Forgive Others So Allah Forgives You

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Every single one of us has seen in his life, we've all done wrong in our lives. We all have dirty laundry. And every one of us is expecting a lot to turn a blind eye.

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Every one of us is hoping that Allah is afforded Rahim and Allah is the most high in the most forgiving. So therefore I'm you know, I'm really hopeful in my heart that Allah is gonna turn a blind eye to all the sins I've committed in my life, and he's gonna forgive me. And I'm just gonna walk straight into agenda.

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You want a lot to deal with you like this. And you can forgive your brother and your sister for something that happened in this world.

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You can let something so trivial, and we're lying about what's happened. I don't care what took place. It's trivial. If you put things in context.

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You can let a little issue slide. You can let it go. But you want a lot to forgive you for years of not praying for years of not fasting for years of drinking alcohol for years of committing Zina for years of Haram. And if I said you're expecting a lot to forgive you for that. And you can find it in your heart to forgive a Muslim or Muslim for something that was far less

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah

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wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah

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we praise Allah azza wa jal, the king, the master the Sustainer, the creator of the seven heavens and the earth,

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and we send peace and blessings upon His Beloved Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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My brothers and sisters,

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with all due respect

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to whoever was on the stage, and to whatever took place.

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But I have to say loud and clear

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that it is very, very important for every single believer to understand

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that the Prophet of Allah says, Man, can you mean Billa he will your mill acid follicle hi Ron Olia Smith,

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the prophet of Allah says very clearly in his authentic hadith, that let He who believes in Allah and believes in the last day, let him speak that which is good, or let them remain silent.

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And this is something that every single one of us needs to understand.

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That the order of the Prophet of Allah who we claim we love,

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clean, direct order, that before any one of you opens his mouth to speak, let him or her be sure that what I'm about to say is good, or else the order of the Prophet of Allah is to remain silent.

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Today, everyone is opinionated and everyone wants to speak on matters.

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This is the very essence of our destruction, that everyone has an opinion that everyone wants to talk that everyone wants to share how he or she feels about the matter. Well, I have news for you No one cares.

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The order of the Prophet of Allah is to remain silent. People think you know Oh, but I'm really boiling up well I have news for you. If you keep an excuse the expression if you keep your mouth shut and you don't speak you actually get rewarded for it.

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So Allah he you know whether this topic or any other topic unless you have something good to say. Honestly, keep your mouth closed while it is better for us.

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Something I had to get off my chest Forgive me, but the

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This low lm Anyway, my brothers and sisters, the topic I've been given

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is forgiveness.

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Well, it my brothers and sisters,

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the topic of forgiveness is an issue of emotion.

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And like I said yesterday, I will say it again today, every single person sitting in this room, brother and sister.

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You have to now right now in yourself, you have to believe that there's no one else in this room. And this talk is fully completely directed to me.

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If you are now thinking about the people in your mind, the people in your life that really need to hear about the topic of forgiveness, then I'm here to give you glad tidings that you are a person that has corruption in their hearts.

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Because if Allah wanted that person to hear it, what law he they would be here, but they're not here. You are here. So you need to ask yourself our law. Why did you put me he

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the issue of forgiveness is an issue of Amen.

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And every single one of us one way or another, we have a problem with someone in our lives.

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And I'm telling you now if you you That's right, not them. If you don't solve this problem out one law he I take an oath by Allah, you will stand before Allah on the day of judgment and you will be in grave danger.

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Because the Prophet of Allah forgive me, you know, I'm already fired up, you know, forgive me. But when the Prophet of Allah who we claim we love, we claim we follow. He says it is authentic hadith, forgive, forgive, forgive those that are on the earth. Forgive those that walk around you forgive those that live amongst you. So Allah azza wa jal can have forgiveness upon you and you meet him.

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show mercy to those who are on Earth. Show Rama, forgiveness show compassion to those that are on Earth.

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Why?

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So that the one in the heavens will have mercy and show compassion towards you when you meet him? subhanho wa Taala

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the issue of forgiveness is an issue of amen

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it's what separates Muslims from believers and those that are on high levels, those who want to achieve status then they are those who forgiving their hearts.

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So I'm sure now automatically now you're thinking in your mind, I'm sure there's a process that's going through your thinking brother very nice talk, Masha, Allah, I like your words. Very cute. Mashallah. But she doesn't understand what people have done to me and how grave The danger is and how grave the crime is that they've committed to myself. Well, today I'm here to speak to you in specifically.

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Today, I'm here to tell you to forgive regardless of how serious the crime was, or worse.

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Muslims or people are forgiveness.

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Believers are those who have Rama in their hearts. We are not people to carry grudges.

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We are not people that carry grudges, and will lie what breaks my heart the most is amongst us Muslims amongst themselves. There's bitterness. There's hatred. There's wars that people go to war on Facebook. They go to war with each other, slamming each other degrading one another exposing one another revealing secrets about one another.

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Where has this Rama gone in our hearts man?

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Where has this mercy gone?

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What has happened

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that we have scooped so low

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and people will mighty Muslims people that go to the masjid. People that pray in the same machine, but they don't give salams to one another one why you see people at funerals, weddings, celebrations. People, please the brothers in the back please if we can have some quiet miles per dollar reward you please the brothers in the back there on the desk.

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Muslims Muslims I'm not here to tell you you know Muslims, people who are standing in Salah but they won't give some names to the guy that's down the road. The guy that's done the the the same stuff he won't give him Salim

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sisters who claim to be believers in this

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and people who claim to hate and we are on one more he hatred for hatred in their hearts they wish death they wish disgrace upon one another.

