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Muhammad Alshareef

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Episode Notes

Indeed all praises are due Allah, we praise him and seek refuge in Allah from the evil that lies within ourselves and the wickedness of our deeds. Whomsoever Allah guides, no one can misguide and he who leaves to be astray there is no one to guide him. To proceed, we are honored and thankful to Allah SWT to allow us organizing One Ummah Conferences.

As many of you already know the conference has seen amazing growth in the previous years. One Ummah Conference has grown 150% in short time, and we continue to surpass our goals with the help of Allah and support of our wonderful community in Calgary.

Our goal is to unite the hearts of the Ummah by following Qur’an and Sunnah of the beloved last messenger Muhammad (peace blessings be upon him).

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May Allah SWT reward us all and increase us in guidance — ameen.

Episode Transcript

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Fabiola Horan, who waited and when these fighters came, he counts.

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Enter hamdulillah Medusa panna when a stain on istockphoto when I wrote the villa him in Cerulean fusina woman say at the marina mania de la huhtala salam, O Allah, one little fella had Yella wash Hassan ilaha illallah wa de hula Sherry Cara was shadow Anna Mohammedan. Abdo rasuluh Mr.

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Ross are the Allahu taala on whom

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he was in battles in North Africa. And he needed reinforcements. And so he sent to the halifa Omar radi Allahu taala. And who that is in need of these reinforcements. And so our motto, the alohar, and who said to him, that I'm going to send you 1000 Muslim fighters.

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So I'm gonna ask for the alohar and who waited. And when these fighters came, he counted them. And they were only 4000. And so he sent a letter back to her I'm already logged on, I know that you said you were going to send me 8000. But you only sent me four. And so I'm only allowed to add on who replied to him that I sent you 4000. But at the head of each 1000 fighters, I sent you one fighter for all together, each one of them is worth 1000 fighters. And amongst those people was the Companion of the Prophet for the Allahu taala and who is aware of another one?

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The brothers and sisters, you want to ask yourself the question, how many believers are you worth? How many believers are you worth?

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I want to read to you this quote.

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There was once a civilization that was the greatest in the world. It was able to create a continental super state that stretched from ocean to ocean, and from Northern climes to tropics and deserts. Within its Dominion lived hundreds of millions of people of different creeds, and ethnic origins, one of its languages became the universal language of much of the world, the bridge between the peoples of 100 lands, its armies were made up of people of many nationalities, and its military protection allowed a degree of peace and prosperity that had never been known before. the reach of this civilizations commerce extended from Latin America, to China and everywhere in between. and

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this civilization was driven more than anything by invention. Its architects design buildings that defied gravity, its mathematicians created the algebra and algorithms that would enable the building of computers and the creation of encryption. Its doctors examine the human body and found new cures for diseases. It's astronomers looked into the heavens, named the stars and pave the way for space travel, and exploration.

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When I'm hiring, brothers or sisters, I, you know, sit in an interview. And one of the key questions that goes into my mind before I hire someone, is this person on the other side of the desk? How many people are they worth?

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To me, they will be worth either one person,

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or they will be worth 10 people, or they will be worth half a person.

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Okay, these are my three distinctions. Now, one person is somebody who, if they were given a task, they do it, and nothing more than that.

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A person that is worth half

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is a person who if you give them a task, you need somebody else to follow up on them. They themselves don't hold themselves responsible. if nobody's following up on them, then they don't get the work done. I consider that person to be half a person and you want to get rid of the half people. They're not midgets, this half people

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and then you get somebody who's worth 10 people.

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What does that mean? That means that when this person works, you actually will not have to hire in other areas of the organization because this person has it covered. You will not have to hire an

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Manager on top of this person, because they're self motivated, they can get the job done in of themselves. You don't have to train this person, because this person already has the mentality of training themselves and always taking the opportunities. And Milgram Institute, sometimes we hear the statement people say, you can't trust volunteers. When I hear people say that, I say that, that's hogwash.

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It's not true. The reason you can trust volunteers for those people who can't trust volunteers, it's because the person who's compiling these people, they themselves are not a leader. And they don't know what to look for. And so if you only made your attitude that you yourself are worth 10 people, then people who are worth 10, people will start to be attracted to you. And then you'll get a whole organization, a whole community of people that are worth much more than just they themselves. So now the question for you is, how many people are you worth?

