybe that some people think that combines them with happiness in the world. Why is that all happens in my life? I knew I wanted to read this.
I pray every day. I've heard this from so many people.
I pray so much, but it
wasn't helping me like Why Why isn't
point number one, since when I was having the good wife committed to practicing it? That's my first question. There's no such thing in Islam or anything. You know, we should be practicing the worshiping Allah for Allah for the love of Allah not so that I could watch a video on either with or without pizza. Then our chicken tikka masala, you know, this is how we are transacting with Allah. This deen is not we are not supposed to be praying over for the article. reading all the rewards are in the next slide, Jana, we are an even that for some pious people who are at a very high level, even the community of the civil they worship Allah for Allah not even for Jana. Many of them say Oh,
emotional reason that even if there was no agenda, I will never obey the boss man.
I don't break the law because I don't agenda I want that paradise and I pray to Allah for love because in extreme love, that's a very high level that even if we can't get to that level, we say okay, inshallah we want gender, at least to that level. We want all of this on the next slide. This project mark is sure 50 6070 years is
the average lifespan right now is about 6060 by any day as you get older 65 is a wellness.
The moment is and people are dying like every other day every it's a short life.
This life is full of Chester Charles the Quran says whatever you want to condition in, I hope you will join us in
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you have financial problems in your life. This is normal. It's
This dunya is a mixture of happiness, goodness, and child liberty, hardship. Gender is only when is bliss Hellfire mela protect us is when it's only difficult to hardship. This this is a mixture of both and also real happiness you know those people this dunya everyone faces trials and tribulations and
racism. Imagine our problems anyway compared to the president's office. Has anybody ever placed two stones understand what goes on here?
How would you even do it? Option number one has its pros meet meet each week we do meeting meeting meeting meeting. Now how much Harish are they? Well, Brad says that. Three questions is your password in the household of robotic procedures and incentives, two months, nothing customers know. How much should we eat? We overeat. And that's another topic as well. You know, we should try to balance our diet and eating some good to eat too much vegetables and eat too much. It's not really good to eat too much
balance in that, but imagine how much the rest of our business was stolen is on his stomach. He actually says who are you are Congratula is not even go. You know, when I get fever. I have the pain of fever like the two of you. But then I removed that.
This dunya it's about a *load of nursing. But other than that we're known for the most people who are affected most affected most of the trials and tribulations of profits.
So this notion that if I practice that I should become good, just take that off of your minds. There's no such thing life should be good.
This is a wrong understanding of faith that Oh, I pray but likewise, why is there problems in my life? Well, messages of altruism was the messenger or Yahoo problems me bro.
He was the messenger whatsoever. He said, Yes, there will be one thing that will be when you practice you do that one thing which has been termed peace. internal peace is something else. Brothers and sisters, we've misunderstood what internal happiness and real happiness is. There's one thing called means of happiness. Another is happiness itself is a massive difference. Having a lot of money is means of happiness. Having a car means of happiness, a nice house means of happiness,
wealth, reason, Happiness isn't happiness now you can have all the means of happiness and happiness. And you could have happiness and loads of other things. It's a very important that's what we need to understand. You know, who recently passed away credential sharing valuable about many of you may have heard of all the things you will say, I had all the means of happiness, fame, legal happiness, all the many millions. I was going to hear them building what I was doing. And I was singing that all like you know, but there's something missing in my heart when I tend to be that I call the school in that piece. And that happens we don't get that to put a piece because not practicing the
you know these people talks of celebrities.
Ask ask them if they are depressed. Depression is another problem in our community, which talked about many of the media as they become drug addicts and alcohol abuse. Many of the football players you might know the smokers or ask for it, but we look in his mind in his heart toward what's happening. Many of the cultural crisis points especially when they reach about 3035 Many of them crisis they're not they're not happy with life. Many of them tracking suicide. They go through mental illness issues. Because of there's no peace and tranquility in the life
a guide and the death is unexplained. Those Michaels these are what they said and we'll use that he's not suspicious, but it's unexplained death. I just
love those were the extreme things those are football manageable contacts, people that was two years old died, Was it suicide, who knows what happened? What was going to do his wife?