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Brothers blood brothers will lie I know someone in Sydney, blood brother, he hasn't spoken to his brother since he was eight years old. They live in the same house. One way they sleep in the same bedroom.

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And you asked a brother What's going on? He says one law he says I can't remember it was that long ago, one law he had I remember why we don't talk.

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Family family, people that used to sit on the same table and ate food and past bread.

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We don't talk to them anymore.

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I don't associate with people like that.

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I wouldn't be caught dead giving him or her salams.

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Really,

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this is how the now

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this is what we've come to.

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And people tell me you know what, cuz Listen, I'm afraid going? You know, because back home, I get caught up in many, you know, trying to solve disputes, you know? So, people come to me Look, Brother, you know, there's a big drama over here, please, can you help us out? You know, so, usually Alright, so usually I'll sit with one party and I hear their side of the situation, then I go to the other side of the pot, right? And then I get to the other party, and people Allahu Akbar and help people close it. You know, that listen, brother, I don't want anything more than my heart.

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that Islam is the religion of eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth. We only want our heart. I don't want anything more. And I don't want anything less. These people have harmed me. So I want my rights. And I want that in food. I'm telling you, if you think like this, won't you one line, if this is your approach, I'm wanting, I'm hearing No, I try to warn.

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If you are someone who thinks like this, won't you because if this is the door that you want to open, then Allah will open the same door with you on the Day of Judgment.

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You want to allow one open tip for tech on the Day of Judgment. And if he does, you're all going down fire with this mentality.

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Every single one of us has seen in his life, we've all done wrong in our lives. We all have dirty laundry. And every one of us is expecting a lot to turn a blind eye.

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Every one of us is hoping that Allah is our food or lahave. And Allah is the most high in the most forgiving. So therefore I'm you know, I'm really hopeful in my heart, that Allah is gonna turn a blind eye to all the sins I've committed in my life, and he's gonna forgive me, and I'm just gonna walk straight into agenda.

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You want a lot to deal with you like this. And you can forgive your brother and your sister for something that happened in this world.

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You can't let something so trivial, and will lie no matter what's happened. I don't care what to price. It's trivial. If you put things in context.

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You can let a little issue slide. You can't let it go. But you want a lot to forgive you for years of not praying for years of not fasting for years of drinking alcohol for years of committing Zina for years of Haram. And if I said, you're expecting a lot to forgive you for that. And you can find it in your heart to forgive a Muslim, a Muslim, for something that was far less.

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You know what I love about Sahaba

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I love that they were real.

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And please give me your hearts.

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You see many of us in trying to glorify Sahaba thinking that it's out of love and respect. And I understand you know, many of us when we speak about the companions of the Prophet of Allah, we make them almost as if they were angelic. They never did anything wrong. This is the biggest disease he could do.

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Sahaba were real people

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who had wrongs, who committed sin, who had differences of opinion

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Had quarrels and conflicts amongst one another. They were real people.

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But you know what makes them special?

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The way they dealt with one another

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after one of the battles in Islam, and please Well, I beg you,

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I really want you to leave Norway now leave Oslo, you're not here anymore. I want you to really, I don't know, whatever works for you closing eyes works for you, then close your eyes, whatever it is, I really want you to imagine the story. And I really in your heart, I want you to believe that you are there. While this story is taking place.

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After one of the battles, the companions gathered together, and there was some beauty of war, there was beauty of war. Beauty of war was usually gold, silver, swords, livestock, whatever was left from the army that they fought.

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So the Sahaba gathered.

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And they started giving their opinions as to how they should distribute this booty of war amongst one another.

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So Abu Zahra de la talanoa and for those who don't know a bizarre

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a bizarre is one of the big, big mama companions up there.

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And Abu there was a real real what's the term man? He was Arab, Arab, Arab to the bone.

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Yeah, and even Arabs the Bedouins used to say these guys to Arab for us.

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Really staunch Arab.

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Supposedly, you know when the situation in so when the turn came to a Buddha Buddha gave his opinion on the matter. He says, You know what, I think this is how we should distribute the beauty.

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Then the turn goes around and it falls on bilello or the L'Atalante Rasulullah saw salon.

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For those who don't know Bilal Bilal used to be a slave, he was a black man who used to be a slave whom Abu Bakar purchased and he freed him.

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So when the turn came to be Lal, Bilal says politely to Abba, he says,

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forgive me, but I disagree with your opinion. Allahu Allah, I think this is what we should do with the beauty of war.

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So I

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became so infuriated, he says, Even you Yeah, Bilal, even you, you son of a black woman, even you're gonna disagree with me now.

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For those who have any Dean in their hearts, they will understand that the words that are above are just uttered a massive words.

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So naturally, bilello became so upset.

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What did he do?

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He was so upset, he left the gathering. And he went straight to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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Now, I want to pause you for a minute and I want to talk about the situation that just took place right now, with all respect to the Sahaba and every one of them is here above our heads inshallah. But just for our sake of understanding, I want to speak about the act that bilello just did right now. He left the gathering and went to the Prophet of Allah. What do we call this in our day and age?

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He's a snitch.

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He went to souk, he went to Bob, he went to snitch me into the Prophet of Allah.

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I mean, we're having a quarrel over he, why do you need to like a little girl go to the Prophet of Allah and suka and cry about the matter.