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And how many people would you like to be worth?

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While the Allahu taala and whom he once had a group of companions? And he said to them to men, no, show me You're like, what would you wish for? What's your desire? And here's something so amazing that their desires, if I just asked you right now, what's your desire, usually off the top of your head, it would be to get a job at Microsoft, you guys still care about that? Remember those Microsoft certification things that everybody was doing back in the day?

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So another person might say, to get married, another person might say, you know what to buy a house inshallah not on ribault. But just, you know, get a house, that's just kind of like what's at the top of people's mind. So I'm about the lawn is speaking to the companions, that that description that I explained earlier, that's what they did. So one of them said, I wish that I could have a whole list, you know, he turned to a building. And he said, I wish I could have this whole building full of silver that I would spend it in the way of Allah. And then another mat and then the Armada. Leilani said, Who else? And so another man came and he said, I wish I would have he raised the

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standards on what this companion had said earlier. He said, I wish I had a building like this, full of gold, not silver gold, that I would spend it in the way of Allah. Notice that they're talking about money.

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And I'm one of the alumni who said, he said, you know what I wish they said what? He said I would wish to have a home like this. Full of compat of people like about obey them. No. Jarrod Fabiola. Horan, who, a standalone piece of vitola. I'll use them as leaders in the way of a lust pontotoc. Meaning that our own motor understood that there's something more important than wealth, there's something more important than just physical numbers. And that is the quality of the individual, the quality of the leader. I was once doing an interview.

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And in this interview, I kept saying the statement, what a leader needs to do to manage their time what a leader needs to do to manage it, things like that. I kept using the term leader, leader. So the interviewer asked me, Sharon, Mohammed, what do you think about like the common person, not the leaders, but the common people?

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I said to me as a Muslim, there's no such thing as a common Muslim. Every Muslim, every Muslim is a leader. Every Muslim is a leader, who said that

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, could look humara in colloquium, every single one of you. In fact, even when I look at the children, I still think that there are leaders, I see a child who's come to the masjid, I said, this is a leader for other children. Everybody's a leader, coo loco muroran, every one of you.

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Oh, Ahmed Mohamed Salah lon is that every one of you is a leader. Now you're a leader. That's nice, 100 law, but you think that you know, that's just a description, but there's another part to the Hadith that will either scare you

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or make you happy.

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As the Prophet said, a lot of them said we'll could look homeschool and our Yeti What does my school mean? From to earn, you will be asked your miss school you're responsible on the Day of Judgment, Allah subhanaw taala will bring this person and say what did you do with the sheep?

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The person will say Oh Allah, I tended to the sheep I did my best to take care of them until they grew to their maturity and inshallah to Allah you know, they they bore

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was that well

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You've given up

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or someone else will say that all lie went to sleep. And I didn't pay attention to my sheep to my flock. I didn't even know I was responsible until they were lost. And they were misguided. The wolf came and ate all the sheep. What will we what will be our answer? The prophets that alone earlier said, um, you know, that's one How do you but there's another heavy very interesting and which the Prophet said a lot he sent him one sitting with the companions, and he was speaking about the days in Mecca, in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to be a shepherd. That was his job when he was younger. sallallahu alayhi wasallam the prophets of Allah sent him said, Ma'am, in

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Serbian illawarra Allah, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, there's no prophet of Allah, except that he had this occupation before of being a shepherd of being a shepherd. And then they said, what about you a messenger of Allah in the province of the lies that I'm said, even myself, I used to be a shepherd in Mecca, province that allowed him This was his job. Now, Allah subhanaw taala is choosing prophet after prophet after Prophet, each one of them being taken from the occupation of shepherds. And if you study shepherds, and what they do, it's all about leadership. Because amongst the sheep, you will have some sheep that listen and follow, you have some sheep that lead you'll

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have some sheep that just want to break away from the gym and they want to break away from the group and cause trouble and this person cannot physically encompass all the sheep doesn't have like a leash for the all the sheep but with their skills and their patient and their mercy of animals that don't really understand.

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This person has to take them from point A to point B. And every one of you is in this position. Every one of you is in this position.

