Channel: Mufti Menk
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22 April 2019
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim always In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala Alhamdulillah always praising Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah always sending blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah, he was having a Jemaine always upon the blessed family and all his companions and every one of us may Allah bless every one of us and our offspring to come right up to the end of time May Allah keep us all steadfast I mean, my brothers my sisters, Mashallah, we've had a very long day.
And I think Subhan Allah, you'd like me to close up earlier is that correct?
Oh, Mashallah. So I have a license to go on as I wish is that okay?
Mashallah, I hope and I pray that we are rejuvenated, ready to listen to something very important. That Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaks about a cm meaning fasting, and describes it as genetic. Genetic means a shield. So the fasting is a shield, a shield from what a shield from all vise all evil all that which is distracting. All that which is disturbing, which is immoral, which is displeasing to the Almighty, everything. It is a shield from that is negative, but primarily a shield from hellfire. It will protect us from the burning health. People don't like to listen to speeches connected to the burning Hellfire or the punishment of the Almighty. But
fortunately, or unfortunately, it is important for us to address the matter of the Wrath of Allah, the anger of Allah, the punishment of Allah, and you know, what? The flames of the fire of hell? My brothers and sisters,
it's a matter of belief. I came across people, and I always come across people who say, Do you believe that those who don't believe? Do you believe that those who don't believe
will go to heaven? Or will go to hell?
And I will say, the fact that they believe or don't believe, is between them and their maker. And the maker himself has warned. So if they don't believe in the maker, what are they worried about? Why are they worried about what I believe? And I don't believe because people are trying to say, as Muslims, you know, what? How could you believe that someone who doesn't believe at all is not going to heaven?
And I normally say, Well, if you don't believe at all, then what are you worried about? Because the Christians believe that the non Christians do not have a place in heaven. And the Jews believe that the non Jews do not have a place in heaven, and so on. It's a matter of belief. We are Muslims, primarily, we will develop our relationship with the Almighty Who made us and we will develop our relationship with the rest of the creatures of the same Almighty that we've been saying all along. And when we prepare in that way, we know that there is a good place that we are going to and we know that if we don't do good, how will we receive good as a as a result, or in return? If you are to
work hard during the year, you will pass your exams, if you are not to work hard, and you're to play and you're to break rules, you might even be expelled from the school. Right? Is that something bad? I mean, if one school expelled you because you committed a crime in the school, does it mean the school is bad Subhanallah when you yourself perpetrated a crime, if your child were to do something really, really bad, and you were to admonish them, does it make you a bad parent? Well, Subhana Allah, we need to strike this balance. We believe in the Hereafter, and we do believe in heaven and hell. And as for the owner of heaven, and hell, He is Allah, he decides he chooses and he will let
into heaven whomsoever He wishes. He has already laid that bear in the Quran in the sooner in Revelation, and he's told us and he's warned us and we take heed. So when we want protection from this Hellfire, we need to develop ourselves.
Yeah, I mean,
Takuma so many times in the Quran. Oh you who believe develop your relationship with Allah. Oh you who believe be conscious of Allah. All this is included in the meaning of the term taqwa Allah. Develop your relationship with Allah, be conscious of Allah be fearful of earning the rock of Allah subhanho wa Taala be conscious of it. Every time be mindful of the fact that you have a makeup. He made you you're going to go back to him. This is tequila. Yeah, are you hella Nina mano de la ha we've heard it so much right?
Yeah larina quotevalet como swam? What does that mean?
What does that mean? Oh, you who believe please say
fasting has been prescribed upon you, right? So if you look at the two verses one is are you who believe be conscious of your maker or develop a relationship with your maker and that's the translation we use for Tukwila. Hey, I want to develop that taqwa. Right in order to develop the taqwa Here is another verse where Allah is saying, oh you who believe
fasting has been prescribed upon you.