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See, because ElDeen has been corrupted, our footer has been destroyed. Today, we don't live by Dean really deep down in the core. Our principles are not what Allah and His Prophet say. Today the laws and the you know, the the, the, the norm of the streets. This is the code that we live by now.

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Because in my eyes and your eyes bln is a snitch, he went to cry and soup to the Prophet of Allah Nanana we don't do that stuff. No, rather what you and I would rather do you rather keep the issue in your heart, high on the brother and the sister for the next 20 years of your life. any opportunity you get the slim and destroy and eat their flesh and wipe the floor with him. You would love to do it. You won't give her Salim or him Salim for 20 odd years. Right? Because you don't want to be someone that goes to someone that just might be able to help you in your situation.

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You see, bilello didn't want to carry this around. So he picks himself up and go straight to the Prophet of Allah.

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He says this is what took place. And this is what a Buddha said to me.

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These are real people.

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So the Prophet of Allah became so angry.

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He goes to the lot Orlando and he grabs a booth.

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And says, Is are, you are a man that still has j helia. You still have ignorance in your heart.

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What did the Buddha do?

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Did he say that little this and that little that? Is that what he said about me? One more he never

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realizes and acknowledges that I was in the wrong.

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Something that many of us, myself included, were not prepared to do, man.

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That's the truth.

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None of us are ready to admit that we're wrong.

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Too much pride and arrogance in our hearts.

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you twist and turn stories, just so that you don't have to admit that you are in the wrong

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Well, I got news.

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Pride

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belongs to Allah.

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And anyone in the authentic hadith anyone with an atom's white of pride

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will never he will never smell paradise.

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So you can paint it how you want

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a bizarre narrative realizing man

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I'm in the wrong

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How does a brother deal with the situation. He walks in the streets of Medina looking for Bill and

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then finds Bilal in the streets of Medina.

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He goes to the land,

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goes to the land and puts his head on the floor and says by a liability by Allah Bilal, I will not lift my head off the floor until you step on with your food. And let it be known to the people of Medina today. Which one of us is honored? And which one of us is this honor

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and opportunity that most of us would love to have with those that hurt us.

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Muslims they allow Akbar Islam is dripping all over him and her.

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But the hate they carry towards people that hurt them in their lives. Like Savi will lie like savage beasts.

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Many of us we put Nanana will lie. You know what, I forgive them? They hurt me, but I forgive them, but deep down in their hearts if they can get their hands on them.

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So how does bill l deal with the situation now?

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Bill l was hurt.

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He was in the wrong. He's acknowledged he's in the wrong. He's publicly announced that I will not lift my head until you step on it with your foot.

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What did he do? Did he jump on his head.

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He gets down on his hands and knees he kisses him on his forehead and he says I forgive you and I love you for the sake of Allah done, finished dusted, never to be spoken about again.

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This was Sahaba

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this was the way our fathers and our mothers dealt with one another.

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To forgive to let it go.

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No matter what the crime

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no matter what the crime forgive, and let it go, man.

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Who are we?

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Which one of us here in this room? I challenge anyone from myself and work your way down? If you like, I won't lie. I question anyone who ever sees free from sin.

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Whoever she has never made a mistake.

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Whoever she has never been in the wrong one time or another in his life.

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None. So what's the big deal?

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Let It Go man, forgive one another, have Rama towards one another? Not for this sake. You know some people think about I hate this person. This person is so arrogant. My brother and my sister. It's not about them. They could be the worst people they could be the scum of the earth. But it's not about them. It's not about if they're worthy of my forgiveness or not. It's about me on the law.

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If I can find that in my heart to forgive, then On what grounds on what logic? Are you expecting a lot to forgive you?

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And why people come to tell me their problems. It's so pathetic. It's so trivial.

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Yeah, this is what they posted about me on Facebook. And this is what they said about me. And one time I was in a gathering, you know, and they never came up to me, you know, and we've invited them to all of our functions and all of our weddings, and they've never invited us to any one of these, you know, we go over their place and just the most pathetic rubbish I've ever heard.

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Really, have we become so shallow?

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Was this quality of Rama? This quality of forgiveness?

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You know, my wife the other day was showing me a post on Facebook. Right? Some woman was putting her situation about her husband between her and her husband, you know, and she's asking the sisters, what do you think I should do? Allahu Akbar a whole list a whole lineup of girls Yeah, if that man screwed him leave him The hell with him.

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Lucky find the funny

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you actually find that funny?

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Whatever happened to you know give him a go try to work something out. Maybe we can bridge the gaps speak to someone No, no, no, no The hell with him.

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We've become a disposable society.

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Gillette's

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you don't like it throw it in the bin get a new one.

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He hurt you she hurt you. The hell we thought get a new friend make it just rubbish. Everything's become rubbish in our time.

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Was Ramadan

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way

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where's this? Where's this making? Peace? Where's this forgiving ways we can understand?

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You know, we we claim to be the followers of the Prophet of Allah.

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Then I ask and I urge and I beg one more here I begged them follow him sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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One more no matter what's happened to you or your family or I don't care what it is.

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When you compare your situation to what happened to the Prophet of Allah, will Moy it dwarfs?

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My sisters you know what you know, will lay my brothers and sisters I

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it's it's amazing. Amazing. Your profit, your profit. your hubby? The one we claim that we love the one we claim that we're ready to give our lives for. Yeah, our beloved prophet more than one lie. I tell you don't follow me. Don't listen to my words. Don't follow the opinion of Masha. Allah. I'm just urging you, I am begging you to follow your prophet.