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So tonight inshallah tada because I'm doing you know, in this month, I'm doing two lecture series, one of them is about men, and you know, studying men and their responsibilities and so on. The other one is about women, and about self esteem and beauty. But that's for another topic, inshallah. Tada. So you'll hear me talk a lot tonight about men and their responsibility, which inshallah tada I hope you forgive me for that.

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And if you don't, I can't do anything about it.

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Okay,

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so men, first and foremost, Allah subhanaw taala made them responsible over their families, over the families Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran at region una Nisa, Eb ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma. What Bhima Saku mean Amani him. This is an area that there's a lot of debate over

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Allah subhanaw taala says basically that the men are in charge. Can you see where the problem will happen?

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Original moon kawaman I said in charge but you'll say you'll see translations that are there's a lot of you know, they're the providers there the What are other translations for cola was that the managers I didn't read that in Houston

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that there's a co one basically end of the story that the man is responsible for the fam

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The man is responsible for the family

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because Allah subhanaw taala selected the man he's going to be responsible for this will be my own supplement I'm wanting and because of the wealth that they spend in taking care of the family. In the Quran, you'll notice that Allah subhanaw taala in areas where there's going to be dispute amongst humans humans just will not submit Allah subhana wa tada took charge and revealed it in the Quran. So give you this example inheritance law, inheritance law even if it's in the Koran people are always fighting about it, who gets what wealth and money and stuff like that. Allah subhanaw taala revealed in the Quran where the inheritance goes another example in you know what, how I got

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these examples. I just thought to myself, where is money mentioned in Koran, and that's where dispute will be amongst human beings.

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Because people always disputing about money inheritance, people always fighting about the money. Where's another idea that speaks about money? That there's going to be dispute about someone I'll give a guess quickly.

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Come on, come on. Just say it out loud. Just

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I just need one word. Just say it out loud. Come on. Exactly. Yes from the sisters.

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zeca That is correct. Who gets the cat. Someone will say You know what? My project is really important. I think I should

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Take this account many

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people will start playing games if you look at when taxes Where do taxes go, how many people fight over where the tax money is going, but with the care Allah subhanaw taala says in Masada

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Masaki, Allah subhanaw taala, divided it so that nobody could say anything. And if anybody wants to take from this account, they have to go to that AI and prove that they're part of those eight categories of unless pawns are divided. So these are the areas in the one of the areas is responsibility of the household. So other things that a man is responsible for,

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is to protect and maintain and provide for their family and their womenfolk. And those are three things to protect, right to protect meaning that a woman needs for example, transportation, or she needs a mom to travel with her, this man is responsible to take care of his what, or take care of his sister or take care of his mother, right? Protect, maintain, to provide maintenance, maintenance, and provision, meaning that if the sister doesn't have in finance, if she doesn't have the money, the man is responsible to take care of the way so many times.

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Anyhow,

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we're gonna talk about divorce there, but that's another area. Another thing that the man is responsible for is Salah, and particularly in the masjid, particularly in the message, there is a difference of opinion amongst the mother head about, you know, what's the ruling of praying in the masjid. But you'll see that the verse the Hadith did speak about praying in the masjid, are very, very strict, are very strict. A blind man Prophet said a lot of you said, um, you know, he's saying, you know, come to the rescue because I find no excuse for you. There's no excuse for you to pray in your in your home, that he's blind. There's no excuses. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that

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I wished

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someone else would lead the prayer. And I would go and burn down the homes of the people that don't pray in the masjid. And at the time of the profits that a lot of a sudden, the only people that didn't pray in the masjid, were the monarchy or queen or somebody that was legitimately sick. So So much so that if they didn't see somebody in the masjid, they went to his home to visit him, because there could be no other excuse that this man is not attending the message other than their sick. It's not like, Oh, you know, I was busy. I was just, you know, working on something like that. I'm not saying that you know what Muhammad Sharif is the man and everybody else. This is something that

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we're all it's a reminder for all of us, that this is what the responsibility of the men are, thirdly, is to give Zika that's the responsibility of men and women to pay their sick care, increase their knowledge of the deen and I was speaking about this last night. tolerable and seeking knowledge is actually a sign of manhood, a sign of responsibility. In fact, when you see people that are mothers and fathers that want their sons to be