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tunku. Just like it was prescribed upon those before you in order that you develop that relationship with Allah in order for you to achieve the better relationship with Allah or in order for you to develop taqwa to attain the taqwa. That's what it means. So on one hand, Allah is saying develop your taqwa. And on the other hand, he's saying, We've prescribed fasting upon you so that you can develop the taqwa. Can you marry the two and you come to the conclusion that while I'm supposed to be developing my relationship with Allah, one of the ways that he says he has prescribed in order for that development to happen is for me to be fasting, you follow it? As simple as that. The same
applies to prayer. If you are to pray, you will achieve taqwa prayer, I'm talking about the five daily prayers and even beyond that you can go to that which is voluntary, and that which is totally up to you. It's called soon and nothing. And so my brothers and sisters to develop this relationship with Allah is considered an honor. You should look forward to the month of Ramadan knowing that if I were to fast, believing in Allah bearing that consciousness at the same time, believing that I'm going to be rewarded for what I'm doing. Allah says, You know what, you will achieve that paradise you will achieve protection from Hellfire you will achieve the reward of becoming sinless as you
depart from the month of Ramadan.
So what should I do to become sinless? Do you know the Hadith says mon sama Ravana, Eman and waka saben who fear Allah who Mata dem among them be whoever fasts the entire month properly, with conviction in Allah expecting and hoping for a reward from Allah. All their previous sins are wiped out. Why? Because you're supposed to come out of Ramadan, a changed person, you're supposed to be coming out of Ramadan, having developed a beautiful, better relationship with your maker, where you enjoy the acts of worship. Imagine you've been making long tarawih every night. And now the five Salah only without the taraweeh should be a walk in the park compared to the tarawih. Right? Because
you know what? I used to stand in prayer for two hours now. It's just 10 minutes by five. It's made so Easy Allies telling you this is the training ground when you come out of training. You'll be a fit person ready to just lift up the weights when you start going to the gym. The first few days are painful, they are difficult, you can't even bend you can't even stretch and when you're there for just a month you become a professional. Right? I see a lot of you are nodding your heads I hope you guys are sweating it out minimum 45 minutes a day. Well it helps you it will enlighten you it will improve your emotional condition physical condition spiritual condition, your health and everything
else 45 minutes of sweat every single day you're going to do it
Are you going to sweat 45 minutes every day?
Someone someone's saying you know it's not in the Quran it's not in the heavy Mashallah, I didn't say I'm quoting Quran and Hadith regarding the sweating This is my own piece of advice to you from the Quran and Hadith yes, it does say you need to be strong and fit and take care of your body. And remember it's an it's an Amana entrusted to you by Allah. So you need to look after yourself but I am telling you it's a tip. It's a tip. When I say a tip you know in England when you say this is a tip it means it's like upside down right? The room is a tip. I don't mean that tip I mean I'm giving you tips okay. So basically you are getting it from me to say if you want to improve your mental
condition, your psychological condition, your health, your spiritual condition, your you know, you feel so much better. You need to do something, some exercise on a daily basis. you sweat it out and see how you feel. Trust me, all of you who are feeling sad and low and down. Yes, there is the dhikr of Allah there is Salah, there is a bada together with that just look after the Amana that Allah has given you this body through which you are able to work.
Worship Allah had you not looked after the body you would not be able to worship Allah. Hence the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says and mineral
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a strong believer is better and more loved by Allah than one who is weak. When you walk, walk with a good posture, don't just you know, hunch. Like, by the way, I mean, you know, I believe that's not what it is you walk, take pride in the way you walk. It's an honor Mashallah Allah gave you the body, the posture, your back must be straight, Don't slouch on your phone every evening and then you wondering why your back is aching and why your spine is out of order. May Allah subhanahu wa taala strengthen us all and grant us good health say I mean,
my brothers, my sisters, the gift of fasting is such that if we are to observe it correctly, it will improve our relationship with Allah. At the end of Ramadan, we come out and we enjoy the the the the worship that we have been engaging in now in a smaller way. Ramadan is the month of worshiping Allah because things are for sale sale, meaning the value of the items shoots up such that the currency that you are paying for the for the commodity you are receiving is actually a bargain for you.
You do one good deed is multiplied, right? You do something and it's multiplied, the reward is multiplying 10 times 70 times 700 times the charities are multiplied it's up to Allah what he does and how much it gives you. The fasting itself is so so important that Allah says every good deed you do, I multiply it for you 10 times 70 times 700 times except the fast. The fasting is mine and I will reward it according to the person done, which means it could go to 7 million depending on the sacrifice you are ready to make. However, when we fast we fast holistically in order to make it the real shield that we're looking for from the fire of jahannam.