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You know the Prophet of Allah was the most loved young man in Mecca. He was the pinup boy. He was the boy that all the girls loved. He was the guild that everyone in the community loves a surgical I mean, the most honorable and trustworthy young men.

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Then he embraces a religion. Then he is told that he's the Prophet of Allah. Nothing changed. He was still the same guy. He went from a surgical Ameen to the most loved and he became the most hated.

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He was mocked, he was belittled. You think these cartoons are big, the prophet of Allah was they spit in his face sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as he was praying as he was in Salah. You know, sometimes even on the streets, there's a code, even amongst gangsters. There's a code of do's and don't do you know, you never hit a man that's not ready for it's called a doggy. You know, it's got a bug punch. The guy was looking.

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The man saw the law Selim he was praying in such that there is the command throw the guts of animals, the guts of dead animals that is to pour on his back sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as he was in Salah.

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They harmed him, they swore at him. They threw rocks at him. They throw dust in his face. They spit in his face. they mocked Him, they belittled him. They have these families. sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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So don't come to me with your little movie. You know

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13 years in Makkah, 13 years prosecution for what? One more I asked What crime did he do? What? Because he caught the towhead in Mecca people used to make the left around the Kaaba naked, anything and everything when in Mecca 365 idols. So what's the big deal? A man comes to claims there's only one God, what's the big deal? No, they went one light, they, they exhausted every avenue to make his life miserable sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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they kill these companions.

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His companions, you know, forgive me, maybe this is a bit much. But if I can speak, Huck, they really what are we here for? So my year sumaiya a female companion,

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a female companion for what crime?

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What did she do?

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Why because she says La la la la.

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In in Mecca in front of the Sahaba in the presence of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. They opened her legs, and they read this feed private pa and they killed off in front of him sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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His daughter was stabbed she was pregnant. They divorced his daughters for for what? What crime. I just wanted What crime

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they stabbed his daughter son. She was pregnant. She lost her child because of that step. She ended up dying the following year that same me she ended up dying as a result of that wound.

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For three years they boycotted him in Makkah. Three years they boycotted him and all of his family, even the ones that were non Muslims. They boycotted them for three E's Sahaba said we were eating the leaves of the trees. Our droppings became not the droppings of animals.

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So much harm was inflicted amongst them upon them.

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Again and again, hostility when he went off by if they pelted him for kilometers. I mean, a man comes to your town alone. You know, if you don't like his message, tell him to go back. Now that wasn't enough for them. They sent their children and they sent the mad people of the city. four kilometers chasing him saw Sal and pelting him with stones. He was bleeding from head to toe.

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In the Battle of hot or hot, they killed his uncle Hamza rodilla, not killed. They didn't kill. They absolutely mutilated the man Salalah right. They muted him rhodiola talana mute muted his ankle. I mean, imagine him ripped his liver out. She took a bite from his liver. She chewed it and this fell on the floor.

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Sahaba said, we never seen the Prophet of Allah cry. Like he cried when he seen his uncle hanza we never seen him cry like that. In the Russians. He prayed janazah on his uncle 70 times.

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All these

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all this?

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And when he returned to Mecca

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after years of prosecution

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when he returns to Mecca, with an army of 10,000 companions, the likes of which Arabia never seen before.

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And he entered into Mecca victorious.

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How did he walk into Mecca?

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In narrations he was on his animal he lowered his forehead so much his forehead was touching the back of his animal he was praising Allah saying today victory belongs to Allah alone

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when he stood in the harem,

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and there's 1000s of people who have the kuffar not Muslims kuffar.

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Now they are surrounded by 10,000 companions armed to the arm to the bone ready at the drop of a word. They were ready to give their lives for him some Allahu alayhi wa sallam, they stood there, surrounded by 10,000 companions. Now knowing we have this man for 20 odd years, we killed his children. We killed his companions. We mocked him we believed him. we wipe the floor with him. Yeah, all these towards him some Allahu alayhi wasallam now he returns Victoria.

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As

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he says to them, and what do you think I will do with you today?

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Many of us would love to get our hands on those that hurt us when

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he says go

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is horrible for antimo tilaka go every one of you is free. I forgive every single one of you

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so far,

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and he forgave him.

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Your own Muslim brother and sister You can't forgive.

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Really?

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You can't forgive them.

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Why?

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Do you feel like you're something in your heart Annie.

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Pride

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belongs to Allah.

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Have mercy amongst one another, my brothers and sisters?

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forgive one another.

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Well, I don't care what the crime? I don't want a single person to stand up in a question and answer and throw me a scenario because one lie I'm gonna throw a straight back in your face.

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Forgive and let it go, man.

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Forgive and let it go.

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barrier.

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And voila, here as soon as you forgive, you will feel an instant increase of Eman.

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You know many of us my brothers and sisters. We're carrying mountains of hate on our shoulders, man.

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And many of us, we want closure to situations that have happened to us.

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Well, I'm here today to tell you

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go to those that have harmed you. Go to those who you harmed, and sincerely

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ask for forgiveness or forgive them.

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Because some of us now you're thinking you know what are the brother said a couple of nice words. I'm going to forgive that person. But I'm not going to let them know that I forgave him. I want to say face in front of the people, this arrogance and this pride will be your distraction. I'm telling you go and make a public that I have forgiven this person. And may and this person will equal with squared. The accounts are clean.

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I'm not telling you to become best friends and go to the park and feed the ducks. I'm not telling you to do that some people in your life they're actually bad for you and you're better off without them. That's not the point I'm making. I'm saying forgive and let it go.