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their son in laws to be doctors, it's actually because a degree like that shows that this person cares about seeking knowledge, and not necessarily an Islamic stance, but they have a high level of focus on studying. And so if a person focuses on tolerable and the man has to then go then back to his family, teachers, family teaches children implement what Allah Spano, Don and his messengers, say, of the responsibilities of the men are the main hub, which is the dowry, the man has to pay it, even if it's something small, the man has to show his commitment to provide for the wife. And I think you'll see in some cultures, non Muslim cultures, and unfortunately, sometimes it slips into

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the Muslim cultures where the woman is paying the dowry. Right. The woman is paying the dialect what humiliation that the man says, I will not take this woman to you give me like a million rupees or something like that, right? And they're like, Oh, please take our daughter. Nobody wants her. Take her please, here's a million rupees. Just take her off for that. That's a humiliation. In fact, I was once in college, and there was this driver. I was speaking with you as Saudi. I said, Are you married? And he said, No, I'm working towards it.

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I'm working towards paying the dowry is not some simple like 10 bucks dowry. You talking about like this, at the end of the summer, maybe be compiled like 20,000 or something like that. He's working the entire summer just to be able to show that he can take care of this woman. That's the attitude. Right? I'm not saying MiG tau is really expensive and difficult. But what I would like, you know, this is my recommendation for the dowries, I would say to a brother that wants to get married. How much can you afford? So the person will say I can afford for example. $1,000 is a dowry. I'll like cool, make it 5000

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and

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Stretch the person, how much can you afford, that's not what we're talking about. You want it to be something stretched. So if you can afford 1000, let's make it $5,000. So that you have to put in some effort, let's do play, let's get this this money. And they're like, but I have desires, I need to get married, the person says, No worries, not just going to fulfill your desire and then divorce this woman later, you're going to provide for her, and you're going to show that she is valuable, you're going to put in that effort to do it. So Maha raising the children to maturity and getting the married responsibility of raising the children is both man and woman. It's not just that the,

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the children are just left with the mother and the and the father goes and does whatever he wants. In fact, the mother and father have to be a lost upon a Tata didn't make life that only a mother would be needed to raise a child. There are qualities that the Father brings to his sons and daughters. And there are qualities that the mother brings into the sons and daughters. And both are needed in the healthy upbringing of this child.

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And of course, if a man is blessed with daughters to protect their chastity, and obviously from the womenfolk that, and this is something that you might not see in, in a North American culture, but it's from the Islamic culture, that a man cares about his women folk that doesn't want to see them, or see them going around, not dressed properly, talking to strange men, and so on, and so forth. So the man is there by our side, protecting her. And unfortunately, what I've seen is sometimes a woman wants to do things, and there are good things, maybe she wants to seek knowledge or go to some beneficial conference, something like that. And the husband is just lazy. Or an example where a

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woman is like, I want to go for Hajj, and I want to visit the cabin, the man says, You know what, I'm busy, I don't have time for that you just go by herself.

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That's not the attitude of the men. The men should be Don't go, I'm you know, maybe I'm busy this year. But inshallah next year, we will go for sure. And I will take you and take care of you while I'm there. This is the attitude that the man should have

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the benefits of being a leader of actually accept not everybody's a leader, but the benefits of accepting this responsibility, accepting this responsibility. For the younger brothers, one of the biggest benefits is you'll get married very quickly.

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How so? How does a leader amongst the brothers get married very quickly.

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Anyways, on to

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number two is you have harmony in your house, you have harmony in your household, if the man accepts the responsibility of being a leader, there was once these boys, they came to one of our seminars, the McGovern Institute seminars, and they were young and they had waited after the class and I looked into their faces. And I said, You know what, when you go home, say just one last sentence your mother and father.

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They said, Why? I said, I can tell that you guys have some really good parents. Because of their, their, their their good character, you can see kind of like this newer of Islam in their faces, you can tell that they've spent their youth their childhood in the masjid, you can tell it from the way that they talk that the way that they interact their maturity levels, this is something that their parents had put into it. And especially when you have a father figure there, that is taking the boys to the masjid is you know, teaching them and guiding them and the mother as well, the mother and father working together to help this child.