What is a holistic fast, just like you're concerned about what goes into your mouth, making sure nothing supposed to go in that would displease Allah that will break your fast you make sure nothing comes out of your mouth that is going to be harmful, abusive, wrong, spoil your fast destroy your relationship with Allah and hurt people. If you're not going to wash your mouth in Ramadan, you're wasting your time having fasted.
Did you hear that?
If you're not going to wash your mouth in the month of Ramadan, you've wasted your time fasting. I'm not saying that the Hadith is saying the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says Multnomah County, Missouri will Amala v when Allah finally Selena ha Joon v. And yet the uttama who masaba a person who is going to who's not going to ensure that they abstain from bad mouthing from bad words from false witness from that which will displease Allah in terms of what they utter from their mouth. If they are going to abstain from food and drink. in that condition. They're wasting their time. Allah doesn't need the fact that they stayed away from food and drink, they wasted their time.
They see, like the prophet SAW Selim says, there are so many people who fast during the day, they've achieved nothing besides hunger and fatigue, or hunger and thirst. And there are so many people who stand at night in prayer, but they achieve nothing besides loss of sleep and fatigue. That's it. Why because your intention is wrong. You're not allowing it to improve you as an individual as a person.
So if you want to be safe from Johanna, make sure that you don't abuse people you don't oppress people I want to tell you it is more important to ensure that you have not harmed a fellow human being then most other sins that you could commit.
You know why? If you committed adultery terrible sin major sin but you seek forgiveness from Allah he'll wipe it out, if you if you engaged in perhaps partaking of intoxicants that's not allowed in Islam. And you know what, you then sought the forgiveness of Allah He will wipe it out. Do you know why it's between you and him?
But the minute you slandered someone, there are now three people involved meaning three parties involved who you and Allah and there is another guy or another person. Allah is a for Rahim, Most Merciful most forgiving that person is not most forgiving, Most Merciful. By right. If you want to be forgiven for something you did wrong against someone else, you are going to have to put your tail between your legs and go to them and say, You know what? Meaning put your ego away. Your pride needs to go aside. say Listen, my brother, I'm really sorry for what I said about you. I was totally wrong. Totally unjustified. And that's it. Please forgive me. He might say yes. You might say no,
you try it.
It's your right to say yes and no. If someone's been harming you for 10 years and they come to you say brother, I really am sorry, you know what I did wrong? Forgive me. It's up to you. You can say okay, forgive you. Allah encourages you to forgive. Allah tells you and I just forgive the people just forgive them. You know what, let it go. Release.
If Allah will release you from the clutches of Hellfire, learn to forgive, learn to embrace, and you know what? forgiveness mostly we are taught to forgive.
But we are never taught to forget.
People say forgiven forget, no. In Islam, the forget part of it is not necessary.
If you forgiven from your heart, one of two things, you can either embrace, that's the best type of forgiveness, which means we're buddies again, or you can forgive without an embrace, which means I've forgiven you. But I don't really want to have much to do with you. Because I really don't know if I'm going to be harmed again from you. Whoa.
Sometimes it happens. We have toxic relationships in the home, some not in the home, but around relatives, I hope not in the homes of hannula.
Or around people who really harm we've released it from the heart, it's rejected. I don't want to hold him. Personally, I'm talking about myself. I don't have space in my heart to vent for someone's hatred to rent a spot. No, not at all. I don't want it. It's not there. I will not hold it. It's gone. It's forgiven. It's over. But But perhaps I may not want to have much to do with you why I need to protect myself. Every time I pass this path, I get a slap. Every time I pass this path, I get a slip. Why should I keep passing it? I might have forgiven you. But I work from that angle. Is there anything wrong? I don't have to keep on coming in embracing you and getting a slap every time
people think a pious Muslim is a person who just keeps getting slaps. That's not a pious Muslim. Sometimes a pious Muslim is He Who says Hey, what are you doing? Be careful.
You know, snap you back. You're not going to carry on this way.
I'm sure you've heard of the guy. I've said the story so many times. The guy who tried his luck by slapping some of the pious people in the mosque. He was told these are three people sitting in the front very pious, that one is little pious, medium pious, big pious. So he went to a little pious and he, he that guy was busy in his ibadah gave him one slap. The man didn't even notice. He says Ooh, pious. First time I'm seeing piety. And the young man comes about.