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Forgive and let it go.

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Well I forgive me ma'am. I don't know where my time went.

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But I want to end with this.

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The Prophet of Allah was sitting in the masjid authentic hadith.

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Prophet of Allah was sitting in the masjid. And the Sahaba were they

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and the Prophet of Allah he says to the companions, he says, a man is about to walk in.

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By Allah, he's from the people of paradise.

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I want you to imagine you were sitting in that gathering, and the Prophet of Allah takes an oath by Allah, that the person that's about to walk into this gathering now is from the people of paradise.

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So the Sahaba they started, you know, speaking amongst one another arch, who do you think it is? You know, who do you think it is? They thinking man forget some big Mama's guy and he somehow Omar's gonna walk in and one of one of one of the big boys

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so a man walks in

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half of them never knew who he is. They didn't know who the men were like even his name is not even mentioned in the Hadith.

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Today, every one of us thinks you know what let's look at the big this is Islam Yeah, look at this person, man and look at that person.

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Well, ah, human Allah doesn't look at actions when

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we judge each other through actions

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because we're shallow.

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A lot judges hearts.

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So they looked at each other and they said, who's who's this man? So the man walks in, no one knew him.

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The second day the Prophet of Allah same gathering, takes an oath by Allah says the man that's about to walk in buy allies from the people of paradise. So they look at each other. The same man walks in three days in a row. My time is up three days in a row. The same man walks into the garden.

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So one of the companions he says, Man forget this I've had enough for

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this display. We don't even know his name and the Prophet of Allah is telling me he's from the people of paradise. And I've given everything for Dean and the Prophet navigate he never guaranteed me paradise.

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You know these companion his name was Abdullah Omar

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Abdullah Mohammed Abdullah. Let me just tell you a bit about Abdullah le so you can understand how deep the story is. Abdullah is the one who said man who's this book three times it was promised paradise and I haven't been promised. Abdullah is the son of Amitabh the last armor class was the companion that opened Egypt. Yeah, you with me? amaryllis is the companion that opened Egypt. His son Abdullah was one of the greatest bird one of the greatest people to ever worship Allah. And I'll tell you how.

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In narrations, integrations, integrations, they say, the gap between Abdullah and his father hammer who knows 11 years

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between father and son between between Amma blas and the son of the law 11 years. You know what that means?

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Jamar had Abdullah when he was 11 years old man.

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Try I've got brothers they're 35 years old. These two single cause you thinking about getting married? While I'm too young.

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too young.

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Have you heard about 10 minutes that was taken from me for people to sit down? So please give me 10 minutes.

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The brothers and sisters they're 35 years old, still not married? What's going on? In our look? Well, I picked up I'm a very practical thinking guy. And I think logically, any brother who tells me he's 35 years old and he's not married. It's just me while I'm not thinking about it.

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Forget I mean, there's some young people he'd be good for you man. Either you're doing some shift is on the darkies man or you got some serious problems where?

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Anyway, so the difference between Abdullah and his father Ahmed over the last 11 years. And Abdullah was one of those young boys who from the word go was one of the greatest Abed he worship Allah day and night. So much so just to paint the picture of how much of Abbe de la was, he was so much of a habit, his father hammer, he had to beg his son to get married.

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He begged him, I begged my parents and they live let me get married. The opposite of today. His father had to beg the law please get married.

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So his father forces the man to get married. Now, please, authentic Hadassah? I want you to imagine this. Abdullah young men never seen a woman not like you and I never seen a woman in her arm. Now. You know, he lives in Medina everyone is covered is probably never seen a woman in his life. His father urges the man to get married. Then on the night of his wedding. Imagine this. You're a young man. You got a beautiful bride that speaks to her so far. She's all she's all pampered up, she's ready to go. She's sitting them you know, it's my wedding night.

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She's waiting there on the bed. She's waiting for her young husband to come. He has a young bride in there.

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He comes home after a shot. His wife is waiting. What do you think is going to take place? So he comes on?

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And he says Well, look. This is the wedding night. Yeah. So look Mallesh Forgive me, but do you think I can pray to the cart before? You know?

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Which one's gonna say no, she's thinking yeah, of course, man. I'm waiting inshallah you you you.

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You pray, you know?

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He's wedding night.

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So he walks into the room. He says Allahu Akbar and praises to the gods from A to fortune.

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And she's waiting.

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So I'm sure she fell asleep 100 times. So she said look, Mashallah, this while you're married, you know? So she thought, look, definitely he's gonna go pray fudger and then pass it on.

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So he goes to pray fudger and he comes back. She's waiting there with that smile. And he said ISIS, Oh ALLAH forgive me, but I'm fasting today.

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For three days in a row. He fasted the days and prayed the noi and his bride said they fully adorned on porch.

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untouched, pray to one lie. I wouldn't have even prayed a shower all together

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for three days in a row.

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So I'm up in the last he comes after three

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As you know, he wants to check up on his new daughter in law. So it comes up to his daughter in law, his sister, you know, what do you reckon about the liner? She has? Well Ariana, you know him better than me, man. I've been there for three days, he hasn't touched me.

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So he was so angry, he grabs his son takes him to the professor of law, he says, You deal with this guy, man, this guy, he's killing me.

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While I didn't show this to entertain you to understand what sort of men of the law was. So for a billionaire to sit in a gathering and the Prophet of Allah promised to summon paradise, and he didn't promise in paradise. This wasn't something he took very lightly.

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So Abdullah comes to this man.