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If

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I mean, this might be a little deep. I might be pushing some buttons here. But that's all right.

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Sometimes what you'll see in our culture, actually, it's probably in a bunch of places. woman takes the position of the man in the house.

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A lot of times the man says ask the boss,

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right? Ask the boss.

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You know, this is just funny. What this what funny thing? My daughter once said to me, she said, Baba, you're the boss.

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I said to my wife, I said, Did you hear that?

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But she thought it was a derogatory term. Like you're bossy or something like that. Anyways, woman takes possession of the of the husband, and the husband takes the position of the wife.

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A brother once said to me, he said, You know what? I knew he wasn't married yet. He said, inshallah, when I get married, I'm gonna have no problems with my wife. I said, How so? How's that possible? He said, Because anything that she wants to do, I'll just say Yes, honey.

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And then I laughed so hard.

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Because Allah subhanaw taala didn't make us like that. In fact, just

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Just the way you love like he says yes I need to everything we know that'll never work, you know it won't work because a lot didn't create us like that. Allah subhanaw taala created the the man to be the head of the household. And that's the way that it is doesn't mean that the person does it without mercy or doesn't do Shura, or is just you know, not paying them as there's a whole bunch of things to it. But ultimately the matter is going to be responsible for this.

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You get compounded compounded means you know, you take two becomes four becomes eight becomes 16, your reward from Allah Subhana Tada, you know, like we said, a man being a person being worth one person, or half a person or 10 people, if you're worth 10 people inshallah, tada, your reward will probably be like multiplied by hundreds and hundreds. Give you an example of this. Imagine that you're a leader amongst you know, your brothers or sisters, you've educated yourself and knowledge of the deen, for example, you've learned how to perform hajj and you know it very well, you do a Hydra workshop, and 500 people come to the hydro workshop, and a good majority of them are actually

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going for heights and they learn how to perform Hajj at your hands, how much reward will you get the reward of Hajj being gentle.

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And that's the example of someone that when they become a leader, they're in a position to get compounded reward from Allah subhana wa tada and Allah loves those strong believers.

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Things will be moving in the direction that you want it. And also that, that there are people and there are systems that want to lead you. They want to lead you all the advertisements, all the culture, everything that you see on TV, policymakers, they are all leaders, and they want to lead you, if you don't accept leadership, you will become the sheep of somebody else. And in most cases, living in the West, your leaders are not going to be Muslim. And they're not going to wish he diet and guidance for you or for your family. I was once thinking about this, you know, in public school system. And I was reading a book about how to educate children go into a bookstore, and you'll see

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books about how to teach your children. There's lots of great books. But I had this aha moment, this realization, at one book that I was kind of dissatisfied with, I realized that this author does not wish for my child to go to gender, they don't care, as far as they're concerned is just like, you know, get a good mark on math. I wish for my child to go to gender, this book is not going to teach me how to do that. And so if you don't become the leader, you will be led. And sometimes being led is so subtle that you're not even realizing that this is distracting you from your real goals that you want to move towards. One brother wrote to me.

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And he said if you look at our youth, you know how we talk a lot about women's rights or you know, this and that and so on. The people that are not being spoken about and have no one to defend our our young brothers. Very often we make jokes about them, you know, the brothers this the brothers that you know, tell the brother and bla bla bla and these little boys, there was one sister she converted to Islam and she was saying that in the church, they had no boys. There's like no boys in the church like all girls.

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And she said I was surprised that when I entered into STEM that I saw so many boys now I'm it might be different here, in in Calgary in other cities and so on. But if you look in many Muslim cities, the women are grossly outnumbering the men when it comes to Islamic events. In other words, it's like where have the boys gone? It's not that you know, sign of the Day of Judgment 40 women to one man, no, it's actually one to one. We're not at that stage yet. That's not the reason. The reason is that focus isn't going to our boys. focus isn't going to our boys and inshallah, tada, I'd like to be the person amongst the people that speak up on their behalf. And inshallah tada start kind of

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like the cultivation of our young brothers so that at very young age, they take responsibility. They take leadership so that we can have more boys, more boys being growing up to be mature and be responsible. One brother said to me, he's in high school and he said,

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Actually, he went through the whole system. If manpower a person in their manhood is focused, you know, it's almost like you're playing football, American football, and it's almost like you got the ball and you're running through all these obstacles to get a touchdown. Male energy is very similar to that a man when he has purpose and he has a goal and there are obstacles that he overcomes, and he gets

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To that, when you see someone really in the zone like that, you're like, this guy's a man, this guy's a leader, a leader, right? That's kind of like what male energy is about. That's why people men really like UFC and I don't know about hockey, hockey really a man's sport.