He comes about he goes to the middleman. He says, You know what? This guy supposed to be more pious than that one. And the piety of the man behind me is non existent.
So Subhanallah that's okay, we let him go this time. I'm the small pious I didn't even notice. Did you see? So my brothers and sisters, the middle pious, guess what happened? He got a slap and
he got up and he says, brother, how's your hand? Are you sure you're okay?
This guy's very, very pious. He's got a slap some hand Allah. The man's got a slap. And he gets up and he's worried about the hand that has slapped him. Oh, isn't that a high level? Come on, guys. Is that not a high level? It's a high level, right? And he was wondering, he says, Oh, no, my hand is fine. Okay, that guy sat down. He went to the last guy whom he was told this is the most pious of the lot. And guess what happened? He gave him one slap. The very pious man got up and gave him two slaps.
And the curses but I thought he was the most pious of the Lord. He says what someone somehow someway needs to stop you, right? You can't keep on going to slap people you consider pious okay? May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us is the moral of that story was sometimes it's better
to think before you react, sometimes it's good to perhaps keep quiet about things. Sometimes you might want to address matters in a different way. Sometimes you might have to get up and say, Hey, guys, you better stop this or we're going to deal with you. Okay? So my brothers and sisters when it comes to Allah, He will forgive you. When it comes to Allah He will always forgive you. I want to clarify something today. Never ever will Allah reject your Toba your repentance, it will always be accepted. The first time that you ask Allah Oh ALLAH forgive me. You are genuine. You've regretted your sin you're admitting there is remorse. You asking Allah forgiveness and you promising him deep
down that you are going to you're not going to repeat this. Allah says forgiven. Now shaytan comes to you my sisters, I hope you're listening. My brothers. I hope you're listening. Now that you've asked Allah for forgiveness, because of the sins you've committed, no matter what they were, and they have been wiped out completely just by the first time you ever asked Allah that's all. You asked a lot. One time Look at the man in salon. When he committed the sin him and his wife, our our mother, our Father, when they ate from the tree they were not supposed to eat from and you know what they just told Allah subhanho wa Taala robina vollum
Susana ilam Davina watoto Hannah coonan Amina Jeannie. Oh our Lord. Oh, Lord, we have oppressed ourselves. We have wronged us
We have wronged ourselves. And if you don't forgive us, then if you don't have mercy on us and forgive us, we are going to be the losers. Allah says, I forgiven you. How many times did he repeat that? Subhana Allah.
He said it once he sought the forgiveness of Allah, Allah forgiving. He may have said it another time somewhere down the line, but that was already after the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
So, when you seek forgiveness, Allah forgives you without a doubt for as long as you admit regret.
You asked him for the forgiveness and you promised not to do it again. Those are the four simple conditions. Okay? Now shaytan comes to you and tries to tell you no, no, no, no, you weren't forgiven. You got to say it again. So now a week later, two days later, you're repeating it my brothers and sisters, it's healthy to repeat repentance because it elevates your status and makes you conscious of your weakness and the power of Allah. So it's healthy to repeat it but you're not repeating it because you are doubting Allah's mercy. Let's get that straight. You are repeating it because you love Allah, and you just so sad about what you did. But don't let shapen creep in and
try and make you feel that no, Allah rejected you. So Allah mercy doesn't encompass the particular sin you committed, the minute you begin to think that you have already fallen back into the trap of the devil, because Allah tells you, oh, my worshipers who have transgressed against me never, ever lose hope in my mercy, I will forgive all of your sins. I am indeed the most forgiving, the Most Merciful. That's what Allah says. So when Allah is saying, My Mercy encompasses everything, and the devil is telling you, no, it encompasses everything except the sin you committed, then you're falling for the devil and you haven't understood who your maker is. You haven't understood how the
Most Merciful is and who he is and the power of his and the mercy that he has informed us about. When Allah wanted to call himself he says Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim, In the Name of Allah, the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful, he could have chosen anything else. Whenever we describe Allah, he's always talking about his mercy. Ramadan, what is it called? It's called the month of mercy, isn't it? The month of mercy, right? It's called the month of mercy, the month of the Quran, the month of forgiveness, the month of the, you know, the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the month of freedom from hellfire. That's what we're talking about.