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And he puts together you know, as I say, back, I'm filming Hindi and I love like a Bollywood movie. And I like like a lie. He says, from looking at me and my father, we've had some dramas, you know, do you think maybe I can stay at your place for three days?

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He, he wants to sell you know, what's, what's this man doing? I'm not doing

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says yes, yes. Yes, of course. Please. You know, come, you're my guest. So Abdullah says, I watched him like a hawk.

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What's he doing? I'm not doing them.

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He says, so you know, we prayed a shirt. We came home.

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I thought 100% he's going to crack the 100 now all night. He says, and to my amazement, he came home. He went to sleep, woke up just before fudger prayed some tahajjud and when prayed fudger he says I was shocked. I thought looked around. Maybe it was an off night. Making excuses. today. You and I don't want to make excuses. Nanananana 100%. That's what his intention was.

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sob The law says, Look, I made some excuses for the man. He says he slept. He slept the night woke up just before fudger he prayed some tahajjud. He said, we went together to pray fudger he said 100% he's fasting. He says to my amazement, we came home and he made some breakfast and invited me for breakfast. So what? What's going on? He says for three days in a row. He didn't fast the day of them. And he only you know, he only prayed a portion of the nights. So after three days of the Lord's gonna rip himself apart. Some leukemia man says I don't have any dramas with my father. But for three days, the prophet of Allah was promising you paradise. So I wanted to see what you do.

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That's so special. So I got news for you says I watched you for three days. And there's nothing special about you, man. As far as actions are concerned, I'll put you in my pocket any day of the week.

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So the manga is now alive The lion this this this is it man. I'm not I'm not hiding anything from you. This. This is why

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this is a show there is nothing that he has not realized. As you see. Since I find Thank you very much. Thank you for your hospitality. You know, he packs his bag and he leaves.

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So as Abdullah walks away, the men remember something he says Abdullah says what's that? He says there is one thing that I do.

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He says please tell me.

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He says every single night Please listen. He says every single night when I put my head on the pillow. I forgive every single Muslim in my heart.

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Abdullah says by Allah This is the action that has made you from the people of China.

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Today we like big names of companions like Khalid bin Walid and Omar Abdullah hottub. And of course, these are all

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but what about companions like Abu dum dum?

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dum dum in the authentic hadith the Prophet of Allah was collecting charity from amongst the companions and the Sahaba was standing up giving big money of Prophet of Allah, this much gold or prophet of Allah this much and this much, and I will dump them set their rod L'Atalante he was a poor man who had nothing. So he felt so bad in his heart. So he makes an oath between him and Allah. He says, Our lot tonight, I sacrifice and I give up my art and my honor and my rights, I give it up to the Muslims.

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So the next morning,

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the prophet of Allah gathers the companions and says, Who is the one who gave up his honor and his rights and he's Who is the one that made the charity between him and Allah last night? Who is he?

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Sabo dum dum became so embarrassed.

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The Prophet of Allah after insisting Who are you and make yourself exposed, abou dum dum, embarrassed stands up and he says, a prophet of Allah, it is I. He says By Allah, Allah accepted your charity last night.

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Where is this quality? Where is this quality? And for us, the perfect of Allah after this, whenever the companions would grow, one lie whenever they would disappear. He would say why can't you be like Abu dum dum?

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Nah, that told me about the stories man

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then told me about the stories and let me end I've got two minutes. I said forgiveness is an issue of Amen. Yes or no.

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You might think you know what, I've had some dramas with this person The hell with them. I hope they die. I hope I like destroys them. I'm going to stay away. And many of us we think, you know what, I don't need that person in my life. Let me carry on with my Deen and let me do things and what you know. And on one line, my brothers, I've got news for you. If you think that I can have a fight with you or a dispute with you, and you go your separate way and I go my separate way. If you think that look, let me go to Hajj. Let me do a couple of cameras. Let me grow a nice bead or maybe wearing niqab and that will suffice for the drama between me and that person. I have news for you, man,

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authentic hadith. And please listen, the prophet of Allah He says every single Thursday, your weekly actions are collected they gathered and they presented before Allah and Allah forgives all sins, except except except those who have dramas between each other.

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boy did I leave the best to last.

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So I don't care what you're gonna come with. You could have had a problem with your brother or your sister or or anyone else for that matter, and you no longer speak and since that time you memorize and you've read the hash every year since then. And Allahu Akbar you've had a sales and people become Muslim on your hands. I'm going to tell you everything you did from that moment till now equals to a big fat zero in the eyes of Allah

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boy do I love this topic because it really gets in there man

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don't think you know I can walk around with a nice nice bead and a nice white Abbe and my big stomach and say look at me I'm the ideal Muslim man.

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Slam gets right in there bro slam will break that pride it will break that knifes and into you understand that you are nothing you value to nothing equal to nothing or pride or honor or status belongs to Allah and not to us. You're in a world of hurt man.

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So my brothers, my time is up again. forgive one another Have mercy amongst one another. So the one in the heavens can show mercy upon us. A cola cola has a softer lolly welcome.

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Often when I ask Allah for forgiveness, I lack the sincerity in my words. Someone told me that if I don't have the sincerity, I should not ask Allah for forgiveness is that so? No, this is not so

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you never stop a good action because sincerity is not there. This is the first trick of shaitan shaitan will come to you and tell you brother and sister stop doing this good action because your intention is not correct. The scholar say you keep on doing the good action and you work on your intention. You don't stop the good action and then say look, I'm gonna stop my action. I'm gonna work on my sincerity and then I'll come back and do the action. In almost every case you would have lost both ends. Know you keep on doing the good action. And you work on your sincerity and you work on your Nia with Allah azza wa jal so my sister or whoever the you know who whoever that was, if

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you're asking Allah for forgiveness, keep on asking ALLAH and work on your intention inshallah.