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Anyways,

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so that being the case, let's look at our boys when they enter High School. Are they like football players? Go into the end zone, they have high purpose and like No way. There's, there's like, there's just no vision. There's no motivation. There's no vision, there's late like laziness. You see some brothers in there in high school, lift up their hands. And when it goes down, it like goes like this.

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It's just flimsy. It's like there's no

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you know, spine.

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Then you look, that's high school. What about in college, when they go to like University, same thing could happen in university. There's no motivation, no purpose. How many brothers have come out of University with a degree that they didn't use?

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Because they didn't even know what they wanted when they went there. So they go into university, I don't know, to their guidance counselor. What do you think? What do you think I should study once you study criminal law, okay.

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And they don't really have a purpose. That's usually when the parents come in. They're like, No, you gotta be a doctor and the like, but I don't want to be a doctor, but then being an accountant.

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And so there's this confusion, no motivation, no, no, no goals, then this person comes out of college. And there's sisters that need to get married.

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But this brother doesn't have any focus.

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And it just doesn't work out. Here's a sister, she said. This is her comments. She said, as a 24 year old Muslim woman. I'm terrified of marrying because I feel I will have more guts and sense of responsibility than my husband. I think some sisters feel that they must compensate for the lack of action of their brothers and take on a lot. Muslim men you need to man up and fast. Mail is panadol to help you in this cause.

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I want to give you an example Ibrahim alayhis salam imagine that you've seen in a dream that you've gone to the kitchen, you take out a butcher knife, you bring your son and then you slit their son's throat. Imagine how horrific a dream like that would be yet the dreams of the prophets. They are truth. They are the truth. So Abraham Allison emcees this dream and interestingly he didn't trick it's not he'll he didn't like sneak up behind him and try to fulfill the commandment. Such beautiful verses that Allah Allah revealed of what he said. Yeah, punia in Miami.

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He said to him, yep. When I Oh, my son. It's like saying, Oh, my beautiful son. In the era of film Anamika I see in my dream at night, in my dreams, that I'm slaughtering you. I'm killing you from the Ramada Torah. So what do you think what should What should we do? He's doing Shura with his son, the commandment of Allah subhana wa Tada. And his son says to him, yeah.

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Oh, my father, do what you've been commanded.

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cetera g junie.

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Allahu Mino, Slovenian. You'll find me in sha Allah to be one of the patient. If you have children, you know the fear that you have every day of your child dying.

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Right? Now add to that, that you're the one killing the child, Allah Spano. Tata tested Ibrahim with this. But here's the critical point is that Ibrahim Ali cynap raised his son to be a man to understand the commandments of Allah subhanaw taala. What an amazing response. Imagine if you had your children being raised like this, that they are like mountains of strength of Eman and taqwa and trust in Allah subhanho, wa Taala. All of these things that even as young boys, they are men. They're not nobody calls them a boy or they wouldn't even accept to be called like that.

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In in Canada, you have youth crime, and I know even here in the West,

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the west of the West, you'll see that there are a lot of Muslim boys going into gangs and going into crime, right? In fact, so much so that even the authorities are coming to the Muslim saying here, take some money, do something with your boys.

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The community's like is it permissible to take money from the authorities like that?

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Do something with your boys have a recreation center do TAO to your children for God's sake.

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That's what they're saying. Because when you go to the prisons, you will see Muslim boys there. You see our youth. Now the girls, girls don't they normally don't drop out of school, they usually stay in school. And the girls don't normally get into gang violence. They don't do that. It's the boys that are doing this. So now, if you look at your typical boy growing up in Canada, who is their role model? Who is their male role model?

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immediately in my head, we're being truthful, honest here, maybe a sports figure.