So you never lose hope in the mercy of Allah. But the problem is, when you've wronged someone else, that person is not merciful. As Allah
Subhan Allah. This is why we say what your mouth it's more dangerous. You're going to pay for that more than anything else. Because the Hadith speaks about a bankrupt person. The Companions will ask Do you know who is a bankrupt person? So they said, well, a bankrupt person, according to us is the one who has no dyrham andina, right. In our language we say pounds and dollars, right? Soon, it might be Bitcoin, by the way.
Again, okay. So it could be whatever it is the currency. That's what we look at materialism. And the sobre la motto No, no, no, no, no, no, a bankrupt person is the one who comes on the day of kiama was lots of fasting, with lots of prayer with lots of good deeds, with lots of worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But when he arrives with all these lovely, beautiful, powerful deeds, he has harmed this one, he ate the wealth of this one, he has sworn this one abused that one he has, you know, deceived this one and done this to that one, etc, etc. So what will happen as he came with his deeds, those people whom he owes the currency to and not day, on that day, the currency, his deeds,
you give your deeds away. So some of these will go here, some deeds will go there, some deeds will go to that one, some deeds will go to this one until the pile begins to diminish and when the pile is totally over, and there is still a queue of people asking for their rights because why you didn't control your mouth, you didn't manage your character and conduct So what happened? You lost out your good deeds all went away, no more good deeds to pay, you start taking the bad deeds of the other people. Why as a payment for the bad deed duty, a good one bad to you, I got no way to recompense Allah says okay, take one of his bags and put them on you. May Allah not do that to us. So what will
happen the person ends up going into Hellfire because they wronged fellow human beings. That's why we say you want to go to heaven. Two big qualities you're gonna need. Develop your relationship with Allah and watch out how you treat the rest of the creatures of the same Allah how He created you. He created them what makes you a big deal?
Subhana Allah. Today on the globe, we are lacking character and conduct. People don't. I mean, people don't greet they don't smile. They don't look they don't even acknowledge
We walk past Muslim in Subhan Allah, even if they're not Muslim, at least we're supposed to have a good expression on our faces. But it's like all doom and gloom we're walking lectured Allah, you know, reminds me of the little acorn, the story of the acorn. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, forgive us, become conscious of your character, and it begins at home. It starts at home. When Allah created you, he chose for you the parents that were meant to be your own. And those who delivered you, your mothers were chosen by Allah by you as a test. No matter how good or bad your parents are, they will remain your parents. Even if they're transgressing with the biggest transgressions, they are still
your biological parents.
You have a right to fulfill unto them.
My brothers and sisters, watch how you address your parents. Watch how you speak to your mothers and fathers and my beloved mothers and fathers. Watch how you treat your children. I want to pause and say something very strong. You know, children actually belong to Allah not to us. Ask those who don't have who do they cry to for children, Allah?
Oh Allah bless me because Allah has, if Allah once he will give you Allah says some we don't give any children too because we know it's better for them. They don't know. We know so we don't give it to them be happy. Some we only give boys because we know we won't give girls to them. It's better for them only to have boys. Some we give them only girl only girls, because we know that they shouldn't be having boys for whatever reason Allah knows. Some we give both some we delay some we give very quickly. Allah knows what's best for you.
But everyone complains, who is there to thank Allah, the One who has boys say Oh Allah, you only gave me boys, the one who has girls, Allah you only gave me the one who doesn't have Allah you haven't given me anything. The one who has both all others, such a handful, Stitcher. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, forgive us.
So Allah knows what is given you, thank him.
But I want to tell you, the children belong to Allah, Allah gave them to you temporarily, and he's going to take them away, he will take him away, he may take you away before them, or you will take them away before you eat is totally up to him. You have to be happy with the decree of Allah, we get so attached to our children, that we don't even want them to get married. I know of people who are so attached to their sisters or brothers, that they don't even want to agree for them to marry someone because they are too scared. And they don't even want to let go. And when the person is married, they don't release them totally and give them their independence. Yet we were independent
at the age of 23. This young lady is 30. And you haven't given her a little bit of her own mind and letting her make her decisions. It's a sickness, it's a weakness. What do you have to do? Allah gave you the children in order to test you? Are you going to do what we want you to do? Or are you going to do what you want to do against what we want to do? for example your child wants to marry? ask yourself a question. This is why I bring it up. We get it every single day without fail for the last 10 years. Every single day, we get marital issues on a daily basis. child wants to marry.