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Is Akasha. I think we have a question for the brothers.

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Thank you for speaking.

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It wasn't really speaking. It was more Shelton.

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Thank you for speaking.

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I'm a Christian. So thank you. Thank you for allowing me to come here to this conference.

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I have a question about forgiveness.

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I agree with a lot of things you say about forgiveness. And I think it's so important to forgive each other. Because how can we expect God to forgive us if we don't forgive each other?

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But for me,

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you know, I we agree that God is holy, and that God is just and that God will punish sin.

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I struggle to understand the Islamic concept that God can forgive sin, without any punishment without any consequences. It seems Oh

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Almost like he can ignore sin,

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but from what I can What sorry? Ignore sin. Yeah, if you if you ask for forgiveness in Islam, it seems that God will ignore your sin. But that seems

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from my perspective, I think God hates him and God will destroy him. So can you please explain this? Okay, inshallah, before I do, sir, I really need to clarify my position, I'm really not the best to speak about, especially with comparative religions, I'm sure there's better people fit for this.

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There's a few things that I can just I would like to clarify both for Muslims and non Muslims. Number one, Allah forgives all sins.

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But Allah is also just, Allah will never forgive me for a sin. That was, if I perform a sin that harm then individual, Allah cannot forgive me for that sin. Why? Because I took the right of an individual. Therefore I need to seek forgiveness from that individual. Allah cannot forgive an individual for something that he harmed someone else with. So in Islam, and this is important for Muslims,

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Allah forgives all sins that's between you and Allah. Allah can do as he pleases, but Allah is just

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don't ever think that I can steal money from this brother, but I'll patch her up with lots of dough and lots of salah and lots of whatever you want, and think that Allah is gonna forgive me for it. No, Allah will forgive me for the sin of maybe stealing, but Allah, Allah says, it's not in his place to forgive me for harming him. You need to seek permission and forgiveness from that brother.

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So as far as Islam is concerned, yes, Allah forgives all sins, but not since that have to do with other people. You need to seek forgiveness from each other. And then what and then whatever is between us and Allah azza wa jal, right, Allah subhana wa Taala can forgive Allah subhanaw taala as the

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as the young man was saying that Allah subhanaw taala hate sin and the last part Allah will destroy sin, right? So he's saying that God hates sin, and that God will destroy sin. Yes, of course. But Allah in His nature, he says, My Mercy, he says, My Mercy and my forgiveness, overpowers overcomes my wrath. Whatever is between you and Allah azza wa jal, Allah subhanho wa Taala can forgive all sins, anyone who seeks forgiveness from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So long as my crime is between me and Allah, Allah can forgive. As far as the Islamic perspective is concerned, what separates Muslims from anything else is that as you know, as a Muslim, we don't need permission from anyone, or a need

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to go to any man or to any concept or to any idle alter anything. If I've done seen if I've done wrong in my life, between me and Allah, any place any situation, wherever you are, whoever you are, you turn to God you raise your hands, you ask for forgiveness, and Allah says I will forgive all sin.

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This is Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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I really hope that answers if it doesn't answer, I'm sure there's some brothers in the crowd that would love to help you out. They're more fit for the job. Forgive me. I'm not I'm not sort of best for it.

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Is that I think we have a question from the sister side.

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Sorry, sister before we talk. You know, brothers and sisters, if you're walking around to do something, I understand. But when you talk, it's very disrespectful for the ones who are asking the questions and the ones who are so pleased inshallah, if we can just have some quiet, my last month Allah reward you.

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How can you seek someone's forgiveness if you have spoken about them badly, but you don't want to go to their face? and mention it to them?

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Why I'm sorry, can you speak? Just how can you seek someone's forgiveness? If you have spoken about them badly, but you don't want to go to their face? But you don't want to mention it to them? Basically. What do you say you don't have to mention exactly what the scene is. You know, sometimes in this confrontation of going to the person, there's a lot of purification in the

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butt. But you still have to go to them and tell them that yes. Yeah, of course, what will we see one is acknowledging that I was in the wrong. So let's say for instance, I've harmed you.

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And again, this is brother or brother and sister and sister one or the brothers now to go back to the ex girlfriends and say, well, lots of medical love Forgive me.

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No, so this is alright. But say for instance, you know, I've had my brother and I've spoken about him, I've slandered him, then yes, you know, this is Dean, it's not easy. You need to man up, right? You've done wrong. You need to go to this person sincerely with loving your heart. And so my brother will likely Forgive me. But I have said things that have you know, I've said things to harm you. I have done some bad things towards you. And I'm asking for your forgiveness. You don't have to argue. And one time I you know, and one time I said You look like an animal and I think one time I said You look like you don't have to get into the details.

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But that person has a right

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if that person

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says, Now I want to know exactly what you said, and that person has that, right?

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And if you think that's too hard, well, then that's a lesson to never do it again.

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You know, but if you've harmed someone, go to that person and say, my brother or my sister, you know, I've spoken ill about you. I've said some things about you that I shouldn't have said, I've acknowledged that I'm in the wrong, you know, it was wrong for me to do it. I was ignorant at the time, I asked Allah for forgiveness, and I'm asking you for forgiveness. And anyone,

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anyone who asks for your forgiveness, and you don't forgive them, will lie to you. And

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really,

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someone comes to you, he humbles themselves before you and they ask for your forgiveness. And you say, No, I don't want to forgive you.

