Sarah Sultan Healthy Attachments FB
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The speaker discusses the importance of attachment in healthy relationships for children, as it can positively impact one's mental health and behavior. They also mention the negative impact of parents' behavior on one's mental health, as they may regret mistakes made by their children. The speaker emphasizes the importance of parents' actions as a base for one's success and suggests that they should be more aware of their behavior and actions to avoid mistakes.AI Generated Transcript ©
When children are first born, there's the concept of attachment, healthy attachment. And I go through this a lot more in the in my module for the course. But attachment in like the emotional bond between a child and their, their parents really can contribute either positively or negatively to their future outcomes, whether it's academically in school, whether it's behaviorally, whether it's relationally, in the way that they relate to people and how their relationships are, even in terms of mental illness, and mental wellness, attachment is incredibly important. And something I really emphasize, in talking about this is it's also impactful in a child's development of
attachment to Allah subhanaw taala, a lot of times, our attachment to a primary caregiver, like our first relationship ever, with parents, that's our first relationship. That's our first example of what it's like to have a relationship with somebody, you know, to feel reciprocation of emotion to have our needs met or not met, that can really impact how we view Allah subhanaw taala. So if a parent is very punitive, right, so he's, you know, pays attention to every single one of the child's flaws and errors and shortcomings. And that's all that's mentioned, when a child apologizes for something that they do and the parent just, you know, turns away and, and doesn't want to, doesn't
want to accept that apology. Lack of forgiveness from a parent, can lead a child to imagine that if my parent can't forgive me, then I am unforgivable. So how can Allah Subhana Allah forgive me? Right? Versus if if we as parents, who all make mistakes naturally, right, because we're human beings, if we as parents, show our children that look, I'm upset that you drew on the wall. I'm upset that you use a disrespectful word when you spoke to me. I'm upset about this such in such situation. But when the child comes and apologizes and tries to make amends, there is a system in place to try and make those amends. Then there's the realization that I can be imperfect, still
embraced by my parent, and therefore Allah Subhana Allah has the highest example than I can be imperfect and still be loved and embraced by ALLAH SubhanA data as well.