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Like Kobe Bryant, for example.

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All right, maybe a sports figure, UFC fighter, some guy that goes around punching people with bare knuckles and stuff like that. Who's the role model? Is any youth like this? And my role model is Earth man.

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Do you say that? No. And maybe here in a convention, maybe some guy would be like, yeah, I think like that. You're right.

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But this is not the case. Now what about real role models in their life? Like Muslim men? are Muslim men, they're role models. So a youth a youth in a high school? Does he have a role model from the older youth? And chances are the answer is no, chances are maybe you have some programs, but chances are for the majority of our youth, that's not the case. So where do they get that bonding? Is their mother their role? model? No. That's not the case. Either. Their father, usually there's a generation gap language has changed. No, not even the fathers are wrong. So who's the role model? It's not the role model? Where does this brother, this young Muslim, we have an investment in this

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young youth? Where are they getting this

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leadership from? They get it from their mates at school, from their schoolmates. And unfortunately, those school mates are not the best of guiders. And very often, you'll see that they're into drugs, they might be into, you know, violence or something like that. And then comes the gang culture. So when it comes to like college, you'll have 75% sisters attending an event 25%. And even amongst the 25% a lot of time, they're like girly and stuff. Right? They're still not taking responsibility. They're not, you know, doing things. It's the sisters that have to do everything on top of that. And we're like the men were the men.

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In search of men,

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Sophia, or the allowance out on her.

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She remember I was speaking in the beginning about as to battle the alarm worth 1000 men, how did he become like that? That he's worth 1000 men. His mother when she raised him, it's like, it's dark outside. She's like, come on, son. Let's go out in the desert, in the dark. In the in the areas that have like, you know, there's pine trees, there's scorpions, and so on and so forth. She take them out this very intense, by the way, I'm not telling you to raise your kids like this. I'm just telling you how she did it.

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She take him out. In this area is dark. It's scary. she'd leave him there, and he'd start crying.

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And she would beat him

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to stop crying. Even some of the other women would say, you know what, why are you doing this? And she's saying in a brave holy Caleb. She said, I'm hitting him. I'm not telling you to hit your children, but

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she's saying barely. I'm hitting him so that he can become courageous.

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We as mlj were TV seller, and you can destroy the other armies and bring home the booty.

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Right? They had a warrior type of lifestyle. That's how they trained. You know, it's interesting for the brothers that are infatuated with UFC fighters. How many people like UFC? How many sisters even know what UFC is? Okay, the sisters know

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how many brothers like UFC? Come on, if we had a UFC or like after the thing like, you know, a bunch of fighters, you know, isn't that good? Has anybody done UFC training?

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This is something interesting that they do in UFC training. there's a

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there's a big tire, and they give you like a hammer, and you have to slam that hammer down onto this tire. Do you know why they train you like that so that you body can be used to and be trained to take impact. You can take impact. It's so the hit. Whenever you get hit, it doesn't faze you. That's how they train.

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And now we're running out of time. There's a lot of stuff to go. Let me give you some examples of how to give your young boys and even if you don't have children, but when you see Muslim boys, this is kind of like give them that sense of responsibility. Number one, give them a kuhnian

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Konya is translated as pet name basically means like calling someone, a boo something or something. Right. So here in the example of boys, you have a little boy. And the boy's name is for example Moosa. So you'd say, yeah, yeah. Abdullah. Oh Father of our below. Right? This is like the legacy of say the prophets of Aladdin, Sam, there was and this is out. I'll tell you another thing. The older men should visit youth in their homes. So that the Father says, Oh, you came to visit me? No, I came to visit your son. Give him that respect. son doesn't go playing video games in a room. No, I came to speak with you, oh, son, especially like Muslim teachers. That would be a great lesson to go from

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home to home teach these boys in their own home, the prophets that a lot I sent him and especially Allah Han, who his younger brother, had a bird, a pet bird that became ill and died. So the prophets of olalia salaam visited him in his home, the boy so the boys young, you're talking about boy that's like in grade one or something like that great. You and the prophets of the Lyceum came to give his condolences to him on the death of his pet bird. And when the prophets that a lot of them came, he said to him, yeah, about Oh, man. He said to the boy, oh man, masala Nova Nova was his bird. And he said, what happened to noise and he's consoling him in his house. Now this boy will grow up to be

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whom he'll be a man understanding. Here's something so sweet and so beautiful, that if you have a baby, usually when you're rocking the baby, you start singing kind of like lullabies inshallah Hello lullabies.