The parents need to ask themselves, obviously if both the boy and the girl would like it to happen.
does Allah allow it?
If the answer is yes, tell yourself who am I to disallow what Allah has allowed? Thank you.
Did you hear that?
But no, we say no. The brothers to black you know? I promise you I've heard that
black bill was from gentlemen. He was the darkest of the lot and the prophets of Salaam came back and said oh Bilal, I went up to mirage. And guess what? I heard your footsteps there. He didn't look at the fairest of the Lord and say, hang on who's more? Who's varying complexity are yours? your footsteps in general? No. It had nothing to do with color. You slice here you slice now you slice anyway, the blood is red, my brothers and sisters. Racism has no space in Islam. Not at all. If you do not respect a person simply because their complexion is less than yours. I promise you, you're doomed.
my brothers and sisters you want paradise Understand?
People are equal. That's what Allah says, The day you get to Allah, and he gives you your Book of Records in your right hand. You can then say I did well, for now no one knows where they're going. Who knows? Subhanallah I promise you the reason why I'm passionate about this. I traveled through Africa and I witness some of the best Muslims have seen in my life happened to be in the darkest corners of Africa. And I tell myself If only those who are fair in complexion knew Subhan Allah they would think perhaps Jenna's going to be full before we get there.
But the good news is Jenna is so broad and she
locater for every one of us.
My brothers and sisters, treating fellow human beings with respect your own children, ask telling yourself if Allah has allowed something Who am I to disallow it? That is a question that would result in your entry into paradise? Yes, if there's something wrong, if there are drugs involved, bad habits involved, etc, then you can address the matter and say, Look, the reason why I'm not too happy with this is because here we have someone whose reputation is not grand at all. And wait to clarify it, I verified, find out more about it. Be a little bit more concerned about these things. Don't just say no, you know, I can't. Because what's my family going to say? Every day, we're
teaching people this, what's my family going to say? Forget about your family. What's going to say? Allah will take the child away before you may and you didn't even fulfill the rights of the child. I know of families who've kept their daughters unmarried intentionally, because the girl has a good salary that's going straight to the Father and the Father is so scared that perhaps that salary might be lost, and we're gonna lose money. Just keep her alone and single and you punish your own child because you're worried about money being lost, or all the below where do you want to go heaven or elsewhere?
Don't pretend like you don't know what elsewhere means?
Yes. How could you do that? How on earth? Can you treat your child like she is she or he is just your ownership? And that's it. It's the ownership of Allah. When someone passes away, what do we see in the law? We all belong to Allah, we're in May. Or June, we're all going to go back to Allah. That's what we say. Why do you lie? To you? We all belong to Allah. No, but my children belong to me. Come on. Treat your children with respect. We're living in an age where the globe has become a little village. Forget about where you come from ethnically. far back in the day, wherever you were, if the children were born, raised, they went to the same schools, they went through the same
universities, they are of a similar upbringing, no matter what their color or background or original nationality might have been. They are of a similar upbringing. People say no, they're not, you know, Pakistani enough. Sorry to give that example, but it's happening. It's happening. And not just Pakistani but any other.
It's not fair. Do you really think you're gonna come on the day of karma? And when Allah asks you, why didn't you let this happen? You're gonna say they weren't Pakistani.
Yes, some people are actually pressing a red button. You might not like me for it. But we are doing this. And your child is busy committing Zina on a daily basis, because why you just blocking it. That's it. I'm not trying to justify their sin. But I'm saying you do have a role to play and you do carry a share of the burden. Without a doubt. Every time you make halaal easy, you protected people from heroin, and every time you've made halaal difficult, you've encouraged people to engage in haram and facilitated it for them. Remember this? What type of Paradise do you want? What's Ramadan going to help you zero?
Nothing you won't get any help no benefit because your heart is dirty. You are too proud your ego has obstructed the acceptance of your fast you might have fulfilled the pharaoh but you did not achieve the broader benefit of the month of Ramadan. You needed to have cleaned your heart that's all consider yourself one week slave of Allah just like everyone else, perhaps they are stronger than you.