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While you're, you're really in a wall to hurt man. Sorry. Okay.

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Does that clock I think we have another question from sisters. And

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I was wondering if you do an action towards the person and you ask for forgiveness, but they don't forgive you. Where do you go from there?

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What's your question? If you've hurt someone, and you ask them for forgiveness, and they don't forgive you? What do you do? Yes. Is that the question? Okay. I've done something to hurt someone. I've seeked this person's forgiveness. This person doesn't want to forgive me. Then you need to do your best and Allah knows what your best is.

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Allah knows what your best is. Many of us say Will you know have you look, I don't know if you have this culture here. But I know it's there in Sydney. Do you guys get that text message before the season of house you know, two, three weeks before hedge hamdulillah but the blessing of Allah azza wa jal in sha Allah Allah Allah smart Allah has blessed me and my family in this he will be going to do Hajj inshallah, to Allah. So please, inshallah Allah, if I've ever hurt you or harmed or spoken ill about you, please. Do you guys have this culture? He? Yeah. I don't think I've ever seen more. I don't think I've ever seen a more pathetic message than this one.

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Really, you know what, sometimes I get the message. I don't know who the person is. Like, there's actual no name. It's just a phone number. So you know what I say? Well, I always reply, no, I don't forgive you.

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And then and then I get stuff on camera. Number one, I don't know who you are.

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And I don't know what you're asking forgiveness for.

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This is not forgiveness. I

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don't think you can patch up, you know, slamming me and wiping me with the floor. Right and disgracing me and my family and causing harm towards me by a little text message. And then use it so for looking at what I've done my part if he forgives, if he gives, if it doesn't work, then the hell with him? You know? No, that's not how it works.

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Yeah, really, it's not how it works.

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You know, when when? When will we start to stand up and man up to our responsibilities?

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You did wrong than stand up like a man and admit you did wrong?

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Um, what if? If you ask your parents several times for forgiveness, and they don't forgive you? What should you do? And it's the same thing with we have a similar question, but it's, what if a non Muslim does you wrong? Do you still you know, know what, if you do something wrong to non Muslim, do you do still have to go and ask for forgiveness? Yeah, of course, of course.

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And what about the parents that the person has asked for forgiveness several times, but they don't forgive them. Any person that's had some issues with their parents, and you've asked for forgiveness again, and again, and again, with your parents in specific, you keep on asking to the day you die, really. And if your parents refuse to forgive, look, as long as you genuine, you sincerely ask and that person doesn't forgive you, then that burden has been lifted off you. You've done your part. But that doesn't mean though, that look, I asked for their forgiveness. They didn't forgive me. So now I can go back and re investigate the issue and justify my actions with the fact that I asked No,

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I asked the person I humbled myself, I did my utmost best, and they still don't want to forgive me, then in your heart, make up for them. And ask Allah, Allah so Allah, I heard this person, I understand that I don't want to forgive me. I've done my best, I really am genuine and sincere. Right? And then Allahu Allah, and maybe you in your own mind, you can suss it out, maybe you think when maybe right now's not the best time. Maybe I'll give it a couple of weeks. Maybe I'll give it a couple of months. Maybe I'll come back and I'll try again. You know, but as long as the initial step is taken, if the person refuses to forgive you, whether it's your parent or anyone else, these

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people have to stand before Allah really, and they're going to have to answer to that man and that's not something like sorry.

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I think we have one question over here. If what should you do in terms of dictators who are killing Muslims in different places for example, Bashar should we should you forgive people like that? This is beyond me. This one I'm allow Ireland to the best of my knowledge. I'm sure that there was a specific category for this that I don't know about sovereign common about. Okay. Do we have questions?

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Yeah, tobacco a non Muslim, is that the same thing to eat the flesh of your brother?

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Again, with this one man, I've heard a few opinions. So, but backbiting in general sister should be a quality no Muslim should ever have. Okay? Really,

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you know if while I if I had the time I would speak about backbiting and then I would really make you the burst. Really backbiting is a service in that we really need to get out of our lives. Sorry.

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We have another question. In regards to backbiting a person is asking if I'm backed by a lot, and I don't even remember all the people that are backed by it. What should I do now if I die without telling them? Okay, if you've backed billion people and you can't remember, then remember.

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Really, remember, because it's not amazing how you never forget people that owe you money.

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Have you noticed if you ever forget to

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remember the guy who took $3 for a pie at school,

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never gave you the money back.

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But really do your best to remember them. Do your best and then those who you genuinely cannot remember, genuinely, I can't remember them. Then ask Allah for forgiveness on their behalf. That's That's really funny, but do your best to remember them.

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Is that we will take one last question. How can I forgive someone who doesn't even ask for forgiveness?

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Again, it's not about them.

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It's the person you know, he hands me and doesn't even ask for forgiveness. It's not about them. That's between him and Allah.

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If I've had some dramas, sorry, again, I'm gonna point that down then. If I if I've had some issues with our men here, yeah. And we've had some dramas and he doesn't even want my forgiveness. He makes it clean the hell with you. I don't even want you forgiveness. Get out of here.

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Even then, I need to come to him and tell him Look, whether you forgive me or you don't, that's between you and Allah. But I want you to know that I forgive you. And I asked a lie and I hope that you can also forgive me somehow and then you need to know as of this moment I have nothing in my heart towards you.