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I'm just thinking of her on lullabies. My mind is, like, when I wish upon a star out of the villa. So one of the one of the lullabies that my mother used to, used to say when we were little kids is and some of the Egyptians and the Egyptians in the house.

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So this is a classic. She's here a bit Nam Europe, Vietnam, Iraq.

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And Egypt is know that you guys know that Egyptian

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nobody knows it.

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Kind of, Okay, here.

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When I'm holding baby, what am I saying to the baby?

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Got a bit Nam, Europe, Europe.

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And there's a beautiful lesson in that the character of the parents

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will be passed down automatically and subconsciously to your children.

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And the character of the parents will be passed down subconsciously and automatically to your children. Just as simple as a lullaby, a mother that used to read a lullaby to a child, I'm sure that when you get older and you have children, you will start adopting the exact same lullabies, you will adopt that the way your parents work, and how they treated each other and the high character that they had. So I'm telling you right now, that's your parents, that's something else. You need to raise your standard so that your children will have the best example a hero as they say. Anyways, I'll tell you about that tomorrow.

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Am I done?

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Okay.

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Because there's a clock, it's going upwards in time. That's kind of like telling me how much time I've gone over.

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Anyways, let me

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I want to give you an example of this is this is the conclusion. Here's an a beautiful example based on what the Quran says. About about men. Allah, Allah says in the Quran region.

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Allah

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that Allah subhanaw taala speaking about those who go to the masjid region, right laterally, him they're not distracted by buying and selling meaning they're not distracted by business. well beyond victory law, meaning that they're always remembering Allah subhanaw taala what economists follow eater is a car you have funa, Yeoman Tata, Colaba, Philips cola will absorb that they establish the period they give their visitors the car, and they fear the day. Basically, they fear the Day of Judgment. So here's what my recommendation is.

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Actually, you know what i didn't i didn't finish off what

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I said giving this will actually just let me just go back and finish off giving a cleaner to your child and abou name. adult males visiting the boy taking your boys to adult gatherings, meaning don't tell them go play outside but actually say you know what, come into the gathering. You see some young boys here. That's beautiful. You want more

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That, that the boys coming into the adult gatherings and being respected and being held responsible in those adult gatherings, especially for the boys, that they should be going to the massage and praying in the masjid ask them advice. And you know do Shura with them. So what do you think? What's your opinion and, and, and cultivate this, this legacy of Shura with the boys

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and encourage them to be courageous. So courage in this case in the times we're living in things like public speaking things like doing extracurricular activities, and being responsible for it, for example, starting a blog, writing good things that you know, can help and guide people and so on. Things like that will help in their personal development, their leadership and their maturity.

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So these are some of the things as well, what if the elder boys did this, this is you know, for the boys to become role models for those younger boys. If the elder boys were just amazingly excited about attending and memorizing Quran, okay, after school, for example, that if the boys in the high school or early college, they cared so much about the Quran, and it's memorization, it will start to slip down into the younger generation. If the older boys are, you know, they're crazy excited about praying Salah in the masjid. So if the message is always filled with college boys, they're always going to the message, you'll see the younger boys, they'll say, I want to be like those kids. When I

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get older, I want to be like them if the older boys tended, tended to their own fathers and their own family and their extended family, meaning that here's an older boy, instead of him neglecting his mother and father. He says, guys, I can't come out tonight because you know, I'm taking my mother and father home makes sure that they arrive safely and so on so forth. That's another thing that they will see this older boys taking care of their parents, if the older boys became great teams, and not just what pajama but actually they know how to speak and they know how to give public speeches. This will trickle down to the younger boys as well. fifthly if the older boys are

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academically strong, academically strong in everything in their junior studies, and their Islamic studies that they always Excel, they're always looking for the highest marks that inshallah Tada. That'll also trickle down to the younger boys. They're going to want to excel just like the older boys want to excel. Does that mean Latinas? panic llama handicaps are the Alola and stuff today