Why is this arrogance and pride?
It's from shapen that's why the Hadith says Nah.
Man can be Miss Carla, booty minister deli min kibble. He will never enter Paradise in whose heart is a mustard seeds wait worth of pride, your ego?
your arrogance? How much of it mustard seeds week worth of pride? What does the hiding say? No paradise. Ouch, ouch.
I have a lot of work to do.
I have to work on myself more than what I am.
And I think the same applies to every single one of us without a single exception. We can do better. We can.
I want you to pause for a moment.
And I want to show you how bad the issue is.
Think to yourself, weren't you trained to think from childhood that you know what?
Those people are not as good as us.
Whether it's another tribe
Whether it's people from another city, whether it's people from the north of your own city, whether it's people from the other side of the river, whether it's people from another continent or another race, when you taught to feel whether it was direct or indirect is another thing, weren't you taught to feel that? You know what?
Those guys not good. Those people watch out for them. They're very wired. Those people they deceive a lot. So who's the good ones? Just us? That's just us. We're the good ones. How could you ever think of getting married to those people? You know, they're from the other side of the river. No wonder why our rivers our rivers are drying up. Allah.
Allah forgive us, my brothers, my sisters, chocolate, cut it out, become a Mormon. believe in Allah surrender to Allah. Allah warns you and tells you that don't do this, but we're doing it and you know who's doing it. Those who make six salada doing this. They don't only read the five they get a four tattooed. But yeah, as racist as you can find.
I promise you it's a disease in the oma, if we don't address it, what's the point of going into Ramadan, feeding the world doing everything, but there is a little war going on in your own home when your children don't even want to see your face. Because you're a tyrant. I always say forget about the Pharaoh, you're a little Pharaoh in your own house. I hope there's a Moses to stand up to you.
My brothers and sisters, we enter the month of Ramadan, we want to be safeguarded, safeguard others, those under your authority. Yes, I'm not trying to say that you need to forget about the method of getting married in your own culture. But where it clashes with Islam, Islam comes first because Islam is broad. Many people give a bad picture and image and name to Islam simply because they've allowed the dirty culture to overtake sometimes, and not all cultures are dirty. And not all sections of the cultures are dirty. But Subhanallah I remember a sister coming to me and saying, you know, I really want to get married, and my father is doing nothing about it. And my brothers are
doing nothing about it. And I said, sister, at least they should try to introduce you to someone that's called an arranged introduction, not an arranged marriage. In Islam, you cannot just arrange a marriage where you say, right, you know what, July the 20th. That's your that's your marriage. That's your wedding day. Wow, my wedding too. Who are you find out on the 19th. Okay, that's not allowed in Islam. Not at all. That is not Islam that's prohibited, actually no way. But you're allowed to arrange
an introduction. That's what we may do. And that's what we can do and should do actually arrange an introduction. So I've introduced you. And you may agree or not agree within a short space of time, you may want to meet a second and a third time, obviously, a proper meeting in the right way. second, third, fourth, fifth time's the minute, you know that this is not where I'm supposed to be going. It's a no respectfully turn it down and carry on. You may be introduced a second or third time. Do you know three days ago, I received an email. And this is not the first time I've received it. educated women in our societies are complaining that they are treated like a product commodity.
They're made to do the samosa run, you know what's a samosa? Ron, I explained it a few days ago in one of my talks.
The guy comes home he's sitting in the lounge with his parents and so on. And a little while later, this woman highly educated whoever she's supposed to walk in with a tray and the tray is supposed to have on it some some maybe some some Moses or whatever. And you know what?
She's supposed to walk through come put it down. Salam Alaikum and walk out right do you like her? You don't like her
You know? And he starts blushing.
And they say we feel so bad because one guy says no, the next guy says no, I mean what am I am I just like like a motor vehicle people come in they check the car. No, not this car. Okay, let's go. That's not that's so insulting to your kids. May Allah protect us. May Allah forgive us. No wonder why some of those sources have so much chili in them.
They really want to give the message to you and to everyone else. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us.