You might think this person who's got so much money is still not happy.
Real happiness is a miracle is given by the law. It's not in how much money you have. It's not in how much wealthier so we need to bring this you know, color back into our lives. And so yeah, do you not think practicing of DEA has anything to do with having no harsh difficulties? We will have hardships. We are not following the following Islam or believing in Allah because
of worldly benefits. That's the whole wrong idea. If
We are believing in God because of we want worldly benefits. And yes, when we start getting afflicted with hardships and difficulties, I believe as well. So our practice and our forming of these should not be based on that.
And finally, hoping for quite a bit and another
position I was
just final points with a parenting issue. Very important, right, touched upon it briefly.
I touched on it briefly
about parents and you know, the cultural issues.
We live in a time where, like I said, young people that were loaded with all these different ideas, perverted ideas as perversions, imbalance, things about feeds about sexual practices about the mother was about everything what you were being told, and people are being told what you should think nobody should let you tell you how you think.
That's what they say. Don't let anyone tell you how to think it's all the passion data and the force the idea that no you think this way. This was happening. You think this way, it's, this is how we should be. Parents have a big responsibility. We have lots of parents here. It starts from a young age, and a lot of people they realize that children have left Islam a left long time ago, but that our students, my 23 year old daughter has left Islam today. She probably left 30 But she was the team. She never told you from a young age. What did we do? Did we actually contribute as parents for leaving Islam? It's very important parenting issue which of course I recently, I think, a few months
ago, we learned Islam. We did a one day course seminar on parenting from nine in the morning to 5pm different aspects just for parenting, a holiday seminar.
It's a big issue. It starts from a young age.
I said from a young age, if parents are not worried about the the soundness of the children about the EMR
and when I say young he starts from a young young age it starts from infancy not the childhood he starts from infancy not even intimacy sorry I'm wrong. I made a mistake.
Then he stops
which is right.
I was going to go step by step not an agency starts from pregnancy before
pregnancy not just a woman man in
Africa, it starts before that the first right your children have all the you is that you choose for them a perfect mother or father.
When we get married, we think of ourselves like how will you be in the home and how was how good she would complete it for me she'll go to Colombia, we just met someone just think about a woman is only Coco Coco because it is more to life than cooking right?
And as much as when it is giving you so much to marital relationship, but
we are selfish, as long as you know it before your child's boss right? Even before they are born, they have arrived over you
even before they are born, is a different sort of emergent, the high yield a lot of people carefully select where you put your seed because carefully select the mother of your future of globalizing travel whatever you're gonna get from optimization you will receive and get to
choose their mother or choose a father when you get married. Is this person right? Good enough fit enough appropriate enough to be the father of my children. But this man teach my children Islam and bring them closer to Islam or turn them away from Islam and you know, make them far away from Islam with this woman be a good Muslim our mother for my children responsibility but anyway if you haven't done that, it's never too late. from infancy from pregnancy we have responsibilities you know when we during pregnancy the agents that I know that people have to
practice the way you think the mother is thinking good positively. thinking positively vinegar or on restriction of the hormone during pregnancy Yvonne has been instilled and this is scientifically proven as well right? This is
even has been instilled into the heart and the mind of the child. If you are reading a
If we did, there are examples in history and robotics and standard examples in history where young children they were three four years old and when they came to the mother of some of the chef those dots it's not really the already memorized the Quran, we found was only or somebody had been called Regina in the mention of Ottoman even in recent times in the subcontinent. One of the sections that they mentioned about him that he already knew hostages when the moron how because the mother during pregnancy and breastfeeding everyday will reserve that portion.
And he memorized it was the childhood stuff and was the child was being breastfed when you breastfeed even the Father You know how he treats the term is very, very important. You have Eman and faith and that term it goes into the mind of the child you are nourishing the tribal EMA
if during pregnancy Haram has been committed sins of a community
listening to songs and watching movies in Hollywood in Hollywood and whatever whatever
gives example as a joke but if you if your your your mother was breastfeeding your child you're watching Bollywood and your childhood inshallah not each other makes turn out to be so well controlled.