My brothers and sisters the deen of Islam is purer than that. It is better than that. It is higher than that. It gives us much more respect than that I told you to arrange an introduction is is yes, it's a sooner it is you arrange the introduction no problem but it is also assumed not to go out and request you are allowed to tell your dad as a woman. Oh my father, I want to marry a certain man. Can you please find out more about him? There is nothing wrong with that in Islam, but today we say What? You can never do that. How could you Where did you meet him? Where did you
See him, gosh, that you busy watching porn every day and you worried about me?
It's a reality. It's a fact. The children are suffering because of the hypocrisy of the parents. And you want Ramadan to come through and you want to be a be person I'm fasting all day, you know 18 hour fast make dua for me, brother, you need a bigger deal about your treatment of your children
will lie. We're tired of this, how long is this going to continue? And how long are we going to keep telling the pious to stop it?
May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us all. facilitate good things, Allah will facilitate your agenda for you. Imagine you got your child married to someone they really wanted to marry, do our comes out of their heart for you. And after you've passed away, you see the fruit of it, the result of it, the problem with us, we lack communication in the home.
So the child doesn't talk to you. They're quiet because they're too scared. If I tell my dad what goes on at the uni, then you know what, I'm going to be in big trouble. My dad won't even send me there anymore. There's no communication, but you need communication. You need to guide your children, you need to know what's going on around the globe, you need to know what's happening in your environment. What's happening with the children today, the environment out there is not easy anymore. people of all faiths are worried about their children. Because why there are drugs, there are people out there ready to
abuse these children.
So develop this communication with them.
Keep them close to you. When they say something, don't react in a way that tomorrow they won't repeat anything again to you. But react in a nice way become be cool about it. And allow will open your doors.
My brothers and sisters do you want to be saved from Hellfire? Do you want the fast to really be a shield for you? While in that case, you need to know what the holistic fast is all about. It's not only about abstaining from food and drink. And about reading Tara we had night and about feeding the poor only it is about you and your entire attitude. Your whole approach to life needs to improve. You need to make sure you're a thorough Muslim who puts your makeup before yourself. If your maker has let things happen. Alhamdulillah I promise you I really rate the men who stand up for their daughters and really raised the men who stand up for their daughters. When there is something you
say no, she wants this. Let it be if Allah didn't disallow it, it will happen.
Because people are going out to universities and colleges and to work every day they interact with some lovely people, sometimes better than anyone you can ever bring from back wherever you're going to bring them from. Yes, I'm not saying anyone is bad or good because we cannot judge but I'm saying the general trend is that people
are doing it wrong.
You need to stand up for your own kids. You need to support them in their thinking. Many of us here and perhaps the previous generation, when we were 2025 we made all the decisions on our own, but with our children, no, we enslave them up to the age of 3035 40. Sometimes even beyond that. It's just me who's controlling the whole life, even the way he manages his own wife. I'm in charge why I'm the father.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deep understanding.
May Allah forgive us? You know, I want to weep when I see the problems of the age. And the reality is Islam is looked at with the eye of skepticism as it is already and when people come in, people revert to Islam Do you know what we offer them?
We say people meaning we say that people have entered Islam. They they utter the Shahada, they come in a shadow a shadow Allah Allah Allah Allah wa shadow Allah Muhammad Rasul Allah once they're done what do we offer them?
Don't we say that we write?
Don't we say to me, am I right? Right And after that, over time, that was my my right I fulfilled my duty I did tech be the person who just entered the fold of Islam is the purest from all of us seated here completely. And at that stage, we are not even prepared to entertain them. If they were to come to marry our children would say no
I've had people say How could I allow my daughter to marry this man he's a revert. Abu Bakar was a reverse Omar was a reverse man was a reverse it was a reverse. They were all reverse if you existed at that time, you would have probably rejected them all.
They will revert.
Open your hearts open your minds then you benefit from the month of Ramadan. No point in looking at
Brothers and sisters and thinking to yourself, oh, I will feed them and clothe them I'll be happy I'll say Mashallah, I'll go and tell people today we had to Shahar does what to Shahada hypocrite, Allah forgive us.
They were to come to you. And I'm not saying impose no if both parties your child and that particular event male or female wanted this to happen Ask yourself the same question would Allah does Allah allow this if Allah allows it Who am I to disallow it? I could only have I was Allahu
wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.