That's what will happen. If you reading around making bigger than your shoulder your child will turn out to be a lasagna.
So from that young age, breastfeeding time, young age better be from every household should when you have young children instill the man in the hearts not forcefully with love.
Practicing on people's account through stick parents a number three they
practice yourself what more rather bizarrely must have been a reveal. If we pray ourselves, we will be able to tell which of my four year old daughter repair domes she comes and irritates
her mother's is what he's eating.
My brother, I want to
pray prayer homes home as a family prayer to children who will grow up on the 234 seen parents make use of Judah before Allah prostrating before making Sergio Rico and loudly recitation of the Quran really stumped and Zima really struggles with difficulty. Reflection think about the easy verse of the Quran to ponder over them reflect on it. Have a collective reading at all. Every day, if not possible at least once a week. Any book is a book a sub zero
in the household mother or too busy nowadays fathers do is money money but mother she's too busy as well. Korea different Maria now children who's going to look after the iPad and ps3 and the TV and cbps You know, the nanny nanny will
then nanny if you have a nanny which is grandmother
but no time. We are so busy and
doesn't come yet but I'm really in five minutes.
We are too busy earning the dunya look. We are too busy trying to make a house or not a home.
Seriously, live in a smaller house and that
is a problem. I will tell you what so I was listening to a radio talk shows that they did a research. They went to 20 schools across the country. They surveyed the class questions from eight year olds to 10 year olds, young children. They said can you tell us what makes you the happiest in your life? Is it earlier that buys you or you won't buy the toys or games or holidays or a nice house a nice car. You don't want majority of them said but 87% of young children at schools this was a research I was just going to do some radio. The thing that makes us happiest in our life is when the whole family eats a meal together.
Children need that connection. Any household with a mother father and everyone in the house can eat together one meal society families is that's a sad family. Take timeout we are only for Him we will use them before we spend the money for them.
Unless it doesn't matter. Give them the love connection. You should have a gadget free zone in your house. I have 1.5 hours in our house. We're gadget free zone everyone's mobile from that includes upon his mobile phone. Yeah, what's actually funds everything should be off phone switched off mother's phone, wireless phone, everyone's tablet, everything if you've got TV, everything one and a half hours at home. Just keep one set
From the phone, if there's an emergency, someone needs to call, you know, people don't have a phone anymore. But
just keep that around if there's something important but nothing, no technology, speak, speak to your children. What did they do at school? Teach them about EMR. And, you know, actually parents should teach themselves many even non Muslim researchers and thinkers they've said that the education that comes from parents is far more effective when that comes from other people. And we need to send them to Mother Son schools of course those experts but that doesn't mean we say we ought to
do your business I don't know what you're doing. That's wrong. Parents should if and if you know that teachers you don't need to be a chef teacher some everyone needs a bit of Dean when you're young children teacher so you've got to build an understanding mashallah young people are very interested in hearing about Islam in protective courses, and a freedom different issues, teach your own children yourself theory to teach them is free as it is.
Teach them home yourself. Take my son every day I teach myself like I want you to understand correctly. So education, young age, give time for children who bring them up like that with attention with love with care, show the goodness of Islam, you know, love of Islam. And as I was saying, have a collective reading every day or at least once a week, every Sunday morning, for example. 11 o'clock, everyone sit together, read a book, everyone has a duty one week we read only to read son, daughter, brother, sister,
get text and we can watch
and read together different books doesn't just have to make a lot of money.
There different books. The outside here, we need Shamar a lot of customers or allies in this era, you know,
read that together. If we have a household that parents bring up their children with emaan with faith with goodness will appear when you see a child with amazing characteristics and there'll be this love for demons love the hearts and minds.
Sorry for going over time. I don't know how long the whole event but these are just as I said in the beginning, I'm just going to talk about some random destroyed points, talked about the Bucha event. Okay, so thank you